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Tips on Dating an Aries Woman

Tips for Dating Ramettes (aka Aries Women)

Tips for Dating Ramettes (aka Aries Women)

So You Really Want to Date an Aries Woman?

Good luck to you! If you are in pursuit of an Aries woman, get ready for the most intriguing, frustrating, satisfying, exhausting ride of your life. And this is true for both successful and unsuccessful relationships.

By the end of this page, you'll have (mostly) everything you need to know about dating an Aries woman successfully.

True to form, I'm the author of this page and I am an Aries. If you're reading this, I would happily bet $25 that you are either another Aries woman, or perhaps an Aries man, or a man of any other sign except Taurus, Cancer or Virgo. Either that, or you stumbled upon this page by way of something else, and stopped out of sheer curiosity.

Why Write This Page?

I approach this purely from a personal point of view. Naturally, Aries women are curious about ourselves. We're also careful observers of other people ("perceptive" describes us to a tee). I suppose just as naturally, a good 30% of my many female friends are Aries, too. And probably 50% of the women I dislike are Aries. I know a lot about Aries. We're not all candy and kisses, bounced checks (well, most of us are) or flirts. We're very complex people. But there are some things that are pretty much dead on in terms of dating.

Disclaimer: I'm not an astrologer. I'm an ARIES. :) That said, this is still going to be just as semi-reliable as everything else you've ever read about Aries women. But remember, sun sign is just one part of this massive puzzle of personality and compatibility.

For that matter I am also a Monkey on the Chinese zodiac. If you know anything about Monkeys, put that together with Aries and what do you get?

Who Are Aries Women?

Aries are born between March 21 and April 20. Depending on exactly when the birthday falls, the Aries woman is going to be more or less like the description on this page. My birthday happens to be April 4, which places me as close to true Aries as it gets. Some women are more like Tauruses (those born closer to April 20), and others are more like Pisces (those born closer to March 21).

We are associated with the RAM. What vision comes to mind when you think of a ram? Probably something unpleasant. Unfortunately, that's our sign. It comes in handy sometimes, but I believe it does us an injustice!

Aries a la Wikipedia:

As the first sign of the tropical zodiac, Aries is seasonally associated with spring and according to astrologers represents a strong, sometimes creative thrust and powerful expression of energy. The sign is governed by Mars, the planet of activity and assertiveness, which astrologers believe adds the traits of competitiveness, impulsiveness, and the instinct to act spontaneously. The Sun is also strongly associated with this sign, which it governs by exaltation. The solar-association is seen as adding expression of the ego, and the desire to make a mark as an individual. Joanna Watters (2003) defined a keyphrase for this sign as "I am."

Tips for Successfully Dating an Aries Woman

I read something that I thought was funny about Aries women. It said that you don't go out and get Aries women - they happen to you. That's probably true. Nevertheless, read on for tips on how to have a relationship with an Aries woman.

Then, read the rest of the page to really figure out how to make these tips work.

  • Don't believe everything you read about Aries women. We are even more complicated than that.
  • The space we require has very little to do with you, and almost everything to do with us. We even need space from our own kids. Don't take it personally. We are truly independent people.
  • Learn to lead. We enjoy leading but hate being forced to lead.
  • Be romantic - or at least make it a goal to learn how.
  • Be honest. We will figure you out anyway.
  • Take us out in public every once in a while.
  • Compliments cover a multitude of sins.
  • Don't flaunt money or possessions. And certainly do not equate yourself with your money.
  • We're okay with being friends first, but we can't be just friends for too long.
  • We will offer to pay for ourselves and may even require you to let us. But we do like being taken care of too.
  • Don't buy clothing for us, especially if whatever you want to buy is very different from what we usually wear.
  • Don't point out our mistakes. We do that ourselves.
  • Be quick to forgive. For the most part, we are.

First Things First: What Aries Women Like and Dislike

Please pass the information from this page on to men you know who are interested in dating Aries women. They will need it. And most likely, they will NOT accept it in the form of astrology, because like many other aspects of the Aries' personality, this is just too out there for them. So you'll just have to pretend you discovered this some other way.

What Aries Women Like

  • Assertiveness: We are assertive, and believe me, we really, really like assertive men. Let me say this again: we really, really like assertive men. If you are a jerk, in the beginning, we will find you fascinating. But even more so, we will find the fact that we are fascinated by you fascinating (hidden critical factor #1). The more assertive you are, the better. However, we will not tolerate meanness, cruelty, rudeness, being impolite, or impatience (from you). Don't rush us unless you do it in a way that makes us feel good (like, "C'mon, baby. We're going to be late. You know you always look good anyway!")
  • Rough and Tough: Strangely, Aries women will at some point in their life find "real men" attractive. If you are a sexy carpenter, firefighter, or soldier, we will probably be interested in you purely for the fact that the work you do is physical. We are physical people attracted to physical people. And we will have vivid imaginations to go along with this.
  • Intelligence: While Aries women are incredibly open-minded and tend not to judge (we're too inwardly focused for that), we do appreciate and even idolize intelligence. What makes this point interesting is that physical attractiveness comes in a distant second to intelligence (perhaps even third or fourth). We don't have the patience for simple-minded men. If you can beat us in a debate, we will not forget it and will probably obsess over that, quite possibly tricking ourselves into thinking that we are very interested in you, when in fact, we are mostly interested in the fact that you beat us at something.
  • Attention: While we are not necessarily egotistic people, Aries women are ego-centric, and there is a huge difference. We devote quite a bit of attention to ourselves and expect our partners to do the same (as in, devote quite a bit of attention to us).The more attentive you are, the higher you will score. This could also mean being aware of the times when we need our space. Learn to read us. We are so obvious - we are actually incapable of being devious unless we are physically miles and miles away from you - that we expect (logically) that you will understand us. Pay attention.

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What Aries Women Dislike

  • Laziness: If you are lazy, but we generally like your other traits, Aries women will simply try to get you to not be lazy. However, be well aware that your being lazy is extremely off-putting. Example: You are incredibly tech-savvy, but you work in a hotel lobby as a doorman. Uh-uh. That will not fly with us for long.
  • Dishonesty: Aries women are natural lie detectors. So don't even try lying to us, and please do not flaunt your flair for dishonesty to us, because we're not impressed by it. We are such open books that we believe other people should be, too. After all, if we will openly admit our flaws, we expect that you can do the same. The truth is that you will find no less judgmental woman than an Aries, so your best bet is to be honest and upfront. We will either show you right away how disgusted we are with you, or we will tell you WHY it's not such a big deal. We are skilled problem-solvers and like to see things from all angles.
  • Disrespect: Yes, it's okay for you to be a real man. In fact, it's encouraged. But swearing at us in public, or expecting us to sit in the backseat, is just not going to work. We love being women - we're both feminine and feminist at the same time. We want you to pay for our meals, but we don't want you to order our food for us or tell us how to order our steaks. And please do not tell us how to dress like a woman or that we should be quieter.

Who Aries Women Are: Feminine, Sporty, Independent

There really is no better way to describe our approach to love and dating. We are truly feminine feminists. We KNOW we are capable people. We can survive without you - and might have to, because it's so hard for us to find good matches in men. At the same time, we're affectionate people that need and desire to both love and admire and be loved and admired back.

I read once that Aries women are attracted to the catch. That's not necessarily true. As we get older, we are tired of chasing men. The men we chase usually run away, which makes us ill. And the men who chase us are brute idiots, which also makes us ill. We are difficult women to please. But DO NOT expect us to chase you. It will not happen.

If you're interested in an Aries woman over the age of 28, you're going to have to roll up your sleeves and figure her out. She is impatient in every aspect EXCEPT the ability to keep looking for the right guy.

(1) We're So Feminine

Aries women - the ones I know, and I know a pretty decent amount - are good-looking people, generally. We are not always like Victoria Beckham (an Aries woman married to a Taurus man), but we do like to feel and be attractive. We may be naturally attractive, and so not all of us wear coats of makeup or hiked up skirts.

But we do wear skirts. And we like to feel feminine and to be told we are girly. Even if we don't personally feel that way about ourselves, we certainly like to hear it from you. Why? Because that means you are watching us, and we are happy to know you are watching us.

You will probably find us in heels, and you will probably find us in jobs that are compatible with womanhood. While we might tell you we are going to serve on the front line, that will most likely never, ever happen. We are big dreamers but we're far too feminine for that. We are satisfied in knowing that in a shooting match, we will beat you. The knowledge of that is enough for us; we don't necessarily need to prove it to you.

(2) We Can be Sporty

What about sports? We play sports - we're sporty and enjoy competition. But don't be surprised if then we shower and throw on heels and a dress to go out. That's just how we roll.

Because we're feminine, we really do not appreciate feminine men unless they are strictly platonic friendships. Men who desire too much attention, show too much emotion, or are catty or gossippy will turn us off in a heartbeat. We are too busy to deal with your emotion, and most likely we are extremely emotional ourselves. We can't handle much more emotion than what we bring to the table.

(3) We're Independent... sort of

We believe that as women, we are simply good enough. For example, some Aries women find the stay-at-home mom thing really annoying, especially if it comes from a place of tradition rather than practicality. Of course, that depends a lot on her age, her man, and her situation. If staying home means independence from work, then, that's going to be the ideal choice!

We believe that to be capable is to be appointed. In other words, we feel that if you are able to do something, you probably should at least attempt to do that. Nothing bugs us more than women who go to college, get married, and pop out kids without even attempting to use her skills and education.

We don't like taking a backseat to men unless it is earned. That's why we love intelligence. If you are smarter than us, this only attracts us more and more. But if you are macho and stupid, we will instantly dislike you. This is why it's difficult for us to tell at first glance who we will love. If you look manly, but you are a jackass, we will hate you. If you look like a nerd but keep us on our toes with your wit and attention, we are yours forever.

We will fall in love at first sight and fall out of love at second sight, and think nothing of it. That's just how we do things.

Aries Love Matches

Aries Love Matches

A Few Aries Love Matches and Love Disasters

I don't like compatibility charts and dialogues, but there are some matches that have about a 99% failure rate.

Positive Disclaimer: Almost any relationship can work if two people want it badly enough.

Aries Love Disasters

If you are Capricorn, most likely this will not work even though there is likely to be a very strong attraction. We will be interested in you because you don't appear to be interested in us and that is practically unbelievable to us. However, this is not a good match for a number of reasons. Remember, Aries women like to be chased, and Capricorn men do not chase anything.

If you are Scorpio, please realize that the likelihood of a relationship crashing and burning is a near certainty, but that doesn't mean we aren't up for the chance! Please know, though, that we will not put up with your possessiveness, insecurity, and tendency to pass mean, snide, or just catty remarks. We are fighters but don't like those who pick fights. We also find your attraction to vengeance irritating. For this match to work, both partners would probably need to share a Moon sign (the moon rules emotions).

If you are Cancer, you most likely won't even be reading this. But, if you are, unless your Aries woman has some aspects that appeal to you, this match just won't work. Aries are loyal, but only later in life, and Aries are not typically as home-centric as Cancer. Again, anything is possible, but I wouldn't give this relationship a lot of work.

If you are a Virgo, we will fail you. We are not perfect - we're probably the most likely to screw something up, actually. And we don't always wash our hands ten times a day, or stick to our lists, and we think it's funny to poke fun of your hair. We find your perfectionism annoying, even though oddly you think it will make us like you more. We're not impressed by your success, so much as your ability to be successful. So stop telling us about it. The only thing that will make this relationship last is if we get so tired, we stop fighting you. You'll only have half a woman, and that is no way to live.

Aries Love Matches

If you are a Taurus, many, many astrologers will insist that this relationship will not last. I say otherwise. Yes, you Taurus men are so slow and so freaking stubborn. You make us crazy; you drive us to insanity. However, we are interested in changing your mind. You are like a treadmill. We will never be able to outrun you but we will enjoy trying. Plus, we enjoy the fact that you like to touch us and that you are slow and sensual and sensitive sometimes. We also love the fact that you accept us the way we are, because most other signs in the Zodiac can hardly tolerate our faults. In the Taurus man, we find stability, strength, intelligence, and a subtle sexiness that drives us wild. If you can manage to pay attention to us whenever we need it, this relationship can work.

If you are Aquarius, we will probably fall head over heels in love with you, but try not to be so... up in the air? It's okay that you are sensitive, flirty, loving and accepting. But you need to remember that we're only okay with you being that way with US. I suppose Aquarius may be the only other sign who can match us in terms of inward focus. We both love to gab about ourselves, which may help this relationship succeed.

If you are a Gemini, we will make a great match - definitely as friends, and we will certainly try our fate as lovers. We find you funny, great-looking, intelligent, and courageous. We love your optimistic outlook, too. But you are duplicitous in nature, as Geminis tend to be. You are like two people in one, and most of the time we will spend trying to figure out whether or not you truly want to be with us. In the end, it may work, especially if the Aries woman you are dating is incredibly devoted to you. However, be prepared for us to be heartbroken even if we don't really know if there is a reason to be. You confuse us, and we don't like feeling confused and insecure.

If you are Aries, the stars say we will match. But, that is all going to depend on how much stock each of us place in the fun stuff over the real stuff. Aries need someone to root and balance them out in life. Another Aries could possibly do that, if both recognize that fun has to be matched with responsibility. When both signs like to chase, lots of romance ensues!

Other Aries Love Matches

Sagittarius Man, Aries Woman - Expect tons of fire with this duo. That can be good or bad. The most likely outcome is a solid friendship forged by tons of laughs.

Libra Man, Aries Woman - Libras like balance, and Aries are generally unbalanced. Not necessarily in a bad way, but there are swings of independence, moodiness, and risk that typically make Libra nervous.

Final Thoughts: What We Offer

No matter how inwardly focused we can be, Aries women love to love. We are passionate, fiercely loyal people who care deeply for our loved ones.

We will defend you, encourage you, support you, and work very hard to make you understand how much we adore you. One of the things that make us interesting is that we are well-aware that we are independent, and that we have to work harder than others at being in relationships. So if we are with you, it's because we really want to be. We would be fine on our own, but we choose to be with you.

We are friendly women, too. Aries women tend to have many friends - not many super-close friends - but many friends in general. We are liked by both men and women. It's unnecessary to be jealous for us, because we are loyal. If we flirt, the likelihood is that we are doing it on purpose. Perhaps you need to show more attention or to notice that we are flirting and ask us to cut it out.

We get over things quickly. We have tempers. We say things we don't mean. Then we get over it. Unfortunately, we sometimes expect you to do the same, even though it's not that easy. Forgive us for that. Realize that we forgive and truly forget even the most heinous of relationship crimes (including things like cheating). We are trusting to a fault.

What are your experiences with Aries women? I'd love to hear! Feel free to comment.

Questions & Answers

Question: How can a Pisces man show and tell an Aries woman they are in love with them?

Answer: Pisces are wonderful, intense lovers, but can be flighty. To retain an Aries woman, a Pisces man has to show her that his lovingness isn't for all women, just for her.

Question: How can a Pisces man can express feelings for an Aries woman ?

Answer: Quality time and being personal with her is the best way. A Pisces has a potential for seeming open to ALL women, and an Aries will be jealous of that. He's got to prove that his love is only for her and is not just a side-effect of being a Pisces.

Question: What about Cancer and Aries ?

Answer: Any relationship duo can work. A lot of it depends on age and maturity in the sign, and of course, the Moon sign. Cancer isn't likely to be attracted to such a flighty sign, so if you are a Cancer man and are attracted to an Aries woman, she must have some quality like loyalty that is driving you to her. That could work. Just look for your common ground.

Question: What does it mean when an Aries woman brings up another guy she doesn't like to a guy she likes (only happened once but in the middle of an intimate moment)?

Answer: That all depends on what she said. It's hard to know without the details, but Aries do not play games, usually. So, don't read into it very much and just take it at face value.

Question: My wife is an Aries and only recently I found her cheating on me. We are married for 13 years and have 2 children. I am a Taurus man. I am trying my best to tolarate her cheating and to restore our broken relationship. I don't know if we can make it. I would love to hear your suggestion on how to keep her to love me only?

Answer: It's so hard to say without knowing more about your relationship, but some things even the stars can't fix. I wouldn't want to give you specific relationship advice, but instead, just encourage you to take care of yourself and your children. Cheating shouldn't be tolerated by any sign.

Question: What do you mean about Scorpios? Expound on the last statement in the paragraph regarding a Scorpio's neediness.

Answer: As with all signs, there are high and low points. Scorpios, depending on other aspects of their sign, can be needy, but I have found this to be true mostly with younger men in this sign than with older men. Also, while some may interpret it as neediness, others may simply interpret it as intensity!

Question: I'm a Capricorn man and I'm dating Aries woman. Can our relationship grow to become a successful marriage? Because we love ourselves and I don't want to lose her.

Answer: Of course it can! Older Capricorn men and older Aries women will see themselves in one another - fiercely independent but largely misunderstood. There is common ground there. But as Capricorn, you must show interest. You will have to break out of your shell at least a little bit, and know that though you like to be chased and she likes to chase, she is still a woman and you are still a man. You must try to take the lead.

Question: An Aries woman gave me the key to her house after 4 dates. What should I do or not do?

Answer: She might just feel very comfortable with you. Aries can be forward (depending on their rising sign) but if she's moving too fast, and you really like her, just slow down subtly. She can pick up the clues so you don't need to say it outright.

Question: What about a Libra man with an Aries woman?

Answer: This can absolutely work! Libra and Aries are directly opposite one another in the Zodiac, and they are likely to be fast and devoted friends. As Libra, be careful about being obsessed with the "right thing" and let Aries just do her thing. If you make her feel judged, she will resent you.


DarkOne25 on June 19, 2019:

I have a question. Do aries women have a hard time letting go of scorpio men? I'm dealing with an aries I gave flowers for her birthday,she lost her mom last year. She is on social media talking about sex alot.,I have been talking to her about 3 months now but she keeps posting that her ex and her over,etc etc. She did state her love was real and the scorp cheated on her. I am giving her space but communicate from time to time. She said she aint ready for a relationship but she constantly horny. I'm a cancer male by the way.

Chun Li on May 18, 2019:

Oh. My. Gawd. Thank you for this. My babe is an Aries woman, April 4th, and I’m a Capricorn woman with a Scorpio moon. HAhahaha. This explains SO MUCH.

She’s pushy, vulgar, oddly childish but super responsible, sensitive but hides behind her tough exterior, has deep trust issues, and a bar that’s impossibly high to live up to. She’s incredible. Everything about her is deeply sexy. I love every minute of it! She MAKES ME be a better person, plus our chemistry is off the charts

NikolasSAG on April 20, 2019:

Hello. I am a Sagittarius man and I am just absolutely head over the planet for an Aries lady (born April 4th too). She is just SO AMAZING, she has raised the bar for me in my life, the only problem being that at times I fail tests she puts to me and I feel like I cant say right for doing wrong on occasion. And I think I try to contact her too much. But recently Ive started giving her space in the hopes that it can bring us closer. But I also find myself looking at articles on the internet related to our astrological signs to keep seeing if there is anything new I can glean and learn from them. I have to say most articles pretty much say the same thing, your article has given me so much clarity and it just makes me love and want her EVEN MORE than I did before. Our sexual appetites are Voracious and insatiable and she absolutely sets me on FIRE every time I think of her. My one question is should I keep looking at my insecurity around abandonment (I dont ever want her to get bored and leave me) or would working on myself change the way she views me in a negative way, ie would I potentially become more or less attractive in her eyes? This is such a Thorough and positive and truthful article and I thank you so much for this. Any help or opinions would be gratefully received right now.

Sydne Sanders on January 20, 2019:

My birthday is April 4th also and you are so correct on the Aries Gemini relationship I'm somewhat dating a Gemini man. He confuse me sometimes, and like you said "we don't like feeling confused and insecure." And this is also true . "You are like two people in one, and most of the time we will spend trying to figure out whether or not you truly want to be with us." Wow I know one of them likes me and the other one I don't really know sometimes

E.V. on January 20, 2019:

That was probably the most accurate an Aries woman has been described ever. Thank you! From one Aries to another. (Also, I can confirm the Aquarius and Gemini connection to Aries. I seem to find them around by chance and gaining interest only to find they are of those two zodiac signs. And I have to agree about Sagittarius men, firstly I don't usually find one, but I feel, based on the Sagitarrius women I know that I may not be quite compatible, but who knows. But in general, those air signs really do make an Aries fire burn brighter.)

urhott22 on January 13, 2019:

Cap man just got out of a relationship with a aries woman. We were together 2 years and I gotta say she was sneaky and cold in many ways. In the beginning she was pushy and wanted all my attention. When I finally gave it to her she sabotaged the relationship and ended it. She obviously did think about what she was doing because she always did stuff on impulse most of the time. Only to come back a few months later begging me to get back in her life and once again chasing me around. Once I showed her I was back she broke it off again. In my experience she was immature and was really dishonest herself. Aries are terrible liars so it is easy to catch them out and they are the most impatient,pushy,entitled,jealous,and demanding women I have ever met. It is not a impossible feat to date any sign of the zodiac. I do feel this where maturity and understanding comes into play. In which she had none.

Booky on December 22, 2018:

I'm an Aries Queen in love with a Cancer. We've dated from college and it has been a helluva of rollercoaster. We have broken up, we have gotten back... After he proposed marriage, I knew I did not want to continue the crazy fights so I checked his Zodiac sign. Now I can understand why he thinks I'm the devil spawn. But he loves me and I love him back, we are taking baby steps to forever. Thanks for writing this, my Aries Queen.

Marie on September 09, 2018:

26 YO Aries woman. This was rather insightful and I agree with almost all of it except for the matches. I too, like another Aries commented attract Virgos like bees to honey. But after 2 heart breaks, I don’t even keep them as friends. (Flirting ALWAYS occurs)

However my best relationships have been with Capricorns, they are very stable and attentive. Unfortunately, only fire signs have matched my passion. Pity that’s all they’ve had to offer.

Also, as I’ve matured I’m the furthest thing from trusting.

Truly enjoyed this, I’ll share with my partner :)

robbie menges on September 02, 2018:

i am a Scorpio man and my baby is a Aries woman and we been together now since March 6 2018 and we fight like hell but she gives me so damn much rope that i am constantly hanging myself 4-5 times every times when get in a fight which is quite often but she loves me so much and i love her more than i have loved any other woman in my life so i usually am kissing her ass everyday you know. anyway let me get though this bullshit so we can talk about our beautiful relationship with each other and when we met she would not talk to me for three weeks and we met each other online in a dating site where we posted our profiles and pursued each other from there so i sent her 350 messages before she would give me the time of day but one morning she started talking to me but she asked what is your name so i told her my name and told her to google me cuz i am the only person in the world with my name. So she said lets get deeper so i knew my ass was grass and i told her the truth that my profile was fake and that i was 61 instead of 41 like it was posted in my profile so she said Sir if you can prove to me that you care for me like you tell you do then i give you a real lifes chance to be my man. And that made feel so good that she told me that i got high on that feeling like i was a teenager again. See i am English and Cherokee so i look 20 years younger then i am and live like am younger also cuz i build custom cars and sell them and i drive a taxi and make very good money doing it and i have a pension and i own my home free and clear. And my baby Candice is a free lance model and she is drop dead gorgeous and 5'8" with blond hair cut in a inverted bob with bangs and brown eyes and 35 years younger than i am. but that really is no problem with us at all other than her Dad hates me cuz i am older than him and dating his first born. but lets get deeper now cuz you know i am lucky i am still alive.well i have always asked her as i fell in love what day was her birthday was on and she would not tell me so after a month i asked her what her sign was she said she was a Aries and i not known a Aries before except my Mom but i had not ever read about there compatibility with a Scorpio cuz i did not know one intimately as a girl friend and by then i had already fell in love with My Candy. And i have been a christian for a long time and not studied astrology.And one of her tests daily for me was asking me if i could stay up with her in sex and i always said yes no problem cuz i am a confident idiot ok.So i read about us being in a relationship together and it made me so sure that i could handle her with no problem at all.(yeah right) cuz that was first time i ever challenged her and last time i did. cuz she left me that night while i was a sleep and i woke up she was gone i could not find her anywhere i looked so i thought about it and read some more astrology about us and realized what happened cuz she was absolutely devoted to me. and i had challenged her and she left me high and dry. and turned on me like a rattle snake.because i had told her it was not if i could keep up with her it was really if she could keep up with me cuz i am a Scorpio and i am the ruler of sex in astrology an when i did finally find her the first words out of her mouth were there is no proof and she was mad as hell at me. well that was the last time i challenged her cuz i train salesman how to lose to win so i knew what i had to do and i did it and it saved our relationship and i lose everyday to her to win and we get along so good you would not believe we have ever fought at all.and the first time we got in a fight she told me baby quit pushing me away and she told me baby calm down and chill out and think about what we are fighting about and do not worry about me cuz i am not going anywhere so i be waiting here after you think about it and i apologized and i and told her the truth and she forgave and forgot about it instantly so we moved on together and she has forgiven so many times i cannot count them all in our many fights and she figures them out and she waits for me cuz i realize i am wrong and she has not ever left me or cheated on me since we have been together and she loves me and is very patient with me and she is the best women i have ever known and loved in my life cuz she loves me and she is the only woman in my life that has ever loved me. and i kiss the ground she walks on cuz i love her with all my heart and soul and i tell her that everyday.

Sage on July 21, 2018:

Funny you wrote that about scorpios because I attract them LIKE CRAZY. My most intense and deep relationships are with scorpios. I am on the pisces/aries cusp (3/23) I guess that might be why I get along so well with scorps and other water signs. I get along with sags more than leos but I attract them both a lot too. My closest friends are mostly water or fire signs lol. Thank you for posting this! So spot on!

David L Wagner on July 11, 2018:

Ok ladies when a Aries woman is playing hard to get! How much should a man pursue?

Jeanette on June 22, 2018:

I am an Aries woman,and this is SO TRUE

Peach on June 20, 2018:

I'm an Aries woman and this is dead on!!

Sarah on June 19, 2018:

This is quite accurate for me even though I am a 21 year old Virgo girl. My moon is in Aries though

Cassie on May 19, 2018:

I love this. I'm an Aries woman and it's so hard for me to find a guy that can handle being with me. My 3 serious relationships were all with virgos, i attract them like bees to honey and we always fail miserably. Any other guys I'm interested in run from me and I don't know why... I'm gonna be single forever.. lol

Dabby on March 08, 2018:

Well done. You nailed it. I am an Aries, march 30. Aries woman and Aries man are a definate passionate and explosive as well. Start with a bang and end with another type of bang. The begining attraction is intense, the end is instantaneously the same. My experience is afterwards when both have had time to cool down, you can become friends, but do so with caution as the passion never goes away. No matter where you are at in other relationships, the desire never goes away and you will be drawn to each other always. Be careful with Aries male.

Wyn Tran on February 20, 2018:

You are a genius with these detailed & precise descriptions about the Aries woman - especially since you are not an astrologist! I am an Aries girl & u have brilliantly defined me - in a nutshell - in the above awesome article! All hats off to you!!!

Aries Gal 31 on February 16, 2018:

I loved this post. It describes us Aries to a tee...I unfortunately seem to attract Cancers, which ends up going down in flames...They're drawn to me like a moth to a flame! :)

Hawaii Girl on February 05, 2018:

.....amazing insight and very on point...i am everything you mentioned above ....i love you and thank you .....

Virgo Man on December 26, 2017:

I'm not sure what type of Virgo you dated but the Sun and Mercury were dead center of Virgo the day I was born. I'm an Alpha Male and highly intelligent. I love my Aries woman more than life itself. I'm such a perfectionist that I changed my personality so it doesn't interfere with her freedom or her desire to lead in nearly all areas of life. I allow her to charge ahead and make a mess of life while I stay behind to clean up and repair the damage she does. I learned Astrology and Numerology and read hundreds of articles on Aries women so I could figure out how to keep her happy. Now I have her heart, her mind, and her soul in the palm of my hand. She is so sexy that she fills my every desire in bed and no other zodiac sign comes close. Don't abandon Virgo men as being compatible to Aries women, we are highly intelligent, very adaptable, and extremely competitive when we see something we want. When I saw how sexy my Aries woman could be I had to have her, best decision of my life.

Rudy on December 01, 2017:

I met an Aries woman almost two years ago. I've had the absolute pleasure of making her friendship over the past 6 months. I am a Capricorn. I am 38, she is 30. I am not a flashy Capricorn, but I am very cerebral. We are both very Alpha like. Yet she is so kind and...just amazing. That being said, I've never met a woman like her...ever. She is a beautiful soul. A truly unique woman. A feminine, feminist. If I have a daughter, I want her to be exactly like this kind, gorgeous, thoughtful, spiritual and just all around amazing woman. I've never met a woman so naturally feminine. Wow, what a woman. Thank you God for giving me the pleasure of even having a woman like her in my hat is off to the man who ultimately marries her for he is one very, very blessed man.

Thank you for all your advice.

Rudy, Houston TX

Marsalien on November 14, 2017:

Darn, l seem to scare men away. And you are spot on about us Aries from my point. And l make many friends..... but l want someone l can date and for him not to run for the hills lol. Don't get me wrong I've met some nice potential partners but they fail as they lie or not sure what they want, and l lose interest and l may really like a man, but it's either his giving me too much attention or the one's that are not. And guess always attracted to the ones that don't communicate frequently or show me any attention through the dating process. So l give them a couple of chances, then say how l feel and l hate that cause it seems like you begging or reprimanding. So l start to distance myself and go into the friend zone lol my mind and body shuts down of ever getting back together. Sad but l have no time for mind games and long chases.

shontzu on October 30, 2017:

100% true lmao i'm also an Aries woman attracting Capricorn and Scorpios my ENTIRE life and i have NEVER met any Sagitarrius guy/girl alike so frustrating! And yes, Aries/Taurus is actually a pretty good match!! Also, we Aries tend to have this magnetic aura that kinda draws the attention of guys and sadly, these guys are either "clearly into us but afraid to approach" or "will approach but they are the guy we hate" lol

AND if any of y'all readers here are Sagittariuses DO hit me up and prove that y'all exist omg I need a sagi for LIFE

SunMu on September 04, 2017:

This article was definitely dead on. I'm an Aries woman born 4/7. I tend to always attract signs I'm the least compatible with according to some of these articles. I'm currently in love and I mean deeply in love with a Scorpio man, he is the ultimate alpha male. Of course he has his dark side and he's said some words that has hurt me deeply, but Aries being Aries I forgive and let go. He lights up a fire in me that I never experienced before. We both burn intensely with passion and it was as instant connection, our chemistry is out of this world, so much so, sometimes we can read each other's thoughts. I would love to spend the rest of my life with this man, but now I'm not so sure. Like most Scorpio and Aries relationships, there's often some separating/breaking up and many petty arguments that take place before they actually realise that they can't live without each other. I unfortunately have messed it up with my Scorpio man and he decided he wanted to let it go and I have been going crazy ever since. I swore this man was my soulmate and I'm not ready to let him go. I hope I can get him back, I just don't know how or where to began. Are there any Scorpio men dating Aries women ?

Bull on August 25, 2017:

I am a taurus i have a crush on a aries girl at work I am not married and she has a boyfriend ,the attraction is intense she look me up and down all time and so jealous if I so much look at another female at work she becomes cold toward me

Since she told me that she has a boyfriend I do not talk to her much she is not flirty but lately she flirts in front of me may be because we only say hello to each other as she has boyfriend and I am trying to respect that but she want my attention like she is addicted to it what should I do shroud I tell her how I feel I think she knows I can tell that she is very attracted to me physically could you give me some pointers I would appreciate by the way you aries woman are simply the best a man can have thank you .

MonsterCalls on June 28, 2017:

Hello I'm a skinny 18 year old Scorpio who's deeply and madly in love with a 16 year old aries. She is so attractive and sexy and so perfect for me but I'm just scared that I will be a disaster for her in the future as you know how Scorpios can be. I'm am willing to sacrifice anything for her. We don't talk everyday and we rarely meet because of our family restrictions. But we do talk every Saturday and sunday. When we do usually our conversation is always romantic and touching. She showers me with love and care during our conversation. The problem is that I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I hope so. But thoughts are running in my mind,Will she leave me , will I hurt her so bad that she will never forgive me, or will she find someone better than me in the near future and leave me. Oh god but after this information I think my doubts are getting so true. Is it real that Scorpios can be a disaster to aries..... Pls I need some advice over here....but what I can tell is that I am able to sacrifice anything and willing to go great heights for her but will that be enough for an Aries from a Scorpio......need Help ASAP

Liah on June 13, 2017:

I love this article....Im a 04/04/ baby as well...It dosnt get better than that..."True Aries"...Im going to save this article an let a few people read it...We really are not complicated people...We tell people what It is upfront....They just dont believe us!

Thanks again my Aries sister:)!

The fool on June 09, 2017:

I will start off by telling my story, short version of course , first off I'm a Gemini man met and started dating an Aries woman and I can tell you she absolutely took my breath away everything about her it was absolutely wonderful but I didn't realize until after I read the column how foolish I was everything I did is complete opposite of what should've been done I cling to her try to controll her and became so suspicious , that I I literally was self destroying the relationship, when we where together she made me feel like I was the last man on earth but when I wasn't with her she made me feel like I didn't matter but now that I look back on this it was all built in my head after reading this column I now realize it was all me my fault I had something so great and right in my face I didn't pay attention and I was ruining the relationship , Now we been separated for a week now she just finally started talking to me which allowed me the time that I needed to realize all the mistakes I have made once again the column was what helped me realize where I went wrong.

My Aries is exactly the way you described it in your column and now that I know what I was doing wrong I believe that I can correctly give her what she needs as an Aries female the one thing that I am finding the hardest is actually convincing her to open the door once again so then that way I can prove that I am the right person for her, in other words a second chance if there's anyone out there that can give me some advice on how to do this I would appreciate it

so to recap I know the mistakes I made I had a week to think about this I had a great column to read . I just need help to get back in so I can prove it. Any advise ?

VirgoHere on April 19, 2017:

Out of 5 women I've been in a relationship with, 3 of them are Aries. Last month, my aries gf and I broke up after a 4yr relationship with so many up-and-down moments. I admit that I let her down too many times with me being lazy, not giving her my full attention whenever we're together because I got addicted playing games. And with Venus in retrogade, she felt like she had enough and finally ended it. Though, we just had our talk about what went wrong in our last relationship, she decided to give me another chance. This time, I won't repeat the same mistakes I've made.

It's true that Virgos are perfectionists, but I just don't apply it in my relationships. Also, never hold back an Aries woman, give her freedom but also give her a reason to always return to you like giving her your full attention, and love her like you'll never love someone else again. Be fun. NEVER lie and cheat on her. Be dependable when she needs your help (and yes, that's where I also apply my perfectionism, never did anything for her that I consider below perfect. Lol) If she's mad at you, fight with her for a bit, then shower her with all your love and adoration. Plan trips and be adventurous. Try to learn new things every now and then, she'll be fascinated by your extensive knowledge and wide array of skills. Most men will be turned off of her fiery temper, but its actually quite adorable because her anger goes away just as quickly as it came. Oh, and be great in bed. In short, treat her like she's your queen. Because whatever your flaws are, she'll still accept you, just don't go and push her to her limits. Because once she's fed up, its almost next to impossible to win her back.

I guess I'm just lucky that she gave me another chance, maybe because she's seen me making effort to fix my negative behavior. And like she said, I've known her so well that its hard to find a replacement. So yes, Aries women are really loyal especially when they really love someone.

Mathew on March 25, 2017:

What does it mean when an Aries woman say she wants to take a break?

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on March 06, 2017:

@Vastu - I hear you. I think you have a point about some Aries women "acting like men" though I think a lot of feminists may argue with you about that!

I'm very feminine - I think it probably depends on the person's moon (mine is in Scorpio) and ascendant (mine is in Cancer).

Vastu on March 05, 2017:

From what I have seen and discovered Aries women are not loyal. Till the time they love you, they will be loyal once they get bored of you or find someone better they will cheat. 1). Marriage can never be successful with Aries women because they are too career oriented. No time for family. Boring. 2.) Since they are successful and earn more than the man, she will be too proud of hersrlf . 3.) I have seen many Aries women cheat on their husbands. 4.) They are never satisfied with one man, they always need many. 5.) I like women who do a small job but most Aries women have professional jobs in companies where they were trousers and suit. Come on girl I hate women who act like men. Know your role. 6.) I like women who are soft, sweet , caring and woman who needs you. Since Aries women are too independent that's a complete turn off for me. I believe cancer women are the best because they are loyal and they need us. Plus they are home loving and great cooks. Aries women first of all stop acting like men. Behave like a girl. Stop wearing clothes like men at work like suit, trousers and a tie. Ha ha ha you look funny and are a complete turn off.

huhuhaha on November 06, 2016:

I am a lunar Aries (Tau sun), and I can relate to this 100%. I am a horse in Chinese, so you can guess how important my independence is to me. I am dating another Tau sun (Cap moon) and its been good. But I feel something is missing and his neediness annoys me. Its like that Cap u described. I am attracted to him , but also keep wondering if I should break up with him. He's a great guy and everything, but he suffocates me every once in a while, and also I hate the fact that I am emotionally stronger than him. -_-

Lew0049 on July 25, 2016:

Great article so I hope you can help. I took an Aries on a date(I'm an Aquarius) and really need some insight as I am clueless about her behavior - I'll try to summarize.

She reached out to me in a dating site, we talked for about a week, opened up about parental issues we both had which we never share, and after a week I took her to dinner. Long story short: we had an unbelievable date, had dinner and drinks(although she confessed her original plan was to have a dinner/beer then drive home as she lives 30 min away), went to a bar where we had a few drinks, 100% obvious she was very into me as we were very affectionate/kissed, said she never expected 'this' and it was better than she could have ever expected, stayed at my place instead of driving home bc she was being responsible(and no we didn't do much), and took her to her car in the morning. Basicslly, it was incredibly obvious she was very attracted to me physically and intellectually(and not to sound cocky but we are both equally attractive). She seemed to have trust issues before and I made it clear I am only interested in her.... So the next night over txt I asked her if she had plans a few nights later and if she like Guns N Roses, she was like omg yes I love GNR, and so I purchased 2 tickets without asking her(Thought it would be a cool surprise). Sent her a pic of the tickets I bought and basically have not heard from her since. If we didn't know we both hit it off 100% then I wouldn't be asking what in the world?! Essentially, she went from being supper excited to saying 'Ok I'll see if I can get someone to cover for me teaching a class that night. Basically, I have no idea what's going on and why she is ignoring my basic texts? I'm by no means blowing her up but I've never seen a girl do a 180 like this and the concert is in 2 days. We are both mid 30s and I know she went thru a complicated divorce a yr ago(they have a kid). Any ideas or advice? As much as I have no desire to at all, those are pretty expensive tickets so if I don't hear something I'll try to find someone else to go. And if I wasn't 100% certain of her interest prior to dropping her off at her car then I wouldn't be on here, it's rare to click with someone you know. But I don't play games. Sorry for the lomg msg and I really hope she's not on this site to read this haha. Thanks for any insight as to her actions and what I should do.

Jmp40 on March 28, 2016:

Wow! I could have written that myself! I am a 40 year old Aries woman, and also have a Sagittarius son(11/22), who is the light of my life! He is 10, and he reminds me everyday of myself, a male version of me! I still experience pain and grief from the relationship I have with my oldest, a Virgo, only daughter, who turns 21, 9/9/16, but none of this changes the fact that I would lay down my life for either on ed of them!:)

Taurus Male on October 21, 2015:

Curious why you mentioned Taurus males would not be reading this….I am dating an Aries Woman- Why would I not be interested in reading this???

Where’s my 25$....

Spartacus on October 02, 2015:

Hi, I am a 40's something year old Aries male, and really enjoyed the post !Well done ! :-)

A younger Aries female friend helped me discover who I really am, without even trying...and although I am NOT a quitter or schemer or cheater, after 15 years of a mostly unhappy marriage I finally decided its time to LIVE again...and be what I believe I am created for.

I've lived apart from my wife and kids (because of practical work circumstances) for about 3 years....the most trying, emotionally crushing time I've ever experienced as I miss my kids so, so , SO much. My wife wanted to separate before, but I kept on trying to make it work over and over and over again. Yet, I now realize that I've actually internally mourned and grieved for 3 years already, without knowing it.

I was not looking...I have my own faults and could've done certain things better, this I know, I am a faithful person and have litterally locked myself up for 3 years. Never even so much as TOUCHED another woman...its just not my thing.

But this younger ram woman opened my eyes and captured my was like looking in the mirror seeing my own soul...and all started innocently goofing off with a few texts on FB. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was already hooked.

The ensuing exercise consisted out of learning as much as I can about the female RAM, and it's something I have thoroughly enjoyed thus far. It made me laugh, and read all the various articles on line from "experts" and other "gurus" and although most of it is copy and paste from other sites, there are just some undeniable traits and quirks that makes us who we are....ARIES forever !

Now that I've encountered this incredible force of nature (and many sites talking about the Aries woman will tell you that ;"I'm not sure if I should congratulate you or feel sorry for you !" ) I think its impossible for me to be happy with any less...the bar has been raised so much, and in turn I believe I have raised the bar quite a bit for her as well. There is just nothing on Gods earth I want more, and so help me I'll die trying, because she's worth it...and she needs someone like me, I just know this already.

We work for the same company, both in music....but we’re in different countries ...and so I get to see her once a month for now. This month ( a few days from now) will be the first time I see her again after making my feelings VERY clear an known, the impulsive and upfront person that I am !! hahaha So far no "bugger off's" or anything, which I suppose is good news at least? We’re going for a “night on the town” when I go visit…ooooh help me, I have no expectations as I don’t want to push too hard or corner her in any way (deal breaker !)…but man, I am excited and SCARED as hell at the same time !

She's coming out of a major storm herself, and so seems naturally cautious at the same time....and oh my, peeling that onion layer by layer is not only the most thrilling adventure yet, but also very, very intriguing and keeps me guessing...which I guess is what keeps us rams in the chase, right?

I have been out of the dating game for a looong time, I feel like kid and hope I'm not going to make a fool of myself around her. Our texts are full of fun, teasing and dare I say tension...(the good kind) but oh my...I know we Rams are supposedly easy to figure out, but THIS one is certainly playing her cards close to her chest and it drives me insane, although deliciously so at the same time !

I guess if I ever had to have a question it would be: HOW to know when not to push TOO hard with this ram girl, who by nature is also a pusher...we Aries all are. The challenge is something I thrive on, the distance makes it hard to read her at times....and she's cunningly skilled at all things we rams pride ourselves on. This is in my view as equal a partner as one could ever want or get...I just can't imagine anything less exciting and/or thrilling.

She just oozes, and I MEAN oozes everything our sign dictates and then some. She brightens my day with a few "innocent" WhatsApp texts....and the back and forth Audio notes with the laughter, audible smile while she speaks is just well....makes me want to pop like a popcorn kernel !

I so, so, SO know I can make her happy, and she me....we connected very deeply...even though I don't think she realises how much herself. She can "give" only what she can right now in our still-only-friendship of about 2 months or so....although she is giving a lot more than I think she realises...all water to my bruised and beaten down soul.

In the shortest of time she understands me more than anyone I've ever known...and the only explanation I can come up with is that it has to be that mysterious real primal instant recognition of a soul’s very hard to describe,but you just KNOW.

I'm trying to keep things light and a smiley face pasted on her office desk tissue box (using my inside gal at the HQ office) all the way in the middle East...she seems to really like that kind of thing, so I'm very thrilled...and she still has the previous smiley I left ! (saw it in a photo of her desk space posted on FB by someone else LOL) . Is there something there to be had?? Ladies?

God I hope I'm on the right path. Lots of smiles, laughter in our banter, sometimes easy 2 hours of texting...but I usually initiate because of my what…? Well,yes...pent up impatience ! haha. These days I can’t go a day these days not hearing from her in some way or another, although I'm trying to control’s like a drug, I swear !

I am the typical ram myself, ME , I, Moi, MYSELF when it comes to wants and needs, although I think I'm one of the most unselfish people I know ! LOL (I hope) I've put myself last for so many years, putting others needs first ALWAYS, and now EVERYTHING in my screams, BREAK OUT, take what is YOURS ! ...and although it feels natural and right...because it’s the real me revealed, its still somewhat foreign territory to me.

I don’t mess around, I know what I want....THIS I want, and THIS is a lifelong keeper. I already can't imagine my life without her, and as dreamy, poetic and romatic us rams are…I’d like to think I have my head on straight and have some years and experience under my belt.

She's of course incredibly gorgeous (like most ram girls), spirited, outgoing, a cello player no less....loves kids, family, her work...SUPER independent (as I am also) everything, just perfect, perfect...the epitome and personification of the "hotness grrrl" (aka ram) whilst being so down to earth and seemingly totally unaware of the force of nature that she is...which just ADD fuel to to flames ! LOL

Oh God please help me ! LOL I try to lift her up and compliment and do what I know she’d need as best I can from aaaaall the way over here, I can see it has the desired effect, although I’m yet to know what REALLY goes on in her mind and what she feels…if ANYTHING !?

All I know is that typical friends don’t quite do what we’re doing already….or rather HOW?! we’re doing it? If that makes sense..I don’t think anyway. I feel privileged to be her friend, I;ve told her so….thanked her for being there for me knowing what I’m stil going to go through and I can see that I have touched something deep inside her…and she said so once before.

So, my final question: This “date” (just going out for fun night) we’re going to have….what should I do? It’s going to be in her city or “backyard”….so do I let her come up with whatever and will THIS perhaps give a clear indication of what could perhaps be?

Do I “handcuff” the ram in me and stop myself from grabbing this woman and kiss her till her head spins off, or will the ram inside HER dictate if there is something to be had there…and LET her take the lead. I’ve perfected the art of sharing and taking turns, for a lack of a better expression…but not so sure WHEN !?), if it ever comes to that?

Tell me oh first ladies of the Zodiac !

aries women on September 18, 2015:

Im a aries women birthday april 9 .iloved it very well spoken and the still waiting on that right sign

Ro on September 04, 2015:

dating a cap man and he makes me so happy( I'm an Aries through and through). While he makes me crazy he is the most stable and secure man. He balances out my craziness and helps me focus. If he read this he'd probably say that I'm his silly girl. But this is the perfect discription of an Aries woman

MD on August 24, 2015:

Any advice on how to approach relationship with Leo man?

- madly in love aries woman

Aries on July 31, 2015:

I'm an Aries who got out of a 10 year long relationship with a Leo. I'm now 6 months in to a relationship with a Scorpio and it's amazing! We both need space and adventure. He says I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had. It's been tough getting him to let me in, but I know I'm the same way, so it's required patience from both sides. We both work well as a team and understand the goal we work towards.

Tamara on May 16, 2015:

I'm an Aries lady, April 2nd, I'm an Ox Aries. Most of what you said is very accurate. I'm a Tom boy, I like getting dirty, trying new things, I've dated every sign except Aries, and Virgo. I'm a jealous vindictive girlfriend, when I feel threatened. Otherwise I'm to a tee of your experience. Thanks really enjoyed your post.

Rick on April 11, 2015:

We are not judgmental but if you are a Capricorn or Scorpio forget about it and nothing bugs us more than stay at home moms who pop out kids. (not judgmental?) . You have to do this, you have to do that, we like real men not feminine, be assertive, we'll pay for ourselves but you have to pay, compliments cover a multitude of sins but we want you tell us we're girly even if we don't thinks so, we're impatient but don't rush us.

Ok ok, If I read this a couple years ago and actually believed it then I would definitely pass on dating an Aries woman - sound way too complicated for my hectic and busy life. Fortunately for me I didn't read it and don't believe in stereotyping people based on when they were born and am now engaged to one of your kind. Just my opinion. But was definitely a fun read!

not funny.. on March 17, 2015:

No, its not funny..

Shawnie on March 10, 2015:

isn't that funny - I was born on April 4th too -

revolver on March 08, 2015:

^ guess not.. she abadoned ship.. :(

Revolver on March 06, 2015:

Guess im the first Leo.. I was approached by a gorgeous, sweet Aries.. its going good but fibding it gard to adjust to her aries ways and life style, though im willing and trying, its becoming easier day by day, we are going kn our 3rd month... thing that kinda hurts me is when she doesn't say hello for a long time, like almost a day but I get she has friends and family so i try to get over it. But i do miss her.. I have this uncanny ability to care so much, maybe even to much and i have a large heart.. anyway, just checking to see if the author still pays attention.. so far im learning a lot about her, my beloved aries. I sincerely hope we withstand the test of time, id like that.

Old Cap on December 27, 2014:

Up date on 43 aries female

It's been four months now. We are both completely and totally in love with each other. This is the best relationship either of us has ever had. Im constant with doing the little things. I open the car door for her. I buy her flowers every week. I pay for dinner when we go out. There are times she insists and I let her. Aries are easy to read. They are usually telling you straight forward what they want. I interject my point of view if I think it's needed She sees reason and is able to adapt her point of view. We communicate very well and always come to a desire able outcome for both of us. There are times I can see she wants to take the lead and I just let her go. She is a smart, intelligent and independent woman sometimes to her own detriment. She often acts first and thinks about reprocussions when it's to late. That's where I come in. I'm a very forward thinker. So me pointing out the possibilities to her has become a benefit for her.

Our passion for each other is boundless. We have both taken our sex life to an utterly out of this world level. We are both eager to please, willing to explore and feed off of each other's pleasure. We can not get enough of each other. She has brought to my life that which I was looking for. A woman who would energize my life. For her I am a strong capable man who is caring, loving and attentive. What we have is what everybody is looking for That one person that just makes being with them so easy. It took me 50 yeas to find her. I'll do whatever it takes to keep her

he on December 03, 2014:

Whatttt!!! You don't know us caps...just erase what you wrote...thanks

David on November 26, 2014:

I am a cusp Pisces and just started dating a much younger Aries lady. I loved everything I read here. If all that has been said about Aries ladies is true, I'm in. I love independent woman who can be affectionate, are driven but not rude, enjoy competing and can win some times! We've had our third date and now are going on a fourth. I love the statement, "if she didn't want to be with you, she wouldn't be there". Right now that is really all I need to know. And to Aries/Dog, I know the type of Pisces man you mentioned. I would describe myself in the same terms. There are a few of us around. To all above, great article and feedback!

Norma ruiz on November 20, 2014:

My birthday it's also 4th haha just had to say that =D

Aries/Dog on October 20, 2014:

Oh my god this is spot on!!! I dated a cancer in high school. Then I married and divorced two other Cancers! Two! Neither worked they couldn't keep up with me on any level and were very sensitive and not motivated enough. Met a guy recently and asked him his sign, Cancer! I ran fast! I've been seeing a Virgo for about a year. We have a love hate relationship. It's super sexy but annoying all at the same time. I've never been more addicted to someone but it doesn't work. Holy cow these comments are so exact, he is frustrating to no end, he always beats around the bush as someone mentioned above. And the article is so true we can just sniff out the lies and deception. Why can't people (virgos) just be upfront and honest? Then I dated a Capricorn it felt sluggish like a slow chemistry hard to explain. But I'm currently dating a Pisces and I was weary of water signs because they always put out my fire but this one is amazing! He calms me but it's not off putting because he really supports my endeavors and energy! He's super funny which is great because I love to laugh a lot! He's very assertive as the article mentions. Hmmm so curious if this Pisces will be the right match :)

Jacob on October 17, 2014:

so if your an early 30's humble country virgo boy who likes his hair/ dirtt work hat messed up by an aries that likes dishin it back & digs my music, humor,/caring of the lil things what's that tell yah..? / maybe I'm just a DICK../ wont work out... ??haha..

Ana on October 06, 2014:

I'm an Aries, and I've had some experience with dating Aries and Aquarius men.

I've discovered that dating an Aries man is a disaster as he tends to be too temperamental for my liking. There's always a drama involved in dating an Aries man. Also, I think an Aries man is too much of na alpha male, and an Aries woman is a strong alpha female, so the two strong personalities tend to clash.

On the other hand, dating an Aquarius man is a dream come ture. In fact, I married one. They are calm, intelligent, dynamic and vitty. They also have a great ability to calm an Aries woman down when she's nervous or even histerical. An Aquarius man will give an Aries woman enough space for her to breath and to express her individuality. He will also let her feminist side bloom in the best possible way - an Aquarius man is a gentleman, and he is confident enough not to be intimidated by her individuality.

Old Cap on September 02, 2014:

43 aries woman up date

Sex. Incredible!!!! Being a cap, I can be a little slow at initiating sex ( even though I want it really bad) because I'm thinking about when is the time right to make the move. I love my aries woman. She just comes right out and says " let's go to bed" this one action takes away all the pressure I have built up in my mind. In bed, I have not had better but in her words, either has she. I am by no means a selfish lover, and take great pride, being a cap, in pleasing my fiery queen. We both know what we like and are able to relate that to the other either in words or reactions. It's also different at times. It's a blend of my slow, sensual cap passion and her exploration of the different ( which I willingly follow) and constant desire. In the end it's complete body and mind satisfaction. If you are a cap male, leave most, not all, of your need to dominate. It will pay dividends.

alma on September 01, 2014:

I've been busted! I owe you $25. Spot on. On point. Extremely accurate. lol

Old Cap on August 28, 2014:

Update on my 43 year old aries. Thanks to everything I've read we are now dating. I find her full of energy and exciting. Im hoping she will help me change the boring side of myself. We are very open and honest with each other. It's nice to be with someone who is in touch with their feeling and is able to articulate them. It's also true she doesn't get suttlies or innuendo. Its much more direct conversation which is nice but takes some of the playfulness out of it for now. I'll figure out how to keep it fun. I think we have potential but it's really on me to keep her interested. She's just what I needed to to jump start what was becoming a boring life.

Old capricorn on August 25, 2014:

I'm a 50 cap male. I started dating a 35 Aries. We got along right from the start. Long ittelectual conversations we exercised together ( I don't know until how competitive she was being as we ran on the treadmill ). Then I had a family trama that got really emotional for about a month. It was never the same after that. She distanced herself and then just cut me off. It was heart breaking and she seemed so indifferent about it. But I've moved on. Just got back from a date with a 43 year old. She has good energyand I like that and want that for myself. I don't want to a slow cap. So I'm willing to be open to changing. I just don't know if I keep this to myself, share it with her or just step up my game. I've read most blogs out there and they all same I'm doomed. But they don't say why. But I love a good challenge and I'm willing to break my own heart to try to succeed. One thing I did learn is keep my emotions to myself I'm already a mans man but us caps have an emotions side that normally works well with other signs. Any straight forward advise on what the problems with caps is. I'm not cheap. Intellectually and no longer emotionally engaged. Strong male persona. Don't be clingy but show a continued interest I think. That's a tough one to know what's enough but not too much. I'll send her a good morning text, one at lunch then maybe a smiley later and then in the evening. Too much?thanks for any help.

Aries/Tiger female on June 30, 2014:

Spot on!! It's interesting, I meet a lot of Virgos, Sags, and Aries. My experiences with them have been nothing short of frustration and distrust. I'm a straight shooter, despise phony and liars. You would think that these signs would be a great match. Not true in my case. I'm a very secure person and find them to be insecure and whiners. They talk a lot of smack about ppl, including their own family members and that sends a red flag for me to keep my mouth shut and not open up to them. They beat around the bush "Virgos" being the worst and can never keep a promise. Let me make it clear, I'm speaking from my experience only and not bashing all of them.

GEMini on June 06, 2014:

I am a Gemini, in love with an Aries woman born April 4th just like you. She is so amazing and I try to impress her and make her happy. I want her to feel like the luckiest and happiest woman in the world when she is with me, but the problem is she doesn't pay that much attention to me. she rarely calls or texts me and I wish she would communicate more. she frustrates me. She is currently in love with a virgo and I feel heart broken maybe I should just give up. We are a much better match for each other and always have fun together. I just wish she would see that.

8House on May 25, 2014:

I'm Scorpio and I've personally experienced the relationship between those two signs as if they were made in heaven. Now I know that the risk of WWIII is higher than 99.9%, being with an Aries or even getting close to one.

But that doesn't make me stop from trying - Especially not, if this is my one and only dream and always was.

Nothing can defeat true love. I promise you.

Helen Malsbary from Mesa, Az. on April 28, 2014:

O'Tay, Being also a Aries/Monkey , but being an Earth Monkey. A lot of what you said with Virgo male, I have found to be true also. I had live with two different ones, at different times. I will have to say, I have found , that Virgo men are quite emotional ! What do you think ? To me, It was like they got more Estrogen. LOL

Have a Good one ;-)

Rabes on April 20, 2014:

I think that All Aries that I know me being one myself are Very family oriented. We love ourselves as well as our family and loved ones. I seem to only attract water signs. It drives my crazy but just recently I became friends with a male Aries and we are perfect together.

Jayne Lambert on April 15, 2014:

Lol! I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this:) I agree with it for the most part. It's true we are assertive sometimes. We only get aggressive with mean hater type people! It was interesting to find out that Sagittarius is our best match for a date or life partner. We are take charge people with A lot of energy, loves excitement and hard, play hard. All in all good assessment but we're a little bit sweeter than you might think:) Sometimes the tough act you see is just an act....sometimes not:):)

Matt on February 24, 2014:

capricorn man trying to woo an aires women . Patience isn't the word .but really think shes the one Im 35 she is 32 thanks some of what you wrote makes real sense . but also not all capricorn men are like the ones you must have been out with :-)

April Rae on January 26, 2014:

Great article! I love that it's written from your personal experiences. I love that you call us out by saying if you're reading this you're probably an Aries woman.. Haha, so us. Although we are a crazy bunch, I would not ever want to be any other sign.

Another horrible sign for Aries to date - CANCERS... Yuck! Aries women like things to be straight forward and dealt with while the Cancer man disappears into his shell instead of dealing with the issue proactively. That's my experience after dating 5 of them in a row!! (Glad to have broken that cycle..)

APRIL born on APRIL 13TH

TrueScorp on November 23, 2013:

My lab partner is an Aries. She suggested I do the Tango as a project. No way I say and the professor thinks it's a great idea. The Aries then proceeds to inviting me over to her place to learn. Now I'm realizing she planned this successfully. After reading this blog I shall dance and leave. Seems Scorpios are always the problem according to you Aries ladies. I'll take your word for it...

M on October 18, 2013:

I find is so weird that i don't really come across to many aries dating aries. I am and aries male and I been talking to an aries female for about 2 months now we haven't made anything official yet but I have asked if she like me and she wants to see what things go with us. I love talking to her. It kind of makes up day worth while at times. she is able to open up to me and tell me her problems and but wants to take thinks slow. I show her I care and send her surprise flowers and I love it when things I do it puts a smile on her face because if make me happy to see her smiling but for some reason she doesn't show much affection and that really confuses me and make me think is she interested at time. I adore this women and really want things to work out between us any advice from me aries ladies please help and Aries man out lol thanks much. :)

J on October 13, 2013:

Lady Gaga - my discription on her is spot on trust me. And what part of the the trying to be better than a man did you not get? I have absolutely no complaining when the opposite sex does the job so to speak. But as I wrote she rams her car into anything - still she is shouting that she drive better than - well the rest of what's on the street. And when she make a dent or whatever she always blaim everyone else - and gets really upset when confronted with it. It seems like you didn't actually read what I wrote. But - lets just leave it. I was trying to contribute to this thread by telling how my experience with an aries woman is - and no - I certainly don't hope - nor do I believe that most aries women are like this. But I do read many places that aries female can be really really jealous - and this one is to the point where its actually a discease. And that's a sure recipe to disaster for a relationship - no matter what sign couples are. Regards j

lady Gaga on September 19, 2013:

Oh , and you also sound as if you're doing her a favor by dating her. Geez... I hope she doesn't know that - it may work with other signs, but with Aries women it's recipe for disaster.

lady gaga on September 19, 2013:

JB, not sure you realize but your descirption of your Aries girl is so inconherent that you can drive anyone crazy, let alone an Aries. By the way, nothing wrong with her trying to do things better than men. A sensitive and caring man would appreciate that, even if she fails. Trying to convince her that she's not as capable or worthwhile as she thinks she is can indeed and rightfully result in her not trusting you. And from there ... anything is possible - temper tantrums, jealousy, you name it - including the inevitable end to the relationship .

JB on September 15, 2013:

Hi there - I came across your site by coincident - trying to crack the aries female code. Im a taurus man who's been with an aries woman for 1,5 years now - that is if we haven't split up again today. Cause that's the way it is with us. She's by far the most hysterical woman I've been with. She will be upset over nothing really - and she is so jealous that its actually a bit psycotic! And this jealousy will show itself over and over again - and without reason. But as the aries she is she wont admit it - well sometimes in a weak moment ;-). She's also iranian (I'm danish)which means that she will have it her way all the time - iranian girls are known for being very diva like and yes its true! But still - I love her - even though I think I should not. She puts some much drama into my life that it can be hard to focus on other things at times. She's also very beautiful and will attract a man faster than you will be able to blink your eye and our sex is fantastic. Us taurus men need beauty - sorry - but that's the way it is. She's also very lovely when she is balanced - her emotions is usually all over the place and she often thinks that Im cheating on her even though I can solidly prove that Im not. Its really veird believe me. Being from another culture than me she is also i a rush of being married NOW. And now has been since we've known each other for two months. I'm 40 and she's 30 so the timing should be perfect and right - right? But what puts me off is her jealousy and eternal accusations of not being true to her and her insane hot temper and being hysterical over little things. She's also the type of woman who thinks she can anything better than a man - including driving and parking. Did I mention that she bumped, scratced and even crashed her car so many times that her father who's a mechanic is losing his hair over it? But still she thinks she's so damn fly at driving and parking. Every time she does it - its always somebody else's fault and she couldn't help it ... Lol! I really like her when she is calm - then she is mature and realaxed in her thinking - but she is way too often a hot head blaiming everybody on her way - including me. Maybe she' ll grow out of that - or maybe she just need to find another man who's willing to put up with her . And by the way - all you write to describe the aries female is pretty spot on - and I just can't figure out why I'm still with her. My friends and family thinks Im crazy. Oooh the wonderful world of lov. But hey ......yes they are also very sweet ......sometimes ;-).

moonlake from America on June 03, 2013:

Interesting hub I am an Aries woman. Most of what you say on here is right. I came by your hub by accident when you accidentally put a comment on my bird hub. Voted up and interesting.

monas1418 on March 15, 2013:

OMG!! you nailed me April 14th, To the Tee!! I'm all of this independent loving, intelligent, headstrong, need my space for me no one else, very free spirited. I love Leo men and Sags, but my problem with Sags, we can only be friends nothing else they are more independent than I am, a Taurus man tried to mold me into their image of what a woman is supposed to be, not having it, Scorpio I had to leave it was either kill or be killed.. excellent hub!!

King_Hermy on February 18, 2013:

Ahh.. the brutal truth. The life of a Virgo is a struggle.

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on February 13, 2013:

Ha! I'm sure in your situation it's not like that! :)

Dragon on February 13, 2013:

There is that word again, the word that no guys wants to hear. Friends!! :)

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on February 13, 2013:

Hi Dragon - So what I know of Libra-Aries is that they make a great pair, at least friendship and probably more. They are exactly across from each other on the Zodiac and Libra's love to bring balance when Aries leans too far to the left or right. No experience here with dating Libra's but for friendship, it's a great match. Good luck!

Dragon on February 13, 2013:

I'm a Libra Dragon that has my heart and mind set on an Aries Monkey. Our first meeting was nothing short of explosive. She told me about all this zodiac stuff and I have to admit, I know more about myself now than I could have imagined. Not so for my knowledge of her, but I am reading all I can. I see no mention of Libra here.

Rauxanne on January 02, 2013:

I am an Aries Dragon and honey.... YOU HIT IT ALL ON THE NOSE!!!! Thank you!

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on December 29, 2012:

Thank you!

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on December 29, 2012:

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful comments! Sorry it took me so long to approve them. I really appreciate your notes.

guest on December 29, 2012:

I am also an aries monkey and everything that you say above is so true of me. Great post, well written! :)

S on December 23, 2012:

I am sooo glad this post is more realistic to ones that I have read tonight (which almost makes me want to avoid myself!). Yes I'm an Aries woman and I feel that most times guy's are afraid to approach me. Yet if there are brave enough to they would find that I am a really friendly person and got a great sense of humour! And yes I hate stuck up their own backsides guys and find kindness in a man to die for but he has to be a man's man. If a guys too into you I hate it, just the thought of marriage scares me, as I see my independance flushed down the tolet as he talks about having kids! Noooooooo!!! Lol But that's not saying I can't be reasoned with, if he puts a good reason why but does it in way that he respects my decision, even if it is final, he could very well turn things around in his favour, use tact guy's.

Thanks for the post, had a great laugh reading it!!

A on December 21, 2012:

I am an aries lady. After plenty of time wasters and failed relationships (mainly geminis, leos, cancers) I took a decision to find THE BEST match out there and true love for the lifetime - a saggitarius male for myself! So i joined dating sites and picked out only finest and fittest saggis i could find and went out with them one by one. I have to admit I fancied couple of them but didn't get much interest in return. And there was this 1 whom I did not fancy but who kept on messaging. We met up and I still didn't like him. He somehow kept txting every once in a while but not often enough to become too annoying (otherwise I would have blocked him for sure). So half a year later on a lonely evening we went for a drink again and some magic happened - he managed to win over my heart!! And now 2 years later we are still together and better than ever! Two very impulsive people - there has been plenty of occasions at the beginning when we both deleted each other numbers and almost went our separate ways but somehow I have always went back to find peace or he comes to apologize when he has been too harsh. The relationship seems to grow stronger with each day I believe it is because both signs are very opened to new acquaintances but do not actually open up their hearts that easily. But once you are in you are there forever. I have to admit I feel luckiest and happiest to have him in this unconventional relationship. He is the most attentive, generous, caring gentleman with great body and great energy. We always have the best of fun together :)

A on December 21, 2012:

Lool i felt so busted when i read "If you're reading this, I would happily bet $25 that you are either another Aries woman"

Jay on December 12, 2012:

As an aries female I could not have written a better description. This is so spot on. I'm currently chasing a very self centered Taurus, but I cannot get my mind off of him. He's stubborn and selfish, but he is also intelligent and sweet. I need him to want me back. It's a curse.

J~ on November 14, 2012:

I'm Pisces male interested in a younger Aries female... Thanks for the compliments. So true, we are quite the dreamers! :)

Chandrakanth on November 13, 2012:

I am Taurus man,just into mind(not probably heart ) of an aries girl but, if possible surely i will soon into her heart with the kindof bosting this PAGE gives me;)

This page even makes me understand her more than i did since i have been with her .

Thank you thanks a lot for this WONDERFUL PAGE

Hannah on November 10, 2012:

I've dated a virgo male and this was completely true. Couldn't have explained our relationship better

me on October 27, 2012:

I’m an aries monkey with an extensive dating track record. So here are my two cents on the ones I dated:

- Cancer – very sensitive people and the attraction to their romantic side is almost instantaneous. They also make amazing lovers at the beginning. After about two-three years when the bonding hormones wear out, you discover that they need you much more than you need them. You start noticing their clinginess and neurotic side, and realize how much of yourself you have given them with not much in return. After breaking up with them usually you still remain friends, and years later you are still the one they call for encouragement every time they feel lonely, or are in trouble, or change jobs, which reinforces the fact that all they have been after was your energy. Water needs fire in order to get warm and alive, but fire only gets extinguished when in contact with water.

- Scorpio – could not agree more with your comments.

- Leo – this relationship is like a perpetual motion, you don’t know what makes it work, but it just goes on forever without any of you getting bored or having to spend too much energy maintaining it. They are very caring souls, larger than life characters, and best fathers ever.

- Pieces – Amazing love making. Nobody, and I mean nobody, will touch you in a more unforgettable, gentle, romantic way. And they will simply adore you. Years later, their lovemaking will still remain the standard you will judge others by. What makes this relationship break? I have no clue… probably because it is so dreamy, and because every dream has an ending. Oh, and they are profound intellectuals too.

- Aries – mixed reviews. I was unfortunate enough to date an Aries Snake, who is different from other Aries men. This one is too full of himself to pay attention to you. His needs are way more important than others’. Even in bed, I can’t say they are impressive - it’s still a “me first” attitude on their part which is extremely off-putting. But I also dated an Aries Monkey, and I must say that with this one you can finally get a feel of how amazing a truly Aries man can be – energetic, smart, uncomplicated. You just can’t escape his charms, if he wants you.

wiko on June 04, 2012:

I (a Virgo and Autist) met the most wonderful, caring

woman in my life! ...An Aries! Now we're friends!

I am sooooo happy! : )

Keep the fire burnin'...

perfectperception from USA on April 12, 2012:


Nim on April 07, 2012:

Really funny...and so much truth in it...M a female aries too...hahhahha..!

theautumnleaves on March 14, 2012:

This is absolutely brilliant! I had a great time laughing to myself while reading this hahahahah. I'm an Aries myself, and born in the year of the Monkey too :) I loved the phrase Feminine Feminist, couldn't agree more. Great job! :)

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on January 26, 2012:

:) Of course. All men deserve at least a try. Even when in the back of my mind, I think, this will never work, I still go ahead and try it any way. I guess that is one of Aries' qualities, and it's one of Virgo's too!

Tania Wright (author) from Dallas, TX on January 26, 2012:

Oh, good! What sign are you?

deian on January 26, 2012:

That is a very nice description told with lots of energy. Unfortunally am I virgo and basically attract only aries. Thanks for the reading I really try to understand you woman, but sometimes you aries come over as too aggressive and I think that a real aries would say: what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. So try thses virgo, we are not all that picky and orderly and we know how to love and play.

perfectperception from USA on January 26, 2012:

I'm not an Aries but I found this interesting.

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