10 Signs a Guy Loves You Though He Doesn't Admit It Yet

So, you are going out exclusively with this special guy and everything seems to be going great. He treats you like you're the only girl in the world and there is undeniable chemistry. It is obvious that he loves spending time with you. You admit to yourself that you are slowly falling for him, but there is one problem: You have no idea how he really feels about you. Why? He has not said a word about it.

Unlike women, men are not verbally expressive about matters of the heart. Men have their own reasons for clamming up, but if your man hasn't or won't talk about how he feels, it might all boil down to one (or more) of these five things:

  1. It is too early in the relationship.
  2. He is afraid to commit.
  3. He has been hurt in the past and fears rejection.
  4. He is simply acting like a normal guy who would rather do things than articulate them in words.
  5. He is falling for you but is too scared to say so.

Obviously, you are dying to know how he feels but do not want to appear too eager. You want the relationship to progress in a way that doesn't freak him out. If you are in this kind of dilemma, don't lose hope. There are ways to find out what his real feelings for you are without forcing him. How a guy behaves often gives away his true feelings. Here are the top ten signs that your guy loves you but is too scared to admit it. So girls, are you ready?

10 Signs He Likes You But Is Too Chicken to Admit It

  1. He would rather be with you than with anyone else.
  2. He remembers special occasions.
  3. He remembers things you say and do.
  4. He lifts your mood when you've had a bad day.
  5. He is protective of you.
  6. His eyes communicate what he is too scared to say.
  7. He wants to know more about you.
  8. He talks about the future with you in it.
  9. He gets upset when you don't return calls or messages.
  10. He likes to show his fondness for you.

1. He Would Rather Be With You Than With Anyone Else

Have you noticed that he would do anything just so he can spend more and more time with you? If this describes your guy, then he is sending you a big sign that he feels so much more than friendly love for you. If he is prone to canceling other commitments just to see you, changing his schedule just to jibe with your free time, or planning ahead to be with you in the future—he's falling for you.

Have you been out together and run into some of his friends, but he would rather stay with you than hang out with them? If he often gives up a night out and even a weekend with the boys, then you are one lucky gal. That is one sure sign of his interest in you. These acts are his way of saying that he loves being with you, period. No guy who didn't care would do that. This is a sign that you occupy a special place in his heart, even if he is too scared to say so.

2. He Remembers Special Occasions

Not many men make a point to remember a special occasion like a birthday or an anniversary. In fact, this trait can cause petty quarrels between people in relationships. If a guy you are seeing makes the effort to recall dates that mean a lot to you, that is another sign that he is really into you.

If he remembers important dates in your life, especially the date the two of you met, and he makes it a point to do something unexpected and special, you are one lucky lady indeed. This guy is truly listening and trying to be in tune with you. He is really determined to make you feel special.

Does he make any excuse to get you something sweet? Did he notice that you were looking at that sinfully moist chocolate cake (and then he got it for you because he "just happened to pass by" your favorite dessert shop)? This is a really romantic guy who can't get you out of his mind. These kinds of little things show how much he truly cares for you.

3. He Remembers Things You Say and Do

If your guy remembers all the things about you—trivial or not— he is into you. If you notice him remembering your favorite mocha frappe at Starbucks, that you still cry every time you watch Titanic, and even the color of your dress the first time you met, this guy is 100% hooked. Only a guy who cares would remember small details that mean a lot to you.

4. He Lifts Your Mood When You've Had a Bad Day

Is he sensitive to your emotions and aware when your day didn't go well? Does he go to great lengths just to lift your spirits and make you smile? These are his ways of telling you that he wants your happiness above everything else.

If he listens patiently to your rants and complaints, his deep concern mirrors his special feelings for you.

5. He Is Protective of You

If he acts very protective of you and makes sure you are safe at all times, that is one sign of his deep affection for you. When you are walking together, is he right next to you? Does he always let you walk on the safer side of the sidewalk? A man who is falling in love will make sure his girlfriend gets home safely (or will at least call to make sure she gets home). These may seem like small things, but together they are a sign that he wants to make sure you are safe and sound.

6. His Eyes Communicate What He Is Too Scared to Say

The eye is the window to the soul, and his intense eye contact (not the stalker type!) when talking to you reveals what his words cannot express. The way he gazes and looks at you shows his level of interest. A person looks at the object of his fancy in a different way. You know the look!

7. He Wants to Know More About You

If he is keen on learning more about you, your life, family, and everything, this is a sure sign that he is singling you out. He wants to find out if there are common interests for a future relationship. A man in love is interested in learning about the details of your life.

8. He Talks About the Future—With You in It

Men will never, EVER talk about future plans with anyone they they don't feel seriously about. If he talks about the future plans, or inquires about yours, this a sign that he wants you in his life longterm. If, without flinching, he talks about a family with you, he is already hinting that he wants you to be part of his future. That is definitely a cue that he would like to be with you for good.

9. He Gets Upset When You Don't Return Calls or Messages

If something as harmless as an unreturned call (when you are unable to answer the phone or message) triggers a jealous reaction, he is interested in you. If he gets a little jealous about the idea that you are possibly with another guy at that moment, you have snagged his heart for good.

10. He Likes to Show His Fondness for You

Physical attraction is always a part of the equation. When a guy is in love, he wants to touch the woman he loves often and in a very special way. If he loves to caress your face, or makes sure to gently brush hair off your face, or holds your hand instinctively when crossing a street, he is telling you that he loves you.

Is Your Guy in Love?

For many guys, actions speak louder than words. Men can be hard to figure out, either because they are clueless about their feelings or because they struggle to communicate. If your guy shows five or more of these signs, he definitely has feelings for you.

Is Your Boyfriend in Love, but Too Scared to Say So?

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gmmurgirl 15 months ago from Pilipinas Author

Thank you GreenEyes1607. You are right actions do speak louder than words.

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GreenEyes1607 15 months ago from Illinois

I really enjoyed reading these! I've realized that when it comes to men it's more about what they do than what they say. Men can say anything but it's their actions that truly count.

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gmmurgirl 19 months ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Susan. If he really likes you, trust me he will make a move. But then you said he just broke up with his gf. Whatever is the reason for their breakup, you wouldn't really expect him to want to start another relationship. Just wait for his next move.

Lana2015 20 months ago

I have bin in an a relationship with a man who, has bin married before, the ex wife was bipolar and abusive towards him he's a great guy but I feel like he's afraid of letting his guard down for me even though he know I nothing but true kindness to him. We are good friends now because he needs to get his a together (shit figured out) he admit to wanting it to be more

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Laeeka 21 months ago from Durban, South Africa

Hi gmmurgirl- Durban is great, just very busy with holiday-makers from around South Africa. Will be looking out for more great writing from you. Thanks.

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gmmurgirl 22 months ago from Pilipinas Author

Hello Laeeka! How is Durban these days? This is my personal insight. Some guys emotional codes may be hard to crack though. Goodluck!

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gmmurgirl 22 months ago from Pilipinas Author

Thank you shamelabboush. Hope you enjoyed the article. Have a great day and thanks for checking out this hub!

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Laeeka 22 months ago from Durban, South Africa

Thanks for this article- it gave me a lot of insight. Keep up the great hubs!

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shamelabboush 22 months ago

I have to admit, extremely nice.

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gmmurgirl 23 months ago from Pilipinas Author

Why do you need him to confess? When actions speak louder than words I should say that cherish the moment when you are with him.

Ishika 24 months ago

He is my ex and he still shows all these signs but he doesn't want to confess... What do I do???

Angel 2 years ago

He is my ex and still shows all these signs but he doesn't want to confess his feelings for me, what do I do???

Estella 2 years ago

#5 & #9 can also be warning signs.

girly 2 years ago

Hey guys, he broke up with me a very long time ago, I cried cried and cried, he hurt me to the extent that he went on to date a friend of mine, and now he is begging to come back to me, he cried on phone, tld his mum to beg me which she did, although I still have feelings for him, but all my friends are like you must not, he is wicked, he want to dump you like he did before blah blah...but I'm confused plz what do I do?

advise 2 years ago

Yeah they don't really have a reason but I don't want to choose between them

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gmmurgirl 2 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Advise! Why do they hate him? Do they have a valid or justifiable reason for hating him? If your friends care for you enough, and there is a good reason, then perhaps you take that into consideration. Otherwise, if they simply don't like him without really any reason at all, that is not simply fair both for and the guy.

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gmmurgirl 2 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Shea! If he is really that interested in you, there is not reason why he will not pursue you. Just let him do his thing and if he stops, that means he is not interested enough. Don't worry, a lot of other boys will come your way if this one doesn't turn out to be that determined to win you over. Thank you for reading!

advise 2 years ago

what if your friends hate the guy you like is it ok to go out with him? Advise please I don't want my friends to get mad at me

shea 2 years ago

Im still not sure this boy likes me because he flirts with me and stops for some time and starts again and looks at me but he stops like he is trying to ignore me for some days but he looks at me very few times

shea 2 years ago

Im still mot sure this boy likes me because he flirts with me amd stops for some time and starts again and looks at me but he stops like he is trying to ignore me for some days but he looks at me very few times

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gmmurgirl 2 years ago from Pilipinas Author

You don't do anything and simply let nature runs its course. No matter how much your friend likes this particular guy (which you also like), if he really does not fancy her, then you have nothing to worry about. Thanks for reading!

2 years ago

What do I do when my friend likes the boy I like and he doesn't like my friend

Shit 3 years ago

I am having such a bad mood because of the boy i like,i'm not sure if he still like me he told me that he like me as a friend but nw i dun even know i am feeling so miserable

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doina 4 years ago

Thanks gmmurgirl. He is single(I heard him mention it in conversation with another colleague). And he definitely doesn't appear shy. He maintains eye contact and is always calling my attention. His conversations with others end with him looking for my reaction. So what can it be narrowed down to?

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi doina! Thank you for this glimpse on your situation. It is possible he might have feelings or fancy you but the big question is that are you really 110% sure that he is single? Other possible reasons why he has not moved on to the next level or has not told you anything about his feelings are the following; he is shy or the kind of person who likes to test the waters first or could be that he avoids conflict at work with an office romance. It is not healthy to have one by the way. These are just some of the things that might be running through his mind. Your suggestion of a platonic connection could be another possibility. You mentioned that you never talked anything about the girls or guys in both your lives. One big reason why guys hold back is that they are still in a relationship or commitment with another person, though they fancy you. The signs that are written in this hub can tell you a great deal about how a guy feels for you, but it will be complicated if he is not free. If he is not, then, it would be best not to count too much on it because you will only get hurt. If you are ready to risk your emotions, then you can simply enjoy his company without getting really serious where it would lead. Or, you can chose to becoming friends with him until you find out his real situation or his real feelings for you. Then you can decide what will be the most practical thing to do. I hope this helps!

doina 4 years ago

There is a guy at my work who is 4yrs older and single, but I can't tell if it's just friendship or something more. He's always chooses to sit next to me and often our hands/legs brush accidentally but we both are quick to mumble an apology. He helps me out a lot, but I usually have to pester him. But he made it a point to tell me he never helps out anyone the way he helps me. He yells at people on my behalf and is very protective when we're walking on the road but he also believes I'm a delicate person. He opens doors for me but then voluntarily tells him it's just how he was raised. We carpool together and we have a easy rapport. We discuss our family and friends, but have never had any meetings. He does remember random things I've told him and compliments me on what I wear. Sometimes I've caught him looking at me longer than needed. Oddly we never talk about the girls and guys in our life, although whenever I gush about a movie star, he'll be quick to point out his flaws to me. We text/email a lot, but the few phone calls we had are short and more to the point. He's shown me his high school poetry and plays he's written which is pretty personal. I get along with my other colleagues fine, but with him it's on a different level. We've only known each other for a few months, but so far we haven't met each other aside from work. Is it the age gap or the fact that we're colleagues that's making him a bit cautious with me? Or does he just see me as platonic buddy?

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hey Sarah! Thanks for sharing your story with us. I would like to believe that perhaps your close friend is already involved with someone else, or has already committed himself to another person. It could be that he is not sure of what he really wants because I think 8 years is such a long time for him not to say anything if indeed his feelings are that strong for you. I know it is quite confusing for you that he is giving all these signs that he might like or loved you. Do not risk yourself getting hurt in the end. At this point, it is best to just enjoy the friendship and nothing more.

sarahhughes 4 years ago

What if this guy is your best friend of 8 years and shows all the signs above? Is he just being nice as a best friend or has he fallen for me? I've only started falling for him and realising that we could be more than just friends a little over a year ago when many people started asking me why aren't the two of us together. And I couldn't answer that question myself. We seem perfect for each other. In the eyes of a stranger, we do appear as a couple, cos' we go shopping together, movies are always just the two of us, mostly everything is just the two of us. And he always repeats things like I've never met another person who has the same wavelength as us and recently he told me that he loves me with all his heart and that he is glad he has me in his life and always will. But I just brushed it off because I thought he was telling me these things as a really close friend. But now I am starting to feel it might be something more. He gets me gifts with my name engraved on them, he has gotten me a necklace, and I never realised how many gifts of his I've accumulated over the years. We recently went on a trip together and we had gone with another couple that we were good friends with. And many times I caught him staring at me (like when I was sleeping and just got up in the morning), and our fingers just seemed to brush a lot all of a sudden, and he would make an effort to distance the two of us from the other couple at as many opportunities that he could including making sure just the two of us watched the sunset together at the beach. But even though he had all these numerous opportunities to say something to me, he never did, which is why I'm left now all confused. What do you think?

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi David! Thanks! Yeah, you are one exception I guess.

David 4 years ago

All were good but one. Well for me anyway. I tend to always look into people's eyes when I am talking to them. Especially with girls but not because i like them. Even not so pretty ones I always keep my eyes glued to theirs. Or almost. I don't do it in a creepy way lol.

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Joey,

It could be that this guy is no longer interested in you and might be involved with someone right now. It is still possible thought to say Hi when you bump into him, and become good friends. Stay positive!

Joey 4 years ago

What if this guy cared about you for years we talked did all that but comes into town and doesn't put effort to see u... And that guy is in the military how is it possible for someone to dislike u so fast when he put all his feelings on the!

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

I would agree with you on the fact that physical attraction reaches a plateau with the same partner for men. I don't know but I guess, it's men's nature.The signs listed here may hold true for those still in the early stages of the 'getting to know each other' phase. Thanks for liking this hub yssubramanyam!

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yssubramanyam 4 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

the taste of individuals is different, mutual phy sical attraction reaches to null point over a period of time with same partner in men (it is peculiar biological dynamics) great hub. i expressed my view. read it leniently.

tatiana22 4 years ago

I miss him

tatiana22 4 years ago

I miss this :)

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi jade! Friendship is the best foundation for any romantic relationship but since your friend has eyes for your bff instead of on you, you might as well stay low, there could be someone else right for you at this time. If you can, continue to be his friend, and don't let your feelings get in the way, who knows, miracles happen. But don't let it stop you from looking and dating. There is really no guarantee on what or who you will end up with. Just continue to be positive and see the bright side of life, and be a good friend. Thanks!

jade 4 years ago

great but what do i do???

i love this guy but he loves my bffif he had a second choice it would be my other bf

he likes me as a friend

what do i do?????!

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Mzhughes! Thank you for dropping by.

Mzhughes 4 years ago

Good stuff 6outta 8

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Emmyboy! Thanks. Yes, I agree that is also possible though not any guy would go to great lengths to do all of these. Anything is possible.

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Emmyboy 4 years ago from Nigeria

Gmmurgirl, I hope you know that any manipulative man who knows his onions so well can also display any of those characteristics you mentioned most especially that part about mentioning or talking about the future together?

melisakdye 4 years ago

thank you it helps i love the man in my life and i know he loves me but he has trouble lettin me know how much or how he trully feels men right lol

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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Thanks zahara! Guys can be good at hiding their emotions but we know better. :)

zahara 4 years ago

these tips are really helpful and so true

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