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The 10 Most Attractive Traits and Men in the World

Sheila is an artist who is often inspired by the beauty in the world.

What Qualities Make a Man Attractive?

As a hands-on artist, I'm inspired by all beautiful things, but especially by people. I can appreciate the statue of Michelangelo's David as well as the female form of someone like the unforgettable Marilyn Monroe. For drawing, at least, bone structure is the most important quality. But when it comes to finding men attractive, looks are only on the surface.

So what qualities make some men stand out from the other sheep in the herd? Unlike men, who are more visually oriented, women tend to use their mind when judging attraction. In simple terms, the fastest way to turn a woman on is to move her emotionally. How a man makes a woman feel is what makes him "attractive."

10 Qualities That Make a Man Attractive

Many things can make a man charming: giving out compliments generously, having a positive attitude and ambition, having no criminal background, a healthy lifestyle, being good with kids, smiling a lot, etc. However, I've narrowed it down to ten basic qualities that make a man attractive:

1. Having Confidence

When a man walks into a room and gives off an air of confidence, he instantly becomes more attractive. Even if he is the most gorgeous man in the room, the absence of confidence can kill his chances of keeping a woman's attention.

2. Being a Gentleman

He doesn't have to dress like Gary Cooper, but he should have his manners down to a "T" when it comes to courting women. That means: opening doors, letting the women go in first, saying "please" and "thank you," and being respectful. A bouquet of flowers or box of chocolates as a surprise on a date will win you bonus points. It's not that much of an investment, but it's a nice gesture that can mean the world to someone

3. Intelligence

You don't need to know the "Theory of Relativity," or have an IQ over 150, but at least tickle our brain cells with interesting conversation. Even if you can only describe in detail the origin of your family history, people are impressed with guys who have something to add to the conversation. Feel free to you compliment us, but don't get intimidated by our intelligence.

4. A Sense of Humor

There is nothing sexier than a man that can make a woman laugh so hard that she cackles uncontrollably and feels tingly afterward....sounds a bit like an orgasm, doesn't it? Well then—figure out why it's attractive to be funny.

5. Being Well Put Together

OK, so we like to be attracted visually, too. It's only fair. However, you don't have to look like Brad Pitt to turn us on—just take care of yourself and groom yourself appropriately, no matter what you look like. We'll get it.

6. Being Caring

It is so unusual to find a man who actually cares how a woman feels or wants to make her feel better. If you have the gift of wanting to protect us and be good to us, someone out there will want to do that for you in return. Remember: if you want to put a woman in "the mood," try doing the dishes or cooking her a meal. Not just once, but regularly—it's a total. Turn. On.

7. Being Honest and Having Integrity

Look at it this way: if we catch you in a lie, it's the opposite of attractive. It's not zesty, not cool, and it's just not going to "do it" for us. A man who keeps his word and makes good on his promises, on the other hand? We will jump through hoops to keep you around.

8. Having Honor

Doing what is right is a noble quality, and very few of us have it these days. If there is a dog to be rescued, or mother and child stuck in a ravine, a man who swings into action to be a hero will make us melt on the spot. The only drawback is that you will need a scooper and broom to gather us up from the mush pile you made us into.

9. Being Spontaneous and Adventurous

Boring guys are just that—boring. So if you can occasionally surprise us with something out of the ordinary, fun, and exciting, we will stick to you like sap on a tree—or we'll be like Jane women holding onto Tarzan as he swings through the jungle.

10. Being Responsible

You don't have to be rich to be our man—you just have to be cool with paying your debts. An independent guy who knows what he wants in life and is pursuing it (or has succeeded) is the pinnacle of a "catch" to a woman. Between a man who makes seven figures a year but is up to his eyeballs in debt and a man with modest salary who saves for retirement and splurges once in a while, we'll take the latter.

What Don't Women Like?

No matter what you look like, we won't put up with the abusive types—whether that be physically or emotionally abusive. And if you're passive-aggressive, manipulative, and narcissistic? Just move along, thanks!

My Top Ten Most Attractive Men

Now, for the eye candy part. Here are my top ten most attractive men in the world. In general, I like tall, dark-haired men with blue eyes and good bone structure—also known as "pretty boys."

1. Enrique Iglesias

Just the right amount of gorgeousness and charisma to make a girl melt. I give him a 10+ for not just being a hot, young Taurus, but for also just exuding sexuality. He can feel my heartbeat, my chest, my thighs, whatever he wants. Hubba hubba!

2. Chris Evans

Have you seen him as "The Flame" in Fantastic Four? Talk about having the "whole package." Not only is he Irish-Italian mixed, but he is also gorgeous from head to toe and makes women swoon with that smile. And those eyes. And that body....oh, and guys, chest hair is attractive! Please, for the love of God, don't shave your chest!

3. Tom Welling

Those eyes, those lips, those chiseled good looks. Somebody, please save me!

4. Robert Pattinson

OK, I'll admit that I'm into the whole "vampire romance" thing, but ever since the Harry Potter movie, I've had a bizarre attraction to the asymmetrical features of Robert Pattinson. Something about the intensity of those eyes.

5. Ryan Gossling

"The Notebook." Need I say more? Oh, and I heard he stopped a street fight. *biting lips* And he's tall, intense, and mysterious. OK, I said more...

6. Chase Crawford

He's just so cute. And did I mention that I'm into "pretty boys?"

7. Christian Bale

He's passionate, he's tense, he's totally fine. Oh, and he's got an accent—that's always a bonus. Plus, he totally rocked it as a super-hero.

8. Tyson Ritter

This little-known hottie is the singer for the All American Rejects and is related to the late "Jack" from Three's Company, John Ritter. He sings about love and breakups, and did I mention I'm into tall, skinny, dark-haired men with blue eyes? Well, if he or anyone who knows him is reading this, let him know that I'm available, and won't break his heart. Also, I'm a fellow Taurus. Moo.

9. Antonio Sobato, Jr.

It's the dimples. And the smile. And the sexy, GQ underwear-model looks I got hooked on.

10. Zac Efron

Another "pretty boy" with dark hair, blue eyes, and a dreamy bone structure. The only drawback: he's a bit short and young for my tastes, although, I'd consider being a cougar for this hunk.

Questions & Answers

Question: How can I be a gentleman?

Answer: Be considerate, polite, respectful. I love when men hold the door for me, or pull out my chair at a restaurant.

Question: How do you handle a woman?

Answer: Gently, like a delicate flower.

Comments

charity mtisi from Johannesburg on February 17, 2019:

I agree 100% , somehow a man who isn't confident isn't appealing . Its good to have a man who has authority, that's very attractive and easy to respect. Every quality you listed really counts. Its either he is man enough or he is not.

dinh tam on September 27, 2017:

List of qualities - right on - here are more that I think they are very important: Selfless; Being faithful/loyal; Generous, compassionate for people and animal, hard working; thoughtful, calm/cool; good listener; patience;

as for the look: Chris Evans is right on the list. :)

tuk on May 25, 2015:

The above men cannot be a man. they are all ugly, nothing attractive. swollen faces, too big noses that hide their eyes.

men of caucasian race all become unattractive monsters. they are all fat crocodiles, lizards in other worlds. too much heavy to raise their ineffective dicks, not slim, not sexy, cannot be a man, too big bones, dianosaur looks. they can only attract women of their own race but not other races. John Lennon was unable to have sex with a virgin asian japanese girl, but had to marry a divorced japanese, or a japanese already used by a japanese man. Recently, once again, a western man has married a divorced thai woman who is very ugly in thais' eyes. still not a virgin one. and i am a thai girl.

Moshtaq on February 22, 2015:

I think in other contries they are used to Foreigners, but in America for some resaon foreigners are usually considered jokes (especially guys), not always but usually their portrayed on T.V in a comedy style I'm not sure where your from but say for example a middle-eastern guy in America if you watch T.V our image is that of Borat or a greasy hairy guy with gold chains and lots and lots of cologne etc Asian's are always smiling and running liquor stores etc Even for women say a Russian woman would be considered a mail-order bride.I know it sucks but it's true!!!! America is filled with stereo types.So if your going to get a date your going to have to find someone who has a specific attraction for foreigners especially if you have an accent.

a dude on November 14, 2013:

"What qualities make a man attractive? If you guessed looks, you guessed wrong."

And then you go on to give examples of attractive guys with the only thing in common is that they are incredibly good looking, good job!

T-j on September 22, 2013:

Not One Black Guy mentioned

How r we going to combeat

Then :)

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on June 26, 2013:

Good points, indeed, savvydating. Family men (or good dads) are incredibly attractive to me. Speaking of sexy accents, I just remembered the Two and a Half Men episode when Enrique was on the show. My favorite of all: every time I'd watch it, the smile did NOT come off my face. He's so yummy! Ha ha ha.

Yves on June 26, 2013:

wonderful1, you hit the nail right on the head in describing what makes women get to where they (to quote Usher) "got it bad" That masculinity factor has to be there or forget it. Now as for the pretty boys, I'm a sucker for accents, so I would include Olivier Martinez, from Unfaithful, and David Beckham, who's taken, but I just love that he is a family man. Now for your picks, I'd have to go with Enrique or Christian. I admit, I love eye candy as much as the next woman, but the other qualities you listed are way better than a pretty face, any day of the week. Having said that, one of my favorite guys is little known William Levy, a Latino from Cuba. He sizzles! Here's a video if you want to check him out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYzOa-gNGOw

Ingenira on April 20, 2013:

I enjoyed reading what you wrote. You are right about the list of good qualities. The good qualities in men can make an average-looking men very attractive.

Viva Jones from UK on April 19, 2013:

I think your top ten list of qualities is spot on, couldn't have put it better myself. Most of your attractive men I don't actually know (showing my age) but I could stare at that Chris Evans pic for a long, long time...!

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on April 04, 2013:

Okay Clay. For each type of man or woman, there is an equal and opposite person attracted to him/her. Looks don't matter [for some] as much as humor, intelligence or financial success is a turn on. To each his or her own. My list is completely from an artistic viewpoint: I study cheekbone structure, shape of face, hairline, etc... I know, that's beyond most. For me, physical attraction is important. Hence why I never "let myself go" in physical appearance.

Thanks for commenting. Best wishes.

Clay on April 04, 2013:

Let me get this straight. You say looks don't matter but then you show a list of the hunkiest men on earth. I think you're a dizzy blonde. Women can never give a straight answer. Not a problem for me, however. I'm bald and skinny, but I have used my charm, humor, and wit to bed many women. Guys, don't listen to what these women tell you. Learn humor, and charm, and wit. They will lie and say...blah, blah, blah. It really doesn't make any sense. I have stolen women away from hot studs. Check out Love Systems and plug your ears to what the media says and what women say. None of it is true. Women may gawk over hot men, but to get them in bed is another story.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 19, 2013:

Awesome top of the list for me Enrique, I always felt that for this gorgeous singer and sometimes an actor too.

vibesites from United States on January 03, 2013:

Strangely the guys I have had a crush on/relationships with aren't near as good-looking as these guys in the pictures. So the "Good-Looking" part is left out at least to me. LOL.

But yes, it's true, guys don't need to look like Brad Pitt to turn us on!

Overall, I agree with your list of "good guy" traits. Voted up. :)

HandsomeRandyBlackLadBrad1953 on December 01, 2012:

Once again,we life-size Brads-from72,Brad was Barbie's then-

boyfriend Ken's handsome black buddy-are excluded from any mention of studliness,despite our being considered the best bed mates by ALL WOMEN!!!!WHAT GIVES?(By the way,ladies,if you saw me,you'd know why I'm called....)

lovedoctor926 on November 11, 2012:

Lol. My heart is racing. Christian Bale is my # 1.

Tom welling has awesome cheekbones & eyes. Zac Efron is runner up. this competition is fierce. Chris evans third place. Awesome hub

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on November 11, 2012:

Um, is it just me, or has the young crowd of my hunks become of age? Cougartown, anyone?

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on November 04, 2012:

Mr. B: thank you for your kind protection.

misterbungle from Los Angeles, CA on November 04, 2012:

I'm sorry but I had to say something to some of you posting "what about the brotha man?". Why must everything turn racial? Get a life. Ok, rant over.

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on November 04, 2012:

Thanks for commenting, brandimae-- and I'm speechless. For his sake, I hope he's just playing along for publicity (as the opening of his movie is underway).

Brandi Gregory from Jacksonville, Florida on November 04, 2012:

Enrique, Chris, Ryan, Antonio... oh yes... ha ha ha. This was great! I love love love Ryan Reynolds, too, and I love Shane West... Adam Levine.

And I canot believe Rob and Kristen are back together. He is one heck of a guy. How could she do that to him?!

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on October 10, 2012:

Any thoughts on the Robert Pattinson/Kristen Stewart news?

Linda Cassini from Las Vegas NV on October 02, 2012:

Okay you got me..I HAVE to share this :)

Ethan Green from England on September 27, 2012:

You should have listed which points each of your eye-candy men would score by your traits.

Boss on September 19, 2012:

Guess am ugle cuz am not white huh ? Ms.Wonderful1 ;)

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on September 19, 2012:

Unfortunately, some women DO put up with it. I did for far too long. It's tongue in cheek. Thanks for the comment!

Nicoli Clause from United States of America on September 19, 2012:

I enjoyed this hub as it really pointed out that you don't have to be "attractive" to flatter a woman. I'm not sure If I agree with your line "We won't put up with the abusive types (physical, emotional, passive aggressive, manipulative, Narcissist), so move along, thanks!" because it would seem as if some woman do put up with these charecteristics.

Annie on September 18, 2012:

Funny how there aren't any black guys on this list....haha

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on August 30, 2012:

Thanks for the insight, John. I hope you find a woman of substance some day. Good luck.

john on August 29, 2012:

lol, in fact men not only find right women by his looks......maybe if we find casual sex partners, but trust me, when we are finding women for our "true love" , wife, we nearly don't use looks as a priority anymore.....ask any guy...........we want great friend, lover, and mother........that's no different from what a women want find in men...... men are just shallow visual creatures who don't care women from her personality....i think that's are WHAT WOMEN WANT to hear, especially if a guy don't like you....oh hes just shallow......trust me, when we dont like a women, its because her personality sucks......

Zakir Hossain on July 10, 2012:

My name is Zakir Hossain,A+ Certified & IT member of CompTIA. Beside it I love my body too much. Money is not to me sacred thing but body is very precious. I am very honest in my life.I HAVE ATTRACTIVE BODY. No disease. Regularly practise 5-6 hrs min yoga, taekowndu, taichei-Zakir Hossain,em:cquest@citech.net

derrick on June 27, 2012:

Lol black guys aren't Cute I guess

Ingenira on May 18, 2012:

Excellent top ten list, couldn't agree with you more, though I like to add "sincerity" in them.

nightsun from northern california on May 17, 2012:

Oh lord, You made me realize how old I am...Mel and Michael popped into my head..

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on April 22, 2012:

He he he, I know right?

Courtney Leah from Atlanta, GA on April 22, 2012:

Haha,you really didn't even need the words in this hub. The pictures would have said enough.

GingerBell on March 02, 2012:

I'm drooling while reading this!!! I swear if every man had these qualities then life would be simple and lovely. Fantastic hub. Loved it!

PaulStaley1 from With the wind---(or against it) on March 01, 2012:

Ahh yes 10 attractive traits---got the title wrong---just wanted to say hooray for the chest hair---no shaving maybe a little trim----us fellas can be a little self conscious about our hairy chests---luckily I have grown to be very proud---I am an oso!! Nice hub amiga!

pooilum from Malaysia on February 15, 2012:

Very interesting post to see a girls view on it :)

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on February 14, 2012:

Oh, take your time, misterbungle: the beginning episodes were the best, though. I especially like the one where Lana turns into a witch, casts a spell on Clark, and he starts swinging his hips and yells, "come join the party!" To die for!!!

misterbungle from Los Angeles, CA on February 14, 2012:

Sheila, I guess there's no risk in you giving out any secrets on Smallville once I find the time to catch up on all seasons. :)

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on February 14, 2012:

I watched Smallville just for the eye candy myself! Ha ha ha. Thanks for stopping by, Nell!

Nell Rose from England on February 12, 2012:

I saw Tom Welling and nearly forgot to look at the others! lol! I used to sit there on a tuesday evening just staring at him in Smallville! gorgeous! and I wouldn't say no to the rest! haha! loved it! cheers nell

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 17, 2012:

It's in the Gender and Relationships section of the forums as "What makes a man attractive."

capricornrising from Wilmington, NC on January 17, 2012:

What's the title of the post - I can't find it - it might be buried by now!

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 16, 2012:

Hey, girl, I posted it in the forum section, please add to the discussion!

capricornrising from Wilmington, NC on January 16, 2012:

Forum post - then I suggest you post the *title/subject* of your forum post (not the link) here, so we can go post on it to kick it off!

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 16, 2012:

I agree Caroline-- in fact, the moment a guy lies, acts like he's better than everyone else around him or the other things you point out, it makes him look immediately ugly.

For me, if a guy makes me laugh, or piques my interest with conversation, or shows tender caring qualities, my view of him turns rosy. One guy I had a major crush on in college made me laugh before I even saw him. I knew right away I was going to like the guy, and sure enough: he wasn't the most gorgeous guy I'd ever seen, but his sense of humor made him appear larger than life.

Thanks for that, and I will have to post on the forum side for more conversation. HubPages removed my question about "what makes a man attractive" for posting it in the wrong section.

Caroline Marie on January 16, 2012:

Great hub Sheila. I like Robert Pattinson, Jason Statham, Christian Bale, Heath Ledger, George Clooney, & Bruce Willis. Looks and personality are what I like. They have to have that special something, not just a pretty face. Sense of humor and caring, romantic, and trustworthy are all great qualities and one that could protect you and act like a man. Egocentric, controlling, womanizing, demanding, and being fake are turn offs.

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 16, 2012:

To the community I go... this is fun!

misterbungle from Los Angeles, CA on January 15, 2012:

I don't have any one necessarily in mind of being missed, since I don't go around admiring men. But capricornrising has a great idea on including the community in the discussion.

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 15, 2012:

Oh, I know who you are talking about, Sheila-- I watched the transporter movies. A guy who can pull off moves like that, act suave and have charisma definitely hot material.

So, Capricornrising: should I ask the question on here, or do you want to do the honors? This is becoming a really fun inter-active event! I feel like passing out popcorn and making martinis. Ha!

capricornrising from Wilmington, NC on January 15, 2012:

What a great idea - maybe write a forum post and get the gals to weigh in with their votes, just like they're doing here, then write a hub about it! I've discovered that involving the community in your work is quite a draw.

I totally concur with you - it's as you say, there has to be something beyond the look. The first thing that captures me is an athletic carriage. So the two I mentioned + Matthew McConaughey, and I've been engaged to Denzel Washington for years - one day I'll meet and tell him... ;-)

But there have also been a series of non-studs... Okay, this is turning into a hub, and I'd better just write it!

Maybe I just like men in general!

Sheila Lee from Canada on January 15, 2012:

My personal favorite is Jason Statham. Sexy accent, sexy body, confident. *sigh* For those of you who don't know him, he is from The Transporter movies.

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 14, 2012:

Misterbungle: What or who did I miss? I can always add them in during editing-- thanks for commenting!

Capricornrising: thanks so much for stopping by, and I can tell you like the "manly men." I have a weakness for the "pretty guys" so they filled up this list. Maybe I should conduct a poll of women to see who the top 10 would be? So, any others you might add?

capricornrising from Wilmington, NC on January 14, 2012:

Gerry Butler and Hugh Jackman - that's where I'd personally start. I love this glimpse into you, wonderful1!

misterbungle from Los Angeles, CA on January 14, 2012:

Sounds like you might need to expand this to a last of 15 traits and men.

Sheila Varga Szabo (author) from Southern California on January 12, 2012:

LOL, you are so funny Eva! Can't list all the cute guys on here, after all, I missed Gerard Butler and Hugh Jackman to name a few. The list is never ending....

Eva on January 12, 2012:

Love my Christian Bale, I didn't see Sam Worthington on here! He's another hottie. On his movie "Man on a ledge" he looks super cute with his wavy locks. Yumm. Lol