In the personality theory, Myers Briggs, INFJ types are the rarest type to run into out of 16 available personalities. The INFJ is dominated by introverted intuition, a rare function indeed, because the other personality dominated by this function -- INTJ -- is also pretty rare. What is introverted intuition and why is it the core of the INFJ? Introverted intuition means that the INFJ is more of an absorbing personality to collect information rather than one who acts out on logic -- logic as in the thinking / feeling scale.
INFJ personalities are constantly taking in new information, whether people realize this or the INFJ realizes it, and connecting that information to a global whole. INFJ adults show a high proclivity toward intelligence, but it often goes unnoticed in childhood due to a glossing over of how they take in information. Some have called the INFJ a psychic because of their unreal way of connecting information without much explanation. This can also be a hindrance for INFJ who does not understand that other don't possess the same gift. The INFJ needs to slow down, remember that others do not live inside their vivid, wonderful minds.
INFJ stands for: introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. Now what does those words mean? Myers Briggs believes people's personalities are comprised of four different spectrums, introversion to extroversion -- how you get your energy, whether spending time by yourself or around people; sensing to intuition -- how you collect information whether through your five senses or patterns; thinking to feeling -- I think this spectrum could be worded better, but it has to do with how you rationalize whether logically or by looking at how others feel before making a decision; and then perceiving to judging -- how much value you put on deadlines, having a clean environment, and the way you dress.
The INFJ personality is part of a unique family -- the idealists. This also includes the ENFP champion; ENFJ confidante; and INFP dreamer. The INFJ is a counselor type. They can generally see and understand people extremely well, but that doesn't mean that others instantly understand them. INFJ is considered one of the smartest types, usually in the league of the INTP (the smartest, according to theory) and the INTJ. Myers Briggs really favors intuition and thinking, but of course that's a generalized way of thinking -- and genius isn't held down by personality theory. You can find genius anywhere on the personality grid.
***I have some others articles on INFJ personalities for a more in-depth look at them, but today we are focusing on where to find them.
Where Do INFJ Souls Hide?
INFJ personalities are constant thinkers, daydreamers, dabblers in the arts. They comprise English departments, religious circles, counseling circles, nonprofits, and the music scene. If you are wanting to find one to see if you can connect with one, whether for a friend or lover -- or maybe you want to hire one -- try taking classes in writing, music, or high level humanities classes. This is all really attractive to an INFJ. You also will find several at a church or something progressive that catches their eye. This personality isn't always warm on a first encounter. They may be friendly, but to get rolling on a solid connection it might take a moment. Sometimes they instantly connect with people and move from there. INFJ are charismatic people because they have so much insight, but they can play their cards in a weird way that others don't comprehend or connect well with. They know they are odd ducks, and they like to own it. They also can be ambivalent to dating. INFJ struggles in this department because they have so much criteria on what is a relationship -- they often seek for an ideal that can be easily found. Also, INFJ are sensitive so everything in a relationship feels much more vivid and powerful. They both emotionally and sexually can connect deeply, and this can also scare them.
INFJ personalities typically like:
- Places known for great thinking: museums, higher level education, art shows, libraries, symphonies, Ted Talks, coffee shops, concerts, new trendy spots, churches, culturally-diverse hangouts.
- Coffee or tea
- Connecting with people one on one. This is one of the more social introverts -- both INFP and INFJ are odd ducks because they are socially intuitive, but also deeply crave alone time. What's the difference between an INFJ and INFP? Quite a lot actually. Where INFJ is dominated by intuition, INFP is dominated by emotion.
- Trying new things that have to do with culture, the humanities, the unique and absurd, Luna Lovegood like interests, and places that make them laugh and feel good.
- Yoga, dancing, non-competitive sports
- Wicca, the new age, spiritist movements
- Writing, research, thought-induced activities
- Possibly protests, these might also scare them away
- Staying at home, it means a lot when they invite you over to their cave
- Playing an instrument
- Keeping up with family and friends
- Going on big adventures: Peace Corps, missionary work in Africa, traveling across the country for a summer, living abroad to write poetry, and spending a semester at sea
- Helping others feel empowered, encouraged, and involved
- Standing not quite at the center of social interactions, but to the side. They may inch closer to the center with an ENFP nearby
- Having a special innate quality with animals and children
- Getting fussy over issues most people are not considering, like Hermione Granger
- Looking to create beauty and harmony
- Their Facebook statuses are usually eloquent, passionate, witty, and original
Spotting an INFJ
An INFJ personality will be a mix of modesty and volume. They tend to hold themselves back, especially around new people. They can be normal one day... and a brilliant shade of weird the next. An INFJ will have a messy desk, but will be dressed well. They like to match their clothes, like earrings that match shoes.
An INFJ could be carrying around a pen and pad taking scrupulous notes. Think glasses, a giant cup of coffee, and sitting in a corner, but also with a friend. Yes, INFJ do travel in hipster-like circles.
Your friend who really likes to post pictures of themselves online with their cat or dog.
This personality is often single, independent, and mayor-like. They know everybody, they mix well with others. They are private about their relationships, so it can be hard to know if they are taken.
Something about them seems different than other people. They don't look like they belong in a sorority, they usually dress in imaginative or hipster like clothes, they enjoy witty conversation.
INFJ are often highly witty, funny, and clever people. If you hear something oddly clairvoyant yet funny, you probably are in the realm of INFJ.
Think Galadriel from Lord of the Rings. She is psychic, deadly, and still graceful.
If you feel like someone has ESP, they are likely to be INFJ, which is the most likely to be psychic. They collect information from the world via introverted intuition, so it is difficult to see how they get information, and they are also inclined toward their emotions -- making them outstanding people readers.
Why INFJ Make Good Workers
An army of INFJ workers would be fantastic, but don't get greedy. It's not that easy to find them. INFJ workers are diligent, hard working, and highly creative. They are eager to please, and really strive to have a good relationship with their boss. Now here's the thing about an INFJ -- they can work great while also not caring. They have other priorities and portions of their identity that are more important than the job. This gives them a cool, calm edge over others. Of course, that coolness can break and be... earth shattering for those who witness it.
They have the appearance of staying calm under pressure, having quick and necessary answers, and they generally get along with most people.
They mostly need to watch their practical self, since they are so whimsical and delightful they can forget their five senses and be... accident prone. An INFJ should work to be more conscious in present, physical reality.
They are strong workers, and they need reassurance. A compliment, a genuine compliment, can go a long way for them. Don't take advantage of their eager to please side. It may be a paradox to be eager to please and also not care -- but that's the spark of a strong INFJ.
How to Make Friends With an INFJ
Keep it simple and keep it genuine. They'll read right through you if you're phony. The good news: INFJ are really easy to befriend.
Here's some tips:
- Be yourself
- Offer up strange information about yourself, like your paperclip collection you've had since you were five. Something to pique their interest.
- Work with their interests. Try planning events that you know involve their creativity -- checking out art, going to a park and watching a crazy urban Shakespeare show, or bake cupcakes together. Most INFJ like baking.
- Don't crowd them. If you bombard them with friendship right from the top -- calling and texting too much, constantly wanting their attention -- you'll overwhelm them and they'll wish they could find a way to naturally get you to go away. Calm down on the friendship recruiting!
- Offer them chocolate or other goods. Who the heck turns down chocolate?
- Invite them to something really unusual -- larpers at the park, scuba diving with otters, and going on a limousine ride with Power Rangers? They might not take you up on this, but INFJ like things that are different. It's like a new texture to explore.
- Talk to them about your personal problems, especially your love life. INFJ like to offer advice here. It's their devil in their side.
- Support them when they accomplish something. Celebrate the book they've been writing on for ages. AND READ IT. And may the gods be in your favor to legit like it.
- Go out to dinner with them. Easy plan.
- Present to them a unique idea to explore, something that the mind will find fascinating.
Cris on February 25, 2020:
Beign an INFJ I can relate to most of your posts about this personality. Thank you for share your knowledge Andrea!
Sabrina on September 27, 2019:
Enfp here, currently studying about infj and slowly but surely falling hard in love eventho never met one xD crazy isn't it?
But i do have an infj friend, out of my circle of friends, she is my favourite. We jam a lot when we are in the car, and the next second have a deep conversation on life xD god i love her so much!!!
Rumana on August 05, 2019:
I think there is a danger of being INFJ...everyone should know that they are kind and very helpful..devoting their life for others well being...these are also the most dangerous trait in them which attracts lots of Narcissist and psychopaths. for them, INFJs are the most suitable, easy to manipulate and life long pray they can suck energy from. so please be careful. kindness is a great virtue but don't spend it carelessly on everyone. Save yourself from the malignant Psychopaths and do not let people use your power to harm you or others.
Anonymous on January 22, 2019:
Gurfateh, from one INFJ to another, I can relate to your feelings. I also know that there really isn't anything in this life that can fully fill that void. We want our lives to be completely full of meaning and purpose, we want to be perfectly understood, etc. What we are really longing for is heaven on earth:) And it isn't here.... well not yet at least.
But God does promise that heaven is coming to earth - Revelation chapter 21-22 in the Bible literally describes this happening. That gives hope to this perfectionistic idealist! And it also gives me my sense of purpose: my need for deep relational connection met as I strive to get to know this mysterious and perfect Personality throughout my lifetime here, and my need for purpose met as I join Him in His purpose of bringing others to know Him as well. So you can obviously see why I felt burdened to write this response:)
Knowing God is the highest purpose for humans. Not only is He the one who created us, but He is also infinite. I will spend the rest of eternity getting to know Him better and further discovering how mind-blowingly amazing He is. I will never come to the end of Him and have Him all figured out. And His infinite love for me is enough to blow my socks off too!
But the first step in knowing Him is one of humility: acknowledging that He is the Owner and Controller of the universe and that I'm accountable to Him. I've transgressed the boundaries of right and wrong that He has established. I've acted like I'm the center of the universe instead of acknowledging that He is.
And yet amazingly enough He still loved me (and all of us) enough to take on human form and come to earth as man to live a perfect life in our place, and then to die to take the punishment for our sins that we deserved. If you haven't figured it out by now I'm talking about Jesus:) He freely offers forgiveness and new life to all who put their hope and trust in Him. The most wonderful gift that has ever been offered to any of us! And it is freely available to YOU.
With love from your INFJ friend.
Gurfateh on September 30, 2018:
Been thru the personality test like above 30 times, just to make my self believe, that may be next time the result could be different.
Well, it was always the same. INFJ.
now i have been throuh most of the online study about this personality,
I feel like, every bit of it is written about me.
I just can't overcome this feeling of emptiness, like i was born to do something but just haven't discovered it yet.
Dear author, can you explain how can i find the missing links in my life.
I mean this emptiness, sorrow is consuming my life even more with every passing day, i feel depressed, not being able to find my purpose of life.
I need help, any info would be welcomed.
Aya chahal on May 09, 2018:
Hello, thank you very much for this i feel i understand myself better than before but i have a question i m so confused and I really need an advice from someone with knowledge: im on my last year of high school and i m going to enter University the next year and i still don't know what I should do, i really hate routines and i want to be someone with a lot of achievements not like other people, even though I mnot sure what to do my parents wants me do study medicine and I don't think i hate it but i'm not sure if i love it and if it's the best choice to me so I'm wondering if you think that medicine is a good domaine for an infj or is it bad and if not what should i do, thank you in advance
otto on October 28, 2017:
omg im INFJ confirmed from several different exams, and this description is veryyyy good.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 11, 2017:
Glad to know it was spot on. ;)
Dawne on July 10, 2017:
Completely accurate. Wow, I'm impressed!
Kimberly on June 04, 2017:
I am so happy to have found your articles on the INFJ! It makes me feel better about myself. And explains everything in detail why I am the way I am. I have to force myself to go out of the house to be around people. All I want to do is stay home and paint.... but have to do the extroverted thing for work. Its very hard to get enough time for myself because people are always giving me things to do (for them). Its because they know I will always help them. The only help I need is to work (caregiving for dementia clients) less hours and have more time to heal and rest. I need to fight for the "me" time..... and its ALWAYS a struggle.....
Melon_yong on May 31, 2017:
It's really me! But I don't like animal and I can't bake any cake
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 21, 2016:
You're welcome! It is nice to hear when it is accurate.
KonaGirl from New York on November 18, 2016:
You just hit my personality spot on. It's been a long time since reading about this type of personality sorting. Thanks for the info.