Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.
Aries + Libra
Aries and Libra will connect with each other like magnets. They are complete opposites. Aries is the beginning of spring and Libra is the beginning of fall. Opposite relationships often go well together. I am not one to say that relationships have to be one way or the other. Some people prefer having someone who is opposite; some prefer one that is more like a mirror into the self. In all practical honesty, any relationship combination in the zodiac following simply sun signs can work.
We have seen every single combination, all 72 combinations, succeed in marriage, and we also as a species have seen all 72 combinations end in divorce, or even worse. As I look at my cats right now, they are in perfect harmony. And they are complete opposites. So today, we're going to talk about how opposites (with some notable similarities) attract. Laws of attraction and repulsion exist in all relationships. Many relationships leave the laws of repulsion unconscious, making it difficult to handle and tolerate.
In this relationship: your partner is bringing to the table the skills and traits you don't have but need. Aries is technically of a yang persuasion; however, I find the way we view yang-and-yin traditionally in the zodiac isn't always clear cut. Traditionally speaking, fire and wind signs are yang. Water and earth signs are yin. Libra has more yin quality to it than Aries, who is incredibly yang. Libra is ruled by Venus which is the planet of love and the following emotions. Libra has a certain romantic, idealistic mindset about them. They like to soak in the beauty of what is around them, and they crave fine things and to be refined. They want balance in the world rather than manifestation. Aries is all about manifestation. Libra is trying to balance all paradoxes; unfortunately, not everything in this universe is meant to be balanced or understood that way. This is difficult for Libra to reconcile.
So these two are going to attract to each other, but they definitely have different lenses that they bring together. Aries is the first child of the zodiac; they want to be independent; they strive to create and to get the world in motion. They don't like to sit still for too long. There's too much world and adventure for them to sit by and let it all go to waste.
Libra, on the other hand, is in the middle of the zodiac. They already see what has happened from manifestation, and they are preparing the seasons for the next half of the year. This is why Libra thinks more in balance. It cares about the manifestation of creation, but it also sees how you need to live and take care of what's already set in motion. This is good for Aries who needs a partner who balances them. Sometimes Aries needs romance, but doesn't have the best access to it, or has a partner that will confuse them. Aries can be thrown off by too much mushiness, and in turn, can only be competitive if it has a partner that solely thinks about their ego, like another fire sign. Libra is balanced in these regards, so that can make for a desirable relationship for Aries.
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Aries does move fast. They constantly want to be on the go. Libra is one of the more lazy signs. They will want to stay home and do absolutely nothing at times. They also will take on the world and bring in new insights, but they have a fear that they'll come off stupid. So they often hold themselves back and prevent themselves from interacting with the world. Aries doesn't think this way. It just goes, so the Aries sign will naturally pull the Libra out of its shell and into the real world.
Generally, whatever the Libra does is enjoyed by everyone. The Libra has an interesting mind as an air sign and might feel underestimated compared to Gemini or Aquarius. Libra borrows a little bit from both and tries to balance it out. It can be just as weird and eclectic as Aquarius, and it can be just as open-minded and indecisive as Gemini. One of the biggest balances that Libra has to deal with, though, is existing between its two polar opposite neighbors: Virgo and Scorpio.
Virgo is known for putting off relationships. It is the single most important sign of all. It wants to work hard and conquer the world often putting relationships on the back burner. Meanwhile, Scorpio is well known for how passionate it is, and that it actually desires relationships more than sex, but is not always conscious of this.
Libra has a lot on its hands trying to understand its neighbors and what it should borrow to balance it all out. Libra is an idealist, so it likes the passion of Scorpio. Libra is also constantly thinking, so it understands the busy-bee mentality of a Virgo, but usually Libra doesn't want to push itself to that Virgo-degree. It can find a Virgo exhausting.
Libra can find a lot of people exhausting, because it wants things to be balanced and refined. And so many signs just seem like they are overreacting or putting too much focus in the wrong direction. Libra will not put up with psychic vampires. It can't stay in that unstable position for long because they want something more real and sustaining. Libras are old souls, so they have high expectations for relationships. They can believe in soulmates, and if you are not their soulmate, they might see you as a psychic vampire taking them away from their true path. This can make Libras very picky, and at times they can't breathe with their own pickiness, and so Libras will flutter for a moment as a psychological release. This comes out from their flirtatious nature, but they are not players or seducers, generally speaking.
You may have a lot of battles about what to do and how everyone feels. Aries wants to go, and Libra is indecisive. Sometimes always having to do something can make sloth-like-Libra feel overwhelmed. Aries will sometimes have to calm down or do things by itself. Aries will gladly do things independently, but Libra who is into partnerships will feel bad if they are not investing in time with you when you want to do something.
With maturity and age, this should even out. Libra will realize that Aries does like doing things by itself, and Aries will realize Libra only likes to do so much in a day. At times, Libra will feel a lot of pressure to balance things out. Coming from the planet Venus, and wanting to maintain that love can be difficult when you have someone under Mars. This should make for a nice, balanced energy. Mars makes for a strong masculine vibe and Venus makes for a strong feminine vibe.
Venus in Retrograde
Whether you are reading this now or in the future, the energy caused by Venus being in retrograde speaks to the varying pressures of these two signs. Libra is guided by Venus. If you can remember spring 2017, you'll get an idea of the flow of energy here between Aries and Libra. And also what it feels like to pull them apart.
When Venus is in retrograde, it brings up the reality of certain situations, which puts pressure, particularly on Pisces and Aries. And for the sake of this article, Pisces and Libra are a lot alike. They have their obvious differences, but they are two of the eldest soul signs of all. So you can learn a lot from Pisces and apply it to Libra.
When Venus and Mars are pulling away from each other, it causes imbalance, making for strong weather patterns, and particularly confused romantic relationships. The energy is off and confusing. It may recover after a couple of months, but the damage can be real here. This kind of separation between planets that really connect to masculinity and femininity opens up existential crises when split.
You will probably come across people in relationships where their partner is cheating or considering meandering. People don't necessarily want to approach their partner with their affections because of a new fear of rejection. And so they're going to third parties to release the affections they want to give to their primary partner.
Retrogrades leave you vulnerable
People are vulnerable; there's a high sense of sexuality that tends to be unleashed due to Aries' nature when in this situation. And there's going to be a lot of murkiness all around. This will make you question your relationships, which, in part, is a good thing. Retrogrades happen so that we are aware of reality. They are big reality checks, and this one is a really big reality check. What's important to remember when this happens with Aries, it sets the stage for the year. Seeds will be planted in this time, so be careful what you do. Your actions do have ripples. Your thoughts do have ripples. There is nothing you do that is done alone. You are born into this world with the help of your family. Unless you die alone somewhere, your family is also there to send you off. People want to find their dead relatives and put them to rest for this reason. The closure is necessary. You as an individual are naturally also part of a collective. I say this not to give you an existential crisis, but to let you know you are part of a network. And your actions matter. You are living matter. So be careful about what you do in this season, because seeds are planted, and you don't want to plant seeds of despair. Those can be difficult to uproot later.
Protect yourself and be conscious of how you are thinking. When there is a lot of murkiness in the air, it is trying to get you to not think intentionally and get you confused. High sexually charged retrogrades are great for creativity, but can be destructive for relationships. You may see a lot of breakups, and many people coming to terms with their relationship and deciding... it isn't for them. These are make or break moments.
What to do when Venus is in retrograde
- Make a point to clean. Clean your house for an hour a day. This will clear the slate for your mind and keep you positive.
- Be intentional if you are in a relationship. Give compliments, consider what they may want in the relationship, and avoid people who you suddenly feel are attractive. Don't fear them; just don't bother with them.
- Spend time doing activities you love. Avoid negative energy.
- You may experience emotional highs or even telepathic moments. Take them in stride. Know you are not alone. You are growing; you'll continue to grow until it's your time not to be on this planet anymore.
- Be conscious of what you eat. Your stomach may have a harder time digesting food. Add more vegetables and fruits into your diet.
- Get enough sleep. Sleep is one of your best defense against spiritual or sexual attacks. Eight hours is recommended.
- If you are religious, review your holy book or your practices. This is a good time for self-evaluation. Get connected with your spiritual self again.
- Any negative comment you make is going to have three times the strength it normally has. Your stress is going to be three times more than your usual. For the next few days, remember and say to yourself, 'If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all."
- Watch your wallet. Don't get into impulsive spending. If you already have it, don't buy it. Cook food at home and save money from eating out at restaurants.
- Give to charities, churches, and other organizations to give positive energy back into your community.
- Stay out of dangerous places or places that attract negativity. Places prone to shootings and disasters will get hit with this.
How Does Venus Retrograde Relate to an Aries and Libra Relationship?
Venus in retrograde causes dissonance between Venus and Mars. When the two are closer together, and in balance, they make for a calm, wonderful relation that we all enjoy. This is the same for Aries and Libra. When they are pulled apart, it can be felt. Magnets are not supposed to be split to opposite corners of the universe. Aries and Libra are drawn to each other this way. They need to know that when there is a gulf, they will return to each other.
Aries is more likely to wander and get carried away with passions, so it needs to remember its contract with Libra. Just the same if Mars and Venus went off course in our solar system, breaking that contract would be devastating and would impact us here on Earth. There is an ebb and flow here, and even in individual times, you have to remember how you are influencing your relationship, be conscious, and understanding.
© 2017 Andrea Lawrence
Ashley on March 14, 2020:
My husband of 12 yrs is aries im Libra.
Thr article is absolutely true. We do have a magnetic pull towards one another. I love him beyond words.
Perry on January 06, 2020:
I feel me and my partner are like getting Along...
Phumla on December 12, 2019:
My boyfriend and I are the same age. He's a Libra. He Sometimes gets a little bit jealous, overprotective, bossy, paranoid but then we still make the best out of everything. He's so stubborn. And I'm also stubborn the problem is that I had doubts on our relationship but when I read this it gives me alot of hope.
Brandy on November 12, 2019:
So I am a libra and I am seeing an aries. He is sooo adorable. He is 3 years younger, so I love that he knows who and what I am talking about. I let him run around and do his thing(family and work) I love that he is not lazy, rough hands, and still likes to squeeze in alone time with me and can be silly together. I am indecisve so I don't mind when he takes the lead! I do like that he is not shy and says what is on his mind ...what he likes and how he likes lol...I talk alot...so i have been holding back! I love to listen to him and just look at him...so new i probably sound creepy. I am totally enjoying every bit of it:
Abhay Joshi on November 03, 2019:
Hi, I am Libra 21oct 1981, and the person with whom I have recently rised in Love, is Aries 05 April 1985, I read your this article very carefully, it sound very compatible, just a humble request will my this love be complete, by complete I mean, I want to marry her and be with her till the last breathe of my life. Please advice sir, thank you in advance.
Laura on October 11, 2019:
Mubaraka, end the relationship now. That kind of pressure is way too much for anyone.
Mubaraka on September 29, 2019:
Hi I m libran n my fiancee is aries we like n love each other want to ask u our marriage life will work na, my fiancee loves me a lot , if I leave him , he ll end his life as what he committed to me.
Mickey on August 10, 2019:
This is me and u
Rachele on July 10, 2019:
My finance is a Libra and I am an Aries. We have lots of ups and downs. But ultimately I couldn’t live without him. But lately things haven’t been right. He hasn’t been home much due to helping his mom but when he is home he’s starting arguments with me and when I say I miss him it’s like he doesn’t miss me and I’m an annoyance. I have no idea what to do anymore. We’ve been together for 7 years. I don’t know how I’d handle life if things were to end between us. I think I’d lose it but doesn’t seem like he’d care very much which really hurts me! I love him more then or differences and deal with our issues because he’s really my soulmate but i don’t think he feels the same anymore! Don’t know what to do anymore?! I’m lost when we’re not healthy and loving with each other. I think he’s just sick of me and doesn’t know how to end things but I can’t be positive.
Raydelle on July 02, 2019:
Im libra. And iiimmmm aaaaaaawesomeee!!!
Mara on March 30, 2019:
Im a libra and my girlfriend is an aries. This article helps because this is my first real relationship and we just got together a couple days ago. This helped prepare me for the future. Thank you.
Bruce on June 09, 2018:
Im a little confused about a Libra women I know the opostie sign how I'll maintain a Libra in certain area's
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 16, 2017:
Thank you! I'll keep putting these out there.
Larry Rankin from Oklahoma on March 12, 2017:
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 11, 2017:
Once I'm finishing this Aries series... I'm moving next to Taurus.
Louise Powles from Norfolk, England on March 11, 2017:
My sister is an Aries. Not sure what her husbands star sign is though. I'm a Taurus. Not sure who I'd be matched to though!