Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.
Aries and Virgo: Are They a Match?
I believe that any zodiac combination can work or fail. This is why I think we have to look deeper at what is at stake. It’s important to remember that each combination — whether romantic, platonic, or demonic — is like a recipe. Some recipes are much more complicated, but that doesn’t mean the end result is worse or better because of the number of steps required.
What you will learn in this article:
- Traits common to Aries and Virgos as individuals
- How exactly this relationship works. What is the blueprint for an Aries and Virgo match?
- Strengths and weaknesses of both and how each partner can satisfy the other’s needs
Quick Glance: Aries and Virgo
March 21–April 19
August 23–September 22
Oriented by acts of service
Mercury or Ceres
Yin or Yang?
What Are the Characteristics of Each Sign?
Below are some traits common to Aries and to Virgo for easy comparison.
Aries Is a Fire Sign in the First House
As the first house of the zodiac, Aries is the forerunner for the other 12 signs. It is the firstborn child, often doted on by its parents, and symbolizes the independence we all have when we separate from the womb.
Aries is profoundly influenced by seeing winter, the clean slate of life, and the transition into spring. Aries is about making flowers grow. This sign wants to take charge and make sure those plants can survive and withstand the harsh conditions of spring — excessive rain, varying temperatures, and a resurgence of life around the world.
Aries is when we step out of hibernation and take charge of the world around us. In spring, the trees and plants change colors, foods taste sweeter, and we see the appearance of animals. Aries knows their importance and has a big ego. Without the appearance of Aries, nothing would come to follow it. This sign decides what things will come into the new year.
Virgo Is an Earth Sign in the Sixth House
Virgo falls right in the middle of the year. It comes at the end of summer, right as the leaves start to fall from trees and as the long summer days start to get cooler. Virgo is aware of what needs to be attended to at this point in time. It sees how much spring and summer have given, and now it has to manage all of it. Virgo is aware that some of these jewels are about to fade away and decompose, so Virgo feels a lot of pressure to do things right.
It feels anxious about the task of perfecting what the earth has given it. This is why Virgo is symbolized as the nervous system or digestive system. It’s as though the other signs picked the food to eat, and now Virgo has to go through the process of deciding which nutrients the body needs. This sign makes for hard, competent workers capable of mastering anything they set their minds to. They carry the weight of the world with them and have standards at 120% — if not more.
Virgo is considered the most solitary of the zodiac signs, partly because they have their mind and processes looking at so many other things that they don’t stop and smell the roses of romance.
Virgos crave taking care of another, chivalry, and wanting a passionate, consistent relationship. Virgo as a partner wants to give intensely and make absolutely sure that their partner is being pampered and supported. If you want someone who can really take care of you, a Virgo is a suitable choice.
Strengths of Aries and Virgo
Aries and Virgo have complementary strengths:
- Aries wants to take charge, go into battle, and make a difference. Aries gets the ball rolling.
- Virgo is constantly on the lookout for how they can best serve. They’ll come to your house and repair your car, change out a broken light bulb, and organize your home into something that makes sense or gives you better access to your resources.
Together these two cover all their bases. You have one person who loves to lead and one person who loves to manage. Aries has the willpower and Virgo has the resources to complement them. This may end up feeling like a perfect match. They fit together like puzzle pieces. However, Aries and Virgo both need to work on strengthening their weaknesses and not completely depending on their partner for strength.
Key Areas for Growth
Aries needs to learn humility, how to serve others, and to think before speaking. They are always on the go, but being completely present-minded means that they sometimes forget to be reflective and see how their choices can have an impact, whether positive or negative.
Aries sometimes needs to hold their tongue. They can speak too quickly and too sharply at Virgo.
Virgo also must remember that Aries is sensitive, so they shouldn’t delve into a long diatribe about misgivings. Pick your battles wisely, Virgo.
The mutable earth sign needs to take charge and lead and not always manage. They can get lost in the finer details, and this can cause them to lose precious time when they need to be more active. Virgo would do well to pull themselves out of their head, and instead, take action.
Things to Remember
I’m going to repeat some points here, but these points really need to be driven home:
- These two are sometimes going to have a hard time finding middle ground. Virgo is reflective and highly analytical, and Aries just doesn’t have time for that.
- Aries needs to slow down and be patient with their partner to better understand them.
- Virgo needs to be honest about how they feel and find a partner who won’t fight them off for having anxiety and indecision.
- If Aries can be a comfort to Virgo’s concerns, then this will work in the long haul.
Aries sometimes needs to rethink how they speak. Avoid commands and ask questions instead. At the same time, Virgo needs to think before giving criticism. Aries is sensitive to criticism, so if you plow into all their weaknesses, they might not understand what you are doing and feel worn out.
Virgo needs to defer to their partner, and Aries needs to reciprocate. You need to depend on each other. You both have a tendency to be very independent.
How the Signs Relate to Each Other
Let’s talk about manifestation. Aries is a leader in making things happen. Virgo manages what has already been manifested. Aries initiates, and Virgo strategizes. I find it helps to think about this pairing with some of the lore behind the signs.
Aries Lives in the Present Moment and Lets Virgo Deal With the Consequences
In astrology, Aries is a metaphor for the head and Virgo is a metaphor for the chest. Let’s think about that and how it connects to the digestive system.
Aries thinks about food when their stomach tells the brain they’re hungry. They will envision food, the smells, the scents, and start salivating. They will pass that food down to Virgo for it to process.
Virgo will actually engage with the food and decide what to do with it. It’s going to prepare that food for the rest of the body — for the digestive system, for expulsion, for the blood system, the nervous system. It has a lot of considerations when taking in food.
Sometimes what the mind wants ends up having poor results for the body. Virgo may get food that was intended to taste good, but in the stomach, it tastes bad or harms the body. This is why the link between Aries and Virgo is essential: Aries shouldn’t just consider the present moment and how they feel but also how their choice goes down the pipeline and affects Virgo.
Aries and Virgos Need to Communicate Clearly
Virgo needs to speak about what is happening to them because Aries does not experience the same things. The pains you may get from Aries’ choices are felt by you. So you need to tell Aries when something works, and you need to tell them when something is remiss. Aries needs to take these thoughts into consideration.
Having a good relationship between Aries and Virgo should produce a well-balanced body. If Aries isn’t communicating well with Virgo, the body gets out of shape. You either get too skinny, or you put on too much weight.
Aries needs to remember how their choices influence Virgo. Don’t keep making the same foul choices that hurt Virgo’s feelings. This will make Virgo feel like they are trapped — they’ll think you are never going to respect or listen to their feelings. Then Aries is going to feel hurt because Virgo is out of whack and that makes you feel uncomfortable.
How to Thrive Together
If you are in an Aries and Virgo relationship, one of the first things you need to do is figure out how to resolve tension. This is a primal part of what all humans experience:
- Be open to releasing your negative energy and opening yourself up to positive energy.
- Don’t put too much pressure on the digestive or nervous system.
- Take things in stride.
- Only consume to the degree that you can output. If you put too much pressure on your mind or your digestive system, it can get clogged up, in pain, or just flat-out stressed.
- Keep doing the things that made you fall in love with each other in the first place.
- Share gifts with each other and write each other love notes.
- Go on holidays and day trips to focus on the relationship and get away from other worries.
Be conscious in an Aries and Virgo relationship about how much stress you are putting on yourself and your partner and what you can do to ease those pains. This will come with Aries thinking more and Virgo talking more.
Pushing for a Healthy Relationship
Respect each other’s differences and be willing to compromise. Try to play fair — don’t let one person dominate the relationship. Aries will have to try harder to be more giving. Sometimes Aries is trying to make someone a pawn of theirs and not a spouse.
Aries needs to remember it takes two people to make a relationship work, and sometimes the focus is on the other person and what they want.
If you are having a hard time understanding each other, persevere. It may help to have a mediator who can help guide you through difficult conversations, give you direction, and help you to use emotionally intelligent language. You don’t need to be at each others’ throats in order to learn about each other and figure out how to make things work. Sometimes you need to think about things and what you want by yourselves, and then come back together and say what you have learned or that you resolved the issue for yourself and it is okay now.
Virgo is not trying to hold Aries back. The earth sign, for the most part, wants to help Aries. Virgo wants Aries to be realistic and take care of the things they create rather than just create more things. Aries is not trying to make Virgo feel incapable or slow: Aries appreciates and is fascinated by Virgo’s efforts in life. Both have different insecurities they need to work through and be honest with each other.
Encourage passion from each other. Encourage having a healthy dialogue. Your relationship matters and there are concrete ways to handle it. Virgo should remind Aries that there are tangible means of fixing a relationship, and Aries should remind Virgo that together they have the willpower to make their relationship work.
© 2017 Andrea Lawrence