INTP + ESFJ Compatibility
Generally speaking, the NT and SJ temperaments do not mix well together. While SJs are interested in security and tradition, NTs strive for completely different things: innovation, change and challenge.
This is especially true for this case, because INTP is the opposite personality to the ESFJ, all the letters are different. Also, all the cognitive functions are in different priorities. ESFJs have dominant extroverted feeling (Fe), while INTPs have inferior Fe. INTPs have dominant introverted thinking (Ti) while ESFJs have inferior Ti. This means that both persons will have to make a real effort to understand each others position, and that's not a very good starting ground for a relationship. Relationships should be as effortless as possible.
Why these two personality types clash:
- INTPs usually don't place a lot of value on tradition and social expectations, while ESFJs live for it
- ESFJs don't care a lot for intellectualism, ideals or big ideas, and that can be a disappointment for an INTP
- ESFJs don't usually like theorizing and big picture thinking, also a disappointment for the INTP
- INTPs might seem too cold and lifeless to the ESFJ
This, however, does not mean that all INTPs are incompatible with all ESFJs. That would be too ignorant and inconsiderate to say because two well developed individuals of ANY type can get along if they want to.