Why Aries and Aquarius Are Attracted to Each Other
Aries + Aquarius Compatibility
Aries is a commander—strong-willed, and intelligent—with the secret power to inspire Aquarius' creativity. Aquarius has the capacity to cool and understand Aries, making them soften and sweeten. This is a dynamic duo, giving both what they've secretly wanted, while also giving them a power-couple image. These two really have a boss-like relationship, one where they could easily manage a business or home together.
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Why Are Aries and Aquarius a Good Match?
Their Intellects Match Well
Aries and Aquarius are both strong thinking signs, but from different angles. This relationship can have a lot of yin and yang, with Aries being a fire-sign—an uncannily strong, leading force. Aries have a certain boss-like mentality that goes well with Aquarius, which can be more peaceful, yin-like, and unique.
Aries appreciates the bizarre mental choices Aquarius makes and learns a great deal from the water-bearer. Aquarius is drawn by the ram's capability to march forward seemingly effortlessly when the Aquarius knows that it takes some amount of charisma and luck to be forward.
Aquarius Isn't Afraid to Stand Up to Aries
Aquarius is naturally independent, making it easier for them to take on Aries' combative tendencies. Aquarius can stand up to the Aries and tell them when they are being false, and the Aries will—amazingly—listen. This is because Aries' energy itself is wise and trusts the Aquarian intelligence.
Sometimes when Aquarius steps up to the plate to tell someone they are in the wrong, the person will just ignore Aquarius or retaliate. This is really hard on Aquarius personalities who, even though they have a childlike nature, tend to be very prophetic, keen, and intuitive.
They Balance Each Other Out
Aries like to do the chasing; Aquarius likes to be the listener. A traditional male Aries and a traditional female Aquarius will enjoy this dynamic unlike any other pairing. Aries is a very physical sign; they like to have lover's quarrels, but they need to soften with Aquarius, who can be put into a state of panic with too much conflict. Aquarius needs to be open to Aries' learning style to push conflict forward to resolve it.
One of the benefits of this relationship is the power of manifestation. The Aries brings out the best in Aquarius, and the Aquarius helps bring peace to Aries. Aries trains Aquarius to be a better peaceful warrior in the world, while Aquarius reminds Aries that there's more to the world than war—there is also the garden, the magical, and the fantastical.
They Help Each Other Accomplish Their Goals
Aquarius men will be fiercely protective of their Aries partner's capacity to make things happen. The ram craves the manifestation of their goals and dreams. This is why it's the first zodiac. Aquarius is all about finding the truth and making sure the world is genuine; their ultimate goal is peace.
Aries aligned with Aquarius helps manifest peace, creative accomplishment, and strength. The zodiac is all about lessons on love—Aries and Aquarius help manifest that with their internal goals. Together, the two will feel more alive and more capable of accomplishing their desires.
Aries will push Aquarius to be a better person in the end, and procrastination will turn into productivity. Interestingly, age isn't going to matter as much in this relationship—the Aquarius may end up being younger (at least in spirit), with the Aries acting as a mentor.
What Makes Them Tick?
Both Signs Use Sarcasm as a Defense Mechanism
These two will do well to be original, eccentric, and sarcastic with each other. Air signs are automatically sarcastic, partly as a way to psychologically defend themselves against powerful emotions; sarcasm is a way to buffer those emotions. Aries can have sarcastic traits as well. This is comforting to Aquarians who want someone to defend them from the world and its harshness.
Both Signs Experience Powerful Emotions
Both of these zodiacs can be impartial, but they also have powerful emotions. Anyone who tells you a zodiac is without emotion isn't seeing the full picture. Aquarius is like Jean Grey; they stay in this peaceful, mind-reading zone—but as they absorb emotions, they eventually turn into the mover and shaker, the Phoenix.
Aries, too, is an emotionally absorbent personality. They take in what they can, quickly start experiencing biting and sassy emotions, and can suddenly turn into the thunder of the sky. These two can help matters by making it clear that they are comfortable with each other.
Playing mental games can help them relax. Focus on trying new things and opening up how you can be vulnerable. More vulnerability will glue these two together. And joke around! You would do well to engage in witty banter.
Tips for Aquarius-Aries Relationships
Take Things Slow
Remember: Aquarius put friendship before passion. Don't become impatient as a fire sign; Aquarius needs your attraction to them to be consistent, but they need to test the waters of friendship first.
This can be a challenge to understand since Aquarius has an army of friends, so you may have questions about how a platonic friendship can turn into a romantic relationship. Don't rush it. If Aquarius feels things are happening too fast, they will question what they are doing and may be scared off. Aquarius is a strongly existential soul.
Be Sensitive to Each Other's Needs
Aries will need to be careful not to get too pushy with Aquarius. There will be times that Aquarius has to cycle through their personalities, and they may have to move around their energy to focus on something more internal—meaning their creative output into the world slows down.
This can be hard on an Aries who puts pressure on the Aquarius to be more outside their head in order to help the planet overall. But the Aquarius has a lot to work through internally from their own experiences in the relationships that matter to them. They may also be dealing with unresolved energy from their childhood. The more understanding and warm Aries can be to Aquarius, the better. Sometimes Aquarian energy slows. Sometimes Aries energy speeds up. Be sensitive to each other's energy needs, and know when to take some time and space apart.
Communicate Openly and Honestly
The worst thing you can do to an Aquarius is go cold. They really don't understand mixed signals or why they would suddenly be shut out. They will think something is wrong if you're freezing them out, perhaps worrying that they are too weird for you.
This, ironically, is a big reason why Aquarius can have commitment issues. They are afraid if they get close to you, they'll suddenly be shut out, which would be far worse than never being in love in the first place. They need openness, not confusion. When something is wrong, let them know it's not their fault; this will be a huge relief for Aquarius.
Don't Ignore the Power of Intimacy
Aquarius can be a tough catch but can also ignore their sexual side in many circumstances. Scorpios cause a certain sexual awakening in Aquarius that makes them realize how much they long for a connection. Aries—another passionate zodiac—can have this power on the Aquarius as well, but they need to make it clear that they are attracted to the Aquarius. Seeing someone be interested in them will help Aquarius open up and express their sexuality.
Know When to Chase
Aquarius personalities often prefer someone to chase them—this zodiac is intuitive and can sometimes have premonition-like moments out of their control since them leading can be confusing for others. They have moments where they zone out to understand the world better than they did previously. An Aquarius can be a chaser if it wills itself to be, but you'll need to put in a lot of your own energy so they don't collapse.
Be Vulnerable and Accepting
These two will have a relationship that manages itself well. Aries will enjoy the strange, creative things Aquarius can bring to the table, and Aquarius will enjoy Aries' ability to stay committed.
Aquarius doesn't just want emotional vulnerability or passion between the sheets; they want someone loyal who will last, who will accept them for their eccentricities. This is why an Aries fits the bill with ease. Aries doesn't scare the Aquarian psyche.
I believe that there is hope for every combination; it's just a matter of understanding the energies. Think of it like picking a recipe from a cookbook—some are more complicated to make, but that doesn't affect their quality in the end.
© 2016 Andrea Lawrence