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10 Signs He's in Love With You

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Here are some tell-tale signs that your man is in love with you. Some little things actually mean so much when it comes to a man's level of interest.

Here are some tell-tale signs that your man is in love with you. Some little things actually mean so much when it comes to a man's level of interest.

Picture this, you are going out exclusively with this special guy, and everything seems to be going great. He treats you like you are the only girl in the world and you cannot deny the chemistry between the two of you.

It is obvious that he loves spending time with you. You admit to yourself that you are slowly falling for him, but there is one problem: You have no idea how he really feels about you. Why? He has not said a word about it.

Unlike women, men are not verbally expressive about matters of the heart. Men have their own reasons for clamming up, but if your man hasn't or won't talk about how he feels, it might all boil down to one (or more) of these five things:

  1. It is too early in the relationship.
  2. He is afraid to commit.
  3. He has been hurt in the past and simply fears another rejection.
  4. He is just acting like a normal guy who would rather do things than articulate them in words.
  5. He is falling for you but is too scared to say so.

Obviously, you are dying to know how he feels, but you do not want to appear too eager. You want the relationship to progress in a way that doesn't freak him out.

If you are in this kind of dilemma, don't lose hope. There are ways to find out what his real feelings for you are without forcing him to spit the words out.

It is often said that men are revealed by their actions and not by their words. How a guy behaves often gives away his real feelings. Here are the top ten signs that your guy loves you but is too scared to admit it. So girls, are you ready?

10 Signs He Is Slowly Falling for You

  1. He would rather be with you than with anyone else.
  2. He remembers special occasions.
  3. He remembers things you say and do.
  4. He lifts your mood when you've had a bad day.
  5. He is protective of you.
  6. His eyes communicate what he is too scared to say.
  7. He wants to know more about you.
  8. He talks about the future with you in it.
  9. He gets upset when you don't return calls or messages.
  10. He likes to show his fondness for you.
If he does not mind canceling other commitments just to see you, changing his schedule just to jibe with your free time, or planning ahead to be with you in the future—he's falling for you.

If he does not mind canceling other commitments just to see you, changing his schedule just to jibe with your free time, or planning ahead to be with you in the future—he's falling for you.

1. He Would Rather Be With You Than With Anyone Else

Have you noticed that he would do anything so that he can spend more and more time with you? If this describes your guy, then he is sending you a big sign that he feels so much more than friendly love for you.

If he does not mind canceling other commitments just to see you, changing his schedule just to jibe with your free time, or planning ahead to be with you in the future—he's falling for you.

Have you been out together and run into some of his friends, but he would rather stay with you than hang out with them? If he often gives up a night out and even a weekend with the boys, then you are one lucky gal. That is one sure sign of his interest in you.

These simple acts are his way of saying that he loves being with you, period. No guy who didn't care would ever do that. This is a sign that you occupy a special place in his heart, even if he is too scared to say so.

2. He Remembers Special Occasions

It is not in men's nature to remember a special occasion like a birthday or an anniversary. In fact, this trait can cause petty quarrels between people in relationships.

If a guy you are dating makes an effort to recall dates that mean a lot to you, that is another sign that he is really into you. If he remembers important dates in your life, especially the date when you first met, what happened, even recalling the how you put up your hair and tiny details like the color of the dress you wore, he cares a great deal about you.

When he makes it a point to do something unexpected and special, you are one lucky lady indeed. Feel lucky because this guy is truly listening and trying to be in tune with you. He is really determined to make you feel special.

Does he make any excuse to get you something sweet? Did he notice that you were looking at that sinfully moist chocolate cake and then he got it for you because he "just happened to pass by" your favorite dessert shop?

This is a really romantic guy who can't get you out of his mind. These kinds of little things show how much he truly cares for you.

3. He Remembers Things You Say and Do

If your guy remembers all the things about you—trivial or not— he is into you. If you notice him remembering your favorite mocha frappe at Starbucks, that you still cry every time you watch Titanic, and even the color of your dress the first time you met, this guy is 100% hooked. Only a guy who cares would remember such small details that mean a lot to you.

If he goes to great lengths just to lift your spirits and make you smile, it's a good sign that he may be falling for you.

If he goes to great lengths just to lift your spirits and make you smile, it's a good sign that he may be falling for you.

4. He Lifts Your Mood When You've Had a Bad Day

Is he sensitive to your emotions and aware when your day didn't go well? Does he go to great lengths just to lift your spirits and make you smile? These are his ways of telling you that he wants your happiness above everything else.

If he listens patiently to your rants and complaints, his deep concern mirrors his special feelings for you.

5. He Is Very Protective of You

If he acts very protective and makes sure you are safe at all times, that is one sign of his deep affection for you. When you are walking together, does he stand right next to you? Does he always let you walk on the safer side of the sidewalk?

A man who is falling in love will make sure his girlfriend gets home safely (or will at least call to make sure she gets home). These may seem like small things, but together they are a sign that he wants to make sure you are safe and sound.

6. His Eyes Communicate What He Is Too Scared to Say

The eye is the window to the soul, and his intense eye contact (not the stalker type) when talking to you reveals what his words cannot express. The way he gazes and looks at you shows his level of interest. A person looks at the object of his fancy differently. You know the look!

7. He Wants to Know More About You

If he is keen on learning more about you, your life, family, and everything else, this is a sure sign that he is singling you out. He wants to find out if there are common interests for a future relationship. A man in love is interested in learning about the details of your life.

8. He Talks About the Future—With You in It

Men will never, ever talk about future plans with anyone they don't feel serious about. If he talks about the future plans, or inquires about yours, this a sign that he wants you in his life long term.

If, without flinching, he talks about a family with you, he is already hinting that he wants you to be part of his future. That is definitely a cue that he would like to be with you for good.

9. He Gets Upset When You Don't Return Calls or Messages

If something as harmless as an unreturned call (when you are unable to answer the phone or message) triggers a jealous reaction, he is interested in you. If he gets a little jealous of the idea that you are possibly with another guy at that moment, you have snagged his heart for good.

10. He Likes to Show His Fondness for You

Physical attraction is always a part of the equation. When a guy is in love, he wants to touch the woman he loves often and in a very special way. If he loves to caress your face, or makes sure to gently brush the hair off your face, or holds your hand instinctively when crossing a street, he is telling you that he loves you.

Is He in Love With Me?

For many guys, actions speak louder than words. Men can be hard to figure out, either because they are clueless about their feelings or because they struggle to communicate. If your guy shows five or more of these signs, he definitely has feelings for you.

Signs He Is Fighting His Feelings for You

While we all want our man to profess his love for us and shower us with affection, sometimes he tries to fight those feelings. Here are some signs that he is fighting against expressing his feelings for you.

  • He will be hot and cold: Sometimes he is affectionate towards you and other times he acts cold and distant. Since he is confused about how he feels, he will try to hide his feelings and not be around you long enough to let those emotions bubble to the surface.
  • His body language will be out of sync with his speech: He may try to play it cool around you and not say anything to hint at how he's feeling, but his body language will show it. He will look and act nervous around you, and he may start subconsciously leaning towards you when you are talking.
  • He will show signs of jealousy: While these may be minor instances, he will get jealous if you mention that you were hanging out with other men. He will try to downplay it like it is not a big deal, but his reaction will definitely show his hand when it comes to his feelings for you.
  • He shares personal details: He will tell you a bunch of personal stories about his life, particularly deeply personal details. He wants you to know what kind of man he is, and the fact that he is comfortable sharing details with you.

Why Won't He Tell Me How He Feels?

Like I said before, there are five reasons why your man may be hesitant to open up and let you know how he is really feeling.

It is too early in the relationship

While the two of you could be really hitting it off and having a great time, he may be wary about appearing too eager and loving. Men are afraid that if they are too eager too quickly with a woman, she will lose interest in him. Give him some space and some time, and he will eventually come around and open up to you.

He is afraid to commit

Committing to one person is a scary prospect for most men, so he may feel that going all-in with you freaks him out too much. Again, a lot of men do not want to drive women away by being too needy and too loving.

He has been hurt in the past and simply fears another rejection

Most people are influenced by past events, so if he was rejected or hurt in the past, that would make him less willing to commit and tell you how he feels in the present. Perhaps in a previous relationship, he did that, and it didn't work out, so now he believes he should avoid making the same mistake again.

He is just acting like a normal guy who would rather do things than articulate them in words

Men tend to favor doing things instead of saying things, so it is possible he feels like he does not need to say anything as he has already shown you how much he cares about you. If he is doing all of the affectionate and compassionate things I've already talked about, those may be strong enough signals in his view that he is in love with you.

He is falling for you but is too scared to say so

As you may have guessed by now, men tend to be afraid at opening up to women because they feel that displaying vulnerability will make women unattracted to them. So, he may close himself off and wait for a better time later on to show you his true feelings.

Is Your Boyfriend in Love, but Too Scared to Say So?

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. On a Friday night, would he rather be with you than go out with his friends?
    • No, he never passes up a chance to hang out with the guys.
    • Sometimes. He probably spends an equal amount of time with his friends and with me.
    • Always. He would rather spend time with me than with anyone.
  2. Does your boyfriend remember your birthday, the day you met, and other important dates?
    • No, he forgot my last birthday.
    • He's pretty good about remembering special dates, but I had to remind him that my birthday was coming up.
    • He remembers everything. He's shy, but he makes romantic plans for special dates.
  3. When you are down or upset, does he do what he can to help?
    • Actually, he gets annoyed when I am in a bad mood.
    • He is usually pretty sweet and asks what's wrong when I'm feeling bad.
    • When I'm sad or upset he stops what he's doing to find out what's wrong. He's a great listener and cheers me up.
  4. Is he interested in your friends and family?
    • He doesn't want to meet my friends or family.
    • He comes with me to visit friends and relatives, but sometimes he seems a little bored.
    • Even though he's shy, he is getting to know my friends and family. It seems like it's important to him.
  5. Does your guy talk about future plans with you?
    • Never.
    • He's shy about talking about the future, but when we do talk about it he says "we" not just "I."
    • He talks about future plans a lot. He says things like, "next year when we go to . . . " and "next Christmas let's . . "
  6. Is your guy affectionate?
    • Not so much. He used to be, but now he's kind of stiff.
    • He's sweet with me when we're alone, but not so much in public.
    • My guy is the quiet, romantic type. He's not afraid to kiss in public.

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. On a Friday night, would he rather be with you than go out with his friends?
    • No, he never passes up a chance to hang out with the guys.: +0 points
    • Sometimes. He probably spends an equal amount of time with his friends and with me.: +3 points
    • Always. He would rather spend time with me than with anyone.: +5 points
  2. Does your boyfriend remember your birthday, the day you met, and other important dates?
    • No, he forgot my last birthday.: +0 points
    • He's pretty good about remembering special dates, but I had to remind him that my birthday was coming up.: +3 points
    • He remembers everything. He's shy, but he makes romantic plans for special dates.: +5 points
  3. When you are down or upset, does he do what he can to help?
    • Actually, he gets annoyed when I am in a bad mood.: +0 points
    • He is usually pretty sweet and asks what's wrong when I'm feeling bad.: +3 points
    • When I'm sad or upset he stops what he's doing to find out what's wrong. He's a great listener and cheers me up.: +5 points
  4. Is he interested in your friends and family?
    • He doesn't want to meet my friends or family.: +0 points
    • He comes with me to visit friends and relatives, but sometimes he seems a little bored.: +0 points
    • Even though he's shy, he is getting to know my friends and family. It seems like it's important to him.: +5 points
  5. Does your guy talk about future plans with you?
    • Never.: +0 points
    • He's shy about talking about the future, but when we do talk about it he says "we" not just "I.": +3 points
    • He talks about future plans a lot. He says things like, "next year when we go to . . . " and "next Christmas let's . . ": +5 points
  6. Is your guy affectionate?
    • Not so much. He used to be, but now he's kind of stiff.: +0 points
    • He's sweet with me when we're alone, but not so much in public.: +3 points
    • My guy is the quiet, romantic type. He's not afraid to kiss in public.: +5 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score between 0 and 9 means: It sounds like your guy is more than just shy. He might not be as interested as you are. If you want more from a relationship, it's time to move on.

A score between 10 and 18 means: This guy can be sweet and attentive, but is he in love? It's hard to say. Even if it scares him, he needs to let you know whether you're wasting your time on this relationship or not. Ask him how he feels.

A score between 19 and 24 means: Your guy may be in love, but he needs help finding the words to express his feelings. You might want to ask a trusted male friend for help with ways to talk to your guy to help him come out of the shadows. You deserve to know whether your guy is falling for you! Hang in there.

A score between 25 and 27 means: You're a lucky girl—your guy is falling for you. Let him know how you feel. He may not be super verbal, but it sounds like he's pretty sure that you're the one for him.

A score between 28 and 30 means: Your guy is in love. He may be shy and he may be quiet, but he's sweet on you in a big way. If it's important to you to that he say how he's feeling in words, let him know. It's not his style to express his feelings that way, but if he knew how much it would mean to you, he will try to figure it out.

© 2011 Shan Moore