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Are Cancer and Aquarius Compatible in Relationships?
Opposites attract when these star signs come together. Aquarius is a never-ending stream of thoughts, while Cancer is constantly changing moods. Cancer displays their heart for the world to see, while Aquarius puts their emotions in check—to the point that people are unsure what Aquarius is feeling.
These differences can create tension—for example, if Aquarius sees Cancer as too emotionally demanding or Cancer sees Aquarius as too emotionally detached. The following tips will help mitigate that tension.
Prioritize One-on-One Time
Cancer craves attention and affection. Aquarius craves authenticity, originality, and intellectual stimulation (they can be quite existential). What this couple needs to do is create structure. You should schedule time on your calendar to sit down and talk to each other with no distractions. Go over your week and talk about your differing perspectives. The more you hear from one another, the more you'll really start to understand each other. This will help you satisfy each other's needs.
It's really easy for this couple to lose track of how the other person thinks and feels. This is why carving out time on your schedule to talk to each other will do wonders for your relationship. Eat your meals together at a table and turn off the TV. Got kids? Then you definitely need to schedule a time during the week where you can meet without the kids.
I think a good way for these two to navigate their relationship is to spend time one on one — and not necessarily on lavish dates. Cancer does love the extravagant, the dazzling, and the quirky, but they don't need money-centric dates to be happy in a relationship. When it comes down to it, they are romance-obsessed, so as long as they feel pursued they will feel content.
Spending a night in and asking questions can do wonders for your relationship. It’s good to maintain a healthy curiosity for your partner. You could ask them things like:
- What is one country you want to visit before you die?
- What are things that you love about our relationship?
- If you could host a dinner for five celebrities, which five celebrities would you pick?
- What is your favorite kind of kiss?
Cancer loves to teach others about romantic love; talking about romance excites them. As for Aquarius, spending time with their partner one on one will help them delve into their thoughts and access their intellectual side, which is very important to them.
Balance Introverted and Extroverted Activities
In order to balance this relationship, try new things out in the city, and try staying at home together. This will help with the flow of energy you are experiencing. Cancers tend to have introverted aspects, but leaving one alone to their own devices can backfire. Cancer can get depressed when lonely; they thrive off watching social interactions. Aquarius has some introverted aspects as well since they love ideas so much, but they're natural social butterflies.
These two are very complex when it comes to socialization. In a way, this is what draws them together. Are they both really ambiverts? Possibly. Obviously, one's zodiac sign doesn't 100% indicate whether they're extroverted or introverted.
Cancer desires to fully express themself, while Aquarius—the existential warrior—searches for the meaning of true love. Aquarius needs to work harder on expressing their feelings and not just living in their head. Aquarius can be distant, and this can be very difficult for Cancer. Cancer will see Aquarius as aloof; it would be best for Cancer to reserve judgment.
Cancers—try not to be too needy with your Aquarius. Asking for more before they're ready might end up pushing them away. Aquarius is a very independent sign, so if you're too demanding for them then a breakup is likely.
Aquarius—try not to see your Cancer as needy just because you don't operate the same way. Ask yourself if they really want too much or if you're not offering enough. Also, remember Cancers are moody. Sometimes you just need to be patient and ride the waves with them. Your calm demeanor will do wonders for your partner.
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Don't expect to be mirror images of each other. Aquarius is more yang and Cancer is more yin.
Here is how I see it:
- Aquarius can be ostentatious, spontaneous, witty, and high-energy. You can expect them to draw toward bright colors, flashy patterns, and eclectic music. Aquarius is more likely to struggle with anxiety.
- Cancer is more flirtatious, subtle, and dreamy. They're creative souls who are drawn to things with a distinct mood, a touch of nostalgia, and a shade off-center. Cancer is more likely to struggle with depression.
The great thing about this match is the support they can find in each other. Cancer is incredibly kind, forgiving, and gracious—they will be there for their partner and do all they can for them. Cancer really cares about Aquarius and will champion them to be their best self. Cancer's perspective is enlightening and helps Aquarius to see and understand others.
This couple does well to explore their similarities and differences. Be open to each other and explore how you are both weird and eccentric. Aquarius is a fast-paced thinker and may get ahead of Cancer, which can make Cancer jealous. Cancer needs to learn to appreciate Aquarius' mind if they want Aquarius to manifest physical affection. In turn, Aquarius needs to appreciate and nurture Cancer's major moods. Listen, don't talk over it. When Cancer hurts, don't try to talk it all away.
Create a Safe Space for Emotional and Intellectual Exploration
Both of these zodiacs are deep, spiritual, and big-hearted. Cancer needs Aquarius’ reassurance, as Cancer can feel rocked by waves of emotion.
Aquarius should try building a safe space for the Cancer to delve into their emotions, just as Aquarius needs a safe space to explore ideas. Cancer needs to be open to Aquarius' need for mental stimulation: Cancer should talk, explore ideas, try new and bizarre things, laugh, be witty, and push their own intellect. Aquarius—a true sapiosexual—will appreciate it.
I think having a spiritual connection helps; try going to church, exploring music, philosophy, or even new age ideas. You both do well with exploring and emoting. You both crave abstract things and have a tendency to resist the tangible and practical.
Aquarius is incredibly open-minded and doesn't really fit into a box. However, Aquarius is notoriously stubborn. Aquarius' stubbornness can be a good thing though because Cancer changes their opinion regularly. It's nice for Cancer to be with a fixed sign because they're decisive and keep things cohesive.
You need a place where both of you can feel at home expressing your thoughts and feelings. It's all about finding balance together, learning who you are, and motivating each other. Know how you are different and see what your goals are—both individually and as a couple.
Communicate Openly and Honestly
Don't be afraid to share anything with each other. The more you learn about each other and how to depend on each other, the more you will stick together. There is a certain sweet vibe from this pairing. There is a good chance they'll enjoy each other's company and wish to stay together for the long term.
Aquarius does have their own wacky methods, and Cancer will struggle at times to understand what is happening. You two need to make a concerted effort to communicate and compromise when necessary. Compromise is your friend, not your enemy.
It's important that you find middle ground and don't demand that things go your way. People like to be involved in decisions. It can come off as controlling if you don't include your partner's input. Avoid random, surprise trips. Instead, plan trips together and work together to hash-out details.
Are Aquarius and Cancer Sexually Compatible?
Developing a healthy sexual relationship between these two signs takes a lot of work. Cancer is an extremely emotional sign, and they rarely engage in intimacy if they haven't already developed a solid emotional foundation with the other person.
Cancer wants to go on a powerful journey with someone. They're looking for a deep, soulful connection. Water signs have a strong desire to merge. Aquarius, as an air sign, wants to be good at what they're doing, so they'll try their best to give as much as they can. Aquarius is more chatty, experimental, and unpredictable. Cancer is game for Aquarius' creativity; however, the unpredictableness might upset Cancer who likes things to be familiar (and not so riddle-like).
Aquarius needs to let down their guard and Cancer needs to communicate with words, not just their eyes. Cancer needs to sometimes relax and not take things too seriously. It will make Aquarius feel bad if you're taking things too seriously.
Cancer is prone to crying and using their hands. Aquarius is prone to laughing, chatting, handstands, and whatever catches their fancy. You two may have to work a little harder to find common ground, or your emotions might explode—though that could be a good thing.
What Is the Aquarius-Cancer Power Dynamic?
A relationship between these signs can end up being very unbalanced if the two parties don't make a concerted effort from the get-go to find a healthy equilibrium.
Cancer has a hard time setting boundaries, as they really don't like letting others down. This can create problems in the relationship; they fear that saying no might cause their partner to think less of them.
Cancer may agree to things they don't really want to do. Cancer needs to recognize that they can be too agreeable and that boundaries are okay. At the same time, Aquarius needs to respect boundaries and not take advantage of Cancer.
A Yin and Yang Pairing
Cancer is moody and spiritual, which makes sense given that its ruling planet is the moon. Aquarius, on the other hand, is full of energy and emotions that it hides behind a cool exterior. Aquarius—an air sign, yet a water bearer—has a lot more emotional power to it than people give it credit for, but the sign is so complicated that people don't always see or connect with it.
Aquarians live powerfully in their heads; they're opinionated, independent, and take charge in their own unique ways. Aquarius is an unusual case of yang. They're not assertive like fire signs, but they can be very cutting. Aquarius is known for its candor.
Cancer doesn't really like candor. They don't really like to rock the boat. Cancer is content with observing and staying safe on the sidelines. Cancer craves rest, pleasure, and a space to go through all their moods. Cancer wants to release all their woes. Aquarius wants to absorb as much energy as possible. (Aquarius is a stamina machine. Like a hummingbird on caffeine.)
These two have very different perspectives and go about their energy in different ways. They can find middle ground if they want to find middle ground.
Yin vs. Yang Qualities
Loves Comforting Colors
Loves Bright Colors
When these two forces come together, you can expect a lot of emotion, mood swings, and sentimentality. This may create a situation where power feeds back into itself, over and over, making for a weird, potentially destructive mix. But if Cancer and Aquarius can figure out how to blend their two personalities, they will become an unstoppable force.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2017 Andrea Lawrence