I love writing about relationships and zodiac compatibility.
Can Virgo and Leo get along?
If you are part of a Virgo-Leo relationship, it can be discouraging to read about how incompatible the two are supposed to be. Virgo is shy and critical, and Leo is extroverted and selfish. How could the two possibly form a lasting relationship?
As with most generalizations, we need to look deeper than the surface to see what really makes these sun signs tick. No relationship is perfect, so do not despair if you see obstacles at first. These obstacles may end up turning into the strengths of your relationship.
A Closer Look at Virgo
Virgos have gotten a bad reputation as nitpicky and critical. While this is often true to some extent, it's not as simple as that. Virgos are extremely sensitive to the people around them, particularly friends and even more particularly, family. If a family member has a problem, however small, a Virgo will swoop in and try to solve the problem for them. Unfortunately, Virgos often forget that nobody really likes to be coddled and that most people find satisfaction in solving their own problems. Virgos should always take a step back and evaluate whether their help is really needed, or wanted.
Virgos are intensely loyal and loving, and they will protect their family against threats like a grizzly bear. Big or small, if something is bothering a loved one, it's also bothering the Virgo—perhaps even more so! Virgos are extremely well-informed about a wide variety of topics, and they also love research, so you can bet that a Virgo is going to try to give you advice. Virgos are especially informed about health and nutrition and like to care for their families and friends by telling them about the latest superfoods and health trends.
The basic problem between Virgos and other sun signs is that Virgos think they are helping by getting involved in other people's problems, but often their help will not come across as helpful at all, but rather, controlling. Virgos do not want to control for the sake of controlling, but because they genuinely think they know what is best for you. If you won't do what is best for you by choice, then by golly, they'll figure out a way to make you do it!
A Closer Look at Leo
Leos are generally described as extroverted, outgoing, happy, and loving. Their dark side is described as being selfish or self-centered. Just like Virgos (and every other sun sign), Leos have both dark and light sides. Leos are quick to stand up for their loved ones, and they are extremely hard workers. Leos are also very confident, so if they want to accomplish something, they generally succeed. They are also friendly, social, and good at speaking to groups, so they are not put off by a fear of public speaking like many of us are. This gives them an advantage because they do not let fear stand in the way of their goals.
Leos can be a little bit selfish and often put themselves first. When they are in a relationship, they sometimes need to be reminded that they are not actually the king of the jungle, but equal partners in a team. They won't like being reminded of this, of course, but Leos are good-natured and generally shrug off negative emotions quickly.
Other people usually appreciate Leos gregarious personalities, and Leos are very enjoyable to have as friends and partners. Sometimes they can be a little self-absorbed, however, and fail to notice the moods and emotions of those around them. Leos would benefit from cultivating an awareness of the needs of others, and practicing putting others first.
Problems Between Virgo and Leo
After reading the descriptions of Virgo and Leo, a common relationship problem might be obvious: Virgos like to swoop in and "help" much too often, and Leos want to be in complete control of their lives. Leos might very well interpret Virgo's "help" as "controlling," and Virgos will feel hurt that their love and help is not appreciated. If they are not careful, they will fail to appreciate each other's good qualities and only focus on the negative.
To solve this problem, Virgos need to step back and look at situations more objectively. Just because you love someone, you don't need to solve every tiny problem for them. Doing so will just create a parent-child dynamic in a relationship, and no adult wants that with their partner. By all means, take care of your partner with good food, healthy activities, and lots of love and appreciation, but Virgos must resist the urge to stifle their partner with advice and help.
Leos should make a real effort to notice the little things that Virgo does. The rugs do not get vacuumed on their own, the fridge does not stock itself with all of your favorite foods, and your clothes don't magically wash themselves. Virgo does all of these things for you out of love, and you need to appreciate it! If you fail to notice everything Virgo does to make your life better, you're in for a lot of trouble. Nobody is willing to be invisible, so make sure you make a big deal out of all that your Virgo does for you.
Strengths of a Virgo-Leo Relationship
If Virgos and Leos are willing to step out of their comfort zones and do what is truly best for their partner, then a Virgo-Leo relationship can be one of the best in the zodiac. Leos are social where Virgos are not, so they will bring lots of friends and social occasions to the relationship. Virgos are very good at maintaining a happy home life, whereas Leo would most likely forget to pay the bills or buy groceries. Both sun signs are devoted to their families, and will do anything to protect and nurture them, so this pairing shares a common dream which is wonderful for raising a family. A Leo-Virgo relationship might be the one to make it to a 50th wedding anniversary party.
Above all, the two signs learn as much from their differences as from their similarities. Leo will learn how to appreciate others and understand their emotions, and Virgo will learn how to relax and simply enjoy life. Leo will give Virgo confidence to pursue her dreams, and Virgo will make sure that all the little pieces are there to ensure that Leo reaches his. Both partners are so devoted to each other that even though they will not always understand each other's style, they are willing to work through their problems and spend the night curled in each other's arms.
© 2013 hazelbrown
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on December 10, 2019:
Arun, Sorry to hear you're feeling down. Wishing you all the best. - Hazel
Arun on December 09, 2019:
Same as nirajan said, i m a virgo and my crush is leo. I love her from 10 years and i will keep her happy but she doesn't love i don"t the reason but what i feel is still that, she is made for me i am really depressed in daily life thinking about her. Now i feel like there is nothing to live in this world without marrying her. but from her side this is really one side. i told her that i can do anything for her but from whatever i say to her she feels like i am forcing her to talk and like me. i hate myself from now.
genesis on December 06, 2019:
im a virgo but i argue alot with my sister plus she's a leo
Niranjan on August 16, 2019:
actually I am virgo and my crush is Leo it's her birthday tomorrow but even I love her I am too much afraid of her and I really think that she really deserves better than me I am a poor guy can't see her suffer like my family does I never asked her out but now I really miss her so much but still my sufferings not ended yet Idk when we will meet again or maybe not in this life I will miss her forever i saw her crying one day it was a worst day but I can't help anyone I have own limitations no one actually knows me and when I tried to text her she misunderstood me and got really angry and she said never text her so I promised myself and I am keeping that promise because the man who can't keep promises never deserve love in his life and these are my love complications as a virgo even you love someone you will never get her virgo suffers everyone I really love her I have a degree now just because of her and I can't even text her to say thanks
Rose on June 04, 2019:
I am a leo female
Nita on September 10, 2018:
I was looking for some answers here. I’m a Sagittarius woman with Virgo rising and my partner is a libra with Leo rising. It gets a little complicated with these clashing rising signs. I hate stupid fights and such. We do get along tho most of the time, we can thank that connection to our sun signs only I think. I wish that things were more harmonious, maybe with time...
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on May 05, 2013:
Grace Marguerite Williams from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on May 04, 2013:
Excellent article which aptly describe the Leo-Virgo energy in action. Indeed the Leo-Virgo relationship can be quite contentious with the Leo wanting all the glory while the Virgo is so busy analyzing and critiquing. The relationship can also be masochistic in nature with Leo being the dominant one while Virgo is the long-suffering one.
You have provided a succinct analysis regarding this often contentious relationship. However, both signs can have a more harmonious relationship if both learn about each other sun sign psychologies and learn to compromise.