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How to Tell If an INFJ Likes You

Andrea loves to write about the zodiac and research astrological compatibility. She's been an online writer for over five years.

The INFJ Myers-Briggs personality type is one of the most complicated, mysterious, and alluring when it comes to romance. They honestly have a hard time understanding why you can't tell that they like you because they feel like a bursting volcano, but all of that is below the surface. The introverted, intuitive, feeler, and judger may display romantic feelings for someone in their life in the following ways.

An INFJ can be hard to read at times, so read on to find out how you can tell that this Myers-Briggs type is into you.

An INFJ can be hard to read at times, so read on to find out how you can tell that this Myers-Briggs type is into you.

Signs That an INFJ Is Into You

  • An INFJ is hard to read oftentimes because they're modest, slow to move, and yet engaging, charming, and smart. If an INFJ keeps prompting conversations with and always replies to what you say, they're trying to keep it consistent.
  • An INFJ will dress up a little more. This may be hard to tell because an INFJ already has good upkeep of themselves. They may improve their hair, skin, weight, buy a new outfit, etc.
  • An INFJ will struggle with butterflies in their stomach. They might not admit that to you, but if they seem emotionally broad if you spend one-on-one time with them, that's a hint.
  • An INFJ will like it when you touch them. If they touch you, that's a big sign. If you turn them down early on for touching you, they may never approach you again. They're hypersensitive to touch and personal space.
  • The INFJ will linger. In fact, that's probably the biggest clue. They know they've got places and people to see, but if they linger around you long enough maybe you'll ask them out or offer a way to spend more time with them. I believe the INFJ is a professional at lingering. If they never linger, then you're probably not on their radar.
  • If you receive a gigantic, long, well-written text message, you've gotten in their brain bad. They're probably humiliated that they sent such a beast. Regardless of the content, what they're trying to say is "I am enthralled by you... and have so many thoughts right now."
  • If they like you, the INFJ will have giant-sized eyes when they stare at you. If they're really attracted to someone, their whole face opens up.
  • The INFJ is secretive and on top of things. It's kind of like playing chess with someone who already knows how the game ends, except they don't know how to communicate it, and they don't want to creep you out with all the stalking they've done. If they like you, they'll probably spam your Facebook or email with genuinely interesting links, videos, sentences, etc.
  • The INFJ will let you in on their inner world if they like you. They want to make sure that you won't just accept them for their outer qualities, but also for their inner ones, which are pure weird fluid imagination droplets. If they're letting you read their writing, hear their songs, and so forth, they probably like you.
  • Occasionally, a bold INFJ will walk right up to you and tell you they like you. They're tired of waiting for you to get everything together, and they've probably been waiting for a while anyway.
  • An INFJ will do things for you like bake you things, clean your house, study with you—they're good at acts of service. It doesn't feel too clingy or weird to them.
  • An INFJ will spend a god awful amount of time with you one-on-one. They'll easily stay with you till the sunrises if they like you.
  • An INFJ will let you in on personal details, like what they screwed up or what's happening with their family. Deep stuff that they wouldn't share with just anybody.
  • An INFJ will try to find ways to be around when you around. They'll try to figure out your schedule, and then do that lingering thing they love to do.
  • An INFJ is likely to write a long, handwritten letter.
  • In love, an INFJ will want to have an immersive, powerful relationship. They want to spend time with you, pontificate ideas, and probably won't care about material things. They can have very simple or spontaneous dates.
  • If an INFJ is relaying personal information from their childhood, they're hooked on you.
  • An INFJ may have sudden bursts of laughter, humor, and random singing, noises, and emotions when they are with someone they like. They feel more open around them.
  • An INFJ acts differently around those they like. They feel like it's okay to be more open around them and less to themselves.
  • If they're comfortable enough to tell dirty jokes, this can go one of two ways. They may only see you as a friend, or they may really, super, out-of-control like you. Either way, you're close.

INFJ Physical Touch Cues

  • They grab your hand out of nowhere.
  • They really, really want to dance with you.
  • Having the need to sit right next to you.
  • Again... lingering.
  • Touching their hair or face a lot, smiling, and their eyes being super wide.
  • Plopping their head on you, like your shoulder or back.
  • Lots of facial expressions.
  • Prolonged waiting for a hug.
  • Intense staring.
  • Staying in close proximity to you.

INFJ Emotional Cues

  • An INFJ loses their mind when they latch onto someone emotionally, but it doesn't go anywhere for too long. You might start seeing some complex behavior, like not knowing when to greet you or overabundantly showering you with praise. They're essentially stuck and unsure what to do next. Try to help them out with this limbo by being reassuring. They need to really know you have affections for them.
  • The INFJ is a loyal personality who tends to be monogamous. It's really intense for them to be stuck on one person, but it naturally what they'll do. The idea of being disloyal is really hard for an INFJ. Something strange is going on if the INFJ is disloyal.
  • The INFJ is bound to have a number of friends from several walks of life. This doesn't mean that they're trying to make you jealous, have you compete against suitors, etc. They like spending time with people even though they're introverted. If seeing someone talk to lots of people and it makes you jealous, the INFJ might be a poor pick for you. The INFJ is loyal to the core to their romantic partner, but they need to have other friends, not romantic interests, friends.
  • The INFJ is doing what they can to downplay themselves. They don't want to be overly clingy, and I think they fear being clingy because the energy they have inside is rambunctious. They don't want to scare you.
  • The INFJ isn't super fond of pointless arguments. It wears them out. They want to converse openly and explore ideas, not feel as though an option must be forced and is the only way.
  • The INFJ doesn't like being too practical or down to earth. They want someone that they can explore their weird, imaginative side with. They like someone who is creative, musical, artsy, and philosophical. They worry that if you don't plunge into weirdness with them, then you won't actually truly accept them.
  • An INFJ will overwhelm themselves if they have too much social interaction. If they're hopping from party to party and million other functions—they'll eventually shutdown. If they're really craving space to themselves, let them have it. If you try to pressure them into a conversation when they want to collapse, you'll just make them grumpy.
  • An INFJ when they like someone hardcore may overt eye contact and fiddle with nearby objects to distract themselves. Engage in conversation with them, and this social awkwardness will die down. They're just nervous and trying to get over the nerves and be cool.
  • A talkative INFJ is a good sign. If all they're doing is being quiet, then they might not feel comfortable to share themselves.
  • An INFJ may have sudden bouts of being forward. This personality has a lot of energy, and in the right setting, with the right person, they lose their fears and just go for it.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2015 Andrea Lawrence

Comments

Poppy on August 28, 2020:

As an INFJ female- this is spot on!

Morghan on March 04, 2020:

I was nodding along until I hit the "flood your inbox with random links" and then I just had to laugh. I didnt even realize I did it until I saw the words and flashed back to crushes/exes. Youve done your homework for sure! LOL

James L Weerts on February 02, 2020:

As an aging boomer INFJ, a couple of things:

1. If I am interested in someone I begin by flirting with eye contact, something I have been doing all the way back to childhood.

2. The lingering sometimes feels almost like stalking.

petra on January 02, 2020:

if you tell infj your in love with them, can they be scare and walk away

Rachel yepthomi on August 21, 2019:

@andrea Lawrence

Straight up lemme tell ya;

I'm an INFJ

Every single word described me

Every single word made sense.

.. I've got a crush on you now

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2019:

Oh, the lingering. It is a cardinal action of the INFJ.

Caroline Flanigan on July 06, 2019:

This is soo me!

Especially the lingering... Pretending I forgot something just to check if my crush is still there

Kate on June 27, 2019:

Do u think that its possible for 2 Infj-T 's to have a long lasting relationship?

Ally on April 02, 2019:

this is so me...

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 09, 2019:

I probably studied too much.

Alanna on January 06, 2019:

I'm sitting here like, "how the hell does he know all of this?!! HE KNOWS"

Rob on December 17, 2018:

As an INTJ, I can say that we won't notice the subtle lingering thing... We want directness. You don't have to straight up say it, if you're not comfortable in doing so, but try to be a little more forward. Otherwise, I'll have absolutely no idea. For us, it's pretty simple: If we're interested, we talk with you. Showing you any kind of attention is a huge indicator that we really like you. We don't waste our time on social interaction that won't be productive or fruitful, ever.

Anna on November 03, 2018:

Omggg... This is so me. Also one thing I do when I like someone: I never flirt. I just stare. all. the. time. Across the room/whatever. And if they notice I might hold that gaze for a bit before I look away.. if i'm not too shy lol.

And the lingering.. I ALWAYS find a lame excuse to hang around for a bit longer if we are in the same place. OR I leave and then come back a couple of minutes later pretending to look for something when I'm really just checking to see if the person I like is still there.

To me it feels like I have it written all over my face if I'm really into someone. On the surface I might look normal but under the surface I'm all like "I'M DYING WITH EMOTIONS!"

Akani-chan on September 23, 2018:

Omg...

That's pretty amazing and describing exactly how I'm into someone!

I really appreciate everything you did to write this masterpiece in a way that is understandable!...

because I haven't yet been able to understand myself enough to write all those essential details !!

Thank you from the depths ^^

Have a nice day~

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 13, 2018:

Why thank you.

José on September 13, 2018:

Spot on!

Nika on June 11, 2018:

This is so spot on. Why do we have to be such weirdos lmao. But I love it, it's just that others don't understand us.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on June 07, 2018:

Thank you. I always like hearing this.

Rene on June 03, 2018:

I've read a lot of things on us INFJ's and this is one of the best...its spot on, every single one. I love it!

Yaka on May 23, 2018:

Wow, you understand us so well, that I'm having to keep myself from being weird and asking you to be my friend ;)

That lingering thing... gosh.... so guilty of it!

INFJA on May 09, 2018:

With out knowing the details, could you theorize generallt why/how an ESFP and INFJ could have an extremley strong and long lasting connection that ends badly?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 05, 2018:

Yes, if they do not have intuition -- you might be really confusing them. A psychic connection is what you want, so hopefully you can find someone that grabs you in that emotional space.

Btwitsjennifer on March 19, 2018:

That damn lingering. I laughed out loud on that one because I find myself apologizing to men for being so awkward at goodbyes. It is so true! If I want something, I’ll never ask. I just want to give them enough time and a chance to “know” or decide that they want something and I always hope it’s the same thing I want. I usually give that long “Oooooohkay, well....” (some kind of body language movement here) “...I guess I’ll go.”(pause and look at them, look around, or slowly gather my things) “I know you have a lot to do tomorrow.” (acting cool up to this point and then taking off into my final linger that is heartfelt and usually tries to tap into their emotions) “And hey......” (gaze)....... “I *really* enjoyed your company. I appreciate you listening to me ramble about the stuff that matters to me.” (Continue gaze here hoping I can telepathically get them to say what I want to hear) Ha ha! And then awkwardly walk out the door. Critically analyzing all the way back to my car.

Julia on March 02, 2018:

@INFJM

Thank you so much! That is such helpful information and insight! I really appreciate it :)

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 02, 2018:

I think INFJ will more or less go by a vibe. If they have a good vibe with someone, they're likely to keep in connection. If they're not getting a good vibe, they might add distance.

INFJM on March 01, 2018:

@Julie Speaking from my own experiences as an INFJ dude here.

I don't think an INFJ will overtly flirt with you until they have a solid grasp of your feelings. Good signs are that they're communicating with you in the first place! They'll have a put a lot of thought into that, believe me...

Look for detail and consistency in messages.

A lot of this also depends on how well socialised and mature in their functions an INFJ is.

If they're not interested in you romantically, they likely wouldn't be texting you unless you were a friend, or they had to for some other reason. I think an INFJ is quick to remove the possibility of mistaken communication or hurt feelings.

Also worth bearing in mind is that an INFJ will monitor whoever comes into their social circle and perform a values/character check. It's unlikely that they'll have allowed contact with a person to progress into having their phone number, if they hadn't consciously allowed some entry into their relationship/personal sphere.

I think that overt flirting will only ever happen if they're sure that their feelings are reciprocated in some way, or they go bonkers. it might be worth fishing and upping your level of communication a notch and seeing how they respond.

Without knowledge of the social context, it's difficult to comment appropriately.

Above all, be genuine; infj won't just text on a whim unless you're already friends, there will have been consideration!

Oh, and if they make suggestions to meet; that's a pretty big sign.

Good luck!

Julia on February 21, 2018:

What are the top signs an INFJ is flirting via text? Is there anything in particular I should be looking for that indicates interest?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 02, 2018:

I always enjoying getting responses like this. Don't worry, you are here on this planet, you have a purpose, and you are loved.

Davina on February 02, 2018:

to sarah

it's very easy cuz we're like hyper-super sensitive just show them any hint of disinterest or show them that you hate the things they love and BINGO .. i hope you find this helpful .

not to meddle in your personal life ( and of course you have your reasons) but i think that's very hard for them that they found someone to open up to , i know your feeling it's troublesome for you too to have one-sided relationship. Sorry again

Davina on February 02, 2018:

GOD THIS IS MY HEAVEN! thank you so much i didn't know if there is actually someone who can enter my mind like that

Shahed on January 15, 2018:

Im an infj I feel like my heart is gonna explode i have many emotions that i cant express .. whenever i tell my family about this they make fun of me... though i was depressed before

Sarah on January 12, 2018:

And what to do if INFJ supposedly likes you and you want to make them stop [as INTP]?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:

INFJ and INTJ could easily be in a standstill when it comes to romance. I suggest one of the following as a hangout:

1. A board game

2. Getting coffee

3. Going to a bookstore

4. Playing frisbee or something at a park

5. Going to a movie

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:

Considering being interested in? Ah, either the heart is interested or the heart is not interested. You can't consider it; it is what it is. At least, that seems to be the way romance works.

It may take a long time for an INFJ and INTJ to finally express interest to each other.

leesh on December 30, 2017:

To Lady s.

I am an INFJ and I have recently lost contact with someone i really liked because I was too scared to make the first move, I personally would prefer someone to just say: I really like you do you want to hang out. As long as you know what you’re walking into and understand we are a bit weird and shy and crazy all at once it’s should be fine, we love deep conversations, if you are talking to them late at night or the are telling you little things about their past then you stand a chance.

Lady S. on December 25, 2017:

Well this was interesting. I am an INTJ, and there is an INFJ who I'm considering being interested in. He is a wonderful person, but I have no idea if he's remotely interested in me. After reading this and then seeing that ALL the INFJs felt this perfectly described them, I can see why I have no idea. Even if he lingered for hours, I wouldn't have a clue. I don't do subtle at all.

So, I'm just throwing this out there, if you're into an INTJ, it is perfectly okay to straight up tell them. I cannot speak for all INTJs, but even if I didn't like a guy and he expressed interest, I would be very respectful and I wouldn't share the occurrence with others.

Somebody on November 18, 2017:

When these understand you more than anyone else ever did.... and the lingering part, for sure lol

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 16, 2017:

Give yourself some room for positivity. There are people in this world you'll connect with and who jive with you. Don't give up!

A Boy on November 12, 2017:

This is me word for word and yet no one gets me. I swear no one care or likes me.

Sweet on November 08, 2017:

Talks a lot about me.

Laurell on October 27, 2017:

Freakishly true. I laughed out loud cause I'm such a lingerer. Lol

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 18, 2017:

Glad to be of help!

Mario on October 17, 2017:

I was trying to read up on my personality for the 7th time but this page just had me smiling the whole time because its so right. The lingering thing, so true.

Joyce Garcia on October 08, 2017:

Yep. That's me when I'm inlove. Down to the last item. I'm a classic INFJ.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 22, 2017:

Yes, INFJ is a mystery I do like to crack. :)

The INFJ that is entering a random name... on September 21, 2017:

Wow, I'm an INJF, and I've been chasing this girl (she's an INTJ) around for three years! (Not literally, that would be really exausting...) But as I read this, it was as if I was reading a biography about myself! This is exactly what I do to her! I kinda feel bad for her know... I follow her CONSTANTLY, I when we email, I always end my email by bringing up a new topic to prolong the conversation, I always want to sit next to her, touch her, and hold her hand, but I'm always so worried. I always dress nice, ironed button-up shirt, un-torn jeans, but when I'm going to be with her, I wear my best shirt, (one that she's complimented before, also), I'm always 110% more worried about the meaning of things than the material object behind it, I tell smart-ish jokes that always end up sounding dorky. I always start random conversations with her, like talking about Studio C, (a comedy series of short sketches on YouTube, that we both watch a lot), and yeah, I talk too much, like I am now... Also, I LOVE spending an evening with good friends just hanging out, but after about 3-4 hours, I half to be alone, or I explode, (again, not literally). Well, yeah. That's it. =)

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 16, 2017:

Huzzah! Glad it resonates.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 16, 2017:

Thank you so much! I love when people connect with what I write and also share it with their friends.

madi on September 14, 2017:

this is exactly meeee!

Francesca on September 12, 2017:

I sent this to a dear friend in hopes they would understand my love language, as well as all the letters and lingering LOL! Thank you for taking the time to write this out, it's perfect!

Tara on September 06, 2017:

Omigosh ha! Sounds like me.. Neato ;)

Jules on August 29, 2017:

This describes me perfectly.

Matthew on August 18, 2017:

You just spilled my whole freaking life...

I really hate whoever wrote this right now. (Not seriously lol)

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on August 17, 2017:

I'm glad you enjoy my work! Do keep reading it and spread the word!

Letty on August 17, 2017:

I love reading your articles, it makes my day. Every time ! congratulations you nails it again !

Missbulle on August 11, 2017:

Oh my...

This is me, right now, with that bloody INTJ! ;P Except for 39. If I'm quiet but smiling like a fool, I'm probably just thinking "OhmygodI'msohappyrightnowthisisaperfectmoment!"

I'm the exact type of perfectly navigating people's mind on a daily basis, but loosing my brain completely when I'm smitten. And the lingering part... Don't get me started on how many trips I'm doing to the coffee machine!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on August 06, 2017:

Don't worry, Frodo! You'll still make it to Mount Doom.

Frodo on August 05, 2017:

Another excelent article. I feel so exposed right now :p Thank you!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2017:

Thank you! Hugs right back to you.

Ann Barrass on July 22, 2017:

wow i cant stop reading this, A big thank you to the Author, It has me down to a T. I also have a close male friend who is a ENFP and it has told me what i always knew ... I like being a INFJ it makes me feel very special.. Hugs to the Author..

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 16, 2017:

Excellent! I would love to share more of my thoughts on MBTI. The better you can navigate through the theory, the better you can approach things in life... at least that is what I have found.

Anna on July 15, 2017:

I just found your writings and am very impressed! Your really seem to have a gift for understanding the MBTI and expressing it well. I am still in shock how well this describes my INFJ self. Thank you for your great work in this area! It is helping me navigate my dating life :)

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 11, 2017:

I 100% agree with the picture taking. That's a big step for an INFJ type.

Actually, I agree with everything you are saying here.

Dawne on July 10, 2017:

Oh my my... incredibly accurate! I'm not sure whether to be fascinated or oddly disturbed that you cracked our INFJ code. A pleasant mixture of both. We're pretty happy to be understood. :-)

One more thing (if I could) I would add... if an INFJ sends pictures of herself to her love interest, she is REALLY investing and taking a risk. We're private creatures (especially in our safe space like home) and don't want to be forward or revealing; especially in the beginning. We're not stingy about pictures... it's just... well, if they aren't perfect it bothers us, and we reveal slowwwwwly... so don't pressure us for pics (even though you send a ton of your own which we find amusing and entertaining... but do know that we are secretly analyzing every single detail of that photo... compiling the data for our next question ;). Still, though you may be so open... so out there so soon with personal photos... doesn't mean we INFJs will be. Please don't take it personally, or that we're not interested. We just have to get more comfortable and know if we can trust you. Pictures are almost like opening our front door wide open, and saying "come right in!". It takes time and patience. A little bit here, a little bit there...

Kimy on June 22, 2017:

Oh my God!!! You have just described all my moves!!! Hahaha

Kimberly on June 04, 2017:

Love this :).... you nailed it!

Lori on May 31, 2017:

Like most people who have commented ,I too have found this accurate. Being in my forties I still find not many people get me & feel displaced sometimes. As for the weird thing, I can't tell you how many times I have been called that. But I'm cool with it. Thanks for the insight. Enjoyed the read!!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 20, 2017:

Share and share alike!

Ruby on May 19, 2017:

So accurate. Wish all my friends would see this.

Mia on May 11, 2017:

Jesus this is me, I feel so goofy right now hehe.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 17, 2017:

Glad to know this is accurate!

Robert on April 15, 2017:

Wow, I did t even realize how much I do these things. I LINGER so much. Even just to see their face or say hi I'll linger for an extra 15 minutes. This is crazy accurate

Elise on March 05, 2017:

So accurate it's scary. I'm just laughing at myself right now for being such a creep

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 04, 2017:

Thank you. It's nice to know these hubs are helpful.

Austin on March 03, 2017:

its so good to feel understood cuz it doesnt really happen a lot with me , who ever wrote this is amazing

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 16, 2016:

Maybe one day you will!

Naiha on November 14, 2016:

I wish I'd find the perfect INFJ for me!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 28, 2016:

Glad you have found your home. ;)

INFJ-Guy on October 26, 2016:

This article is so accurate. I felt like I never fit in anywhere. Finally something is beginning to make sense. :-)

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 10, 2016:

INFJ can handle you! It'll weird an INFJ out if you become inconsistent. You can always ask if you are smothering her, but -- being inconsistent with the connection will make her think you are not fully interested. It is much easier to handle and work out smothering problems. ;)

Chris Chiusa ENFP on October 08, 2016:

Hey Andrea, this is so informative, really liked this. Made me crack up so many times.

For really complicated reasons things between me and an INFJ in High School didn't work out, and I thought I would never find one again because they're so rare. But fast forward just two more years, I'm now a sophomore at a community college. I met this girl at school and instantly became attracted to her. Just a few minutes of talking to her and I already can tell that she's an INFJ hahah

So far it's going alright, I'm just afraid of smothering her in the way that ENFPs sadly tend to doing. This article helps though. Thanks!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 05, 2016:

@ankhtur

If you're an ENFP just talking to her will have chemistry to it. INFJ is a fan of seeing your personality go on the spontaneous side. They like to jump on board with that. INFJ can really pick out a strong connection, so be consistent with her. Good luck!

ENFP on September 05, 2016:

@Ankhtur Just be yourself! I'm in the same exact boat as you. In fact, I had no idea I was an ENFP until I started talking to her. In one of her online BIOs it said "INFJ" and I inquired what it meant. I soon looked into it, and discovered my own personality type. This was almost 8 months ago and we've grown very close, despite being clear across the planet from each other. (I'm an American, she's German). All I can say is don't make personality traits the reason you talk, just talk to her to talk to her. That's what's worked for me thus far.

Ankhtur on September 03, 2016:

Thank you for this amazing broken down navigation to how to approach someone certain someone I truly attracted to. Searching for his :D. Another question, I'm personally an ENFP and I kinda know this INFJ girl. Could use please give some sense of direction how to approach her through online? or anyway? mostly online.

imukanda@yahoo.com on May 31, 2016:

So precise, totally love it!!!

ENFP on May 27, 2016:

I certainly hope so! The distance between us really doesn't seem to bother either of us too. And even if she doesn't feel the same way I do; I feel blessed just knowing her ^^

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 25, 2016:

@ENFP

INFJ can't help but like ENFP. This sounds really sweet. I hope the best for you! I'm sure one way or another you are a positive person in her life.

ENFP on May 24, 2016:

Reading this, and being on the recieving end of some of these I can say I feel they are accurate as well! I've been communicating with an INFJ in Germany for a number of months now. Most things say we're an ideal match, and I personally feel all that has been states here is accurate. Being on the recieving end anyway.

Because of the time difference we're not in constant communication, but in the way she messages me, I can tell I make her a little nervous.

She's an artist, and has let me view a lot of her old images that she considers private, she's let me in on her childhood past, etc.

We've got T-O-N-S in common. From hobbies, to favorite shows and music, and a lot of other deeper things too.

I hope I'm not reading too deeply into it, but I personally am completely enthralled by her.

Kaitlan on February 22, 2016:

Thank you so much!!!! That helped like a lot. I'm much calmer now, I memorized that comment and I think of it often. ☺️

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 20, 2016:

@INFJ

And there will be much more to learn! That's awesome that you're getting into Myers Briggs so early.

INFJ on February 20, 2016:

Yeah, I think this is really accurate too. I am a 14 year old INFJ that found the test by chance and I know that I want to be a counselor. Have for about a year now. I think that it's good that I found those four letters now instead of later, because I've been trying to figure myself out for years.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 20, 2016:

@Kaitlan

I think the best love advice for an INFJ is to stay calm. Don't build it too much in your head. Keep it relaxed and love will come naturally for you. You deserve a happy romance, the more you believe that and ease into it, the easier things will get.

Kaitlan on February 18, 2016:

I am SO FRUSTRATED with the butterflies. It is affecting my friendships because I'm always looking for that "soulmate". As of now her name is Olivia, no I don't have a crush on her, I just... Love her

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 13, 2016:

@Kaitlan

The butterflies are the worst. They can really ruin a good budding romance. That's gotten better as I've gotten older.

Kaitlan on February 13, 2016:

I love you more ☺️, this will help my friends understand my weird actions. I do get very frustrated because I tell myself to stop gazing at people, but my eyes tend to not obey. And the butterflies? Don't even get me started.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 09, 2016:

@Kaitlan

I love you too! It's nice to know the feeling is mutual... when it comes to INFJ's that is.

Kaitlan on February 08, 2016:

This is SO acurate!!! I'm like cracking up right now because I do these things ALL the time. Whoever wrote this I love you ☺️

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