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Why Gemini and Aquarius Make a Steamy Match

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.


Basic astrology finds compatibility when partners are the same sign. I believe you can find any match successful in the natural world. You can also find every failed combination under the sun. Just because you are both the same sign, doesn't mean you will be without failure and every match takes hard work.

Gemini and Aquarius are a powerful force. Wind signs are full of intelligence, wit, wisdom, loquaciousness, and being weird. They also have the benefit of being at different sides of the year—the Gemini is the 3rd house, and Aquarius is the 11th. Gemini is in May and June, Aquarius is January and February—spring meets winter.

Both are futuristic signs. They may struggle to see themselves outside of friendship—both are aided in relationships with a bit of pizzazz. Wind signs like friendships and creating them, so setting a romantic spark might not be their gut instinct. However, these two complement each other like a sheep and static electricity.

This relationship is like Wikipedia mixing up with an alien levitating library.

Personality Traits of Gemini and Aquarius


Sarcasm, "the yang," flirtation, humor, belligerence, busy-energy, highs and lows, nervous energy, communication driven, extroversion, marathon thoughts, refreshing, need to change direction, cheerful, multi-talented, brash, spontaneous, conversationalists, competitive, spendthrift, manic, abrupt, diligent, strong leader, introspective, analytical, mover and shaker.


Innovative, "the yin," freedom-seeker, existential, eccentric, exotic even, introversion, fast-paced to the point of appearing aloof, chill, calm , peaceful, graceful, creative, word excellence, analytical, constant thought, daydreamer, well versed, authentic, endearing, sarcastic, quirky, lovable, random, genius, laughter, imaginative, cerebral, intuition, wordsmiths, open-minded, curious.


Learn to Appreciate (and Benefit From) Your Differences

There is so much wind in this pairing, that at times one or both need to slow down and pause. Meditation and prayer would benefit both. They like talking, but sometimes need to listen, or take introspective breaks from each other. The constant talking and focus on the throat chakra can prevent other chakras from growing or being balanced.

These two appear strongly impartial, but they are both powerfully emotional. Aquarius builds, and builds, and builds with absorbing water (emotions) until it overflows. Gemini's emotions come from balance—Gemini is known for having duality, and that's because it processes information in various sectors, spitting out emotions from different corners—sometimes hot, hot, hot and sometimes chill. Gemini should not go under the illusion of thinking it only reveals itself in an impartial or unemotional way. A smart emotional reader will be able to see much more out of a Gemini.

Thought is backed by our emotions, so no sign is without a certain emotional texture. What's nice about these two and how they will relate is both can understand building upon emotion. Aquarius is willing to investigate interesting people, and Gemini with more than one side, having more dimension than most—will charm Aquarius. They'll end up asking questions to themselves about why Gemini is functioning the way they are. Gemini will treasure Aquarius—they will love its calm, wise demeanor. They also are big hearts for Aquarius to lean on when Aquarius has an inevitable blowout. The water bearer image is true—Aquarius will eventually pour out an impressive amount of emotion, usually under crisis, extreme concern, or unrelenting change.

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Tips for Navigating Your Relationship

Be Careful With Competition

Aquarius and Gemini both desire to be accomplished. They want to take on the world in some way or another. Gemini should be careful not to overwhelm Aquarius with competition. Gemini, in my opinion, is much more competitive and could overshoot the Aquarius by constantly wanting to be aggressive. Aquarius is chill and doesn't care about competition as much. Also, if you are constantly thinking about competition you are not focusing on developing your emotional connection, you're not putting yourself out there in a vulnerable way—which both of you need to do to get the momentum going. Libra offers more vulnerability than other wind signs.

Explore Ideas Together

The two enjoy exploring ideas to the full extent. Aquarius will go to the depth of an idea; Gemini will master each idea. Where they are probably going to connect well is through talking. Problem: Aquarius can detach from their emotions in conversation. It can be difficult for the two to latch to each other. They are both freedom lovers, and so it can be weird to have both want to fully commit to each other. To get over the platonic parts, focus on how you are feeling and speak from there, try new things don't get stuck in a routine, explore creativity for emotions and emotional growth, go on adventures.

Gemini, in my opinion, will be more comfortable initiating. Aquarius will do so on its own terms, but I think Aquarius, especially women, will want you to initiate so they can decide what to do with you. They don't like doing both roles unless they have to, and you would have to be worth it for them to live both in a yang and yin state. Gemini, with its duality, could probably flip from yin to yang much easier. Aquarius will fall for Gemini's leadership and capacity for pulling up ideas. I feel like Gemini is what makes the flowers pop up from the ground, and Aquarius finds that exciting—like—wow! I didn't know those flowers existed or could exist, and now I can think about them and what they really mean, thank you Gemini for bringing up these interesting ideas.

Honesty Is Important

Gemini likes Aquarius because Aquarius as the winter sign helps create a clean slate for Gemini. No, Aquarius isn't a clean freak sign—turn to the Virgo for that. But Aquarius is calm, chill, loving, thoughtful—and this can soften Gemini's busy nature to bring up more flowers, noise, and insanity than necessary. Of course, Aquarius also brings up its own insanity, but it comes from a different place. Aquarius has a great desire for the world to be authentic, and therefore they delve deeply into what is the truth, oddly making them come off fringe or out of the norm. Many people don't care about truth to this degree, nor understand the vibe Aquarius is creating by this focus on truth.

Be Yourselves

Both can totally be their selves around the other. This is a great thing since both often feel held back for different reasons—because they are too much for others, feel misunderstood, or delve into less socially acceptable ideas. It's hard for either to really, honestly out weird the other. But there is continual fascination since both have strong, beautiful minds ... but with different motivations.


Tips for a Lasting Relationship

Do not try to get into the other person's psyche and try to change the internal process of your partner. Probably good advice for any relationship—but for you two, you must know the other person is too complicated for you to nurture in this way. You could easily get lost in the other person's mind, which is why you like the conversations -- but there is no beginning, middle, or end to your thoughts. You can't contain either; so it won't be as easy to compress and understand as others. You have constant thought. Gemini cannot turn Aquarius into a Gemini and Aquarius cannot turn Gemini into an Aquarius. This is important because you need to accept the genius of the other person, it is not like you, but still highly effective and often capable of reaching the same conclusions. Honestly, this is why the two of you are so compatible to begin with.

Gemini will have more of a temper being in the early part of the zodiac. Be careful not to lose your voice or get too hefty into a shouting match with Aquarius who doesn't operate that way. Aquarius can detach and understand that's you, and they don't need to be threatened by you. But if you push an Aquarius too much with anger—the Aquarius will leave out of self-protection. Aquarius remember to initiate with your Gemini. They love giving you freedom, but your capacity to go off the grid is too great. Make sure to check in with your partner, let them know how you feel, why you like them, and that you have ideas for the relationship. Gemini will appreciate your efforts.


Double D on August 11, 2020:

Gemini female here who recently dated an Aquarius (male). I was completely taken off guard by him. He didn’t show any signs of interest in a romantic way ( I think it was to protect himself because he had an interesting relationship with his biological mother; he was adopted by other family members and quite frankly had an affluent childhood). After spending time with him, he decided to tell me he was in love with me. I learned that he has trust issues and he never really opened up to anyone before. He Felt comfortable speaking with me and we connected more on a spiritual level. We tried dating but the relationship lasted only a week. He said that it was terrifying because he found himself thinking too much with his heart (therefore he was losing control of himself). This experience was definitely a first but I enjoyed the time we had together. I pray that he has peace and allows himself to open up to love

Ashlee on August 05, 2020:

Have been dating an aqua man for about 5 months now, we were work colleagues for over two years and I had a major crush but I thought he never even noticed me. Once he left for a new job about a month later matched me on a dating app and started talking - and here we are. We work so well together and I’ve never had a connection like this with someone before, but he leaves me so confused as he can be so lovely and say the sweetest things to me but also never truely talks about his feelings... he told me he was telling people I was his girlfriend and I reacted badly as I was shocked and said he needed to formally ask as I had no idea - and that a relationship is a commitment.. it’s been a month now and he said he’d “think about it” it hasn’t changed anything between us but now I’m even more confused about where I stand... I’m so in love with him and just want to make things official but I’m scared I’ve ruined it

Gemini man on a Lover's quest on May 27, 2020:

I am a gemini man fully into my aquarius partner. She is everything I ever wanted to find in a woman.

This has been one huge challenging and wonderful adventure to figure her and me out. Depending on the aquarius past and background you will need a level of patiente and endurance that very few people have. And be motivated to study, reflect and understand your aqua partner and yourself, which is highly fascinating and interesting for a gemini :) This article sums it up very nicely! Even when your aqua person of interest or partner disapears and is detached. It is most likely not because of you. Give him/her space, do your own thing and respectfully show your understanding. Aquarians just need that freedom and will appreciate it and will show love in such charming and lovely ways. Stay strong and grounded in your character. Be confident. For me, it was totally worth it! A love story of legends :)

The connection between us is incredible. This was meant to be. I have found my soul mate and partner for this lifetime in her. We will walk this path together...

Gemini on April 04, 2020:

ive been dating my aqua man for two months now. at first I thought the dates were really awkward because he was so quiet and didnt show much emotion, and for me being a gemini I expected a lot more but was disappoint but I still gave it a shot.

we still went out and hung out it was fine but I still was confused if he even likes me. I started being sad and insecure, only making things more complicated for myself.

I started reading articles like these to learn how an aqua man functions. I learnt to be more patient and give him his alone time. like not caring about how late he texts and giving him the chance to text me first. And trust me it works. also not seeing him like every other day made him miss me more and show more emotions. He finally asked me to be his girlfriend! :)

Ukulelesbian on March 26, 2020:

I'm a gemini woman and the girl I like is an aquarius woman!!! I really hope it works out cause she's incredible!!!!

Lover on March 07, 2020:

I’m aquarious woman and he’s a Gemini man and everything is so true! I love this man so much with all my heart and soul. I had relationship before even one with another Gemini man but for the first time in my life I can really feel my heart for a man. I am not used to these feelings so I am worried I am being too shy and cold whhile inside I am burning for him. I am trying to tell him how I feel more I hope it is enough for him to feel it that I love him this much!

none of your bizz on December 25, 2019:

Hi i have a crush on this boy and he is a Aquarius hes so nice and caring towards me. I have had a crush on him before and i told him bout he turned me down :( . But my teacher sat him next to me and now he is really nice. Once i keeped on calming him a girl in a jokey way then i called his friend one then he told his friend about it but little did he know that his friend was gonna to come to me and start hitting me and i got upset, he seen that i was sad so he came up to me but before he spoke i told him that it wasn't cool that he got his friend to come and hit me and he said he didn't. Then i ran into the toilet and started to cry and when i came out he went to speak to me a teacher told him to go back into class. when i had to back in he said he was sorry and he told me not to tell of carter and i asked why and he said he didnt want carter to get in trouble and i said i loved how he didnt care that he hit me and he said he cared about me the we both said sorry now we are friends :)

Xab on December 22, 2019:

I’m an Aquarius woman and I incredibly love my rude Gemini.

Gemini mira on November 12, 2019:

Currently dating an aqua man and he is really mysterious that keeps me interested.. It feels like i wantd to know more about him each n everyday but i just can't figure him he can be detached at times but i dont have a problem with it since i wanted thesame. Like i want my personal space sometimes.. Everything is harmonious with this man. I feel like i can trust him too so i hope this will work out

Steven on September 25, 2019: Gemini and my wife is Aquarius my wife had left me because of my fault will she come back or not plzzz tell me

Ruby on August 11, 2019:

Hey i am a geminian...struggling with the mindset of my aqua man...i know and understand evrythng...but Can i know wat am i supposed to think when my aqua man goes off the grid..jst the next day after we hook up..and comes up with something rude wen im jst trying to make a conversation....okay wat shud i be thinking whilst giving him his space...wat is he even thinking???

lydia on July 03, 2019:

hi Im Aquarius my husband is Gemini we being married for 8 years everything you said is true. thanks for the information

Alicia on July 01, 2019:

Hi im a Gemini woman with an Aquarius man and this could not be more true. I definitely agree the communication and trust is a must as the detachment and going off the grid of the Aquarius can be difficult for me as a Gemini as I’m full of emotions and in need of constant communication.

Definitely a good read, I agree with almost all that I read.

Danny on March 14, 2019:

Nice one!

i really love this, i am a Gemini and into relationship with an Aquarius. part of what i read are great why some are still to exist within me which i have been observing . Kudos to you!

Vincent Eduvie on February 16, 2019:

I need the compatibility analysis between Gemini and Libra....

Ruffy on November 17, 2018:

I am Gemini guy, into an acquarius female all the way from college days, she is all I ever wanted and I call her my perfect halve, soon to get married.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2018:

Good luck in your endeavors!

casko on September 03, 2018:

damn why do i feel this horoscopes are true af

QueenVictorious on August 17, 2018:

Hola! Gemini Woman here(6/19). Yes I am with an Aqua Man(1/21). I felt him(Spiritually) before we met (Physically) he choose to meet on his Bday. I was like ok!!!!! What were the first words I said to him well ? What y'all think? Hello Gemini Woman here!!!!! Ok Give up??!!! As he was walking up the stairs to me I blurted out . When we getting married???

Michelle on July 10, 2018:

Just started dating an Aquarius man....holy crow. So intense. I’ve always been with either Sagittarius or Capricorn guys and this new aqua man is a totally new and exciting experience. Your synopsis has been accurate in my experience as a Gemini woman so far

Gemini on May 27, 2018:

I am a Gemini female, with an Aquarius male and so much you mentioned is very true.

Our connection is brilliant, but they are def times where we both feel detached. Especially when we aren’t physically around each other. However, as soon as we are in each others presence it is the most peaceful and fulfilling feeling ever. I adore my Aquarius man and I am still learning so much about him.

Aquarian baby on March 27, 2018:

Well, He never appreciated my efforts!! Parted our ways

Aqua213 on January 14, 2018:

Very impressive!!!

Rial22 on January 07, 2018:

Well, I'm a Gemini woman who has dated 3 Aquarius men and am in a relationship with one now. I have a mom, 2 year old aqua girl, and brother who are all Aquarius. What can I say? I can't get enough of them.

I will say I have noticed that I can be emotionally overwhelming for them at times. Also I am genuine source of support and encouragement for when my aqua man is down. I struggle with the "disappearing act" that they pull, though. It is important that communication and trust is solid, so that the Gemini does not feel insecure or have wandering thoughts when the aqua disappears. Other than that, the connection is amazong, the chemistry and attraction is amazing. It even can become as if gem and aqua can feel one another even when they're apart.

Pretty on December 10, 2017:

Im a gemini woman and have an aquarius male friend whom I visited on a vacation. There was so much chemistry between the two of us, got along very well. Its like we could read each ither's minds. The connection was satisfactory...we could talk for long hours and be silent for a long time without feeling awkward. It was just out of this world but its a bit scary to see what could happen if things escalated. Aquarius is very sweet, wise and caring...gentle too.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 18, 2017:

I have to admit, being an Aquarius who was into Scorpio relationships... switching over to a Taurus-Gemini cusp has been life changing. Much more Gemini in my opinion since he loves to communicate.

Cindy on October 04, 2017:

I'm an Aquarius woman (with Gemini rising and Scorpio moon). I have always adored Geminis, from my Grandmother to my youngest nephew, from Bob Dylan to my uncle Bob (My Dad's brother), from the drummer in my old band to my physical therapy assistant who does my water therapy. I adore them all. I don't think I've ever met one I didn't absolutely love. If I found one I fell for, I would run away with a Gemini man in a heartbeat. And, sail off together to the ends of the Earth, on wild and mad adventures in time.

Your video is marvelous by the way, and I love your style! You could definitely be my best friend...

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2017:

I'm glad you were able to read through this and glean from it. We need more Gemini here commenting.

Glo! on July 24, 2017:

I really like the way you just Simplify the topics you be speaking on as you read. I feel very endowed with knowledge afterwards. I'M A Gemini.

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