4 Signs You’ve Found Your Dating Match

Updated on October 10, 2016
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Elaine Flowers is the co-author of "So... How Was Your Date? Dating Chronicles Of Single Men and Women" and the author of five other titles.

So you’ve had your fair share of dates, but after each failed attempt at finding the companion right for you, you begin to lose faith. After all, you are dating to find that special someone, not just to pass the time, right?

Then you hit a bit of luck. A friend has hooked you up OR you finally got a good hit on your dating site OR you met a great guy/girl by happenstance at the super market. However this new prospect came to be, you are trying your best to not get too excited because of past disappointments, but there is a persistent good feeling in your bones about this one.

You’ve been told to not think beyond the date itself, and to just have a great time. Easier said than done when what you really want to do is consider happily-ever-after. But first, you have to know whether or not date number one can turn into date number two.

Here are a few signs that can help you determine that this might be—if not THE ONE—but simply, your dating match.

4. Absolute agreement on date plans.

Making date plans, once there’s an agreement that there will be a date, should be the easy part. But that is not always the case. She wants to visit a museum—he wants to peruse a car show. He thought they’d meet for coffee—she expected a candlelit dinner. However, the magic happens when the expectations are met on both sides.

3. Instant chemistry.

She looks great—He smells good. You both are film buffs and you’re catching a sneak preview of a most anticipated blockbuster before its opening weekend. Even if there was an initial meeting, when the first date happens and there’s fire, there’s no mistaking it. You’re both laughing at the same things, each of you finds the other visually appealing, and you feel the heat. You want to stop and send someone a text about the butterflies in your stomach.

2. You both are genuinely interested in what the other has to say.

The chemistry is clear but there is so much more. You can’t get enough and you both are soaking up the small details of each other’s lives. Each story or tale the other one tells has you completely tuned in.

1. Neither of you want the date to end.

The date is EVERYTHING! Even the things that have gone wrong—the waiter brought out the wrong food or a tire goes flat on his car—they seem right because you’ve had so much fun together. When he invites her to part two of the date, or when she extends an invitation for him to come in for a drink, or even if you find yourselves just standing around talking a few hours beyond the time the date was to end, it’s clear neither of you is really ready to say goodnight. You both are wondering if and when the next one will take place.

If you are fortunate enough to land all four of these, you’ve hit the jackpot. But two or three out of four is certainly promising, too. If you date frequently or know someone who does, you know that it can be a chore—until you’ve landed your dating match and discover it was well worth the trouble.

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    • Elaine Flowers profile imageAUTHOR

      Elaine Flowers 

      3 years ago from Dallas, Texas


      You always have something clever to add! Great points here. This is truly a hub about dating only because most every good relationship starts there. Thanks so much for the comment!

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago from Chicago

      Having all four of these signs is likely to lead to having a "second date"!

      Only time will tell if you've found a mate for life.

      Generally speaking every (new relationship) has an "infatuation phase" where laughter comes easily, both people bend over backwards to impress one another, there is surprise gifts, cards, and getaways "just because", along with passionate kisses and sex is off the charts are fairly common.

      The word "no" is seldom if ever used!

      It usually takes a few or several months before each person reveals their "authentic self" which {highlights their differences} regarding expectations, boundaries, and "deal breakers".

      Only then are they able to determine if they are truly compatible.

      Having said that a great (first date) is usually the key to a great romance.

      Compatibility trumps compromise!

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!


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