Why the ENFP and INFJ are Perfect for Each Other

Updated on June 16, 2016
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Andrea loves to write about the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

The ENFP and INFJ will instantly have a connection. This connection should be something that will last for a long time whether years of friendship, business partnership, or love. There may be some reasons that the two will have a falling out, but to be honest -- the two intrinsically understand each other and balance each other out. For every Myers Briggs personality, there's a counterpart that makes an almost perfect fit. The key is in the functions. Relationships struggle if people don't have similar functions, or dominate functions that guide them. ENFP and INFJ being both highly intuitive people would struggle with someone who is more dominated by sensing. These two thrive on metaphors, abstractions, and the creative -- trying to get them to be normal and grounded is like trying to make a levitating unicorn made of rainbows do your taxes.


Attraction to Each Other

Both the INFJ and ENFP will feel instant attraction to each other. They both have pieces the other one desires. The INFJ wants to be understood and needs help coming out of their shell because they are the most rare personality making them feel constantly like their ideas and feelings don't fit in with the rest of the way the group feels. The INFJ also struggles with being quiet because their dominate function is introverted intuition -- their first objective is to take information introspectively. Until this hits their emotional center and their can translate the information out-loud empathetically, they tend to keep information to themselves. ENFP are primarily information gatherers, but through extroverted intuition. To the INFJ, the ENFP talks in the way the INFJ is taking in information. This is all very pleasing and creates an ESP effect.

The ENFP on the other hand feels a strong Fi-Si loop that they can stuck in. The ENFP is the champion and is wanting constantly to involve people, spread ideas, and get things in motion. But there's this other more introspective side they have that they don't always know how to convey, if they should convey it. The INFJ in being more introspective knows how to help the ENFP with their emotional growth. The INFJ knows how to encourage them and let them know it's okay to have dark thoughts, to be a little serious, to have the crazy kind of depth. Both are obsessed with people and gathering information about people because their in the NF temperament.

The INFJ may be surprised at just how much the ENFP actually craves time by themselves and melting with more independent creative ideas. The ENFP will also be surprised by the army of friends that the seemingly shy INFJ accumulates. They're both well liked people and sometimes struggle with people pleasing. Their family centered and will put a lot of energy toward building and raising a family well. When they're both certain they want to stay with each other, they'll put less energy toward friends. They get emotionally motivated toward each other.

If both are mature in their functions, they'll be an incredible support system for each other. They may both struggle with their "S" which is down in the gutter. For the INFJ, getting they need to express who they are in the physical realm in order to grow their "S" instead of only relying on intuition. If you only rely on intuition, it will be like having a super powerful right arm with a gimp, in need of being amputated left arm. How you can get in tune with your "S" is by cooking, dancing, doing chores, pottery, hiking... something that gets your body to move. Slow your mind down and be more conscious of what you're doing in grounded reality. You might not like it at first, but if you balance this out, you'll also have stronger intuition.

As for the ENFP, you have Si at the bottom, which is introverted sensing. One of the best personalities you can learn from on Si is the ISFJ who is dominated by introverted sensing and is similar enough to the INFJ that it won't make you bonkers. Si is one of the most difficult functions to understand and grow. It's not something the western world promotes, but the eastern world gets it. Si has to do with understanding the physical processes within. You can do this through meditation, chakra balancing, praying, etc. Try spending time by yourself for 30 minutes and going through each part of your body and asking how it feels. Do this until the storm of intuition in your mind stops talking (both through your mouth and brain). If an ENFP refuses to take care of their Fi and Si for more jolly of things, those qualities will stab him in the back.

Remember, There's More to Life Than Myers Briggs

Though you may have initial attraction and great chemistry, remember there's other factors at play. You need to consider if you're trying to be romantic what kind of background the other person has. You two may click to the moon and back, but it may be impossible to close the gap if there's two much difference of where your lives came from, where they are now, and where they're going. You need to consider each others religious views, life goals, and baggage. Likely you will have a great deal in common just by being in the NF family. ENFP and INFJ are both religious and spiritual people, which is another reason they draw to each other. The INFJ is lying to themselves if they say they're conservative only when it comes to religion -- they love learning about what's in this world, questioning what's out there and how they can apply it their value system, and testing the waters to see what spiritually is real. You know you're an INFJ 100% if you feel like a psychic to some degree -- which is another reason you probably don't feel like you fit in that much with society. If you're not getting that kind of strange intuition, you're probably an INTJ... they're more reasonable.

The ENFP sees the universe from the farthest points and slowly works their way to a more tiny space. With extroverted intuition guiding them, they can see how things fit in at an advanced level globally. You may drive an ENFP crazy with too many details and structure when what they really crave is the openness of ideas and reality -- this is why they delight in seeing others happy and why they love to pull an INFJ out of his shell. The ENFP then goes all the way to the bottom with introverted sensing where they must ask questions of their body, how it feels, why it feels the way it does. The more an ENFP can force themselves to better understand this -- the more they'll grow and appreciate everything. Both of these personalities have incredibly strange social skills because the INFJ is the most social introvert and the ENFP is hyper social, but also hyper in need of chill, quiet space.

The ENFP and INFJ both have tendencies to be hippies. They want to play and create in the world, not be tied down to paying bills. These personalities need careers that make their passions shine, not necessarily their bank accounts. If they have the immediate things taken care of in their physical surroundings, they're happy campers. They need their fill when it comes to imagination and fantasy. I suggest that they live in a space that doesn't require a lot of belongings because less is more for them -- and we'll keep them from going bankrupt.

Billy Crystal and Robin Williams -- the INFJ and ENFP connection

How to Tell it's an INFJ and ENFP Connection

1. Everything else and everyone else in the room will not be in focus at all. They'll be so focused on their inner world and the inner world exchange that they experience that everything else gets tuned out. They're in their own little world -- and it's completely harmless.

2. Hyperactive spontaneity. If you're an INFJ and you think you're not spontaneous, something isn't right. You might not be an INFJ, because the INFJ loves the random -- it gives their introverted intuition a major jolt. The ENFP and INFJ will get their selves into serious randomness with little to no planning.

3. This combination turns into a powerful duo of jokes. The ENFP starts the joke off and the INFJ comes in with the punchline -- and they keep going with that energy.

4. They'll stare at each other from a far. They like the connection, so they'll keep checking on them from afar when they can't be right next to each other. INFJ has a powerful set of eyes, and they know it, so they're careful with those eyes. An INFJ has Cyclops eyes and Jean Grey's mind.

5. If you're witnessing an ENFP and INFJ connection you'll probably be wondering why the heck the two are not together yet.

6. People will notice the connection and ask about it.

7. The two will plan to only spend a little bit of time with each other and then be together for an entire night... which is what they really wanted anyway.

8. The ENFP will keep picking the INFJ and the INFJ will make obstacles to see if the ENFP is set on them. An INFJ will literally find another prospective lover and say, "Don't you want to talk to them?" And the ENFP will either say "no" or push that person away. The ENFP knows how to decide on a person, and the INFJ has to check to make sure there's loyalty.

9. The ENFP will get louder and louder and louder. The INFJ will get wittier and wittier and wittier.

10. Deep, sensual hugs. They can communicate without words and just convey it all in a hug.

11. They will serve others. They want to make sure those around them are okay. They make a perfect counseling team.

12. Don't confuse the ENFP for only wanting to be around the herd. He wants the INFJ all to himself. It will be a noticeable goal.

13. The INFJ may be slow to the ENFP's advances. Have patience... they're likely to come around.

14. The two are both idiosyncratic, having created their own personal world their entires lives. When they come across each other, they're surprised the world they've created fits someone else.

15. These are two of the most intelligent personalities. They occasionally try to hide their brains so they can fit into a group situation. Don't be surprised if they jump in conversation from philosophy, religion, math, to cartoons, UFOS, and unicorns.

16. They're both dominated by information gathering -- they express affection by large info dumps and seeing how all those dots can connect.

17. Creative expressions -- late night jams, dancing, pottery making, poetry reading, cooking, and painting.

18. You'll see the INFJ be more comfortable than you've ever seen and more out of their shell. You'll see the ENFP more balanced... and also insane.

19. They hate conflict, but they know how to resolve it with kindness over arrogance.

20. They seem like two giant big kids, somehow still innocent... and also with the dirtiest minds you've ever seen.

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        Anthony 6 weeks ago

        Too true. I'm an ENFP and my friend is an INFJ. We started to become friends about three months ago, because I approached him a few times and each time he would be quiet. Then we just kept running into each other. We plan to only spend a few hours hanging out and then it turns into an entire night of gas station food and driveway conversations until 4 in the morning. Everything is this article is 100% accurate.

        I would go as far to say I view him as my best friend. Like no one has ever been my total opposite yet exactly what I needed at the same time. I help him out because I kind of push him along and he helps me not overly stress. He knows when my anxiety flares up and how to talk me down, he knows when i'm not doing okay and knows how to make me laugh with ease. I know when he is sad or needs an ear and we just work. Ying and yang. I'm incredibly grateful to have him in my life as a friend.

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        Ian 7 weeks ago

        - Where do I find an ENFP guy?

        hahahahaahaha we are rare, aren't we :D. Well but we do exist.

        Hint: you might have seen us at parties and decided that we are show offs . But if you look closer you will find out that we are just very nice honest folks.

        If you accept us you will find that we are more likely to spend time with you than anyone else on that party. Just keep looking at us and we will eventually say something, well anything.

        Once us ENFPs find out that actually like, or generally love people we love you - easy as that.

        I'm dating an INFJ atm - well kind of dating. It's really difficult for me, that's why I like her I guess. She is so warm, the feeling is insane - I adore her. I think I'm on a secret mission here, I want to find out how it is to drink coffee at her place. But she moves so sllllllllooooooooowwwwwww. I mean it like seriously. Two steps forwards two steps backwards, it's like a dance.

        Well anyways enjoying my time with her and I'm very sure she is enjoying hers with me. If things don't work out I am actually glad I met her anyways. I used to not bother enough with the shy ones, but they are great. The bad thing is I still neeed that coffee.

        Thank you author, your article is a really good read and it gives hope - who knows what the future holds.

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        deb 2 months ago

        so this is exactly my bf and I.

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        anoninfjmous 2 months ago

        Where do I find an ENFP guy?

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        Guest 2 months ago

        Interesting, I've experience some of these things with other personality types but not all of them. I'm not sure I've ever met an ENFP. I would like to.

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        Thatonegirl 2 months ago

        This has been one of my favorite articles. I finally found my INFJ and this article could not be more accurate! Had us laughing after I shared it with him. Thank you!!

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        Stevie 3 months ago

        This was great! I'm an ENFP female and my husband is an INFJ male. This analysis fit us perfectly. It's spooky hilarious.

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        Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

        WHOAAAA! Stop the train!

        You've got to work on your confidence. You're way down in the gutter being hard on yourself, and that's got to stop. You need to take care of yourself and your self-perceptions before you get into a healthy relationship. And also, you are young. Dating in college is often only the beginning. Don't get so preoccupied by one person to the point that it makes you go down this dark spiral. I'm sure this is a lovely man and you can get to know him better. You don't want to focus so much on someone who isn't available. He can't be available to your needs. You'll find love one way or another, and you don't have to be in an arranged marriage. And you're being Catholic doesn't condemn you. What you need is some positivity. Work on what makes you shine, do some pampering, give yourself some self-love. Men are much more attracted to women who appear positive than give off a negative vibe. Work on your vibe and you'll have a way better chance of attracting someone. Again, you're young. You have time to figure these things out. Don't be so down in the dumps acting like your life will never reach what it needs to reach. Be thankful for what you have.

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        Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

        Glad to know it worked for you! ENFP and INFJ types are a great deal of fun.

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        Frodo 4 months ago

        Loved reading and discovering all this. I'm an INJF myself, and can resonate on all levels! This article on the other hand explains all the crazy and beautiful friends i have in my life....

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        Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

        Ah, I love when my advice helps.

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        Lonisha 4 months ago

        Well thanks for your advice. It helped.

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        Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

        Don't be too hard on yourself. A negativity spiral does nothing for you. Work on loving yourself from the inside out and you'll attract someone who is doing the same.

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        Lonisha 4 months ago

        Because of all of this experience with the guy I mentioned above, I feel like I don't deserve to be pursued by an ENFP guy. I feel like being an INFJ is a curse. I don't feel like a normal human being. I hate

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        Lonisha 4 months ago

        I am sorry, I accidentally posted this two times. I thought my first post did not get through.

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        Lonisha 4 months ago

        So I took a personality test a month ago and found put that I am an INFJ female.

        Things have been crazy so far for me. I relocated to Houston,TX two months ago since my dad got a job there. Plus I had to transfer to another college in Houston and I will be starting my second year of college there as a transfer student next month.

        The thing is, I am very good friends with this awesome guy who I went to my old college with back in Chicago. He seems like he is an ENFP since he seems to fit the description of an ENFP.

        So, I met him during a drama club audition, which happened during my 2nd semester of my college freshman year. I developed strong feelings for him as I got to know him during drama club. I felt like we both had shared interests and I was able to connect with him. He is such a sweet, optimistic, and a fun loving guy. Everyone loves being around him and he has a huge friend group.

        One problem is I felt little of jealous of Mutaz when I saw him dating someone else. It is soo stupid of me. I am only his friend. Also we are both of different religions since he is a Muslim and I am a devout Catholic so an interfaith relationship won't work out since they are short lived.

        I felt like the whole world was falling apart because I can't be the one for Mutaz and he is taken. I was sad when I saw how they two happily joke around with each other and made deep connections with each other and things can never be that way between me and him. I felt soo anxious and worried about this that I lost my sleep over this. Is it normal to feel this way? Is there anything wrong with me?

        I also miss seeing him everyday ever since I moved to Houston. He also misses me and told me that he will never stop being my friend.

        Because of this, I also feel like I will end up in an arranged marriage . I will never find the guy I am looking for and remain single forever. My parents will just marry me off to some stranger and expect me to be a servant for him and his family.I feel like that is my fate.

        I feel like I never ever deserved to be with someone as awesome as him because I am a devout Catholic, because I was born in India, and because I have an autistic brother. All I deserve is to be chopped into pieces and fed to the hyenas because I wanted to be with an awesome ENFP guy like him and have a love marriage.

        I even wish that I was never myself so things could have worked out better. I am ashamed of being who I am. I wish I was someone else.

        Sometimes I felt like one of the unluckiest girl in the world because I can't be with an awesome ENFP guy like him. My heart realized this and learned this bitter lesson.

        I came to the conclusion that no ENFP guy will ever want to pursue a girl like me. I don't deserve to be pursued by an ENFP guy. Anyways a relationship with an ENFP will be short-lived and most likely end in divorce in the future.

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        Lonisha 4 months ago

        I took a personality test a month ago and found out that I was INFJ but I am not for sure if it is accurate.

        So things have been crazy so far for me. I had to move from Chicago,IL to Houston,TX since my dad got a job there. Plus I have to transfer to another college in Houston and will be starting my second year there as a transfer student.

        The thing is, I am very good friends with this awesome guy who I went to college with back in Chicago during my first year of college. He is an ENFP and he does fit the description of an ENFP. I met him during a drama club audition. I got to know him during drama club and I was able to make a connection with him since we had some shared interests. I developed strong feelings for him even though we are only friends. He is such a nice, sweet, optimistic, and a fun loving guy. Everyone loves being around him and he is approachable.

        I miss seeing him everyday ever since I moved to Houston. He also misses me too and assured me that he will never stop being my friend and won't forget me.

        One problem is I felt little of jealous of him when I saw him dating someone else. It is soo stupid of me. I am only his friend. Also we are both of different religions since he is a Muslim and I am a devout Catholic so an interfaith relationship won't work out since they are short lived.

        I felt like the whole world was falling apart because I can't be the one for him and he is already taken. I was sad when I saw how they two happily joke around with each other and made deep connections with each other and things can never be that way between me and him. I felt soo anxious and worried about this that I lost my sleep over this . Is it normal to feel this way? Is there anything wrong with me?

        Because of this, I also feel like I will end up in an arranged marriage. I will never find the guy I am looking for and remain single forever. My parents will just marry me off to some stranger and expect me to be a servant for him and his family. Or I will just end up in a convent. I feel like that is my fate.

        I feel like I never ever deserved to be with an awesome ENFP guy like him because I am a devout Catholic, because I was born in India, and because I take care of my autistic brother. All I deserve is to be chopped into pieces and fed to the hyenas because I wanted to be with someone like him and have a love marriage.

        I even wish that I was never myself so things could have worked out better with him. I am ashamed of being who I am. I wish I was someone else.

        I feel like in general I never ever deserved to be with an awesome ENFP guy like him. Sometimes, I started to feel like I am one of the unluckiest girl in the world because I can't be with an awesome guy like him. I feel this way in my heart. I started to carry this in my mind.I don't think an ENFP guy will ever want to pursue a girl like me and our relationship will be short- lived anyways. There is no way it will ever happen! My heart just learned this bitter lesson.

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        Mom-of 4 months ago

        "I am an INFJ-T & my husband is an ENTJ-T. Just recently found out about each other's personality through MBTI test. We are indeed perfect for each other. I love him to the moon and back. His ideals and dreams really matches mine."

        Sorry about my last post, I meant my husband is an ENFP-T. Anyway, thank you for this. This article made my day. I even showed this article to him. We were both thrilled.

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        Rose 4 months ago

        I'm ina long term relationship with my boyfriend I have known for a while that I am an INFJ but I just convinced him to take the test. He is an ENFP and this describes our relationship perfectly.

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        Anonymous 4 months ago

        I am an INFJ-T & my husband is an ENTJ-T. Just recently found out about each other's personality through MBTI test. We are indeed perfect for each other. I love him to the moon and back. His ideals and dreams really matches mine.

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        Hell no. 4 months ago

        Infj here. I find enfps to be intolerable flakes with low standards. AVOID.

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        Pele 4 months ago

        I am a enfp and I met a lady that is an infj. Everything said here about them is true. We can be together for very long in silence and when we discuss it is as if she is the modt intelligent lady in the world. She knows a little of almost everything. She understands my demon and monstrous dreams that scares me and asures me that it is not strange i am like that. We tend to understand each other and i respect and love her so much. But I am confused about her love because she has not said anything. Her words are ash and soothing at same time. Should i be patient with her? What is your advice?

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        Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

        Excellent. Love to hear that.

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        James 5 months ago

        I am an INFJ and my wife is an ENFP. This sums us up to a tee!

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        Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

        I'm glad you have such a strong sister by your side. That can make all the difference.

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        Mandy 5 months ago

        I am an infj and my sister is an enfp. I can't even begin to describe the connection we have always had. We didn't fight even though we were siblings and only 2 years apart. We shared friends and enjoyed it. She can talk me down fro. The edge of suicide and I make her think in more profound and witty ways. We both know what we have in each other. There is no time depend together that we consider wasted. Even driving her to umc while she's in pain, we still spent 3.5 hours laughing together about the most ridiculous things. I have been misunderstood by everyone my entire life, including my family. But I know there is a reason I was given my sister. She is the reason I am still here today.

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        Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

        Sounds like an excellent pair. ;)

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        Random INTP person 6 months ago

        so, I created these two fictional characters a while ago and decided to take the test for them a year later just to see what they would be just for fun.

        Then, I tried to look up their compatibility just for fun.

        They were an ENFP and INFJ.

        This description is scary accurate to how the characters are in a fictional story I made up for fun.

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        Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

        Word of advice, INFJ likes to be pursued. They can be really awkward putting themselves out there, and it can feel unnatural. Some are better at it than others. They are total unicorns, that is for sure. They definitely enjoy the company of the ENFP. And likely are looking for such a person.

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        ENFP 6 months ago

        I am an ENFP guy with and INFJ fiancee. We have been together for over 10 years. We broke up for about a year early in our relationship. Neither of us had done Myers Briggs test or counseling, we were young and fresh out of bad relationships. We both though, greener grass.... Oh were we wrong.

        In a very INFJ moment she invited me to her house to just hang and be friends again. That lasted about 15 minutes. We were both hungry for that connection again both the physical and mental. No one else we had dated even came close.

        For ENFPs out there missing a connection with an INFJ. I feel for you. It's like tasting 50 year old scotch(if you're into scotch) Then being told they only made 1 bottle you'll have to wait another 50 years. INFJs are luckier, ENFPs are only an 18 year scotch and they made plenty.

        If you're an INFJ wanting(needing) to snag an ENFP it's easy. If they are unaware of the connection, educate them. We adore learning, and new concepts. Break out of your shell for us and make the 1st move. We'll be fascinated. Especially if you are a female INFJ trying to attract a male ENFP.

        Greatness does not equal ease. The INFJ will press you to maturity and responsibility, but you'll find it's to make the creative spontaneity more sustainable, and productive so trust your INFJ, even when you don't want to hear it, let them ground you at times. Trust your ENFJ to do no harm if they really love you they would die a thlusand deaths for you,earn to accept that and not test too much or too harshly. The Heisenberg uncertainty principle pertains to love as well. Be equally ready to run iff on a crazy adventure sith your ENFP, you'll never regret it.

        When you fall onto a rough patch remember, if you are an ENFP with an INFJ, it does not get any better than this. Press in, be open, be honest, and value the rare gift the INFJ is to you as an ENFP. You found the 1%er, the unicorn. Yes she has a spike and she will stick it on your butt cheek, but only when she is scared that you're about to screw up really big and she knows she will fix it for you because she's too in love not to.

        If you are an ENFP that is being pursued (oh lucky you) or in pursuit of an INFJ, don't let them get away!!! Do whatever it takes. If you are an ENFP that is distancing from an INFJ, get your head out of your ass, they are the ONE. Rarely will you even meet one, much less have a 2nd chance at a romance with another one.

        Statistically most of us ENFPs will not end up with an INFJ. Don't even look at mine, I keeel you!

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        Emily gonyou 7 months ago

        WOW!! I recently started dating this guy and I'm an INFJ and he is an ENFP. reading through this, it literally sounds exactly like us! With some of the signs, I read them and I could recall at least five different instances where that characteristic came out between us. I guess, being an INFJ and always being critical of myself, I always worry that people are judging me. Is that something that I need to worry about with an ENFP, or can I be pretty sure that he will be accepting?

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        MR 7 months ago

        I'm a INFJ and my ex childhood girlfriend is a ENFP. Although we are not together anymore we keep in touch and going to movies and coffees.

        She will always be my best friend and I think i will always love her. We can't stand being apart of each other

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        Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

        I am so glad that this resonates with you! It makes me feel good as a writer and a consultant that these hubs jive with people and come off accurate. That's always a plus for me. I hope things continue to go well in your relationship and your endeavors.

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        Aundrea 8 months ago

        Reading through this is like going back through my relationship with my husband and seeing glimpses of our past. This describes us to a T, and makes me smile from the inside out. :) I am the INFJ and he is the ENFP. When we met it was an instant connection and maybe it's the combination of what makes us similar and what makes us different that keeps us harmoniously together. I cracked up when it said that we have tendencies to be hippies because I can totally see that. Haha. Also, the spontaneity thing is right on. I thought that was my mother's influence, but come to find out, it's part of my nature. :) I loved reading through this. It has been a great reminder of all of the good things that I have in our relationship. :)

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        Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

        Thank you! Always love hearing about happy relationships.

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        ezmh93 9 months ago

        I discovered Myers Briggs yesterday and feel like it's the most accurate personality test I've come across. I'm an ENFP and have been with my partner for 5 years. He is an INFJ! Seems like we were pretty fortunate to stumble across each other! I really enjoyed reading this.

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        Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

        I love to hear that! I hope things go well.

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        ENFP 9 months ago

        This is really accurate!!! I am actually dating an INFJ and it is the best relationship I have ever had. It truly does feel like we were made for each other and bring out the best in the others personality.

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        ♥ 9 months ago

        Just found this article after finding out my SO's type. I'm an INFJ, he's an ENFP, and although the whole internet-validating-my-relationship thing is sort of silly, this is actually very accurate. I'd quite like to keep my ENFP forever.

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        Flora 10 months ago

        Thanks for the article. I was wondering whether I was INFJ or ENFP. Turns out I am the one being hyper inside my head! :)

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        Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

        Hmmm... Perhaps I should write a hub on how to find ENFP folk.

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        Mehlol 10 months ago

        I am a male INFJ and the bitter part of adult romance for me is that all of the ENFPs seem to be taken. With two ENFP friends, I feel the connection, I feel more open, like I belong. I just can't take advantage of it.

        Discouraged, but not down for the count, I guess is how I look at it.

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        Aiman Z. 10 months ago

        No wonder me and she have a lot of connection and special bonds. We were kinda close back then, but now on she wanted to make time and focus for herself and her academics. We are still friends, It is okay for me, as long as I know and understad what she want and I believe that she is loyal and still having feelings for me. I really hope that one day we will get back together forever and everrrr when we are ready for the relationships.

        Thankyou for the post.

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        Anonymous 10 months ago

        my INFJ does know i have had some feelings however, my INFJ has never directly told me directly what on their mind.

        Also, knowing the more i push about it the more my INFJ will become withdrawn. So i never really brought up the matter again. Hence never directly asked my INFJ if any feelings are present.

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        Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

        Have you ever talked about this to your friend? INFJ are good at masking themselves, whether they realize it or not.

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        Anonymous 10 months ago

        I am an ENFP and i have a INFJ friend for 6 years now. I totally could relate to what you said about the ENFP as that's what i feel all the time.

        However, it can be pretty hard to read my INFJ as idk what's on their mind. Also my INFJ sees our friendship as platonic although as an ENFP i feel there can be so much more to it.

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        Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

        Glad to be of service!

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        Paul 11 months ago

        I'm an ENFP and my girlfriend of 4yrs, baby momma, soon to be wife, is as an INFJ. We always knew that we were a perfect match for each other. Everything that this article says is totaly on point especially the esp part. Unbelievable!

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        Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

        Good luck for your journey in finding the right mate! Always remember to love yourself.

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        Justin 11 months ago

        Well I am an ENFP and have been looking for someone to date\marry and this all looks great. Thanks for writing this article because now I know where I might start...and hopefully end in a relationship. This is the kind of connection I have always felt was out there somewhere and possible, but never quite experienced it. Thanks!

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        SkipINFJ 12 months ago

        Idealistically, I believe I'd want to befriend/date another INFJ, particularly one who understands personality psychology and engages it. I would shy away from Thinkers and Perceivers in general. Just the fact that ENTP is classified as "The Debater" is a red flag for me. It's a personality I might engage for a particular task, but not one I think I'd enjoy meaningful conversation with. Age could have something to do with it. At 55, my tastes have changed and many things have mellowed and/or continue to mellow. I've become very protective of my space and energy because I am more aware of its value. I need to be with people I can exchange good energy with, not someone who will drain me and then attempt to "save me" by getting me "out there" with this crowd or that one.

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        You would definitely be the oddball here, but that's okay. An oddball INFJ is probably what we all need! Who would you say you prefer and why? How do you feel about an ENTP?

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        Hmmm... interesting. This hub has actually been taken over by the Hub Pages editing staff. I might give myself a reminder to read through it and see if they might have gotten confused while editing.

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        SkipINFJ 12 months ago

        This isn't the first resource I've read stating that INFJs and ENFPs are "perfect for each other." I'm a definite INFJ, and in my personal history, there is no type that is more challenging for me to be around than an ENFP. It is so much work and so draining that I could not imagine dating an ENFP. Apparently, I'm the oddball here, but that unusual for me.

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        CC 12 months ago

        Thanks for the post/article but can you pleeeeassseeee attend to the grammatical errors? This text is replete with errors and it detracts from the writer's credibility. Sorry, just want you to have a chance at gaining a wider following!

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        Wow. You have an epic romance going on here. You guys are falling in love across borders, religions, I assume just about everything. I really hope it all works out for you.

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        Francesca 12 months ago

        Thank you for the great post. Im an ENFP and my bf is INFJ. And the description fits us really well. He is an spontaneous INFJ and im an ENFP who do value my alone time.

        True enough, we are on an LDR. I live in the Philippines and he lives in Paris. We both created our lives separately before we met. We have our own professions and different religions. Its true INFJ craves for information, though he may be conservative with religion - i dont think so too! Our future plans together, involves travelling and living away from our respective countries - I know we will make ends meet with God's support. :)

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        Ah, I'm so glad this resonated with you. Best of luck to you!

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        Ed 12 months ago

        Im an INFJ gay male and my boyfriend is an ENFP and this is totally us to the T! This was such a pleasure to read and even made me laugh when I could think of specific events that correlated to some of the examples.

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        HeroineOlympus 14 months ago

        I´m myself an INFJ with an ENFP boyfriend and I´m really happy about all these informations. I just wanted to say thank you.

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        Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

        1. INFJ and ENFP are dominated by intuition. There are four functions each personality gets, and each get weighted a little more differently. This is what defines the personality, essentially. INFJ and ENFP are not the only personalities dominated by intuition -- so are INTJ and ENTP. INFJ and ENFP are the only intuitive based personalities guided by feeling. This can make them kind of weird and insightful about people and more abstract ideas. These two connect really well because of this dynamic.

        2. Extroversion and introversion are not as important when it comes to chemistry as the functions themselves. If you put any people together with a similar dominate function, this will be helpful to chemistry -- and INFJ and ENFP are in that category. Also, they have the same temperament, they come from the NF family along with the ENFJ and INFP. The way they process information and the flow of it is quite natural to them and that can make for some automatic chemistry.

        3. There are other types that get along this well with the INFJ. The next best would be ENTP which also is dominated by extroverted intuition, like the ENFP. INFJ also does well with those in the same temperament, INFP and ENFJ. There is a theory that an ISTJ could have a similar effect since it technically is an upside down ENFP -- it has all the same functions, but is backwards in its order.

        4. ENFP will need time for introspection. It is a loud personality and loves all the action around it -- but it does need time to be by itself and think, mull over thoughts, and do what might look more like introverted habits. It especially needs time to think by itself to process its emotions.

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        Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

        @phoebe

        Have you tried marital counseling with your husband or addressed the problems with him? Divorce isn't easy to process, and will be a lot more work than you are expecting. You may have a great connection with this person, but it won't be an easy road. There will be difficulty. Focus on what needs to happen in your marriage, why you married in the first place, and what you can do to reconcile it.

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        Phoebe 14 months ago

        I have just read this personality thing since my daughter did it and it is so accurate. I'm an ENFP. My husband is completely opposite- this is no surprize to me as we have hit heads walls etc our entire marriage. I've become very submissive as its the only way to have peace and some joy. Lately though I'm like trying to fill myself with something, anything to feel alive. I have recently started a new job were I am completely happy. That's just the beginning. One of my work colleages hit me like a firework -as I heard his voice or heard footsteps before I knew it was him - my insides would just egnight to nearly explode. He was not my usual type on the outside and to be honest he didn't even look at me when I was first introduced. He trained me a fair bit for my new position. The first day I feel training i was hopping we'd get along ..but not expect how fast and ridiculously well we did get on. I was so open, more than usual., to him straight away, my dirty humour was out to play and he reciprocated straight away - we both love and appreciate music and even sang in front of each other - underneath this egnighting firework thing was going on for me . This quick deep connection has not happened to me since I was single about 30 years ago. I found him so attractive, physically but his beautiful soft nature just melted me away. I didn't want to admit it but I started to fall for him. I wanted to believe we could be the greatest of friends. The connection was so magnetic. He happened to ask me what personality I was and he told me his. I had not puto alot into it as just wasn't thinking like that at that time - but as weeks went on our almost spell like attraction just grew . So I read the ENFP and INFJ and it was wow to say the least. I can see how we are so connected and I do feel like writing just slot right in with each other. It makes sence..the strongest of connection that we have. He definatly doesn't give away as much as me but he has told me he thinks and feels the same. I have a partner though and I do have that strongly loyal streak. I'm not happy- and haven't been for a long time and neither has my husband. My work colleages is single. Such a beautiful man. Nothing has happened except words and 2 hugs which I was so content with. It's not a fair situation for him or my husband. I'm hoping somehow I can keep a great friendship with my work colleage and not real happy about staying with my husband. Ifor I could just pick up and go and follow my heart - I would go start a new life, date my work colleage and experience a whole new level of love and acceptance . I do think we would make a perfect pairing EFNP AND INFJ

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        hikarinokishi 14 months ago

        I didn't realize that most people didn't know about the- for lack of a better word- infamous eyes. I have many friends even though I am 81% introverted, and I am an INFJ. I really didn't expect to be an extrovert but at the same time I figured it would be close to the middle because I tend to put on a mask of extroverted-ness when I am in public. I do have a few questions, though.

        Why is it that INFJs and ENFPs have such strong intuitions?

        Why do we get along so well even though one of is is an extrovert and one of us is an introvert?

        Are there other types that get along this well with the INFJ?

        I also didn't quite understand what you meant by the ENFPs needing to have quiet. Did you mean that they needed the quiet of thinking in your brain instead of thinking out loud?

        And also thank you very much for writing this post. It was a very eye-opening experience.

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        Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago

        Most people are oblivious to the INFJ and how it uses its eyes. I think the INFJ type have it down to look at something without getting caught, so they know when someone else has been caught. ENFP are magical, and the good news is there are more of them than there are of you. You have better odds to find another ENFP. Also, you can still have a decent connection even if you are not dating. Enjoy it for what it is! ENFP do tend to move on better than INFJ.

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        Anonymous 15 months ago

        I read this and immediately thought of someone who I knew I had a connection with, he obviously knew before I did that there was a connection like this, I'm an INFJ and I'm pretty sure he's an ENFP... It took me a really long time to understand what was going on between us but once I did it was like this... but question... He was into all sports, like REALLY into them... and do ENFPs move on easily from someone they connect with? I now know how much I miss the connection and I didn't realize until it was almost over how great it was... At first I don't know why I didn't see it, but it was more that apparent that he saw it... Would the INFJ feel the ENFP staring? I know I did MULTIPLE times... I have so many questions I would love for any answers... Honestly I just want this relationship back tbh...

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        @anonmous

        Good luck to you! Life is a beautiful journey.

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        anomous 16 months ago

        Thank you for your feedback SerenityHalo! All is helpful at this point :]

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        @Sady93

        Glad this helped! Hopefully it gives you some insight on the relationship and what can make it even greater.

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        Sady93 16 months ago

        I met my husband almost 25 years ago and we've been married for 23 of them. Certain things he does drives me nuts so I have been looking around for ways to motive or accept the differences we have. He's a great person and I would absolutely call him my best friend. We connected instantaneously when we met.

        I recently did the Meyers Briggs and found out I was an INFJ which describes me extremely accurately. I bugged him for weeks to do Meyers Briggs and he finally did - to find out he was an ENFP. While we have had our struggles over the years, all the descriptions of compatibility listed here represent us and our relationship. Our kids will be grown and out of the nest in the next 5 years and we are looking forward to sharing adventures (which I plan and he enhances) because when we are together, we are like a couple of kids playing on the playground.

        I really appreciated seeing this and reminding myself that while we are different, we have a connection I share with very few people.

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        @May

        Glad to be of help!

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        May 16 months ago

        Wow! I'm an ENFP and met an INFJ. This is crazy accurate! It took him 2 months to ask me out but we've been together for more than a year now. More stuff make sense now too! The whole numbered list was so accurate. Great article!

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        Glad to know you have found someone that makes you happy! ENFP + INFJ is one of the best combinations out there. Period.

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        @anonomous

        All of this really makes sense and are reasonable concerns. ENFP and INFJ do instantly click, but I find it's hard to know what is going on because it is so different. ENFP is more likely to take charge, and an INFJ does struggle to take charge -- and that's okay. It is one of the more introspective personalities, so it can freeze up if taking charge which is super uncomfortable. I say keep interacting with the supposed ENFP and see what happens, but don't hold your hopes up to high too soon. If you can spend time one on one, that would help. Even if it's just something really light hearted.

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        @Anastassja Tania

        I am so glad this made you feel at home! That makes writing these hubs worth it.

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        Anastassja Tania 16 months ago

        i am an INFJ and feels like 100% home when reading this!!

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        anonomous 17 months ago

        I'm an INFJ female and I've been friends with this guy for almost a year now, and we instantly clicked. I am fairly certain he is an ENFP from what I have read about each of the personality types. I really like him, but I feel trapped because I am not one to be confident and initiate too much. Whenever we talk, however, it's so natural and easy. We have a lot in common and share the same sense of humor.

        I just don't know if he is just being nice to me like he does so many people, or if he likes me back. He is so friendly that whenever we see each other, so many people go up to talk to him, and he doesn't walk up to me to start a conversation with me. But when I go up to him, I feel like we could talk forever.

        I read on this website that when an ENFP is interested, he will make intense eye contact and smile a lot, which he does. A lot. And I've caught him glancing at me a few times. And he has opened up to me about some things in his past, but I don't want to get that confused with the INFJ just being an approachable person.

        I tend to overthink things, so I just don't know if he could possibly feel the same way back or if I'm just crazy and reading too much into it. This website has been really accurate with my personality type, so I'm hoping for some good advise as to whether or not he could like me back...

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        Andrea Lawrence 18 months ago from Chicago

        @Wayne

        Congrats! The magic is real and you know it. :)

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        Wayne 18 months ago

        I'm an ENFP and I met an INFJ girl about a month ago.

        We connected the moment we first talked , and everything has been so magical! We just happen to stumble upon this article around the same time. and we both found it incredibly accurate. This has been the best 1st month EVER!

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        Andrea Lawrence 18 months ago from Chicago

        @Amanda Hill

        I'm glad it is comforting!

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        Momo 18 months ago

        I'm the most happy and lucky girl in the world, because I'm ENFP and my fiance is INFJ....And, yes, we are best friend, and lovers, and everything, it's like magic.

        Nobody in the world can understand me like my INFJ, and he always says the same about me. We are...like sun and mon, or like the ying and yang. I really love him, he's the most beautifull person in the world...

        I want to stay with my INFJ forever.

        And...you, INFJ...you are amazing people!!!

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        Amanda Hill 18 months ago

        This is so accurate, it's comforting. I'm an INFJ being pursued by a ENFP

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        Andrea Lawrence 18 months ago from Chicago

        @riddlemethis33

        I agree with this. And oh how nice it would be to be psychic.

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        riddlemethis33 18 months ago

        The INFJ description is exactly correct!! One thing. INFJ's need to watch out for this. Idealizing. No two personality types are perfect for each other. No one is perfect.

        INFJ's have a strong (Ni)Fe combination, I think it's one reason why our personality type feels misunderstood. We get into peoples heads and emotions/motivations very easily. I've been called a psychic (we aren't).

        I have met an ENFP also a J who is equal on the intuition level. It isn't a perfect friendship- but they get me more then any other type. The next MBTI who get an INFJ is INFP AND INTJ. I think the most important part of the ENFP and INFJ relationship is if they are mature in minor functions.

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        Geb 18 months ago

        Great thank youn so much what you wrote is just so perfect. I can imagine having a relationship like that friendship or more i just adore the idea of having this soul connection with someone like infj enfp relationship

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        Audrey 18 months ago

        I'm an enfp and my best friend of many years is an infj. This is great!! It's also very accurate for the platonic relationships. We are actually so close that our mothers have adopted us as sisters and let us live at each other's houses for extended periods of time. We actually call each other's mothers mom because it's easier and more natural than formal greetings. My infj even graciously refrained from killing me where I stood when I moved into her house during a fight with my family without telling her. She is without a doubt my platonic soul mate

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        Meg 18 months ago

        I was probably the luckiest person alive cause my boyfriend is ENFP and I am INFJ. And yes, we are soulmates

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        grace 19 months ago

        I'm sure she is interested, and You probably do have a connection, but she is most likely not ready to do anything about that connection and just wants to keep it fun and simple.Even though she is interested, it could just be as a distraction from the sadness she feels over her divorce. She still probably is not ready for a steady relationship, but likes being able to have a little fun(like giving you a kiss) but it is just lighthearted. I wouldn't expect anything too serious @Paul

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        Andrea Lawrence 19 months ago from Chicago

        @paul

        I still think there's a spark to a degree. She's not ready for something serious yet.

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        Paul 19 months ago

        I've been very respectful of what she has said and believe what she said but it was very confusing to me to get the "I'm interested" signals only to get a verbal I'm not ready. Heck she even stole a kiss from me right as we parted ways. So my plan was just to be light, positive and friendly and carry on with my life like normal. I was just curious if there was a connection or I was just seeing what I wanted to see. @Grace

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        Andrea Lawrence 19 months ago from Chicago

        @Grace

        I agree with this.

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        grace 19 months ago

        I am enfp woman! If it was me I would probably just be trying to not hurt your feelings. Trust her when she says she isn't ready because if you push harder it'll make her want you less! Just stay positive and nice and eventually she may be ready but it will be on her terms. @Paul

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        Andrea Lawrence 19 months ago from Chicago

        @Paul

        Likely there was a connection. The other person might be unsure of what they want at this time since they are coming out of a relationship. Good news is that they are still figuring things out in regards to you and don't want to give you a hard "no" at this point, so just keep things positive and friendly.

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        Paul 19 months ago

        Can an ENFP help clear this up for me. I'm an INFJ and have known this ENFJ woman for a long time and have been great friends. It's like I have the the INFJ me and a trapped person on the inside. It's only around her that this inner me is able to be released. Any ways, we don't live near each other but I recently went to see her on her birthday. We planned on only being out for 3 hours in the evening that turned into 5 before everything was closed down and I decided we should call it an evening. Well, my gut feeling said she was attracted to me and I logically saw all the signs she was but with her being an ENFP and being a happy go lucky people pleaser I am not sure if what I felt and saw is what she was feeling. So I decided to let her know up front I was attracted to her and her reply was she was going through a divorce and wasn't ready for any new relationship which makes perfect sense but I'm still lost to as if the attraction was truly there on her part or if it was just me seeing what I wanted to see.

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        schticklet 20 months ago

        I just remembered my best friend or 13 years is an ENFP. Wow, I feel like it was destiny that brought us together.

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        schticklet 20 months ago

        I'm an INFJ, and this article describes in great detail my ideal relationship.

        I'm hopeful I can find a person like the one described here, friend or beau.

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        Andrea Lawrence 23 months ago from Chicago

        @Anonym

        What you are describing is spontaneous.

        Here is the definition:

        adjective: spontaneous

        performed or occurring as a result of a sudden inner impulse or inclination and without premeditation or external stimulus.

        The INFJ is guided more by that than sensory information. Spontaneity doesn't mean there isn't a purpose or connection, it's when it seems to appear without preliminary causation. This is not how dominate sensors think at all.

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        Anonym 23 months ago

        I think what you call the INFJ's spontanity isn't exactlay that.

        I am an INFJ, and, even though it may look like, what I do isn't being spontanous. It's creating connections/relations on so many levels in a split second that it may look spontanous and random. But there is a connection. :)

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