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Why Cancer and Aquarius Attract Each Other and Tips for Compatibility

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.

Are Cancer and Aquarius a good match? Read on to find out.

Are Cancer and Aquarius a good match? Read on to find out.

Are Cancer and Aquarius Compatible in Relationships?

Opposites attract when these star signs come together. Aquarius is a never-ending stream of thoughts, while Cancer is constantly changing moods. Cancer displays their heart for the world to see, while Aquarius puts their emotions in check—to the point that people are unsure what Aquarius is feeling.

These differences can create tension—for example, if Aquarius sees Cancer as too emotionally demanding or Cancer sees Aquarius as too emotionally detached. The following tips will help mitigate that tension.

Prioritize One-on-One Time

Cancer craves attention and affection. Aquarius craves authenticity, originality, and intellectual stimulation (they can be quite existential). What this couple needs to do is create structure. You should schedule time on your calendar to sit down and talk to each other with no distractions. Go over your week and talk about your differing perspectives. The more you hear from one another, the more you'll really start to understand each other. This will help you satisfy each other's needs.

It's really easy for this couple to lose track of how the other person thinks and feels. This is why carving out time on your schedule to talk to each other will do wonders for your relationship. Eat your meals together at a table and turn off the TV. Got kids? Then you definitely need to schedule a time during the week where you can meet without the kids.

I think a good way for these two to navigate their relationship is to spend time one on one — and not necessarily on lavish dates. Cancer does love the extravagant, the dazzling, and the quirky, but they don't need money-centric dates to be happy in a relationship. When it comes down to it, they are romance-obsessed, so as long as they feel pursued they will feel content.

Spending a night in and asking questions can do wonders for your relationship. It’s good to maintain a healthy curiosity for your partner. You could ask them things like:

  • What is one country you want to visit before you die?
  • What are things that you love about our relationship?
  • If you could host a dinner for five celebrities, which five celebrities would you pick?
  • What is your favorite kind of kiss?

Cancer loves to teach others about romantic love; talking about romance excites them. As for Aquarius, spending time with their partner one on one will help them delve into their thoughts and access their intellectual side, which is very important to them.

Balance Introverted and Extroverted Activities

In order to balance this relationship, try new things out in the city, and try staying at home together. This will help with the flow of energy you are experiencing. Cancers tend to have introverted aspects, but leaving one alone to their own devices can backfire. Cancer can get depressed when lonely; they thrive off watching social interactions. Aquarius has some introverted aspects as well since they love ideas so much, but they're natural social butterflies.

These two are very complex when it comes to socialization. In a way, this is what draws them together. Are they both really ambiverts? Possibly. Obviously, one's zodiac sign doesn't 100% indicate whether they're extroverted or introverted.

Expressing Love

Cancer desires to fully express themself, while Aquarius—the existential warrior—searches for the meaning of true love. Aquarius needs to work harder on expressing their feelings and not just living in their head. Aquarius can be distant, and this can be very difficult for Cancer. Cancer will see Aquarius as aloof; it would be best for Cancer to reserve judgment.

Cancers—try not to be too needy with your Aquarius. Asking for more before they're ready might end up pushing them away. Aquarius is a very independent sign, so if you're too demanding for them then a breakup is likely.

Aquarius—try not to see your Cancer as needy just because you don't operate the same way. Ask yourself if they really want too much or if you're not offering enough. Also, remember Cancers are moody. Sometimes you just need to be patient and ride the waves with them. Your calm demeanor will do wonders for your partner.

Spending one-on-one time with your partner—both at home and while out and about—can help you feel more connected, reassured, and secure.

Spending one-on-one time with your partner—both at home and while out and about—can help you feel more connected, reassured, and secure.

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Learn to Appreciate (and Benefit From) Your Differences

Don't expect to be mirror images of each other. Aquarius is more yang and Cancer is more yin.

Here is how I see it:

  • Aquarius can be ostentatious, spontaneous, witty, and high-energy. You can expect them to draw toward bright colors, flashy patterns, and eclectic music. Aquarius is more likely to struggle with anxiety.
  • Cancer is more flirtatious, subtle, and dreamy. They're creative souls who are drawn to things with a distinct mood, a touch of nostalgia, and a shade off-center. Cancer is more likely to struggle with depression.

The great thing about this match is the support they can find in each other. Cancer is incredibly kind, forgiving, and gracious—they will be there for their partner and do all they can for them. Cancer really cares about Aquarius and will champion them to be their best self. Cancer's perspective is enlightening and helps Aquarius to see and understand others.

This couple does well to explore their similarities and differences. Be open to each other and explore how you are both weird and eccentric. Aquarius is a fast-paced thinker and may get ahead of Cancer, which can make Cancer jealous. Cancer needs to learn to appreciate Aquarius' mind if they want Aquarius to manifest physical affection. In turn, Aquarius needs to appreciate and nurture Cancer's major moods. Listen, don't talk over it. When Cancer hurts, don't try to talk it all away.

Create a Safe Space for Emotional and Intellectual Exploration

Both of these zodiacs are deep, spiritual, and big-hearted. Cancer needs Aquarius’ reassurance, as Cancer can feel rocked by waves of emotion.

Aquarius should try building a safe space for the Cancer to delve into their emotions, just as Aquarius needs a safe space to explore ideas. Cancer needs to be open to Aquarius' need for mental stimulation: Cancer should talk, explore ideas, try new and bizarre things, laugh, be witty, and push their own intellect. Aquarius—a true sapiosexual—will appreciate it.

I think having a spiritual connection helps; try going to church, exploring music, philosophy, or even new age ideas. You both do well with exploring and emoting. You both crave abstract things and have a tendency to resist the tangible and practical.

Aquarius is incredibly open-minded and doesn't really fit into a box. However, Aquarius is notoriously stubborn. Aquarius' stubbornness can be a good thing though because Cancer changes their opinion regularly. It's nice for Cancer to be with a fixed sign because they're decisive and keep things cohesive.

You need a place where both of you can feel at home expressing your thoughts and feelings. It's all about finding balance together, learning who you are, and motivating each other. Know how you are different and see what your goals are—both individually and as a couple.

Communicate Openly and Honestly

Don't be afraid to share anything with each other. The more you learn about each other and how to depend on each other, the more you will stick together. There is a certain sweet vibe from this pairing. There is a good chance they'll enjoy each other's company and wish to stay together for the long term.

Aquarius does have their own wacky methods, and Cancer will struggle at times to understand what is happening. You two need to make a concerted effort to communicate and compromise when necessary. Compromise is your friend, not your enemy.

It's important that you find middle ground and don't demand that things go your way. People like to be involved in decisions. It can come off as controlling if you don't include your partner's input. Avoid random, surprise trips. Instead, plan trips together and work together to hash-out details.

Are Aquarius and Cancer Sexually Compatible?

Developing a healthy sexual relationship between these two signs takes a lot of work. Cancer is an extremely emotional sign, and they rarely engage in intimacy if they haven't already developed a solid emotional foundation with the other person.

Cancer wants to go on a powerful journey with someone. They're looking for a deep, soulful connection. Water signs have a strong desire to merge. Aquarius, as an air sign, wants to be good at what they're doing, so they'll try their best to give as much as they can. Aquarius is more chatty, experimental, and unpredictable. Cancer is game for Aquarius' creativity; however, the unpredictableness might upset Cancer who likes things to be familiar (and not so riddle-like).

Aquarius needs to let down their guard and Cancer needs to communicate with words, not just their eyes. Cancer needs to sometimes relax and not take things too seriously. It will make Aquarius feel bad if you're taking things too seriously.

Cancer is prone to crying and using their hands. Aquarius is prone to laughing, chatting, handstands, and whatever catches their fancy. You two may have to work a little harder to find common ground, or your emotions might explode—though that could be a good thing.

What Is the Aquarius-Cancer Power Dynamic?

A relationship between these signs can end up being very unbalanced if the two parties don't make a concerted effort from the get-go to find a healthy equilibrium.

Cancer has a hard time setting boundaries, as they really don't like letting others down. This can create problems in the relationship; they fear that saying no might cause their partner to think less of them.

Cancer may agree to things they don't really want to do. Cancer needs to recognize that they can be too agreeable and that boundaries are okay. At the same time, Aquarius needs to respect boundaries and not take advantage of Cancer.

A Yin and Yang Pairing

Cancer is moody and spiritual, which makes sense given that its ruling planet is the moon. Aquarius, on the other hand, is full of energy and emotions that it hides behind a cool exterior. Aquarius—an air sign, yet a water bearer—has a lot more emotional power to it than people give it credit for, but the sign is so complicated that people don't always see or connect with it.

Aquarians live powerfully in their heads; they're opinionated, independent, and take charge in their own unique ways. Aquarius is an unusual case of yang. They're not assertive like fire signs, but they can be very cutting. Aquarius is known for its candor.

Cancer doesn't really like candor. They don't really like to rock the boat. Cancer is content with observing and staying safe on the sidelines. Cancer craves rest, pleasure, and a space to go through all their moods. Cancer wants to release all their woes. Aquarius wants to absorb as much energy as possible. (Aquarius is a stamina machine. Like a hummingbird on caffeine.)

These two have very different perspectives and go about their energy in different ways. They can find middle ground if they want to find middle ground.

Yin vs. Yang Qualities

YinYang

Restful

Excitable

Observant

Instinctive

Loves Comforting Colors

Loves Bright Colors

Subtle

Eccentric

Cunning

Assertive

When these two forces come together, you can expect a lot of emotion, mood swings, and sentimentality. This may create a situation where power feeds back into itself, over and over, making for a weird, potentially destructive mix. But if Cancer and Aquarius can figure out how to blend their two personalities, they will become an unstoppable force.

How Strong Is Your Relationship?

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. How easily can you read each other?
    • I can look at their face and know exactly what is happening
    • I'm often puzzled and just go along with it
    • We don't assume. We use words as much as possible
    • The Cancer in the relationship is often crying and expressing big emotions. Aquarius is 100% unpredictable
    • We can read each other like books. We get when the other person is mad. We know how to resolve things.
    • Not sure
  2. How do you resolve fights?
    • We don't. We're very passive-aggressive.
    • We talk out our feelings and thoughts and give each other space and undivided attention
    • Ice cream. Sometimes we just need to eat.
    • By not staying up too late... that reduces fights altogether
    • We yell at each other about our deepest feels. Okay, sometimes Aquarius doesn't talk.
    • We talk to each other. If we're really struggling we have a couple's therapist, which does wonders.
    • I'd like some help here actually. We get annoyed very easily.
  3. How long can you be apart before you start missing each other?
    • 5 minutes
    • An hour
    • Three hours
    • Eight hours
    • 12 hours
    • One day
    • Two days
    • One week
    • One month
    • One year
  4. What takes priority?
    • Fancy dates
    • Financial wellness (it's practical, but seriously!)
    • General day to day vibe, like are we happy or mad at each other all the time?
    • Are we a good match. . . in bed?
    • My needs. Duh.
    • The kids!
    • My job.
    • The cleanliness of our house. If the place is a mess, we're a mess.
  5. What is Cancer's biggest complaint?
    • Our situation in the bedroom
    • That I don't listen and talk too much
    • That I do things without their input
    • That they lucked out in finding me and that no one compares
    • That they're not sure what I mean
    • That there isn't enough time in our lives to get in as many kisses as possible
  6. What is Aquarius' biggest complaint?
    • That I'm too dramatic
    • That the weekends are not long enough. They should be longer, so we can do more fun things.
    • That I change my mind all the time, but they're pretty patient
    • That we're not getting enough things done around the house, and we should work on that
  7. How would you describe your relationship?
    • Summer fling
    • Legendary. People will write romance books about us
    • Pretty sure this was a one-night deal
    • We've been dating for six weeks!
    • We've been together for 10 years, and I love every day of it
    • We get together. We breakup. We get together. We breakup again.
    • Have you seen the Jerry Springer show?
    • We're not in a relationship
    • We're madly in love, and we have all the right variables to make this work
    • I don't think this will last
  8. What do you like about your partner?
    • They're understanding, loyal, financially sound, great physical chemistry, and pretty much everything is great
    • They're pretty, they're easy on the eyes, I like their body
    • They're smart, easy to talk to, friendly, and know good jokes
    • That they can stop talking. . . eventually
    • I like their family. I'm keeping this relationship because I like their parents
    • We're great co-parents! Besides that. . . I don't know.
    • That I feel comfortable sharing anything
  9. How would you describe a Cancer and Aquarius relationship based off your experience?
    • Creative, soul-enlightening
    • Toxic
    • Friendly and weird
    • Too much drama
    • Unsure
    • Dazzling but a little rough
    • I would use adjectives ;)
  10. Most importantly. . . what do you think is the strength of your relationship?
    • Strong as an ox. Unbreakable
    • Pretty strong, could be slightly better
    • Strong with a couple of dings here and there
    • Things are good
    • We're happy but have consistent minor problems that won't go away
    • Like, normalish? Half-and-half?
    • We're like an unsweetened tea that's been left out in the open for too long and dust particles
    • We're crumbling with all the pressure
    • I don't think this will last, so weak
    • We're not in a relationship
    • Already filed for divorce

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. How easily can you read each other?
    • I can look at their face and know exactly what is happening: +5 points
    • I'm often puzzled and just go along with it: -3 points
    • We don't assume. We use words as much as possible: +3 points
    • The Cancer in the relationship is often crying and expressing big emotions. Aquarius is 100% unpredictable: -5 points
    • We can read each other like books. We get when the other person is mad. We know how to resolve things.: +5 points
    • Not sure: -2 points
  2. How do you resolve fights?
    • We don't. We're very passive-aggressive.: -5 points
    • We talk out our feelings and thoughts and give each other space and undivided attention: +5 points
    • Ice cream. Sometimes we just need to eat.: +2 points
    • By not staying up too late... that reduces fights altogether: +3 points
    • We yell at each other about our deepest feels. Okay, sometimes Aquarius doesn't talk.: -4 points
    • We talk to each other. If we're really struggling we have a couple's therapist, which does wonders.: +5 points
    • I'd like some help here actually. We get annoyed very easily.: -2 points
  3. How long can you be apart before you start missing each other?
    • 5 minutes: -5 points
    • An hour: -4 points
    • Three hours: -4 points
    • Eight hours: -3 points
    • 12 hours: +0 points
    • One day: +5 points
    • Two days: +3 points
    • One week: -3 points
    • One month: -5 points
    • One year: -5 points
  4. What takes priority?
    • Fancy dates: -3 points
    • Financial wellness (it's practical, but seriously!): +4 points
    • General day to day vibe, like are we happy or mad at each other all the time?: +5 points
    • Are we a good match. . . in bed?: +2 points
    • My needs. Duh.: -5 points
    • The kids!: -3 points
    • My job.: -5 points
    • The cleanliness of our house. If the place is a mess, we're a mess.: +1 point
  5. What is Cancer's biggest complaint?
    • Our situation in the bedroom: -5 points
    • That I don't listen and talk too much: -4 points
    • That I do things without their input: -3 points
    • That they lucked out in finding me and that no one compares: +5 points
    • That they're not sure what I mean: -1 point
    • That there isn't enough time in our lives to get in as many kisses as possible: +5 points
  6. What is Aquarius' biggest complaint?
    • That I'm too dramatic: -5 points
    • That the weekends are not long enough. They should be longer, so we can do more fun things.: +5 points
    • That I change my mind all the time, but they're pretty patient: +0 points
    • That we're not getting enough things done around the house, and we should work on that: +1 point
  7. How would you describe your relationship?
    • Summer fling: -4 points
    • Legendary. People will write romance books about us: +5 points
    • Pretty sure this was a one-night deal: -5 points
    • We've been dating for six weeks!: -2 points
    • We've been together for 10 years, and I love every day of it: +5 points
    • We get together. We breakup. We get together. We breakup again.: -3 points
    • Have you seen the Jerry Springer show?: -5 points
    • We're not in a relationship: -5 points
    • We're madly in love, and we have all the right variables to make this work: +5 points
    • I don't think this will last: -5 points
  8. What do you like about your partner?
    • They're understanding, loyal, financially sound, great physical chemistry, and pretty much everything is great: +5 points
    • They're pretty, they're easy on the eyes, I like their body: -1 point
    • They're smart, easy to talk to, friendly, and know good jokes: +2 points
    • That they can stop talking. . . eventually: -5 points
    • I like their family. I'm keeping this relationship because I like their parents: -5 points
    • We're great co-parents! Besides that. . . I don't know.: -3 points
    • That I feel comfortable sharing anything: +1 point
  9. How would you describe a Cancer and Aquarius relationship based off your experience?
    • Creative, soul-enlightening: +5 points
    • Toxic: -5 points
    • Friendly and weird: +2 points
    • Too much drama: -5 points
    • Unsure: +0 points
    • Dazzling but a little rough: +1 point
    • I would use adjectives ;): -3 points
  10. Most importantly. . . what do you think is the strength of your relationship?
    • Strong as an ox. Unbreakable: +5 points
    • Pretty strong, could be slightly better: +4 points
    • Strong with a couple of dings here and there: +3 points
    • Things are good: +2 points
    • We're happy but have consistent minor problems that won't go away: +1 point
    • Like, normalish? Half-and-half?: +0 points
    • We're like an unsweetened tea that's been left out in the open for too long and dust particles: -1 point
    • We're crumbling with all the pressure: -2 points
    • I don't think this will last, so weak: -3 points
    • We're not in a relationship: -4 points
    • Already filed for divorce: -5 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score between -50 and -20 means: Your relationship is toxic or you're not in a relationship at all. That percentage is pretty low. You really don't get each other. You'd rather be mean than nice. You're like two strangers, and the distance is growing. I'm not sure why you read this whole article in the first place.

A score between -19 and 10 means: You have some serious issues that you need to resolve if you want to continue being in this relationship. That percentage wouldn't get you far in school. You're not seeing things eye-to-eye. You might be better off as friends or contacts.

A score between 11 and 30 means: You have a decent relationship that with some work could get better. You might also have some serious issues that you're ignoring. You need to think more carefully about your choice of words. Now is the time to take action on your relationship's health.

A score between 31 and 40 means: You're in a good relationship, maybe not the most ideal one on the planet, but one that's operating right and is probably more realistic. You have a couple of fights here and there, but you can mostly resolve it. You're on the same page. . . or a similar one.

A score between 41 and 50 means: You two are legendary. You have a really strong connection. You're the ideal Cancer-Aquarius relationship, and it would be enlightening to hear your perspective. You two are soul mates regardless of what the stars have to say about you. You're good managers of your relationship.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Andrea Lawrence

Comments

Hb on September 07, 2020:

I agree with most of this article, but I’m unsure about the Yin-Yin.

I just checked and Aquarius is a yang zodiac.

Does that change anything about the last piece?

TL on August 04, 2020:

Met my first Aquarius.

Under the rain

In a cafe

After we had conversation about work and career in our industry (I guess he liked that part the most),

We sang to each other (I like this part the most).

Seems like it's not hard for a date to satisfy both. But what matters is in the long run. He seems to treasure his exploration to the world (he's a blogger btw) and spend mere amount of time replying my messages. Like other guy/girl in this comment part, Cancer like us does not like that. But as long as I know he's happy with individual-focused lifestyle, and I myself figure out sometimes I am just demanding, it would be fine.

Of course some day I will be more demanding than I am today ha ha. And it would be nasty :))

So far so good. Would love to hear your story about this weird mixed rls.

Wittney brown on July 14, 2020:

Wow nice

cancer girl on July 07, 2020:

So, I’ve been dating an aquarius man for almost a year now. And we’ve known each other since middle school, and got into a fresh new relationship my senior year of high school and we built a very understanding relationship and had those heart to heart conversation. Although, we are doing long distance for the summer he called for a break, and I can’t seem to draw my own emotional boundaries and stop being so possessive adding on that we constantly argue about past situations. We planned and already booked a flight to come visit me which I feel is the only thing holding us together. I can say both of our different worlds get along best when we’re physically together. Other than our very similarities our differences bring out different interests and we explore each other’s differences and expand our passions and views. It’s just the arguments that hurt me more then him, yet nothing is ever perfect?!

Girl with no name on June 27, 2020:

Am a cancer and am dating an aquarius guy. We have been in a relationship for nine months now and funny thing about our relationship its that its long distance. We have come to terms with that and we have learnt to make the most of the time we get to spend together. However, lately we have been having arguments, because as a cancer am sensitive to certain issues or treatment i would easily realise some changes in my partner in which if i try to comment on it my partner tends to react not violently but he just goes silent so i have to try and reach out all the time and its stressful at times but despite all this what i love is that he understands me and he is trying to fit in my world as much as i try to fit in his. We make a perfect Combo i believe and however much they say that a cancer should avoid the air signs, i feel like if thats where your destiny lies then the zodiac compatibility doesn’t matter as such

Cant say on June 14, 2020:

I am a cancer and I was in a relationship with an Aquarius and I was really attractive to him but he ended up with me cheating with a virgo. Tell me why?

Cant say on June 14, 2020:

I am a cancer and I was in a relationship with an Aquarius and I was really attractive to him but he ended up with me cheating with a virgo. Tell me why?

aqua woman cancer man on June 13, 2020:

If the cancer man is intellectually stimulating and aqua woman is patient enough to work on their differences , this duo has a great potential.

Aquarius will feel unique with cancer lover and this is really important for her. Cancer will feel cared and will appreciate honesty of Aqua a lot. This isnt a 'they hit it off at that moment' style relationship but it may be really fulfiling for both parties if they love each other enough to put some effort.

... on May 19, 2020:

ok so, i have a friendship with an aquarius. as the emotional and sensitive cancer i am, he often tries to cheer me up which is the opposite of the stereotypes online. i really like him, as he cares a lot. but, i texted him and unusually he didn’t answer even after a few hours. which is unlike him even when we’re playing games. i can’t help but feel he is avoiding me. oh and i forgot to mention, he calls me adorable nicknames and randomly calls me cute. maybe he likes me too? we both joke around a lot, making fun of each other, randomly laughing at random stuff and things like that. we haven’t been friends long but i miss him...? he asks every morning to see me. so we see each other everyday, i couldn’t today and i don’t know if he maybe got hurt by it. we barely talked today then randomly in the middle of us texting he left randomly and I haven’t heard from him since. i barely have these kinds of feelings so it makes me feel quite worried for him, his health etc. we have a few years age gap, so i would assume he is busy with work but or school. we were playing together he said he had to leave, we texted a bit after and thats when he stopped answering. i can’t help but think about it, it’s been on my mind the whole day. i truly hope nothing bad happened to him. i’m crazy for acting like this.

tina26 on April 11, 2020:

i'm a cancer and dating an aquarius guy. we've been together for more than two years now. but since the past few months our relationship doesn't seen to be working well. in fact, he thinks that we just ain't right for each other and to end this relationship would be in our best interest now. i don't know if I should suggest him to take second thoughts or let the situation be. as i still have a few hope left which isn't allowing my heart to let it pass.

Marlin Tech ITL on March 24, 2020:

this is interesting. I did not know this...

Devaprioya saha on March 22, 2020:

cancer is a critical disease but if a cancer patient get mental energy and proper treatment s/he may be cure. Yesterday I saw a movie where a man make physical relationship with an aids patient but he wasn't attacked by it

Precious K on February 19, 2020:

I’m an Aquarius woman and my man is a Cancer .

We’ve been together for exactly 4 months today ,not the easiest relationship but definitely the most romantic and the first I’ve ever felt the need to let my guard down.

I’ve always believed that I’m a great communicator in my past relationships but my current relationship has proved to me that I’m far from it and I need a lot of fixing , especially emotionally .

My partner is quite soft hearted , gentle ,sensitive and pretty much quite emotional and me on the hand ? The exact opposite ( but I am really working on it because I think it’s necessary for our relationship to survive ).

We met at a friends wedding and although we couldn’t speak the minute we saw one another , we later on found a way to each other and believe me you , when I say the hug that man gave me felt very different , I mean it .

That hug was so affectionate, full of love and I could feel my common sense leave my entire body

Cancer Cat on February 10, 2020:

I have been talking to an Aquarius,and as a Cancer l am at the stage in my life that l love the fact they love their independence and freedom. We are just getting to know each other but my gut instinct tells me this is everything l have been looking for in my life,and l do have some psychic abilities. This feels really good!

Words on January 29, 2020:

I am what they (whoever created all the zodiacs and their meanings) call an Aquarius . However my best friend of 13 years is a Cancer . Nothing breaks us apart . I truly believe in my heart that he’s my soulmate . I find these articles interesting and quite informative but truthfully true love never dies and no matter what SIGN(s) are compared I feel that we all are entitled to love.

Carlasherrie on January 20, 2020:

I'm an Aquarius women (who turns 40 on the 25th) dating a Cancer man (who turns 30, on June 21st). We have only been dating a few months, so we are still getting to know each other. Now, since he is younger, I was a little reserved about dating him, but decided to try something new. The other day, we had a phone conversation, where he asked me if I've always been so confident in relationships? Which I told him, no. I then told him of when I was in my early 20s, I had a guy friend that was already financially stable in his career, and wanted to date me, but I felt inadequate compared to him, because I wasn't on his "financial level". (My own personal insecurities, of course)..So I told him now that I've grown, I do not allow that kind of mindset to even remotely control my decisions. Well, he took that conversation and made it about him, he said that he can "get a hint", I act as if I miss my ex, and he would never have "disrespected" me by bringing up and ex...

eazylnova@gmail.com on January 14, 2020:

Scott Harvey- id advice you to fly. Im an Aquarius guy and i dated a cancer for over 10 years. She was amazing but he moods wings were above normal we are two different. Youd get frustrated dating an Aquarius and youd cause her too much stress as her love for freedom will cause you a heart break and put you into an emotional roller coasters. I’d advice you let that one go. It may hurt now but its an easier hurt than it will be if you stay with her.

Scott Harvey on December 20, 2019:

I'm a cancer guy and am thinking about starting up a relationship with an aquarius woman should I try? Or fly?

Jujudee on December 01, 2019:

Aquarius woman who’s soulmate is a cancer man. The 2 times I’ve loved they were both cancer men. They both taught me how to love unconditionally. I was able to open up and allow them to teach me how to love and live and I’m forever grateful for it.

Cancerrrgirlll on November 23, 2019:

Well I’m a cancer and this guy is an Aquarius we have just started to hang out on a regular basis . So at the start , everything was perfect , smooth sailing even the intimacy is spot on. But what I’ve noticed he won’t open up to me emotionally, it’s like talking to a wall I feel paranoid he’s not being honest with me . I saw he had “ muted “ me from his Instagram stories I had brought that up out of curiously and he full blown denies it and try to put it under the rug. I’ve been nothing but honest and tried to get him to open up. In all honesty I’ve done things to make him happy and honestly I think he will still end things with me all because things hasn’t been flowing ever since I’ve been getting these vibes he’s not being 100% honest . He gets angry when I try to even have a heart and heart conversation and being told “ I worry too much “ . The trust isn’t there . I don’t know what to do with this . It’s something I’ve never dealt with before . I feel like I’m going to feel extremely used . I even said to him I needed “ reassurance “ and “ validation “ and he response was “ why do I keep bringing this up “ . He much rather sleep together than be honest and talk about how we are actually feeling . I want him to be free to do that . It’s a big elephant in the room .

cancer girl on November 17, 2019:

Well, me and my man always trying to understand to each other Im a cancer girl and he is a aqua sometimes we fight a lot but my man was always sweet to me even though Im always moody and we still work together miss each other we've been in a break up situation for 1 week but after that he try to comfort me and try to get back each other cause he said even if he try to break up and do want he want there still missing so here Im happy and getting married soon.

cancer girl on November 17, 2019:

Im a cancer girl and my man is aqua

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 07, 2019:

Don't let other people's comments scare you. Everyone is in their own unique situation -- and there is no guarantee they're all being honest. If you love the person and it feels right, keep at it.

Cancer girl on November 05, 2019:

I am falling for an aqua guy but these comments scare me. I think a cancer man and aqua woman go well.. but in my case, who knows. He is not as attentive as I would like

Emma B on September 22, 2019:

I'm an Aquarius woman and I've been dating an cancer guy for 9 months. I can easily say he's the loveliest man I've ever dated. He is sensitive and gentle very loving and a extremely gentle and attentive lover. I am proud to say he is mine! I love him completely.

Aquarius :) on September 16, 2019:

My soulmate is a Crab man. We dated for only 2 years, he partied too much, so this girl ran away. We can be across a room, and speak just with our eyes. We can be in different states, and just know. This tenacious Cancer chased me for 20 years. As soon as he stopped partying, y'up it took awhile....we rekindeled and got back together. He is my soulmate, and I am his.

This Aquarious (me) woman has a cancer rising sign and a leo moon!

My lovely Cancer man has a Leo Rising sign.. (so Aquarious is in his 7th house of partnership.) and a Gemini moon. Other things are compatible as well.

When we first met, in the first 5 second it felt like we had already spent a lifetime together, a past life. It is deep.

So thank you all you Crab men and boys, don't give up hope if your Aquarius ever loved you, just find out the one thing that scared them, and do it differently.

My Cancer did not have to change the core of who he is/was, just that party craziness. Aquarius are very loyal and I have 8+ life long friends. If we feel free to be ourselves and respected, we will never forget you. xox

Aqua Woman on September 14, 2019:

I'm an Aqua woman who's always been attracted to Cancer men. My strongest relationships have always been with Cancers. Cancers are my people! My soul mate who I've know for 30+years is the one who taught me love and that I could be loved.

We dated for 10 years; things were not perfect, but we loved each other fiercely. He knew me better than I knew myself. We had so much in common & so many differences. He did everything right. He always made the right decisions; me not so much. I was a F****up back then. Even though things didn't work out in our romantic relationship; we still remain good friends. We still have genuine love for each other and always will.

Justin on August 24, 2019:

Cancer guy dated an Aquarius girl for a year.. my advice is don’t do it.

Obviously all women are different but I just found it’s all take and no give. Never would tell me what was wrong, would be super into us one day then just randomly ignore me for a week, then say nothing was wrong.

I think cancer Aquarius make good work colleagues and acquaintances, and I think there’s a lot on the love front that works..

But when it comes down to it we’re emotional and needy and they are emotionless and cruel.

Cancer on June 08, 2019:

Hmm from what i observed from comments i think an Aquarius woman and a cancer man can work but An aquarius man with a cancer woman looks like a nightmare..am a lady and cancer and av an Aquarius male frnd ,it can't work..and d last thing i want in my life is make a mistake that will leave me unhappy in my marriage..

Ree on May 17, 2019:

I am a Cancer woman and My yet to be husband is an aquarius man. We been together for eight years now. We have three beautiful children together and have built a life with one another. He is my high school sweetheart! It honestly has took "ALOT" Of effort in building our relationship to exactly where we are at today! I am grateful to have met my soulmate. I feel as if we were made for one another. We are both completely different people with different personailites but when we came together, We became one! It still takes both of us to actually make our relationship work but at the end of the day. its true love that connects us

Aquarius woman &cancer man on March 23, 2019:

I am aquarius woman and my man is cancer wow I really love him so much and he love me a lot. We made to each other and I felt he is my soulmate forever. BK

Billie Bob Joe on March 23, 2019:

Im a cancer and i like my bestfriend and she is a aquarius and she likes me to but we are kinda on the low about it because we both know we like each other but then agian we are still bestfriends and we've been bestfriends since 6th grade and i think were both scared that if it dosnt work out that it will ruin our friend ship forever but we still want to take a chance on each other even though were so scared that things will change forever

Greeneyegal on March 21, 2019:

I am an aquarius woman and ive been dating a Cancer man for the last last year, we are very similar in how we deal with stress which is shutting down. Our biggest thing we have to work on is communication. I dont like talking about my feelings or small trivial things and he feels like I'm hiding things. We joke around that im the man in the relationship! I think it can work, it just takes time to acknowledge where you are willing to compromise and where you arent.

Uroosa Khan on March 21, 2019:

I m cancer woman and love with Aquarius man at initial stage it was marvelous relation but after 3 years I felt he is going away from me he is careless and never understand my feelings he never express his feeling... Why.. I can't live without him but we are facing problems to living with each

bob on March 07, 2019:

ok and so i like my cancer best friend, and i am a aquarius women. the thing is he's dating my other friend, who is also an aquarius. what should i do? my friend used to like me but.

Drew an Diana on January 17, 2019:

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Valencia on December 13, 2018:

I'm an Aquarian woman in love with my Cancer man... its been rocky throughout our relationship. breaking up to make up. It seems like we can't live with or without each other. I do believe we are twin flames. this article makes perfect sense. I'm emotionally detached and always told myself i know most things and didn't really give him time to speak up. we decided to stay together despite our differences and that helps us to love and support each other unconditionally. the storms have settled. I hope other wind and water signs will be able to find this balance in their relationship.

Quartz on November 22, 2018:

I'm an Aquarius woman engaged to a Cancer man, and we've learned each other's strengths and weaknesses and we are rolling with it.

I went back to school in the sciences at 30 after 8 years in the visual arts He's buckled down and told me not to worry about home, just worry about school and my education. He pushed me to go after my pursuit of knowledge because he realized I wasn't happy just settling for a job that paid the bills.

I am trying to give back to him, make space for him, allow him the socializing that he needs, but we know that the next couple years will be hard, and I know he's making a lot of sacrifices.

What I need to make sure I do is listen to his needs. When he no longer needs to support me, and--let's shoot high--when I have my own environmental research lab, then I can support him. He'll get to live his dream of being the stay-at-home-dad of a littler of corgis like he's always wanted, while playing and writing D&D campaigns in his spare time. Or even I can support him while he returns to school to study ancient history.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2018:

I always tell people that we can find on this planet every match under the sun -- there is a way for every match to succeed and fail, but the design and mechanics of it is unique to each pair. There is no such thing as a bad match between zodiacs.

PancakeRichie on August 28, 2018:

My ex husband was an Aquarius. I’m a cancer woman. He was good to me, I was good to him for about 6years. After time passed, I started to feel like the love died, we didn’t talk or do things together, I felt clingy and unloved. I almost forgot what made me love him in the first place. We went separate ways. Later we became friends, it’s was fun,exciting, and then I remembered why I loved my Aqua so damn much. We really are a couple of goof balls together. Don’t forget that all relationships take honesty, communication, affection, patience, and respect on both sides. If the signs aren’t a great match, don’t let it stop you from loving a wonderful person.

Aquarius on August 26, 2018:

They are not on the same page and they wont be ... their perception in life is different. Though we resemble but many things do not match.

As being an Aquarius trust me a Cancer woman was biggest mistake and waste of time in my life, no disrespect to Cancer woman.

If you are Aqua go for Gemini or Libra!

Victoria on June 27, 2018:

How to make sure they are on the same page ,in love?

neha on September 22, 2017:

I do the same.next time I,ll think before talking.

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