Signs He Likes you Through Body Language

Updated on June 16, 2016
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How to Know if Someone Likes You

It is often difficult to tell if someone likes you. Most people aren’t direct enough to come right out and say what they mean, so looking for other, less direct, cues can help. Body language often says just as much, if not more, than our verbal interactions, and a better understanding of body language can help you figure out what people think of you. The following article may help you
tell if someone likes you before you’re in a relationship.

Many of these actions are gender neutral, but some would definitely be strange coming from a woman. Women tend to have other cues of signaling interest, in some ways more complicated and discrete than men, whether they realize this or not.

Remember, even if someone is interested in you, that doesn't mean they are ready to move forward. If you like somebody, try encouraging their interactions and responding in kind. If you react in a neutral or indifferent way, your prospect is likely to think that you aren't interested. If you like something someone does, remember you can reinforce it with a compliment. Communication is key to relationships, along with being honest and vulnerable.

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He laughs when you laugh.
He laughs when you laugh. | Source

Noticing You

A guy who likes you will be very aware of your presence, and you may notice him noticing you: glancing, smiling, trying not to stare. He may laugh at your jokes, pay close attention to what you say, and consciously or unconsciously mimic your movements.

  1. He laughs when you laugh. One of the key things to look for is synchronicity. When two of you are amused at the same things, this is a major plus. Try not to force this, but laugh naturally. If he laughs at your jokes, that's extra points.
  2. He mirrors your movements. When you drink from a glass, he does also. If you cross your leg, he'll have his leg crossed. If you both have your legs stretched out, you're both wearing similar clothes, similar colors, or have the same posture -- these are all good signs.
  3. He smiles often when looking directly at you. Of course men smile, and they can be friendly. But if he has a certain extra smirk for you that he doesn't for the rest of people, or if he particularly is giving you extra attention -- then there's something that's positive happening.
  4. You catch him with a "deer in the headlights" look at you. Once I decided to run outside with one of my friends in the rain because I was overwhelmed by a party. This was a totally insane feminine thing to do, but when crossing one of the windows I definitely saw a pair of eyes fascinated by this splurge of a moment, not to mention being covered in rain and stuck in your clothes doesn't hurt.
  5. Looks to you to see if you caught something strange in a group setting to see if you'll laugh too. He wants to be on the same wavelength. Men desperately want to believe in ESP.
  6. His eyebrows raise. Not dramatically, but enough to acknowledge that you are a special, keen woman.
  7. He uses your name frequently because he likes it.
  8. He may awkwardly compare you to women in his life whom he admires -- like his mom.

He leans into you while talking.
He leans into you while talking. | Source

Proximity: Getting Close to You

A guy who really likes you will want to spend time with you and be as close to you as he can without being too obvious about it. The easiest way to tell this is his physical proximity. Does he try to get a seat next to you at group hangouts? Does he constantly appear in places you frequent? These are all signs that he likes you.

  1. He appears in places you frequent randomly, whether on purpose or not.
  2. He stands near you in social scenes.
  3. He actively prevents other guys from connecting with you. He'll find ways to block them, so that he has your attention instead.
  4. He uses his feet to communicate with you. He taps to music, he points to you, he touches you with his feet
  5. If he is driving you in a car by himself, he'll act particularly altogether to try to impress you. He may give off clues that he likes you considering (1) part of his brain is needed to concentrate on the road (2) the setting is more private and intimate. Consider if he is trying to be personal while he drives, or if you are but a shadow in the car that he never knew was even there.
  6. He offers his jacket when it's cold. Again, he wants to come off as a gentleman. I suggest keeping the jacket and giving it back another day so that you have some kind of form of connection with him for a later day.
  7. He scoots closer to you.
  8. When seated he gives you less space than usual if by you.
  9. He leans into you when talking. This way he can hear you better and be closer to you.
  10. He crouches inward to be cuter to you. Sometimes guys know that they are intimidating, so if they try to make themselves cute, than they're trying to be more accessible to you.

He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together.
He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together. | Source

Touch

Touch is a huge indicator of desire, and a guy who likes you will want to be in physical contact as much as he can. Here are a few big signs related to physical contact and touch.

  1. He looks for excuses to hold your hand, whether palm reading, helping you off a ladder, being scared, high fives, handing you an object, etc.
  2. He looks for ways to touch you in non-creepy ways, such as your shoulders and arms. He wants to break the physical barrier between you, and get you used to his sense of touch. He also wants to come off as gentlemanly. He may squeeze your shoulder during an emotional moment, or he may touch you when someone else is around who is flirting with you... because he wants you to remember him, not some other guy.
  3. He really likes you if he randomly plays or touches your hair. Men like hair a lot more than you think, and it is a huge sign of affection if he goes for the fro. The longer his hands stay on your head caressing hair, more likely he has a thing for you.
  4. He lays his head on your shoulder. He obviously feels comfortable enough with you.
  5. If he lays his head in your lap, he feels even more comfortable with you.
  6. He hugs you on sight.
  7. He hugs you several times in a single day. If he can't stop hugging you for every small deed, then he really wants to be close to you.
  8. He guides you through a crowd by the small of your back.
  9. Random high fives. He gives you lots and lots and lots of high fives... for everything.
  10. He hugs you from behind. This is unusual, but probably means they are super excited to see you and can't even wait for you to turn to look them in the face.
  11. He gives you big bear hugs.
  12. He picks you up and spins you.
  13. He kisses your hand.
  14. He kisses your forehead.
  15. He grabs at your elbow.
  16. He dances with you or next to you.
  17. He wraps his arm around yours while walking.

He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand.
He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand. | Source

Nervous Behavior

We’re all familiar with the anxious, overwhelming feelings that can arise from having a crush on someone. If a guy is kind of flustered and odd around you, it may be because he likes you and doesn't know how to deal with it.

  1. He crashes into objects in the area out of nervousness.
  2. He forgets where he is going out of nervousness. He may forget incredibly basic information about you too, because he is nervous.
  3. He has a sudden amount of energy and wanders everywhere like a kid on sugar.
  4. He adjusts his crotch area. This should be understood.
  5. He plays with any rings on his fingers out of nervousness.
  6. He plays with objects on the table out of nervousness. He needs to do something with himself because he is brooding with emotion.
  7. He suddenly has the need to adjust one of his socks and pull it up. This is an old trick, but for whatever reason if you do something entirely endearing, this is a knee-jerk reaction by men that is telling of only one thing: I like her.
  8. He grooms his hair when around you. Any kind of knee-jerk reaction to groom shows they want to look their best, whether for vanity or because you are in the room.
  9. He stares at you for too long.
  10. He smells of cologne.

He fiddles with things out of nervousness.
He fiddles with things out of nervousness.

Open, Confident Body Language

If a guy really likes you, instead of acting nervous he may actually act extra confident and happy around you because you simply make him feel good. If he's using lots of open body language, and it seems as though he can really relax in your presence, this is a sign that he feels comfortable and free when you're around.

  1. He has better posture because you gave him a surge of confidence.
  2. His body language allows him to show his wrists meaning he is comfortable around you since this is a vulnerable place on humans.
  3. He licks his lips, generally subconsciously.
  4. His nostrils open. Essentially, the more open the body language, the better. This can manifest in the strangest of ways, such as the nostrils.
  5. He stretches out his legs and body. If he can make more of himself prominent in a room, then you're more likely to gander at him.
  6. He stands taller. You make him feel confident, and women dig tall guys over just about anything else.
  7. Puffs out chest. He is feeling confident, and he wants you to see him as a protector.
  8. Has more open body language rather than crossing arms, legs, keeping his palms toward himself.
  9. He sings random songs around you or whistles. He is happy and free.

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      Kira 2 weeks ago

      There is this guy that I like and we were on the bus and he put his hand on my knee and I put my head on his shoulder and he had his head on my head and we were kind of holding hands. whenever we would talk, he would do it super close to my face and stare at my eyes the whole time. Does he like me?

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      ☜☆☞ 2 weeks ago

      So there is this guy i like and when he sits next to me he leans in close and he sits so close that his arms/legs/feet touch mine. If he sits behind me he plays with my feet nonstop. He even one time got my shoe off my foot. Some times he lays his head on his arm then his figers touch my back or hair.My one friend sits next to his friend and when they talk they talk about me. She says that hê likes me but he is sometimes shy. The guy and me talk about a school dance and he seemd intrested. At the school dance I was dancing with a boy and then when he came there he came to me while I was slow dancing and he came just there about to say something I stopt and look at him for a while and then he just walk away. When im upset he is always there for me and he will Try every thing to make me smile. He'll stick his tongue out in a funny whay and one time he made a soud (ggggggiiiiirrrr) from my neck to ear. I also catch him looking at me while im not looking at him soemtimes he stares at me while walking and he'll bump into something or someone. He also clench his fist when he hears i talk about a other guy. When he sees me with a guy his smile turns down. But he does not chat with me on whatsapp Why . Does this mean he likes me? Plz help me out!

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 weeks ago from Chicago

      Based only on this information: sounds like it was a nice more than friendly hug.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 weeks ago from Chicago

      You probably need to talk to this person more. It sounds like you're in a very early stage. Make conversation, talk about anything.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 weeks ago from Chicago

      This is a lot of touching, so I'm going to say yes.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 weeks ago from Chicago

      He sounds like he is probably teasing you and more interested in your body at this time. So he is probably attracted, but not necessarily wanting a relationship or going on dates.

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      Hailee 2 weeks ago

      There's this boy named Tristan that I really like,Sunday he hugs me and when he's huging me his hand is on the sidecof my lower stomach what does that mean

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      Evie 3 weeks ago

      Okayyyy....I have this guy in mu school older than me who I have a huge crush on .....welll I guess he is umm really older than me but I always catch him staring at me, smiling to me, winking me, stretching his legs or arms, licking his lips while is looking at me.....etc. Plus ome time we met at the cafeteria my friend was with me (he kmows her she is his freind's sister) my frnd talked with him (he was looking at me and playing with his hairnwhile talking to her time to time)and after they finished he stared at me for a long moment and then smiled and winked me then left what does that mean? d

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      Mk 4 weeks ago

      So,there is this guy i've known for 9 yrs.Since last yr,he's been touching me often as in playin wif my hair whenever he can.He massage my shoulder out of blue.Few months ago,he interwine his fingers wif mine under d table during the class.He would lean on my shoulder when none of my classmates are around.Wheneverhe sits side to side,his legs and mine would be on top of each other.Does he like me or sth?

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      sc 4 weeks ago

      okay so there is this guy in my art class, he is cute but he is also older than me, right now we are just friends and he knows I'm always going to be there for him if he gets sad or something, but last week he told me to stop talking to him at school so I did, the next day in class, I completely ignored him, didn't even look his direction then he texts me late at night saying "you didn't even say hi to me today" "was kinda upset" I responded three days later, my phone was off, with "I was simply following what you said" and he was like "ok, don't worry about it". He is so confusing because yes he is cute and I wouldn't mind dating him but there is this girl that likes him and whenever I say that they are dating he gets mad and insists they aren't. But then again he is older and when I first started talking to him, he wanted to be "friends with benefits", I refused and told him that I wasn't going to be that type of girl. Does he actually like me or does he just want my body? Should I wait and maybe give him a chance in the future or not?

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 weeks ago from Chicago

      Someone has to initiate conversation, so give it a try. But don't overwhelm her by trying to start too many conversations.

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      Paliatin 4 weeks ago

      should i talk to her or something i mean she hasn't texted me or called me. Yet

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 weeks ago from Chicago

      Four months is a long time to be hooking up. You need to discuss the relationship. Where is this going? Do you want to stay hookup buddies, be something more? Tell him how you feel. Be pragmatic and say you just want to clean the air, and you'll be cool no matter what. Let him know you may have to draw the line and stop the sex because your emotions are getting involved and it's getting to your head, so you need to make a choice.

      Or you can ask him if he wants to try dating, or taking you on a date.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 weeks ago from Chicago

      Well, that's always sweet. ;)

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      Spooky 5 weeks ago

      I’ve been hooking up with this guy for four months now and I’ve noticed changes. The sex is ideally more in my favor he takes more time for me than himself. If I don’t stay the night (which is also a new thing) he makes sure to walk me to the door and kiss me. When we cuddle he plays with my hair, kisses the side of my head and forehead way too often but hey I’m not complaining, and he rubs my shoulders and just caresses me and tlls me how soft my skin is. He’s also complimented me a lot lately telling me how pretty I am and how cute my ears are. Also we’re on college break and he mentioned how he’s going away for a month which I was really sad about cause I like him and hoped to spend more time with him because of the break. Well!!! He gave me one of his shirts while he was folding laundry when I was over and said “ i don’t wear this anymore really and it looks like something you’d wear” which he is either LYIN because it was in the pile of recently cleaned clothes or he washed it especially for me!!! it seems like there might be something there but when we first messaged he made it clear he only wanted to hook up so what is going on HELP!

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      ??? 5 weeks ago

      My crush lets me Sit on his Lap all the Time does he like me?

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      Anonymous 5 weeks ago

      I also forgot to mention that he lets me wear his jacket when I’m cold

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 weeks ago from Chicago

      You need to hangout with him outside of work. Ask him to something lighthearted. Maybe a movie, coffee, something of this nature. That will help you to see things better, and keep the pressure off being at work.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 weeks ago from Chicago

      Give him a compliment. Then tell him you don't want to go overboard with hugs and high fives. Make a habit to communicate less so he doesn't get the wrong idea. Maybe even help set him up with someone else.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 weeks ago from Chicago

      Well, high schoolers sometimes are flirting just for the sake of flirting. Adults do that too. If he says "don't take me serious" he might mean that. And you might need to tell him, hey -- unless you want to be serious with me, we got to set some boundaries. Like stop touching my butt.

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      laloba32 6 weeks ago

      I work with guy ( I know usually dating co workers go wrong) every time we work together he calls me my nick name.He puts his head on my shoulders and always grab my arm or hands to draw stupid but cute doodles. We laugh just about everything and hes always such in a good mood. He plays with my hair and touches my leg and hes always showing me new videos(stupid videos) and sometimes ill lean in and he gets so close to me but when someone walks in he retreats back. I dont know how to react most of the time. I just play it off but I dont want him to thing we're just friends I kinda want to b more.

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      Anonymous 6 weeks ago

      There is this guy that Keeps asking for hugs and high fives. It’s gets really annoying especially when he pats me on my head. He called me cute once and I didn’t know how to react. Honestly he’s getting pretty annoying and I don’t like him, I only like him as a friend. I like someone else and I don’t know how to cope with everything that’s going on. I need some feedback.

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      All hope is lost 7 weeks ago

      I have this guy that i really dont know how i feel about, i think i like him but its confusing. nonetheless everyone is convinced he is crushing on me even though i seriously doubt it. we dont really talk, unless in a group setting, but hes a nervous guy all together so its really hard to read his feelings. he laughs but only if im laughing, he finds reasons to bud into my conversations and takes interests in things i like (books, movies, etc.) and he even stares at me, but the second i look back, he looks away. i dont think he likes me because i think im reading WAY to much into his actions, and the biggest factor is we hardly ever talk! he barely knows me, how can you like someone you dont know? oh well, i give up

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      pinkie10 7 weeks ago

      I'm a senior in high school but my crush is just a little shorter than me and he's a junior. We have 2nd period together and he sits sort of across from me. Almost everyday, he looks back at me and shakes my hand(pretty much just holding it). Alot of times if he's sitting directly behind me, he'll touch my side or my shoulders. That always give me that feeling in my stomach. I feel like he likes me but at the same time, I'm not sure if I'm reading into it too much. Recently, he's been poking me on my butt and I like it. What should I do? I even asked him about why he flirts with me and he said "don't take me serious". But why would he keep doing it though??

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      You know 2 months ago

      In my classroom this boy tries to hold my hands but I am trying to let him but it's hard he hugged but I see and hear he said to his friend he has feelings for me but once he try holding my hands I push him away he hug me he come close to me everything boys are so ugh maybe I like because he likes me

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      A girl who is crazy 2 months ago

      So I like a boy who is three years older than me and we have kissed before and we used to hug and hold each others hands and walk to class together but he would never date me because of my age but now he has a girlfriend who is in the same grade but a different school does that mean he never liked me?

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      Natalee 2 months ago

      So I am in High School and there is this guy I like. He was my first kiss and he used to hug me all the time. But now he has a girlfriend and he doesn't hug me but acts the same. Does he like me still?

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Small glances? You should start talking to him and see if you connect with him that way. Just looking at eye cues can only mean so much, and if it were anything it would be the very tip of the iceberg: the super early stage of falling for someone. So I would relax. If he likes you, he'll talk with you. But just start talking and see where it goes.

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      A sad, sad girl who miserably needs help with life 2 months ago

      Hi. So I've liked this guy for a REALLY long time ( we're talking years here people) but I don't know if he likes me. I can't talk to him because I'm the girl you'd see sitting there doing nothing. Problem is, whenever I'm facing him and talking to my friend, I catch him looking at me a LOT and I'm obviously like " Omg did he just... Check me out or something?!" but he looks away really fast and I'm starting to question my mind and if I'm going crazy or not. When he's around me, I get really scared and I can't think straight and I start sweating, but then when he leaves, I feel like an idiot for not seizing the chance. I talk to his friends sometimes and sometimes I see him talk to one of them and then they look at me and poke him. Are there any fool-proof pointers someone could give me PLEASE? I'm almost to the point of desperation. If you can help thank you because you have saved me from the brink of insanity. If not well then I'm insane. But yes plz help...

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      Girl in Distress 2 months ago

      i have a mega crush on someone who happens to be my friend he talks about me all the time to his friends, he wont let anyone touch me not even to high five me, and he walks me to class everyday well i just found out hes going to ask me out what do i do? help plz

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      LoverGirl 2 months ago

      Hey, there is this boy that I've liked for a long time, and we grew up with each other. He is really cute, but I'm struggling with my realationship with another boy and my crush, but I know that the Lord will always be there. #GOD'S NOT DEAD

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      abigail.white 2 months ago

      hi I`m want this boy to like and he looks into my eyes, but i don`t know if he like me.

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      Strawberry 2 months ago

      Hey, so I have this best friend and we are super close and we are really good friends, and so we talk about a lot of stuff, y'know, movies, boys, grades, life ,CRUSHES. So she told me her sort of crush, and so I told her mine, I'm mean so like we r bffs so we wouldn't like tell anyone that so we trusted each other. SO the guy i have a crush on, I told her about him, and she sort of knows him, but didn't really talk to him, told me that he TOTALLY likes me, that kind of lightened me up lol but I doubted it, but like a week after I told her my crush, our social studies teacher assigned us "desk partners" and I got paired up with my bff, and the desk next to us is my crush and someone else, so im next to the wall, and my bff is on the other side, which means she is sort of near my crush, and like, ever since then, my bff and my crush have been talking NON STOP in front of me, and like, I would try to engage in the conversation but all the attention would just be paired up with my crush and my bff, I know what ur thinking, like, "Oh ur crush and bff TOTALLY like each other, let them be!" but my bff said that she definitely does not like him, and I know for a fact and so does she, that he definitely does NOT like her. So we sit together in lunch, and ALL SHE EVER TALKS ABOUT IS HOW MUCH FUN HE IS AND HOW SWEET HE IS AND always talks about how fun it is to talk to him and blah blah blah, its a complicated story, but the problem is, MY JEALOUSY IS ERUPTING PEOPLE, I need her to stop rubbing in my face about how "such good friends we are" and it's so hard not to yell at her and tell her how sick I am of her and this whole thing, and I try to change the subject but that just makes me look desperate, and recently she was like: "Haha today in social studies remember how me and X(my crush) were talking the whole time, well yeah that was like really fun, u should join us!!!"(And trust me this was obviusly not just some invitation, this made me feel so pathetic and stupid and friendless and stupid and pathetic and friendless REPEAT)Me in my mind:"I DONT CARE ABOUT YOU AND THAT BOY U KNOW I HAVE A CRUSH ON AND YOU ARA OBVIOUSLY RUBBING THIS IS MY FACE B****!" and like this whole thing is giving me bad heartache because I would love to be friends with my crush and talk to him but I'm such a coward, because I mean I only talk to him sometimes in the halls or in my other classes but rarely, and if ur thinking that like "Oh u should just ditch that friend of yours!" well, I cant because she is like the only true friend I actually have and ahhh help me! :'(

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      Anonymous 3 months ago

      Hey! ( I really wanted to do that :) ok so I like this sky and he likes me and he texted that luke about a summer ago and ever since we've been technically dating but we re really just friends. But I REALLY LIKE HIM and he likes me and he gives me gifts on my birthday but he never does ANY physically contact and I'm kinda worried he doesn't like me! I know I may be kinda stressed about it but Idk how to kinda forget about it for a while. And btw ok also very shy infant of him and his little brother is very nosy and keeps on bugging us about the fact that we like each other and I'm kinda screwing up around him because of that. I need help. Can u help me?

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      BABE 3 months ago

      we work together, he is 10 years older than i am, not married though he has a girlfriend. We've gone out a couple times but decided not to announce out work. I'm feeling guilty coz he has a girlfriend, what do i do?

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      cookies 3 months ago

      there is this guy, and he has beautiful eyes and we text on instagram and he is just so wonderful and cute and idk if he likes me because i think he tried to hug me but my other friend blocked him and one time he touched me and one time i got out of class and he just kept starring at me for some reason, so i wanna ask him out but he has a girlfriend so i think i should just move on.

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      guest 3 months ago

      So there's this guy. We are both in high school and we have 10th period together. I have this feeling he likes me but idk bc he always talks to this other girl, but he likes to walk with me in class bc its gym and he will grab my hand and hold it. Then today he comes over to me and starts to spin my around. After he walked away with his friend i felt really funny almost embarrassed, then he randomly hugs me and i will hug him back and yeah, but he is really cute. ANY ONE HAVE ANY ADVICE

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      Guest 3 months ago

      Sadly, my boss (in his mid-20s) does/has done most of these things around me. I say sadly because before a few days ago, all these signs were absolutely CUTE and endearing as he is a self-admitted shy guy.

      Then I find out & meet his GIRLFRIEND of 6 months all in one shot. Sickening? Yes. Absolutely. Now all of these behaviors make my skin crawl and my gut punched by One Punch Man.

      I don't exactly take my boss for a player but he seems to have no problem dating someone and trying to attract another who "suits" him more.

      No thanks. Don't disrespect me; don't disrespect her.

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      Anonymous 3 months ago

      Hi, I met a guy recently not actually the type which I will fall for but just few days after our short meet he left a mark on me. Lol. OK back to the guy, his 37 im 28 and we met at a lounge. At first I was with my friends casually drinking and having fun just to release stress and tension. The next thing I knew the guys at the next table to us were casually coming to us to chill with us. I was exhausted from standing so I sat on the floor while talking to my friend. Then suddenly a guy from the other table approaches me and offer to massage my leg and I say yes.While he was at it, he said I have a cute Feet and he smile. At that moment I was not showing interest because, damn I barely knew him and he does that? Haha the next thing I knew was my friend asking me to send him home 'the guy who massage my leg. I said ok but I need some refreshments at the coffee shop first. So he said ok. Then he follow me to my car and I drive to d coffee shop. We sat there and order some drinks and he casually touches me tease me as if I were his Girlfriend, he compliment how I look .. Its like his flirting with me and when the drinks came he paid for it. Then when we head to the car he hold my hand and act like a little kid all happy holding mummy's hand. Omg! what's that a little boy in a 37 y/old guy? Entering my car he started massage my shoulder slowly and wanting my attention while I drive. Then he hit me up saying I was his type and his showing signs as if he was comfortable with me. He talks about himself,his mom and his family and the reason he ask for a ride die to his cousin is drunk and doesn't want to head home. The next thing was he invite me in for a hot chocalate and get to know me better but I insist on going home after sending him cuz it was past 3am. I wouldn't want to wake his parent up at home. Just so you know were asians so its pretty normal for us still staying with our parents. the last thing I knew was we forget to ask for each others number and just wandering wat was his attention. Unlike all the guys I knew who were wanting to get in pants but this guys is full of mmustery.

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      Anonymous 3 months ago

      So I'm in high school, and there's this guy who I'm friends with but lately I've been feeling like he likes me. He has been "play fighting" with me, messing with my things when he walks by my desk in class, playing with my hair when he's behind me and I usually catch him glancing or staring at me at least 3 times a day or sometimes well just maintain eye contact for 2-3 seconds. He even tried to get my Snapchat. I feel like I'm reading too much into it but it would really help if I got someone else's opinion on it. It doesn't distract me much but I always wonder if he actually does or just being a friend.

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      Denise12345 3 months ago

      I'm a senior in high school but my crush is just a little shorter than me and a junior. We have 2nd period together and he sits sort of across from me. Almost everyday, he looks back at me and shakes my hand(pretty much just holding it). Alot of times if he's sitting directly behind me, he'll touch my side or my shoulders. That always give me that feeling in my stomach. I feel like he likes me but at the same time, I'm not sure if I'm reading into it too much.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Okay. Stop.

      You need to focus more on school and your friendships. Dating in 7th grade is just going to distract you. There is so much life ahead, and if you have better skills, grades, and a stronger set of friends -- you will go far. 7th grade is just the beginning. But how you perform now in school and so forth, could help you start a track that later in life, much later, you'll have a really good dating pool with a guy who has a decent job, treats you right, and you won't have this kind of confusion. Take care of yourself, girl. Enjoy your crushes, but none of those boys are good enough for you right now. And you might not remember most of your friends and connections from the 7th grade when you get a little older. Don't let these crushes distract you. You have other priorities right now. Enjoy being a kid. Seriously, dating is for adults -- and it's what we do to keep ourselves entertained. Don't be like us boring adults right now.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Flirt back with him. Copy what he is doing, be engaging. You got this.

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      eve 4 months ago

      So, I'm a freshmen in highschool and i really really like this guy. The thing is he's super friendly, so sometimes, I don't know if he's doing things because he's super nice or because he likes me. We are pretty close. We meet every day after advisory and we walk to class together. He always looks me in the eye and he laughs at my jokes even if they aren't funny. He is constantly trying to find out more about me and texts me with red hearts and stuff. He is always there to help me. The thing is, yesterday, I asked him the homework before leaving and he leaned on my locker and started talking to me, kinda like he was flirting. I was shook. He never does that. I really like him, more than I have ever liked anyone, thoughts???? PLS help

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      Butterfly fun 4 months ago

      Ok I'm in middle school in 7 th grade and there is this boy I like but there is this thing if you draw an imaginary x on their shoulder they have to hug someone. For example if someone did it to a girl then that girl has to hug a boy same thing for the boy but the other way around. So we have the same pe class and that's it but usually when I do if to him I just wish he would hug me but then says ew it kinda walks away but not. So then I did it to him still hoping then he actually hugged me then walked away and we were walking back to our own lines so a bunch of my friends saw and it was in public. But he didn't before so why now. And if was near him and someone did it and tell me to hug him I say ew to just so he doesn't know that I like him. Also we used to date in the past but I broke up with him but I still like him and I don't know why please helppppp what does it mean also he does playfully hit me and whenever he serousisly hits me he stops hurting me for while because he didn't mean it and he's dating a girl but that girl doesn't really like me and let me get close to him that much anymore pls helpppp

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Did he tell you that he likes someone else?

      I think you should continue to have positive interactions with this person.

      But if I'm really being honest, I always think it is best at this age to be focusing more on school and building solid friendships. You'll feel better in the long run by focusing on yourself, your family, and this really special time. Relationships and dating can wait, and it is very difficult to get into a serious relationship at this point of life. Follow your interests and get good at school. The better you focus on your interests and school the better opportunities will come to you later in life -- and with that, you'll have a better dating pool for a serious relationship. Don't let this crush distract you too much.

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      Aj 4 months ago

      There is this guy in my class who everyone has been saying he likes me. In one class I have with him I sit in front of him and he almost always touches my hair when I have it down. One day he randomly hugged me because I was since I was helping him with his homework. My friends think that he likes me, but he says that he likes another girl who we have no classes with. I'm still not sure whether he likes me or not, especially since he said she likes someone else. Even though the signs have been pretty obvious. Thoughts?

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      Anonymous 4 months ago

      So I’m just in middle school 8 grade year and I found out that my crush likes me and we talk about it. And when our class was over my bff was walking up and he gave his hoodie to her and she said “I don’t want it”. And he said “no give it to her” and then my BFF gave it to me and then he told me I can have it for the weekend. What does that mean? Are we a“thing” are we “something”?

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      Jjjj 4 months ago

      Well, theres this boy, he plays with the hair of the other girls in class comfortably but he seems to be hesitating on touching my hair though?

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      Rebecca 4 months ago

      I like a boy in school what do I do

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      Anonymous 5 months ago

      There's this boy in my scout group, occasionally he would make fun of me like i can't do a certain craft, that i am bad at bowling and i have a ridiculous nickname. Other times i see him looking but i am not sure if he's looking at me or something else. But once i told him about a jerk and he went up to him for me. i can't tell if he likes me or he's just being nice?

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      You should talk to him. This doesn't sound like enough information to tell if there is a connection here or not. Keep the connection positive... and talk.

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      Just keeping talking to him. Try being friendly and flirty. Ask him things you would like to know. How long have you known this person?

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      Sara 5 months ago

      He works at a theater and I have a crush on him. He is always fixing his hair. He also pinched my shoulder hard, hugged me, stares at me frequently, told me he was single, and has started wearing cologne. I think he likes me but I don't know what to do or say? Help?

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      Sorry, I do not do Facebook with these messages.

      I think you have a youthful, positive connection here, though I'm not sure I have enough information. I don't usually see it as a good thing if a guy describes you like a family member. I'm not sure what you mean by sleeping and eating. It does sound like he is flirting with you.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      What kind of questions?

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      jade 7 months ago

      I would like more questions asked but other wise I really liked this website.

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      progress 7 months ago

      so i know this guy since 6 months now through a mutual friend . We started going to bachata dance since 3 months now every friday night with few guy other guy friends of ours. We used to get drink later and specially we both used to talk about relationship and sex and stuff. One day in april he complimented and kissed me and we cuddled and made out at my place that night( we were sober) then he left.. Since then we have been talking through texts quite often and he send me text with emojis 95 per of the time. He flirts too sometimes. So next weekend i told him to have sex but he said no and it should be done in a relationship and kinda had a discussion about having it or not. It was bad next day he told me sorry and its all good and i shouldnt feel embarrased. We continued talking until now but last night we went out with our friends to celebrate my bday and he kissed me on my hand at the end of the dance in front of everyone but hardly anyone noticed . He kissed me on my hand the night we made out before leaving too. He does have a baggage since he is 39 years old. I always motivate and inspire him to like let it go and stuff .Like support him emotionally . I also told him indirectly to let go and take a step ahead face to face . He said its so hard pragster (thats what he calls me)thats all. we enjoy each other at the dance . I tried to kiss him last night but he just let me kissed him on cheeks . He is too shy and secretive person which i know. But now i just feel bad like this is going on since 2 months now . Its just so many mixed signals . I know he gets inspired and motivated whatever i tell him but i dont know it should move forward or i dont know whats going on with him? It just soo confusing...like he compliments , makes eye contact all the time,calls me by nickname and says it for fun that u love me ... lLast friday he asked what m doing over the rest of the weeknd for the first time and he never usually ask me that. I just dont know he hasnt asked me out yet??I dont know what to do ...Please help!

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      Tyler 7 months ago

      Hi I'm Tyler my crush is Alex he's a boy I like him but I need to ask for some and vice Alex's friends come up to me and tell me he doesn't like me or that he likes me but I don't know which one it is and Alex won't tell me his self that he likes me or doesn't it always having to be someone else I wonder why?

      And can I tell you something Alex was blushing straight after he took me with him when he had to take the cashbook and then pulled up to the office doesn't mean he likes me ?

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      Savage 8 months ago

      There's a guy I'm crushing on but I don't know if he feels the same way about me. He is dating though. He is very friendly with everyone and acts the same with me. He acts like he has nothing for me but when we are told as a group to hold hands, he rubs it and holds it tightly and when we are told to hug he does so tightly. He touches my hair when I see him and ignore him... I'm trying to stay cool so that no one sees it even him but when I stay away and we meet and I hide and later says hello he replies in a friendly manner.. what does that mean?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Yeah, it sounds like he likes you. Just talk to him and be honest about how you feel. That you care about him, but at this time you'd really like for him to give you a moment so you can think about things. Or keep a journal and track your thoughts for a couple of weeks or a month or two and see where that leads you.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      It sounds like you are very young and in school. He probably does like you. BUT I must encourage you to do well in school. You'll be much happier by getting good grades and finding out what are your passions and motivations first.

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      Ally 8 months ago

      We were in class and my friend who is a boy kept putting his legs on me and rubbing his leg on my leg and he is always looking at me

      We dated for a while but broke up idk if I still like him or not but after reading this I know that he likes me

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      Kim 8 months ago

      My crush did a lot of these things and does messing with me count as liking me or does that just count as being a jerk.And my friends said that he likes me after he gave me a gem and later on at the end of the school day he kept asking me if I wanted another one and I said yes and he gave me another one.He also kept kicking me so I kicked him back and every time he looks at me he always smiles and every time I drop something he asks if its mine and gives it back to me and ONLY ME.Do any of these things count as liking me?

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      Ara 10 months ago

      He is amazing, he is a gentleman, i've noticed that he hug me a lot, if he sees me he covers my eyes with his hands and then he hugs me, yesterday he was sitting next to me and he rubbed my back and my shoulder, and we've been in the car alone. We're supposed to be just friends but it seems that he wants to be more than friends. The problem is sometimes he speaks about other girls, like "I think that girl is cute" -.-

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      Are you gay or straight with him? If he's gay, then he's gay.

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      #@lyka 10 months ago

      Its great........But my crush is Gay i love him so much because he's so gentleman,handsome,smart,rich and very good at me i don't know if he loves me too.........

      I love u _____

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      Excellent!

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      Rolein 10 months ago

      I liked it! It was very helpful, thank you!

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      I think he is definitely flirting with you... also, you should let him know whether this is acceptable if his advances bother you. He might just like touching your body.

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      Anonnn 11 months ago

      I have a colleague who likes to play with my hair, randomly massage my shoulders, and touch my arms whenever he walks past me. Today he stroked my upper arm with the back of his hands like to feel my skin. Does he like me. He twirled my hair too. Idk im so confused.

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      Men move on with their pasts in their own time. There's not a lot you can do to shake that up. Besides not give him enough time with you and focus on other interests. Then if he cares he might drop his past and focus on you. Maybe.

      Rejection can hurt the ego. The only way to get over someone is kill the ego and be comfortable with humility. That's something he has to do on his own and his own timing. Wounds heal with time.

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      Some guys are looking for fun and not commitment. There can be a lot of excuses at play. It isn't a gender thing though. Women will drop men in the flash of an eye as well.

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      Guddu 11 months ago

      Hey!!

      I like someone so much I know he likes me too but the problem is, he has one life partner in his life earlier and she left him but she always contact him between 10-20 days and he is trying to forget her but because she contact him, he's not able to forget her and also not able to give any commitment to me,..

      I know that girl is already moved on but he is not and always stay sad which I don't like,...please suggest something so that he can move on with me

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      Faye 11 months ago

      Loved the post gave me lots of perfect info my only sadness is he liked me so much it scared him he ran . He had all the signs and expressed it to me but one little simple small tiff he ran why are men so afraid to be in love baffles me especially when its left to their own devices. I just don't understand men at all .

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      Flirting.

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      MissAnon 11 months ago

      Me and my guy friend have been joking through text, I teased him that I was strong and I could beat him in fight. (He is huge and I am short and petite, I could never beat him)

      He texted me that I made him laugh and right now he wants to pat my head like a puppy, is it condescending or flirting? Should I be offended? I am from Europe, he is from Florida, I don't know maybe it is their culture thing.

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      I hope it all gets better! Be chill and cool. There is a lot of awkwardness that comes with life. ;)

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      Jijiondatbeat 11 months ago

      Omg I swear 2 guys like me. So theres this one guy I like and Im pretty sure he likes me but hes the more shy type around crushes even though hes pretty social. Then I think there is another guy who likes me and idk if hes that much interested or he is one of those more confident independent types. So the other guy Im not so interested in was standing behind me at lunch for highschool and he started bumping into me and it was REALLY awkward. I used to have a crush on him a year ago but now its like way past that. Then while I was getting my food he was so close to me and touching my hand and I was like O_O If my crush did it I wouldnt mind but him I was like Get outta my face. My crush though is way sweeter than him and he always tries to say hi to me. He kind of cares about my personal space at times. I remembered we were sitting next to each other and our elbows were touching for a while. He also stares at me alot even stalks me. But yeah most awkward day for me -_-

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      Toni 12 months ago

      omg this website is so awesome i think everyone should use it because of how awesome it is and aswell if ur crush does like you then u'll find out

      if they do then congrats go and get him

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      Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

      You have nice hair and they want to touch it. It's probably nicer than what they have. Can also be a total flirty move.

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      Emmag 12 months ago

      This did not help i did not even think it was this i wanted to know why my freinds play with my hair!

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      Jonah 12 months ago

      I am a guy reading this and I sit next to my crush at school, I do all of these things.

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      Anon93 12 months ago

      Hi this guy I work with keeps teasing me and likes to pat my head and touch my hair. He touches me at least five times a day too on the arm only though. Like pinching my arm or holding my shoulders. He is generally a touchy person to my colleagues too but seems like he does it more to me? Idk I feel like he might just be treatinge as his little sis or does he like me? He has a girlfriend though.

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      Laura 12 months ago

      There is this older guy who I like(10 year difference, I think(I'm 23), shy like me

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      Jessica vallejo 12 months ago

      My crush singing to me while we dance and he look at me like I only one in his world and I don't know what to do cause he mine ex and my crush so help me please email me Jessicavallejodim@gmail.com

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      izzy 12 months ago

      i want to cry, one of my BEST BEST friend likes to give me hugs and high fives when he sees me in the hall ways at school but lately he would high five me but grab my hand and idk if he likes me and i dont want to hurt him like everyone else does to him. i just really need help idk what to do... UGGHH

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      High school is a weird beast all in of itself. Have you guys hung out outside of school yet? It should feel really natural when you ask someone to spend time with you outside of school. "Asking out" sounds too formal to me. Do you have this guy's number? I think you should try to spend time with him outside of school to get to know him better. Maybe go to a movie? Study together, I mean you're in the same class. Say you need help with geometry -- figure out what you're struggling with that he is getting with math. Something like this. It's simple, sweet, and easy. But you would still need to focus on math, don't forget that. Don't make it too big of a deal to hang out with him. It should feel seamless. You are charismatic.

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      Hopelessly in Love? 13 months ago

      So there's this guy in my geometry class who I'm really interested in. I've had a crush on him for about 3 weeks and I've known him since the beginning of the school year. He's a soph.. and I'm a freshman. We sat together in an old group and didn't talk much, but in our new group he talks to me a lot lol. Today I was doodling on my paper and he put his hand on my pencil and started drawing a picture that we laughed at for more than 5 minutes. My friends think I should ask him out, but I don't know if it's the right time. Is it too early? Do you think he's kinda interested in me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      Whoa. Love is a big word, but you probably are not in love if you are not in a relationship. Unrequited love is a whole other subject we won't discuss right now.

      This sounds like a very early crush. Enjoy it and don't blow it out of proportion. Keep your cool. Also, study hard in school. You have a lot of life ahead of you, and by studying hard, reading books, getting involved in school -- you will have better options to your future. Don't let any boy get in the way of your education. And ultimately by studying and finding makes you happy and getting into a good school, you'll have a better dating pool to experience later in life. As for this boy, I'd say keep it friendly. He could have a crush or is just teasing you. But if you overreact or start acting odd, he might not want to be around you. As for your friend, I hope you see them as a friend and are not getting jealous.

      Enjoy the time you have now! You are young, be young, and enjoy your time in school. Pay attention to your teachers, you'll thank yourself for doing so later in life. Dating, crushes, and boyfriends makes more sense as you get older, so don't sweat it too much. You'll fall in love one day. Good luck to you!

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      Iia 14 months ago

      Oh my god! I don't know what to do. He touched my twice, he says my name then taps my shoulders! I'm like.. " Yes?" Why can't he just say my name WHY does he touch me?! I'm really shy around him too, he talks to my best friend A LOT and it's like I'm not there and he stares at me ALL the time! Then why I ask him a question he doesn't answer then my friends answer me because he didn't. My friend starts a conversation then they both chat with each other! and I'm right in front of them... He looks at me when I speak, like when I'm asking my teacher or when I'm chatting with my friends, and when the teacher says talk to the person who is next to you, which is him that we need to work together and all but he doesn't work with me! he's always quiet around me and around his friends he screams and says bad words! I really reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally really LIKE HIM! but we're both shy... MY QUESTION IS "DOES HE LOVE ME?!"

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      There's no telling how or when people will fall in love. Not everyone has the same criteria nor needs the same info to get a yes. If you enjoy this person, spend time with them. If you're unsure about whether you want a relationship or friendship, be honest. Sometimes when you sit on indecision it will turn into a yes. It's fair for you to tell him that you don't have enough info yet to make a decision -- and that's fair. You may want to scope him out longer to see what he is all about. This is very normal. A lot of times men makes very fast decisions about women.... and then women need more time -- they have different criteria going into it. Is it only a physical connection? If you only see the two of you interacting over physical aspects, then yes. But he may have instantly clicked with your personality or emotions too.

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      Katie 14 months ago

      heyy, so I met this guy online and we've met 4 times. I'm not sure if I like him but I feel comfortable with him, I mean it's fine. I'd like to get to know him more but I'm not sure about his intentions. The first time we met, he acted too interested, and he even told me that he was hoping to have a relationship with me in the future, he didn't say like that but I understood, and I also noticed some signals like playing with my hair, hugging me good bye, singing songs and stuff like that. Before we met, we chat online for a week maybe, so I don't understand why would he be so interested in me, or would say that kind of things, I mean he doesn't know me enough. Maybe he doesn't want anything but physical connection and I don't really what that I mean I don't even like him that much and if things won't go to a relationship I would like to be his friend but if he's only expecting that it can't happen. I'd like some opinions :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      He might have written the letter. You should straight up ask.

      But as always, I strongly believe when you are young, you should focus on studying and finding out yourself and your passions. Don't let any guy in school distract you from that. It's a long road to unveiling yourself, and you'll benefit from your studies. Dating can always, always wait.

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      Kirsten 14 months ago

      There is this one guy in my grade and I think he likes me but im not exactly sure because hes always giving me signs he does and signs he doesnt, he jokes around a lot with me, uses pick up lines, makes sexual jokes, but im not sure idk if he does this with other people to because he talks to lots of girls, and whenever he makes a joke with one of his guy friends, he always glances over at me to see if i heard or laughed i guess. i also got a love letter from him in my locker but i think my friend might have written it for him and she doesnt know i like him, also i have heard them several times in resource talking and my friend keeps saying "when r u gonna ask her out" and hes just like i dont know and im not sure if they r talking about me or not and i just pretend i dont hear but also one time when she told him he should write a love letter and put it in my locker he just said really loudly "no im not gonna write a love letter and put it in her locker" and he looked at me and grinned. do u have any idea what any of this could mean? (srry it is rlly long if u r confused just ask questions.)

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      Rio 15 months ago

      Hi!

      All you said is very fantastic. I don't it's really true but it's still spinning my head to think about my friend who it the same. Yes, I still loved him. I actually tell it to him already, but it is a long long time ago. And then last night, I felt it again, when he actually lays his hand at my shoulder. It is the first time, ever. And it twisting in my head and saying to myself that "what is this all about"? Why I still love this guy, even it couldn't happen.. Make me crazy to think on it, because we're really a good friends, but I really felt more special for him.

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      Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago

      No problem. ;)

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      Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like their is some interest for sure. Early stages. Might be touching you to see how you respond and if it will go anywhere.

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      Izzy 15 months ago

      Hm, I'm very confuse with the way a friend acts towards me. Sometimes when we hang out he puts his arms around me, or when we walk he puts his hands in my shoulders and "guide" me. Once we were sitting talking and he started touching my knee? He is taller than me so he calls me "little girl" lol... and he tickles me, very often. I'm not sure if this is something he does with his friends, specially girl friends, because I know there are people that are touchy in a friendly way but... ya. I'm not used to physical contact but with him i find it ok cause we are friends and I didn't really thought at first that he likes me but lately he has been more touchy.

      So I'm confuse, what do you think it's going on?

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      Belinda 15 months ago

      This article is the bomb! My recent male interest shows me all of the above cues! Thank you for the confirmation!