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Do Taurus and Scorpio Get Along or Fight?
This is a clash of the titans! These two signs can easily attract each other. And, when they do, they can have a fantastic romance. Taurus is the center of spring, and Scorpio is the center of fall. Automatically, they contradict each other; however, as complete opposites, they also have a lot in common.
Both are stubborn, fixed, yin, sensual, proud, divisive, well-focused leaders with magnetic personalities. They both want sensuality, but they approach it in completely different ways—sometimes in ways that irritate or negate how the other person perceives the world.
Life and Death, Spring and Fall
Taurus is all about life; it is extremely proud to be the center of spring and allow others to have fruit, flowers, and green leaves. Weather is chaotic in spring, especially Aries, but Taurus also gets its fair share of tornadoes, thunderstorms, rain, wind, and hail.
Scorpio, on the other hand, makes way for death. Scorpio is part of Halloween and the Day of the Dead for a reason. This is when we realize and accept certain things about the cycle of life. Scorpio is all about authenticity. We come to it wearing masks, and we are implored to show our real selves. This is partly why Scorpio is so sexual (the most sexual, don't kid yourself); they want to really know the intimate truths about people. They want you to take off the mask. Scorpio takes the mask off all the pretty flowers and pretty trees that spring decorates the world with.
How These Two Signs See the World
Scorpio looks to see what's really there as opposed to what is only décor. This is partly why Scorpio and Taurus can be at odds with each other, except they both see themselves as gods. Not kidding. And due to that, they can actually be extremely attractive to each other. Gods like being with gods, even if they in actuality are only humans.
They are not the dead of winter or the dead of summer; those are quite different. In spring and fall you get various temperatures, but you know it's cold in winter. You know it's hot in summer—this is common sense. Therefore, Scorpio and Taurus are different as fixed signs. They are slightly more unpredictable and less fixed. They are fixed in their variety.
If Taurus and Scorpio get angry with each other, it'll be a showdown worth watching. The Taurus as the bull will immediately charge into battle, and Scorpio is known for stinging its prey and leaving them behind to deal with the poison that slowly but surely impacts the psyche.
Senses, the body
Yin or Yang
Reflective, sexual, psyche
Sensual, stubborn, strong leader
Tips for a Successful Scorpio-Taurus Relationship
- Scorpio and Taurus must keep in mind that they have different perspectives. Consider all the zodiacs in a circle -- if Taurus is looking to Aquarius, it looks to the right. When Scorpio looks to Aquarius, they look to the left. And when Taurus looks to Leo, it looks to the left. When Scorpio looks to Leo, it looks to the right. Do you see how they're going to have different perspectives looking at the seasons, the natural things life has to offer? This is important to keep in mind -- because for Taurus it sees Aquarius through Aries and Pisces... Scorpio sees Aquarius through Sagittarius and Capricorn.
- Spend time getting to know each other in a variety of ways. Don't be too butthurt if your ego gets hurt. Both of you need to just breathe and be okay with what is happening.
- Don't give into impulsive temper tantrums. You don't make your best decisions when you are in the heat of the battle. Try to find how you can be calm, cool, and collected.
- Make sure to plant your feet on solid ground. You need a good foundation, don't just make this a sexual or sensual relationship. This is elusive, connections do change -- so work to focus on other factors of how the two of you relate.
- Neither of you are fans of jealously. Do not make the Taurus jealous. Do not make the Scorpio jealous. Also, communicate and know that for your partner a friend is only a friend. Scorpio, don't start hanging out with someone else and developing feelings when you need to focus on your partner and the present. So stay away from lingering exes, those tend to get you into trouble.
- You are a couple that fights, so you need to learn how to fight fair. You should not be having yelling matches or hurting each other physically. Invest in a counselor who can give your relationships tools to better yourselves into the future.
- Do not flaunt your ego and fish for compliments. You can do just fine by hanging out and getting to know each other in person and in proximity.
- Yes, the both of you have strong egos. You also won't take compliments that are inauthentic. Do compliment your partner, and let those compliments come from a genuine place.
- Don't act like your sexuality is a bigger deal than your partners. Do not demand sex just because you feel entitled to it. You need to get consent, be patient, and don't go for revenge sex with an outside partner... that last thing is more for Scorpio.
- Hold hands, hug, kiss, and affirm each other.
Understanding the Personalities of the Bull and the Scorpion
This is definitely an "opposites attract" relationship. This is also an "opposites repulse" relationship. So you'll feel that energy strongly between the two of you. You'll love deeply and be led to deeply sharpen the other with what you see they lack. You bring in a great deal of variety when you are so different.
Again, you could be more different. You can relate to each other in being the centers' of seasons. The contrasts are noticeable, but yet complimentary. You will struggle for power. You're both introspective as yin signs. You'll reflect a lot on what is happening, but your lenses that you use are fairly different.
What They Love and What They Want
Taurus wants to maintain the garden, maintain sustenance, and also loves tradition and success at accomplishing traditions. Taurus loves the idea of family, a strong work ethic, paying bills on time, and taking charge.
Scorpio loves a good mystery, it loves the unusual, aesthetics, an extreme love for success, and has an extreme need for determination. Scorpio wants a significant amount of intimacy, people often mistake and misunderstand the Scorpio for being a one track brain—which is the most fatalistic move you can make with a Scorpio.
What Scorpio ultimately wants is a relationship. They are relationship seekers; they also have a lot of lust to work through. So it can be difficult to maintain all that emotion, and in all honesty in this version of our civilization we haven't quite unlocked and unmasked all we need to with emotion. This is partly why Scorpios are so misunderstood and appear secretive. They do like their privacy, but they also like their intimacy.
Sex and Intimacy
Taurus will admire Scorpio for their sexual prowess. Taurus will be interested in that partly because it goes along with their goal of making sure life unfolds. Taurus again is prideful that it opens the door for the living to exist. Scorpio requires sacrifice. It is depicted as feminine, but I find the energy of Scorpio to often be more masculine because of its high, potent sexuality. But women often must sacrifice their bodies in order for new creatures to come into the world.
This is partly how Scorpio wanders about the world, but I see more of the masculine in having to give up of life itself in order to have a relationship before even having to sacrifice its body. So Taurus fosters life, Scorpio sacrifices so that life can come. They have incredibly different lenses. It can be like watching someone who is striving to take on the world who has second-child syndrome in the shadow of Aries... and then watching someone a little after puberty getting oddly experimental.
The Complexity of Scorpio
Taurus needs to remember that Scorpio is complicated. Scorpio has more symbols than any of the other signs. Scorpio has the biggest range when it comes to emotions.
It starts off as a sniveling, cold-hearted snake. It bites at the ankle, like the serpent in the Garden of Eden. It starts off in this low, despicable kind of state. Scorpio doesn't deny any emotions, whether jealously, anger, self-righteousness—if it denies these emotions and can't look itself in the mirror, then it won't progress to higher, more fluid emotions like love. But Scorpio is also afraid of love.
You see, the next stage of the Scorpio is the scorpion. The scorpion is a little bit more refined, scorpions can actually make love for hours on end, but then they may eat each other or attack each other. They are familial creatures, even though they may harm each other. But the real last stage of Scorpio is the real beast that's hiding under the mask, whether Scorpio realizes this or not. This makes it difficult for Scorpio because this last stage is hard to harness, it is difficult to master and stay in it—and that's because it is the phoenix.
The phoenix, as I was saying about sacrifice, lives to love and give entirely of itself to eventually burn out and fizzle and turn back into a snake. It will have to work its way back through lessons to get back to its real self again. It is terrifying for Scorpio to progress emotionally because of the cost and sacrifice this demands.
How Scorpio Grows and Progresses
But as a snake, without progressing, the Scorpio will only eat its tail—causing itself to be emotionally congested and confused. And only when the Scorpio is ready will it stop trying to eat itself. When Scorpio allows itself to be relieved of its emotional congestion, then and only then can it be its full self. Otherwise, Scorpio may have mental blocks that prevent it from having healthy relationships, really fully knowing their mind, and knowing one of the most important keys in life—their potential.
Taurus Is the Gardener, and Scorpio Is the Serpent
In the Garden of Eden, Taurus is the gardener, like Adam, while Scorpio is the serpent. Taurus protects the garden, it orders the garden, nourishes it, and keeps it refined. Scorpio offers Taurus sexual initiation, it offers Taurus to eat forbidden fruit, which comes with consequences. You can see why these two would be at odds with each other.
Taurus wants to be the good worker, but Scorpio says there is more to life. Scorpio may mislead Taurus, and Taurus may even see these requests as sin, which only offends Scorpio. It doesn't mean that Scorpio is fair game about anything and is some hardcore addict—they are just deeply trying to understand the world and find someone who deeply wants to understand it with them. They are need into BS.
This kind of mentality can get the Scorpio in trouble. Taurus needs to help the Scorpio see boundaries. Water elements have a tendency to want to do two things: (1) completely merge with their partner, (2) flow and have no boundaries. The problem with these two innate qualities is that they can cause the partner to feel like they don't see their own individual definition anymore.
Sometimes when you don't have boundaries, you stop having responsibilities, practical judgment, or even stop listening to the voice of your partner because you are so lost in the flow, that you can't see distinction. These are problems that often follow a Scorpio soul who can feel like their mind is really foggy or muddy. They would be right, because what they are needing from the world is some kind of filter to help them navigate through their immense emotional range.
A Taurus can offer a filter for them. Water running into earth does slow it down. The practicality that is given by Taurus will help a Scorpio to see more clearly in a sense -- though their water nature could just make things muddy. Taurus helps give boundaries and context where Scorpio needs it, and that's if Scorpio accepts it. Scorpio could turn itself into tsunami or hurricane in order to strike against the earth.
Water elements have a really strong desire to flow and go places even when they are told those places are forbidden. Keep in mind, water is the universal solvent. Without water, we would obviously be dead. We can thank our nature for allowing water to flow on this planet, even if sometimes water makes its way into places it doesn't belong or need to be. There is a time for water and there is a time for red wine.
Taurus needs to take ownership of their own choices. Just like Adam blaming the serpent, yes the serpent tempted Adam, but he did not twist his arm to make him eat of the forbidden fruit. He made an offer Adam couldn't refuse, but Adam willfully did take of the forbidden fruit. He wasn't threatened to do so, he wasn't going to die nor any of his family for eating fruit. Taurus needs to be careful about how they blame others and to take responsibility for their own choices and the consequences that follow.
Scorpio needs to also own up to when they flirt without considering what doors they are opening. Often Scorpio needs to work on being more picky, decisive, and empathetic and doing those three things altogether in balance. Scorpio can have a tough time balancing all those things. It can be stubborn, but then get a hardened heart because Scorpio feels so much. Then Scorpio can be too soft, and then not stubborn enough.
The Scorpio needs to know what it really wants. Taurus is someone who generally knows exactly what they want, and will persevere after it relentlessly. This is why Taurus is the bull. It's on target, it knows how to charge after its goals, and it can have difficulty realigning its thoughts because it is so focused that it gets tunnel vision.
Both of these are stubborn creatures that without 3 very important things could easily pull themselves apart simply because that becomes the easiest choice to make. What these two need to focus on in their relationship is: positivity, generosity, and kindness. With those three elements well disciplined, really at the core of the mind, and the center of the relationship -- those keys are what will make the relationship flourish. Without those ingredients, the two of you may turn into beasts ready to impale each other at a Colosseum.
All you need is: positivity, generosity, and kindness.
The Queen Kidnapped by the King
Taurus and Scorpio are the life bearers. Without their very distinct roles in the cycle of life, we would dissipate into numbness, nihilism, and the nevermore. They are crucial points in the year where we all gain definition. Taurus is the time of year when the flowers are in full bloom after a long winter. Scorpio is when the leaves change, when life goes back to the planet to hibernate. When Hades took Persephone he hid her during the time of Scorpio till spring. Homer describes her as the formidable, venerable majestic princess of the underworld, who carries into effect the curses of men upon the souls of the dead. With her return, comes life, vegetation, and fertility. We have this cycle and dance with Persephone and Hades.
In the myth, Hades abducts Persephone to be his wife and the queen of his realm. In Roman, the counterpart of Hades, Pluto, the name Pluton meant a god of wealth, because mineral wealth was found underground, and because Pluto as a chthonic god ruled the deep earth that contained the seeds necessary for a bountiful harvest. The Greek version of the abduction myth is related to grain – important and rare in the Greek environment – and the return (ascent) of Persephone was celebrated at the autumn sowing.
Do you see how the relationship of Scorpio and Taurus can definitely be found in literature? You have a relationship rich in the celebrations, festivals, and nuances of spring and autumn. If you landed yourself in this relationship, open yourself up to the full extent of how powerful, crazy, and intense it can be to hold in one unit both life and sacrifice.
© 2017 Andrea Lawrence