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5 Reasons Older Men Prefer Younger Women

A lot of older men prefer to date younger women and maybe even end up marrying them.

A lot of older men prefer to date younger women and maybe even end up marrying them.

Five Reasons Older Men Prefer Dating Younger Women

1. "I've Still Got It."

Lets face it, one of the top reasons men prefer to date younger women is to prove to themselves and everyone else that they've still "got it." This is purely an an exercise in ego boosting. In their minds, if they can find and keep a younger woman, their confidence levels will go through the roof. There is no better way to prove to themselves that they've still got it than by going out with someone considerably younger.

2. Younger Women Are Less Demanding

Generally speaking, younger woman are less likely to want the same things out of a relationship that an older woman will. From the perspective of males, younger females have a more carefree attitude and there is less pressure to settle down and make longterm plans. They are more inclined just to want to have fun as opposed to older women who are seen as being too serious, which can turn some men off.

Younger women are mostly looking just to have a good time and not worry too much about any responsibility just yet, basically. This can be incredibly liberating for an older man who is used to older women wanting a lot more out of the relationship than just a good time.

3. The Mid-Life Crisis

The mid-life crisis is a classic explanation used more often than not as a reason why men start to date younger women. This applies to the men who think that marriage, or a stable relationship, has stopped them from having fun and has aged them "too soon." He also may feel some form of resentment that he has been tied down for so long. So he needs to live a little and make the most of his life right now.

Most of the time, the reasoning here is pretty simple, if you “upgrade” to a younger model, you too will look and feel younger and become fun again. There is the ambition that he will somehow gain his youth back and give him another chance to have fun again. However, of course, this does not always play true. These are simply generalizations that may account for a man's mid-life crisis being his main reason for choosing younger women to date.

4. The Biological Clock: Marrying and Having Children

Despite the presumption with women, believe it or not, most men do indeed have a biological clock as well (though few are willing to admit this!) There are many men looking to date younger women who want to start a family. Or they may in fact already have older children but have the desire to have more children. By dating a younger woman, birth defects and health risks during pregnancy are generally reduced for younger woman compared to older women who are nearing the end of their child-bearing years.

Many men would like to have their legacy could continue through their children, hence the desire to have a family with younger women so that it may continue.

5. Men Think All Older Women are The Same

If an older man has previously had bad experiences with women his age, he may search elsewhere among younger women for his next love interest. This is to address the concern that other older women may be the same as either his ex-wife or ex-partner. Some men are under the impression that dating younger women means less drama, less hassle, and less responsibility.

They also think that younger women effectively have less baggage. This assumption can cause lots of problems from both sides of the relationship. Younger women can still have just as many bad dating experiences under their belt as older men. As such, they may be just as wary as an older woman.

Remember, Age is Still Just a Number

It is worth mentioning that not all older men are looking to date younger women for these reasons. Some just happen to find a younger woman that they instantly connect with and they have not even taking their age into consideration.

Ultimately a strong relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust, love, and mutual respect. While age might play a small part in the decision-making process for a number of people, most people don’t think about it at all. As long as both sides want the same things out of the relationship and are happy together, age shouldn't be a factor. It's just a number, after all.

How many of you older men prefer dating younger women?


Tim on November 30, 2019:

Well, I’m 55 soon to be 56 but who’s counting? Lol! I prefer a great gal around my age, plus or minus 4 years. My problem, it seems most women I’d like to date are married, dating, or raging at men: maybe rightly so. Not all men are jerks!! Nothing against the younger ladies but I want to have something in common.

rich on November 04, 2019:

28 is older than 19 but it's still young when you are pushing 60. 47 is young to me now, the age of my most recent partner. Interesting though how i felt when i briefly dated a 64 year old lady when i was 55. She was confused or anxious why i was interested in her and worried i had a mother complex. But it was just time and place, and two lonely people who wanted intimacy. I noticed that the subtleties in the difference of our lived pop culture memories were more of a block than anything. Yes culture seems to re invent it's self every decade.

ee on April 22, 2019:

they have young daughters ...this puts them around younger girls

their rich ...probably split up from their wives have free time to go out and pick up girls in 20s.

they were losers in high school and took them their whole lives to finally find a girl willing to sleep with them.

pablo on April 22, 2019:

I think guys like younger girls because it gives more a thrill than a women their own age. Plus some guys become successful in their older age and probably get a second chance at having a hot girlfriend or thrilling relationship.

Nicole on December 20, 2018:

Once i dated a guy 9 years older than me... And it was Crap. He was my first date. I was inexperienced. He had lots of ex girlfriends and used to compare me with them. Ofc he was trying so hard to keep me insecure about my looks and dating options, like : you are chubby, younger boys prefer thin girls. You have no experience, younger boys won't like you. He just kept trying so hard to make me believe if i ever leave him, no one will date me ever.i was 19,he was 28. He was nor Caring, neither mature at all. Finally i decided to leave him because his arrogance was unbearable, i left him believing no young man will like me because im overweight ( 10 pounds),but i just wanted to never see him again.

Just a week after leaving him, i really felt free. Like i didn't have to be ashamed of myself. I was noticeably more joyful and happy. Then, accidentally this tall, athletic, Handsome guy (my current fiance) came to me and speaking like he is really interested. I couldn't believe my eyes because he was my age. He asked me to have a coffee with him, and if we could go out sometimes?

I was like :"woooooow, a young man pursuing me!!! How could it be possible!!! "

After a few dates i asked him that isn't he bothered with my extra pounds?

He said :i think you are already the most beautiful girl i have ever met.what extra pounds you are talking about?

It melt me down. The feeling was amazing!

I lost the extra weight quickly, like in two and half months. I was slim (still not thin, just slim and toned). I owe my happiness to my man. We are engaged now, both 25.

Not all old guys are mature and not all young guys are douchbags.

HappyWithMine on April 29, 2018:

I dated older when i was 20 but when I got to professional age, I got more date requests that job leads from older men. Especially married. Eeeew.

Gigantes996 on April 27, 2018:

This is interesting. .. Nice points you have there!!

I think it is really important to know where you stand with your man whether he is your age or older... No difference, love beats it all

Saviour Ayaba on January 29, 2018:

I'm a young girl, I prefer older men because I know theve experience life, they've had it so much and will be kind and caring, yeah caring, they'll not just dump you , they'll treasure you unlike young boys,they will settle with you and they'll be so adventurous , but I haven't yet been with one, I hope to meet one soon, and end my life with him, I'll be grateful, thanks

NhP on June 26, 2017:

I'm dating an older man as we speak but things aren't going well .Insecure,chooses a gym for me not mixing with other men just only women.He always everywhere with me,shopping going out.And if I want to do things by myself he doesn't like it.Im sick of this shit I need to breath.Ive already once told him how I feel about this and he to me that he would try because his not used to this.But nothing changed his been married before for over 35 years.And did I mentioned that when it comes to intimacy he doesn't last 2minutes or sometimes I struggle to get him hard and when it does still no satisfaction.Im out and I would never put myself in that situation again.Im just being straightforward and this is the truth.

fifi on May 30, 2017:

im a young woman dating an old man having a three year old daughter together...I love the fact that he cares a lot, he encourages me, he guides me. at first people thot Im dating him becoz of possessions the truth is He is very stingy every cent counts but I truly love him and thank GOD for Him. if I didn't met him maybe i'd be HIV positive now becoz men my age where physically and emotionally abusing me and I resorted to drugs and alcohol becoz I didn't have support, my own family were also contributing to my abuse.

john on April 15, 2017:

Okay, middle aged guy here. Biased opinion for sure. Find older women more mature and driven by sexual desires more attractive than women of younger curious age of exploration and desire to please her partner. Want woman who knows her desires and hungers for sexual fulfillment. Go Geminis. hooked on mature ladies who have super charged sex drive and hunger for more constantly. Without challenge what relationship can truly survive?? Ideas?

Tired of it on July 15, 2016:

It's a little sad women get so hung up on their own looks and then want to harangue men that want someone younger based on that exclusively.

The vast majority of men my age that I have spoken with state emotional abandonment as the reason for their unhappiness not their partner's looks. I and they are not interested in dealing with that kind of hurt anymore. Younger women tend to want the ideals most relationships are based on whereas many older women tend to selfishly abandon romance, intimacy, caring and thoughtfulness toward their partner at a certain period in their lives.

Who wants to be emotionally cheated again and again? Thank god for young women.

Lea on January 27, 2016:

SO SAD! for the wives going thru this situation with their older husband, who leaves them or want to be with a younger woman. I KNOW!!!

semafu on October 27, 2015:

women over 40 are just not sexually attractive, it is that simple!

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Sarah on August 15, 2014:

What on earth did you expect?

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dashingscorpio from Chicago on January 27, 2014:

Voted up and interesting!

As you stated there are numerous reasons why an older man pursues younger women. However you really didn't mention the obvious which is younger women tend to be in better shape and have toned bodies. Youthful looks have always been valued more in society. Just about everyone is doing what they can to look as young as possible. Sagging breast, wrinkles, stretch marks, and spider veins along with menopause symptoms are also often sited as reasons why older men prefer younger women.

While older women may think younger men look better than older ones they generally do not have the same options or desire to be with younger men. Even when some older women do go for younger guys the older men seem not care or worry about losing one of their own women to a younger man.

Very few guys in their 20s would marry a woman in her 80s the way Hugh Heffner's wife married him. He was 86 and she was 26 at the time.

Last but not least there are many younger women who pursue older men who are financially stable and not playing the games that men their own age are playing.

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