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Virgo and Aquarius Compatability
It may seem hard to believe, but two of the most independent, satisfied-with-the-single-life zodiac signs—Aquarius and Virgo—can make for a kismet match. You have the rebellious, off-beat, and authentic Aquarius paired with the hard-working, perfectionistic, and diligent Virgo. It's a water bearer meeting a virgin. An air sign and an earth sign.
The Virgo-Aquarius pairing works well if the two can accept and come to appreciate the ways in which they are different. They are not mirrors of each other, and that's what makes the combination so beautiful. If they're willing to put the work in, the two signs can help each other grow as individuals and as halves of the same whole precisely because of those differences.
This is because they know how to help each other where they are vulnerable. Virgo can nourish Aquarius's weird habits and quirks. Aquarius can teach Virgo to soften, withhold judgment, and embrace life more.
How Aquarius and Virgo Balance Each Other
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Are Aquarius and Virgo Sexually Compatible?
Aquarius are eccentric lovers, while Virgos are very attentive. They may need to gently encourage each other to break the ice. Both signs are very intellectual (albeit in different ways), so they run the risk of overthinking things, especially when it comes to sex. Virgo tends to agonize over big choices like when to get intimate even more than Aquarius, but one thing is certain: To make a relationship between these signs work, patience (and lots of it) will be an absolute necessity.
Virgo: Once you've decided that you want to take the next step with your Aquarius, don't agonize over every little detail of the encounter. Overanalyzing each moment as it happens won't do anything for you or your partner.
Aquarius: Try not to see Virgo's overthinking in the bedroom as a turn-off. While it may irk you at the start, that thoughtfulness and sensitivity will help other parts of your relationship flourish.
What Is the Aquarius-Virgo Power Dynamic?
As a fixed sign, Aquarius can be stubborn, which can be hard for mutable Virgo to handle. Virgo can be overly willing to sacrifice their own happiness in favor of their partner's, so it's essential to find a healthy balance for both partners.
For this relationship to work, both people need to establish and respect boundaries. Aquarius sometimes asks too much of their partner. Virgo sometimes needs to say no.
The Pros of a Virgo-Aquarius Relationship
When Aquarius and Virgo can learn to appreciate their differences, the results can be truly breathtaking. Here are a few benefits of a union between these signs.
Organization Meets Creativity
Virgo can offer structure to Aquarius, who often have a hard time manifesting. Virgo has such a strong will to conquer its goals, but that's not all—Virgo also has a plan to attain those goals. Aquarius, on the other hand, is a visionary constantly coming up with new, beautiful ideas, but with no clear plan to make those ideas a reality. Virgo can help make Aquarius's inner world come alive.
Friendship Comes First
Both will take the relationship slow, which is what they both need (Aquarius especially): a relationship that starts more like a friendship. Aquarius loves to talk and explore ideas, and conversation will be frequent with the Virgo, who is constantly putting themself out into the world and coming up with different ideas.
Jealousy Isn't the Go-To Emotion
Neither sign is particularly jealous. Virgos are naturally prone to doubt and may feel insecure if they see their Aquarius around other suitors, and Aquarius may feel upset if they think their Virgo finds someone else just as intriguing. Aquarius wants their Virgo to see them as absolutely unique.
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Luckily, since most relationships between these signs start as friendships, open communication should come naturally, helping them navigate any potential envy with relative ease.
There's No Shortage of Intellectual Stimulation
After all, this is one of the reasons the two are drawn together in the first place! Since they are both high-level thinking signs, they will feel comfortable exploring new and challenging ideas.
Aquarius . . . Virgo will try hard to pin you down and figure you out because they have been waiting for someone who is as fast of a thinker as they are, and you stick out like a sore thumb. The best thing you can do is just be yourself. Virgo may feel threatened by how chill you can be, so they may try to peacock for your affections, but sooner or later, the two of you will come to an understanding. When that happens, let the deep conversations begin.
They Complement Each Other
These two make for a strong business match. Virgo can act as a producer, publisher, or manager while Aquarius fills the role of writer, singer, or artist. They have what the other person doesn't, and if they can find a way to work together, they will make an unstoppable pair.
The Cons of a Virgo-Aquarius Relationship
Like most good things, a successful relationship between these signs doesn't come easily. Here are a few of the most common problems that Aquarius-Virgo couples experience.
Communication Can Be a Struggle
The biggest hurdle for these two will be communication and learning how to address conflict. Aquarius can feel deeply hurt by strong judgment. Virgo can feel deeply hurt by screwing up (they're very hard on themselves) or being too judgmental.
The two need strategies to facilitate peaceful conversation in times of tension. Virgo needs to express itself, but not at the cost of hurting Aquarius's feelings. Earth signs need to slow down and understand that there are other methods and strategies of looking at and handling life. Your way is not the only way; there are other ways that can manifest and be just as accurate, if not more so.
Virgo's Priorities Need Sorting
Virgos wants to take on the world, and sometimes they feel like no one else is capable (they're perfectionists, remember?), leading them to take on too much at once. Virgo sometimes needs to step away from all the work and other obstacles that can get in the way of a healthy relationship with their Aquarius.
Aquarius does not do well with an inconsistent mate. They don't like to be neglected because all Aquarians are looking for someone who accepts them, and a lack of time or shallow interest will make the Aquarius fade away. Make sure to be consistent and clear about your interests, Virgo.
Aquarius Struggles to Be Romantic
Aquarius, it's okay to be romantic. Let your creativity help you: bake them a cake, write them notes, draw them pictures, and sing them songs. Express your romantic feelings freely and spontaneously so that Virgo gets a clear signal from you. But don't fake it.
First off, the Virgo will see through your act, but second of all, that wouldn't be true to your nature. Aquarius cares greatly about authenticity and can feel weird if they're forcing their interactions with someone. If you aren't feeling it, don't force it.
The key takeaway: vulnerability is your friend, not your enemy.
How to Make a Virgo-Aquarius Relationship Work
Bringing these two signs together can be as beautiful as it is challenging. If you are preparing to embark on a Virgo-Aquarius relationship—or are struggling with one that you're already in—here are a few tips to help make things go more smoothly.
Find the Right Balance Between Caring and Overbearing
Aquarius will appreciate Virgo and the safe, traditional, and sturdy environment it provides. They will also see Virgo as having positive parental qualities, but that doesn't mean they want to be treated like a child. Being overbearing with Aquarius is the wrong way to go.
Avoid the Urge to Focus on the Negative
Aquarius grasps things easily and is skilled at understanding and solving conflict, but Virgo can have a tendency to harp on things and overexplain. In general, the two would do well to think before speaking and let their anger calm and fade rather than spur them to argument, as once the fight gets started, it can be hard to cool things down again.
Virgo would be wise to avoid the urge to overexplain, especially when it comes to potentially negative topics because Aquarius can get worn out by too much negativity. (Besides, odds are Aquarius already understands the topic instinctively.)
Virgo comes to a better understanding through negativity and isn't as distraught by it, but Virgo is sensitive in their own right. It doesn't like to be changed or told what to do, how to think, how to feel, or who they should be sexually attracted to. Going that far can set a Virgo off.
Be Open, Honest, and Patient
Virgo can help Aquarius to be a more refined person while Aquarius can help Virgo settle down and be at peace—something the Virgo ultimately needs to achieve. Therefore, Aquarius brings Virgo the much-needed enlightenment it has been craving its whole life. The two will fight over their differences, creating a pattern where they pull away and are then drawn back to each other. Virgo needs to be careful not to judge the Aquarius too quickly or sharply; this could make the Aquarius go POOF! And perhaps forever.
Aquarius needs to be patient with the Virgo, to try communicating what they are thinking, and understand that Virgo will listen. Virgos are very good listeners. Aquarius are forward thinkers, but they use the past to advance their future. Virgos do a lot of self-analysis of their past to perfect their lives. Both of these signs can hold heavy shame for not fulfilling their own goals and inner selves. Aquarius wants to be a humanitarian; they don't like conflict. Virgo wants perfection and can beat itself up for falling short.
Aquarius has more emotions to them than meets the eye; this is why they are the water bearer. They store up all their emotions until it overflows or the jar breaks. It is insulting to say an Aquarius is too cold or unemotional. They have a different way of displaying and working through their emotions, which is actually at the core of who they are, not to the side as many people wrongly try to explain about the Aquarius.
Balance Your Communication Styles
Aquarius also needs to be careful not to hurt Virgo by showing a lack of compassion (something Virgo takes very seriously). In general, the two would do well to think before speaking. If they do find themselves upset, they would be wise to let their anger calm and fade rather than jump into an argument, as hurtful and rash things that can't be unsaid may have a disastrous effect on their relationship.
If, however, these signs can find a way to understand and appreciate each other for their differences, they will form a brilliant pair. Their great minds don't think alike, and that's what makes the combination so spectacular.
Virgo: Look for strategies to better relay negative messages. Don't overload the Aquarius with negativity; this could push them away from you.
Aquarius: Communicate what you're feeling even if it doesn't fully make sense, and don't hold back when it comes to pushing through your vulnerabilities. Keep your Virgo in the know.
Make a Plan to Tackle Untidiness
A Virgo craves a clean space, clean energy, clean aesthetics, and purity. Clean = Virgo. Aquarius doesn't put as much energy toward having a clean space (or care as much in general about the concept of clean), though it will be a bonus to them to have a clean space because Aquarius is sensitive and easily affected by the external world. Aquariuses crave creativity over cleanliness, perfection, and the like, and they can get overwhelmed by materialism.
It might be best for Virgo to take on more household work while Aquarius tends to other relationship matters, from spontaneity to romance. If possible, Virgo should manage good chunks of housework and have Aquarius pick up the slack in other areas. That being said, both partners should work on the home, not just one person. Don't let Aquarius be too lazy!
Find Shared Hobbies
Aquarius will feel well taken care of in a Virgo relationship; earth signs offer security. Virgo will feel it can spread its wings more, leaving it free to open up its inner-weird and grow as a human. The two will need shared hobbies, particularly creative projects, and they should make an effort to try new things together and be spontaneous.
A Wonderfully Wacky Pair
I support this pair dating long term. What I like about this pairing is how much devotion Virgo can offer and how Aquarius can tend to it. Aquarius won't be judged harshly for their emotions in this pairing, but rather enjoyed for their charm. I think these two can really show a depth that is fulfilling. Some would say Aquarius with a Virgo is weird, but hold on . . . Aquarius is weird, so what are you expecting from any relationship with that sign? (As an Aquarius, I would know!)
How Do Virgos Show Love?
Virgo is great at manifesting things into reality, they are great caretakers, and they love acts of service—that's how they show love. They want their Aquarius to be comfortable around them. Virgo may cut Aquarius loose if the match doesn't seem to fit their standards early on, but once in a committed relationship, Virgo will be very loving and loyal to their Aquarius.
How Do Aquariuses Show Love?
Aquarius is great at the art of conversation, exploring unturned stones, and being sweet. They show love by spending time, physical affection, and compliments. Aquarius show their love by adding you deeper into their social circles; you'll meet a number of friends and family members.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2016 Andrea Lawrence