When a Scorpio Man Falls in Love

Updated on June 8, 2015
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This hub comes from my personal experience. I am a Scorpio man, and I have often wondered, “What is an average Scorpio man like in love? How do most of us express love?” Most people are familiar with the general characteristics of a Scorpio man when he is in love. Some of these traits are possessiveness, jealousy and controlling behavior. Though I am shy, I am not sure if “shy” is one of the characteristics.

But first, a general introduction of a Scorpio guy through the eyes of a Scorpio.

How to Spot a Scorpio Man

  • He's reserved: The Scorpio guy can be silent on the outside but has a deep well of emotions within. If you see a guy at a party sitting in the corner quietly observing everything, he is probably your Scorpio man. Not that he is antisocial; he just likes privacy even in a social setting. At the same time, this isn't a foolproof clue; after all, some Scorpio men are very social (I am one of these).
  • He's opinionated: if you really want to spot a Scorpio guy, talk to him about anything occult and wait for his reaction. You will immediately know whether he is a Scorpio or not. Most of the Scorpios I have met have strong beliefs (positive or negative) and are passionate about expressing them. In fact, a Scorpio male has at least some basic knowledge and strong feelings about most of the subjects under the sun.
  • His gaze is intense: Another way to identify a Scorpio is to look deep into his eyes. As the cliché goes, you will probably feel like your soul is being stripped bare. Chances are that you may even get extremely attracted to him. As a Scorpio, I have gotten these reactions from my friends, the girls I have dated and my female colleagues.

Leonardo DiCaprio is a Scorpio man with very intense eyes.
Leonardo DiCaprio is a Scorpio man with very intense eyes. | Source

A Scorpio Man in Love

There are various contentions here about how a Scorpio guy behaves when he is in love. One thing to know for sure is that flirting with you does not mean he has feelings for you. I, for one, openly flirt with many girls, but I make it quite clear to them that it doesn’t mean anything other than that we are good friends. It is said that Scorpio guys do not fall in love easily unless the girl has some mystery around her. I can definitely vouch for that. I have only fallen for girls with an aura of mystery or power. But what happens if he does fall in love? How does he behave then?

Again, from my personal experience, once the guy falls for someone, there is no returning. He falls for her, and he falls hard. The first thing I noticed is that he starts going out of his way to do things for her. Now, this may be a general characteristic of most of the male species in the animal kingdom in order to attract the female. However, the second thing is not done by most of them. Once he is in love, he also starts becoming possessive.

Like a spider, a Scorpio will slowly start weaving a net around his beloved. If he sees that the game is a bit more challenging than he thought, he may even start becoming manipulative in order to make sure that she belongs to him. The bottom line is that he can go to any extreme to make sure she stays with him forever.

Flirting with you does not necessarily mean a Scorpio has feelings for you. But if he does fall, he falls hard.
Flirting with you does not necessarily mean a Scorpio has feelings for you. But if he does fall, he falls hard. | Source

How Does He Express Love?

Now, the biggest question is this. How does a Scorpio express his love to the woman he likes? Frankly speaking, this is the toughest question for me as I still do not have one single answer for this.

I believe most Scorpio men fall into two categories when expressing love.

  1. One kind finds it too hard to express their love. I fall into this category. I am kind of shy and though I have dated many girls in my life, I have expressed love only to a couple of them. It was not because I didn’t like some of the others. I was just either too shy in expressing it or a bit too slow.
  2. The second type of Scorpio just goes for it. One reason might be that Scorpios don’t like losing anything. Call them selfish, but if they like something, they start thinking that it belongs to them. This should not be taken in a negative way. It is simply that a Scorpio knows what kind of woman he wants and when he finds her, he cannot afford to lose her. So, if he has the confidence to jump right in, that's what he'll do.

For Scorpios, most things in life are games and battles they should win at any cost. They just cannot afford to lose. It may be said that, if the girl says no, it is a defeat for the Scorpio ego, which is difficult to handle. Like many people, Scorpios who don't express their interest are afraid of rejection. But if they can make it past that barrier, a Scorpio will be in for keeps. Remember, I told you that a Scorpio man does not fall in love easily? Once he does, he does not let go.

Scorpio Ryan Gosling is not afraid to jump right in.
Scorpio Ryan Gosling is not afraid to jump right in. | Source

Hot and Cold: Your Scorpio Guy

I keep getting queries from people who are with a Scorpio and confused about his behavior. They ask questions such as: "My Scorpio guy acts hot and cold" or "He just stopped talking to me for two weeks. Why?" To clear things up, I thought that it would be good to mention some of the traits you may encounter if you are considering a relationship with a Scorpio.

  • Mood swings: A Scorpio guy can have frequent mood swings. This is not necessarily because he has PMS issues. He just gets overwhelmed easily. He keeps thinking about 10 different things at one moment, and he needs to focus on all of them but can only manage one at a time. He feels that he is always in the eye of the storm. That is one reason why he may be all over you one moment, and the next moment act completely distant. Even while talking to you, he may suddenly think of something else he needs to handle. A Scorpio's mind never rests.
  • Focus: A Scorpio in general needs to focus on one thing at a time. For him, difficulties are problems to be solved with undivided attention. That's the reason he may prefer not to talk to you for some time (because he is trying to solve something with extreme focus). Don't always interpret his silence as "he is upset with me."
  • Reluctance to commit: A Scorpio is not a person who rushes into a true relationship. You two may hit it off immediately, but it takes effort and diligence to prove yourself as his soulmate. Of course, once he believes you are "the one" he will be extremely loyal. The only reason he may commit adultery is if he thinks that you are not the right one.
  • Sensitivity: Scorpio men should come with a special tag called "Handle with care." He has a tough shell on the outside, but he is extremely sensitive inside. You don't always know what will hurt his feelings. So, be extremely careful when you talk to him, especially if you are having a heated conversation.

Nelly is a proud Scorpio. Many Scorpios are tough on the outside but very sensitive underneath.
Nelly is a proud Scorpio. Many Scorpios are tough on the outside but very sensitive underneath. | Source

Advice on Dating a Scorpio

Relationships with a Scorpio can be intensely passionate. Once you crack that "tough guy" shell, there are few star signs more devoted or loyal in love. However, there's a dark side to that loyalty: Scorpio men can also be jealous and oppressive partners. Here is some advice on how to handle a relationship with a Scorpio man.

  • Be honest: Avoid playing games. I am not discouraging you from playing the initial courtship games but don't take it too far. If you have given him your word, stick to it. Scorpio men seldom trust anyone, and not keeping your word is the easiest way to lose his trust.
  • Be assertive: A Scorpio is dominating and possessive in a relationship. Don't let him get away with this behavior. He respects a woman who can hold her ground and does not give in easily. Be confident, and stand up for yourself and your needs.
  • Be wary of manipulative behavior: A Scorpio man is a master of mind games and manipulation. If you hurt him deeply, he may even make "destroying you" or "teaching a lesson" the sole purpose of his life. There are very few who have evolved beyond a point of vengeance. If a person is stalking you, he most probably has a Scorpio element somewhere in his birth chart.
  • Don't worry if you don't always understand him: His behavior may sometimes seem pretty weird. We are not very good at explaining our reasons for doing things, and he probably has something in mind which he is not talking about. It is extremely difficult to understand what goes on inside a Scorpio's brain. If you don't get it, let him explain eventually, on his own terms.

This advice is mostly from my personal experience. Feel free to let me know what other Scorpios or someone who has an experience with a Scorpio male thinks about it.

All Scorpios are not the same. After all, there are different levels to which a Scorpio has evolved. To get a clearer picture of what may be the level of evolution of your Scorpio guy, check out my article on totems of a Scorpio.


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      Optimystic1 3 weeks ago

      I've been seeing a scorpio man on and off since 2013. He is divorced and said his wife had an affair which has left a sting and is afraid of commitment. We have had crazy chemistry for four years and never tire of it - can't keep our hands off each other. I give him the space he needs but I can't only be so patient.

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      Jaela 3 weeks ago

      My relationship with the scorpion as a Sagittarius woman has been 12 years of ups and downs. Fire and explosions (in and out of the bedroom). Extreme passion, and extreme chaos. He sees my freedom loving attitude as wreckless (it’s not) and I see his pent up brooding as boring. We are divorced, but still in love, and can’t keep our hands off of each other. I think getting divorced made him want me more. He’s so confusing.

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      Jackie 5 weeks ago

      This is a scorpio man

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      Jb 2 months ago

      I dated a Scorpio man for two months we had such chemistry and were great together then he just said it was over he was too busy with work and family ... what's happened I miss him so much

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      Marissa 2 months ago

      Leo women dating a Scorpio man for 2yrs, I love this man with my everything sometimes he makes me so mad but then sweeps me off my feet. It’s a love/hate relationship.

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      zzzzz 2 months ago

      what do you mean when you say he will only commit adultery when he knows you are not the one?

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      Melissa 2 months ago

      I am a Scorpio woman who is dating a Scorpio man. Although our relationship is New, I so get him! It was love at first site! When we began to speak to each other we instantly bonded. I can say that we are both still feeling each other out in regards to trust but knowing myself once we establish this there will be nothing that will break our commitment. Our conversations and lack of them are truly heartfelt and I know I want to Marry this incredible man!! #Scorpiolove

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      Pink Pussycat 3 months ago

      Thank you very much. I'm dating a Scorpio man and what can I say the s*x is out of this world. I am Aquarius and few men have captivated me like he has. I am giving him space and my face says cool cucumber but inside i'm boiling and can't wait to see him again. Each time is so powerful. Quality over quantity..

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      M143 3 months ago

      I need help. Ugh where do I begin... ok so I met this Scorpio ( didn't know until much later) and we are sort of dating. I don't know if I can call it that actually. I guess you can say the "interest" started a little over a year ago. This was very slow process which is fine with me since I deem my self a patient person. First things first, he is a bartender at this bar that I frequent. I took my friend (I use that term loosely) there for the first time for drinks and she immediately spotted him and practically fell to her knees at the sight of him. He was nothing more than a casual acquaintance and that time and I had no interest whatsoever in him. I will admit I did always find him attractive.

      Anyway, she knew him all of 5 mins (not exaggerating) before she asked him what he was doing after he got off of work then he proceeded to invite the both of us to his place with his friend for a drink. I gracefully declined, she all to eagerly accepted. I went home, she left with them. naturally at some point during the night they slept together. She called me in the morning to tell me all about it and I listened intrigued, but not at all bothered. As I said before, I didn't like him in that way at that point. Now for some reason, right after they slept together he started showing a slight interest in me. That interest grew every time I went there and over time...She would be with me at times and he paid her no attention. Only me. He flirted with me in subtle ways right in front of her. Hugged me a little too tight for a min too long. The placement if his hands when he slipped them around my waste, the way he stared intensely at me and never turned away. As his interest built, mine did too and eventually we began sleeping with each other. This started about a year after their first encounter. Now we are in full swing and I'm not sure what to make of it. An entire year went by and we didn't see much of each other. I see him often now but he keeps telling me not to fall in love with him, because he doesn't want a relationship but then tells me he doesn't want me to sleep with anyone else. Tells me he wants me to get a tattoo of his name on my breast. While we are in the middle if having sex and outside of sex. He also said once during sex that it's an honor to be inside of me. When we do it, it's like he's making love to me.. it's breathtaking. He talks to me the entire time and I love it. He said just the other day that he loves to make love to me.. not just F**k me. To say the least I' am CONFUSED and don't know what to make of all of this. HELP!!

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      3 months ago

      The Scorpio guy I love has a girlfriend now because I told him 10 months ago that I loved someone else cuz he always wanted to go out with me but I didn't had much time so I lied to him, eventually he had a new girlfriend after 2 months so I saw that on my WhatsApp story which he posted and I told him that I would stay away from him as respect for his girl. We weren't actually going out but we had an intense love for each other for like 2/3 years. He asked if we could still be friends but I refused. Now, after 8 months someone added me on Snapchat. A fake account and he had a low score and I was sure that it was a fake account somehow I thought it was him cuz I didn't know if he was still with his girlfriend and he was the last guy I ever spoke to in that way. After that I added him on Snapchat (it was 3AM at night) but he didn't add me back so the next day I did the same thing and there happened a lot bc of this..: a unknown number started calling me..??? I had no idea who it could be and that person texted me like hey take your phone NOW. I was like who the hell is this? When I saw the profile picture it was his girlfriend and she was furious cuz I added him. After that I told her why and I apologized. But she also told me to not reply on him. Well he actually did text me with hey what did my gf say to you? I said nothing and he sended me "?" And I ignored again. Then again he asked if I could answer him and I said that I don't want to talk cuz I promised your gf. Later on I told him what happened that night and I said that he was the last guy I spoke to. He said this: "hey (name) I'm going to ask you something but please be honest" I said alright go on. He said: do you still have feelings for

      Me? I said ... like what? He; everything I said no, I don't believe in love no more after you. And he was actually sad and he was still trxting me and his gf asked me if I could send the screenshots. I did it cuz she has the right, it's her boyfriend I mean.. but lately I've been thinking so much about him and this happens.. it's so weird and I can't even sleep or just concentrate on things cuz I keep thinking about what happened. By the way I'm an Aquarius

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      DianaCBR 4 months ago

      Dear "Confused Taurus", my name is Diana (Leo) and I am also a single mother in a "so called relationship" with a Scorpio man since 2013....Busy schedules both, different countries, he is divorced has one daughter ...and more. I see myself in everything you have written.... thank You very much!!! Diana

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      Debbie dobson 5 months ago

      This Scorpio guy has been on my case two years .yelling shouting at me playing games, pranks,toying. Driving through my apts: complex.between bld:2-3 wish knew what it means.

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      ScorpioMaleTed 5 months ago from North Carolina, USA

      It seems that no matter the length of time since i last commented on this form; I still find myself visiting it at least once a month to see how everything is going. In a sense this blog has kind of kept me grounded in a manner of constant self discovery because no Scorpio Male, me included, really discovers something about themselves until it is put in words that enlighten our minds.

      Being a Scorpio male and going through all the changes that I've gone through, I am not surprised to see that there are still a lot of people out there struggling to understand us.

      I hope everyone keeps seeking ways to understand us and that they find the happiness we can bring.

      Hope everyone gets good answers to their questions!

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      Robin 6 months ago

      My hubby is a scorpio sun with cancer rising venus in scorpio and jupiter in pisces. I am virgo sun with scorpio rising venus in leo saturn in cancer and jupiter in pisces.....Sooooooo much emotion here.Its like a deep passionate ocean...Deep and mysterious.....I love it...

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      Dani Alicia 6 months ago from Paterson, NJ

      I'm so confused by my scorpio guy! We met recently, and, i can't believe i'm going to say this, slept together the first night (i don't know what he did to me but it was like being caught in a hurricane)! I know how scorpios are--they are capable of leading women on. But he texts me CONSTANTLY and wants to buy me things all the time and do chores for me in my home like take out the trash. So I flat out asked him his intentions and he told me that he isn't looking for a relationship right now. I respected him being honest so I backed off just a little knowing we would just be friends. But now, he texts me even more, and at all times of the night! I'm wondering if he is even getting any sleep now! And today, he did something that scorpios just don't do--he had a long conversation with me and revealed some personal details about his life to me!!! And he keeps saying that "we were supposed to meet at this point in our lives". I'm so confused right now...any advice??

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      Mareie 7 months ago

      My Scorpio man is so very thoughtful , generous and caring , and he loves buying presents all the time. And he's too secretive and because he loves his going to open what is in his mind.

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      Olivia 7 months ago

      My friend is a Scorpio, and I really, like him. I think he likes me, but I don't know. I'm a gemini and I just can't tell if what I'm taking as signs are actually!Want how I'm interpreting them

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      love 8 months ago

      LOVE TO SEE YOU AGAIN, AND I HAVE BEENIN. IT WAS A

      GREAT WAY TO GO TO

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      Confused Taurus 8 months ago

      I am a Taurus woman dating a Scorpio man for two years now. I am a very independent single mom but I am just stumped by his behavior. When we are together, things are just awesome. He is my soul mate and he has expressed his love for me and desire to build a future together. I have been extremely patient and understanding when our plans don't work out. I have read up on their behavior and need for solitude and during those times give him his space but check in on occasion so he knows I'm still here, miss him and love him. We both lead very busy lives so our time together is precious and difficult to arrange. Sometimes I just can't reach him and don't know if I should continue to stand by or just walk and way. I'm not one to give up ever but I'm not sure how much more I can take. He has expressed his desire to meet my family..all on his own and desire to be my partner in every way. Any suggestions on how to proceed and deal with his moment of solitude and to keep his attention? Am I doing the right things? Appreciate any advice.

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      Laura 8 months ago

      Do not date a Scorpio unless you are a Capricorn lol. I am a Capricorn and I do control my Scorpion.

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      idkwhattothink 9 months ago

      Im a scorpio woman dating a scorpio man. I'm in for all of nothing and after 3 months of dating on his terms I am losing patience on waiting. we hook up almost every weekend , the sex is out of this world and we are very comfortable with each other in bed. he tells me I'm nice, caring, sexy, understanding and loves to fact that I am a scropio etc... I find him cold at times, his body language is closed off sometimes. he sometimes tells me he is missing me. I'm finding it hard even though I might give him my heart fully yet. We spend very little time together as we are very busy with each our own responsibilities with kids and work which makes it hard to get to know eachother. being a scorpio I do not like grey area at all. I am black or white with no in between. we text everyday and sometimes he calls, he went as far as sending me roses for valentines day but still keeps our dating a secret from friends and family although he wants for us to go on our first public outing this coming weekend I still unsure if I am wasting my time as I yearn for a lot more then he seems to be willing to give at this point , I don't do flings. Maybe I'm my worst enemy as well, I am trying not to fall to hard to quick trying to prevent heartache as I usually fall to hard too quick and it is very hard for me to resist falling for him. some of his behaviors make me feel like I am shelved until its convenient for him and it comes off as being selfish. he doesnt always answer my texts right away even when he is on his phone (i can tell since he is on fb messanger at those times) am I just another knotch in his belt, a conquest for him, just another option for him??? any advice from fellow scorpio men and women dating would be appreciated before I entirely lose patience and simply move on.

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      LibraGrace 9 months ago

      LibraGrace

      So I've been or had been with my love for a little over a year, we were actually celebrating our anniversary that night before we got into a fight. It's always typical that he brings up things that are bothering when we're drinking or about to head out somewhere.

      Our relationship has been ups and downs more ups than downs, but his attitude is what kills me. He's 38, I'm 31 you would think he's still in high school with his juvenile behavior. When we get into fights, which he pushes my buttons to the point where I really go off because I'm pretty much an even keeled person, and he's very indirect with his confrontations and that's one thing I hate! People beating around the bush or not being able to express themselves ( I was actually getting him better with this) He will say little subliminal comments only I know that get under my skin and when I explode he tries to calm me down, once I get mad no turning back and then

      Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, we were getting ready to go out and he brings up a convo I had with a friend in front of him a few days prior, and lied on my friend and said he said something when he didn't. he is a very highly skilled master manipulator, which doesn't work for me because my mind works quicker than his so I run circles around his intelligence (another topic). So anyway the entire day was a back and forth we argue then we talk then we argue (typical for us to have fights 2 days straight because we do act like Normal humans and have convos in the middle lol) so we get to a bar and were laughing and joking bringing the bar over to us with our energy. One guy dare looks at me and he's having a fit. So that was my final straw, since he had been irritating me all day. I didn't say anything to him I just told him I had enough and I was going home,( it wasn't meant for a breakup more so I'm going home because you're being really annoying and I'll be liable to curse you out at the bar so I'm going to take myself out before it gets ugly lol). He text me at like 6 the next morning insulting me, basically saying I'm a just like me. I didn't respond back, but I went to call him a couple days later and his phone number was changed!

      The thing is that we have great chemistry, we love each other very much so and we show each other to no end. But what the heck is up with these games? He's changed his number like 3-5 in the last 3 months trying to run from me. Now I'm far from a pushover but I've already told him he doesn't have to start fights to get alone time. Why does he do this? Do you all think he will Call me? It's been 2 weeks and it's been radio silence. And he has been pushing me to deepen the relationship( he asked to move in with me, get joint accounts) I'm really confused, any good advice out there?

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      Pisces girl 9 months ago

      Hello to all the confused ladies here. As I have much successful experience with Scorpios I would like to help and encourage you. First, Scorpio likes LOYALTY. if he considering moving forward with you he might just trow at you a few tests to make sure that you not going to play h around after he already fell for you. Understandable, right? So if you click great from the start and then he suddenly disappear- DO NOT act like you about to die. DO NOT tell him that you are going to date other men now. It will be a fail on the test!!!!! Keep calm, stay stable and confidant, text once or twice NICELY and that's it. Keep on with your business and leave him at peace. I know it's hard and challenging cause you just more and more of his great warmth- but you must keep it together if you are truly serious about him. Be patient and you will see- he will seek you. He never forget about you. Scorpios take relationships very seriously. They will not fuck around with weak un loyal matches. They go straight for the best. Be the best. Tell yourself that you want him. That you made up your mind and you choose him. If it's for the long run- patient will pay off. Scorpio men likes, as part of their tests, to try to push you away to other men. Do not fall for that. Tell him "Thanks for your advice, but no thanks!" Give him a confidant look that will telepathically tell him- "I already choose you". Basically bottom line, don't be a lame pathetic girl who cry for his attention and judge him. If you know in your heart that you are soul mate then keep it in mind and let him be! Whatever oddness you may see in him- keep stable and confident about you two at all times. It will be the love of your life.

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      Sis B 10 months ago

      WOW smiling...this reading actually HELPED

      Never been in a relationship with a Scorpio man, actually poopoo'd the astrological thang and now REPENT sweet GOODNESS this explains him to a tee!! And confusion lifted, smiling and can say

      "I get it" get HIM get us! ((hugs)) THANK YOU

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      Angeleyes38 11 months ago

      I meet my scorpio when i was 12. We where inseperable for years. My parents moved me away from him in highschool. We lost contact, we went on with our lives, 2 years ago we ran into each other after 29 years . Both single we reunited it was if we had never been apart . Last year we married. But I have noticed he is very possesive , when he is not working he want to be with me, This is a man who is former Milatary, now a Officer. A mans man. But you wouldn't know it if you see how he gets around me . He is jealouse, protective . He is not scared to tell me the way he feels for me if he lost me would destroy him . He said the loss the 1st time hurt enough. Im a Cancer and i truly love this man. But im also very independent , I like my me time to write or read but sometimes i feel it bother him cause he wants my attention. I dont want to hurt him by saying the wrong thing or push him away because when i have said things he takes it wrong . So how do i get him to see i love him , i want him but he need to let me be me and give me room to breath.

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      Amy 12 months ago

      Im a pisces, i tent to stop a scorpio from a mile off. The eyes of a man scorpio are very deep and glaring at you which is the first sign i truly fall in love with a scorpio man. Im only in to women but until realised i am attached to him in very way, i do have some kinda of a little attention to other scorpio man. Theirs only one person ive ever truthly in deeply in love with which ive never felt before and i was wondering why i couldnt stop thinking about him for so many year now its unreal but i hidden my feelings from the guys and to the world lieing saying didnt him thought it would help me get over him but it really didnt help my feelings got deeper and harder which is a really hard experience falling in love with a scorpio. However scorpio women turn me on non stop because scorpios general are fucking sexy as hell! Ive had good and bad experiences with my scorpio man! I am a pisces who loves a scorpio

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      ScopAddict 12 months ago

      I'm an Aries girl dating/living w/Scorp guy for almost 4yrs now. One of the first things that caught me off guard about him is that he tests me almost like he makes me jump through hoops and prove myself, prove my understanding of his complexities, but not give me the benefit of correcting or adjusting to some of the things he says aren't working so well with us. For the most part, he is loving, honest and attentive. He can be so excruciatingly sweet! I love him deeply, however, it's extremely difficult to figure him out sometimes. I try, I really try because I DO love him so much. He can be so gentle one moment and then he turns into someone I've never met before. It's a bit scary. I guess, I'm writing on this site for several reasons; mostly because I need to get stuff off my chest and commiserate with others who have had similar experiences in a true and genuine effort to understand this man I love so much. My desire to create a mutually loving relationship together is of the utmost importance to me.

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      Shari 12 months ago

      I'm a 45 year old Gemini woman and am currently dating a Scorpio. It was on and off in the beginning and I felt like he was playing games with me not showing up or other things came up, so I stopped seeing him all together. I even told him I was going to date someone else who had time for me. During this time period, he would always reach out to me and I would just ignore him. I eventually reached out to him at some point and since then he has NOT stopped. He is relentless and it's almost suffocating. I'm trying to create my own space being a Gemini it's hard for us to deal with people controlling us or wanted to be with us all the time. He has wanted to be at my home waiting for me and I feel it's some type of control he wants in being in my home when I'm not there. He hugs every last breath out of me and sex with him is unreal. I can't even explain how comforted and protected I feel in his arms. He is one of the few signs besides Sagittarius that have this affect on me. I find Sagittarius's to be superficial and emotionally unattached at times. Scorpios are always attached even when they want there time to themselves to think or do what it is they do because secrecy is definitely a Scorpio's trait which is hard to deal with especially if you have any trust issues whatsoever. I also notice at times that he is now becoming more possessive and jealous. We went out to a casino one night and he wouldn't leave my side or let my hand go. It was a nice feeling that I finally found someone who behaves this way. It's very comforting that I don't have to worry and know that someone as my back. He's told me he loves me and now he's asked me if I want a baby with him. Not sure if he's serious or not but at my age I don't think it would be feasible. Well, we will see how this goes. I just hope he gets his shit together because he doesn't have the best paying job not that it's what I look for but I want someone who is a little more dependable when money is concerned.

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      Diz 12 months ago

      Just under 4 months ago I met a Scorpio man on a dating website. After some lighthearted but relevant chat about mutual interests we met up for dinner. He turned out to be understated and quietly confident, and very much the gentleman. He nailed me with the surprise observation 'You have barriers up', without labouring the point, which I could only hold my hands up and agree with. I thought 'Damn, that's that then, shame as I rather liked him' but I was wrong...

      We are now going from strength to strength and every day I think I couldn't possibly love him any more than I already do he does something that makes me feel even more loved up and appreciative of and closer to him. He reciprocates these feelings, although he isn't mushy, which I'm glad of as it would drive me nuts. He does do the 'focus' thing, but then again so do I and find it annoying when someone is cloying for my attention when I'm concentrating so I leave him in peace and go do my thing. It's never long before he comes looking for me.

      While on the surface he is blunt, playful and good natured underneath he is a deep and sensitive man, very thoughtful and caring, which actually curtails the brat in me for I take a deep breath before having a go at him about anything as I know he'll take it to heart and hurting my lovely man is the last thing I want to do. I've told him I'm being selfish when I spoil him because seeing him relaxed and happy makes me feel good.

      We are getting along so well that my curiousity was piqued re astrology, a long lost friend of mine, and I found he has a Scorpio Sun and a Virgo moon, while I have a Pisces sun and a Scorpio moon (same combo as Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, which cracks me up). I also have a Virgo ascendant while his is Gemini - our Virgo aspects marry well for we are both organized and very particular about personal hygiene, and his flirtatious Gemini AS keeps my posessive Scorpio moon on its toes, another thing I'm glad of for I quickly become bored with men who present no challenge at all so he keeps my fire burning. Mars is in Aries for me, so I have no problem correcting him if need be (but see above re letting rip), although I find it stokes the famous Scorpio passion that I know he brings home to me, so I playfully chastise him and roll with it ;-)

      I really do think there is a lot in the stars and in our case it is working wonderfully. We got in deep very quickly and I for once am not afraid, nor is he. We both just *know* we're right together. If your Scorpio man is acting like an asshat that's either because you fail to understand the nature of the beast or *he really is an asshat* and doesn't deserve your attention.

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      GreenEyes1607 13 months ago from USA

      Really great hub! I've always been interested in the Scorpio man and find him absolutely intriguing. My only question is, do their behaviors tend to change at all as they mature and age? I would assume that an older Scorpio man tends to behave a little more reserved and careful because he probably has more dating experience and has been hurt more. Do you find this to be true, or do Scorpio men tend to stay the same throughout their different life stages? How would a woman know if an older Scorpio man is interested in her if she was a younger woman? Because from my experience they seem to be shy in expressing themselves even when they're interested. By the way, I am an Aquarius woman.

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      Marissa 13 months ago

      I am a leo woman in a relationship with a scorpio man. Let me just say the scorpio spell is completley undeniable. I knew it the first time he looked at me. He has a way of igniting my fire and the past 4ish months have completley changed my life. We do have some things working against us, for example my age. I am only 19 where he is 30. I cant tell you how it works the way it does but the universe works in mysterious ways. He is amazing. Just the other night i was at his house cleaning and doing dishes and what have you when I feel energy outside and i turn around and hes walking up with flowers!!! not only flowers but flowers and a choclaty treat and made me dinner. I of course eat this up im a leo i love the flattery and romance. And boy does he bring it. I am seriously falling in love with this man and he has opened his heart up to me in more ways than i think he inittially anticipated. he asked me to move in next month but ive basically been living there since august. Because hes so much older i worry about other woman his own age. He could have any ladies his type he wants. Me i am petite and very blonde and he usually goes for curvy brunettes. I want him though and want him to continue to want me. Any advice?

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      Libra1010 15 months ago

      I'm a libra, and i've been seeing a Scorpio for just about 7 months. He is such a great man, he's very open and honest with me. I think he may be the one, however there are some red flags that I am seeing now that make me have my reservations. He's very possesive, we're both really attractive to the point of people seeing us walk down the street we get stares, from women and men alike. When a man looks at me he gets crazy! Also, he goes through my phone to try to find things. When he doesn't find anything, he like to make things up. I don't know what to do anymore :/

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      allika w 15 months ago

      Hi karthikkash

      I am deeply troubled. I am married to a scorpio man from the past 3 years and it has always been a rocky relationship. He was overseas and after marriage he did not show any inclination to make my visa. I got frustrated and told him either we stay together or i leave him. He stopped talking to me for almost 7-8 months. So i went ahead and applied for annulment of marriage but he came back and begged me to not do it. I caved because of familial pressure and gave him a chance. He started making my visa which took a year during the entire time our relation was rocky again. After three years finally we are together, I quit my great jo left everything and am with him for exactly a month now. All this time he's been civil to me but we don't have any relationship (share different rooms mostly talk only during meals). We had some kind of stupid argument today and he says that I am here because he wants to ruin my life since I ruined his. He would not leave me or allow me to file divorce. I dont get it. I did not do anything to deserve this stayed faithful inspite of what he did. I am stuck now.

      Could you suggest what I can do here.

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      Mayur Jobanputra 16 months ago

      This is an awesome article. As a Scorpio, I totally relate.

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      ChefNibblet 17 months ago

      Hi, I am a Leo woman who's falling fast for a Scorpio man, but true to this article it's a little complicated. I'm 44, he's 48.

      I lost my husband of 10 years in January '15. The last year and a half has pretty much been a grieving and healing process with absolutely no interest in dating or sex. Not interested whatsoever. I was shut down.

      I met this Scorpio last year though my father, they're good friends and have a business relationship. People have always told he had a crush on me, but he also has a live-in girlfriend. I never gave him a second thought other than he was friendly and fun to be around when we all got together on boating days or fishing trips or dinners. Physically he is not even my type or someone I would normally be attracted to.

      Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. A bunch of us went on a fishing day trip, and we started flirting. I felt myself become increasingly attracted to him as the day went on. For the first time in a very long while, I'd feel electrified throughout my body just by his eye contact or when he'd "accidentally" brush up against me. I could literally feel my fire being ignited again - I was so afraid it was lost and would never return after losing my husband.

      That evening after fishing, we all went out to dinner and he had to sit right next to me at the table. We flirted the entire time, I felt like a giddy idiot. Then just he, my Dad, and I went out for drinks afterward. My Dad finally called it a night and left the two of us alone, and it was quite clear both of us couldn't wait to get our hands on each other. We started making out in the bar - I haven't done a full on make-out PDA session since I was dating my husband. Then after our designated driver picked us up, he left us to make out in the back of the car for a while, and I let him kiss me all over my neck and breasts. But it stopped there.

      The next morning, he texted me straight away wanting to see me, and I immediately decided I have to tell him we cannot go any further because of his girlfriend. The night before I mentioned the gf during make-out breaks, and he told me that they were in the process of splitting up, that they hadn't had sex in a year, had nothing in common, and were sleeping in separate bedrooms.. To make things even more complicated, he has offered me a gig at his company and wants me to work for him so he can see me everyday and be closer to him. We met several times for lunch over this past week where we discussed business but the conversation always deviated to flirting and him wanting to know more about me personally.

      I'm having a VERY hard time staying in control. His sexual energy is undeniable. When I saw him last just for a couple of drinks and chat, I was honest about the way he was making me feel for the first time in so long. He looked me right in the eye and said, "If I had my way with you, I would eat you alive, no part of your body would be spared, I would take you apart, you have no idea." I wanted to jump him right there on the barstool. After we left each other, he texted me all night similar things and more.

      Now given there are a few complicated factors here... the girlfriend - and I never have or ever do want to be second fiddle or the other woman. There's the fact that I may work for him, and he is my Dad's friend. This is scary because he has awakened so much in me, all I can think about is him and sex 24/7. It's very scary. At the same time, he is honest and direct and thinks the world of my Dad, therefore, I don't think he would hurt me. It is driving me crazy, I want to give in to him so badly but the situation is blowing my mind. Though I've made it clear things can't go any further until he officially ends things with the gf, I can't help but to flirt with him. How should I handle the intense spell this Scorpio man has me under?

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      Inna 18 months ago

      Everything fits in, almost as you described the thoughts I got of a Scorpio man I know so "well" but still feels I don´t "know"...

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      confused 18 months ago

      Hello, karthik i have a situation with a scorpio man that i work with, he's very funny and social, he's talkative when he wants to, we talk but not much, so a few weeks ago i hanged out with him at work, we had a nice conversation until he told me( to go check my shcedule because he doesnt work the next day inorder for me to go to his place),i laughed at first because i thought that he was joking but when i looked at him he wasnt, so i didnt comment on it and we carried on the conversation, afterwards things got awkward between us, i was busy with work so we didnt talk much, now when i dont talk to him he gets so quiet and stares a lot, but he listens to my conversations, and when he doesnt see me he looks for me? , i dont flirt with him, i just wanted to be friends with him, i dont get this, can u please explain to me?

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      wendy 19 months ago

      thanks for y expertise..I am a Capr woman sun moon Venus mars and mercurius as Capr. he is a scorpio, do not his Birth date.(he gave me a false one).we r distant but European (2 hours Flying)and he insists on the distance problem.I offered to travel 1 w.end monthly.I am so in love with him and he perfectly knows (6months now)he has a great affection for me, he hugs me warmly and the first date he was sexually aroused sitting next to me. we both are tempest under skin.but.....I am a lady and at that first sexual approach I didn't reply(at a restaurant) after that he went on gently replying sms with kiss but gradually keeping distance from me. I wrote him my impression, trying to manage for a next date but I failed. now that I wrote him I am going to meet another man coming to my country to visit me, he asks me for friendship saying it would be a pleasure and honour for hime to have my friendship. he is playing? I noticed in other occasions I tried to move on he replied trying not to let me go..but giving nothing at all....hopelessly devoted????thanks

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      Reneckie73 19 months ago

      I am involved with a Scorpio man. I am Libra. He pursued me for months and I gave him a really hard time. After a week of dating he told me that he loved me. Today we have officially made 1 month. He is good to me and keeps me smiling everyday. However, I can't deny that part of me that screams, "Warning". I really gave him a hard time and I have been stung by a Scorpio twice. When we are together their is an intensity that can not be denied. It is an intoxicating and the heat is undeniable. He fell hard and is possessive and jealous but I do not have a problem with that. He says that we will not burn out because of us. Can a Scorpio love that quickly or is it just lust?

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      Joss 20 months ago

      hello~karthikkash

      Thanks for your amazing article let me know more about scorpio! :)

      But still have some confused about this mysterious guy.

      I have a long-distance relationship with a scorpio guy and I’m older than him for 6 years old.I'm 29 and he is 23.

      When we just know each other at begin it happens to be his birthday,he asked me his birthday just near when he will receive his gift?I knew he was just kidding about it. But still send him a birthday gift and handmade birthday card for him,he said he never receive kind of gift before and I really touched his heart.

      We will talking lots of things,although most of them are I share more.He will said sweet words to me and expression his love to me sometimes.For him I'm a pure and humble and loyalty girl,for me he is a simple and straight talk and mysterious guy.And I always admire his straight talk,he will straight talk but never said mean words to me that's one of appreciate part.

      When we know each other over 6 months.

      We had discuss about our relationship,I asked him did he serious about me? He said he really like me, and really loves me, but don't know about the future if I feel not comfortable with him,he will not force me to stay,I answer him immediate I will stay.Then I asked him that so we just like girlfriend and boyfriend? He said yes.

      And we been together almost 1.5 years now.During this time he had disappear for few time because of work,this time also.He said he need leave his country to South Africa for work with his dad ,so I have to wait for him one month,when I said I will waiting for him until he back,he said thanks to me.So in this past 4 months I keep send him 33 e-mails and texts,he only reply for 6 letters back.When I receive his first e-mail is after one month he said really so sorry to late replay because too much busy but don't even think that he don't miss me although he not replay back.But the mostly I can't understand is he reply me on Happy Promise Day but not on Valentine's Day!?

      My confused is he really into me or just playing or test something?or lost interest on me?

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      Karthik Kashyap 20 months ago from India

      kissy: Not necessarily... If other aspects of your birth charts are compatible, and you have a very good understanding, then it can be a very good match.

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      kissy 20 months ago

      I'm dating a scorpio and I'm a scorpio myself. Is this bad??

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      March Missy 22 months ago

      Hi,

      I have had a very traumatic experience with a Scorpio man, who I met through Facebook in early November. To cut a long story short we attended the same school and I thought he was someone else and sent him a message. He replied saying it wasn't him and then sent me a friend request, which I accepted and after a few days we swapped phone numbers and started chatting on WhatsApp and video chatting on Skype. We are both in relationships with other people, but enjoyed talking to each other so much and after just 2 weeks he told me that he was smitten. I was very surprised, if not shocked! He said he wanted me to move back the UK, and for us to be together. However around a month ago I sent him messages on WhatsApp after he had said he was going to bed, and his partner saw them. I should explain that we are thousands of miles apart. Me in the U.S and he in the U.K. The next morning after sending the texts when I checked WhatsApp I saw that his profile picture was gone and tried to send a message, which was never delivered. I also tried to send him a text, which was also not delivered. I checked Facebook and he had blocked me there also. Later that day he unblocked me on WhatsApp and we talked briefly, and that was it for a couple of days. I sent him a message asking him if he wanted to talk to me, but his reply was "Yeah, I'm OK thanks", when I wasn't enquiring as to his well being. I told a mutual friend who said it sounded like he was messing me about, and had already said that it was bad, the way that he had treated me. I told him this (but didn't say who), he was furious, and demanded to know who I'd spoken to. I told him I would never say. To cut another long story short, I blocked him from WhatsApp as I was tired of not hearing from him, but then sent him an e-mail basically saying how I had met someone else and they were interested in me, and how I wish that things could have been different between us. He replied saying he was gutted and how he thought it would have been great me and him, and then he told me to unblock him on WhatsApp and we talked and video chatted the next day on Skype. He told me he loved me while chatting there. And things were great for a couple of days. He sent sweet messages for me, for when I woke up, and was so lovely and attentive, but the next day he was back to his previous behavior. I have always told him that communication is super important for me. I am Pisces by the way. He would read messages but not reply. I was taken into hospital 2 days later and when I was released the next morning I sent him a message telling him that. He asked why, and what had happened, but every message I sent after that he read but never replied to. So yesterday I sent him a message telling him that I was going to move on, and would block e-mail this time so he can't contact me. Again he read it, but didn't reply. This morning I sent him a voice message on WhatsApp telling him how hurt I was, and how I could not keep banging my head against a brick wall. Wished him Good Luck with his new job that he applied for (management) and his life. Then I deleted the chat and blocked him, and from my phone contacts too, and blocked his e-mail address. I was in tears as I was recording it, because I am in love with him, and he knows it, because I have told him so...me being honest. I have tried so hard to understand him, and forgive him, but I just cannot wait around wasting my time. I hope and pray that he will try to find a way to contact me, but only if he is ready to change his ways. I seriously doubt it as when I have told him that he has trouble showing his emotions, and wish he would, he got mad and said he wasn't changing. And then proceeded to tell me how he felt but was angry when he did so. I am heartbroken and keep breaking down in tears, because the last thing I wanted to do was to walk away, but I also have to think of myself and how I am being treated and I know that I deserve better than that. He was my world and I would have done anything for him. All I can do is give it time. For me to get over him and get him out of my mind - which is super hard, as he is on my every thought every second of the day, or if a miracle happens and he is sorry, willing to try harder and communicate.

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      arg 23 months ago

      Allisson88.... YES CANCERS.....you had a lot of experience with them I see & still survived....lol

      I have Leo in my birth chart with MOON, VENUS & MERCURY and Aries in MARS so I have a lot of fire in me and maybe he couldn't control me like the others....the crazy part I think he liked that about me BUT still was trying.....I think he was a little intimidated by me!!

      My experience with him was a lot of attentiveness, possessiveness & manipulation to get his way.... I didn't get the disappearing acts or triangulation that I knew of.... Lol

      We were actually doing fine until we had a disagreement and no one wanted to apologize so we stop talking for a month 1/2 , no one reached out and then he met someone else and got marriage.....the sad part I think the marriage had a lot to do with me... Yes I have a big ego.....lol

      I know that they like to be vindictive at times.....

      This have been an experience out of this world I can say......

      From this article they don't fall in love easily so it just blew me away.... I know women would react this way b/c off of our emotions BUT never it my wildest dream that a guy would run off to get married w/o any knowledge of who he is marrying...

      Your comments have been helpful....

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      Karthik Kashyap 23 months ago from India

      Allison88: LOL!! I won't think you guys have commandeered my blog in any way. Any help is welcome on my page. I have pretty much treated this blog page as open page for inputs :) Moreover, I am a very bad agony aunt (or rather, uncle) in certain matters :D

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      Allison88 23 months ago

      Hi Vicarg .... geez, Karthikkash will probably think we've commandeered his blog. lol. I don't have any magic answers, just my own personal learning and of course, a lot of sympathy and support for your situation. I'm a Cancer, too. :)

      I also didn't mean to imply that only those with low self-esteem would be adversely affected after experiencing an unevolved Scorp "experience". (I hesitate to call it a relationship because it's more akin to a carnival ride). But their behavior would cause most reasonable folks to seriously doubt and question down to our core at times. And that is precisely their "hook". Dazed, confused and utterly infatuated, we become easily conditioned to accept their bad behavior and lies.

      The 'love bombing' they do followed by disappearing stunts, 'gaslighting' and 'triangulation' with others is highly destabilizing and designed to give them all the power.

      How can they do this and how the heck did I get so wrapped up in it? For me, a review of our chart compatibility revealed a few important things (the dreaded venus square pluto obsessive aspect for one) but that aside, as we also know, Scorpios can weave a web around just about anyone IF they choose to wield their power in that way.

      It isn't fair, and it is certainly not humane. One has to lack a certain moral conscience to behave in such a manner. It's a travesty for sure and I certainly don't envy the poor girl who "won" his hand in marriage.

      Scorpios typically don't marry on a rebound. What is more likely is he found someone that offered something he wanted/needed superficially without (perhaps) a deep emotional aspect. She may be easier to appease (or fool) in terms of getting additional attention outside of their marriage. He gets a nice little homelife and can still seek out his insatiable validation needs from others.

      Cancers and Scorps are an emotionally intense, almost mystical match. But Cancers are also a cardinal sign and though we can seem at times like the poster child for co-dependency, at some point our innate strength kicks in and we won't stand for nonsense.

      The silver lining is that the day will come when you stop wondering "why". Because it won't matter. This type does not deserve that energy. When I was going through my own 'experience" a good friend sent me the story of the Scorpion and the Frog:

      A scorpion asks a frog to carry it across a river. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, they would both drown. Considering this, the frog agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When the frog asks the scorpion why, the scorpion replies that it was in its nature to do so.

      The fable is used to illustrate that fundamentally vicious natures cannot change.

      All the best - A

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      arg 23 months ago

      Great advice from Karthikkash, Allison88 & wakeupincal..........!!!!

      I never had issues with self-esteem and don't now however the situation blew me away....never knew anyone could get married in a short period of time BUT so called was so in love with you.....so I wanted to know HOW & WHY so it had me dwelling so much on it that I got away from what the reality of things were.... This page is so helpful.... I thank you all for your comments!!!!

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      Allison88 23 months ago

      Stumbled across this article and comments today. All I can say is "Wowwww..." Great article (and responses) by the writer and ScorpioTed. They are definitely on the more evolved end of Scorpio Totems (another good article - be sure to read them all by this author) and wonderful if you can find one - but sadly, less plentiful out in the dating world.

      IMHO, this is because the higher evolved Scorps are already taken, happy being unattached or don't stay on the market for long, if available. All Scorps have some level of magnetic intensity and draw the opposite sex without even trying. The evolved ones will be able to land a mate of the highest caliber - even if they themselves aren't classically attractive and I agree, that mate will be very, very lucky. I know of a few of these marriages and they are quite remarkable.

      Relationships with lesser evolved Scorps are an altogether different story - often harrowing, debilitating experiences. For the purpose of my post I will focus on those Scorps and while not a professional, I do speak from experience.

      Reading through the multitude of comments makes me sad. A lot the posters sound really out of control emotionally ("spinning") and that is completely understandable so be gentle on yourself. The lower evolved Scorps are no match for most mortals and wreak a lot of havoc! Kudos to the author and ScorpioTed for responding with such kindness.

      But I think my favorite response is from "WakeupinCa". Read it through, then read it again. Because until you can get honest and real about what is really go on with your attachment to these lesser Scorps, you will continue to spin and spiral further down.

      There is a good deal of information out there about narcissism, and while not ALL lower Scorps are narcissistic, many are and the information will help neutralize what you are going through. It also helps to understand that these types drive many good-hearted folks to go completely bonkers at least temporarily. So you're certainly not alone.

      But if you find yourself ruminating over why they've disappeared again, why they seemed so interested in the beginning, will they ever come back, commit, stop cheating, flirting, triangulating you with others; should you be more loving, more understanding, act detached, give them more space, give them less space, initiate contact just to say "hey" or write them long texts or emails professing how you feel (never a good idea). Just. Breathe. And Stop yourself right there.

      You have already lost the edge/confidence/independence that attracted them to you in the first place. Because the minute you feel them slipping away which creates that manic impulse to obsess over, or reach out to, them like that, they are already well into the devalue/discard stage. It is a pattern, rooted in many, many things and a zero sum game. Every time.

      There's a famous Groucho Marx saying that is often referenced when describing a narcissist, aka lower totem Scorp, "I don’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a member". So whether you are overtly chasing your Scorp (intiating emails, texts, etc) or even just allowing them to come in and out of your life like a revolving door, it is unlikely you will see a White Wedding.

      Scorpio won't respect tears, emotional outbursts or anyone chasing after them. The irony in this is that most woman with enough esteem and cool stuff going on in her world to make the lower evolved Scorp want to commit, won't put up with the unhealthy BS. And this drives the Scorpio crazy! So he will return to his known admirers when rejected or when he needs attention, but he will only truly want the women who don't want him.

      So what about those of us who just want to love them? Don't they care about us, miss us, find us special? To the extent we can supply them with something they need, yes. But narcissists (narcs) and lower evolved Scorps (for me they are one in the same) can compartmentalize like nobody's business. Meaning, when they kiss you goodbye in the morning, send a nice "Had a great time, you are so wonderful" text mid-day, they do feel some sentiment, but can also move along quite easily to being the very exact same way with a completely different admirer by dinner.

      A Scorpio, or any man for that matter, will pursue and commit IF they WANT to, WHEN they find someone so amazing that she stands out from all the rest. Remember my comment in the beginning, the evolved ones will be able to choose from the highest caliber and when they do, they will commit.

      As for the lower ones ...when they disappear for days, weeks, months ... it is because they either found better options or are more interested in looking for new blood, and don't want to get into something messy or emotional with someone they've already conquered, who is probably boring them at this point. But they don't want to lose you, either. So they'll pop back up later as if nothing happened and you are just so giddy to hear from them again that you succumb.

      And by "better", that doesn't mean you aren't completely awesome if they disappear, but the lower Scorps seek constant novelty and excitement so you could be drop dead gorgeous, successful, (insert adjective here) and they will still do this because it is their lower nature to do so. Period.

      Often those other short-term flings won't work for long, either, and we become excited if/when they return, convincing ourselves that 'we' are the real deal for them. See? They didn't find someone better after all. Until it happens again. And again. Do not be misled: this type of person needs a LOT of validation and attention (narcissistic supply).

      Many comments here report waiting months, if not years, going through this same cycle, believing it will someday change. This is the false hope of co-dependency and it will literally rob you of your self-esteem and sanity. Not to mention precious years of your life.

      Take the energy you are pouring out into these relationships and refocus it on healing/transforming your own wounds. There are many great books/articles out there to help you understand and deal with these difficult souls. I recommend the books from Zari Ballard (Amazon). She is not a professional, but has a lot of experience and no-BS practical knowledge that I found more relate-able than some of the so-called expert psychologists. You have to live through it to truly understand the dependency -- and how we enable it.

      Of special note to the posters who were crushed by their lower Scorp marrying someone else within a short amount of time. Simply put, you were spared. You may not get immediate confirmation of this but know that nothing ever good comes from those lower evolved Scorp relationships/marriages.

      An old friend got pregnant with her small town high school Scorpio sweetheart just after graduation. The families were close and attended the same church. He went on a pre-wedding bachelor party trip to Mexico and met a beautiful foreigner whom he married instead, 4 months later, before his child was even born. Of course the families were furious! But you know what, he didn't care. Neither did the new wife.

      As fate would have it, my very pregnant friend ran into them (in person!) on her way to deliver the baby! Suffice to say it was a defining moment in her Life and one of the worst experiences she ever had to climb out of. But climb out of it she did and eventually married a wonderful man. The ex-Scorp? He became a violent alcoholic and his beautiful exotic find from Mexico returned home after 20 years, haggard and worn out from all the years of his vile abuse and abject cheating.

      It took 20 years before she received her validation but whether that validation ever comes to you or not, be grateful you weren't ultimately "chosen" by one of these lesser evolved Scorpio types. Do the work on yourself, and choose a better Life!

      I hope this helps someone. Love and light - A

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      Karthik Kashyap 23 months ago from India

      Vicarg: Sorry for the late response. If he is already married now, then it may not be much of help dwelling on it. Just put it on the back of your mind and move ahead. It may be quite possible that he has become busy with his family, or he may have realised that there is not much that can be done now after getting married.

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      WakeUpinCA 23 months ago

      Think of how stuck you are going to be 20 years from now. These pathetic, selfish souls (you are so addicted to their diamond in the rough behavior that you are really, really becoming delusional). I'm sorry, but I like you all and I am trying to help you. If these guys really LOVED you would they treat you this badly? or are you so beat down by them and they have you TRAINED to accept what little they offer. You don't recognize what a normal relationship is anymore. You don't even know how much you have changed and you ignore your relatives and your friends because you LOVE HIM. THE MORE YOU LOVE HIM THE MORE HE WILL DESPISE YOU AND THE LESS YOU WILL LOVE YOURSELF. Am I wrong? What have you had to overlook or give up that you wouldn't have given up before you met him? Stop with the "but he does..." the bottom line is how you feel about you each day. Feel anxious, trapped, on a rollercoaster, emotionally high from the pain? Then girlfriend, he is controlling you like Satan with a yo-yo. And it is not good for his soul to be immersed in darkness. Unless you want to be a blubbering lithium 345 lb mess that he cruelly will mock 20 years from now, stop the cycle and stand up in light. Don't think it will happen to you? Ever see pictures of fat women when they were young and wonder how they got that way. BET IT WAS A SCORPIO!!!

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      arg 23 months ago

      Well, I contacted u in September 2013, To make this as short as I can, I was dating a Scorpio for about 10 months, we talked about marriage and such... After 6 months of dating everything went down hill and he felt I disrespected him with a friend( man)... It was a childhood friend...he called me and we talked on the phone while he was right in front of me.. He couldn't get past that... We start arguing and

      Things got bad... we didn't talk for about 1 1/2 months.... He started another relationship and got married within 3 months... Now we never had closure....i was hurt so I said ok... You told me to move on...& I did...I was getting strange calls all of sudden but no one was on the line then eventually 1 month later he called..... He said he made a mistake and start calling me saying he was angry and hurt with me and we start back talking as if nothing happened until I said no way....as long as you are married ... We can't communicate anymore... He said he had no desires for no other women BUT me including his wife... I cut communication off because I still loved him and will not share a MAN regardless if I love him or not.....my question is was it just him trying to see if he could still have me, wanting his cake & eat it or was he truly desiring me the way that he said.....now this have been going on for about a year and 1/2 BUT the suspicious calls have stopped for about month 1/2 now....... I really thought he loved me.. His mother and family did too so everyone was taken back BUT now he is married maybe he decided to work it out with his wife and stop thinking about me.... I don't know......I truly start thinking about other things when he crosses my mind BUT occasionally I wonder what we had...

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      Karthik Kashyap 23 months ago from India

      Vlcarg: It's been a while. Could you please send me a message so that I may be able to help you?

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      arg 23 months ago

      Hello karthikkash, I was waiting to hear some of your feedback on what I wrote 7 months ago.... Any advice???

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      Karthik Kashyap 23 months ago from India

      iggy7117: Thanks a lot :) And while I have written this, I continue to understand life as I grow :)

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      Vince 23 months ago from New Jersey

      I am a Scorpio male and thought most of the way I was came from life experience, but when you was telling about us you were describing me exactly. I now have a better understanding of why I act the way I do, I have been told my intense stair can unnerve people and I understand it now.

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      arg 2 years ago

      hell0, I contacted you about 2 1/2 years ago about a scorpio that I was dating, we was dating for about 10 months and we was doing well until he felt I disrespected him with a guy i grew up with , I talked to him while he was right there then the relationship went downhill (marriage was on the table) then we stop talking for 2 months never said it was over then he met someone else and after 2 1/2 months he married her. Now his mother and everyone was stunned and was saying he did this because of the hurt that he had out of our relationship. Your advice at that time was to move on and he would eventually find out that he made a mistake and I did just that, I was hurt however I tried to stay busy and just start living after that major STING, then calls began a month after the marriage, it began with google numbers in which you couldn't call back because it wasn't a working number so I knew it was him. then finally he called and told me he made a mistake. He is still married so I'm not entertaining any of the foolery about him loving me. He did expressed his hurt on some of the things in the relationship (his Jealousy & the 2months when we was apart, thinking I was dating others) BUT why would he take things to this extreme and marry someone else after 2-3 months then try to come and said he made a mistake. Now you said scorpios don't fall in love that easily however he MARRIED someone and he stated that he thinks about me more than he should and I thought maybe he was lusting and he explain he can have any woman BUT its not about lusting, he have desires for me and no other woman, including his wife. I don't share MEN so I would never entertain anything but the conersation because I needed some answers BUT I told him to stop calling me unless he has a divorce, I do love him after all this time but I will not get caught up with any of his foolery.............what advice can you give me......I am a Cancer woman that is sticking to what I said..........IF he never gets a divorce than we will never talk.........I PROMISE YOU THAT!!! I love ME more that I can ever love HIM.

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      Karthik Kashyap 2 years ago from India

      My advice is to just keep it platonic. Nothing more.. It can get messy with a Scorpion.. You don't want to go down that path again.

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      venusianmoon 2 years ago

      Seeking for advice ~

      The responses here are 2 years old and I am not sure if anyone will reply, but I will give it a shot anyway.

      I am also in a complicated situation with Mr. Scorp. We dated for 6mos 3 years ago. Things were very passionate (with the hot +cold behavior) and were going quickly - he offered me house keys. Then one day - BOOM - things ended without any explanation from is side. He just said, you would not be happy being with me. He started dating another chick not long after our break up. He continued to seek me - texts me and tells me he misses me. We saw each other for the next two years while he was seeing this other girl. It hurted so much to put myself in a messy situation like this because all I wanted was something solid with him. So I took some time away from him.

      Fast forwarding -- things ended between him and the girl and we started fresh it feels. He always told me that he does not want to lose this friendship. He said he can not not have me in his life. I can not grasp the word friendship because we never started that way. We reconnected -- and I felt the best way for us to start again is to build a stronger friendship anyway. We have dinners, go to bars, and work out together like 'friends' but, there is always affection between us. The kissing, the looks in each others eyes, him holding my hand etc... I know the feelings are mutual, but he seems so scared to move this to something... I have tried the talk -- but it only pushes him off more. Being in love with him for the past 2.5 years is truly painful... I am tired of him pulling me close and back stepping. What can I do here?

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      Cc 2 years ago

      I recently had started to see a scorpio man-we too met online and felt an instant connection. He said to let him know if I was interested in catching up again the week after. He was going away for the WE so I waited to tell him that would be ok. He text frequently and always replied really quickly. He text me the WE he was away, and then asked if i was free Fri, I said yes I was and he said ok cool. Fri came around and i had not heard anything, so casually text to see if we were meeting- He replied hours later stressed about his job and to postpone. The next day he wrote again apologising saying it slipped his mind, and we could meet the following week. So we agreed on Thur then Thur lunch he text to say his boss organised a meeting could we change to Fri. I said that's ok. This second time we met was like the first, but he seemed more chi. At the end of the date we were walking and I turned around to catch him looking at me and our eyes locked in a stare for a really long time, I could not tell if he was trying to tell me positive or negative thoughts thought. He eventually looked away and at his feet. He always gave me kisses on the cheek. Days passed and I had not text him, and he didn't me. So I text to say hi and he replied immediately, then days would pass and he started to write 'sorry i didn't see you text me back. Then he wrote something and wrote again saying 'sorry wrong person'. But proceeded to ask how I was. So I would keep writing to him general things, and he always replied. Then I asked if he wanted to meet again and he told me he met someone with more in common and he was really sorry..so does this mean he is playing games with me or has really moved on? Everything I spoke about he agreed with, we had a lot in common!! I said he should have had a bday recently and he was trying really hard not to show me he was smiling that i noticed things like that without him telling me. Then he just found some1 else? I never replied to the msg he told me he found someone else. I really liked him and it's a real shame he did this. Will he come back??

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      meghan38 2 years ago

      I'm sorry that I wrote too long please don't mind as I'm trying to ease myself.. :(

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      meghan38 2 years ago

      Does usually a Scorpio man break his promise about leaving you alone ?

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      meghan38 2 years ago

      How can I still love a man that hurted me so much, never ever had such pain before in my life...I felt used and I put a lot of efforts but he just went on with words only no action...now hes talking to his ex again maybe even meeting also seeing new girls...and at the same time talking to me as if nothing happened and how come telling me that he loves me after all, he is just trying to pick one of us whom benefits him most which I can't ascribe it to him thinking hes not such type person but sometimes thinking the opposite ..I know I should just go and move on but its just not easy at all when I first time ever thought of sharing the rest of my life with a person whos right opposite of my character, everybody around me said to finish it and move on but each time he tricked me fooled me and I believed what he said which shows I'm an idiot. Its just unbearable to see that he had deep feelings for me which he didn't admit cuz of its not logical for him to be with me but couldn't give up on me as he said but just played with me like a toy

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      meghan38 2 years ago

      he has brought some gifts for his newly met grils and forhis ex too and even telling me that the new girl insisted to pick him up from the airport, but he says theres nothing to do with them, just for being kind and nice etc. that he loves me blah blah ,, told him hes free to go for any girl he wants but not me anymore told him I'm sick of him and he can do any shit he wants anymore that I don't care and told him to leave me alone and I got nothing to do with him anymore and I don't believe whatever he says, he then suddenly mentioned about marrying me that he feels as if hes been knowing me for ages that he can't see himself with anyone else other than me which all lie he made me think, then suddenly he said lets forget all these and start all over a fresh that he will come to my city and we talk face to face and plan somethings up to be together and go to abroad together , I told him if he shows hes in a relationship with me on his fb first then we can make a fresh start then he went on well ok your right and you have the right about asking me that I will do it then somethings go on his mind like always and ask me what if we start to argue again if I move to his house then asking me what happened that I was lier but now I want to get back together with him as if taking a revenge on what I just said, then telling me if I want to hear the truth that he loves me 'but' he is not sure if we can do somethings in the future, he even has called a friend of him he trust to ask his opinion about the situation as hes not sure about his feelings and Im not helping him about it either...oh gosh told him to go away and never ever call me again, told him if you be sure one day it will not mean anything to me and told him to do whataver he wants but just leave me alone and hang up the phne, then he texted me how dare you man!saying that I promise I will not disturb you anymore sorry that he hurt me...next day he emailed saying that ''this is the last message promising, saying please confirm whether you receive the email and im truly sorry that I acted stupidly said things hurted you, you are important for me and know that I didn't cheat on you no way and neither flirted with anyone and you can believe me since there will be nothing between us after all this, a part in me finished us sometime ago but I couldn't confess this to you and to myself because of the love and kindness I have for you..again im very sorry that I hurt you but please confirm you received my email after that I will leave you alone as you wished'' after two days I replied; ''i confirm and its not important, goodbye''

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      meghan38 2 years ago

      Hello,

      I had a relationship with a scorpio man for almost 2 years, and its finished 5 days ago that he could not committed. We broken up many times before and he got back all the time. We met at same work place 2 years and a fews months ago and he had a relationship at where he used to live, and he came to the city I live for the job, anyway he was the one whom started it all first even though he does not accept it. I'm kinda reserved person at first except some powerful feelings happens, he has been trying to talk to me and being real kind at work and while we were all talking with other colleagues at work joking, one of the guy said somethings to me teased me which was not nice but I didn't care anyway then the day after I was home and He has sent me a text message that he felt bad and said sorry about that he didn't say anything to protect me towards that guys silly joke and tease and I was like what, why was that his concern at all anyway I just thanked for his thoughtful message and its all ok, after that I started to observe his actions towards me and I tried to get close to him, he was keep coming to my room for some execuses about the job. Then I heard that he had a gf in another city then I draw myself back and asked him right away whether he has a gf and he answered no, I don't, who says I have? Well after couple of days later we went out for dinner then went to a cafe then I was about to drove him back to his flat and during that time I had an irresistible feeling that I wanted to kiss him and just stopped the car and asked a silly question to make him kiss me that was a....and seriously started after that kiss, then after 2 weeks or so a new friend of him asked for him to add him on fb then he went on like oh no I don't use it much, I got suspicious and checked him on fb and saw his pics with his ex then called him right away and said its finished, he said he kept the pics on cuz his ex was having a very hard time that her dad was seriously ill and plus he ended his relationship over the phone right after we started, I said ok I understand then he removed all their pics on fb anyway...after couple of months later the job finished and he had to go back to his city but he couldn't go right away and stayed for another month then he had to go back his house and couple of months later I found a job in his city and moved to his house all of a sudden and after that all started...during this time his ex kept trying to contact him and we moved to another house that was close to his new job, one day his ex called his cell but he didn't answer then she called home and he asked me not to answer but I did and she wanted to talk to him but he didn't and I hand him the phn as she insisted then she kept crying and telling him how he could do this to her and even hes living with me that she has came to the old house as she had the keys but couldn't find him and told him to go to her otherwise she will commit suicide but he didn't then he said that I love this girl and I don't want you to be sad that he feels bad and he has already told her that its finished between them etc and hang up the phn, after that I started to tell him to put a pic of us on fb as I insisted after sometime his ex became bugger he did put one pic and she has called him how come he could share his relationship while shes having very hard time, then he removed her from his fb..also all of his friends didn't support him about his relationship with me and they all supported his ex and they all left him alone and he anyway moved a little far from them all...all his negative thoughts popped up right after he started to the new job and everything changed for him and he started to blame me for all that as he and I planned to go abroad to learn a new language but things didn't go as we planned...anyway he started to act weird and strange, as if he regrets being with me and wants to get back to his old life that I observed him all through, one day he was so good and another he was cold and hurting me emotionally, he tried to mean that he had good times and was happy sometime with his ex that he can't lie about it and used to love her, then told him to go back to her then he said he can't anymore, told him she will accept him whatever he has done to her as I observed from her behaviours...anyway he said he didn't want...I had to quit the job as I coulndt handle...he said things like he finds my character bad and doesn't like it but he can't do anything about it as he loves me and accepts me as who I'm but still hes having hard time accepting it anyway as I feel..oh I have missed the important point that I proposed him to marry me 2 months after we started which I would have never ever thought of marrying anyone till that time (I'm 34 and he is 30 by the way) and since then it showed up on and off and we had broke ups because of that and he kept blaming me for being impatient about everything...he later on said many things that he hide long before, that he didnt want me to move his house but he couldn't tell it that he wasn't ready at all..he has thought that I'm not type of his character, he and I are very opposite characters..he is organized and I'm the opposite, I never plan things but he does all the time for future, hes very good with money and I'm so bad and it goes on but its as if we complete each other I don't know..he said he is so good with me and sometimes he hates me for pushing him for somethings which is marriage mostly, and plus my jelousy started which I never got jealous of my ex before...anyway hes very selfish and I think he is no good for me cuz I never ever got hurt this much and I lived the same things at each break ups we had..he could never commit, by the way I got back to my city and hes still working at that company in another city and we are apart for 4 months...he made me break up with him a month ago or so, told me he loved me so much but I'm not good for him, he becomes like a kid when hes with me and he doesn't know what he wants in life etc. I got mad as he made me break up with him before too then came back, I said ok allright, felt so bad a day after he called I didn't answer, 5 days later sent me msg asking how I'm and sorry for disturbing blah blah...then 5 days later I called him and poured out what's in me, then he got that monkey style to make me feel calm..called him again next day but this time I was calm and quiet and accepted everything and its not working for both of us, told him that I'm going abroad for a new life, better to finish it for good which I did really mean it cuz it started to stress me so very bad that I can't eat or sleep well, lost weight...then I travelled to my sis house for a change before I gone for abroad...10 days after he sent me a text saying hes so stupid for whatever hes done to me and saying sorry then I switched off my phn as I know he would call me, I switched on my phn and saw him called me 15 times and sent me a text wishing very good luck and have a safe travel as he thought I'm already gone to another country, he called again while I was reading his text and answered he was so frightened that he lost me and tried to talk for long but I kept it short, he then sent me many texts saying he loves me, saying that the men of the city I'm in are very handsome blah blah, but didn't reply to those kind of messages cuz all those only words no any actions,saying that he will come with me to where I go and he want to be with me, missing me so much, that I will be his heart forever if I gone and respects the decision I take..we started to talk again but I came to know that he added his ex back on fb again and hanging out with new girls for coffee and girls tagging him, anyway my jealous got me again...the last time we broke up on friday I yelled at him why hes just wasting my time while also talking to his ex again and hanging out with new girls,asked him why hes talking to me,

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      Karthik Kashyap 2 years ago from India

      Yeah.. Keep it that way. It is good :) Some day or the other, some of us have to bring our heads back on the shoulders :)

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      Talia01 2 years ago

      Hi,

      Wishing you a very Happy New Year.

      Do read the comment below I wrote a few days ago. Here's an update....

      So we haven't talked again, he just messaged me a few days ago coz he had to ask something. I messaged him today to wish happy new year and also told him that he was the most precious thing I had in 2014 which I lost as the year ended but the memories i had with him will always be very precious for me.

      I wished him happiness for the years to come with someone who understands him better n can keep him happy which i wasn't able to do.

      But he didn't reply to my message or wish me after reading my message:(

      Do u think he's mad at me or he just doesn't want to talk to me anymore.

      Whenever he didn't reply to my messages b4 I used to ask him y n if he's mad. But now I haven't been doing that, if he doesn't reply I just let it be and not say anything.

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      Talia01 2 years ago

      Thanks Karthik, I really appreciate you advice and feel relieved sharing all this with you n letting out my pain.

      I never kept my hopes too high with him, coz he never truly committed. He had always told me that we should end this since no1 will agree. But it was his actions that continued to tell me that he loves me very much.

      I have always given him his space ever since I came to know more about scorpio, before I used to be always bugging him. Anyway we didn't message each other after the argument we had last week, so it's been a week now that we didn't talk which is quit unusual coz we messaged everyday. I felt that he was rude and he should have apologized for his behavior that day but I don't know why I always forgive him and never wait for his applogies.

      Last night I messaged him, telling him how hurt I was after what he said and that he needs to stop being so negative all the time about everything. I also told him that I won't be discussing any topic with him anymore since that is what he wanted, he said I shouldn't be arguing with him on any topic. So I apologized to him if I had hurt him and said a final goodbye to him and wished him happiness wherever he is n with whomever he is. I never like to keep anything unsaid, whatever I feel I always say it. And him on the other had always keeps his feelings to himself.

      I'm not expecting him to reply, and he hasn't replied after reading my messages. Finally I'm giving him what he wanted, which was to end this relationship. It really hurts me a lot, coz I loved him very much even after all the pain he gave me. I don't know if it even matters to him or not.

      Scorpios really are hard to understand, I ways tried my best to make it all work out and not hurt him. But I just can't take the pain anymore :'(

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      Karthik Kashyap 2 years ago from India

      Hi Talia,

      Sometimes, it is difficult to know what Scorpio is thinking. One thing is sure that he will not forget you. He may try to distance himself from you, but he won't be able to forget you. All I can say at this point is that don't keep you hopes too high, at the same time, give some space for him.

      He seems like a Libra but has more Scorpio characteristics. He may also have a Scorpio ascendant..

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      Talia01 2 years ago

      Sorry for messaging you again, I see you haven't gotten the chance to come online yet to reply.

      So it been 4 days since we haven't talked or messaged, I realized today that I'd been the only one holding our relatioship together coz the moment I let go, it fell apart completely:(

      I know he won't measage me coz I not messaging him, now this gives him a reason for ending all this. Sometimes I feel he never loved me. I just wanted to ask you if it's a scorpio thing, do they love someone this much that they will let them go?

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      Talia01 2 years ago

      Btw his birthday is October 25th, is he a virgo/scorpio cusp?

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      Talia01 2 years ago

      Hi Karthik,

      Thanks again for your reply. It really means a lot.

      So yesterday we got into an agruement. He always has to question why I do certain things and always thinks what he says is right and no1 can disagree with him. I guess that's another scorpio trait. Sometimes this really irritates me, coz I can never question him why he does certain things and he always thinks it okay for him to do that.

      So he said something really mean that hurt my feelings, n I hate the fact how he doesn't even feel what I feel when he hurts me like this.

      I don't know if I can really continue with this relationship coz I will never know where I stand with him. He will talk to me when he needs me and will jus insult me and push me away when he feels like it. Is this how all scorps are? Or is he jus behaving like this coz he loves his mother more than he loves me?

      I have decided I'm not going to message him now and ignore him for some time, I can't take the rude behavior anymore. He always says rude things n then will come back to me and say, "I'm sorry I don't know what happened to me and I shouldn't have behaved like that".

      Why do they hurt only those whom they love? :'(

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      Karthik Kashyap 2 years ago from India

      Hi Talia,

      Welcome to the world of Scorpios :)

      Well, there are a lot of typical Scorpio characteristics there. I will just touch upon the main points, so it may help you a bit.

      Scorpios love with passion, true. The problem is that they give everything and hold back nothing, and that is why we are always of giving everything and losing what we love. We get attached to what we love. That is why we are sometimes so negative, especially when it comes to love and something to do with ourselves. For us, it is simpler to not love since the pain is less, than loving so much that when we lose what we love and the pain is intolerable. Sometimes we never get over it.. Trust me, I know the feeling :)

      But again, once we are in love, we cannot keep off someone. So, we always try to get back to the thing we love.

      Secondly, regarding he being laid back sometimes or not taking actions.. "I feel that he's afraid of speaking up for himself or fighting for our relationship and admitting that he loves me..." Well, Scorpio is a feminine element (water element) and Leos are fire element. Fire elements generally take charge and are more aggressive (read it as take action) while water elements are more emotional. They prefer to be relaxed, sometimes even lazy (heck, I am).. So, we really don't action unless it is really time to take action. We rather let someone else be in charge. Water elements are also generally moody. Because, we are more emotional, so we tend to do according to our emotions some times than using our brain (Earth elements are good at using their brains).

      It may also be possible that he feels more comfortable with you, so he shows his emotions with you. We seldom show our true emotions to strangers. We are always a blank wall for people we are not close to. Also know that, we never trust anyone completely. NEVER!! However close you are. That is our inborn trait, cannot help it. Sometimes you need to ignore, sometimes you need to show that you are honest.

      Also, since Scorpios are stubborn, it is difficult to make us do something, unless we really don't feel like doing it. There lies our negative trait.

      I don't know what advice I can give you in terms of being together. But try to check with him, why his mom against you two being together? Is it because of age difference or something else?

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      Talia01 2 years ago

      Thank u so much for your reply. So I'm a Leo, 33 and he's a scorp 29. We both had our first love and crushes in our lives and have forgetten all that. We have shared it all with each other n now believe that the love we have for each other is our true love. Well me for the most part, he thinks there no such thing as true love. Our relationship started 5yrs back, he liked me from beginning but never told me because i didn't like him then, we were just friends. He always loved me and cared for me even when i didn't. I really don't remember how I started to like him too.

      Even then his family was against this relationship and still is. Since his family was so against us we stopped talking n seeing each other. Actually it was me, I didn't contact him for the past 4yrs, though he did msg me sometimes just to check on me how im doing. So just earlier this year we started to text more and then started seeing each other again. So we have been talking for the past 9-10 months now, n there's not a single day we don't talk to each other even with our ups n downs. When I say talk, I mean text... We feel more comfortable texting rather than talkin on phone. In these months we only met maybe 6-7 times. we feel that the more we see each other the harder it is for us to stay apart. It feels like that 4yrs distance made us love each other even more than we did before.

      Around me he's very different compare to what he is when he's with everyone else. I feel that he's afraid of speaking up for himself or fighting for our relationship and admitting that he loves me. I don't know if scorpios are like that, but he's jus negative most of the time about things, and can easily give up on things or just lose hope when they are not in his control. Its me who keeps telling him we can make things work out and make everyone agree for this relatioship. I would like my man to tell me all that and stand up for me when needed, but here it doesn't happen like that, but I love him so much that I don't mind it. I read that once scrops decide what they want they stick to it, but is he not like this or he just doesn't show it? He's starting get more positive now. I care a lot for him to the point that he sometimes starts calling me mom. I don't know if scorpios like that or not, I know he doesn't like taking orders from anyone, I can't tell him to do certain things. But it's not always like that, sometimes he would ask me about certain things and then will do as I tell him.

      He knows that I will never lie to him about anything or keep secrets from him, I've told him that several times. But still sometimes he will become suspicious abt my behavior and would think I'm lying about something or keeping secrets from him. I don't know if he just says that to test me or if he really is doubting my love for him. I guess this is where his jealousy comes in. He gets very moody, with me only. If there are certain things that I know he doesn't like, I must not do that or else he will get mad at me and not talk to me. Ill be messaging him and say sorry but he will reply only when he wants to. He doesn't like it when I apologize to him, he says I don't have to say sorry to him for anything, yet he does get angry with me so whatelse can i do if not apologize for my mistake. So yes, I do make some mistakes sometimes n we end up not talking to each other for a few hours, but he cannot stay mad at me for too long.

      So he does get into that silent mode a lot, but when he's in a good mood all is very good. But sometimes he will just start to act very diff and try to ignore me for no reason. We have talked about this and I've asked him y he starts to behave like this and he tells me he does this because he wants me to try to forget him n not love him so much. He also tells me that he feels that he's not good enough for me. He believes that I can get better guys then him so why would i want to be with him. This is where he starts to get all negative about himself and get really confused what he wants from his life. I don't know if he really knows how much I love him and how I can't go a single day without talking to him now.

      I believe he shares a lot with me that he doesn't share with others, yet i believe there are still some feeling he hides from me. He shares everything that's going on, what he did, where he's at, and would ask for my opinion, even when shopping for himself he will ask me if I like it only then he will buy it. Whenever he's out with his guys, wherever he goes he will share pics with me and tell me how it was.

      But recently we got very intimate with each other again, after 5yrs. And since that he's started to act a little different. We are still talking but not like how we used to a few days ago. No more sharing our feelings, love yous or miss yous. We just talk abt important things, or if need a favor but nothing about us now. He did tell me that he has this guilt because he feels he's lying to his family since they don't know we're still talking n seeing each other.

      He did tell me that I should get over this now, because he feels it for my own good. But u do know that he still lives me very much, though he won't admit it. Because he still continues to message me and tells me what he up to everyday. Jus one day I didn't message him all day on purpose, and when I msgd him the next day he said, "long time". So it like he still wants to talk but he's jus afraid to accept it.

      Since we got so close again, I don't know if this is why he's afraid to express his love to me now, because he thinks if we do then it will be very hard for both of us to stay away from each other now.

      Its basically his mom whos against this relationship, and yes sometimes he's a mama's boy. He tells me that he can't go against her, and this can't happen until she doesn't happily accept me. I respect his love for his mom i wouldn't want him to go against her because that's something even i can't do if i was in his place. If he really loves me and if afraid of losing me, then why is he so afraid of standing up for our love. Is this how scorpios are? I thought they love with intensity, if he loves me this much how can he give up? He doesn't have to go against anyone I just want him to tell everyone how serious he is about us, just like how i did n convinced my family. I believe since he's the man he should be the one to make things work out, and take stand. Being a Leo I can also get very moody and high tempered. But I've learned to control my temper in our relationship, because I don't want us to have arguments or fight, which we rarely do. I know one of us has to do this and have patience to keep things going smoothly. So I don't mind being the one:)

      He told me to get over this but it seems like he still wants me though he's afraid to hurt me. When im trying to avoid talking to him he would start to msg and start Sharing everything, that makes it so hard for me to even try to forget Him. So confused I don't know what to do :(

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      Karthik Kashyap 2 years ago from India

      Talia: I do reply on the forum once in a while. Sorry, was out of country for some time, so I am replying to you now. Do let me know what help you may need.

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      Talia01 3 years ago

      Hi Karthik,

      I really need so advice on my most confusing relationship with a scorp. Im a Leo and in love with this scorpio. Please let me know if u still comment on this hub so I can share my story. waiting for ur reply, thanks:)

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      shawnee251 3 years ago

      I've been with a Scorpio for 6 years and still have to ask "I am the one right?" Its scary how accurate he is when it comes to my hidden ways of being. So right I can never say he's wrong! We get along great, BUT (and there always is with a Scorpio) I don't see ANY of the description of a Scorpio in him. He's not affectionate, he isn't the type to declare his love and compliments are few. I've never once seen him jealous or possessive. But when he's on, I can't help but fall in love with him all over again. Thank you for taking the time to write this .... it's refreshing to read about a Scorpio man someplace other then the astrological descriptions!

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      timmy1993 3 years ago

      I'm a 20 year old Scorpio male and just now started to learn who I am and come to exceptence of who I am as a Scorpio. But as a scorpio , I am very passionate and romance is a big issue to me in a relationship it must be more than physical, it has to spiritual , emotional, full of fire. We are loyal to those who we truly love and we are extremely protective of them, we need honesty and commitment. Yes we get very jelouse quickly but don't take it as a bad thing it only shows that you are the only one we want and that. But when we do love you we love with every onvpce of us, I have found then love of my life and I will do anything to bring her happieness, and will be loyal to her forever,

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      med amine 3 years ago

      i am in love with a quenn

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      Vicki 3 years ago from Jacksonville

      I married a Scorpio and this article fits him perfectly! Thank you for sharing your insight as I have learned about my husband of 3 years today!

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      Tye 3 years ago

      I am having the same issue trying to understand the way he thinks. Just when I think he's not intersted and that I am wasting my time, he shows up just to interfere with my relationship with other men. He starts asking questions like are you happy, or some other jealous statement if I show attention to people on my facebook page. I recently deleted him because I am in limbo and confused about his intentions. We've known each other for over 15 years, and it feels like my feelings will never subside. I've even had his past girlfriends calling my phone or emailing (CRAZY!!). But, he was really upset with me when I deleted him from my facebook; and I think he's still upset with me. We communicate often and on, but I know when he's not happy and right now his interaction with me seems cold and distant.

      I wish he would understand that I can't read his MIND. When I began to express feelings for him he pushes away, and when I am in a relationship or moving on, he shows up. It starts to feel like he does not want me and doesn't want anyone else to have me.

      But, I love him...that's the strangest part about it.

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      Karthik Kashyap 3 years ago from India

      Deborah: It usually depends on the placement of other planets in his birth chart.. Most November 'first weeks' are usually outgoing and social guys.. Scorpios are generally friendly as well. It is just that they don't talk much unless required. Of course, the secretive part may also be very subtle, unless there is another planet positioned in such a way that, he is not secretive.. Also, possessive, jealous and vindictive characters come into play only on 'case basis'.

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      Deborah Sexton 3 years ago

      I’m married to a scorpio, he is the first part of November. He doesn’t fit the typical scorpio characteristics. He’s outgoing, friendly, open minded, not a bit secretive, jealous or possessive. Why do you assume this is ?

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      existenz65 3 years ago

      IMHO I believe that Scorpios are selfish jerks who want control and want people to tiptoe around their feelings as they screw yours. I hate this sign . Dated three Scorpios only one was sweet. The other two self absorbed assholes.

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      Karthik Kashyap 3 years ago from India

      bethperry: Thanks a lot for the comments :)

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      Beth Perry 3 years ago from Tennesee

      Great Hub! I am married to a Scorpio man and can say, he is the most passionate and devoted man a woman could ask for. It was a shock when he pursued me as he'd had many, many girlfriends over the years (including a Playboy centerfold), but I was the one he asked to marry. I don't know what he ever saw in me, but he's never given me cause to doubt him. We'll be celebrating our 20th anniversary next year - and I'm even more crazy about him now than the day we were married.

      Voting up!

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      ScorpioVenus 3 years ago

      It took me many days to read this entire comment section, but I learned an enormous amount Scorpio Men, and consequently, myself. I am a Libra Sun, Leo Rising, Scorpio Venus among 3 other placements in Scorpio. So needless to say..there is definitely a draw! They always seem to find me, but I rarely ever mind! ;)

      I recently moved to a new state in the US, and met my Scorpio online while I was trying to meet some new people. We hit it off pretty quickly, and arranged to meet...for a kiss. He didn't have a whole lot of time as he needed to get back to work again. We instantly felt the attraction, and made out (can't believe I just used that term..lol), it was pretty amazing. He kept saying he had to leave, but then we'd continue our conversation. He held my stare for the most part, but he looked away a lot too, as if he couldn't handle MY intensity. Shocking! Anyway, I got the impression from him that he desires so much more than a one-night stand, still I knew I would eventually have to make my intentions clear that I was looking for something more. We continued to talk, and I even felt his hot/cold nature at times, at which I would simply leave him alone. I let him come to me. Every few days he would send me a text that says he missed me, and needed to touch me, but would never make a move to make plans with me. I let this go on for a couple weeks, and then we had some steamy text exchanges, and I started to feel a bit slighted that he was after one thing. We made plans for him to come over, and stay the night. A few days prior to that he made some comments that sort of ticked me off...I'm not easy prey. Never have been, and never will be. So I told him very sincerely that I'm not looking for a one-night stand, and that I walked that path in life already...he got totally offended. Said he was kidding. (Yeah, right). So I apologized IF I had misunderstood him, and he seemed to get over it, but then MY feelings changed. I felt I didn't really trust him, and his intentions. A part of me wanted to say forget my values..Let's get it on! We only live once, right? Well our convos now are more along the lines of friendship which is totally fine with me. He knows where I stand. But, if I don't text him for a whole day, he gets irritated. I don't understand this at all. Then he states he wanted to see me, but I didn't seem like I wanted to talk so he left me alone. I guess my question is...why can't he be more upfront with what he wants? I would love to hear him say..."Let's go do something! Now"...but I sense he feels shy in a way. Would it be okay to send him a text stating that I would love it if he just spontaneously wanted to do something, and to let me know if he ever needs an ear...I'm here? From the male Scorpio perspective, how would you want a woman to break the ice of communication so that it could flow better. Any examples would be much appreciated... :)

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      mcm0115 3 years ago

      I(Cap) have a Scorpio friend that makes me feel like I'm on a roller coaster. We've been friends for about a year now. Our relationship actually started during a crazy, fun night which then lead to booty calls with an understanding of no love or emotion was to be involved. This was not a norm for me at all, but something drew me to him. At the time he was...hmmm...not what you would bring home to the parents. Which even surprised me that I was game. I guess people would describe me as a "good girl". That first night we just had a good time but I would not give in. It wasn't long until we ran into each other again and began our "relationship". I believe the line he used was "don't fall in love with me" of which I of coursed laughed. We had this type of relationship, only when he wanted to by the way, for a few months. Then I started dating someone for a few months. We still spoke once in a while but not as much. When my bf and I would go out with my friends we would run into him. My friends would tell me he was in the bar and say you don't need to talk to long to him or speak. I'd ask why and they say...ahhh when you to are together there's just something that you can tell going on between y'all. I told them they were crazy. Eventually that BF ended and I ran back into the Scorp and things picked up where they left off except this time things were different. He started saying things like, I love you, you have a sparkle, you are going to be my wife. Now whenever we ran into each other we both had been drinking so I just shook these phrases off as being drunk. But then I started noticing the difference in sex than before. It was always intense but now there was more cuddling and kissing sweetness, like a forehead kiss and such. These were things that I loved, which started me having more feelings for him than just a friend. We didn't really hang out much or anything we just would run into each other and this would happen. Eventually my Scorp had some tough experiences and said he wanted to go to church and since I go, I offered that he could come with me. He started going to church. Our encounters would only happen once a month but after going to church together had lessen. Then there was the one night we ran into each other and even though I said I don't think its a good idea it happened one Friday again and then we went to church Sunday and of course the sermon was on having sex before marriage. Funny, huh. Well after that Sunday we decided we could not do that anymore and we haven't. I told him that I had started having more feelings and I told him about the things he has said to me in the past and that Friday in particular he grabbed me, pulled me to him, looked me in my eyes and in the most serious face I'd ever seen says I Love you..The only thing he said was...you know how I don't use those words.....ahhh ok...We see each other every Sunday. We talk during the week, we get in a disagreement, he doesn't talk for a week , then we go to church, everythings great, then theres another disagreement over absolutely nothing, he disappears, ....it all repeats. He recently was sick and put in the hospital. I went every day. I felt like I was supposed to. He never asked me to even when I would ask. I just went. He was in there for over a week and I stayed on the night of his surgery cause he was in so much pain it hurt me and I couldn't leave. His family wasn't able to stay but came during the day and left after I got there. This is how I met his parents. I would play cards with his mom and she'd make comments like, I see why Scorp likes you so much. Me being shocked laugh and played it off, because really his actions do not show that at all. But she would ask me questions about my life that he obviously had told her about. I stayed the night the night of his surgery and the second night and on that morning I was getting his breakfast ready for him making everything right before I left and he snapped at me for something and I started crying, I turned instantly so he wouldn't see. I don't even know why..I kinda sensed something like that was going to happen. I kept telling myself to prepare me but it didn't work. I said I'm going to leave on that note. Cried all the way to the car and texted him and said I'm not coming up to night I think you need a break. He was released the next day. Since he left the hospital the same pattern on behavior as previously mentioned occurs but now we spend a little more time together. We do lunch occasionally and he and I go to play cards with his parents once a week unless he's in his distant mood which usually happens when he is stressed which by the way he says I cause him to be more stressed. Gee thanks right. I appreciate his blunt honesty even though it is harsh sometimes. He likes to give it but does like to hear it but I know he takes it in. I struggle with knowing where I stand in our friendship or whatever it is. I honestly love him and have told him. I know this is love because I have never felt this way in my life! When we had that conversation I told him that we needed to distance ourselves because I didn't think he wanted that and it was too hard for me. We could still go to church but no more hanging out or playing cards with the family. He said can't we just be friends and I said no..He says, what am I going to tell mom. She's going to want to know why you aren't coming over.... So we didn't talk for that week , but went to church. I sat with my family instead of him, but in the car he kept trying to get a convo started and wanted to go eat lunch..I declined lunch but once he got me talking I knew our separation wasn't going to last. Within the week I text him and said I can't stand this not talking...I just didn't know how to handle what I was feeling and I thought that was the best thing to do. His response was "SUCK IT UP", which made me laugh but was exactly what I needed to hear. Since then its still the same between us..spark/ignore...spark/ignore, cards with family and church. Just two weeks ago we had a pretty big disagreement (he does have a very stressful event happening now) he was harsh then responds with I'm not trying to be mean just honest. This time he decides that maybe we need a break until his "mess" is over. I agree we don't talk for a week, he runs into me at dinner with 5 males that I work with, we don't speak, glances are exchanged. When I had to go to the restroom, his mother is with him and I have to speak. I had left a Christmas gift for his parents at their house and I text later that evening to make sure they got it and communication begins again, then he comes back to church...cycle repeats....I'm suppose to go play cards with the family this week.... by the way his "mess" is not over...Do you see the roller coaster??? He knows how I feel and I got nothing about how he feels. I don't know whether to just distance myself or just go with the flow. My sister and friends say to forget about him and date other people but I can't get him out of my heart. I TRY..then we run into each other....I have never experience stress before until these last few months..I went to the doctor thinking I was having an allergic reaction and it was stress for him!! What do I do?? Please give me some advice. I'm reading all I can to help me understand him and a lot of the things I already knew and I tell him. That is one thing he always used to say was I could read him better than anyone. He gets mad when I say "Is there something you aren't telling me" I ask not because I think he's lying but because I can tell from his body language and aura that something is up. He then goes on a rant about he doesn't have to tell me anything. His business is his business, if he wanted me to know he'd tell me. ...I totally get that..of course I want him to tell me but I'm not going to push him but when I call him out because I just know him, he thinks I'm pushing or trying to control him...This is usually what starts our "disagreements". I know this post bounces everywhere but I'm trying to give you as much info as I can cause I really really need some help. I don't want this to end on my part or his.

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      Karthik Kashyap 3 years ago from India

      Ted: Thanks a lot :) I don't get much time to comment with other stuff going around. But, yeah, I do keep seeing the comments and reply to the ones I can :)

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      Ted 3 years ago

      Woah folks I didn't know this thread was still active! Haha

      Karth I see your still hanging in there even with all your new hubs I scanned through! Keeping up the good work I noticed

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      ruby morgan 4 years ago from missouri

      I had to comment when I read your hub .Everything you said in your hub is the truth about a Scorpio man.A Scorpio was my first love and he put me through some mental games that I didn't know existed.After all these years he still haunts me.It is probably because I was sixteen and a Pisces.

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      varun 4 years ago

      this is so true about me

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      moonshine97 4 years ago

      hi karthik, i'm really confused by my Scorpio friend, he's a fun person to talk to, attentive, gives advises when i need them, makes time for me, but the thing is sometimes he would get distant, i get maybe that is related to him needing space, but he would act in a way that i don't understand sometimes, i would send him messages he wont answer but he reads them, just last week everything was fine but a few days ago i sent him message but he didn't reply and it was an important matter, my question is why would he ignore me? if he doesn't want me to bother him with me, why can't he just say, my other question is how to make a difference between just being friends with a Scorpio man and when it is more than friendship? because sometimes i feel it is more than what i think it is ( just being friends). thanks

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      librasun 4 years ago

      Hi I am new to this blog/web page and have spent the last 2 days reading. Very insightful and comforting.

      I have a thing for a SCORPIO , it's been a 1 year since the beginning of this strange ride.

      Libra lady that I am, loves RELATIONSHIPS, loves to be coupled, this is true for ME. Can't speak on all Libras.

      HE is a Scorpio 8th NoV, I am Libra, 14th Oct.:

      WE Both have Cap ASC,Gemini Moon,V enus in SAG,Mercury In Scorpio.

      All the posts I've read here in someway or another match my situation. My Scorp, has kept me guessing, amused me, delighted me, ignored me, been rude, gone distant, comes back time and time again. Goes Hot and Cold. Has given me the be 'patient' spill etc. Has made me now the angriest I've ever been. I have tolerated his behavior knowing and having learned that this is how he is. However I couldn't take another mind *****. and told him I hated him. I doubt I'll hear from again, and he definitely won't hear from me. Or is this unrealistic? Will he continue or go away. What caused me to say the I Hate you, is because after weeks of silence, he said he just doesn't think he's ready and "Please don't hate me"

      So I told him I did. (WE all know I don't , right?) but I just couldn't be 'patient' with this BS any longer. And btw , he KISSEd me off a week before my BDAY! Chime in please if you have an opinion, I would love to know how he may have reacted to what I said. Why does it matter, becuz I'll see him around and just need some insight, guidance on what to expect. Here is what I think: he'll try to lure me back, then get revenge,,,,:-x

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      Karthik Kashyap 4 years ago from India

      Airin: I know what you mean :)

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      Airin 4 years ago

      I can't fall in love with another sign other than scorpio..

      I can't stand it being so strong attracted to scorpios..

      *Cancer sun and rising & pisces moon

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      Aries Girl 4 years ago

      Here I write again!

      1.5 years ago, I was writing about my scorp guy that he was broken hearted from previous marriage. We have been together for 2.5 years. I stayed with him through hard times being a loyal and loving partner. About year ago he moved from different state to live with me. Everything seemed to be perfect until couple of months ago when I found out that he is in love now with his 10 years long time girl friend who has 2 kids. He left me by saying that he needs to think what he wants in the future. Obviously, he lived with her. Now, he is trying to come back by saying that he made a mistake. After a month of discussions, I finally accepted him back couple of days ago, but the most amazing part is that today after couple of days being with me, he is again gone and tells me that she is heart broken and depressed and she needs his help and asking me another 2 weeks. All of the promises and talks about family was such a big BS. I just packed his things and I am so done. Words and words that all what it was and manipulations.., Highest level of disrespect.

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