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100 Surprising Excuses Women Use to Reject Men

Krzysztof is a 10+ year YouTube researcher who spends hours researching, analyzing, and uncovering YouTube trends, challenges, and media.

She's Just Not That Into You!

Let's cut women some slack before we continue.

They are not evil or cruel if they reject a guy because they have their standards. Sometimes she's just not that into him, but a few women do use very clichè excuses when they're not interested.

It's not that these excuses are all lies, it's just that they've been frequently used. Personally, I'd rather be rejected honestly than have someone tell me a bold-faced lie.

But before the attacks begin, I just want to make a quick note that a lot of these excuses apply to both men and women, and many are more comical than serious.

Anyway, here are the 100 excuses women might use to reject men.

It's Not You, It's Me

100. It's not you, it's me

99. I'm not looking for a boyfriend

98. I already have a boyfriend

97. I just wanna be friends

96. I got out of a bad relationship recently

95. I'm a lesbian/bisexual

94. I need to be single right now

93. I'm not looking to date anyone at the moment

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92. My life is so hectic and busy

91. I don't have the time

90. I work constantly

89. I have kids and pets to care for

88. I need to take care of my parents/children

87. I need to focus on my career/education

86. Sorry you're not my type

85. You're just way too nice

84. I'm kinda seeing someone

83. My fiancé is here

82. Oh I'm married

81. I'm engaged or about to be engaged

80. I have this condition/illness

Sorry I have a boyfriend

Sorry I have a boyfriend

I Need to Focus on Myself

79. My boyfriend will be here any minute

78. Hold on it's my boyfriend/husband calling

77. I need to focus on myself

76. My parents wouldn't approve

75. I'm very religious so I can't date you

74. I came here with friends

73. I need to leave to see my friends

72. Sorry I'm feeling sick I gotta go

71. I have this horrible headache

70. I'm working on this huge project for work and it's so time-consuming

69. I would but I'm leaving for (insert location here) ex. Florida tomorrow

68. I can't I'm actually moving to (insert location here) ex. California soon

67. I just got over a bad break-up

66. I'm working things out with my ex

65. I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend

64. I don't want to get hurt by anyone

63. I have a chronic illness/mental disorder

62. Going through an awful depressive period

61. I found out recently that I'm pregnant

60. I'm confused about my sexuality so I don't know

Our Signs Don't Match Up

59. I can't date anyone outside my religion

58. I can't date anyone outside my race/culture

57. I can't date anyone younger/older than me

56. I can't date short/tall guys

55. I can't date anyone with a baby/kid

54. I need someone who is stable (financially or emotionally)

53. I don't date people who have been engaged/married before

52. I don't date people who work in (insert profession here) ex. lab testing for animals

51. I would meet you but I got a flat tire on the way there

50. Can't go on our date today, my car broke down

49. I wish I could see but I got called into work a few minutes ago

48. Sorry I can't go out today; I have a really bad cold/virus

47. You have a dog/cat? Well sorry but I'm highly allergic to them

46. Our signs don't match up (astrology)

45. I'm so busy right now; I promise I'll call you later

44. I'm so busy right now; I promise we'll meet up soon

43. You don't want to date me; I'm extremely complicated

42. I need someone more mature/sophisticated

41. Oh you smoke? I'm sorry, I don't date smokers

40. Sorry, I'm really into bad boys more

Feeling too stressed?

Feeling too stressed?

I Honestly Can't See Us Working Out

39. Let's be friends first and see what happens

38. You're way too old/young for me

37. I can't date you because I don't like children

36. I see you more like a relative/brother than a boyfriend

35. I'm not the one you want; I won't be able to make you happy

34. Our personalities are way too different

33. I need someone a lot more outgoing/calmer

32. I'm too stressed out to get into a relationship

31. You're too serious/comedic for me

30. I don't want to get into anything serious right now

29. You're a little too sweet and kind for me

28. You're not a good kisser, I need someone who can kiss

27. We have different social values and standards

26. I'm a vegan/vegetarian and I don't date non vegans/vegetarians

25. I can't be with someone who doesn't like cats/dogs/pets

24. I honestly can't see us working out

23. I have way too much baggage to date you

22. I need someone a lot more adventurous

21. Sorry I couldn't call you because I completely lost your number

20. I drank too much to remember what happened last night

You're Too Perfect for Me

19. You are too intelligent for me

18. I only date people with a degree/masters/doctorate

17. I had no idea you wanted us to go out

16. You talk to other girls, I don't want to take that chance

15. I won't go out with a player (false assumption)

14. I rather not take the chance of a guy cheating on me or playing with my emotions

13. I'm far too emotional to be with anyone

12. My ex-boyfriend/husband just got out of jail and would kill you if we went out

11. You're too perfect for me

10. Is that your car? Oh I thought you drove a Porsche

9. You're car is too dirty, and I can't be with someone who has a dirty car

8. I don't want to date someone with a messy apartment/home

7. I'm looking to settle down rather than date

6. You remind me of my cousin/brother/father

5. I have this doctor's appointment and I need to get my hair done

4. My (insert relative/friend) birthday is today and I can't make it

3. Oh my gosh I thought you were gay

2. We have too much in common and are too alike

1. I have this big wedding/funeral to attend to.

In or Out of Bounds?

Are some of these excuses going too far?

Nope! I don't think so...

First of all, more than half of the excuses above apply to men who reject women (yes, men do reject women...surprise I know). Second of all, some of these are actual excuses that I've read and heard from other people, but it doesn't mean they're all legit.

A bunch are probably not excuses at all, but they were misinterpreted negatively by guys due to anger or frustration from rejection. However, I must admit that some of these do come up a lot more than they should.

In particular, the "lets just be friends" or "it's not you, it me" have been used so often that you'll easily spot them in popular romance flicks or shows. It doesn't mean they're out of bound excuses, but they do appear to be cop outs if you're uninterested.

Honesty remains the fairest way to go about a situation, so I'd recommend that over anything. If you're not interested, then go ahead and say you aren't.

I won't assume that you're cruel if you automatically reject someone, but I do believe in being open-minded before that immediate "no"!

Excuse if you must, but at least attempt to be honest if you can.

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