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Are You Brave Enough to Date a Scorpio Man?

Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in-between in a candid yet humorous approach.

Ryan Reynolds (October 23,1976)

Ryan Reynolds (October 23,1976)

Since we are in the midst of the Scorpio sign of the zodiac (October 23-November 21), I thought it would only be appropriate to share what it's really like to date a man born under this most mysterious of signs. No other zodiac sign has ever gotten as much attention or criticism as the Scorpio. Whether it's deserved or not is yet to be determined. So what is it about this sign that has both intrigued and disturbed people for so long?

If I had to use one word to describe a Scorpio man it would be intense; in every way towards everything in his life. This is not an easygoing guy! He is determined and hardworking. He is very confident and sure of himself. He is a man with a plan that will do just about anything to make sure that plan is accomplished. He will not give up and could never be labeled as a quitter. A Scorpio is a very complicated guy that has many layers to his personality. He's like an onion that you peel and just when you think you're at the center, there's another layer to discover. And trust me, you're going to want to get to the very heart of this guy because that's where things get really interesting.


If you are in a relationship with a Scorpio man be prepared for the experience of your life. It's going to get very, very intense very quickly. A Scorpio man never does anything halfway. If he's going to be with you, he's really going to be with you in every sense of the word. You never have to worry about whether a Scorpio man is into you or not because if he is you will definitely know it. He's not shy about showing his affections towards you. He will call, text, and show up for dates without you having to do anything. He steps up and take charge in a relationship so you can just sit back and enjoy the ride. A relationship with a Scorpio man is not for the faint of heart, but in life if you're going to ride a roller coaster, you might as well ride the biggest one.

Leonardo DiCaprio (November 11, 1974)

Leonardo DiCaprio (November 11, 1974)

If you're the type of lady that likes a man who takes the lead in a relationship, a Scorpio man might be the dream guy for you. He is never going to be one of those guys who leaves you wondering whether they're into you or not. He's going to let you know either way and you better believe him when he does. A Scorpio man is a fairly quick thinker so when he's into you, he's not going to waste weeks or months thinking it over because he ain't got time for that. He's going to be making a move and you better be ready for it because it's coming!

If after a few dates you really aren't feeling it, please don't lead this guy on. A Scorpio man appreciates honesty so if you know you aren't going to date him seriously, let him know as soon as possible. It's never a good idea to lead him on. If you are serious about dating him, let the adventure of your life begin. I think Scorpio men get a bad reputation because they are so misunderstood. It takes a really intuitive and perceptive woman to really understand a Scorpio man in a way that is accurate. If you think men are complicated then Scorpio men are really a puzzle if there ever was one. But I'm going to let you in on a few secrets about him.

Above all else, a Scorpio man is still a man and men are simple if you really take the time to understand them. Of course everything about a Scorpio man is complicated on the surface, but when you dig a little deeper down you'll realize it's complicated but in a fairly simple way because he is still a male. Scorpio men are known to be very sexual so this is one of their weaknesses. If you really want a successful relationship with him, you'll want to be on the same page about this. Sex is important to men, but to Scorpio men it is essential, much like breathing. There is no way they'll consider your relationship successful without it also being sexually satisfying. Scorpio men tend to have a large appetite when it comes to sex so you should be prepared to fulfill that desire if you want to have a happy relationship. Scorpio men are very good at the sex part, so it's not a bad thing at all. After being with a Scorpio man you might just say he's the best you ever had! This sexual ability only gets better with age so if you're dating an older Scorpio man, he's probably even better at it because he has more experience. Most women can agree that a Scorpio man definitely knows what he's doing in bedroom. And just like in most other areas of his life, a Scorpio will take the lead and you should let him because there's no one who can do it better. Just relax and enjoy it.


You should know before dating a Scorpio man that they demand a lot of attention. Be prepared to share every part of your life with them. These guys put their heart and soul into everything they do so if you want to be swept off your feet, they're going to be the ones to do it. A Scorpio man has a good memory and he's very dedicated to your relationship, so long gone are the days when your boyfriend forgets your anniversary or birthday. A Scorpio man will remember everything and he'll make sure you two have a good time. He's likes to plan dates right down to the details so if that's okay with you, you should let him because he really enjoys it. He also wants to be appreciated so make sure you show him how thankful you are in every way possible. Bonus points if it's in the bedroom because to a Scorpio that's where it really counts the most.


There's something about dating a Scorpio man that makes you feel addicted to him. He becomes like a drug that you just can't quit. It might be those expressive eyes that can see straight into your soul. Or it might be his bedroom skills. Either way, you'll find yourself in a sort of trance that you can't get out of. Even if the relationship has it's problems, you'll find it very hard to quit it. Scorpio men tend to have a power over the women in their life. It's very subtle at first, but once you get a taste, he might just be the hardest habit you ever break.

A Scorpio man is not a cheater or player because he dedicates himself to one woman entirely. If that's you, you're going to be the center of his universe and there's not going to be room for anyone else. Scorpio men are so passionate about a relationship and give it their all that so there's not much left for another women to share with. If he does cheat, it means he's not getting something from the relationship which is rare. A Scorpio man is very intelligent and intuitive so he knows going into a relationship whether it's right or not. If he's cheating then something has changed in the relationship and the balance has shifted. You'll need to have an honest conversation about where things are headed because a Scorpio is a one woman man and if he's not, then something is definitely wrong.


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In a relationship, a Scorpio man likes to keep in touch constantly. He's going to be blowing up your phone with calls and cute text messages. He's not being clingy, it's his way of showing that he cares. Expect things to move fast in a relationship with him. He's not one to press pause on any part of his life because he expects to experience it all to the fullest. If he's dating you, he's obviously serious about you, and if he's serious about you he sees you as long term potential. A Scorpio man invests a lot of time on a woman he's serious about so just make sure you see him in the same way. There's nothing that irritates and aggravates a Scorpio man more than a woman who is flaky and can't make up her mind. If you waste too much of his time you're going to be very unhappy and he will make sure you'll regret it.


The thing about a Scorpio man is that he might as well be psychic because he reads people like no other. It's like he knows what you're thinking before you actually speak it out loud. It's very, very, hard to deceive a Scorpio because they know it's coming before the words are even out of your mouth so don't even bother. If you're in a bad mood, they'll sense it as soon as they see you. They're also very careful with their words and know exactly what to say at exactly the right time. You might think they are just pouring on the sugar to get what they want from you but they actually say things because they know it's the right time for them. Their intuition is incredible and they tend to give the best advice so always listen to what they have to say. Isn't that what women have always wanted, a man who understands them without them having to say anything? If that is you, a Scorpio man might just be your perfect guy.

The one thing you should never do is cheat on a Scorpio man. He can hold a grudge like no other and will never forget even if he appears to forgive. Just don't do it. If you feel like the relationship has lost it's spark for you, just end it nicely. Have an honest conversation with him and lay all your cards on the table. He'll appreciate the honesty and after having a good talk you might come to realize that it's the best thing for both of you. It's best not to stay with friends after break up with a Scorpio man if it ended badly, but if it was mutual you might consider it after a decent amount of time has passed. A Scorpio man has a large ego and it needs to be stroked during a breakup so don't play the blame game. He's a smart guy, he's knows if he's doing something wrong so it's never wise to repeatedly throw it in his face. Whatever you do, try as best as you can to end on good terms with the Scorpio man, trust me you don't want him as your enemy.

Before going into a relationship with a Scorpio man, decide if you are ready to give your all to one person. This is probably going to be the most intense relationship of your life so you have to go in knowing it's going to be very serious very quickly. There's no halfway or sort of when it comes to the Scorpio man. Get ready to have your world rocked in and out of the bedroom. Deep and meaningful conversations are a must. If you're a shy lady, get ready to be swept off your feet by your leading Scorpio man. He's complicated and romantic and everything in between. So if you feel there's something missing in your life and have a need for more, the Scorpio man just might be your Prince Charming on a white stallion. But he's a Scorpio so make that a knight on a dark horse.

Dark Horse by Katy Perry

Questions & Answers

Question: I am in love with a Scorpio guy, but I don't think he is into me. When we are together, it's awesome, but when we are apart I always have to text him first. What should I do?

Answer: Don't contact him first, wait for him to make the first move. Then you'll know if he's really into you and see what happens next.

Question: Can a relationship involving a Scorpio man and an Aquarius woman work?

Answer: Yes, read my article titled Scorpio and Aquarius: A Match Made in Heaven or Hell?

Question: Do Scorpios cheat?

Answer: They can if they aren't serious about their partner.

Question: Will a Scorpio man and Virgo woman make a good match?

Answer: They're not the best match in the zodiac but they can certainly work.

Question: Are a Scorpio man and a Cancer woman a good match?

Answer: Yes, they are both water signs and would make a very good match.

Question: I’m a Scorpio woman. I think I like a Scorpio man, but I can’t tell for sure. How do I know?

Answer: Only you can know if you really love him. Can you picture your life with him? What's it look it and how does it make you feel? That is your answer.

Question: At the beginning when you're talking to a Scorpio man should you let him know immediately that you like him and send him cute text messages like “I miss u”?

Answer: No, let him show his feelings first and then slowly open up to him. You can let him know you're interested, but not in a super obvious or cutesy way.

Question: Why would the Scorpio I was dating get scared about being involved?

Answer: He's probably not ready to be seriously committed. Tell him how you feel and don't be scared to walk away if you don't like what you hear.

Question: Will a Scorpio man and a calm, mature Sagittarius woman work long term?

Answer: It can if both people try, but it's gonna take a lot of work. Water and Fire signs don't usually make a good pair.

Question: I'm with a Scorpio man that has cheated several times and won't be honest about it. How can I make him understand that I am aware without it becoming an argument?

Answer: Let him know you know. Have a conversation. Don't be afraid to walk away. You deserve someone better who doesn't cheat on you.

Question: Are Pisces and Scorpio a good match?

Answer: Yes they are a very good match.

Question: Do Pisces Women make a good match with Scorpio men?

Answer: Yes, they are both water signs and a very good match.

Question: Can a relationship involving Scorpio man and Scorpio woman work?

Answer: Yes, they are a very good match together. No one can understand a Scorpio like another Scorpio or water sign like Pisces or Cancer.

Question: Are a Scorpio man And Pisces woman a good match?

Answer: Yes they are both water signs and can be great together because they have a lot in common coming from the same element.

Question: Do virgo and scorpio match?

Answer: Yes. They're not the best match in the zodiac, but they can work if you both want it to.

Question: Can a Scorpio man and a Sagittarius woman make a good match?

Answer: They're not the best match astrologically, but they can certainly put in the effort and see if it works out!

Question: I'm a Cancer woman & I have been intimate with a Scorpio man but we are not in a relationship but I feel he likes me & I really like him a lot but one minute he's warm feeling the next minute he's cold and secretive. What should I do about my Scorpio man's fluctuating affections?

Answer: Give him some space. Let him come to you and in the meantime decide if that's really how you want to be treated. I think you deserve better.

Question: I'm a Leo woman engaged to a Scorpio man, but having second thoughts. When things are good, it's amazing. But we fight constantly and he is the most controlling, negative person I've ever been with. But I still love him. We had an LDR for 2 years and things were perfect then, but since moving in together last year there have been lots of problems. How can Leos make a relationship with Scorpios work? I don't want to end things, but I'm so exhausted a lot of the time!

Answer: Leos and Scorpios can be great together, but that is not always the case. If things aren't working out, you should try talking to someone, maybe a therapist. Try to figure things out. But if you two just don't get along now that you live together, maybe it's better for you to separate. I know it's hard, but it's harder living with a negative person who constantly brings you down. You can still love him and keep him in your life, but maybe as just a friend and see how things go. In the end though, don't you deserve someone who makes you happy? I think you do. Scorpios have a tendency to be very negative and it sounds like your partner is that. Leos are more positive and upbeat people who need someone likeminded around.

Question: My Scorpio man has triplets on the way and talks to his bm late at night. How am I suppose to respond to my Scorpio man's actions?

Answer: It sounds like he already has a lot on his plate. Maybe you should consider finding someone with less baggage. You can try and talk to him about it first and tell him how you feel. If nothing changes, it might be in your best interests to move on.

Question: Would a Scorpio and Leo good together?

Answer: Those are two really strong personalities. Either they will get along really well or not at all. It's a hit or miss.

Question: Can Scorpio men and women work in relationships?

Answer: Yes but get ready for a very intense relationship.

Question: Will a relationship involving a Scorpio man and Virgo woman make a good match?

Answer: Scorpio makes the best matches with other Scorpios or water signs like Cancer and Pisces. They can also make good matches with Virgos, Taurus, and Capricorns.

Question: if you've been friends with benefits with a Scorpio for over a year would it be safe to stay they'll into you?

Answer: He might just be into the benefits. You should have a talk with him and see where you two stand. Is it enough for you to just be friends with benefits or do you actually want a relationship?

Question: Can a relationship work with a Gemini if I am a Scorpio woman?

Answer: It's not the best match but it can certainly work if you both put in the effort.

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jazzyrows on July 25, 2020:

I have been dating a Scorpio for over a year and we both love each other, however there are times where I don’t feel appreciated. He doesn’t take me out or make me feel special all we do is hang out at my apartment or at his and have lots of sex. Why isn’t he making more of an effort?

Mus on July 03, 2020:

im a scorpio man, sex is a spiritual thing for us, one partner is the right thing to do, because loyalty us super important to us, our loyalty may be tested and stand strong for most of us

Amy on June 12, 2020:

I have been dating a Scorpio for over a year and we both love each other, however there are times where I don’t feel appreciated. He doesn’t take me out or make me feel special all we do is hang out at my apartment or at his and have lots of sex. Why isn’t he making more of an effort?

Catalina on June 02, 2020:

Can a Taurus woman and Scorpio man both in early 40’s work?

Anonymous on May 13, 2019:

I’m Scorpio-Sagittarius cusp idk im more Scorpio in things and Sagittarius in others and it’s really hard to control it like idk what’s going on in my emotions, I forgive fast but hard for me to love fast.

I can’t find the one I like, I just want her calm quite crazy forgive fast and outgoing and honest but sensitive.. I can’t find her :( and yes I’m very very picky

Auburnmoon21 on March 02, 2019:

I have just been reunited with my Scorpio after 17 years. Everything was great, we connected on a level like never before and we were together for 8 years, and after 2 weeks of intense, deep conversation he drove 3 hours to see me. It was wonderful. Then he went home and shifted. He said the reality of the distance hit home and he was overwhelmed and was processing everything. I told him to take the time he needed to get back to where he needed to be. I haven’t heard from him in 4 days. I’m not sure what to make of this. I know he loves me and plan on just waiting for him to reach out. Is that the right thing? Or is he done?

thegironfire on December 13, 2018:

Can a relationship involving Scorpio man and Scorpio woman work?

Noel on November 17, 2018:

They are all the thymine this article but you forgot control...

Faith on September 15, 2018:

The scorpio that I dated was a wonderful man. I loved him too much and had to break it off. I would say he amazing.

Philip Bos on August 24, 2018:

I am a Scorpio man. I totally agree with this article and the comments below. We are superb manipulators. I can say you should never cheat on a Scorpio. I was married to my love for 28-years. She cheated then blamed me. She will never look the same to me and I have totally cut her out of my life. Funny thing is she cheated with another man who has the same birth date as mine. Funny and messed up at the same time.

Mike Simpson on March 04, 2018:

This reply is to Jane's comment! I'm a scorpio guy and I'm sorry to say that you are exactly right if you're scorpio lover is immature or negative. I almost totally agree with this article with the exception of being clingy and keeping in touch all the time; unless of course, he thinks it's something his mate has an affinity for. A scorpio chooses to either fuck with you or make love with you; it is a calculated decision that any mature scorpio is going to be honest about!!!! If he's just fucking you, and I mean even if the sparks fly, which they may/may not..there is no love involved! If he's loving you, then it's no holds barred! To a scorpio lover, "the greatest pleasure is giving pleasure!" If you're the woman he chooses to be "his," there will be no limitations except the ones you create by not being totally honest. However if he's immature and uses his intuition to manipulate you for his selfish desire, it's better to cut all ties and move on. There's nothing worse than a narcissistic scorpio!!!

Tay Edwards on November 16, 2017:

I'm dating a Scorpio man right now . And I am a Scorpio woman. In almost every relationship I've been in, I've been told I am a very complicated person. I'm not surprised at all by this article because me and this man share A LOT of these same traits

jane on August 14, 2017:

It is sugar-coated article reality is very different Scorpio wants honesty but they themselves are biggest manipulator out there double standards will be there

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