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Scorpio and Aquarius: A Match Made in Heaven or Hell?

Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in-between in a candid yet humorous approach.


When it comes to astrology, I would always suggest that you should "stick with your own kind." By this I mean date within your own element. All twelve signs of the zodiac belong to one of the four elements; fire, air, water, and earth. Aquarius belongs to the air element, with its element buddies being Libra and Gemini. Scorpio belongs to the water element, with its perfect matches being Cancer and Pisces. You will get along the best with people who are of the same element as you are. You are kindred spirits and have tons in common and lots to talk about. If you should venture outside of your element you should do so carefully.

Generally speaking, Aquarius and Scorpio do not make a good match. In terms of astrology, water and air are not compatible because they are just too different. Strangely enough, these two signs tend to have a strong attraction towards one another. I think opposites attract in this instance and the stars align just right. It can only go one of two ways though. When Aquarius and Scorpio get together, it's either going to be really good or really terrible, there is no middle ground. You're not going to have an okay relationship that's kind of boring but comfortable. Know this going in, you had better be all in because there's no easy way out.

The intense attraction that is felt between Scorpio and Aquarius usually leads to a great sex life which is one of the reasons your relationship can be successful. The Scorpio is famous for its insatiable sex drive so you had better put out or get out. Sex is very important to a Scorpio, it's one of the ways they express their love and devotion to their partner. If you're not on the same page here, it's going to cause problems in other areas of your relationship. At the same time, sex and attraction can't be the only thing you two agree on. Aquarius and Scorpio usually don't have a problem in this area because of their intense attraction to one another. It's in other areas that things seem to cool down..

A Scorpio is mysterious and alluring and that's all part of their charm and why Aquarius can become very attracted to them. It's just in the nature of a Scorpio to be intense and addicting. An Aquarius is the exact opposite with its free spirit nature and aloofness. This can be where heads tend to butt because a Scorpio expects a solid commitment and the Aquarius tends to run the other way when rules and restrictions are put upon them. The only way a real relationship can work between an Aquarius and a Scorpio is if the Aquarius loves and desires the Scorpio enough to break down its own walls and let them in. The Aquarius has to feel safe and comfortable enough in the relationship to accept the commitment for what it is and be open to it. In turn, the Scorpio has to understand that the only reason the Aquarius has walls up to begin with is because it's a defense mechanism. The Aquarius has been hurt before and it tries to prevent it from happening again by never getting too close.

The power dynamic between a Scorpio and Aquarius will always be that of a child and adult. The Scorpio will always take on the role of the adult because they are always going to be the one in charge and leading the way. The Aquarius is fine with this dynamic because they secretly enjoy having someone tell them what to do because it brings structure and order into their chaotic lives. Scorpios tend to be traditional and prefer to run a household by their own special rules. They like things done a certain way and if Aquarius respects them they will abide by their rules. Scorpio and Aquarius can get along pretty well once the power dynamics are sorted out and everyone knows what their roles in the relationship are.

A Scorpio expects an intense and strong relationship and will settle for nothing less. They will always keep tabs on you and will want you to keep in touch constantly. This can be a problem for the Aquarius who prefers their alone time and can go days without properly communicating. In this case, a compromise has to be made in order for the relationship between the Scorpio and Aquarius to work. The Aquarius should try to be a little more committed and the Scorpio should relax a little and understand that just because the Aquarius isn't texting back right away doesn't mean they're out doing things they shouldn't be. Some trust is definitely required from both partners.

Timing is very important if the Scorpio and Aquarius relationship is to work. Each sign has to get all of their dating around and one night stands out of their system before they can fully commit to one another. This is much easier for the Scorpio than the Aquarius because they tend to be players in their early years. Scorpio has always been more serious about relationships. If they can see a future with a certain person, they put in all their effort to make it work. Unless the Aquarius feels the same way, they could always have one foot out of the door which will infuriate the Scorpio to no ends. A little piece of advice: don't start a relationship with a Scorpio unless you can commit 100% to them and only them. You should never get into a relationship if you're not sure about them or just bored and passing the time. Scorpio will intuitively feel this and make your life a living hell. You have been warned.

This brings me to the most important fact you should know about the Scorpio: they are super loyal and loving people, but if you betray them then you might as well be dead to them. Scorpios are loyal and expect that loyalty in return from you. If you betray them in any way then you will know the notorious lethal sting of the Scorpio. In real life, if you get bit by a Scorpion bug, you die because their bite is deadly. If you have chosen to betray or hurt the Scorpio in any way, you no longer exist to them. Scorpio is not a forgiving person. They will remember your betrayal for as long as they live. They might say they forgive you, but rest assured they will never forget. It is near impossible to get into the good graces of a Scorpio if you betray them so it's best to always be on your best behavior.

Cheating qualifies as a betrayal in any relationship, but with a Scorpio it's the ultimate betrayal that will never be forgiven. If you're in a relationship with a Scorpio and you're even thinking of cheating, just end it now and save yourself a lot of trouble. Scorpio will make your life a living hell if you cheat on them. You might have to change jobs and move towns just to escape their wrath. Just end the relationship in a very clean and orderly way and make a quick exit.


Overall, a relationship between a Scorpio and Aquarius can definitely work if both people are serious and committed to one another. The Scorpio can stand to be less demanding and all consuming of their partner, while the Aquarius can buckle down a bit and get their life together so they don't come across as such a commitment-phobe. The Aquarius has to know going into a relationship with Scorpio, that they are going to have to give up some of their freedom. It'll be worth it though if their bond is strong and love is present. The Scorpio on the other hand, must let go a little to be able to hold on to Aquarius for the long haul. When both partners are aware of the rules, there's no reason to expect anything less then success.


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Questions & Answers

Question: I am Aquarius and my boyfriend is Scorpio. Is it true that we don't make a good match?

Answer: Aquarius and Scorpio can be either really good together or really terrible. It's a hit or miss. How you get along together and if you have things in common will determine whether you should date or not. If you really enjoy spending time together, don't let your zodiac signs get in the way.

Question: What if the Scorpio is a player what does the Aquarius do?

Answer: Find someone else. A player under any zodiac sign is still a player and not worth it.

Question: I'm a Scorpio and my best friend is an Aquarius and we've become friends with benefits and I want to go into an actual relationship but he keeps making all these excuses and I'm getting really tired of it because I keep putting so much time into him, what should I do?

Answer: Take a step back and give him some space. When he contacts you, don't answer right away. Let him wonder what you are doing and if you have moved on without him. Men need to know that they are replaceable, that's when he'll come running back.

Question: Was this article written by a Scorpio?

Answer: No, by an Aquarius.

Question: Is an Aquarius a player?

Answer: Any sign can be a player. Aquarius can be a flirt and very friendly. If an Aquarius is serious about you, they might flirt, but they will be true to you.

Question: What if the Aquarius is 8 years older than the Scorpio man?

Answer: Age doesn't matter when it comes to compatibility between the zodiac signs.

Question: What should you do about your relationship if your sex life just flat out sucks? No matter how hard you try it seems like you’re always going to be miserable there.

Answer: Then you probably should reevaluate your decision to be in that relationship.

Question: Is it possible for an Aquarius and a Scorpio to be a good couple?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Why do Scorpio men lie so much?

Answer: Scorpio men can lie because they think they are smarter than everyone else. Not saying that all Scorpio men lie but many of them think very highly of themselves which leads them to think they can get away with it.

Question: I am a Scorpio and my boyfriend is a Aquarius. Is it good for us to be together and do we make a good match?

Answer: Are you happy? That's all that really matters at the end of the day.

Question: How to forgive someone for their bad deeds I'm Scorpio and my girl is Aquarius and I'm not able to forgive her for even issues which are of nowhere please help me understanding her i want her so bad cause it feels really terrible without her i can't bear that pain?

Answer: If you can't forgive her then you really shouldn't be with her because whatever she did will always stay in your mind. It is probably best for you to find someone else.

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Maydus Everian on July 18, 2020:

I am an Aquarius woman, and I've strangely fallen inlove deeply with a Scorpio man, he sparks a fire right up in my soul. I just don't know what information to believe. Some say we're perfectly compatible ,others say there is NO chance what so ever....what shall I know to could make this work without hurting either of the 2 of us?

Nikita on July 16, 2020:

I'm a Scorpio and my bf is an aquarius. We have been in love since 8 years Nd wanted to marry each other but now he doesn't want to marry and is making excuses. What should I do. I love him a lot.

Amanda on May 01, 2020:

I am aquarius, and my husband is scorpio. We have five children and have been together 27 years. Many ups and downs. We even married each other twice! This relationship is working through past karma for sure. ❤

Ashlee on April 27, 2020:

Hello im an aquarius, and my bf is a scorpio honestly not all aquarius and scorpio make a bad couple, me and my boyfriend been dating for 5 years and we have a very great relationship. We have aruged a few times but we end up fixing it and forgiven eachother. Honestley if people say that you aren't good with some other sign don't listen to them be with who you want its not there choose it's yours and its your life as long as your happy with that other sign and they treat you right be with them just make sure its the right choose. And if after time it doesn't work then get out of that relationship don't force yourself to stay in it that's why there are toxic, relationships. Some signs might work well together some might not. Choose who you want to be with bc some people say aquarius and scorpio make a bad couple but not all I've been dating a scorpio for 5 years and we love eachother deeply. And i don't care what people say ab it!

Jazz on April 21, 2020:


I am scorpio and my bf is Aquarius, since the week we met he said I am not the one he sees as life partner but till now we are living together for 2 years and everything is perfect, except that he Says he doesn’t love me but rest is all fine, we live like a perfect couple, no fights and always good food and peaceful plus freedom life. But deep inside I am worried one day he will leave me as he always reminds me time to time. Should I be worried or just live for now?

Nhbdy on February 10, 2020:

My boyfriend is a Scorpio abd I am an Aquarius abd ut us the exact opposite for us. It’s like I should be a Scorpio and be an Aquarius!

Sudee on February 05, 2020:

Hi I'm an Aquarius and my husband is an Aries. I read your article. I can relate with my present condition. Its been 3 years now I am married to an Aries guy. He is very nice but very much introvert. We used to have peaceful life he understands me and so am I. But there was communication GAP from the beginning because of his introvert nature. I used to wait for him may be one day he will open up in front of me. I used to panic some times but still don't understand his nature. He always take care of me like for example he remember my lipstick shades and the brand names of my cosmetics but he is not concerned about my health. I says several times to consult a doctor but he may be so reluctant or casual in nature. i never argu with him regarding my loneliness. But finally i bust out. He said he understood I said about my affair he accepted that he said He wants to fix it want to give a chance in this relationship but may be he cant forgive me.

I started liking a scorpio man and intimated. But im confused what should I do. he understands me very well but our way of communication is different. some times we argu. We are passionate about sex and some nature. There is a caste problem if i think for a future. He is waiting for me. But I cant decide what should I do? Should i leave my husband or stay with him? or I should start a new life with that scorpio man? I need your help please guide

JJ Rebel on December 28, 2019:

I`m an Aquarius, my girlfriend & I have been together for 2 months & 5 days & she is a Scorpio but when she gets mad she goes quiet & doesn't talk to anyone for a while & I think i am the problem. Could anyone give me some advice on how to make her less mad at me? (normal things won't work) please.

pihu on December 20, 2019:

what if an Aquarius is very attracted to the Scorpio and told the feelings to that person.and still there are no responses like in direct way.

Angel on November 18, 2019:

Been with a scorpio man for 7 yrs, i am an aquarius. we have really awesome times but he's a control freak with anger issues and i'm never right about anything. I feel caged all the time and when i take my freedom it's like doing the world to him. It's frustrating

Draco on November 11, 2019:

Brah im the aqua thing and i dont act like this at all. They only thing they got right is i stay by my self alot.

Justateenager on November 10, 2019:

This article makes complete sense. I'm a aquarius and hope to be with a scorpio above all. I guess the sex is the only thing I would look forward to lmao.

ScorpioLady married to Aquariusman 38yrs on October 13, 2019:

Been together since I, 15 and he 17. Hot and heavy .We did take a 5 yr break to marry with other suppose to be in our element . We always were in touch . Finally reunited and married it’s now 38yrs. Raised 4 boys. Never have I Scorpio lady had challenges till 2019.

Tired of being alone, not feeling companionship anymore. Tired of Aquarius temper tantrums out of no where . If our sex Life was not so Hot then what? twists going on in the stars

AK on October 08, 2019:

Lol definitely written by a scorpio. Like 70% of the article was about how to be in the good books of scorpio. As if an aqua would actually like pleasing anyone.

Also, no. Aquarius don't like being told what to do. They take advices only for comparison purposes. And they hate being bossed upon.

FreeSpirit@gmail.com on September 19, 2019:


Elvie on August 06, 2019:

Scorpio and Aquarius seriously like living in hell but we have a very strong connection between each other. We broke up 100 times were about to leaving each other with full of hurts. Aquarius never care about what are u feeling, he was telling u he did a good thing and bla bla and he doesn't tell you what good thing u had done for him.. And he always blame on u in every situation.. Even ur intention was good since I'm very secretive Scorpio.. Love to do surprise but it went wrong sometime.. Now we're already 5 years and we've being so close to another. We just need to understand each other. The sexs was good and intense, we learned to love each another in our desire and imagination. It wasn't easy be with Aquarius but we love hard, jealousy, we fight hard, everything hard.. He love someone in his own ways.. This is Aquarius.. Intelligence and brainy.. He's a thinker and don't ever lied to them.. They will dig you till u tell them the truth.. But I love him so much.. And he did the same but so sensitive..

Zaria on July 11, 2019:

I have a aquaris bf and this is ture (ima Scorpio)

Lissa on February 11, 2019:

I am Aquarius female and my boyfriend is scorpio we have the perfect relationship ❤️

Random on February 06, 2019:

I am a scorpio a female scorpio. Does that mean My crush which is a aquarius won't like me?

Nissa on January 25, 2019:

seems like this was written by a Scorpio

Cassie on October 04, 2018:

Wouw finely some positive sight of this combination. I have been married 10 years with an Aquarius male. He is the only person I can trust on this planet. We are very close and strong couple. Yes we are very attractive to each other and it hasn’t changed over 10 years. But you need to know Aquarius really well to understand him. We didn’t started as strong as he is so impulsive. I didn’t get it why he gets so upset about small things but it’s not why he gets upset it’s about a lot of things he keeps for himself and then explodes. He is very loyal and I am too. He is very inspirational wich still inspires me today. Charming as well. But they have hard time showing and sharing emotions. I don’t mind because me as a Scorpio I am really sensitive and I can’t handle guys being sensitive I hate it to be honest. I am very intuitive and spiritual and I never understood why we where not a good match. We are a perfect couple. Very balanced. So don’t give up hope if you are in a couple like this.

Nancy on October 01, 2018:

The biggest waste of time.

Mind games, lack of communication, horrible fights, grudges, sizing each other’s dicks, ego bruising, humiliating, just complete bullshit.

Save your time and avoid getting with a Scorpio man. They will never share their feelings with you no matter how comfortable you make them feel. And the minute you express any form of anger towards them. They will take revenge on you for even remotely looking at them at fault for anything.

I urge you as someone that got used up and spit out in a matter of 7 months not to waste your time on not only the most complicated man in the zodiac- the most evil. The worst. Complete poison. You will feel disgusted afterwards.

Anna on September 30, 2018:

Imma Scorpio and I love Aquarius I think we have a lot in common people misunderstand us which is why they would say we don’t belong together I feel like I could rule the world with an Aquarius

Lo on July 01, 2018:

They attract because they are mirror points! They are actually an excellent match IF the Scorpio has reached the Phoenix on its totem and the Aquarius has fully matured as well. If they haven’t matured then most of the time the Aquarius get stung by the Scorpio or it ends badly in some other way.

Annelise from copenhagen Denmark on June 14, 2018:

Great .....but it's not always that black and white

scorpio enjoy lying and tease ppl, to get ppl up in the red zone, then they laugh and walk away ;) like a boss ....love the way they lie :D

ed on May 28, 2018:

This is the best article that I ever read about this relation!(y)

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