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Romantic Compatibility in a Cancer and Virgo Relationship

Andrea has a background in astrology, Myers Briggs, and pop culture with expertise in relationships and dating.

With some work, Cancer and Virgo can cultivate a healthy, loving relationship.

With some work, Cancer and Virgo can cultivate a healthy, loving relationship.

Cancer and Virgo Compatibility

With some work, Cancer and Virgo can make for a lovely match. Cancer is moody, and Virgo is hard-working and vigilant. They may not always see eye to eye — while Cancer likes to feel things out and be around people, Virgo simply wants to get things done using their clean-cut logic. They also don’t like when people get in their way.

On the bright side, the two signs can help each other to become more well-rounded. For example, Virgo is prone to depression because of their desire for perfection. Cancer understands emotions well and can help pull Virgo out of their despair.

Virgo, on the other hand, can help Cancer gain much-needed perspective about their surroundings and help them to make better long-term decisions. Cancer is prone to laziness and needs an extra push to get stuff done.

What Happens When Summer Signs Begin a Relationship

Cancer is born at the beginning of summer, and Virgo is born at the end. Signs that are born in the same season usually get along because they have similar temperaments. Summer is an important time of year; it’s the second season of the zodiac cycle, and its pleasantness depends on whether or not spring had enough rain to water the flowers and crops.

Cancer Has a Sensitive, Magical Personality

During the dates of Cancer, June 21 to July 22, there typically is a lot of rain and heat. This is a prime time for people to take their vacations. Cancer is symbolized by both the crab and a pregnant woman. Cancer is considered the mother of the zodiac, and the following signs are the different trimesters of her pregnancy — Aries is her firstborn son.

Pregnancy causes a lot of mood shifts and sensory stimulations. Women become more sensitive to their surroundings and to people. A Cancer woman approaches life impulsively, guided by her mood swings. She has a kind of magic in her that isn’t found in Aries, Taurus, or Gemini.

During the dates of Cancer, June 21 to July 22, there typically is a lot of rain and heat. This is a prime time for people to take their vacations. Cancer is symbolized by both the crab and a pregnant woman. Cancer is considered the mother of the zodiac, and the following signs are the different trimesters of her pregnancy — Aries is her firstborn son.

Pregnancy causes a lot of mood shifts and sensory stimulations. Women become more sensitive to their surroundings and to people. A Cancer woman approaches life impulsively, guided by her mood swings. She has a kind of magic in her that isn’t found in Aries, Taurus, or Gemini. She is the first of what is considered the magical personalities — this includes Scorpio, Aquarius, and Pisces.

Virgo Is Hard-Working and Solitary

Virgo arrives at the end of summer, usually the hottest part. August is a hot month. Virgo sees the results of Cancer’s and Leo’s efforts. That’s why Virgo wants to work hard — so that it can get things done that were too difficult to do during the crazy-hot Leo season. Virgo has a lot to accomplish and can be one of the most single or solitary signs.

Virgos are drawn to academia and challenging jobs. Cancer, on the other hand, has a strong need for people. Though they don’t necessarily need a large friend group, they do thrive on social relationships.

Compromise Is Key for This Relationship

Cancer sees the tail end of spring, and Virgo sees the beginning of fall. These two can have very different perspectives about how things should or shouldn't be done. They'll have to work on compromising and listening to each others' perspectives if they want things to work in the long run.

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Cancer and Virgo at a Quick Glance

CategoryCancerVirgo

House Number

4

6

Element

Water

Earth

Ruled by

Moon

Mercury

Dates

June 22 to July 22

August 23 to September 22

Part of Body

Hands

Digestive System, intestines

Modality

Cardinal

Mutable

Colors

White, gray, silver, and cream

Brown, gray, and green

Season

Early Summer

Late Summer

Personality

Nurturing, moody, flirtatious, charming, impulsive, artistic, creative, charming, motherly, sensitive, socially aware

Hard-working, academic, logical, straight forward, perfectionists, ambitious, loner, independent, calculating, loyal, dedicated

Virgo and Cancer should spend time together and help foster each other's interests.

Virgo and Cancer should spend time together and help foster each other's interests.

How These Two Signs Can Learn to Love Deeper

Cancer, as a water sign, and Virgo, as an earth sign, are both somewhat passionate creatures.

Cancer is big into romance. Virgo is into, well, things that are excellent. They’ll put their best effort into whatever they do. Virgo can be very much about the mind whereas Cancer is all about the heart. This can obviously cause friction at times.

Neither person is horribly stubborn. They can change their minds and are adaptable, though no one changes their mind more often than Cancer. However, these two can butt heads because they are too stuck on their principles. Cancer cannot put up with someone who is rude and lacks empathy, and Virgo cannot put up with someone who is demanding and unreasonable.

How to Make the Relationship Work

For these two to work, they'll want to have a home that allows them to work outside. Virgo does well when he or she can work with their hands. Cancer does well to nurture and foster life. These two would do well to take up gardening together.

They also would do well to have pets around the house. Cancer needs someone to mother, and when the kids are all grown up, a pet is really helpful so they don't start coddling their partner too much. Also, most Virgos like dogs, it seems. They like to have an extra worker who doesn't talk to them too much. Virgo doesn't want to be drained.

How These Signs Enhance Each Other's Lives

Virgo wants someone who is essentially their definition of perfection. Virgo wants someone who is kind of magical and make-believe. Virgo can be a loner because they have impossible expectations when it comes to dating — they want to partner up with a good-looking person who has a great mind and an unsoiled reputation. They want someone so they can have the perfect children. They do not like to settle for less than their expectations.

Sitting here writing this, I can think of several Virgos from my life who are still waiting for some kind of magical spouse. They’re well into their 40s and beyond that.

Virgo simply refuses to be in a relationship unless they feel they must be in one. The thing is, Virgo does really well in romantic pairings because they have excellent manners. A water sign like Cancer can really help them to be more comfortable in their own skin, helping them become much more at ease with their surroundings. A relationship with Cancer helps Virgo to recognize his or her emotions.

Cancer also does well with earth signs who can set boundaries. Cancer, as a water sign, can be susceptible to not having true direction. This makes it far too easy for them to fall into an identity crisis. Earth signs naturally give boundaries and direction, which is something a water sign will either love and appreciate or abhor. Water signs want to merge with everything around them — they imitate the earth by turning into ice, imitate the air by turning into steam, and they boil and spill over like lava (fire).

12 Tips for the Cancer-Virgo Couple

  1. Make a consistent effort to do things together as a couple. You shouldn’t only spend time together within a group setting. The children will grow up and friends change. The two of you need to stand by each other. Develop unique interests that you can do together.
  2. Cancer, don’t push your Virgo hard when you are upset. They take your words seriously, but if you push too hard it could push them further away from you and this will make you feel more isolated. Virgo should be careful not to make Cancer feel abandoned. They need your love and reassurance.
  3. Virgo needs to set reminders to be present in the relationship. Virgo gets distracted by all the projects they are trying to conquer and can — often by accident — take their partner for granted. Virgo should try to see their relationship as a project to invest time in. Schedule dates, put things on calendars, and write down great gift ideas. You can organize the chaos, Virgo. It’s okay.
  4. Cancer should not use Virgo as a therapist. Cancer has plenty of moods and should look for therapeutic ways to understand themselves. Try expressing yourself through the arts or getting a real counselor. Virgo couldn’t possibly understand all that’s going on in your mind, and it would actually stress you out if Virgo tried to understand everything about you. Virgo means well, but they’re not as emotionally apt as you. They show love through acts of service.
  5. Take interest in some of your partner’s interests. You do not have to become a fan of all their things, but it will mean a lot if you listen to their music, check out their hobbies, try something they would like to do for a Saturday afternoon, and get involved in their inner world, etc. Cancer might like to talk to you about the nuances of Gothic castles from the 13th century, while Virgo is into the latest trends in engineering. What both of you need is a good listener, or at least someone to make dinner while you talk to them about your crazy interests.
  6. Don’t let the other person feel lonely! Neither of these signs like loneliness. Summer is meant to be vibrant and fun. Virgo can be independent, but they don’t want to feel like they have no connection to the world. Cancer can feel really lonely if they have no social sphere or new gossip to share.
  7. If you need someone to plan something, let Virgo do it. If you need someone to take charge of a spontaneous moment, let Cancer do it.
  8. Keep track of your finances — it will do you wonders. Be resourceful. Virgo spends conservatively, Cancer can sometimes be too generous.
  9. You’ll both be happy if you contribute to the well-being of the planet. Recycle, reuse, and consider your carbon footprint.
  10. Virgo has a tendency to beat himself up. He needs help being kinder to himself.
  11. Cancer will do well to stick to a schedule. Regular sleep will help regulate their moods.
  12. Be slow to anger and quick to love.

© 2019 Andrea Lawrence

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