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Virgos Can Be Problematic, but They're Worth It
Are you totally confused about how to behave around a Virgo? Virgos are not always easy, thanks to some of their infamous characteristics. They can be overly critical, demanding, and overbearingly introverted, and they tend to give their criticism at all the wrong times.
Why Are Virgos So Difficult Sometimes?
Virgos are one of the few zodiac signs who are difficult to get along with. They take their time in analyzing and trusting people, which can leave their pursuers or partners feeling emotionally dejected. But if you really want to get on a Virgo's good side, you can do so by keeping few points in mind.
Trust me, once you get their affection, a Virgos would literally die for you—they're that loyal! Here are some tips if you have a Virgo friend or partner whom you're looking to impress.
How to Get on a Virgo's Good Side
Before you can fully understand a Virgo, you need to know the following:
1. Virgos are critical, yes, but it is mostly for your own good!
Virgos don't generally give you advice if you don't need it. They may point out your shortcomings more openly than other people. Think of a Virgo as a personality development center and take it in the right spirit—this makes it much easier.
Virgos absolutely love it when you listen to them. This might be why they are considered "dominating." But this does not mean that it is their way or the highway. You can quietly turn them down, and they will understand your point of view sooner or later. Give a Virgo some time to analyze the situation, and they will understand your opinion, taking their own sweet time in doing so. Just give them some time!
2. When a Virgo gets stressed insisting on perfection, calm them down!
Virgos tend to be perfectionists. I say "tend to be" because they are not always perfect, even if they strive to be. In this effort to achieve perfection, they may neglect you, or they might even neglect themselves. In such situations, tell them that perfection is not always possible—what they are doing is already perfect enough.
3. Virgos are shy at first, but when they trust you, they let go!
It is difficult for a Virgo to trust anyone. First, they judge you incessantly, scanning you from head to toe. They'll form their own private reporting system where you are given grades for literally everything, including the way you talk, walk, present yourself, your grammar, or your diction—the list is endless. Once they start feeling more comfortable around you, they let go and become more talkative. If you break that trust, they'll put up their walls once more.
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If you feel that your Virgo is too introverted, try making them more comfortable, and avoid asking why they're so withdrawn. This question only tends to make them more withdrawn.
4. Always respect a Virgo's opinion.
You might never agree with what a Virgo says, but the least you can do is respect his or her viewpoint. As a perfectionist, a Virgo thinks that their ideas are the best, and they can be a bit narrow-minded when it comes to changing their thought process. If you rudely and insensitively dismiss a Virgo's suggestions, you are at risk of getting on their bad side.
Remember, they are the "forgive but never forget" types. They will, now and then, passive-aggressively bring up those points—more so if you have hurt them—so deal with them sensitively. Virgos generally hate people who are tactless.
5. Bring stability into the picture.
Having no goal or ambition is a big turn off for a Virgo. In order to impress a Virgo, you need to have a clear view of where you are heading. You should have it all mapped out. If you ask a Virgo about their goals, they will be able to tell you about how they intend to pursue these very goals—they'll even draw you a flowchart about it. Be financially stable and be a rock at what you do, and there you go—you'll have your Virgo's attention.
This does not necessarily mean that a Virgo is money-minded. They just like it when people think on the same wavelength as they do and give importance to the same things. Virgos are automatically attracted to people who work hard in achieving their goals and are career oriented.
6. Virgos are not into casual relationships
Virgos would rather not date at all than be in a casual relationship. They like to be in a committed relationship. So if you are just looking for some fun, you might be heading in the wrong direction. On the other hand, offer them your full-fledged devotion, and you will, in return, get the same.
If you are ready to handle a Virgo and their challenging elements, then go right ahead. I have seen some people put up with a Virgo's traits poorly, whereas some others have the most peaceful relationship ever, probably because they dedicated quality time to understanding each other.
Knowing someone's sun sign doesn't always help you strengthen your relationship, but knowing their essential characteristics can still help. You can then mold your personality to suit one another's needs and have a long, successful relationship.
What a Virgo Can Do to Strengthen Their Relationships
- Limit your criticisms as much as you can. Not everyone appreciates it! Give your opinion only when it is asked for—this way you can prevent any major tiffs.
- Compliment your loved ones whenever possible. It might be difficult for you to compliment someone casually, but who knows—your near and dear ones might really need to hear it.
- You don't always have to achieve perfection! Do your best in everything, but don't over-stress yourself trying to achieve perfect results. You'll be doing yourself more harm than good.
- Listen to others. You might not always be right, even if you think you are. Take time to understand the other person's viewpoint.
Questions & Answers
Question: My Virgo man seems narcissistic. Is that a trait of the sign?
Answer: Any zodiac sign can be narcissistic. My ex was a Leo and he was narcissistic as well.