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1. He's Going to Take Action and Ask You Out on a Date.
Real men go after what they want. Much like hunters, they will chase after the woman that they want, no matter how hard it may seem. A real man will not give up when there are obstacles in his way. He will do whatever it takes to make the object of his affection interested in him. The first step to doing that is taking action and asking you out on a date. He may be shy, but he's still a man, and a real man takes action and doesn't sit back waiting for things to just happen. He makes them happen.
2. He's Going to Have a Plan.
A real man knows what he wants. That's what separates him from the boy who is afraid of commitment or afraid of rejection. A real man has a plan to make you his, and he's going to do whatever it takes. Having a plan means asking you out and planning a date that is both interesting and personal. It doesn't really matter what you're doing as long as you're having a good time and you can tell that he put thought and preparation into it. If he takes every girl on the same exact date, he's not a man with a plan but rather with a habit and you're just part of it. A real man plans a date that is specific to the type of woman he wants to pursue. Because every woman is different, every date should be different as well.
3. His Words and Actions Complement Each Other.
He means what he says, and says what he means. If he says he's going to call at a certain time, you're going to be getting a call no matter what, give or take a few minutes. If he's planning to pick you up at a certain time, you can be sure that there's going to be a car coming for you at that hour. A real man does exactly what he says he's going to do and you won't have to ask him a million times for it, he'll just do it because you're worth it to him and you're important. When you're worth it and you matter to him, he's going to do whatever it takes to make you his. That's how you know he's serious and not just playing games with you.
4. You're the Only Woman in His Life.
A real man doesn't date five or ten women at the same time because he's going to be giving his full attention to only one woman. Just because you haven't had the "talk" yet about being monogamous doesn't mean that he should be out there dating half of the city. If you're important to him and he's serious about you, he's not even going to be thinking about dating other woman let alone going on dates with several women simultaneously. He's going to be focusing his full attention on you and only you.
5. He's Honest.
A real man has no room for lies in his life. He's honest to you and he expects the same treatment in return. An honest man doesn't need to lie because he's not doing anything that he wants to hide from you. He's an open book because he has nothing to conceal or hide from you. He's not lying about other women or anything else that might make you think twice about dating him. A real man tells you his feelings even with the chance that you might reject him. When you're important to him, he only tells you the truth. If he's not, then you know where you stand in his life.
6. He Makes a Place for You in His Life.
When a man is serious about dating you and having you in his life, he's going to make a place for you in his home and with the people closest to him. If you're well into your relationship (6 months or more) then he's going to talk about moving in together. He's going to want you around, whether that means you moving in with him or him moving in with you. He's also going to be introducing you to the most important people in his life like his friends and family because these people matter to him and now you do too. It's a sign that he wants you around and he's proud to have you.
7. He Appreciates and Respects You.
A real man knows how lucky he is to have you. He appreciates you everyday and respects you. He's not going to pick fights with you or yell at you because things don't go his way. A real man is going to hold you up and put you on a pedestal and keep you there whether you're dating ten months or ten years. That appreciation and respect is not going to fade with time because he's always going to be afraid to lose you even when the honeymoon phase of your relationship is over.
Respecting you means he's going to do the best he can to make you happy and not hurt you in any way. Does that mean everything is always going to be perfect? No way because there's no perfect people in this world. Everyone makes mistakes. But the fact is he's going to try and do his best and that's what matters. If you have to stop and wonder whether you're being appreciated and respected then you're not, because it should be obvious without question.
8. He Sees a Future With You.
A real man is only going to stay in a long term relationship with you if he's going to eventually marry you, otherwise he will end it because he doesn't want to waste his time or yours. He's not going to lead you on and make you believe he wants to marry you, only to dump you after three years because he "wants a change" or "isn't ready to commit." A real man knows what he wants and he figures it out pretty quick. He either wants to be with you for real or he doesn't. He's either serious about you or he's not, there's no in-between. If he's playing games, coming in hot and cold all the time, he's not serious, he's just playing. Believe him and end the game by walking away.
9. He Shares His Goals and Dreams With You.
He should be comfortable enough with you to share what he wants out of his life and where you fit in. He should be able to express verbally if he wants to have a family and children and where he sees himself in ten years. Maybe he has career goals or fitness goals that he wants to make happen. A real man is going to share every part of his life with you and encourage you to do the same. He's not going to hide anything because you're an important part of his life and he wants to share his heart and soul with you.
10. He's Going to Tell You Everything.
A real man never leaves you guessing or wondering about anything. Every question that you have for him he's going to answer. If he likes you and wants to date you, you're going to hear about it from him. No matter how shy or quiet he is, a man is still a man so that hunter nature is going to to come through. Women like to think that men are so hard and complicated, when in reality they're usually very simple. Men tell us about everything we want to know if we only sit back and listen. We try to read into clues and hidden meanings when it's all really quite simple. If you really want to know something, all you have to do is ask a real man and he's going to be up front and tell you. And if he doesn't, well then you know you're dealing with someone who is not even worth keeping in your life.
I Finally Found Someone By Barbra Streisand and Bryan Adams
Questions & Answers
Question: He truly loves me, and I'm not sure if I do but I feel bad for him and I don't want to be the bad guy. Should I get in a relationship with him?
Answer: If you don't have true feelings for him, definitely don't get in a relationship with him. It's not fair to either of you. Maybe take some time apart and see how you feel without him.
Question: Can I trust a man who only texts me at night?
Answer: Probably not. A man who's truly interested in you will contact and text you during the day as well.
Question: He loves me but I am not ready to be in a relationship, should I tell him?
Answer: Yes, tell him how you feel.
Question: Is my boyfriend not being a gentleman by not offering his bed to me and wants me to sleep on the couch?
Answer: I think a real gentleman would offer his bed and sleep on the couch himself, but I don't know your exact situation so maybe the circumstances are different.
© 2015 GreenEyes1607
Kanry on June 26, 2020:
It's pretty clear I don't know about love but after reading this it showed me how special love is
Tecia on September 16, 2018:
This article has opened my eyes about fake and true relationships.
J 2 on January 24, 2018:
Peace love hope
Michaela from USA on December 13, 2015:
I am in complete agreement with dashingscorpio here.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on December 13, 2015:
I don't believe there is such a thing as a "fake man" unless it's a woman dressing up like a man. The term "real" is essentially fake. There's the slogan "Real women have curves". As if to say a thin woman isn't a woman!
The reality is every woman has her definition of what a "real man" is or does. Therefore a "real man" is someone who lives up to that particular woman's expectations.
Some women are attracted to the "strong and silent" type others may want a guy who shares his every thought and isn't ashamed to cry in front of her, and yet other women are looking for men who can financially take care of all of their needs. Anything that falls short of expectations isn't a "real man"!
Ultimately it's not about the (men) but rather about the woman knowing what (she) is looking for when she (chooses) a man!
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Unfortunately there are too many women who use the term "real man" as an insult to a guy or a way to try and manipulate him to become whatever it is she wants him to become.
The goal is to find someone who already (is) the kind of person you want to be with. Know what (you) want ahead of time can save you time.
It's important to note there is no "universal list" of traits for what a "real man" or "real woman" is. All that truly matters is what (you) want.
Thankfully there are over 7 Billion people on this planet!
Odds are in everyone's favor there is more than few ideal mates for all of us!
One man's opinion!:)