How a Scorpio Man in Love Behaves

Updated on June 19, 2019
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I am a proud Scorpio man who has a deep interest in astrology and the zodiac.

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I am a Scorpio man, and I have often wondered what Scorpio men are like when it comes to love. How do we express love?” Most people are familiar with the general characteristics of a Scorpio man when he is in love. Some of these traits are possessiveness, jealousy and controlling behavior. Personally, I am shy, though I am not sure if “shy” is one of the characteristics.

But first, a general introduction to the Scorpio guy through the eyes someone with personal experience.

How to Spot a Scorpio Man

  • He's reserved: He can be silent on the outside but has a deep well of emotions within. If you see a guy at a party sitting in the corner quietly observing everything, he is probably your Scorpio man. Not that he is antisocial; he just likes privacy even in a social setting. At the same time, this isn't a foolproof clue; after all, some Scorpio men are very social (I am one of these).
  • He's opinionated: Ask him about anything occult and wait for his reaction. You will immediately know whether he is a Scorpio or not. Most of the Scorpios I have met have strong beliefs (positive or negative) and are passionate about expressing them. In fact, a Scorpio male has at least some basic knowledge and strong feelings about most of the subjects under the sun.
  • His gaze is intense: Look deep into his eyes. As the cliché goes, you will probably feel like your soul is being stripped bare. Chances are that you may even get extremely attracted to him. As a Scorpio, I have gotten these reactions from my friends, the girls I have dated and my female colleagues.

A Scorpio Guy in Love and Relationships

There are various contentions here about how a Scorpio guy behaves when he is in love. One thing to know for sure is that flirting with you does not mean he has feelings for you. I, for one, openly flirt with many girls, but I make it quite clear to them that it doesn’t mean anything other than that we are good friends. It is said that Scorpio guys do not fall in love easily unless the girl has some mystery around her. I can definitely vouch for that. I have only fallen for girls with an aura of mystery or power. But what happens if he does fall in love? How does he behave then?

Again, from my personal experience, once the guy falls for someone, there is no returning. He falls for her, and he falls hard. The first thing I noticed is that he starts going out of his way to do things for her. Now, this may be a general characteristic of most of the male species in the animal kingdom in order to attract the female. However, the second thing is not done by most of them. Once he is in love, he also starts becoming possessive.

Like a spider, a Scorpio will slowly start weaving a net around his beloved. If he sees that the game is a bit more challenging than he thought, he may even start becoming manipulative in order to make sure that she belongs to him. The bottom line is that he can go to any extreme to make sure she stays with him forever.

Flirting with you does not necessarily mean a Scorpio has feelings for you. But if he does fall, he falls hard.
Flirting with you does not necessarily mean a Scorpio has feelings for you. But if he does fall, he falls hard. | Source

How Does He Express Love?

Now, the biggest question is this. How does a Scorpio express his love to the woman he likes? Frankly speaking, this is the toughest question for me as I still do not have one single answer for this.

I believe most Scorpio men fall into two categories when expressing love.

  1. One kind finds it too hard to express their love. I fall into this category. I am kind of shy and though I have dated many girls in my life, I have expressed love only to a couple of them. It was not because I didn’t like some of the others. I was just either too shy in expressing it or a bit too slow.
  2. The second type of Scorpio just goes for it. One reason might be that Scorpios don’t like losing anything. Call them selfish, but if they like something, they start thinking that it belongs to them. This should not be taken in a negative way. It is simply that a Scorpio knows what kind of woman he wants and when he finds her, he cannot afford to lose her. So, if he has the confidence to jump right in, that's what he'll do.

For Scorpios, most things in life are games and battles they should win at any cost. They just cannot afford to lose. It may be said that, if the girl says no, it is a defeat for the Scorpio ego, which is difficult to handle. Like many people, Scorpios who don't express their interest are afraid of rejection. But if they can make it past that barrier, a Scorpio will be in for keeps. Remember, I told you that a Scorpio man does not fall in love easily? Once he does, he does not let go.

Scorpio Ryan Gosling is not afraid to jump right in.
Scorpio Ryan Gosling is not afraid to jump right in. | Source

Hot and Cold: Your Scorpio Guy

I keep getting queries from people who are with a Scorpio and confused about his behavior. They ask questions such as: "My Scorpio guy acts hot and cold" or "He just stopped talking to me for two weeks. Why?" To clear things up, I thought that it would be good to mention some of the traits you may encounter if you are considering a relationship with a Scorpio.

  • Mood swings: He can have frequent mood swings. This is not necessarily because he has PMS issues. He just gets overwhelmed easily. He keeps thinking about 10 different things at one moment, and he needs to focus on all of them but can only manage one at a time. He feels that he is always in the eye of the storm. That is one reason why he may be all over you one moment, and the next moment act completely distant. Even while talking to you, he may suddenly think of something else he needs to handle. A Scorpio's mind never rests.
  • Focus: In general, he needs to focus on one thing at a time. For him, difficulties are problems to be solved with undivided attention. That's the reason he may prefer not to talk to you for some time (because he is trying to solve something with extreme focus). Don't always interpret his silence as "he is upset with me."
  • Reluctance to commit: He doesn't rush into a true relationship. You two may hit it off immediately, but it takes effort and diligence to prove yourself as his soulmate. Of course, once he believes you are "the one" he will be extremely loyal. The only reason he may commit adultery is if he thinks that you are not the right one.
  • Sensitivity: He should come with a special tag that says "Handle with care." He has a tough shell on the outside, but he is extremely sensitive inside. You don't always know what will hurt his feelings. So, be extremely careful when you talk to him, especially if you are having a heated conversation.

Advice on Dating a Scorpio

Relationships with a Scorpio can be intensely passionate. Once you crack that "tough guy" shell, there are few star signs more devoted or loyal in love. However, there's a dark side to that loyalty: Scorpio men can also be jealous and oppressive partners. Here is some advice on how to handle a relationship with a Scorpio man.

  • Be honest: Avoid playing games. I am not discouraging you from playing the initial courtship games but don't take it too far. If you have given him your word, stick to it. Scorpio men seldom trust anyone, and not keeping your word is the easiest way to lose his trust.
  • Be assertive: He can be dominating and possessive in relationships, but don't let him get away with this behavior. He respects a woman who can hold her ground and does not give in easily. Be confident, and stand up for yourself and your needs.
  • Be wary of manipulative behavior: He can be a master of mind games and manipulation. If you hurt him deeply, he may even make "destroying you" or "teaching a lesson" the sole purpose of his life. There are very few who have evolved beyond a point of vengeance. If a person is stalking you, he most probably has a Scorpio element somewhere in his birth chart.
  • Don't worry if you don't always understand him: His behavior may sometimes seem pretty weird. We are not very good at explaining our reasons for doing things, and he probably has something in mind which he is not talking about. It is extremely difficult to understand what goes on inside a Scorpio's brain. If you don't get it, let him explain eventually, on his own terms.

This advice is mostly from my personal experience. Feel free to let me know what you think.

All Scorpios are not the same. After all, there are different levels to which a Scorpio has evolved. To get a clearer picture of what may be the level of evolution of your Scorpio guy, check out my article on totems of a Scorpio.

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Questions & Answers

  • My boyfriend of 4 months is a Scorpio, it's been intense from the beginning. He tells me that he's falling in love with me, that he loves me, and misses me or is looking forward to seeing me, though. At least once a week he feels the need to remind me that he does NOT want to be in a relationship, but doesn't want to lose me. I never once pushed him for a relationship, I love him. But I'm so confused and not sure if I'm coming or going?

    If he is absolutely sure about his love, he WILL make a move. Till then, you may have to wait patiently.

  • I fell in love with a Scorpio man, the shy kind. I recently found out he is married, but his wife lives out of the country. I am so mad he didn’t tell me. What should I do?

    Tell him that he kept it a secret and move out of the relationship.

  • My Scorpio boyfriend and I have just parted ways on good terms. He wants to focus on his health and work issues; I agreed, and we parted friendly! He says he cares a lot about me and I am all these wonderful things under the sun. Will he come back, or is it a move on situation?

    I would say don't keep your hopes too high. If he comes back, great! If he doesn't, then move on. See if you can afford to give him some time to get his stuff sorted. If not, then better to take care of your own stuff.

  • Are male scorpios controlling?

    They are controlling to a certain extent. But there are various levels of control and it really depends on the person.

  • Will a Scorpio commit to marriage?

    Yes, but only if he/she is absolutely sure.

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      Louise 

      11 hours ago

      I been texting a Scorpio guy since January met up twice the second time was Saturday and we have spoke since do Scorpio guys make impulsive decisions I can’t make any head way with him at the moment

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      Malik Naeem 

      2 days ago

      I like scorpio

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      Kay 

      6 days ago

      Im seeing a scorpio guy and im a cap, should i be worried?

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      Lady T 

      6 weeks ago

      Does Scorpio man get to know you though sex

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      Libbie54 

      7 weeks ago

      I inadvertently hit my Scorpio mans phone number today and immediately hung up because I really didn’t intend to call him and I was actually afraid of what he might say.

      Boy were my feelings on point...he immediately texted me back which caught me off guard because he never responded that quickly when things were good between us, and then crushed me when he asked ....what do you want??

      Wow I was shocked and hurt because of the tone of his response!! It cut me like a knife. I want him and I feel I have really lost him for sure! I would have felt better if he had just said hi or hello!!! What do you want?

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      Libbie54 

      7 weeks ago

      I am an Aries that had met this Scorpio man on a dating site and after a month and a half of texting, phone calls and Skype (still never meeting in person) we both confessed our love to each other. Then we had a misunderstanding because I questioned a situation that came up that caused him to abruptly shut down and then tell me there was too much drama and he loved me enough to walk away!!!

      I am totally lost and not understanding what went wrong.. I really do care about him and want to be with him!

      Is he gone for good, or will he ever get back in touch? What should I do??

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      Kylie 

      7 weeks ago

      My scorpio man says he wants he doesn't want to lose the relationship we've started, but his life is complicated right now and he doesn't want to get anymore serious. We are good together and everything he says is true. I truly would be ok with taking it slow to be with him. I've never been in a relationship like this, should I continue to enjoy it as is or move on?

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      Geeta 

      8 weeks ago

      I was in a relationship with this guy an we had an arguement stop talking for about three months i still text hime an he text me also i want to no if he still loves me

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      Geminigirl 

      2 months ago

      Im a Gemini girl dating a Scorpio man

      I can definitely say yes he is possessive at times and jealous. And it is true when he has a new job or somthing hes focusing on he acts distant but its because he has a hard time balancing things but he always reassures me that he loves me and is just busy with things. And yes he is a very very loyal person we've been together for a year now but since he met me he told me he would marry me in the future. I do believe scorpios go all in when they are in love me and him have gone through so much in our relationship and no matter what he has never gave up on us . It's definitely been worth the ride.

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      Scorpio person 

      2 months ago

      I’m a Scorpio person, and I can say, it’s not just males, that stuff is true with girls and in-betweens like me. Like the stuff about being afraid to commit, very true. But don’t harsh on us, not all of us like that.

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      Aquarius woman 

      2 months ago

      I think that everything is about scorpio ego. Loves any scorpio man without manipulation, mind games, tests, jealousy etc ? this is not love. I think that scorpio love only himself. It's just about the partner's pain. Only their needs are paramount or I´m wrong ? The attraction is great but everything else is very bad.

      Knows another sign non- verbal communicate with scorpio too?

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      Pramila 

      3 months ago

      When he like . He is scorpioThis time i will be like this moment it going on.suddently he make girlfriend with my friend. Today also i like him but what to do

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      Gemini Chic 

      3 months ago

      Hello, I'm the unusual and rare gemini girl that's in love with a scorpio man. I can vouch 100% for what was written all above. I've been in a relationship with my scorpio man for nearly 5 years now. We're a young couple, met in high school and still ongoing in college. We did break up once over conflict within our relationship but we never really stopped contact and was on and off for a bit until we decided ultimately to stay together. I can say for sure that the relationship itself was a roller coaster of a ride and emotions. It took us a very long time to manage our differences since scorpio and gemini are complete opposites. He was a distant one and wasn't very good at expressing love. The beginning of the relationship (nearly 2 years) he never showed signs as if he was in love but now (almost 5 years) hes lovestruck with me and is improving in expressing his affection. It takes a lot of time and dedication to get this far with a scorpio man and yes, he occasionally has his sulking moments in which I have to sit down and listen to him but the relationship and journey was so worth it in the end :)

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      Pisces girl 

      4 months ago

      Hi,

      From what I was reading I just feel We are all dating the same guy

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      Shalise 

      5 months ago

      I been dating a scorpio for 2 1/2 yrs it finally got to where he tells me he loves me and shows it i had to be patient wit him because i had to sit back and learn the type of person he is im an aquarius and im easily to fall in love but wont tell the person but ill show it but dealing wit him it took me a short time to tell him i love him and he never said it back until now and when he do he say it wit passion by looking into my eyes and tell me im his and that im not going anywhere he says im the best he ever had it took him a while to talk to me about what was on his mind but now he tells me everything now, he's making plans to take me on trips and even talking about moving in with each other i have my own place and he has his and i even have the key to his apartment we never fussed nor argued we may had a disagreement but it never lasted 3min because we both came to an agreement but the key to being with a scorpio is to sit back and be patient and yes they r loyal ppl once they fall in love wit u trust me i know be we came a long way hopefully one itll be wedding bells

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      Pisces Sunflower 

      5 months ago

      Everything I have read here is extremely accurate about scorpios! My bff male is a Scorpio, and he and I have always had feelings for each other. He admitted to me about a month ago that he has loved me since he met me (15 years ago). The issue is that he is in a cruddy relationship and he’s actually leaving her. I know, that’s always what they say but he really is trying to move to the state I live in and has been actively calling mutual contacts of ours for a position. My issue is that I have given so much time to him, and boosted him up when he is down (his relationship and he was also out of work for awhile injured), that I am running low on empathy. He doesn’t share info with me, and vanishes when he is upset. Very normal, but he does t even call me anymore. With him wanting to move back and stay with me, I asked him if he would at least meet me somewhere and talk about things so we are on the same page. He avoided that. He always avoids things such as meeting up. It drives me bonkers!! My guess is because it means he isn’t in control and I am the one asking for him to do something. He does say, “oh meeting there is great, we will!!” Or, “I do want to see you and I will meet you!” I’ve been waiting... for so long. I’ve seen other guys and never told him but I just can’t wait around. Now though, with him wanting to move back I feel like my life is on pause. But will this Scorpio really finally commit to something and make a move or stay and be miserable with his gf ??

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      Arathy 

      5 months ago

      I am pisces woman. I am in love with scorpio man who is just consider me as friend. I told him i love him openly. But he said his is not interseted in love. First i though he have failed relationship because of that he is not ready to love someone again. After 2 months of that he kissed me and we had sex too. I cant resist him i love him so deeply. But still he not yet said he loves me. He is very open with he shares his all personal problem. But whenever i asked about him what is our relationship he will say he dont know. He always give me mixed signals. Once he said he dont wanna lose me in his life. Whether he loves me or not..?

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      Anonymous 

      6 months ago

      Acc to vedic astrology scorpio sunsign is for people born between 15 November to 15 December

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      VirgoTroy 

      6 months ago

      So, I'm not like most people in these comments...I'm a Virgo male with a scorpio male coworker who seems to be slowly trying to insert himself in my life...not that I'm complaining. We're both somewhat "shy"...although i prefer to call it socially selective. LOL. And people at work have called us both mysterious because we're both intensely private and we both seem to be masters at observation and perception. A lot of people seem to come to us both for advice and comfort but we do have some differences. See, I occasionally joke around with my coworkers but true to my "virginal" sun sign, I am very modest publicly when it comes to sex- so much so that people often call me innocent which amuses people who know me personally because I have a very...wicked...sense of humor and a very active sex drive - both of which I conceal expertly. However, my Scorpio friend seems to be interested in trying to figure me out and it's alarming because most people usually find that a task too difficult to maintain. I don't make it easy to get to know me and I am working extra hard to keep up my protective walls but he has been making it hard...it seems like the more we talk to each other the more interested we become in each other. Like recently we were having a conversation about a show we both like involving witches and he mentioned a theoretical interest in dark magic which led to me revealing my interest in light magic and we had this funny little debate about our differences which somehow led to a conversation about his dreams. I happen to be quite good at reading people's dreams and told him to test me. He gave me a phony dream at first which I quickly detected and called him out on. That seemed to impress him and resulted in him telling me about a nightmare he had been having. I told him what I thought the dream meant and he got very quiet and started staring at me throughout the day. Well it's been weeks since then and he seems to be determined to get closer to me....like on a personal level. He has asked me out several times and has continued to watch me like a hawk. Strangely, my cousin recently told me that he had reached out to her on facebook which may be coincidental and he seems to be increasingly protective of me. He showed a surprisingly hot temper yesterday when one of our coworkers was caught gossiping about me and he made a scene, calling the guy out on it....i also have received flowers at my apt with no card but i have a strong suspicion they're from him......is this the behavior of a Scorpio who is playing games or...is he interested?

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      LikoPiko 

      6 months ago

      I am an aries/virgo rising f who has fairly recently (a few months) been in a relationship with a scorpio m (much younger than me). He showers me with compliments and support and love and constantly says he wants to be with me forever. Atm we both feel so loved and hopeful, as well as nervous because of it. He wants badly to have kids. In our early conversations, he says he tested me constantly and I “broke down every wall I had”... but I hardly noticed, it's how I am, I was just being honest. I do see the jealousy already, he's quick to feel something is off and will ask me about it immediately, like an interrogation, lol.. I appreciate this, though. I am a fan of directness and brutal honesty and for me, right now, these are desirable traits. I do worry about future perceived betrayals as I am extremely open and loving and have built a village out of my many different kinds of friends (who are also protective of me). I know this could/will lead to suspicion/fighting. I don't think I’d be happy if I agreed to change that about me; I love my village, their hugs and our deep conversations and I've been pretty happy alone for a while now. My last relationship with a Scorpio did NOT go well, he treated our life like a revolving door - coming and going as he pleased, constant break-ups (about 20 in our last year and a half). After one of our blowouts/breakups, I slept with someone else. I needed to break away from him and the cycle that was killing me, so I did it. He’d come around to try and get back together and we never did but we ended up sleeping together once when I was drunk on my birthday. I ended up pregnant and he refused to have the baby or try to make things work. I had the abortion about a week after I lost my grandmother/neighbor/best friend (who I had taken care of for 13 years). I was injured by the abortion procedure, grieving my baby and my grandma and he decided two days later, he wanted me back and now was the time to pressure me. I was completely heartbroken and just couldn’t forgive him, I couldn't believe he waited until baby was gone to say this. Eventually he searched my phone for proof that I was talking to other people and proceeded to flat my tire, break the mirror off my car, throw mattresses onto my lawn... ended up choking me in the driveway when I demanded an explanation. He always refused to talk about our future but strung me along anyway, I literally hated him for this and he hated me too. Anyway, I’m a little traumatized and nervous to fall for a Scorpio again - that sting is not a joke. I just would rather be alone than in shallow relationships and I am drawn to the deep attractive love, empathy, understanding and honesty I feel from Scorpios. This new guy seems to know exactly what he wants, he won’t stop talking about our future, the way that our life will look and the way he wants to raise our kids… He was pretty inconsistent with returning texts etc. which was disheartening but I always stayed secure and positive. I expressed to him once that it sometimes makes me feel ignored when he does that, he said that hearing that really hurt him and he will do better… ever since, he has been more responsive. I am truly amazed as I don’t think he was doing it intentionally but he was able to immediately adapt to my needs anyway. It made my heart just ache, the way that he wants to understand me, actually listens and makes taking care of my heart a priority. I'm excited and deeply attracted to him on so many levels, he's everything I could want, such a beautiful soul. I believe him and I believe in him, but he’s so young (we’re 13 years apart), and I don’t know if that is a good thing, or bad - all I know is that I'm in for a ride. I guess my thoughts at the moment are: 1) The possessiveness: We both are. I am by nature rather submissive for an Aries and love to belong to someone and also want to have them belong to only me.. but I’m rather hard to control when I feel ignored (trust issues are a problem for both of us, I guess). I want to work through that for myself also and do think I could use more structure in my life.. so I’m not as worried as I maybe should be. 2) I believe that all relationships struggle with jealousy, I definitely get jealous when in love. I know this will be a sticking point for us but he constantly tells me that if we can be honest and and look at things from both sides that we can work through anything. I don't seem to translate anything he's saying into a red flag... am I just being blinded by the excitement? Anyway thanks, I usually don’t share with strangers like this but I’m kind of needing to think out loud anyway and could use the feedback. Thanks for letting me vent here.

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      Bee 

      6 months ago

      I am a capricorn woman. I have been in a on and off relationship with a scorpio man. We broke up and got back together three times. I never dated scorpio men before and didn't know they were hot all over you then became cold and distant. It was hard on me. No calls and barely texts. We have a great physical attraction. It's unbelievable how we feel every time we see each other. I decided to move on and never saw or got in touch with him for a year. I thought i was done until i bumped into him at a store where he was working at that day. At first he felt uncomfotable, i said hi and we talked like like forever. He kept texting me and wanted us to get back together again. He promised he will do his best to make it work because he missed me. After a lot of thoughts, we git back together for seven months now. The attraction is still there but he's always busy working he said, we can't see each other often. Someone said to me once that he is my soul mate. When i asked him if he has seen someone else he said no. I love him but how can i get him to commit? He is not a man of words. I need to communicate with him. He gets mad and defensive when i talk to him about things. It's like i don't know where i stand with him. Don't want to waist my time. Is he in it for sex only? Should i give more times? Thanks!

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      Karthik Kashyap 

      7 months ago from India

      Aquarius: I highly doubt that he loves you. A Scorpio can never love you on the first day. Let him chase you a little and see if he still likes you.

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      Aquarius 

      7 months ago

      A Scorpio man just recently approached me and the first day he tells me that he is in love and wants to be in a relationship with me. What should I do?

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      KC 

      7 months ago

      How does a Scorpio walk away from a marriage & children - ignore for 17/18years & hurt his own children Also preferring contact with his now adult children one over another when he actually knows neither. ? That I think is cruel

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      BBPWdeana67 

      8 months ago

      I am a 52 year old Pisces woman who has had a male Scorpio admirer since we were 12 years old. He pursude me heavily in high school, but because my best friend was in love with him, I never would seriously date him.

      Fast forward 40 years- my best friend is deceased. I’ve been married and divorced 3 times! He has been married, unhappily for 27 year. He has admitted he has cheated 3 times already in his marriage. The first time was a month after he married!

      My last marriage ended last fall. Once Scorpio found out, he started pursuing me heavily again. This time I did not say no. To be honest, I wish I had said yes years ago. I have been surprised at how intense our relationship is.

      I want to know- why is he so intensely attracted to me? I love him and don’t want to hurt him, but I also do not want to be hurt. I don’t know where this relationship will go.

      Can you explain why he’s never let me go? And what he wants in a relationship from me.

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      Karthik Kashyap 

      8 months ago from India

      It does look like he loves you. I think it is only a matter of time before he commits.

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      Curious 

      8 months ago

      What does it mean when a scorpio guy just wants you to hold them. It has happened twice and the last time he just layed on me naked. Just holding me, then repositioned to lay on my chest. Yes, we've dated and it's been a weird rollercoaster, but he won't let me go. He turns into mush when I'm near him. However, he battles with committing. I give him space, he just doesn't let me go too far. Does he love me?

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      Rose 

      9 months ago

      this scorpio who once worked with me cared such as helping me couple of time in difficult situation subtly,asked whether i was okay or not, etc.He was possessive like i remember out of nowhere he popped up and asked “who did you whatsapp?” i was like (inside) damn dude aren’t you a psycho ? lol. second,i was shocked when he was blocking a guy who i offered to sit next to me.I started to fall for him, but i also started to act like a teenage girl&a bit annoying once (i wasn’t like this before),then i sensed the change in his behaviour. Could it be that he was genuinely liking me but then something in my action changed him ?

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      Veronica 

      9 months ago

      My best friend and my boyfriend both are scorpions, couple of weeks ago my best friend confess his feelings for me and he also forces me what i feel for him, so i also confess him that i do feel for him but i also cleared him that i am commited to my boyfriend, and do not want to break his trust. As me and my bofriend have some issues in our life so we had decided earlier that will focus on our carrier first and that is why we are treating each other as a good friend and not as a gf and bf from past 2 years.and my best friend knows all this and now has devloped more feelings for me but he always assured me that he is happy for me and my bf. But i am very worried about my best friend as i do not want to hurt him as he is falling so hard for me because i can see that but he always ask me to chill and say such things that his feelings will not affect my life. But as a best friend i am very worried about him. Now what to do ?

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      Lucy 

      10 months ago

      I’m a Taurus woman engaged to a Scorpio man, he tells me constantly he loves me so much me and the children are his world he treats me like a queen, only prob is he gets really jealous over nothing and is a bit possessive, do you think this will fade? The longer we’re together the worse it gets

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      Bobby 

      11 months ago

      I'm a gemini woman in a physical relationship with a much younger Scorpio man. He chased me for a while telling me how beautiful I am, that he loves me, wants to marry me, live with me. I kept him at a distance only because of the age difference and afraid of getting hurt and rejection. Gemini's don't love easy but when we do, we do hard. Now that I have decided to let that go and excepted him in, he comes over often but stopped telling me all those wonderful things. Im the one going out of my way to please him. Now I'm not sure where I stand. I was scared to let him in and I have fallen for him I am scared to lose him. How should I approach this?

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      Cancerian 

      13 months ago

      Hi, I'm a Cancerian married woman who has been friends with a married Scorpion man for a long time. There was always an attraction between us but we never made much of it for obvious reasons. Now the scorpion man is coming on to me very strongly. I am enjoying his attention but I don't know what to make if it. Is he just doing it for fun or does he really like me considering he is married and I'm sure he must have thought through about everything before making a move on me. Please help.

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      Genie 

      13 months ago

      Im dating a scorpio man for almost a year and currently in a break term because we currently facing problems with ourselves. The relationship status in our social media remain the same, he still post my initial in his bio. Do you think he still have feelings left for me? How to know if Scorpio man still love you? Thanks

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      Chas 

      13 months ago

      He did say he needed time, he only will communicate through text or phone. Not in person, unless it has to do with “closure”. I told him it’s effecting me by not seeing him cause I still love him. He kept saying he will miss me and always love me. Do you think within time with our bond of 10 mo. compared to his ex wife of 30 yrs will give “us” a 2nd chance?

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      Bree 

      15 months ago

      I have been dating my scorpions for almost a year an I don’t know if he loves me it’s been on and off and at this point

      Idk anymore I just wanna give up I’m an Aries and I’m getting

      Fed up wat should I do

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      Pooja 

      15 months ago

      Hi Karthik. Thank you for writing this post. It has been helpful . I have started to like a Scorpio guy and I am an Aquarian . I really wish to know him more and spend some quality time with him to see if we can be more than just friends. I want to ask him out on a date( it can also be a friendly one but I want him to know me well) . I don’t know if he is shy or he is not interested in talking to me but I want to try once . Can you give me some idea about where I can go on a date with him? What kind of activities does a Scorpio guy enjoy doing? What’s an ideal date with a Scorpio guy like? Waiting for your reply ! Thanks again

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      Libra 

      16 months ago

      Been dating a scorpio man. Has been very intense. He told me he loved me at the beginning and said he was holsing back words because it was too soon. Eventually told me he loved after about 2 months when i said it. Im a libra woman.

      Je has a libra ex that i felt he needed to cut ties with so i broke up with him. The first time he just came back. 2nd time he let me go but has simply not spoken to me at all. Not sure if he has accepted we are over or not. I did send him texts after however just apologizing for how i handled things. I do feel i could have been morr patient or just spoken to him but i felt he was being dismissive when i tried to so i jumped into the conclusion pool and made a choice.

      I'm now here wondering if he truly has let me go or he's thinking.

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      Karthik Kashyap 

      17 months ago from India

      @Lisa: Thanks a lot for your comment Lisa. It adds much value to the article and answers some of the common questions many people have.

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      Lisa 

      17 months ago from Florida

      Interesting reads on Scorpio men! I will add my two cents...

      I am a Pisces woman, married to a Scorpio man. Much of what people have written here about Scorpio men is so true, such as they are intense, passionate, mysterious, observant, quiet at times, and revengeful! Jealousy and possessiveness is part of their makeup, and some Scorpio men are not controlling with it, like my hubby. They can be manipulative as well.

      One of the things I have read from women in this thread is they ask questions such as, "does my Scorpio man love me? How do I know if he does? Should I contact him when he hasn't talked to me in awhile?"

      First of all, you will definitely know if your Scorpio guy loves you! There is no question of it. Even if he does not "tell" you verbally, you will feel it intensely. Scorpio men feel with such passion and intensity, you can pick up on their emotions just by being in the same room with them. They can be standing there with a poker face, but emitting powerful emotions, you cannot help but pick up on them! This is negative as well as positive emotions.

      Many Scorpios show their love with their actions/behavior. My hubby has a cancer moon, and he is always taking care of me and doing things for me. He goes grocery shopping for me, does the dishes because he knows I don't like to do them, will do laundry and other household chores, will go to the store and pick up something for me at the drop of a hat, give me back rubs, basically do anything in the world for me. When I am sick, he makes me homemade chicken noodle soup, cups of hot tea, and brings me blankets and pillows in my recliner so I am comfortable. What more can you ask for? I am a lucky woman! He is also much younger than I am!

      In regard to calling a Scorpio man if he has not contacted you in awhile: one of the posts was from a Scorpio man who stated sometimes they withdraw to think things through, to decide if the woman is their "soulmate," or the one they want to be with the rest of their lives. If your Scorpio man withdraws, leave him alone!! One of the things they cannot stand is to be bothered when they are off to themselves. Many Scorpio's are introverts, and need their quiet time, time for self-reflection, and to "energize" their internal batteries so to speak. Or, to think about that "special" woman. If you continually call them or bother them, that is a sure fire way to run him off! Scorpio's like mystery, and allure. They do not like being chased. If you chase them, it is a turn off! Believe me, if he is interested in you, he WILL call you!

      If a Scorpio man is interested in you, likes you, or loves you, he can be downright stalkerish! When my hubby and I first moved in together before we got married, and even after we got married, he was around me ALL the time! I am introverted myself, and need time to be alone. His clingy behavior was driving me nuts!! We finally had to discuss this, and once I told him how I felt about his constant hovering, he stopped doing it so much.

      Another post I read discussed how Scorpio's are ALWAYS observing you! SO TRUE!!!! My hubby was always watching me, observing me, taking mental notes! It was a little unnerving at first, and I finally asked him why he was doing it. He told me he was learning everything about me, so he could take care of me, give me things I needed and wanted without me having to ask him! Like how I took my coffee for example. Or what my favorite food is. So thoughtful!!

      Now, Scorpios are NOT perfect! He can be "mean" like someone else posted, and this is only when he has his feelings hurt. SUPER sensitive! I thought I was sensitive! He is more so than I am, and Pisces are very sensitive! What I mean by "mean," is he will tease me because he knows I don't like it. Stuff like that. It won't last long, but he will get back at me. There is that revengeful streak lol.

      However, he is loyal, loving, and would die for me, this I know to be true. For example, we play World of Warcraft, and if anyone bothers me in game, he does not tell me anything, but he will drop what he is doing and take his character to find the character that bothered me, and do something to that character! Very protective of me.

      So, if you want a loyal, loving, caring, knight in shining armor, who has a "few" very few, faults, but so minor you don't even notice, then the Scorpio Man is the one for you!!

      I hope this has helped clarify some points related to the Scorpio man!

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      Xotic70 

      17 months ago

      So my question to you JLewis110 why is it so difficult for a Scorpio to be upfront and honest like a mature adult and ask for his space if he needs it? Rather than do the abrupt disappearing act to his man cave. To me that's not being mysterious that's just not being disrespectful of the other person, not being mature enough and a lack of integrity as in my case I was told by text he was going overseas and wasn't told where to, when asked and yet a common friend knew where to as the person is also a client of his. So why the half arsed info like they were doing us a favour? If a person cannot be upfront and honest about their whereabouts how come they have the audacity to expect integrity from the other person. I'm sorry but this bull about being super sensitive yet being insensitive to the other person's feelings is down right narcissistic. I have just given my scorpion a taste of his own medicine. Gone silent on him after his resurrection from his man cave. Love is not love if one needs to control and orchestrate a relationship to one's insecurities and one's selfish needs of downtime.

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      JLewis110 

      17 months ago

      Everyone that has questions about Scorpio men should take a real long look at what LadyBull67 posted 7 weeks ago. She was "nail on the head" accurate. I'm a mature Scorpio in every sense of the word and have enjoyed reading these posts. For all of you ladies that are having a difficult time "reading or understanding" the Scorpio men that you're dating or seeing.. the secret is stop trying. You simply won't. I say this not to be sarcastic, but rather to be encouraging. Scorpio men will recess (take a break from whatever the situation is.. with whoever we're having the situation with) without giving any indication whatsoever to the fact that we're now in recess. We will crawl into our cave/shell/space to wait and observe, think it thru, or ponder on the situation at the drop of a hat with no regard at all to what others feel or think. It may seem cruel, unfair, childish, selfish, or even a bit disturbing on some level. However, it makes no difference to us how anyone else perceives this need that we have. We don't do it appease anyone. We do it to get clarity and to make sense of things as well as to evaluate where WE want the situation to go from there. If someone's feelings are hurt by this or if it leaves a sense of uncertainty as to where things might be with "your situation" involving that particular Scorpio, don't let it bother you. Don't dwell on it. Ignore it and leave it ALONE. Most importantly though.. whatever you do (trust me on this...), DO NOT CALL, TEXT, OR WORRY HIM TIME AND TIME AGAIN ABOUT IT. It will only make matters worse "IF" he's not already crazy insanely in love with you. Contacting during this recess is always a chance with us though because that may be the very reason why we recessed in the first place. To consider where things are "with YOU" and if we are absolutely, positively, sure about "OUR" feelings FOR you and... if we are ready to commit to YOU and ONLY YOU for the long haul. This is one of the most important decisions that a scorpio man will make in his lifetime because once he does commit, then his sights are now on you and you will have his complete love, devotion, and loyalty from the moment he comes out of "his cave". If you do bother him during his "recess", and he's not decided, unsure, or not yet aware that YOU are the ONE for HIM? Then you risk losing him by pressuring him to hurry in his decision making process. And this is something that Scorpio men simply don't do for ANYONE. Unless... he HAS made up his mind about you or.. he IS finally aware of his being in love with you or.. fear of "losing YOUR interest" sets in when he sees you "bothering him" about not hearing from him and having to put up with his silent treatment. Now pay close attention cause here's the tricky part. IF he suddenly starts talking again in any way that's not allowing you to see his face or hear his voice, then he's still unsure and he's just trying to keep you on his string until he decides what he really wants to do with you. In other words, YOU still have a chance. But... if he knows he wants a future with you and realizes he has to have you, then your repeated attempts to contact and "plead your case" with him will urge him to come out of his cave and "claim you" and that will be that. You have shown him that you need him and that you're scared of losing him which is huge in our world because EVERY Scorpio man MUST BE "NEEDED". And by your admittance to having HIM on your mind, in a sort of twisted way but not so much to us... It shows a sign that we might be able to trust you to not just BE ours. But REMAIN ours. To not stray or flirt or tease or anything that resembles giving ANY OTHER HUMAN BEING ON THIS PLANET OR IN THIS GALAXY "ANY" indication that they have ANY type of possibility or chance being with you. YOU ARE MINE AND MINE "ALONE" is the thought that will be in his head and the one message that YOU need to show that you understand. He will be your dream come true if you show him that you see and desire NOBODY but him. If he comes out of that cave with his mind, sights, and attention fixated on YOU??? Then beware and tread very carefully because you have just hit the jackpot of jackpots. You... Have won the undying devotion, love, affection, attention, and protection of a Scorpio man. And that is not something to take lightly. You can enjoy all the benefits as well you should. But know this. Until this man matures in his other aspects of our trait, EVERYTHING YOU DO will be quietly and meticulously observed. You may never see it or even believe that he's taking notice of EVERY SINGLE MOVE YOU MAKE. I know this sounds stalkerish but it's not and here's why. If "this" man above all other men, who knows that he is the master of seduction/a king of intimacy/and a ruler in the art of pleasuring his mate while showing her the meaning of what true love "feels like emotionally" has made you his center of attention... then he's making very sure that YOU don't screw it up by doing something that causes him to regret giving you something that you don't deserve... the heart of a scorpion king. It took him many moons to finally get here. Many people tried and failed with him. And now, finally, at last he has decided to "give you your chance" to be lavished with his care, love, and loyal devotion. Everyone and everything was just a lesson, practice, or experiences while growing and eventually maturing in his Scorpion while observing and taking notes and prepping for his queen to be. If you're currently on the way to the chapel or maybe you've surpassed that milestone and now experiencing what it's like to be with your Scorpio, don't mess it up! There will be times you don't understand him and you have to be ok with that. You already knew he has a stinger and.. for very good reason. Up until this point, you have survived and not had to deal with the look that he gives when he raises it to remind you it's there. Every once in a while you might get pinched by his claws. Accept it and only retaliate by listening to him and HEAR HIM OUT. Don't add "your meanings" to what he says. Take in "every word" and accept what he's saying. It's only because he loves you that he's even bothering to take the time to talk to you about whatever the case may be. Survive this encounter by listening attentively. And only respond in a mildly mannered voice by saying "so what I hear you saying is....". If you understand what he said, he'll confirm. Then rationally and calmly ask questions to make your point but don't stop until he tells you he understands what YOU'RE saying too and you've made a mutual agreement and problem is now resolved. If you argue alot, you're eventually going to lose him. We know we can overpower and win ANY argument which is why we choose not to. It's simply not worth the time, energy, and effort. So we don't "show" our power and strength by arguing. We demonstrate it quietly thru our eyes. For this very reason, (a huge inside secret) we are insanely jealous. Here's why. Scorps know that we can seduce anyone rather easily. It's just a fact. It matters not if you disagree. Some think they will never_______. But then they meet a Scorpio. End of story. Of course there are a few that just "won't". But not many can endure the lure of a Scorpio. Therefore, we aren't jealous of just "anybody". We know there's no one in our league. The problem is however.. we know there are other Scorpios out there. With the same qualities and the same passions as our own. So when we're making sure that "all is well" in our relationship, it's really just making sure no other scorpions have been near our territory. For those unfortunate women who thought they could cheat with another Scorpio, then not only will you lose the one you have but it's just a matter of time before you lose the one you were with because absolutely NO Scorpio wants to be with a woman that cheated "with them". They already know they can't trust you so they're not going to "give" what they know you don't deserve. And if he's giving you mixed signals and you're not married.. then stop contacting him asap. Move on. If he wants you, he'll come and get you.

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      AP 

      17 months ago

      Dating a Scorpio male

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      18 months ago

      So I was dating a Scorpio and at first he was so sweet and then I found out that he was lying to me about having a girlfriend shortly after that there was drama even after the fact we still saw each other we never express our feelings for one another but I felt that we really cared about each other he started to come around more and I felt like he wasn’t being 100% honest so I went through his phone and we had a falling out we didn’t speak to each other for two weeks so I decided to reach out to him and when I did he just messaged me and started saying he was done with me to leave him alone and all sorts of hurtful things Basically speaking to me like he hated me but now for some reason he pops up at my house unknown asking to see my daughter he does he probably twice a week I’m confused if he hates me so much why she still coming around it’s not his daughter she’s mine

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      Fedorahatsrock 

      18 months ago

      Libragrace

      If you’re always one step ahead how did you not see the signs that your Scorpio was bailing.

      Changing numbers is not a game btw. It’s a real indication that’s he’s serious about ridding himself of the chaos and confusion you create and think is normal.

      Get some help doll.

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      LadyBull67 

      18 months ago

      Sorry! They can mess up a good thing by testing. If things are going well, Mr Scorp, go with the flow. If you're feeling it, you're feeling it, then evolve to the next stage.* Scorpio men are not to be toyed with. They are RUTHLESS if crossed and will come for you with no mercy in mind.* They are extremely sensitive because they love deep with intensity and passion. They don't run at the first sign of trouble but if their ego is bruised, they will retreat and take a breather. Believe it or not, after self reflection, they will adjust to fix a wrong on their behalf in your favor, IF THEY CARE. So if they disappear for a while, they are thinking.* They may not be quick to engage emotionally but if they're interested, you have no doubt about it.*My experience as an older taurus woman is with a younger scorpio man and our relationship is challenging. We are coworkers. He is MUCH younger but he is VERY possessive of me and will go into a jealous fit if he see me interacting with male colleagues. This is a platonic relationship with an emotional bond. We don't date. How I got here, hell if I know! Regardless, he moved so quick, I couldn't respond. So.he showed me he liked me. I don't mind the possessiveness but those jealous fits are legendary and our fights are epic because of it. This young man has shown me the power of love and passion, being fearless of emotional depth and fighting for what he wants without shame. Competition is his thing. But, scorpio man take note- men roam earth. If you are as good as this man, know your woman, if she is worthy, can engage and is quite content with you and will say so. She isn't looking. Be confident in knowing your love is so powerful, you need not worry about loss to another man. To yourself, maybe but not to another man. If she isn't for you, you won't waste your time.* Ladies, if he has a thing for you, he won't let go easily and you will miss him. What I've discovered is we grow. We learn each other. I don't know we'll survive but I know I am grateful for this experience and know how to be in a relationship. He is selfless and has taught me the give and take a relationship requires. I love his beauty, his passion and his heart.* Good luck out there!

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      LadyBull67 

      18 months ago

      Scorpio men are amazing. They are complex, mysterious, intelligent and extremely sensitive. When they give, they give with passion. However, if they are crossed, their wrath is a brutal, non-stop encounter. *I have found scorpio men to really take their time once they have decided to pursue. They do, indeed, work in stages.* They are subject to quick and deep emotional attatchment and being the alpha of stubbornness, they do hold on. Perhaps the Taurus is the rival for such determination!* They do test and play games and it can mess.up a good thong

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      AprilBullgirl 

      18 months ago

      Aqua girl, it's been six weeks since this post so I may be Johnnie Come Lately.* He needs his space. You got drunk and caused chaos. Scorp men are extremely deep thinkers, intense and emotional. Depending on what you said and considering you two don't live together, he may be pondering. *Scorps require space and sometimes for lengthy periods. It does cause confusion. But the more you contact him, the more he will push away. Love him enough to leave him be and don't force the issue. In the meantime, know you are a process. He will test you and toss a game at you. He is a SHREWD but great teacher. So, if he has returned, learn your lesson to hold your liquor. Also know, they don't run at the first sign of trouble. And PAY ATTENTION. Good luck!

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      Anonymous 

      19 months ago

      I have been reunited with a scorpio man after 15 years . He was my 2nd sexual boyfriend, but hes married to a taurus woman and we have reconnected, emotionally, physocally and he makes me feel better than any other man. Oh and i just got out a 15 year relationship with 2 children. Idk???? What the hell to do? We both exspressed our live but i dont want to burden him, becuase im the single one mot him, so i feel bad even with him being in a relationship, wjat should i do?

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      Brandon 

      20 months ago

      Your correct about all of that but my thing is how can a Scorpio knows when he is in love with only one person I'm a male Scorpio and i was really wanting to know how to truly love only one person

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      Aqua girl 

      20 months ago

      REALLY NEED YOUR HELP !!

      Hello, your post on aquarius and scorpio pairing is mind glowingly correct. I am an aqua girl and madly in love my scorpio man. We started of in a long distance relationship since 5 months and he had declared his love for me. extremely caring .. possessive and everything. even talking about our future. He came to see me recently and we got into a fight coz i was a bit drunk. he has been really upset about that for a month now. He was still talking to me calling me responding but not showing the same love. 2 weeks back he cut my phone abruptly and I thought he is again upset about something so I got bit obsessed and kept calling him, asking him to forgive me and stop being so cold to me. He said he is sick and can't talk. since then he is not responding to my calls or text. If i msg about something else he responds but otherwise nothing. once he did call me when i asked him i am breaking apart and i need someone to share then he just listened to me and said nothing. I dont know what to do? its been so long now.. i asked him if he wants to leave me then just tell me but still no response. Please help! I have never faced such behaviour and it is affecting me emotionally, mentally and physically! No communication makes me crazy and makes me take wrong decisions.

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      rainstik 

      20 months ago

      I'm a Scorpio girl and one of my closest friends is a Scorpio boy. I can't tell if I'm feeling a romantic sense of "love" or just a really strong familial bond.

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      Anika11 

      20 months ago

      I am an aquarius girl who met a Scorpio guy on social media about 10 months ago..I was instantly attracted towards him and within a few months we starting flirting n stuff..we made a plan to meet but he never turned up and said it happened due to miscommunication..after which he said that he wants to have sex with me..I asked him for committment for which he said let’s go with the flow and see how things work out..we have never met till now but on an emotional level we know everything about each other and he tells me about his whereabouts and discusses everything with me..If I don’t talk to him for 1-2 days then he will ping himself..I don’t know if he has feelings for me..if yes, then what is the harm in expressing those and even if it is a no then also he should clearly tell that to me..or is he simply interested to have sex with me so he is keeping me hanging??

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      21 months ago

      I am a leo woman dating a scorpio man, we were best friends at first, eventually fell in love, he is so sweet and mysterious, I cant help but treat him like a prince, he is the light of my life, we fight, yes... But our relationship gets stronger everyday, and we are the best team ever, we almost read each others minds.. I am devoted to him! Cheers for Scorpios!

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      Iqra Faiz 

      21 months ago

      i have been dating a scorpio man last 3 yEars Now he behave like he don’t love me i don’t khw what i do but i love him sooo much

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      ash 

      21 months ago

      i have been dating ga scorpion man from last 4 years now , eventually he said yes for marriage our family got evolved but at the end he back out and now he is saying taht hes scared to get married we both our in living relationship id ont knw what should i do tried to speak to him but no reply i knw he loves me but scared to get married

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      AlphaOmegaVirgo 

      21 months ago

      I seem to attract some Scorpios. I've grown to recognize that gaze from a distance some of them are known for. But the timing is usually always wrong when we are in proximity. Also, they always seem to be scared to approach me, but not scared to stare. I never got that lol.

      Mitzi. You're a Virgo. Act like it. Directness and candid is part of our sign. Scorpios seem to like our candidness. Also, you must have some other signs dominant in your chart bc Virgos aren't normally so perplexed.

      Undercover Agent. You're a sidechick.. That's very unusual for a Virgo as well lol. That is definitely your Scopio Moon that is allowing you to do that, but I'm sure your Virgo conscience at times f u c k with you lol.

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      Undercover agent 

      22 months ago

      I love to read about Scorpios because... don't judge me, I've become involved with a triple Scorp in a mutual, for sex only, relationship because we have a similar unconventional sex style. He's in a sexless marriage.. no sex for a year; and my partner passed away fairly recently. However, it seems to become a rather pivotal part of our lives. His wife of 30 years is a Taurus. I often wonder how what will become of us. Me Venus is in Scorp/moon in Leo, but I'm a Virgo.

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      Jax 

      22 months ago

      I’ve been seeing (now living with) a Scorpio man for a little over six months now. Both of us were going therw divorces when we met his is now final (and was amicable) mine has been in the works longer and still isn’t now over (and very nasty). I am a cancer Andy I have fallen completely in love with my Scorpio man. Last night I sat him down and expressed to him in a way I haven’t yet that I am here for him and no matter what he says to me about his thoughts or feelings I am here and will never judge, get angry or upset with him in anyway. I believe he now finally trully trusts me. After I told him this he got super emotional infront of me, i didn’t say a word I just held him. While we haven’t expressed love verbally I have felt from him and I’m mad more then sure he feels it from me. Both of our previous marriages were long term and it has been hard for both of us to get past that we aren’t married to those people anymore it’s been hard to connect sexually without feeling guilty. So my question to you is do I wait for him to say the three little words first and how do you have any advise on becoming more physical

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      mitzi 

      23 months ago

      I have just met a Scorpio man and I am a virgo. I am recently going through a break up and moving out of my ex house. I said I was going to my sisters to stay the night due to being in a hotel for a week I found out my ex was out of town so i just stayed there and did not tell him until he asked where I was. He know says I lied and he cant trust me. We have not even met just talked on the phone. What do I do?

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      Optimystic1 

      24 months ago

      I've been seeing a scorpio man on and off since 2013. He is divorced and said his wife had an affair which has left a sting and is afraid of commitment. We have had crazy chemistry for four years and never tire of it - can't keep our hands off each other. I give him the space he needs but I can't only be so patient.

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      Jaela 

      24 months ago

      My relationship with the scorpion as a Sagittarius woman has been 12 years of ups and downs. Fire and explosions (in and out of the bedroom). Extreme passion, and extreme chaos. He sees my freedom loving attitude as wreckless (it’s not) and I see his pent up brooding as boring. We are divorced, but still in love, and can’t keep our hands off of each other. I think getting divorced made him want me more. He’s so confusing.

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      Jackie 

      2 years ago

      This is a scorpio man

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      Jb 

      2 years ago

      I dated a Scorpio man for two months we had such chemistry and were great together then he just said it was over he was too busy with work and family ... what's happened I miss him so much

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      Marissa 

      2 years ago

      Leo women dating a Scorpio man for 2yrs, I love this man with my everything sometimes he makes me so mad but then sweeps me off my feet. It’s a love/hate relationship.

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      zzzzz 

      2 years ago

      what do you mean when you say he will only commit adultery when he knows you are not the one?

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      Melissa 

      2 years ago

      I am a Scorpio woman who is dating a Scorpio man. Although our relationship is New, I so get him! It was love at first site! When we began to speak to each other we instantly bonded. I can say that we are both still feeling each other out in regards to trust but knowing myself once we establish this there will be nothing that will break our commitment. Our conversations and lack of them are truly heartfelt and I know I want to Marry this incredible man!! #Scorpiolove

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      Pink Pussycat 

      2 years ago

      Thank you very much. I'm dating a Scorpio man and what can I say the s*x is out of this world. I am Aquarius and few men have captivated me like he has. I am giving him space and my face says cool cucumber but inside i'm boiling and can't wait to see him again. Each time is so powerful. Quality over quantity..

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      M143 

      2 years ago

      I need help. Ugh where do I begin... ok so I met this Scorpio ( didn't know until much later) and we are sort of dating. I don't know if I can call it that actually. I guess you can say the "interest" started a little over a year ago. This was very slow process which is fine with me since I deem my self a patient person. First things first, he is a bartender at this bar that I frequent. I took my friend (I use that term loosely) there for the first time for drinks and she immediately spotted him and practically fell to her knees at the sight of him. He was nothing more than a casual acquaintance and that time and I had no interest whatsoever in him. I will admit I did always find him attractive.

      Anyway, she knew him all of 5 mins (not exaggerating) before she asked him what he was doing after he got off of work then he proceeded to invite the both of us to his place with his friend for a drink. I gracefully declined, she all to eagerly accepted. I went home, she left with them. naturally at some point during the night they slept together. She called me in the morning to tell me all about it and I listened intrigued, but not at all bothered. As I said before, I didn't like him in that way at that point. Now for some reason, right after they slept together he started showing a slight interest in me. That interest grew every time I went there and over time...She would be with me at times and he paid her no attention. Only me. He flirted with me in subtle ways right in front of her. Hugged me a little too tight for a min too long. The placement if his hands when he slipped them around my waste, the way he stared intensely at me and never turned away. As his interest built, mine did too and eventually we began sleeping with each other. This started about a year after their first encounter. Now we are in full swing and I'm not sure what to make of it. An entire year went by and we didn't see much of each other. I see him often now but he keeps telling me not to fall in love with him, because he doesn't want a relationship but then tells me he doesn't want me to sleep with anyone else. Tells me he wants me to get a tattoo of his name on my breast. While we are in the middle if having sex and outside of sex. He also said once during sex that it's an honor to be inside of me. When we do it, it's like he's making love to me.. it's breathtaking. He talks to me the entire time and I love it. He said just the other day that he loves to make love to me.. not just F**k me. To say the least I' am CONFUSED and don't know what to make of all of this. HELP!!

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      2 years ago

      The Scorpio guy I love has a girlfriend now because I told him 10 months ago that I loved someone else cuz he always wanted to go out with me but I didn't had much time so I lied to him, eventually he had a new girlfriend after 2 months so I saw that on my WhatsApp story which he posted and I told him that I would stay away from him as respect for his girl. We weren't actually going out but we had an intense love for each other for like 2/3 years. He asked if we could still be friends but I refused. Now, after 8 months someone added me on Snapchat. A fake account and he had a low score and I was sure that it was a fake account somehow I thought it was him cuz I didn't know if he was still with his girlfriend and he was the last guy I ever spoke to in that way. After that I added him on Snapchat (it was 3AM at night) but he didn't add me back so the next day I did the same thing and there happened a lot bc of this..: a unknown number started calling me..??? I had no idea who it could be and that person texted me like hey take your phone NOW. I was like who the hell is this? When I saw the profile picture it was his girlfriend and she was furious cuz I added him. After that I told her why and I apologized. But she also told me to not reply on him. Well he actually did text me with hey what did my gf say to you? I said nothing and he sended me "?" And I ignored again. Then again he asked if I could answer him and I said that I don't want to talk cuz I promised your gf. Later on I told him what happened that night and I said that he was the last guy I spoke to. He said this: "hey (name) I'm going to ask you something but please be honest" I said alright go on. He said: do you still have feelings for

      Me? I said ... like what? He; everything I said no, I don't believe in love no more after you. And he was actually sad and he was still trxting me and his gf asked me if I could send the screenshots. I did it cuz she has the right, it's her boyfriend I mean.. but lately I've been thinking so much about him and this happens.. it's so weird and I can't even sleep or just concentrate on things cuz I keep thinking about what happened. By the way I'm an Aquarius

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      DianaCBR 

      2 years ago

      Dear "Confused Taurus", my name is Diana (Leo) and I am also a single mother in a "so called relationship" with a Scorpio man since 2013....Busy schedules both, different countries, he is divorced has one daughter ...and more. I see myself in everything you have written.... thank You very much!!! Diana

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      2 years ago

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      Debbie dobson 

      2 years ago

      This Scorpio guy has been on my case two years .yelling shouting at me playing games, pranks,toying. Driving through my apts: complex.between bld:2-3 wish knew what it means.

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      ScorpioMaleTed 

      2 years ago from North Carolina, USA

      It seems that no matter the length of time since i last commented on this form; I still find myself visiting it at least once a month to see how everything is going. In a sense this blog has kind of kept me grounded in a manner of constant self discovery because no Scorpio Male, me included, really discovers something about themselves until it is put in words that enlighten our minds.

      Being a Scorpio male and going through all the changes that I've gone through, I am not surprised to see that there are still a lot of people out there struggling to understand us.

      I hope everyone keeps seeking ways to understand us and that they find the happiness we can bring.

      Hope everyone gets good answers to their questions!

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      Robin 

      2 years ago

      My hubby is a scorpio sun with cancer rising venus in scorpio and jupiter in pisces. I am virgo sun with scorpio rising venus in leo saturn in cancer and jupiter in pisces.....Sooooooo much emotion here.Its like a deep passionate ocean...Deep and mysterious.....I love it...

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      Dani Alicia 

      2 years ago from Florence, SC

      I'm so confused by my scorpio guy! We met recently, and, i can't believe i'm going to say this, slept together the first night (i don't know what he did to me but it was like being caught in a hurricane)! I know how scorpios are--they are capable of leading women on. But he texts me CONSTANTLY and wants to buy me things all the time and do chores for me in my home like take out the trash. So I flat out asked him his intentions and he told me that he isn't looking for a relationship right now. I respected him being honest so I backed off just a little knowing we would just be friends. But now, he texts me even more, and at all times of the night! I'm wondering if he is even getting any sleep now! And today, he did something that scorpios just don't do--he had a long conversation with me and revealed some personal details about his life to me!!! And he keeps saying that "we were supposed to meet at this point in our lives". I'm so confused right now...any advice??

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      Mareie 

      2 years ago

      My Scorpio man is so very thoughtful , generous and caring , and he loves buying presents all the time. And he's too secretive and because he loves his going to open what is in his mind.

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      Olivia 

      2 years ago

      My friend is a Scorpio, and I really, like him. I think he likes me, but I don't know. I'm a gemini and I just can't tell if what I'm taking as signs are actually!Want how I'm interpreting them

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      love 

      2 years ago

      LOVE TO SEE YOU AGAIN, AND I HAVE BEENIN. IT WAS A

      GREAT WAY TO GO TO

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      Confused Taurus 

      2 years ago

      I am a Taurus woman dating a Scorpio man for two years now. I am a very independent single mom but I am just stumped by his behavior. When we are together, things are just awesome. He is my soul mate and he has expressed his love for me and desire to build a future together. I have been extremely patient and understanding when our plans don't work out. I have read up on their behavior and need for solitude and during those times give him his space but check in on occasion so he knows I'm still here, miss him and love him. We both lead very busy lives so our time together is precious and difficult to arrange. Sometimes I just can't reach him and don't know if I should continue to stand by or just walk and way. I'm not one to give up ever but I'm not sure how much more I can take. He has expressed his desire to meet my family..all on his own and desire to be my partner in every way. Any suggestions on how to proceed and deal with his moment of solitude and to keep his attention? Am I doing the right things? Appreciate any advice.

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      Laura 

      2 years ago

      Do not date a Scorpio unless you are a Capricorn lol. I am a Capricorn and I do control my Scorpion.

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      idkwhattothink 

      2 years ago

      Im a scorpio woman dating a scorpio man. I'm in for all of nothing and after 3 months of dating on his terms I am losing patience on waiting. we hook up almost every weekend , the sex is out of this world and we are very comfortable with each other in bed. he tells me I'm nice, caring, sexy, understanding and loves to fact that I am a scropio etc... I find him cold at times, his body language is closed off sometimes. he sometimes tells me he is missing me. I'm finding it hard even though I might give him my heart fully yet. We spend very little time together as we are very busy with each our own responsibilities with kids and work which makes it hard to get to know eachother. being a scorpio I do not like grey area at all. I am black or white with no in between. we text everyday and sometimes he calls, he went as far as sending me roses for valentines day but still keeps our dating a secret from friends and family although he wants for us to go on our first public outing this coming weekend I still unsure if I am wasting my time as I yearn for a lot more then he seems to be willing to give at this point , I don't do flings. Maybe I'm my worst enemy as well, I am trying not to fall to hard to quick trying to prevent heartache as I usually fall to hard too quick and it is very hard for me to resist falling for him. some of his behaviors make me feel like I am shelved until its convenient for him and it comes off as being selfish. he doesnt always answer my texts right away even when he is on his phone (i can tell since he is on fb messanger at those times) am I just another knotch in his belt, a conquest for him, just another option for him??? any advice from fellow scorpio men and women dating would be appreciated before I entirely lose patience and simply move on.

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      LibraGrace 

      2 years ago

      LibraGrace

      So I've been or had been with my love for a little over a year, we were actually celebrating our anniversary that night before we got into a fight. It's always typical that he brings up things that are bothering when we're drinking or about to head out somewhere.

      Our relationship has been ups and downs more ups than downs, but his attitude is what kills me. He's 38, I'm 31 you would think he's still in high school with his juvenile behavior. When we get into fights, which he pushes my buttons to the point where I really go off because I'm pretty much an even keeled person, and he's very indirect with his confrontations and that's one thing I hate! People beating around the bush or not being able to express themselves ( I was actually getting him better with this) He will say little subliminal comments only I know that get under my skin and when I explode he tries to calm me down, once I get mad no turning back and then

      Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, we were getting ready to go out and he brings up a convo I had with a friend in front of him a few days prior, and lied on my friend and said he said something when he didn't. he is a very highly skilled master manipulator, which doesn't work for me because my mind works quicker than his so I run circles around his intelligence (another topic). So anyway the entire day was a back and forth we argue then we talk then we argue (typical for us to have fights 2 days straight because we do act like Normal humans and have convos in the middle lol) so we get to a bar and were laughing and joking bringing the bar over to us with our energy. One guy dare looks at me and he's having a fit. So that was my final straw, since he had been irritating me all day. I didn't say anything to him I just told him I had enough and I was going home,( it wasn't meant for a breakup more so I'm going home because you're being really annoying and I'll be liable to curse you out at the bar so I'm going to take myself out before it gets ugly lol). He text me at like 6 the next morning insulting me, basically saying I'm a just like me. I didn't respond back, but I went to call him a couple days later and his phone number was changed!

      The thing is that we have great chemistry, we love each other very much so and we show each other to no end. But what the heck is up with these games? He's changed his number like 3-5 in the last 3 months trying to run from me. Now I'm far from a pushover but I've already told him he doesn't have to start fights to get alone time. Why does he do this? Do you all think he will Call me? It's been 2 weeks and it's been radio silence. And he has been pushing me to deepen the relationship( he asked to move in with me, get joint accounts) I'm really confused, any good advice out there?

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      Pisces girl 

      2 years ago

      Hello to all the confused ladies here. As I have much successful experience with Scorpios I would like to help and encourage you. First, Scorpio likes LOYALTY. if he considering moving forward with you he might just trow at you a few tests to make sure that you not going to play h around after he already fell for you. Understandable, right? So if you click great from the start and then he suddenly disappear- DO NOT act like you about to die. DO NOT tell him that you are going to date other men now. It will be a fail on the test!!!!! Keep calm, stay stable and confidant, text once or twice NICELY and that's it. Keep on with your business and leave him at peace. I know it's hard and challenging cause you just more and more of his great warmth- but you must keep it together if you are truly serious about him. Be patient and you will see- he will seek you. He never forget about you. Scorpios take relationships very seriously. They will not fuck around with weak un loyal matches. They go straight for the best. Be the best. Tell yourself that you want him. That you made up your mind and you choose him. If it's for the long run- patient will pay off. Scorpio men likes, as part of their tests, to try to push you away to other men. Do not fall for that. Tell him "Thanks for your advice, but no thanks!" Give him a confidant look that will telepathically tell him- "I already choose you". Basically bottom line, don't be a lame pathetic girl who cry for his attention and judge him. If you know in your heart that you are soul mate then keep it in mind and let him be! Whatever oddness you may see in him- keep stable and confident about you two at all times. It will be the love of your life.

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      Sis B 

      2 years ago

      WOW smiling...this reading actually HELPED

      Never been in a relationship with a Scorpio man, actually poopoo'd the astrological thang and now REPENT sweet GOODNESS this explains him to a tee!! And confusion lifted, smiling and can say

      "I get it" get HIM get us! ((hugs)) THANK YOU

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      Angeleyes38 

      2 years ago

      I meet my scorpio when i was 12. We where inseperable for years. My parents moved me away from him in highschool. We lost contact, we went on with our lives, 2 years ago we ran into each other after 29 years . Both single we reunited it was if we had never been apart . Last year we married. But I have noticed he is very possesive , when he is not working he want to be with me, This is a man who is former Milatary, now a Officer. A mans man. But you wouldn't know it if you see how he gets around me . He is jealouse, protective . He is not scared to tell me the way he feels for me if he lost me would destroy him . He said the loss the 1st time hurt enough. Im a Cancer and i truly love this man. But im also very independent , I like my me time to write or read but sometimes i feel it bother him cause he wants my attention. I dont want to hurt him by saying the wrong thing or push him away because when i have said things he takes it wrong . So how do i get him to see i love him , i want him but he need to let me be me and give me room to breath.

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      Amy 

      2 years ago

      Im a pisces, i tent to stop a scorpio from a mile off. The eyes of a man scorpio are very deep and glaring at you which is the first sign i truly fall in love with a scorpio man. Im only in to women but until realised i am attached to him in very way, i do have some kinda of a little attention to other scorpio man. Theirs only one person ive ever truthly in deeply in love with which ive never felt before and i was wondering why i couldnt stop thinking about him for so many year now its unreal but i hidden my feelings from the guys and to the world lieing saying didnt him thought it would help me get over him but it really didnt help my feelings got deeper and harder which is a really hard experience falling in love with a scorpio. However scorpio women turn me on non stop because scorpios general are fucking sexy as hell! Ive had good and bad experiences with my scorpio man! I am a pisces who loves a scorpio

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      ScopAddict 

      2 years ago

      I'm an Aries girl dating/living w/Scorp guy for almost 4yrs now. One of the first things that caught me off guard about him is that he tests me almost like he makes me jump through hoops and prove myself, prove my understanding of his complexities, but not give me the benefit of correcting or adjusting to some of the things he says aren't working so well with us. For the most part, he is loving, honest and attentive. He can be so excruciatingly sweet! I love him deeply, however, it's extremely difficult to figure him out sometimes. I try, I really try because I DO love him so much. He can be so gentle one moment and then he turns into someone I've never met before. It's a bit scary. I guess, I'm writing on this site for several reasons; mostly because I need to get stuff off my chest and commiserate with others who have had similar experiences in a true and genuine effort to understand this man I love so much. My desire to create a mutually loving relationship together is of the utmost importance to me.

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      Shari 

      2 years ago

      I'm a 45 year old Gemini woman and am currently dating a Scorpio. It was on and off in the beginning and I felt like he was playing games with me not showing up or other things came up, so I stopped seeing him all together. I even told him I was going to date someone else who had time for me. During this time period, he would always reach out to me and I would just ignore him. I eventually reached out to him at some point and since then he has NOT stopped. He is relentless and it's almost suffocating. I'm trying to create my own space being a Gemini it's hard for us to deal with people controlling us or wanted to be with us all the time. He has wanted to be at my home waiting for me and I feel it's some type of control he wants in being in my home when I'm not there. He hugs every last breath out of me and sex with him is unreal. I can't even explain how comforted and protected I feel in his arms. He is one of the few signs besides Sagittarius that have this affect on me. I find Sagittarius's to be superficial and emotionally unattached at times. Scorpios are always attached even when they want there time to themselves to think or do what it is they do because secrecy is definitely a Scorpio's trait which is hard to deal with especially if you have any trust issues whatsoever. I also notice at times that he is now becoming more possessive and jealous. We went out to a casino one night and he wouldn't leave my side or let my hand go. It was a nice feeling that I finally found someone who behaves this way. It's very comforting that I don't have to worry and know that someone as my back. He's told me he loves me and now he's asked me if I want a baby with him. Not sure if he's serious or not but at my age I don't think it would be feasible. Well, we will see how this goes. I just hope he gets his shit together because he doesn't have the best paying job not that it's what I look for but I want someone who is a little more dependable when money is concerned.

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      Diz 

      2 years ago

      Just under 4 months ago I met a Scorpio man on a dating website. After some lighthearted but relevant chat about mutual interests we met up for dinner. He turned out to be understated and quietly confident, and very much the gentleman. He nailed me with the surprise observation 'You have barriers up', without labouring the point, which I could only hold my hands up and agree with. I thought 'Damn, that's that then, shame as I rather liked him' but I was wrong...

      We are now going from strength to strength and every day I think I couldn't possibly love him any more than I already do he does something that makes me feel even more loved up and appreciative of and closer to him. He reciprocates these feelings, although he isn't mushy, which I'm glad of as it would drive me nuts. He does do the 'focus' thing, but then again so do I and find it annoying when someone is cloying for my attention when I'm concentrating so I leave him in peace and go do my thing. It's never long before he comes looking for me.

      While on the surface he is blunt, playful and good natured underneath he is a deep and sensitive man, very thoughtful and caring, which actually curtails the brat in me for I take a deep breath before having a go at him about anything as I know he'll take it to heart and hurting my lovely man is the last thing I want to do. I've told him I'm being selfish when I spoil him because seeing him relaxed and happy makes me feel good.

      We are getting along so well that my curiousity was piqued re astrology, a long lost friend of mine, and I found he has a Scorpio Sun and a Virgo moon, while I have a Pisces sun and a Scorpio moon (same combo as Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, which cracks me up). I also have a Virgo ascendant while his is Gemini - our Virgo aspects marry well for we are both organized and very particular about personal hygiene, and his flirtatious Gemini AS keeps my posessive Scorpio moon on its toes, another thing I'm glad of for I quickly become bored with men who present no challenge at all so he keeps my fire burning. Mars is in Aries for me, so I have no problem correcting him if need be (but see above re letting rip), although I find it stokes the famous Scorpio passion that I know he brings home to me, so I playfully chastise him and roll with it ;-)

      I really do think there is a lot in the stars and in our case it is working wonderfully. We got in deep very quickly and I for once am not afraid, nor is he. We both just *know* we're right together. If your Scorpio man is acting like an asshat that's either because you fail to understand the nature of the beast or *he really is an asshat* and doesn't deserve your attention.

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      GreenEyes1607 

      3 years ago from USA

      Really great hub! I've always been interested in the Scorpio man and find him absolutely intriguing. My only question is, do their behaviors tend to change at all as they mature and age? I would assume that an older Scorpio man tends to behave a little more reserved and careful because he probably has more dating experience and has been hurt more. Do you find this to be true, or do Scorpio men tend to stay the same throughout their different life stages? How would a woman know if an older Scorpio man is interested in her if she was a younger woman? Because from my experience they seem to be shy in expressing themselves even when they're interested. By the way, I am an Aquarius woman.

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      Marissa 

      3 years ago

      I am a leo woman in a relationship with a scorpio man. Let me just say the scorpio spell is completley undeniable. I knew it the first time he looked at me. He has a way of igniting my fire and the past 4ish months have completley changed my life. We do have some things working against us, for example my age. I am only 19 where he is 30. I cant tell you how it works the way it does but the universe works in mysterious ways. He is amazing. Just the other night i was at his house cleaning and doing dishes and what have you when I feel energy outside and i turn around and hes walking up with flowers!!! not only flowers but flowers and a choclaty treat and made me dinner. I of course eat this up im a leo i love the flattery and romance. And boy does he bring it. I am seriously falling in love with this man and he has opened his heart up to me in more ways than i think he inittially anticipated. he asked me to move in next month but ive basically been living there since august. Because hes so much older i worry about other woman his own age. He could have any ladies his type he wants. Me i am petite and very blonde and he usually goes for curvy brunettes. I want him though and want him to continue to want me. Any advice?

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      Libra1010 

      3 years ago

      I'm a libra, and i've been seeing a Scorpio for just about 7 months. He is such a great man, he's very open and honest with me. I think he may be the one, however there are some red flags that I am seeing now that make me have my reservations. He's very possesive, we're both really attractive to the point of people seeing us walk down the street we get stares, from women and men alike. When a man looks at me he gets crazy! Also, he goes through my phone to try to find things. When he doesn't find anything, he like to make things up. I don't know what to do anymore :/

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      allika w 

      3 years ago

      Hi karthikkash

      I am deeply troubled. I am married to a scorpio man from the past 3 years and it has always been a rocky relationship. He was overseas and after marriage he did not show any inclination to make my visa. I got frustrated and told him either we stay together or i leave him. He stopped talking to me for almost 7-8 months. So i went ahead and applied for annulment of marriage but he came back and begged me to not do it. I caved because of familial pressure and gave him a chance. He started making my visa which took a year during the entire time our relation was rocky again. After three years finally we are together, I quit my great jo left everything and am with him for exactly a month now. All this time he's been civil to me but we don't have any relationship (share different rooms mostly talk only during meals). We had some kind of stupid argument today and he says that I am here because he wants to ruin my life since I ruined his. He would not leave me or allow me to file divorce. I dont get it. I did not do anything to deserve this stayed faithful inspite of what he did. I am stuck now.

      Could you suggest what I can do here.

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      Mayur Jobanputra 

      3 years ago

      This is an awesome article. As a Scorpio, I totally relate.

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      ChefNibblet 

      3 years ago

      Hi, I am a Leo woman who's falling fast for a Scorpio man, but true to this article it's a little complicated. I'm 44, he's 48.

      I lost my husband of 10 years in January '15. The last year and a half has pretty much been a grieving and healing process with absolutely no interest in dating or sex. Not interested whatsoever. I was shut down.

      I met this Scorpio last year though my father, they're good friends and have a business relationship. People have always told he had a crush on me, but he also has a live-in girlfriend. I never gave him a second thought other than he was friendly and fun to be around when we all got together on boating days or fishing trips or dinners. Physically he is not even my type or someone I would normally be attracted to.

      Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. A bunch of us went on a fishing day trip, and we started flirting. I felt myself become increasingly attracted to him as the day went on. For the first time in a very long while, I'd feel electrified throughout my body just by his eye contact or when he'd "accidentally" brush up against me. I could literally feel my fire being ignited again - I was so afraid it was lost and would never return after losing my husband.

      That evening after fishing, we all went out to dinner and he had to sit right next to me at the table. We flirted the entire time, I felt like a giddy idiot. Then just he, my Dad, and I went out for drinks afterward. My Dad finally called it a night and left the two of us alone, and it was quite clear both of us couldn't wait to get our hands on each other. We started making out in the bar - I haven't done a full on make-out PDA session since I was dating my husband. Then after our designated driver picked us up, he left us to make out in the back of the car for a while, and I let him kiss me all over my neck and breasts. But it stopped there.

      The next morning, he texted me straight away wanting to see me, and I immediately decided I have to tell him we cannot go any further because of his girlfriend. The night before I mentioned the gf during make-out breaks, and he told me that they were in the process of splitting up, that they hadn't had sex in a year, had nothing in common, and were sleeping in separate bedrooms.. To make things even more complicated, he has offered me a gig at his company and wants me to work for him so he can see me everyday and be closer to him. We met several times for lunch over this past week where we discussed business but the conversation always deviated to flirting and him wanting to know more about me personally.

      I'm having a VERY hard time staying in control. His sexual energy is undeniable. When I saw him last just for a couple of drinks and chat, I was honest about the way he was making me feel for the first time in so long. He looked me right in the eye and said, "If I had my way with you, I would eat you alive, no part of your body would be spared, I would take you apart, you have no idea." I wanted to jump him right there on the barstool. After we left each other, he texted me all night similar things and more.

      Now given there are a few complicated factors here... the girlfriend - and I never have or ever do want to be second fiddle or the other woman. There's the fact that I may work for him, and he is my Dad's friend. This is scary because he has awakened so much in me, all I can think about is him and sex 24/7. It's very scary. At the same time, he is honest and direct and thinks the world of my Dad, therefore, I don't think he would hurt me. It is driving me crazy, I want to give in to him so badly but the situation is blowing my mind. Though I've made it clear things can't go any further until he officially ends things with the gf, I can't help but to flirt with him. How should I handle the intense spell this Scorpio man has me under?

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      Inna 

      3 years ago

      Everything fits in, almost as you described the thoughts I got of a Scorpio man I know so "well" but still feels I don´t "know"...

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      confused 

      3 years ago

      Hello, karthik i have a situation with a scorpio man that i work with, he's very funny and social, he's talkative when he wants to, we talk but not much, so a few weeks ago i hanged out with him at work, we had a nice conversation until he told me( to go check my shcedule because he doesnt work the next day inorder for me to go to his place),i laughed at first because i thought that he was joking but when i looked at him he wasnt, so i didnt comment on it and we carried on the conversation, afterwards things got awkward between us, i was busy with work so we didnt talk much, now when i dont talk to him he gets so quiet and stares a lot, but he listens to my conversations, and when he doesnt see me he looks for me? , i dont flirt with him, i just wanted to be friends with him, i dont get this, can u please explain to me?

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