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Libra and Virgo in a Lesbian Relationship

The author is a Libra married to a Virgo, so she has experience with this fascinating pairing.

Are Libras and Virgos compatible? Read on to find out!

Are Libras and Virgos compatible? Read on to find out!

Libra Woman and Virgo Woman Compatibility: Are You a Good Match?

I am a Libra married to a Virgo. We have been together 2.5 years this month, and I think I've learned almost everything there is to know about Virgos, even if I don't quite understand my wife as a person yet. I love her very much, and usually, when I meet a Virgo, she has a Libra best friend and vice versa. My wife is my best friend, although I must admit that we have many "disagreements."

The Libra Woman

Let me start by saying that I do not believe in cusps—I believe that people born toward the beginning or end of another sign may possess traits of that sign, but you either are or you aren't. You are a Libra if you were born between September 23rd and October 23rd, although you may display some Virgo or Scorpio traits.

With that said, I am a Libra, born on October 14th. I used to say that I was a true Libra and that "we" are all alike, although recently, I've changed my mind because I have met many Libras over the past few years who are nothing like me, and vice versa.

Let's start with the not-so-nice Libra traits. I have read many different things about Libras, some of which I disagree with. I believe many Libras embody the following traits:

  • Careless about money (although I make sure to pay my bills first)
  • Dislike being alone (they can become tired and rely on the people around them to bring them up again)
  • Dislike routine (we get bored with the same thing after a short while, including relationships and jobs)
  • Secretly self-centered (likes to be the center of attention)
  • Overly talkative
  • Shallow
  • Laid-back (we just go with the flow)
  • Indecisive

Libras are the most indecisive people; I honestly don't make decisions unless I am alone or the situation is critical. Unless my mind was made up before the situation arose, I am usually ready to go with the flow—although I typically don't like last-minute plans.

The Libra's need to be fair and even-handed greatly contributes to their lack of ability to make decisions—we just can't help it! But don't ever let the smile, carelessness, or kindness of a Libra fool you. Although we are laid-back and don't let many things bother us, we can go from being an angel to a demon in the blink of an eye when something does bother us.

Now, the good:

  • Good with other people's money (although they're careless with their own money)
  • Civilized (perhaps the most civilized zodiac sign)
  • Excellent strategists and organizers
  • Understanding and good problem-solvers (often able to get in touch with people's feelings to an almost psychic level)
  • Balanced and even-tempered
  • Tolerant and diplomatic (we value beauty and nature and believe in justice and the "fairness of law")

I love being a Libra. I am all of what I have explained above. I am emotional in my relationship; I cry, get angry, love to laugh, and often talk a lot, but I am also a great listener; I am VERY indecisive, tolerant, and diplomatic. Also, contrary to what most say about Libras, I am very energetic, spontaneous, outgoing, and intelligent.

The Virgo Woman

You are a Virgo if you were born between August 23rd and September 22nd. My wife was born on September 19th, and although we have a lot in common, in my opinion, she doesn't have any Libra traits.

I have met many Virgos in the past two years, and they have a lot of similarities and differences. Of course, a person's personality is shaped not only from their date of birth but also from how they were raised and their life experience. Most of what I have read about Virgos seems to be true of my wife.

First, the not-so-nice Virgo traits:

  • Very critical (great at seeing all of your faults right away, although they do not take criticism well)
  • Great at seeing all angles of a situation (but they focus on all of the small issues rather than the bigger picture)
  • Stubborn (have a hard time admitting to their wrongdoings)
  • Dislike public displays of affection
  • Sensitive (although my wife would get mad before she shed a tear)
  • Hypocritical
  • Perfectionistic
  • Suppress their "natural" kindness (this usually results in the Virgo being alone most of the time)
  • Realistic (they prefer to live in the real world and are very pessimistic)

Now, the good:

  • Quick on their toes (although they overanalyze everything)
  • Creative
  • Shy (although I don't know why this is listed as a good thing in most places)
  • Independent (they'd rather not have anyone else take care of them)
  • Adaptable (adjust easily to change)
  • Elegant and intelligent
  • Loyal

When searching for Virgo traits, you will find that there aren't too many that sound appealing. They are mean, argumentative, and overly obsessed with health and their physical appearance, but Virgos make up some of the world's most talented people.

My wife possesses the traits listed above and is the most talented person I have ever met. She is beautiful, funny, and very intelligent. She is very sweet, and she has brought out the best in me so far.

Libra and Virgo in a Relationship

The Virgo is not romantic; rather, a realist. She is not unwilling to discuss her innermost feelings. Libras are complete when spending time with their significant other. The Libra is focused on harmony and peace and is very romantic. She loves attention and would rather be sought after than seek.

For the Libra, a relationship is more than just a coupling; it is a unity where two people will go through life as one. As for the Virgo, a relationship is more of a partnership. The Libra tends to look elsewhere when she is not satisfied with her partner. Virgo tends to be very cold to her partner if things don’t seem to be working out. The bad thing about that is something horrible is likely to happen if the two are not satisfied with each other and stay together.

The Libra and Virgo symbols in tattoo form

The Libra and Virgo symbols in tattoo form


So, here it goes. The Libra and Virgo are exact opposites and are therefore seen as incompatible. Although, they may be able to teach each other a few things if they are both open-minded. The phrase "opposites attract" may be true, but it is said that they will not last.

  • The Libra is lighthearted and outgoing, while the Virgo criticizes the Libra and makes her feel unloved.
  • The Libra is tolerant and accepting when it comes to her partner's shortcomings or failings, while the Virgo is judgmental and conditional.
  • The Libra's indecisiveness will bother Virgo . . . a lot. But the Libra strives to be fair and will analyze every aspect of a situation before making a decision.
  • Libras are easygoing, while Virgos are picky and worry too much.
  • Virgos are argumentative, while Libras try to avoid conflict.
  • Virgos are materialistic, while Libras will not be a slave to fashion, although both Libras and Virgos have good taste.
  • In an effort to avoid conflict, the Libra will often allow claims against herself to settle an argument rather than to drive a bad situation.

As I said before, my wife and I have been together for 2.5 years. I talk too much for her; my indecisiveness angers her; I always want to solve our problems, while she doesn't like to discuss feelings; and she is very critical of me and often very self-centered. I don't like to share, but I want everything she has, although I would give her anything.

We have had more than our share of conflicts, disappointments, and times of being uncertain about the relationship. I must admit that sometimes I do not stay clear of conflict when I know that I am causing it, but for the most part, I am happy when my surroundings are happy.

Although my wife and I are very different, we have a lot in common. We are both very funny and artistic; we both have great taste and love to work out, and although we have had enough disagreements for a billion couples, we love each other and are willing to see past our differences so that we may be happy together. She is my best friend, and we do everything together.

A piece of advice to everyone: experience is the best way to learn. I have met plenty of couples who have said that they are supposed to be incompatible and are very happy with each other after many years. So check her out for yourself, and see how you two interact before you pass.


Amber on August 21, 2020:

I was literally born almost directly between Leo and Libra 10 days after Leo and 9 before libra. I have traits from all three. I obviously say I’m a Virgo but identify with little of all three.

B K Dahlia from St. Louis, MO on July 27, 2018:

I am on the "cusp". Sept 22.... However I am so much more libra than virgo. My gf is virgo. U described our relationship.

Visna on August 23, 2016:

I am virgo and born on september 19 as well same as your wife..hmmmmmmmmm..I do believe in zodiac sign but when in terms of reality, we have differences, we live in a different culture, environment and beliefs. So, it doesn't matter if you are libra or virgo as long as you love each other, I think its all that matter. Differences is exciting for me. :)

merkikay on June 02, 2016:

I'm a Libra born Oct 12 and I've been Dari v my Virgo born Aug 29 only for a few months. We both have very different home lives and different needs but we always tend to work it out. This article (in my opinion) was spot on. I've been looking for something like this because it's super hard to get a read on my Virgo sometimes. It may be because I'm a libra but all the Virgo traits were very true. My Virgo isn't very expressive of her criticism though which makes me super stressed out because as a Libra-I have to be in the know and understand my parter 110% otherwise I ask myself too many questions. She is very shy and I feel like I annoy her because of her cold reactions to my humor sometimes.

I'm also very sarcastic and brutally honest due to my upbringing and I feel like I hurt her feelings too much when I'm just trying to be playful. Any advice? I want to be the best me and be super honest and raw but the thing about avoiding conflict was very true. I tend to pacify my hurt feelings and thoughts. I just want to make her happy

Tierra Hawkins on November 02, 2015:

Um,exscuse me,where is Libra and Pisces lesbians in a relationship?I've been looking for it all over the internet but they dont have,if they do,only gay MEN not women!Its not fair!why havent u made one for all lesbian zodiac relationships?Why?I feel lefted out and this world is only for men and straight people!Plus gay men instead of lesbians,there's no place for us us women who are women and a lesbian!I'm tired of not being treated fairly as a woman and as a gay person,no,take that back,lesbian.Even gay men is being treated more fairly than lesbian women cuz once again,they're men!

Che on August 13, 2015:

My wife and I have been married for seven years, and together for eleven. My birthday is 8/27 and hers is 9/29. I giggled as I read this page while we were booking a trip one night. A lot of what was explained is spot on. I am a Virgo with a libra moon, which helps. Also, I am closest to Leo as she is closest to Virgo. We have much in common due to similarities in where we were raised; our closeness in age 1 yr 1 mo apart). We are both 1st born with a younger sister and raised by one parent as the other parent died. We like the same music and we are both family oriented. We hold jobs (we met in prison-co-workers). Many say medical and law enforcement employees are a good match. I am beginning to see our differences. I have been waaay off when it comes to seducing her-so I am glad I have researched this. Back to the giggling. Our most recent issues have to do with exactly what the article talked about. We are soul mates. We are each other's forever. In order to hang on and keep her happy, I am researching her (without her knowing). Sound familiar? Like I said, mostly spot on. I am interested in hearing from. Virgo closer to my birthdate.

Rhey on October 23, 2014:

This is so true! I'm a virgo and my partner she's a libra everything you said it's so true and amazing. So far so good we just celebrated our 2 years anniversary on Oct. 14 and it's actually her birthday as we'll. and we are still getting stronger and better.

angel on August 26, 2014:

Hi ther im female virgo & my wife is female libra were now on r 5+th yr anniversary..lots of ups & downs we almost breakup many times but its bcoz wen we

jae on June 28, 2014:

I really like the virgo that I have been talking to off in on with in I hope we can start a relationship soon.

angeljourney on June 04, 2014:

Hey guys im vergo female born Sep15,my wifey is libra female born october _honestly don't agree much bout all d comments bout virgo'not really thru _virgo is not hard to understand it is libra who is staborn & hard to focus on things. Libra can't handle arguments,they easyly runaway of problems rather than to talk bout it..I'll say libra is not really a good listen'r &think they like to live in a dream most times rather than focus on reality

Eden on September 24, 2013:

I am a (September 28th) libra and my first love when I was young was a (September 15th) Virgo. We spent many many years off and on. From like age 15 all the way into college. When we were together we were a dream couple for we did have a lot in common as to what we wanted out of someone and we were able to laugh and just be goofy often. We didn't fight unless we were about to part ways. Once we would part ways it would turn into world war 3 for not only us but mostly anyone else in our war path. Others were easily entangled in our dramatics for some reason. She did help give me a sense of practicality while helping bring out my sensitivity that I didn't like to show often. I helped being her out of her shell and meet and socialize with groups. We always felt the need to show one another off and I think that made both of us very happy. She did cheat once when we were 18 but she felt so guilty she didn't tell me she just left and then came back several months later owning up to it and was such a mess. I knew about it but never spoke of it with her until then. Her critism was hard sometimes coming from a libra perspective. But I knew better than to ever criticize her as I avoid conflict and that would always cause a very big conflict. She wasn't real good at resolving issues she was more of a runner but that improved with maturity. I had a problem of telling her what she wanted to hear but that also improved with maturity. She started to express a need for more criticism and that made me feel more comfortable Putin my two sense in at times. I will say that we went through hell and back together from youth and high school and college and partying and drugs and jobs and break ups to where we are now is just incredible. We are 22 and both very clean and happy people who are not together but who can forget their first love? We still make time to spend together often and I recently moved an hour and a half away and she will call me and text me regularly she will always be my best friend and I owe her a million thank yous for things she has taught me. When we are on good terms we are a power house like were so dynamic we can do anything and I think that's the most important thing to say about a Virgo and Libra bond of any sort is how incredibly dynamic these two work together. They can build a city from the ground or burn one down. That's for sure! :)

angel on November 22, 2012:

hi im vergo female born15th sep and my wife is libra born oct4th..me and my wife argue a lot and dont gets 1other's thoughts,but inside of myheart and inside of her heart we connect and very compatible-even thought me and my wife is apart for now,the realatioship we have is strong and in agood derection,soon me and my wife will finaly buy our dream house and never be apart again--2day is my mife and i 4th year anniversary,stronger than ever-(iruletheworld)thnks 4ur opinion bout libras and virgos,ill say ill accept 90% of ur opinions bout virgos character,keep doing the great job

gremlin on September 29, 2012:

This is great. It's like you literally copied every thought of mine and summed it up for me on here. I am a libra in love with a virgo. I could not believe what I read. Everything was well said. Thank you ha...

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on September 11, 2012:

this what a great idea for a hub and you pulled it off good job

Punkeebe on April 04, 2012:

I am a Virgo and my girl is a Libra. I adore her. Like most Virgo-Libra relationships I've read about, we argue often - but making up is great! We're both laid back people but she's a bit of hot head. She goes from 1-10 in seconds (she blames my nonchalance!). True, we are very different in nature but oddly enough, I've never met anyone more compatible for me.

Kirsti on March 15, 2012:

Goddamnit. I am a 12th house Leo sun. Where are my capricorns, scorpios, aquarius or pisces/aries-cusp at? Sigh.

i-Starallen on February 29, 2012:

Ok, ok!!! Geez ladies lay off the Virgo Negative traits. Y'all no we cant take it LOL!!! Ill admit that these traits are true to a degree.Cold??? Never! We are extremly emotional under the surface...Honestly cant say that we are dramatic though. I think however that virgo's learn early in life that feelings are messy, passing things and once the dust has settled logic rules most. Plus, we HAAAAAAAAAATE being embarressed!!! As Virgo, our whole point is to make situations and operations(even the emotional ones)run as smoothly as possible.We make it our buisness to worry about ALL contingecies so that our partner, friends, family, ect. wont have to(in response to: the problem is that they focus on all of the small issues rather than the bigger picture). We love with our head first and heart later(security issue).

Virgoan on November 04, 2010:

hi i ruletheworld

This is quite a freaky thing ive read on here, im a girl who is a virgo born on the 19th of september and have an ex girlfriend who is born on the 14th of october.

We parted ways but then have been back in contact for the last few months..id like to know with you and your wife, out of a 10 what would you rate your relationship? and is it worth the bad times? do you see yourself lasting? bcos there is a lot you've written that seems abit negative and im sorry to say if it has offended you. Im just really interested, bcos i do still love her and like to know is the happiness worth more than the bad?

Lydia on August 24, 2010:

You sound like a cocky bitch to me. There are no cusps my ass, you obviously have very little knowledge of what you speak of. I was born on Sept. 20 and I have equal traits (if not more Libra) from both sides.

PS You don't rule the world..

iruletheworld (author) on July 10, 2010:

Thanks! & Thanks for taking the time to read this. =) High five to your girlfriend! Lol my Wife was kind of mad when she read a little of what I wrote about virgos but its true so I didn't know what to say. She knows I love her though... what is your gf's sign?

India Arnold from Northern, California on July 09, 2010:

I am a virgo and I find much of this to be a stretch, however my girlfriend thinks you have hit the nail on the head. I did find the hub entertaining and actually has some cool attributes. I think you have done a really wonderful job here, and that's saying a lot (refer back to first four words in this comment).

~Always choose love~

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