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Pisces and Cancer Compatibility
Cancer is a crab, and Pisces is a fish. They both belong near and in water. They see the world in different ways—through their sensitivities, intuition, and emotions. So what do you get when these water elements meet?
Pisces and Cancer fit each other like tailor-made gloves. Cancer—who is all about emotional expression, moodiness, and the currents—wants to express the fullness of love and wears its heart on its sleeve.
Pisces—the wisest of the zodiac, being in the final house—is all about unconditional love. Pisces has the power to bring about miracles and has a mentoring instinct. Cancer will appreciate Pisces' wisdom.
The energies these two signs offer will match well. Cancer will enjoy having someone who gives them the affection they crave. Cancer requires adoration more than any other sign, except maybe Leo's ego. Pisces will enjoy how much they can be loved by Cancer because Pisces wants to see and experience love—and Cancer wants to express it. This creates a positive current of give-and-take energy.
Tips for Pisces-Cancer Relationships
Find Ways to Manage Your Moodiness
It can be tough having two water signs date each other, because they tend to get moody and take it out on each other. Both of you will have to be careful about their moodiness. Remember—you are a team.
The more self-development you undergo, both before getting into a relationship and once you're in one, the better you will be able to navigate through these ups and downs. Try to acknowledge when you're being moody and resist lashing out at your partner.
Cancer needs to open its eyes to its partner's needs. Have your own opinion and don't be afraid of your partner having a different one. It's okay to be stubborn occasionally; I find Cancers to be one of the least stubborn signs, and thereby one of the moodiest because they constantly are changing what they think.
Recognize When Expectations Are Unrealistic
Pisces is a lot like Aquarius in that it wants to explore its creative talents, but Pisces is not pushing so much for rebellion or authenticity—they just want unconditional love. Without it, they're prone to deep mood swings and existential crises; love is what they want, and without it, what's the point of it all? This desire to be doted on can be overwhelming for their partner.
It's okay to have high expectations for love, but it's important to realize when those expectations are unrealistic. It's important for both partners to give and receive love.
These kinds of ideas can either scare Cancer or really charm it. Cancer would love to give their heart and nurture someone out of deep, sad thoughts, but it's critical that Pisces do a little doting in return. Relationships are all about give and take, and with a little work, this is something that Pisces-Cancer relationships excel at.
Be Patient With Each Other
Be comfortable with each other when the other is cranky. It's okay to have bad days. It's okay to cry. Try exploring your emotions together and don't be afraid; you are both in good hands. That said, you must prevent yourself from trying to manipulate your partner just because you're hurting.
Usually, when you are manipulating something, that means you are really wanting love. Be patient with love. Be kind with love. Don't try to make it fit your exact specifications; it just doesn't work that way.
Sometimes water signs need to trust destiny and not get so attached to their particular image of how things should be. Look at fire signs. They know how to balance their wills with reality—and to come out as fierce forces for that reason (even if they can become a little egotistical about it sometimes). Sagittarius, especially, has this lesson down to a tee.
Take Time to Relax and Recharge Together
Water signs are experts at navigating their emotions. They trust their emotions and intuition when they can and are extremely empathic signs. They can often understand others' feelings and pick up on and convey messages without having to use language.
But constantly opening oneself to the emotions of others can be taxing. Oftentimes, water signs prefer quiet company over long conversations, which can be a lot for them to process and leave them feeling drained. Make sure that you and your partner find ways to recharge.
Learn to Set Boundaries
Pisces, be careful not to focus on someone who is narcissistic. You deserve a partner who cares about your needs as much as you care about theirs. Avoid becoming a martyr or punching bag for someone else. A good partner will respect you and allow you to have boundaries.
Because of your tendency to love unconditionally, you may have trouble setting boundaries because you want to give, give, and give. Water elements have a hard time establishing boundaries because they want to flow and boundaries seem counter-intuitive. They aren't; good boundaries allow you to respect yourself and protect yourself from those who only want to take.
Cancer also needs to have boundaries. Sometimes you need to rest instead of exploring the extent of your emotions—give yourself these boundaries so you don't wear yourself out. You want to give in totality, but over time you will tire yourself out. You don't have to give your whole heart in one sitting. Don't eat the elephant in one bite!
Try Meditating to Clear Your Mind
I recommend meditation for water signs to clear the mind. This will help you to develop your intuition and also clear out language so you can harness your empathic abilities without becoming drained by them. This isn't to say you should be afraid of language, but it can muddle things up in your mind more than with other signs.
Air signs can live on language all day long—that's how they operate. Not so for you. As a society, we have become adept at blocking out emotions rather than attempting to understand them. As someone who is deeply in touch with both your own emotions and those of others, this can make your existence all the more confusing.
Having boundaries also helps you to create a relationship that allows both partners to retain their independence. Water signs are big lovers, and sometimes they put so much into it that their relationship ends up being their security blanket, their identity. But co-dependant relationships aren't healthy. Don't let your relationship define who you are.
It's okay to spend time away from your partner, it's okay not to know every minute detail about each other, it's okay to have fights, and it's okay to change over time. In a healthy relationship, you will find ways to grow and change together without losing yourselves in the process.
Cancer and Pisces Balance Each Other
A Cancer-Pisces relationship will do well to lead and follow. Cancer loves to be chased, as does Pisces, but they like leading as well. When this give-and-take element is established, their relationship will be unshakeable. Both signs are sweet and have much more to them than people usually see on the surface.
Cancer will encourage Pisces to pursue its creativity and exercise its intelligence; Pisces will encourage Cancer to express more of itself and to be comfortable with its voice. Pisces can help Cancer find itself—much to Cancer's surprise—because Pisces understands why Cancer has its widespread moods.
The zodiac and the signs themselves are really a lesson and guidebook to love. Ideally, we would all be able to open up our hearts without being afraid, but perhaps Cancer and Pisces are the forerunners we need in society to better understand and unlock our real emotions for ultimate healing.
© 2017 Andrea Lawrence
Malena on July 09, 2020:
So when i was 7. I had a best friend i went to sleepovers every weekend. Her father was seeing a woman who made her technically have a step brother. He had a crush on me, and i did to but didnt want to admit it. Made his dreams come true. We been together for a year now im 23 and he is 22. He would do anything for me. And we do balance each other out but at the same time in a sense bring 'some bad qualities out of eachother. Only because we are so crazy about each other. We were going on a "break" and i was so upset so at 2am i was wrestling in the front yard with him. Lached on to his bags so he couldnt leave. Its a super PASSIONATE relationship. I love my pisces. Hes the only person i want or need in my life. Im just naturslly codependent from just hating to be alone when im suffering from mental illness. Best relationship ive had so far
Erica on June 08, 2020:
I read this whole article and watched the whole video and everything is spot on. I am a pisces and my boyfriend is a cancer and he is the love of my life. I have never fealt so loved, or so cared about, or so insinc with another person. He totally gets me and I him.
Akiva on April 26, 2020:
Hey, I'm a pisces. Never been in a relationship but i found love in a cancer and i came on here for clarity. I dont necessarily believe in this stuff but it helped in giving me guidance.
Water pisces on December 22, 2019:
Hi everyone this is my first time leaving a comment but I’ve been very depressed lately my cousin is hitting and kicking me and I know this is how we’re supposed to tell everyone how good or bad our relationships are but I don’t have a boyfriend or a date because I’m not ready for love yet but maybe some day I will be
Jen on December 11, 2019:
I have Pisces friend but only last week he told me he have feelings for me. I'm a cancer by the way. His ex was my best friend which is a Taurus. Found out just this week that we are doing more than friends. She feel betrayed. I just don't understand because they broke up like June this year and she's pregnant to someone else but she want to get back to her ex. Anyway..I've read this site..and it helps me to understand my Pisces lover. He does like me for being affectionate and intimate. I do like him too. Very easy going. But it's hard to have a good conversation. He doesn't talk much and me too. I found it awkward. And that gives me doubts if this relationship will last.
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Trina on September 17, 2019:
I'm a Pisces woman in a relationship with a cancer man he got so upset because I had somewhere and you tell me what should I do
firstname.lastname@example.org on August 29, 2019:
I am a female cancer and my boyfriend is a pisces and it is wonderful to be around . Where taking it slow because we do not what rush thing and we both end up broken.
Juliet Batan on July 25, 2019:
I'm a cancer woman and my boyfriend is pieces we have a long distance relationship but we both happy even where far away thanks to this...
Piscean baby on May 01, 2019:
I'm a Piscean and my ex was a cancer. We were good as friends, and we dated for a month. I was too much of a pushover and we decided to split. Maybe one day we'll be together again, but definitely not now.
Ozzy on April 26, 2019:
I am a Pisces male and have had two very unpredictable (not in a good way) relationships with two Leo’s. Initially everything would be OK, but long term the Emotional and sexual energy didn’t last and more importantly a lack of empathy and commitment to the understanding one another was not there. Both were decent people but there was a fundamental mismatch that wasn’t apparent early in the relationship.
Now that I am reading about personality types and comparability, so much of this registers with me. As a Pisces I may now look to meet people of complementary signs. What are the advantages of a relationship with a Scorpio vs a Cancer?
Diego Baltazar on April 05, 2019:
Me (Pisces) and My girlfriend (Cancer) ---------------------------------------------------------------
Our relationship is going good so far, we've been dating for almost a month. And this page has help me understand mostly everything about her moods and other things which I notice with her in real life, and me. I hope our relationship gets better/grows more as the hours, days, weeks, months, and years go on for us. And theres another thing which helps me understand why we will be together forever/a long time... (it's premonition dreams).
I love my sweetheart. :)
Soldier of love on November 09, 2018:
I believe in this whole heartedly, My husband is a Pisces and I'm a Cancer. We have been on one hell of a journey with people around us, that are totally against our relationship. I suppose thats because we were surrounded by negative individuals. The day before we met we made a decision to break up with our previous ex's which were our polarities... Mine was a Capricorn and his was a Virgo. Our previous relationships were so acidic, that when we met we discussed everything about our lives transparently and made a packed that we were going to help one another heal. And here we are 6 years later and we're as in sync as the Obamas. And I gotta say, it hasn't been an easy journey but DEFINITELY worth it! I ca really count my lucky stars that the universe placed us together at the time,through bumping into the right people and being in a perfectly aligned path. My dear Pisces is soooo attentive,supportive, wise, loyal and a true anchor. I looked up everything regarding our charts. We're both Roosters, his moon sign is Aries and mine is Leo. So in business we make a super power team and it helps when you're best FRIENDS first and foremost, lovers secondly and married last. It makes the world a difference. I've manifested this man since I was age 7 (accurately) and focused on love and I believe when you truly want someone that gets you for you, right it down, give your wish list to the universe, believe and expect it to happen and it will happen. Just you wait and see-It'll happen for you xoxo 69
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 18, 2017:
Typically, since Cancer and Pisces are both water signs they go well together. They have similar mood swings and also ways of communicating. Both are emotional signs, and in my opinion, they are much lighter emotional signs than Scorpio. Cancer does change its mind frequently like the moon, and Pisces can be much more lighthearted and sage like. As for a Pisces who doesn't want to deal with water signs -- you may want to first try an earth sign. Virgo to me is a great match for Pisces. But Taurus and Capricorn can also be good. If communication is something you want to see -- try Gemini who is the communication master. Aquarius may feel great as well with its communication plus and also being Pisces' neighbor.
Val on October 16, 2017:
I find this to be true so far. I am a Pisces and let me tell you, continuously I attract Cancers. It's like I have a magnet for them or something. I think my past three lovers have been cancers. That's not to add a couple of best friends...
anyways, I don't think these two are compatible. Cancer has a hard time understanding what Pisces needs in the terms of love- the idea of it really scares them and of course, they put their crabby shells on. Trying to uncover their true selves is like pulling teeth. They shelter it so deeply and privately and honestly that gets exhausting. If you wait too long, they think you are no longer interested but if you do express interest, it's running underground again. Talk about moody people- cancers are definitely it. I have had to navigate their emotions with great dexterity because you never know what might send a cancer back under again. When they do let their authenticity shine through, oh my gosh, the world feels lighter and more loveable.
Not to say Pisces is the easiest sign to understand either but, if this relationship is to work, a lot needs to be worked through. Communication can for certain be problematic between these two. the potential is definitely there but would I say that these two are highly compatible, I have come to doubt it through experience. But maybe... who knows