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Signs He Likes you Through Body Language

Updated on June 16, 2016
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Andrea loves to write on the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

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How to Know if Someone Likes You

It is often difficult to tell if someone likes you. Most people aren’t direct enough to come right out and say what they mean, so looking for other, less direct, cues can help. Body language often says just as much, if not more, than our verbal interactions, and a better understanding of body language can help you figure out what people think of you. The following article may help you
tell if someone likes you before you’re in a relationship.

Many of these actions are gender neutral, but some would definitely be strange coming from a woman. Women tend to have other cues of signaling interest, in some ways more complicated and discrete than men, whether they realize this or not.

Remember, even if someone is interested in you, that doesn't mean they are ready to move forward. If you like somebody, try encouraging their interactions and responding in kind. If you react in a neutral or indifferent way, your prospect is likely to think that you aren't interested. If you like something someone does, remember you can reinforce it with a compliment. Communication is key to relationships, along with being honest and vulnerable.

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He laughs when you laugh.
He laughs when you laugh. | Source

Noticing You

A guy who likes you will be very aware of your presence, and you may notice him noticing you: glancing, smiling, trying not to stare. He may laugh at your jokes, pay close attention to what you say, and consciously or unconsciously mimic your movements.

  1. He laughs when you laugh. One of the key things to look for is synchronicity. When two of you are amused at the same things, this is a major plus. Try not to force this, but laugh naturally. If he laughs at your jokes, that's extra points.
  2. He mirrors your movements. When you drink from a glass, he does also. If you cross your leg, he'll have his leg crossed. If you both have your legs stretched out, you're both wearing similar clothes, similar colors, or have the same posture -- these are all good signs.
  3. He smiles often when looking directly at you. Of course men smile, and they can be friendly. But if he has a certain extra smirk for you that he doesn't for the rest of people, or if he particularly is giving you extra attention -- then there's something that's positive happening.
  4. You catch him with a "deer in the headlights" look at you. Once I decided to run outside with one of my friends in the rain because I was overwhelmed by a party. This was a totally insane feminine thing to do, but when crossing one of the windows I definitely saw a pair of eyes fascinated by this splurge of a moment, not to mention being covered in rain and stuck in your clothes doesn't hurt.
  5. Looks to you to see if you caught something strange in a group setting to see if you'll laugh too. He wants to be on the same wavelength. Men desperately want to believe in ESP.
  6. His eyebrows raise. Not dramatically, but enough to acknowledge that you are a special, keen woman.
  7. He uses your name frequently because he likes it.
  8. He may awkwardly compare you to women in his life whom he admires -- like his mom.

He leans into you while talking.
He leans into you while talking. | Source

Proximity: Getting Close to You

A guy who really likes you will want to spend time with you and be as close to you as he can without being too obvious about it. The easiest way to tell this is his physical proximity. Does he try to get a seat next to you at group hangouts? Does he constantly appear in places you frequent? These are all signs that he likes you.

  1. He appears in places you frequent randomly, whether on purpose or not.
  2. He stands near you in social scenes.
  3. He actively prevents other guys from connecting with you. He'll find ways to block them, so that he has your attention instead.
  4. He uses his feet to communicate with you. He taps to music, he points to you, he touches you with his feet
  5. If he is driving you in a car by himself, he'll act particularly altogether to try to impress you. He may give off clues that he likes you considering (1) part of his brain is needed to concentrate on the road (2) the setting is more private and intimate. Consider if he is trying to be personal while he drives, or if you are but a shadow in the car that he never knew was even there.
  6. He offers his jacket when it's cold. Again, he wants to come off as a gentleman. I suggest keeping the jacket and giving it back another day so that you have some kind of form of connection with him for a later day.
  7. He scoots closer to you.
  8. When seated he gives you less space than usual if by you.
  9. He leans into you when talking. This way he can hear you better and be closer to you.
  10. He crouches inward to be cuter to you. Sometimes guys know that they are intimidating, so if they try to make themselves cute, than they're trying to be more accessible to you.

He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together.
He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together. | Source

Touch

Touch is a huge indicator of desire, and a guy who likes you will want to be in physical contact as much as he can. Here are a few big signs related to physical contact and touch.

  1. He looks for excuses to hold your hand, whether palm reading, helping you off a ladder, being scared, high fives, handing you an object, etc.
  2. He looks for ways to touch you in non-creepy ways, such as your shoulders and arms. He wants to break the physical barrier between you, and get you used to his sense of touch. He also wants to come off as gentlemanly. He may squeeze your shoulder during an emotional moment, or he may touch you when someone else is around who is flirting with you... because he wants you to remember him, not some other guy.
  3. He really likes you if he randomly plays or touches your hair. Men like hair a lot more than you think, and it is a huge sign of affection if he goes for the fro. The longer his hands stay on your head caressing hair, more likely he has a thing for you.
  4. He lays his head on your shoulder. He obviously feels comfortable enough with you.
  5. If he lays his head in your lap, he feels even more comfortable with you.
  6. He hugs you on sight.
  7. He hugs you several times in a single day. If he can't stop hugging you for every small deed, then he really wants to be close to you.
  8. He guides you through a crowd by the small of your back.
  9. Random high fives. He gives you lots and lots and lots of high fives... for everything.
  10. He hugs you from behind. This is unusual, but probably means they are super excited to see you and can't even wait for you to turn to look them in the face.
  11. He gives you big bear hugs.
  12. He picks you up and spins you.
  13. He kisses your hand.
  14. He kisses your forehead.
  15. He grabs at your elbow.
  16. He dances with you or next to you.
  17. He wraps his arm around yours while walking.

He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand.
He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand. | Source

Nervous Behavior

We’re all familiar with the anxious, overwhelming feelings that can arise from having a crush on someone. If a guy is kind of flustered and odd around you, it may be because he likes you and doesn't know how to deal with it.

  1. He crashes into objects in the area out of nervousness.
  2. He forgets where he is going out of nervousness. He may forget incredibly basic information about you too, because he is nervous.
  3. He has a sudden amount of energy and wanders everywhere like a kid on sugar.
  4. He adjusts his crotch area. This should be understood.
  5. He plays with any rings on his fingers out of nervousness.
  6. He plays with objects on the table out of nervousness. He needs to do something with himself because he is brooding with emotion.
  7. He suddenly has the need to adjust one of his socks and pull it up. This is an old trick, but for whatever reason if you do something entirely endearing, this is a knee-jerk reaction by men that is telling of only one thing: I like her.
  8. He grooms his hair when around you. Any kind of knee-jerk reaction to groom shows they want to look their best, whether for vanity or because you are in the room.
  9. He stares at you for too long.
  10. He smells of cologne.

He fiddles with things out of nervousness.
He fiddles with things out of nervousness.

Open, Confident Body Language

If a guy really likes you, instead of acting nervous he may actually act extra confident and happy around you because you simply make him feel good. If he's using lots of open body language, and it seems as though he can really relax in your presence, this is a sign that he feels comfortable and free when you're around.

  1. He has better posture because you gave him a surge of confidence.
  2. His body language allows him to show his wrists meaning he is comfortable around you since this is a vulnerable place on humans.
  3. He licks his lips, generally subconsciously.
  4. His nostrils open. Essentially, the more open the body language, the better. This can manifest in the strangest of ways, such as the nostrils.
  5. He stretches out his legs and body. If he can make more of himself prominent in a room, then you're more likely to gander at him.
  6. He stands taller. You make him feel confident, and women dig tall guys over just about anything else.
  7. Puffs out chest. He is feeling confident, and he wants you to see him as a protector.
  8. Has more open body language rather than crossing arms, legs, keeping his palms toward himself.
  9. He sings random songs around you or whistles. He is happy and free.

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      BABE 3 days ago

      we work together, he is 10 years older than i am, not married though he has a girlfriend. We've gone out a couple times but decided not to announce out work. I'm feeling guilty coz he has a girlfriend, what do i do?

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      cookies 5 days ago

      there is this guy, and he has beautiful eyes and we text on instagram and he is just so wonderful and cute and idk if he likes me because i think he tried to hug me but my other friend blocked him and one time he touched me and one time i got out of class and he just kept starring at me for some reason, so i wanna ask him out but he has a girlfriend so i think i should just move on.

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      guest 8 days ago

      So there's this guy. We are both in high school and we have 10th period together. I have this feeling he likes me but idk bc he always talks to this other girl, but he likes to walk with me in class bc its gym and he will grab my hand and hold it. Then today he comes over to me and starts to spin my around. After he walked away with his friend i felt really funny almost embarrassed, then he randomly hugs me and i will hug him back and yeah, but he is really cute. ANY ONE HAVE ANY ADVICE

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      Guest 10 days ago

      Sadly, my boss (in his mid-20s) does/has done most of these things around me. I say sadly because before a few days ago, all these signs were absolutely CUTE and endearing as he is a self-admitted shy guy.

      Then I find out & meet his GIRLFRIEND of 6 months all in one shot. Sickening? Yes. Absolutely. Now all of these behaviors make my skin crawl and my gut punched by One Punch Man.

      I don't exactly take my boss for a player but he seems to have no problem dating someone and trying to attract another who "suits" him more.

      No thanks. Don't disrespect me; don't disrespect her.

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      Anonymous 2 weeks ago

      Hi, I met a guy recently not actually the type which I will fall for but just few days after our short meet he left a mark on me. Lol. OK back to the guy, his 37 im 28 and we met at a lounge. At first I was with my friends casually drinking and having fun just to release stress and tension. The next thing I knew the guys at the next table to us were casually coming to us to chill with us. I was exhausted from standing so I sat on the floor while talking to my friend. Then suddenly a guy from the other table approaches me and offer to massage my leg and I say yes.While he was at it, he said I have a cute Feet and he smile. At that moment I was not showing interest because, damn I barely knew him and he does that? Haha the next thing I knew was my friend asking me to send him home 'the guy who massage my leg. I said ok but I need some refreshments at the coffee shop first. So he said ok. Then he follow me to my car and I drive to d coffee shop. We sat there and order some drinks and he casually touches me tease me as if I were his Girlfriend, he compliment how I look .. Its like his flirting with me and when the drinks came he paid for it. Then when we head to the car he hold my hand and act like a little kid all happy holding mummy's hand. Omg! what's that a little boy in a 37 y/old guy? Entering my car he started massage my shoulder slowly and wanting my attention while I drive. Then he hit me up saying I was his type and his showing signs as if he was comfortable with me. He talks about himself,his mom and his family and the reason he ask for a ride die to his cousin is drunk and doesn't want to head home. The next thing was he invite me in for a hot chocalate and get to know me better but I insist on going home after sending him cuz it was past 3am. I wouldn't want to wake his parent up at home. Just so you know were asians so its pretty normal for us still staying with our parents. the last thing I knew was we forget to ask for each others number and just wandering wat was his attention. Unlike all the guys I knew who were wanting to get in pants but this guys is full of mmustery.

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      Anonymous 2 weeks ago

      So I'm in high school, and there's this guy who I'm friends with but lately I've been feeling like he likes me. He has been "play fighting" with me, messing with my things when he walks by my desk in class, playing with my hair when he's behind me and I usually catch him glancing or staring at me at least 3 times a day or sometimes well just maintain eye contact for 2-3 seconds. He even tried to get my Snapchat. I feel like I'm reading too much into it but it would really help if I got someone else's opinion on it. It doesn't distract me much but I always wonder if he actually does or just being a friend.

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      Denise12345 3 weeks ago

      I'm a senior in high school but my crush is just a little shorter than me and a junior. We have 2nd period together and he sits sort of across from me. Almost everyday, he looks back at me and shakes my hand(pretty much just holding it). Alot of times if he's sitting directly behind me, he'll touch my side or my shoulders. That always give me that feeling in my stomach. I feel like he likes me but at the same time, I'm not sure if I'm reading into it too much.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

      Okay. Stop.

      You need to focus more on school and your friendships. Dating in 7th grade is just going to distract you. There is so much life ahead, and if you have better skills, grades, and a stronger set of friends -- you will go far. 7th grade is just the beginning. But how you perform now in school and so forth, could help you start a track that later in life, much later, you'll have a really good dating pool with a guy who has a decent job, treats you right, and you won't have this kind of confusion. Take care of yourself, girl. Enjoy your crushes, but none of those boys are good enough for you right now. And you might not remember most of your friends and connections from the 7th grade when you get a little older. Don't let these crushes distract you. You have other priorities right now. Enjoy being a kid. Seriously, dating is for adults -- and it's what we do to keep ourselves entertained. Don't be like us boring adults right now.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

      Flirt back with him. Copy what he is doing, be engaging. You got this.

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      eve 4 weeks ago

      So, I'm a freshmen in highschool and i really really like this guy. The thing is he's super friendly, so sometimes, I don't know if he's doing things because he's super nice or because he likes me. We are pretty close. We meet every day after advisory and we walk to class together. He always looks me in the eye and he laughs at my jokes even if they aren't funny. He is constantly trying to find out more about me and texts me with red hearts and stuff. He is always there to help me. The thing is, yesterday, I asked him the homework before leaving and he leaned on my locker and started talking to me, kinda like he was flirting. I was shook. He never does that. I really like him, more than I have ever liked anyone, thoughts???? PLS help

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      Butterfly fun 4 weeks ago

      Ok I'm in middle school in 7 th grade and there is this boy I like but there is this thing if you draw an imaginary x on their shoulder they have to hug someone. For example if someone did it to a girl then that girl has to hug a boy same thing for the boy but the other way around. So we have the same pe class and that's it but usually when I do if to him I just wish he would hug me but then says ew it kinda walks away but not. So then I did it to him still hoping then he actually hugged me then walked away and we were walking back to our own lines so a bunch of my friends saw and it was in public. But he didn't before so why now. And if was near him and someone did it and tell me to hug him I say ew to just so he doesn't know that I like him. Also we used to date in the past but I broke up with him but I still like him and I don't know why please helppppp what does it mean also he does playfully hit me and whenever he serousisly hits me he stops hurting me for while because he didn't mean it and he's dating a girl but that girl doesn't really like me and let me get close to him that much anymore pls helpppp

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 weeks ago from Chicago

      Did he tell you that he likes someone else?

      I think you should continue to have positive interactions with this person.

      But if I'm really being honest, I always think it is best at this age to be focusing more on school and building solid friendships. You'll feel better in the long run by focusing on yourself, your family, and this really special time. Relationships and dating can wait, and it is very difficult to get into a serious relationship at this point of life. Follow your interests and get good at school. The better you focus on your interests and school the better opportunities will come to you later in life -- and with that, you'll have a better dating pool for a serious relationship. Don't let this crush distract you too much.

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      Aj 4 weeks ago

      There is this guy in my class who everyone has been saying he likes me. In one class I have with him I sit in front of him and he almost always touches my hair when I have it down. One day he randomly hugged me because I was since I was helping him with his homework. My friends think that he likes me, but he says that he likes another girl who we have no classes with. I'm still not sure whether he likes me or not, especially since he said she likes someone else. Even though the signs have been pretty obvious. Thoughts?

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      Anonymous 5 weeks ago

      So I’m just in middle school 8 grade year and I found out that my crush likes me and we talk about it. And when our class was over my bff was walking up and he gave his hoodie to her and she said “I don’t want it”. And he said “no give it to her” and then my BFF gave it to me and then he told me I can have it for the weekend. What does that mean? Are we a“thing” are we “something”?

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      Jjjj 5 weeks ago

      Well, theres this boy, he plays with the hair of the other girls in class comfortably but he seems to be hesitating on touching my hair though?

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      Rebecca 7 weeks ago

      I like a boy in school what do I do

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      Anonymous 2 months ago

      There's this boy in my scout group, occasionally he would make fun of me like i can't do a certain craft, that i am bad at bowling and i have a ridiculous nickname. Other times i see him looking but i am not sure if he's looking at me or something else. But once i told him about a jerk and he went up to him for me. i can't tell if he likes me or he's just being nice?

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      You should talk to him. This doesn't sound like enough information to tell if there is a connection here or not. Keep the connection positive... and talk.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Just keeping talking to him. Try being friendly and flirty. Ask him things you would like to know. How long have you known this person?

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      Sara 2 months ago

      He works at a theater and I have a crush on him. He is always fixing his hair. He also pinched my shoulder hard, hugged me, stares at me frequently, told me he was single, and has started wearing cologne. I think he likes me but I don't know what to do or say? Help?

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Sorry, I do not do Facebook with these messages.

      I think you have a youthful, positive connection here, though I'm not sure I have enough information. I don't usually see it as a good thing if a guy describes you like a family member. I'm not sure what you mean by sleeping and eating. It does sound like he is flirting with you.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      What kind of questions?

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      jade 4 months ago

      I would like more questions asked but other wise I really liked this website.

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      progress 4 months ago

      so i know this guy since 6 months now through a mutual friend . We started going to bachata dance since 3 months now every friday night with few guy other guy friends of ours. We used to get drink later and specially we both used to talk about relationship and sex and stuff. One day in april he complimented and kissed me and we cuddled and made out at my place that night( we were sober) then he left.. Since then we have been talking through texts quite often and he send me text with emojis 95 per of the time. He flirts too sometimes. So next weekend i told him to have sex but he said no and it should be done in a relationship and kinda had a discussion about having it or not. It was bad next day he told me sorry and its all good and i shouldnt feel embarrased. We continued talking until now but last night we went out with our friends to celebrate my bday and he kissed me on my hand at the end of the dance in front of everyone but hardly anyone noticed . He kissed me on my hand the night we made out before leaving too. He does have a baggage since he is 39 years old. I always motivate and inspire him to like let it go and stuff .Like support him emotionally . I also told him indirectly to let go and take a step ahead face to face . He said its so hard pragster (thats what he calls me)thats all. we enjoy each other at the dance . I tried to kiss him last night but he just let me kissed him on cheeks . He is too shy and secretive person which i know. But now i just feel bad like this is going on since 2 months now . Its just so many mixed signals . I know he gets inspired and motivated whatever i tell him but i dont know it should move forward or i dont know whats going on with him? It just soo confusing...like he compliments , makes eye contact all the time,calls me by nickname and says it for fun that u love me ... lLast friday he asked what m doing over the rest of the weeknd for the first time and he never usually ask me that. I just dont know he hasnt asked me out yet??I dont know what to do ...Please help!

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      Tyler 4 months ago

      Hi I'm Tyler my crush is Alex he's a boy I like him but I need to ask for some and vice Alex's friends come up to me and tell me he doesn't like me or that he likes me but I don't know which one it is and Alex won't tell me his self that he likes me or doesn't it always having to be someone else I wonder why?

      And can I tell you something Alex was blushing straight after he took me with him when he had to take the cashbook and then pulled up to the office doesn't mean he likes me ?

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      Savage 5 months ago

      There's a guy I'm crushing on but I don't know if he feels the same way about me. He is dating though. He is very friendly with everyone and acts the same with me. He acts like he has nothing for me but when we are told as a group to hold hands, he rubs it and holds it tightly and when we are told to hug he does so tightly. He touches my hair when I see him and ignore him... I'm trying to stay cool so that no one sees it even him but when I stay away and we meet and I hide and later says hello he replies in a friendly manner.. what does that mean?

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      Yeah, it sounds like he likes you. Just talk to him and be honest about how you feel. That you care about him, but at this time you'd really like for him to give you a moment so you can think about things. Or keep a journal and track your thoughts for a couple of weeks or a month or two and see where that leads you.

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      It sounds like you are very young and in school. He probably does like you. BUT I must encourage you to do well in school. You'll be much happier by getting good grades and finding out what are your passions and motivations first.

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      Ally 5 months ago

      We were in class and my friend who is a boy kept putting his legs on me and rubbing his leg on my leg and he is always looking at me

      We dated for a while but broke up idk if I still like him or not but after reading this I know that he likes me

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      Kim 5 months ago

      My crush did a lot of these things and does messing with me count as liking me or does that just count as being a jerk.And my friends said that he likes me after he gave me a gem and later on at the end of the school day he kept asking me if I wanted another one and I said yes and he gave me another one.He also kept kicking me so I kicked him back and every time he looks at me he always smiles and every time I drop something he asks if its mine and gives it back to me and ONLY ME.Do any of these things count as liking me?

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      Ara 6 months ago

      He is amazing, he is a gentleman, i've noticed that he hug me a lot, if he sees me he covers my eyes with his hands and then he hugs me, yesterday he was sitting next to me and he rubbed my back and my shoulder, and we've been in the car alone. We're supposed to be just friends but it seems that he wants to be more than friends. The problem is sometimes he speaks about other girls, like "I think that girl is cute" -.-

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      Are you gay or straight with him? If he's gay, then he's gay.

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      #@lyka 7 months ago

      Its great........But my crush is Gay i love him so much because he's so gentleman,handsome,smart,rich and very good at me i don't know if he loves me too.........

      I love u _____

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      Excellent!

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      Rolein 7 months ago

      I liked it! It was very helpful, thank you!

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      I think he is definitely flirting with you... also, you should let him know whether this is acceptable if his advances bother you. He might just like touching your body.

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      Anonnn 7 months ago

      I have a colleague who likes to play with my hair, randomly massage my shoulders, and touch my arms whenever he walks past me. Today he stroked my upper arm with the back of his hands like to feel my skin. Does he like me. He twirled my hair too. Idk im so confused.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Men move on with their pasts in their own time. There's not a lot you can do to shake that up. Besides not give him enough time with you and focus on other interests. Then if he cares he might drop his past and focus on you. Maybe.

      Rejection can hurt the ego. The only way to get over someone is kill the ego and be comfortable with humility. That's something he has to do on his own and his own timing. Wounds heal with time.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Some guys are looking for fun and not commitment. There can be a lot of excuses at play. It isn't a gender thing though. Women will drop men in the flash of an eye as well.

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      Guddu 8 months ago

      Hey!!

      I like someone so much I know he likes me too but the problem is, he has one life partner in his life earlier and she left him but she always contact him between 10-20 days and he is trying to forget her but because she contact him, he's not able to forget her and also not able to give any commitment to me,..

      I know that girl is already moved on but he is not and always stay sad which I don't like,...please suggest something so that he can move on with me

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      Faye 8 months ago

      Loved the post gave me lots of perfect info my only sadness is he liked me so much it scared him he ran . He had all the signs and expressed it to me but one little simple small tiff he ran why are men so afraid to be in love baffles me especially when its left to their own devices. I just don't understand men at all .

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Flirting.

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      MissAnon 8 months ago

      Me and my guy friend have been joking through text, I teased him that I was strong and I could beat him in fight. (He is huge and I am short and petite, I could never beat him)

      He texted me that I made him laugh and right now he wants to pat my head like a puppy, is it condescending or flirting? Should I be offended? I am from Europe, he is from Florida, I don't know maybe it is their culture thing.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      I hope it all gets better! Be chill and cool. There is a lot of awkwardness that comes with life. ;)

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      Jijiondatbeat 8 months ago

      Omg I swear 2 guys like me. So theres this one guy I like and Im pretty sure he likes me but hes the more shy type around crushes even though hes pretty social. Then I think there is another guy who likes me and idk if hes that much interested or he is one of those more confident independent types. So the other guy Im not so interested in was standing behind me at lunch for highschool and he started bumping into me and it was REALLY awkward. I used to have a crush on him a year ago but now its like way past that. Then while I was getting my food he was so close to me and touching my hand and I was like O_O If my crush did it I wouldnt mind but him I was like Get outta my face. My crush though is way sweeter than him and he always tries to say hi to me. He kind of cares about my personal space at times. I remembered we were sitting next to each other and our elbows were touching for a while. He also stares at me alot even stalks me. But yeah most awkward day for me -_-

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      Toni 8 months ago

      omg this website is so awesome i think everyone should use it because of how awesome it is and aswell if ur crush does like you then u'll find out

      if they do then congrats go and get him

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      You have nice hair and they want to touch it. It's probably nicer than what they have. Can also be a total flirty move.

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      Emmag 9 months ago

      This did not help i did not even think it was this i wanted to know why my freinds play with my hair!

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      Jonah 9 months ago

      I am a guy reading this and I sit next to my crush at school, I do all of these things.

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      Anon93 9 months ago

      Hi this guy I work with keeps teasing me and likes to pat my head and touch my hair. He touches me at least five times a day too on the arm only though. Like pinching my arm or holding my shoulders. He is generally a touchy person to my colleagues too but seems like he does it more to me? Idk I feel like he might just be treatinge as his little sis or does he like me? He has a girlfriend though.

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      Laura 9 months ago

      There is this older guy who I like(10 year difference, I think(I'm 23), shy like me

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      Jessica vallejo 9 months ago

      My crush singing to me while we dance and he look at me like I only one in his world and I don't know what to do cause he mine ex and my crush so help me please email me Jessicavallejodim@gmail.com

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      izzy 9 months ago

      i want to cry, one of my BEST BEST friend likes to give me hugs and high fives when he sees me in the hall ways at school but lately he would high five me but grab my hand and idk if he likes me and i dont want to hurt him like everyone else does to him. i just really need help idk what to do... UGGHH

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      High school is a weird beast all in of itself. Have you guys hung out outside of school yet? It should feel really natural when you ask someone to spend time with you outside of school. "Asking out" sounds too formal to me. Do you have this guy's number? I think you should try to spend time with him outside of school to get to know him better. Maybe go to a movie? Study together, I mean you're in the same class. Say you need help with geometry -- figure out what you're struggling with that he is getting with math. Something like this. It's simple, sweet, and easy. But you would still need to focus on math, don't forget that. Don't make it too big of a deal to hang out with him. It should feel seamless. You are charismatic.

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      Hopelessly in Love? 10 months ago

      So there's this guy in my geometry class who I'm really interested in. I've had a crush on him for about 3 weeks and I've known him since the beginning of the school year. He's a soph.. and I'm a freshman. We sat together in an old group and didn't talk much, but in our new group he talks to me a lot lol. Today I was doodling on my paper and he put his hand on my pencil and started drawing a picture that we laughed at for more than 5 minutes. My friends think I should ask him out, but I don't know if it's the right time. Is it too early? Do you think he's kinda interested in me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      Whoa. Love is a big word, but you probably are not in love if you are not in a relationship. Unrequited love is a whole other subject we won't discuss right now.

      This sounds like a very early crush. Enjoy it and don't blow it out of proportion. Keep your cool. Also, study hard in school. You have a lot of life ahead of you, and by studying hard, reading books, getting involved in school -- you will have better options to your future. Don't let any boy get in the way of your education. And ultimately by studying and finding makes you happy and getting into a good school, you'll have a better dating pool to experience later in life. As for this boy, I'd say keep it friendly. He could have a crush or is just teasing you. But if you overreact or start acting odd, he might not want to be around you. As for your friend, I hope you see them as a friend and are not getting jealous.

      Enjoy the time you have now! You are young, be young, and enjoy your time in school. Pay attention to your teachers, you'll thank yourself for doing so later in life. Dating, crushes, and boyfriends makes more sense as you get older, so don't sweat it too much. You'll fall in love one day. Good luck to you!

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      Iia 11 months ago

      Oh my god! I don't know what to do. He touched my twice, he says my name then taps my shoulders! I'm like.. " Yes?" Why can't he just say my name WHY does he touch me?! I'm really shy around him too, he talks to my best friend A LOT and it's like I'm not there and he stares at me ALL the time! Then why I ask him a question he doesn't answer then my friends answer me because he didn't. My friend starts a conversation then they both chat with each other! and I'm right in front of them... He looks at me when I speak, like when I'm asking my teacher or when I'm chatting with my friends, and when the teacher says talk to the person who is next to you, which is him that we need to work together and all but he doesn't work with me! he's always quiet around me and around his friends he screams and says bad words! I really reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally reallyreally really LIKE HIM! but we're both shy... MY QUESTION IS "DOES HE LOVE ME?!"

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      There's no telling how or when people will fall in love. Not everyone has the same criteria nor needs the same info to get a yes. If you enjoy this person, spend time with them. If you're unsure about whether you want a relationship or friendship, be honest. Sometimes when you sit on indecision it will turn into a yes. It's fair for you to tell him that you don't have enough info yet to make a decision -- and that's fair. You may want to scope him out longer to see what he is all about. This is very normal. A lot of times men makes very fast decisions about women.... and then women need more time -- they have different criteria going into it. Is it only a physical connection? If you only see the two of you interacting over physical aspects, then yes. But he may have instantly clicked with your personality or emotions too.

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      Katie 11 months ago

      heyy, so I met this guy online and we've met 4 times. I'm not sure if I like him but I feel comfortable with him, I mean it's fine. I'd like to get to know him more but I'm not sure about his intentions. The first time we met, he acted too interested, and he even told me that he was hoping to have a relationship with me in the future, he didn't say like that but I understood, and I also noticed some signals like playing with my hair, hugging me good bye, singing songs and stuff like that. Before we met, we chat online for a week maybe, so I don't understand why would he be so interested in me, or would say that kind of things, I mean he doesn't know me enough. Maybe he doesn't want anything but physical connection and I don't really what that I mean I don't even like him that much and if things won't go to a relationship I would like to be his friend but if he's only expecting that it can't happen. I'd like some opinions :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      He might have written the letter. You should straight up ask.

      But as always, I strongly believe when you are young, you should focus on studying and finding out yourself and your passions. Don't let any guy in school distract you from that. It's a long road to unveiling yourself, and you'll benefit from your studies. Dating can always, always wait.

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      Kirsten 11 months ago

      There is this one guy in my grade and I think he likes me but im not exactly sure because hes always giving me signs he does and signs he doesnt, he jokes around a lot with me, uses pick up lines, makes sexual jokes, but im not sure idk if he does this with other people to because he talks to lots of girls, and whenever he makes a joke with one of his guy friends, he always glances over at me to see if i heard or laughed i guess. i also got a love letter from him in my locker but i think my friend might have written it for him and she doesnt know i like him, also i have heard them several times in resource talking and my friend keeps saying "when r u gonna ask her out" and hes just like i dont know and im not sure if they r talking about me or not and i just pretend i dont hear but also one time when she told him he should write a love letter and put it in my locker he just said really loudly "no im not gonna write a love letter and put it in her locker" and he looked at me and grinned. do u have any idea what any of this could mean? (srry it is rlly long if u r confused just ask questions.)

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      Rio 12 months ago

      Hi!

      All you said is very fantastic. I don't it's really true but it's still spinning my head to think about my friend who it the same. Yes, I still loved him. I actually tell it to him already, but it is a long long time ago. And then last night, I felt it again, when he actually lays his hand at my shoulder. It is the first time, ever. And it twisting in my head and saying to myself that "what is this all about"? Why I still love this guy, even it couldn't happen.. Make me crazy to think on it, because we're really a good friends, but I really felt more special for him.

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      Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

      No problem. ;)

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      Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like their is some interest for sure. Early stages. Might be touching you to see how you respond and if it will go anywhere.

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      Izzy 12 months ago

      Hm, I'm very confuse with the way a friend acts towards me. Sometimes when we hang out he puts his arms around me, or when we walk he puts his hands in my shoulders and "guide" me. Once we were sitting talking and he started touching my knee? He is taller than me so he calls me "little girl" lol... and he tickles me, very often. I'm not sure if this is something he does with his friends, specially girl friends, because I know there are people that are touchy in a friendly way but... ya. I'm not used to physical contact but with him i find it ok cause we are friends and I didn't really thought at first that he likes me but lately he has been more touchy.

      So I'm confuse, what do you think it's going on?

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      Belinda 12 months ago

      This article is the bomb! My recent male interest shows me all of the above cues! Thank you for the confirmation!

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @James

      He is either flirting with you or treating you like a buddy. I say this because -- is this a gay relationship? Do you know if he has the same sexual orientation? Does he know if you are gay? I'm assuming this off the ID you have here.

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      james 13 months ago

      What is this guy always eats lunch with me, finds any excuse to touch my hands, when we walk down hallways were practicaly touching shoulders. Sometimes when we hug he tries tplayfully push me to the ground but always stops . I dont understand what he wants help!?

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      Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

      @germanlover

      Sounds like he is interested and testing the waters. Keep making him feel comfortable... and it'll probably continue, if you want it to.

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      germanlover 16 months ago

      there is this one guy that is really nice to me and is super funny and jokes around a lot. he is also super touchy tho but still joking around when he does it. does this mean he likes me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @Joho

      Testing the waters, teasing you, trying to get you comfortable around them.

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      Joho 17 months ago

      Ok, so today my crush was pushing me around playfully and he does that a lot, but i don't know what it means. Could you help me please?

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @califan

      Sounds like he is flirting with you! If you like him, flirt back. If he is bothering you, don't feed the flames. You could try adding him on Facebook to help things out. He could be looking for a way to casually get your phone number. It sounds like he likes you, but it could also be friendly. He could be testing the waters to gauge your reactions.

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      Califan 17 months ago

      Ok, so this guy I work with confuses me. He teases me a lot playfully. Then one day he said hey to me and walked past me and I said hey back then he came back to give me a hug saying it was his birthday yesterday and all, but it was one of them sideways hugs. Then one day I was walking in the back and he asked me if he can have a hug and I nodded, I thought it was gonna be one of them sideways hugs again, but instead he completely picked me up off the ground and hugged me. Then one day he pulled my hair (not hard or anything) when I passed him and I turned around and he is smiling at me and he said 'oh I didnt mean to do that I'm sorry'. He has touched me on the shoulder a few times when he was behind me to talk to me, when I could hear him perfectly fine without him touching my shoulder, I would figure if he liked me he would ask for my number, but he hasnt yet, so idk if he does or not. And this guy is like 25 and I'm 19.

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @soccerfan

      You're welcome.

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      soccerfan 17 months ago

      thanks so much :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @joho

      You like the person. You're probably getting a surge of dopamine and a little bit of anxiety with the butterflies.

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      Joho 17 months ago

      What does it mean if when i'm around my crush I just feel like jumping up and dancing and I have butterflies in my stomach and I cant stop smiling?

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @soccerfan

      This guy doesn't sound worth your time or affections at the moment. I'd open your eyes up to someone else, and, more importantly, focus on studying. Do well in school, go places, travel the world, get a good job, and you'll have a lot better of a dating pool guaranteed. Don't focus on dating too much at this point in time.

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      soccerfan 17 months ago

      @SerenityHalo

      Things have been awkward for probably around 9 month probably. And he used to be friendly with me (smiling at me in the halls, Talking to me at my locker, helping me out when I need it) but now he actually kinda goes out of his way to be rude to me. There was one time when I was presenting a project in biology, and as he walked by to see it he made a rude face and said profanities under his breath about how the idea was stupid. My friends said he was probably just too stupid to even understand what it was about though :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @soccerfan

      Sounds like you should keep it cool and don't put too much pressure on it, or that will make things worse. How long have you two been awkward? What makes you think he doesn't want to be around you?

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      soccerfan 17 months ago

      this is more of something where I need some advice. There's this guy that i had the biggest crush on last year, and I could not control my actions around him, so I made a complete fool of myself. We used to be sort of friends, but now I think he hates me, and I don't know how to talk to him again (like a normal human being). We have a lot in common, we both like soccer, and most sports, I'm also friends with a lot of his friends etc. I just really don't know what to do.

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      Kenneth Avery 17 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      SerenityHalo,

      Hello to you and all in "The Windy City!"

      Actually, the blond and brunette who were matching his body signals with their own female warfare, the blond was the bravest for she walked over to him, they talked and she got into his car with his assistance and noble gesture of opening her door for her.

      And they lived mysteriously for the rest of the evening.

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @Kenneth Avery

      But which girl did he pick?

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      Kenneth Avery 17 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      I was witness (when I was single) to witness the points in this hub come to fruition for this one male who was not a "Mr. Universe," or Brad Pitt, but he stood against his car with arms crossed while he gazed at the ground.

      Maybe wearing Aviator sunglasses helped for I know that there were two girls across the way from him who were sending him body signals of their own--hair flipping; make up checking, etc.

      Quite an interesting show. All for FREE.

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      The first guy is flirting with you. He'll keep doing that to see where it is going and see if you like it.

      Not enough information on the second guy. Probably just teasing you because he noticed the first guy is flirting with you.

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      FlutePlayer 17 months ago

      i'm sorry i prob keep annoying you, but i'm really freaking out. Sometimes when he walks by me he will run his fingers through my hair or flip it or something, but he's only done this a couple of times. Do you know what that means? And whenever I'm talking to this one other guy he starts teasing me about liking that guy even though I just like that guy as a friend. Does this mean he is jealous of the other guy?

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @FlutePlayer

      It is very likely that in fact he does like you. BUT I wouldn't make a big deal about it just yet. Take it slow, and do what you can to have a friendly and fun connection. If you are feeling anxious, that isn't going to keep things positive. Don't overthink it too much, and definitely don't do anything you don't want to do.

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      FlutePlayer 17 months ago

      Sorry I posted the first comment twice, I accidentally hit the button 2 times. :)

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      FlutePlayer 17 months ago

      My friend was also teasing him one day and said "Oh, look it's ur bf right, I mean he likes u and all" as he walked by in resource and when he sat down he smiled and said ya, and now he's talking to me whenever he gets the chance. My friend says it's cuz now the secret's out but idk if he likes me or not and I'm really confused cuz he used to almost never talk to me. My b-day was a little while ago and I wuz freakin out cuz he signed a card my same friend got all my other friends to sign and he wrote a nice note and heart, but i'm not sure if he was just being friendly or if it meant more that that. I AM SO CONFUSED!!!!! WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? HELP ME!!!!!!!!

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      FlutePlayer 17 months ago

      I'm in middle school and one of my guy friends is always touching me... he will touch my neck and run his hand all the way down my arm and sometimes touches my feet under the table. One time he rubbed his sweatshirt all over my back and face. I feel like I sort of like him. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN??? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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      Andrea Lawrence 18 months ago from Chicago

      @Nokukhayaalande@gmail.com

      Open communication is a great policy! Go for it if it seems right for you.

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      Nokukhanyaalande@gmail.com 18 months ago

      i think i must just ask him if he does like me or what.I think he will be;-)i like this article aloot it gave me advise.

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      Andrea Lawrence 22 months ago from Chicago

      @Maddiemat

      Sounds like a jr. high / high school crush. I think you should straight up ask him if he likes you if he doesn't get to it already. That way if he is just giving you mixed signals, you can straighten it out. Sounds like he's nice enough that you can talk through this.

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      Maddiemat 22 months ago

      Okay so me and this guy have been talking for a least 3 months. When we first started talking he had a girlfriend and I would remind him whenever I started to feel like he was forgetting that. He asked for my number but I'm outa minutes so we only see each other at school. He will occasionally play with my hair and when we sit by eachother he plays with my feet. His friend had told me the day after he broke up with his gf, but its been 3 weeks and he still hasn't told me himmself. We got in trouble cause we were passing notes and he would'nt let go of my hand. He does stuff like that a lot, I have to put my hand in his hand or struggle with him, or he just won't let go of my hand when he has something I'm trying to look at. He winks at me constantly but how do I know if he is telling me the truth or genuinely likes me? He's told me at least 4 times that I'm pretty no matter what and I always look good and that he likes me, but yet it feels like he ignores me. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!!!!!

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      Andrea Lawrence 23 months ago from Chicago

      @Tom Spires

      Probably that you annoyed the person, and to soften the blow they wanted to remind you that they love you.

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      Tom spires 23 months ago

      I

      I hate you joking but I love you what does that mean

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 years ago from Chicago

      @ guadalupe soto

      It definitely shows some amount of closeness. Could mean he likes you.

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      guadalupe soto 2 years ago

      I was hug around my shoulder an he put his face next to my what does that mean to you

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 years ago from Chicago

      @ayat

      Pinches to the arm don't give enough context for what's going on. It's not a super flirtatious move.