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Signs He Likes you Through Body Language

Updated on June 16, 2016
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How to Know if Someone Likes You

It is often difficult to tell if someone likes you. Most people aren’t direct enough to come right out and say what they mean, so looking for other, less direct, cues can help. Body language often says just as much, if not more, than our verbal interactions, and a better understanding of body language can help you figure out what people think of you. The following article may help you
tell if someone likes you before you’re in a relationship.

Many of these actions are gender neutral, but some would definitely be strange coming from a woman. Women tend to have other cues of signaling interest, in some ways more complicated and discrete than men, whether they realize this or not.

Remember, even if someone is interested in you, that doesn't mean they are ready to move forward. If you like somebody, try encouraging their interactions and responding in kind. If you react in a neutral or indifferent way, your prospect is likely to think that you aren't interested. If you like something someone does, remember you can reinforce it with a compliment. Communication is key to relationships, along with being honest and vulnerable.

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He laughs when you laugh.
He laughs when you laugh. | Source

Noticing You

A guy who likes you will be very aware of your presence, and you may notice him noticing you: glancing, smiling, trying not to stare. He may laugh at your jokes, pay close attention to what you say, and consciously or unconsciously mimic your movements.

  1. He laughs when you laugh. One of the key things to look for is synchronicity. When two of you are amused at the same things, this is a major plus. Try not to force this, but laugh naturally. If he laughs at your jokes, that's extra points.
  2. He mirrors your movements. When you drink from a glass, he does also. If you cross your leg, he'll have his leg crossed. If you both have your legs stretched out, you're both wearing similar clothes, similar colors, or have the same posture -- these are all good signs.
  3. He smiles often when looking directly at you. Of course men smile, and they can be friendly. But if he has a certain extra smirk for you that he doesn't for the rest of people, or if he particularly is giving you extra attention -- then there's something that's positive happening.
  4. You catch him with a "deer in the headlights" look at you. Once I decided to run outside with one of my friends in the rain because I was overwhelmed by a party. This was a totally insane feminine thing to do, but when crossing one of the windows I definitely saw a pair of eyes fascinated by this splurge of a moment, not to mention being covered in rain and stuck in your clothes doesn't hurt.
  5. Looks to you to see if you caught something strange in a group setting to see if you'll laugh too. He wants to be on the same wavelength. Men desperately want to believe in ESP.
  6. His eyebrows raise. Not dramatically, but enough to acknowledge that you are a special, keen woman.
  7. He uses your name frequently because he likes it.
  8. He may awkwardly compare you to women in his life whom he admires -- like his mom.

He leans into you while talking.
He leans into you while talking. | Source

Proximity: Getting Close to You

A guy who really likes you will want to spend time with you and be as close to you as he can without being too obvious about it. The easiest way to tell this is his physical proximity. Does he try to get a seat next to you at group hangouts? Does he constantly appear in places you frequent? These are all signs that he likes you.

  1. He appears in places you frequent randomly, whether on purpose or not.
  2. He stands near you in social scenes.
  3. He actively prevents other guys from connecting with you. He'll find ways to block them, so that he has your attention instead.
  4. He uses his feet to communicate with you. He taps to music, he points to you, he touches you with his feet
  5. If he is driving you in a car by himself, he'll act particularly altogether to try to impress you. He may give off clues that he likes you considering (1) part of his brain is needed to concentrate on the road (2) the setting is more private and intimate. Consider if he is trying to be personal while he drives, or if you are but a shadow in the car that he never knew was even there.
  6. He offers his jacket when it's cold. Again, he wants to come off as a gentleman. I suggest keeping the jacket and giving it back another day so that you have some kind of form of connection with him for a later day.
  7. He scoots closer to you.
  8. When seated he gives you less space than usual if by you.
  9. He leans into you when talking. This way he can hear you better and be closer to you.
  10. He crouches inward to be cuter to you. Sometimes guys know that they are intimidating, so if they try to make themselves cute, than they're trying to be more accessible to you.

He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together.
He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together. | Source


Touch is a huge indicator of desire, and a guy who likes you will want to be in physical contact as much as he can. Here are a few big signs related to physical contact and touch.

  1. He looks for excuses to hold your hand, whether palm reading, helping you off a ladder, being scared, high fives, handing you an object, etc.
  2. He looks for ways to touch you in non-creepy ways, such as your shoulders and arms. He wants to break the physical barrier between you, and get you used to his sense of touch. He also wants to come off as gentlemanly. He may squeeze your shoulder during an emotional moment, or he may touch you when someone else is around who is flirting with you... because he wants you to remember him, not some other guy.
  3. He really likes you if he randomly plays or touches your hair. Men like hair a lot more than you think, and it is a huge sign of affection if he goes for the fro. The longer his hands stay on your head caressing hair, more likely he has a thing for you.
  4. He lays his head on your shoulder. He obviously feels comfortable enough with you.
  5. If he lays his head in your lap, he feels even more comfortable with you.
  6. He hugs you on sight.
  7. He hugs you several times in a single day. If he can't stop hugging you for every small deed, then he really wants to be close to you.
  8. He guides you through a crowd by the small of your back.
  9. Random high fives. He gives you lots and lots and lots of high fives... for everything.
  10. He hugs you from behind. This is unusual, but probably means they are super excited to see you and can't even wait for you to turn to look them in the face.
  11. He gives you big bear hugs.
  12. He picks you up and spins you.
  13. He kisses your hand.
  14. He kisses your forehead.
  15. He grabs at your elbow.
  16. He dances with you or next to you.
  17. He wraps his arm around yours while walking.

He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand.
He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand. | Source

Nervous Behavior

We’re all familiar with the anxious, overwhelming feelings that can arise from having a crush on someone. If a guy is kind of flustered and odd around you, it may be because he likes you and doesn't know how to deal with it.

  1. He crashes into objects in the area out of nervousness.
  2. He forgets where he is going out of nervousness. He may forget incredibly basic information about you too, because he is nervous.
  3. He has a sudden amount of energy and wanders everywhere like a kid on sugar.
  4. He adjusts his crotch area. This should be understood.
  5. He plays with any rings on his fingers out of nervousness.
  6. He plays with objects on the table out of nervousness. He needs to do something with himself because he is brooding with emotion.
  7. He suddenly has the need to adjust one of his socks and pull it up. This is an old trick, but for whatever reason if you do something entirely endearing, this is a knee-jerk reaction by men that is telling of only one thing: I like her.
  8. He grooms his hair when around you. Any kind of knee-jerk reaction to groom shows they want to look their best, whether for vanity or because you are in the room.
  9. He stares at you for too long.
  10. He smells of cologne.

He fiddles with things out of nervousness.
He fiddles with things out of nervousness.

Open, Confident Body Language

If a guy really likes you, instead of acting nervous he may actually act extra confident and happy around you because you simply make him feel good. If he's using lots of open body language, and it seems as though he can really relax in your presence, this is a sign that he feels comfortable and free when you're around.

  1. He has better posture because you gave him a surge of confidence.
  2. His body language allows him to show his wrists meaning he is comfortable around you since this is a vulnerable place on humans.
  3. He licks his lips, generally subconsciously.
  4. His nostrils open. Essentially, the more open the body language, the better. This can manifest in the strangest of ways, such as the nostrils.
  5. He stretches out his legs and body. If he can make more of himself prominent in a room, then you're more likely to gander at him.
  6. He stands taller. You make him feel confident, and women dig tall guys over just about anything else.
  7. Puffs out chest. He is feeling confident, and he wants you to see him as a protector.
  8. Has more open body language rather than crossing arms, legs, keeping his palms toward himself.
  9. He sings random songs around you or whistles. He is happy and free.

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      Kenneth Avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

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    • Jess 21 months ago

      I think this is a great website and it seems to be very interesting an fun but I would like if you could add something so that you can get other peoples opinion

    • angie 21 months ago

      I read everything .. it is all fantastic (:

    • Susy 20 months ago

      Hi maybe I'm reding to much in to this a mas works at the same place were in different departments I work in the canteen he comes in for his lunch nearly everyday I've noticed when we're chatting some time he has stoked my arm a few times he hasn't be there very long about 5 moths in that time he has asked what name would I prefer to be called by and has asked me some things that when I thought about it to me were every personal he's dew to be married soon and he's know I'm married I do like him but he's never like this with the other girls in work

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      daisy dmd 19 months ago

      Hi it was fun and enjoying reading this article it helps a lot, but you see my story is different, maybe am wrong that this guy likes me am older than him i only crush this guy, but the thing is he is our modir meaning our director in the clinic.. He was the one who see to it that everything is in the right place, maybe sound stupid but the thing is, The way he moves and talk thats really find him cute thats why i like him, All your advise is right but still am not sure he look at me and when we talk all his body direct at me and he is a good listener he listen when ever i had problems with my work, the thing is he stare at me sometimes he put his hand touches his lips and eyebrows maybe is that his gesture?? we dont go a lot bcoz here its different people here are not allowed to walk with men its there tradition here thats why am confuse pls help me i like him but am married maybe bcoz he is gentleman?? not even txt me sometimes call me when he ask something seldom only...just we talk about only our work.. well is this guy likes me?? confuse really but the way you discuss things i find it to him but some maybe bcoz he is our director??? confuse???

    • sarahh 18 months ago

      What if the boy hugs you from behind and turns you around and holds your hand and your shaking because your to nervous around him and you wanna let go but you don't want him to think you don't like him and that he only like holds your hand and hugs you when your alone with him and what if your never alone with him cuz of his cousins or frienda

    • Miss Cellany 17 months ago

      A lot of my good male friends would do things like hugging me from behind and spinning me around. I got picked up physically a LOT - I always thought it was because I was small and they thought it was cute to pick me up (like a pet or something). They danced with me loads too. If ever we went to a club or bar I'd be dragged onto the dance floor by each one in turn to dance. They often took my hands to lead me through a packed club, or pushed me along by the small of my back. They were always touching me for different random reasons, or getting me to touch them (e.g. "feel my bicep, isn't it better than his?" etc). I never thought any of them liked me romantically (some had girlfriends and I had a boyfriend) - was that behaviour flirting behaviour? I totally missed it... I always thought we were just good friends ._.

      Now I get why my boyfriend would get pissed off with it xD

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @miss cellany

      Yes. You clearly didn't pick up on a lot of signals. I mean, some people are touchy just as friends. Think of it this way -- people's eyes go toward what it attracts, people touch what they want to feel.

    • Cynthiax 16 months ago

      Great read, but I am still unsure of my secret crush on how he feels about me.. Maybe I can get a guys opinion...

      What does it mean when a guy you like but you are unsure of how he feels about you, he act a certain way that makes my wonder...

      When we hang out in a group of friends every single time, even if he is standing next to me, he will hug everyone good bye first and save me for last. This latest encounter with him, he saved the last hug for me again, he went around me to the next person, and then the next.. so the hug was something like this..he had his arms wrapped around my shoulder, gave me a really tight squeeze and lifted me up from a side hug. A few minutes later he threw me over his shoulders and carried me for a little until I gave him a massive wedgie. Then picked me up from behind by my arm pits and carried me again before we part ways. This is something I don't understand.

      He has a girlfriend, I hung out with him before he started dating her but there was so many mixed signals I didn't dare to let him know how I felt about him because I was afraid of rejection, and i'm guessing he assumed i was dating around at the time so he backed off, but he found out a few days before we met up this past week that I have been single for nearly two years. His behavior is a little different this time, more touchy, he never acts this way with me.. I know he is dating someone else now, but what type of behavior is this? friends? I friend zoned him because he is with someone now, and none of my guy friends treat me like how he does.. so i'm confused...

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      Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago


      It's not a great sign if someone you think is interested in you is already in a relationship. Wedgie???

      Look to see if there's other connections besides touch. If he gives you hugs last this could be arbitrary. If he keeps being touchy with you, you may want to call him out on it if you think he'll give you a straight answer.

    • ayat 15 months ago

      how can i tell if he likes me i mean this boy always pinches me in the arm what does it mean i have no idea what to think could you please answer me fast

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      Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago


      Pinches to the arm don't give enough context for what's going on. It's not a super flirtatious move.

    • guadalupe soto 15 months ago

      I was hug around my shoulder an he put his face next to my what does that mean to you

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      Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago

      @ guadalupe soto

      It definitely shows some amount of closeness. Could mean he likes you.

    • Tom spires 14 months ago


      I hate you joking but I love you what does that mean

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      @Tom Spires

      Probably that you annoyed the person, and to soften the blow they wanted to remind you that they love you.

    • Maddiemat 13 months ago

      Okay so me and this guy have been talking for a least 3 months. When we first started talking he had a girlfriend and I would remind him whenever I started to feel like he was forgetting that. He asked for my number but I'm outa minutes so we only see each other at school. He will occasionally play with my hair and when we sit by eachother he plays with my feet. His friend had told me the day after he broke up with his gf, but its been 3 weeks and he still hasn't told me himmself. We got in trouble cause we were passing notes and he would'nt let go of my hand. He does stuff like that a lot, I have to put my hand in his hand or struggle with him, or he just won't let go of my hand when he has something I'm trying to look at. He winks at me constantly but how do I know if he is telling me the truth or genuinely likes me? He's told me at least 4 times that I'm pretty no matter what and I always look good and that he likes me, but yet it feels like he ignores me. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!!!!!

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago


      Sounds like a jr. high / high school crush. I think you should straight up ask him if he likes you if he doesn't get to it already. That way if he is just giving you mixed signals, you can straighten it out. Sounds like he's nice enough that you can talk through this.

    • 9 months ago

      i think i must just ask him if he does like me or what.I think he will be;-)i like this article aloot it gave me advise.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      Open communication is a great policy! Go for it if it seems right for you.

    • FlutePlayer 8 months ago

      I'm in middle school and one of my guy friends is always touching me... he will touch my neck and run his hand all the way down my arm and sometimes touches my feet under the table. One time he rubbed his sweatshirt all over my back and face. I feel like I sort of like him. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN??? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

    • FlutePlayer 8 months ago

      My friend was also teasing him one day and said "Oh, look it's ur bf right, I mean he likes u and all" as he walked by in resource and when he sat down he smiled and said ya, and now he's talking to me whenever he gets the chance. My friend says it's cuz now the secret's out but idk if he likes me or not and I'm really confused cuz he used to almost never talk to me. My b-day was a little while ago and I wuz freakin out cuz he signed a card my same friend got all my other friends to sign and he wrote a nice note and heart, but i'm not sure if he was just being friendly or if it meant more that that. I AM SO CONFUSED!!!!! WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? HELP ME!!!!!!!!

    • FlutePlayer 8 months ago

      Sorry I posted the first comment twice, I accidentally hit the button 2 times. :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      It is very likely that in fact he does like you. BUT I wouldn't make a big deal about it just yet. Take it slow, and do what you can to have a friendly and fun connection. If you are feeling anxious, that isn't going to keep things positive. Don't overthink it too much, and definitely don't do anything you don't want to do.

    • FlutePlayer 8 months ago

      i'm sorry i prob keep annoying you, but i'm really freaking out. Sometimes when he walks by me he will run his fingers through my hair or flip it or something, but he's only done this a couple of times. Do you know what that means? And whenever I'm talking to this one other guy he starts teasing me about liking that guy even though I just like that guy as a friend. Does this mean he is jealous of the other guy?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      The first guy is flirting with you. He'll keep doing that to see where it is going and see if you like it.

      Not enough information on the second guy. Probably just teasing you because he noticed the first guy is flirting with you.

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      I was witness (when I was single) to witness the points in this hub come to fruition for this one male who was not a "Mr. Universe," or Brad Pitt, but he stood against his car with arms crossed while he gazed at the ground.

      Maybe wearing Aviator sunglasses helped for I know that there were two girls across the way from him who were sending him body signals of their own--hair flipping; make up checking, etc.

      Quite an interesting show. All for FREE.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      @Kenneth Avery

      But which girl did he pick?

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      Kenneth Avery 8 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Hello to you and all in "The Windy City!"

      Actually, the blond and brunette who were matching his body signals with their own female warfare, the blond was the bravest for she walked over to him, they talked and she got into his car with his assistance and noble gesture of opening her door for her.

      And they lived mysteriously for the rest of the evening.

    • soccerfan 8 months ago

      this is more of something where I need some advice. There's this guy that i had the biggest crush on last year, and I could not control my actions around him, so I made a complete fool of myself. We used to be sort of friends, but now I think he hates me, and I don't know how to talk to him again (like a normal human being). We have a lot in common, we both like soccer, and most sports, I'm also friends with a lot of his friends etc. I just really don't know what to do.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      Sounds like you should keep it cool and don't put too much pressure on it, or that will make things worse. How long have you two been awkward? What makes you think he doesn't want to be around you?

    • soccerfan 8 months ago


      Things have been awkward for probably around 9 month probably. And he used to be friendly with me (smiling at me in the halls, Talking to me at my locker, helping me out when I need it) but now he actually kinda goes out of his way to be rude to me. There was one time when I was presenting a project in biology, and as he walked by to see it he made a rude face and said profanities under his breath about how the idea was stupid. My friends said he was probably just too stupid to even understand what it was about though :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      This guy doesn't sound worth your time or affections at the moment. I'd open your eyes up to someone else, and, more importantly, focus on studying. Do well in school, go places, travel the world, get a good job, and you'll have a lot better of a dating pool guaranteed. Don't focus on dating too much at this point in time.

    • Joho 8 months ago

      What does it mean if when i'm around my crush I just feel like jumping up and dancing and I have butterflies in my stomach and I cant stop smiling?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      You like the person. You're probably getting a surge of dopamine and a little bit of anxiety with the butterflies.

    • soccerfan 8 months ago

      thanks so much :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      You're welcome.

    • Califan 8 months ago

      Ok, so this guy I work with confuses me. He teases me a lot playfully. Then one day he said hey to me and walked past me and I said hey back then he came back to give me a hug saying it was his birthday yesterday and all, but it was one of them sideways hugs. Then one day I was walking in the back and he asked me if he can have a hug and I nodded, I thought it was gonna be one of them sideways hugs again, but instead he completely picked me up off the ground and hugged me. Then one day he pulled my hair (not hard or anything) when I passed him and I turned around and he is smiling at me and he said 'oh I didnt mean to do that I'm sorry'. He has touched me on the shoulder a few times when he was behind me to talk to me, when I could hear him perfectly fine without him touching my shoulder, I would figure if he liked me he would ask for my number, but he hasnt yet, so idk if he does or not. And this guy is like 25 and I'm 19.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      Sounds like he is flirting with you! If you like him, flirt back. If he is bothering you, don't feed the flames. You could try adding him on Facebook to help things out. He could be looking for a way to casually get your phone number. It sounds like he likes you, but it could also be friendly. He could be testing the waters to gauge your reactions.

    • Joho 8 months ago

      Ok, so today my crush was pushing me around playfully and he does that a lot, but i don't know what it means. Could you help me please?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago


      Testing the waters, teasing you, trying to get you comfortable around them.

    • germanlover 7 months ago

      there is this one guy that is really nice to me and is super funny and jokes around a lot. he is also super touchy tho but still joking around when he does it. does this mean he likes me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago


      Sounds like he is interested and testing the waters. Keep making him feel comfortable... and it'll probably continue, if you want it to.

    • james 4 months ago

      What is this guy always eats lunch with me, finds any excuse to touch my hands, when we walk down hallways were practicaly touching shoulders. Sometimes when we hug he tries tplayfully push me to the ground but always stops . I dont understand what he wants help!?

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago


      He is either flirting with you or treating you like a buddy. I say this because -- is this a gay relationship? Do you know if he has the same sexual orientation? Does he know if you are gay? I'm assuming this off the ID you have here.

    • Belinda 3 months ago

      This article is the bomb! My recent male interest shows me all of the above cues! Thank you for the confirmation!

    • Izzy 3 months ago

      Hm, I'm very confuse with the way a friend acts towards me. Sometimes when we hang out he puts his arms around me, or when we walk he puts his hands in my shoulders and "guide" me. Once we were sitting talking and he started touching my knee? He is taller than me so he calls me "little girl" lol... and he tickles me, very often. I'm not sure if this is something he does with his friends, specially girl friends, because I know there are people that are touchy in a friendly way but... ya. I'm not used to physical contact but with him i find it ok cause we are friends and I didn't really thought at first that he likes me but lately he has been more touchy.

      So I'm confuse, what do you think it's going on?

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like their is some interest for sure. Early stages. Might be touching you to see how you respond and if it will go anywhere.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      No problem. ;)

    • Rio 3 months ago


      All you said is very fantastic. I don't it's really true but it's still spinning my head to think about my friend who it the same. Yes, I still loved him. I actually tell it to him already, but it is a long long time ago. And then last night, I felt it again, when he actually lays his hand at my shoulder. It is the first time, ever. And it twisting in my head and saying to myself that "what is this all about"? Why I still love this guy, even it couldn't happen.. Make me crazy to think on it, because we're really a good friends, but I really felt more special for him.

    • Kirsten 2 months ago

      There is this one guy in my grade and I think he likes me but im not exactly sure because hes always giving me signs he does and signs he doesnt, he jokes around a lot with me, uses pick up lines, makes sexual jokes, but im not sure idk if he does this with other people to because he talks to lots of girls, and whenever he makes a joke with one of his guy friends, he always glances over at me to see if i heard or laughed i guess. i also got a love letter from him in my locker but i think my friend might have written it for him and she doesnt know i like him, also i have heard them several times in resource talking and my friend keeps saying "when r u gonna ask her out" and hes just like i dont know and im not sure if they r talking about me or not and i just pretend i dont hear but also one time when she told him he should write a love letter and put it in my locker he just said really loudly "no im not gonna write a love letter and put it in her locker" and he looked at me and grinned. do u have any idea what any of this could mean? (srry it is rlly long if u r confused just ask questions.)

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      He might have written the letter. You should straight up ask.

      But as always, I strongly believe when you are young, you should focus on studying and finding out yourself and your passions. Don't let any guy in school distract you from that. It's a long road to unveiling yourself, and you'll benefit from your studies. Dating can always, always wait.

    • Katie 2 months ago

      heyy, so I met this guy online and we've met 4 times. I'm not sure if I like him but I feel comfortable with him, I mean it's fine. I'd like to get to know him more but I'm not sure about his intentions. The first time we met, he acted too interested, and he even told me that he was hoping to have a relationship with me in the future, he didn't say like that but I understood, and I also noticed some signals like playing with my hair, hugging me good bye, singing songs and stuff like that. Before we met, we chat online for a week maybe, so I don't understand why would he be so interested in me, or would say that kind of things, I mean he doesn't know me enough. Maybe he doesn't want anything but physical connection and I don't really what that I mean I don't even like him that much and if things won't go to a relationship I would like to be his friend but if he's only expecting that it can't happen. I'd like some opinions :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      There's no telling how or when people will fall in love. Not everyone has the same criteria nor needs the same info to get a yes. If you enjoy this person, spend time with them. If you're unsure about whether you want a relationship or friendship, be honest. Sometimes when you sit on indecision it will turn into a yes. It's fair for you to tell him that you don't have enough info yet to make a decision -- and that's fair. You may want to scope him out longer to see what he is all about. This is very normal. A lot of times men makes very fast decisions about women.... and then women need more time -- they have different criteria going into it. Is it only a physical connection? If you only see the two of you interacting over physical aspects, then yes. But he may have instantly clicked with your personality or emotions too.

    • Iia 2 months ago

      Oh my god! I don't know what to do. He touched my twice, he says my name then taps my shoulders! I'm like.. " Yes?" Why can't he just say my name WHY does he touch me?! I'm really shy around him too, he talks to my best friend A LOT and it's like I'm not there and he stares at me ALL the time! Then why I ask him a question he doesn't answer then my friends answer me because he didn't. My friend starts a conversation then they both chat with each other! and I'm right in front of them... He looks at me when I speak, like when I'm asking my teacher or when I'm chatting with my friends, and when the teacher says talk to the person who is next to you, which is him that we need to work together and all but he doesn't work with me! he's always quiet around me and around his friends he screams and says bad words! I really reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally really LIKE HIM! but we're both shy... MY QUESTION IS "DOES HE LOVE ME?!"

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Whoa. Love is a big word, but you probably are not in love if you are not in a relationship. Unrequited love is a whole other subject we won't discuss right now.

      This sounds like a very early crush. Enjoy it and don't blow it out of proportion. Keep your cool. Also, study hard in school. You have a lot of life ahead of you, and by studying hard, reading books, getting involved in school -- you will have better options to your future. Don't let any boy get in the way of your education. And ultimately by studying and finding makes you happy and getting into a good school, you'll have a better dating pool to experience later in life. As for this boy, I'd say keep it friendly. He could have a crush or is just teasing you. But if you overreact or start acting odd, he might not want to be around you. As for your friend, I hope you see them as a friend and are not getting jealous.

      Enjoy the time you have now! You are young, be young, and enjoy your time in school. Pay attention to your teachers, you'll thank yourself for doing so later in life. Dating, crushes, and boyfriends makes more sense as you get older, so don't sweat it too much. You'll fall in love one day. Good luck to you!

    • Hopelessly in Love? 6 weeks ago

      So there's this guy in my geometry class who I'm really interested in. I've had a crush on him for about 3 weeks and I've known him since the beginning of the school year. He's a soph.. and I'm a freshman. We sat together in an old group and didn't talk much, but in our new group he talks to me a lot lol. Today I was doodling on my paper and he put his hand on my pencil and started drawing a picture that we laughed at for more than 5 minutes. My friends think I should ask him out, but I don't know if it's the right time. Is it too early? Do you think he's kinda interested in me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 weeks ago from Chicago

      High school is a weird beast all in of itself. Have you guys hung out outside of school yet? It should feel really natural when you ask someone to spend time with you outside of school. "Asking out" sounds too formal to me. Do you have this guy's number? I think you should try to spend time with him outside of school to get to know him better. Maybe go to a movie? Study together, I mean you're in the same class. Say you need help with geometry -- figure out what you're struggling with that he is getting with math. Something like this. It's simple, sweet, and easy. But you would still need to focus on math, don't forget that. Don't make it too big of a deal to hang out with him. It should feel seamless. You are charismatic.

    • izzy 12 days ago

      i want to cry, one of my BEST BEST friend likes to give me hugs and high fives when he sees me in the hall ways at school but lately he would high five me but grab my hand and idk if he likes me and i dont want to hurt him like everyone else does to him. i just really need help idk what to do... UGGHH

    • Jessica vallejo 6 days ago

      My crush singing to me while we dance and he look at me like I only one in his world and I don't know what to do cause he mine ex and my crush so help me please email me

    • Laura 4 days ago

      There is this older guy who I like(10 year difference, I think(I'm 23), shy like me

    • Anon93 4 days ago

      Hi this guy I work with keeps teasing me and likes to pat my head and touch my hair. He touches me at least five times a day too on the arm only though. Like pinching my arm or holding my shoulders. He is generally a touchy person to my colleagues too but seems like he does it more to me? Idk I feel like he might just be treatinge as his little sis or does he like me? He has a girlfriend though.

    • Jonah 4 days ago

      I am a guy reading this and I sit next to my crush at school, I do all of these things.

    • Emmag 34 hours ago

      This did not help i did not even think it was this i wanted to know why my freinds play with my hair!

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 hours ago from Chicago

      You have nice hair and they want to touch it. It's probably nicer than what they have. Can also be a total flirty move.

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