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Signs That a Cancer Man Is Interested in You

Updated on June 19, 2016

Before I get started, and take you into the depths of a cancer man's psyche, I must first make sure you are aware, that I can only give you knowledge from my own personal experiences. I have been attracted to cancer men throughout my life, so I consider myself as having a decent level of knowledge on the subject, but I certainly don't know "everything".

And when you add to the fountain of info, that you also need to be aware of your man's Moon and Rising signs (at least), there is a ton of info that will forever be lacking from this hub. Still, I hope you enjoy it! =)

Signs, Signs... Everywhere There's Signs...

  • Family - Cancer is THE Family sign of the zodiac, and you can be sure your cancer man is into you, when he brings you home to meet the family
  • Mom - If his mom likes you (or at least pretends she does), then you're in. A man with cancer in his sun, holds his mother in high regards, even if he doesn't talk about her that way. So make sure that whatever you do, you work to get on and stay on her good side.
  • He Talks - Cancer men, in my experience, are notorious for being able to keep their deeper sides to themselves. They lock those deeper emotions into a neat and crusty shell in the bottom of the sea, where no one can pry into them. Though my experience has also shown me, that if your cancer man does let you see inside, even just a peak, he's definitely interested in you.
  • He Loves Your Cooking - The irony here, is that although Cancer signs are well known for being the foodies of the zodiac, when a cancer sign is in love, they think your cooking is extra special, even if McDonalds would throw it out. It's the ingredient of your love that makes it extra special for them.
  • He's Cooked for You - Do to the traditional thought that it should be "women in the kitchen", cancer men don't cook as often as they really should. It's great for them on a very spiritual level, though like their deeper emotions, they don't go there often unless a power event or person moves them to do so =)
  • Your Number 3 - This is an interesting thing to think about. I say "#3", because Cancer men usually have at least a kid or two by the time they are in their early 20's, and because they are so loyal, that means they will usually still have a strong bond or at least a sense of responsibility to their kids mom. They don't want to be the "bad guy" in anyone's eye, which can often push new loves away, when really, if you're number 3, you're doing fantastic in your cancer mans eyes.
  • He Gets Jealous - Contrary to what I've seen as "popular belief", cancer men are not naturally the jealous type. Though when they feel truly connected to their partner, they will pull out the pinchers to protect that connection whenever they feel it's necessary.
  • Actions Speak Louder Than Words - Yes, it's true, most Cancer men are poetic in their own ways, though not all of them are that way with words, so if you're not "hearing" it directly from their mouths, check their actions. Cancer men in love, will do little things for you whenever they can, like cleaning the house or buying you a little gift here and there. They will hug you when you or he gets home, and make sure to kiss you before you leave each others sight.


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      Cecemarie33 10 months ago

      I guess it would never work out between me and the cancer i been seeing on and off for the pass 2 years. He has a kid, and i cant deal with the fact of how i feel like hes lying to me about things. Then he always trys to make things about me and my attitude and what i say to him. He act like he cares for me and then acts like he dont care. I asked this man so many times how does he feel about me? Before when i met him he said he liked me", but his actions maybe me feel otherwise sometimes. Ive been hurt before and im not looking to keep going thru that. Instead just tell me the truth. Thats all i ever asked him. When we argured he would talked crap to me with no problem.. But when it comes down to actually being honest its too hard for him. And i told you some of the events and traveled to nyc to see him and to FL where he lives and where i met him when i went down there for school. But he hurt me this last time, made me feel like shit. Like i traveled all the way down there just to find out his real name wasnt what he told me when we first met, i saw womans lotion and lip gloss in his car and i asked does he have someone else.. Cause if so ill just leave..

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      leighanne 10 months ago

      If he truly cares he will be completely honest with you and be 100% all about you.

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      Lesa 9 months ago

      Lol that's not true at all. Cancer men are very standoffish even when they really like you. I've been involed with one for about 10 years and he still hasn't really told me how he feels about me. He's a very moody person and he's also extremely jealous. He brings up my ex almost everytime we hang out and that can be very annoying. Sometimes arguments get so heated between us too and I end up asking him to just move on and leave me alone. But he never dose he always finds his way back into my life. I'm an Aries so I just usually go with the flow of things but dealing with a cancer man can be very difficult. I truly believe that he's totally in love with me and has been for the longest but however for some reason he doesn't want me to know that.

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      Samantha 9 months ago

      I met this Cancer male almost 2 years ago in Miami. Passing each other on the street we checked each other out from behind at the same time lol. We exchanged numbers texted the whole day and saw each other in the club later that night. We wanted to see each other again but I was hanging with a group and by the time I got back he was asleep. I left the next morning. We made arrangements 2x after to see each other and it didnt happen. We have an amazing connection over the phone and through text messages. We send pics, argue, stop talking for awhile, get upset when the other goes out and talk often thoughout the day. Its crazy! I finally got to see him again recently because of my my job. It was just like the first time all over again well maybe even better. Im comfortable around him and cant get enough of his personality. He has a natural charm and sex appeal. I didnt fully enjoy my visit do to the fact the he didnt have anything planned for us. To me he is kinda slow but the willingness to do whatever I want helps. Since then Im back in my state and all I want to do is see him again. I hate it! He hasnt taken initiative the to make plans for us to see each other. He tells me he misses me often, saying GM everyday, calls on his breaks, talk till we fall asleep, tells me he dosent want me to see other people the whole gambit. He also told me that he really likes me

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      Queen 9 months ago

      My cancer man is fucking wonderful. I'm a Virgo woman. Of the men and women we've been with none were as compatible as we are. I fucking love him lol and I don't think we will ever split because we respect each other , we know when one needs space. It's like we read each other and we feel each others energy and that's perfect for us. I mean I just think it's astrology. Because I'm a Earth sign, he's a water sign. The best of both worlds and we respect one another ridiculously . We talk about whatever we need to discuss and we fix things it's like the most amazing and understanding relationship I've ever been IT. He has a bad attitude but so do I, and a little attitude problem is what I need . That's what will make this thing last (; - oh and we never judge one another no matter what. We don't do the irrelevant question game unless it's necessary. We play no games. Blunt real raw genuine love and affection. He has bursts of mood swings but so do I . So for me to complain about it I'd be a hypocrite lol. I'm a queen and he's a king and we have big dreams. We could work together to build a foundation like no other. Both our minds put together could create such a wonderful successful ladder of success it's incredible. Be jealous bitches. My cancer man is so satisfying and he knows exactly what to do to make me smile, laugh etc. :) loving every minute of it

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      ctyflyhi 9 months ago

      Question. I have a crush on a Cancer male from a few years back. I would have sworn the feelings were mutual. When I first met him, we were both involved with others and I worked for him so nothing ever came of anything. In the mean time, I found out one of my new friends online is his mother and she and I have become close. I have not told her about my crush on her son, mainly because I'm embarrassed now. I just told him about my crush and he basically said he's not interested in dating anyone. Should I tell her? ( And here's the odd part, is there ANY way he may be talking thru her? Some convos just seem slightly off...very confusing.)

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      Niya 9 months ago

      Hi, ctyflyhi- Hope this helps you :) -

      If your crush is a Cancer male, then he has a very high regard for his mother, so if you like him, be honest with his mom about it (don't be embarrassed, tell the truth) if his mom likes the type of person you are, she can definitely put in a good word for you.

      Hard lesson- don't tell the Cancer man about any of your past relationships, they do not like it at ALL, they are easily jealous and do not like competition. But there is a remedy- give a brief, real brief apology but explain that you wanted to be open and honest send this note either through a text message or direct contact if possible (hint, if you do the apology face to face, look ultra feminine; a good bra and either a dress or skirt.

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      Aqua-broken-hearted 8 months ago

      I was hooked by the crab claw and boy, does it hurt. We were dating for 10 months. The first 7 months was the most amazing time of my life. We had so much fun together, spent nearly all of our time together. After the 7 months things started to change. He became more secretive, hiding his phone, flirting with females online. When confronted about it, he would find a way to flip it on me. The arguments started to become more frequent and we both started assuming things about one another. He became more distant and soon after, he started ignoring me. The more I pushed.. He pulled. He doesn't take responsibility for his actions, instead he blames them on others. When asked if he want to breakup he always refuses... I started to ignore him after a while and he would call, text, apologize... The minute o text him back... He ignores me again. I'm almost certain there's someone else because he's not the type to be alone. I just cannot believe he's being like this towards me. I tried to communicate with him face to face and all he does is shut down and sulk. He later texted me saying that he's going through a lot mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, but then I would see him online acting as if his life is fine. I don't want to give up on him, but I think I have no choice but to go. I'm tired of hanging on to every word he says and being depressed, stressed, and not eating. This relationship is weighing on my health now. Any advice for this Aqua-broken-hearted!??

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      ridah mowil 7 months ago

      i am a cancer and my man is also a cancer' before being a couple we were friends.. he is all i need from loving caring understanding lol, i don know what i will do if i lose him. i loooooove him

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      Libra girl 7 months ago

      Idk if anyone would concern my comment but I share my story anyway. As a Libra, I'm very outgoing, lazy and also enthusiastic. I met this Cancer guy in the very first week of college. He added my facebook about two months before college started, we did not talk until the second day of school. He texted me, asked some general question such as, "what classes are you taking?", "what year are ya?" and then we met. I was not shy to meet him tho, but he seemed very shy, did not talk much. We had lunch, shared contact and talked a lot (mostly me). He shared foods with me, drove me home (bc I did not drive in my first year) even tho his house is like 30 mins far away from my house. He seemed really nice and sweet as a first impression to me so I guess that one of the reasons why I start crushing on him. Things did not go well as I thought, he did say something about how am I a Libra and he is a Cancer and those can't get along well. We had some conflicts around. There was a moment he was so mad at me, he even blocked me on facebook, did not talk to me in a week. I was so sad even crying, but then after a week, he texted me to go have lunch with him then we talked again. Most of the convos are like "hey, go to the library", "wanna have lunch?", "where are you?"... It has been more than a year. We take the same classes, usually together in school and understand each other more, so we don't fight or get mad at each other anymore. I even presented at his house, met his mother, chatted with her and she made me some foods. I don't know if he likes me but I realize that I really like him now. I did not think I would like him until I saw he was with some girl in his class. I was soooo mad, I did not know why it bothered me that much. I could not concentrate for my exam, I avoided him and even cried. I know that I like him, ya know. But this is too much, and it hurts when I look at us right now and don't wanna ruin our relationship bc of my overreacting emotion. I start hating that girl now haha. Even though I got no right to tell him not to hang with her something, I did tell him how I felt (bc he asked why I was so mad at him) also told him that I know that was weird and unreasonable but I could not control my feelings. He did tell me after that bc that girl keeps following him after class, he had to lie to her that he went to the office sometimes. I feel delighted when I hear that but at the same time, I start wondering if he feels about me the same. I am not bragging but I have some guys follow me too but I don't feel like dating. I know he does not wanna date either (he told me about that), bc we both need to focus on school but my feelings and emotions drive me crazy sometimes. My friends advised me to ask him out, but I'm so afraid that he will reject me and I don't actually wanna be in a relationship (I broke up with my ex a year ago) also don't wanna ruin this relationship. I don't know what you call this rls but whenever I am with him, I feel secure and happy. We talk about mostly everything, our family, jobs, things going on and... But I don't want other girls around him ya know, and I can't do anything :( as a friend. This is a guy I will wanna be with in the rest of my life, I can tell him that. As a Libra, I did show him and tell him that I like him but he was like "nah, you're lying", "stop messing around"... I know I did mess with him at first but... I do actually like him, like a lot. Idk if he pretends that he does not believe me or he's actually confused. What should I do to make him believe me that I am serious? And Should I ask him out?

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      Emily 7 months ago

      Damn Libra gurl,that is alot,I like a cancer too,but i am a virgo,as in,virgin.i know things wont work out bc im pretty young,(so is he)his mother likes me,at least i think so,imean,shes a teacher and is nice to everyone so too young to cook and we r not friends...bc ppl will tease u if r seen with a boy and our personalilty traits r SO different that theres no way we'd even be friends and im not even pretty...sure a few dudes like me but those dudes like all the girls and sometimes i feellike there is no way i would b width him bc i teased him in 1st grade and he is like a very good "young teenager"where i am a rude "young teenager" but i really like him but his mom is watching him and all...llsighll love from afar...

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      Bdog 7 months ago

      I been seeing this cancer man I like him a lot I do a lot for him I buy gifts all the time. I always cook and give him lunch for work throw the snacks too. I always text gm always text him. I do so much and most of all we have sex so much that I'm hook omg I even had a tattoo first letter I been knowing him 10 years just started having sex and talking to him 1 year now. Things r good I guess but never tells me nothing about nothing like ohhh food was good. Or I like the gifts oh show any feelings towards me. Does he like me ??

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      Virgo Goddess 7 months ago

      I am a Virgo Sun Pisces moon and my man is a Cancer Sun Taurus moon. We both have Venus in Leo. I don't normally comment, but I love my baby so much. He remembers little details about my life. He makes me feel like a queen. He protects me. It may sound weird but his love is fatherly and Virgos long for a safe male presence. We have talked about marriage, kids, traveling, and guess what? It's only been three Months. He has also told his mother about me.

      For the people having a hard time with cancer, he probably feels like you're not the One and he's just buying time. Sorry but my mom is a Cancer, and I've always had a Cancer male friend. If they love you they will do ANYTHING... ANYTHING for you. Including something that would make them broke, hurt, sad, or lonely. They don't care about what they have, as long as they have you.

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      Bema Self 6 months ago from Seattle

      Sadly, some cancer man have the predisposition to turn into womanizers, and others will have no problem filling their 'needs' elsewhere if they can justify it through being hurt by their love. Most cancer's aren't like this, but there are those out there who can sometimes paint a bad picture for all other cancer men out there.

      Couple that with most cancers natural tendency to be overly anxious, slippery, elusive, and fear aggressive, and you could have the sweetest most loving man on your hands who adeptly does whatever he wants on the side and then cuts you down with his razor sharp claws the minute you start to sniff around.

      At this point Cece, I'd suggest going with your womanly intuition. We as women have a built in bullshit detector that can immediately pick up on the subtle cues that our partners are cheating on us, even when it's only emotional cheating (which can be common for some cancers). I'd suggest for any woman to follow her intuition in this situation, but especially if you're dating a cancer man. Even if he's not cheating, he's still hiding something and being a total jerk to you, neither one of which you deserve.

      Sadly though, depending on how personally attacked or emotionally injured your cancer man feels (which happens often), whether or not he's told you about, will determine how often and for how long he'll hold those slights against you. Cancer men very slick about hiding their true feelings from you until they feel ready to let it go or use it to attack with. By then, you're not likely to see it coming, not because you wouldn't have tried, but because he'll make sure you didn't have any chance to see it coming. This sort of passive aggressive conflict pattern can go on for years and years, even if you and he were completely faithful to each other.

      So, I guess what I'm trying to say, is that faithfull cancer men can be very worth the time and energy it takes to for their upkeep and care, but that doesn't mean they can't be a serious handful even on good days, lol. So if you're already at the point where you're questioning his fidelity, or you're resolve when dealing with his dreadful behavior, then I'd suggest getting out now while you still can. Even cancer men who are horrible lovers have a way of wrapping themselves so deeply into your heart that it will get harder and harder to build the courage to leave them, even if there's every reason to do so.

      Hope some of this helps you or anyone else in a similar position!

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      Bema Self 6 months ago from Seattle

      Oh boy... There's nothing quite like a cancer man and his mother... especially if he and his mom are close in astrology and personality, which happens often.

      With the info you've provided, my first inclination is to assume that if his mom approached you online after you met him, and then you found out she was his mom, than it's likely that he either really really liked you then, or he still really likes you but is playing the 'distance' game. It could also be that his mom is either especially nosy in his life and wants to know everyone he knows, or it could be that she thinks you're a great match for him, even if he doesn't see it yet. My cancer man agrees with these possibilities over any other.

      He also suggests to make sure you're not being too clingly or needy with him. Fill your life with many rich adventures that make you happy, and if he's really into you, he'll crawl out of his shell and scuttle around the earth to find you. If he's not that interested, you'll know.

      As far as telling his mom that you like him, I'd actually suggest going for it. She's the best source of info about him that you'll ever get, and she'd be the most likely to tell you how he did and does feel about you, as well as plenty of info about his hard to read behaviors. You might even get to see some embarassing baby photo's if she's the cancer-man-mom that she seems like.

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      Bema Self 6 months ago from Seattle

      Wise words Niya! Thanks for sharing

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      Bema Self 6 months ago from Seattle

      Hello Aqua-Broken-Hearted, I'm sorry for what you're going through. I have a couple of thoughts for you, hopefully one of them will help....

      So, first things first. My cancer man, after hearing your tale, says "dump him" and cites that cancer men like him can really hold a grudge of perceived slights that will fuel his fire for months at minimum, even if you never realized you hurt him (or even actually did) and you're on your best behavior the whole time, providing for his every need. Then, as far as the change from 7 months to 10 months, in terms of his distancing, lack of commitment, and the way he's been treating you, my cancer man says, "My mama always used to say; shit or get off the pot.", which means he can't have it both ways. He can't have you and destroy you at the same time. It's not right and he'll milk for as long as possible.

      Second, some thoughts from my own perspective... I'd suggest considering just how horribly he's acting, now that you've been together almost a year, and then multiply that by 10 years. Do you feel that you could live with a moody, crabby, unpredictable, confusing, and sometimes hurtful man who might not ever be able to explain to you how he truly feels about you or anything else?

      If you can't, follow my cancer mans advice and get out now.

      If you feel it's worth a try, what would work best at this point, is to serious put your foot down.

      Go to him when he's not wrapped up in other things, and calmly tell him that you love him deeply but that you feel like you just can't make him happy and that it's literally tearing you apart, which has lead to your decision to end the relationship for both of your health and happiness. If he asked for details, be completely honest with him, but be tactful and make sure to stick with those pesky "I" statements, to avoid making him feel like everything is all his fault (even if most of it is). Then, if he tries to fight with you or get you into a heated discussion, withdraw and back down every time. Tell him calmly but sternly that you refuse to argue with him, and that that sort of behavior will push you away faster.

      Then, if he's anything like my cancer man, he'll calm down and realize just what's happening. It's in that moment that you'll likely see his mettle. If he truly cares for you, he'd do anything to keep you including following through on any changes you say you need from him, at least until the moon changes signs again. You can usually double check his sincerity through his eyes. If he sheds even a single tear, he does really care, even if he can't figure out how to say it or show. Alternatively, If he really likes you, but can't really see a future with you, then he'll likely just blow you off, get playfully charming, or go sulk in a corner for a while and then come back assuming nothing changed.

      If it's the first action, then that is your moment to put your foot down. You definitely want to profess your love for him, but you also need to respectfully demand whatever it is your after. If it's a full commitment, or marriage, or future kids, or just a phone call every few days, tell him now, when he's most receptive. Follow that will your own commitment to leave if it seems like you can't make him happy, and then follow that with more processing of your love for him in between his professing of his love for you.

      Anyways, whatever path you choose, consider it thoughtfully. Cancer men can be wonderful and absolutely worth it, but they can also be high maintenance, needy, elusive, confusing, indecisive, and hurtful. If you feel your skin is thick enough to stick around through even death do us part, then go for it. Though if you have any doubts about being able to deal with this sort of behavior for any longer, or your health can't take it, then get out now before he enchants you even further.

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      Kitty 4 months ago

      I'm a Sagittarius, and as the zodiacs say, we are really incompatible. Although my crush is a cancer, he doesn't act like one. He's not shy. In fact, he's the loudest one in my class and the funniest too. He's not hardworking, like I've read in other zodiac articles. He has bad grades. We barely even talk, and I just think it's one sided love because I'm too much of a coward to talk to him. He might think I'm chasing after him and be totally put off. I look at him everyday, and I think he already knows. I just don't know. I worry so much about him. He's the FIRST and ONLY guy I've felt this way with. Out of everyone in the world. I just don't know what to do

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      Keke 4 months ago

      @sag. Kitty.. Your not a coward, you are a Sagittarius. You have to much pride to step to him like that. Sagittarius are not cowards but we do have a lot of pride. Talk to him as a friend, dont come on to strong, if he likes you, you will know it by his actions. So any hoot. Im a Sagittarius of course. Im dealing with 2 cancer men. one of them, i have a child by and the other one, we were friends for 3 yrs. Father of my child has made his way back in the pic and the friend has been missing in action for 2 months. So me being the kool sag i am. Im just sitting bk seeing which direction my kid's father is going in this time lol. Im seeing if my friend is going to call me bk. He know that my kid 's father is tryn to get bk in the pic. These 2 men are all over the place, one min. they want a relationship the next min. they want to be single. They are both good fathers, very passionate, fatherly, love to cook, moody, hot and cold, jealous, controlling, dominate, and possessive and omg so emotional. Well im just going to not take any one of them serious, and not get my feelings involved until i see some real actions. This should be interesting to see the outcome of both men actions. I know i cant allow them to take me on an emotional rollercoaster ride. Cancer men from my experience can be a bit selfish. They are easily intimidated. These guys are intimidated by my father bc he has similar ways lol. He is a capricorn. I will advise any woman to not allow cancer men to stress you out. Their actions speak louder than their words. If they like you or love u, they will show it with their actions. They will do everything to please you. They will become very clingy and protective of you. Watch out tho bc sometimes they can like you but not really want a relationship with u and string you a long for their pleasure, you will know when they do this bc they will, lie, hide stuff, not be honest, and make you feel like you are nothing to them. DO NOT PUT FEELINGS INTO THEM UNTIL YOU ARE FOR SURE ABOUT THE DIRECTION THEY ARE HEADING TOWARDS WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

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      Virgotastic 4 months ago

      This was very helpful. But this talks more about a dating situation than a crush situation which is what I was expecting

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      Jaileen 3 months ago

      Is it possible for a Gemini woman and a cancer man to have a happily long lasting relationship

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      SagMD 2 months ago

      @Keke. I'm a sag. who is has been dating a cancer man for over a year now and ALL of which you say is sooooo true. When I read the part where you said in bold DO NOT PUT FEELINGS INTO THEM UNTIL YOU ARE FOR SURE ABOUT THE DIRECTION THEY ARE HEADING TOWARDS WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!!......girl I couldn't help but shout Preach!!!!!!. As a sag. I too have just sat back to see how this relationship is going and how it's going to pan out. My feelings at this point are on hold. Love him with all my soul but my sanity is worth a hole lot more. So for me, your words will be in my opinion, words to live by and I thank you for sharing :-).

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      Bema Self 3 weeks ago from Seattle

      Glad these words could help! Been with my cancer man for almost 13 years now. It's definitely been a rollercoaster ride, lol

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      Jasmine Lashae 9 days ago

      CeceMarie33 is this man's name David by any chance?

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      Bema Self 9 days ago from Seattle

      No, his name is not Dave. Though I could go on an entirely different tirade about guys named "Dave", "David" or any other variation of that name, lol

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      Anamika Dangol 8 days ago

      I am a cancer woman ani a cancer man brokeup with me on april 15, 2017. I really love him ani i want him back. What shall i do to get back in my life?

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