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How to Date a Libra Man If You Are a Libra Woman

Picture this: You are a love goddess, and he is a love god. Generally, you are a physically attractive couple and both of you appreciate the finest music, food, art, and conversation that life has to offer. On the surface, this appears to be a match made in zodiac heaven; however, with the numerous similarities in this astrological pairing you may find the two of you are too much alike. With that said, the Libra man and Libra woman are the lovers of the zodiac and could make a beautiful romance as long as you are willing to acknowledge your similarities and compromise on a few things.

  1. Recognize & Acknowledge Similarities. It is best to acknowledge your similarities up front in the relationship – especially if there are any negative similarities. This will alleviate your mate being caught off guard later on in the relationship when he finds out you are lacking qualities that he wants in a woman. Both partners will be sophisticated, have a refined taste, have a love of the finer things in life, and enjoy debating. Libra men may come across as needing more time and attention than the average guy. As a Libra woman, you may have a similar quality. It is best to acknowledge this and figure out ways to work around it. Solicit help from other friends and family, rather than asking your male Libra. Generally, attempt to keep your requests to your Libra mate to a minimum. Otherwise, your partner may start to feel inadequate if you are always asking for things that he is not accustomed to providing.
  2. Be a Partner. The Libra male is always looking for a partner. As the Libra woman you should strive to view your relationship as a two-person team. All decisions made for your home should be approached as you would a team and as you would your team mates. The Libra male can be very indecisive, and he will feel more secure and confident in his decisions if he has a teammate to help him make decisions. In a sense, the Libra male would almost prefer that his mate take the lead role in the relationship. From the very start of the relationship, if he is truly interested he ask you to accompany him to places and you would want him to do the same for you.
  3. Division of Labor. The Libra male likes to pamper his significant other by cooking for her, keeping the home clean, and waiting on her, but he will eventually expect you to return the favor.With the Libra male it’s all about balance – when he does something nice for you he doesn’t expect you to return the exact same favor; however, if he asks for your help or asks you to go out of your way for him, he will expect you to readily assist him as he has assisted you. Now, be aware that your turn to return the favor could last for a while. After he goes out of his way for you, it could take days, weeks, or months before he feels the two of you are back in balance. During this time period, the Libra male may appear to be lazy and irresponsible, but rest assured knowing that he can’t remain off balance for too long, and the scale will eventually tip back in your direction and give you a chance to relax. As a Libra woman this period of imbalance will affect you just as much as it affects him, but if this is the man you desire, give him some time to even out the scale again.
  4. Finances. Dealing with lavish spending will be an issue for the Libra male and Libra female couple. Libras are known for freely spending their hard earned money equally on others and themselves. The Libra male tends to be very generous with his money, spending freely on his mate, his family, and his close friends. If your Libra man has not learned the fine art of money management, you will have to take the reins. As a Libra woman, your financial decisions will be equally challenging. If your Libra mate is a lavish spender, you will have to be the one to curb your spending, and try to rein in his spending habits. You can make this suggestion to your mate, but only in a respectful and helpful way, otherwise the discussion could lead to conflict. You may have to be the one to compromise until he catches on. First off you will want him to trust your abilities to manage money, meaning you may have to take a course or two in financial management yourself. Once his trust is established, you can start to give him some tips and advice on money management that will benefit both of you.


libra@heart on August 07, 2019:

kim is so right this guy loves me one day hate me the next or will disappear or say some mean shit to me and it got me feeling like well what did I do wrong he got me feeling really different inside I know I love him because my heart saying it but maybe I'm just blinded I wish we would have work out but I will just leave him because its hurting me badd

Twana Gilles on January 13, 2019:

I'm a widow, and I have just started dating a libra man. I'm somewhat nervous about this. I'm also a libra. Our birthdays are two days apart. I've never been with a libra man. Ever!! He is the second man I've dated since my husband ( a Pisces) past away. The first was a Capricorn, and that was a disaster!! We already show a lot of the same traits, and I'm not sure if dating someone like me is going to work. I know how I am, but this is new territory for me. I know he likes me to make the decisions, and likes it when I'm straight forward. I'm glad I've found this site.

CoughDrop on August 08, 2018:

Specifics of this union are not like my marriage. My husband is a Libra; I'm a Libra. We're both very good with money and we witness our friends from all over the zodiac living the lavish lifestyle. We appreciate the security of our future. Individually, I have the taste for finer things where he still wears shirts he got for free at a conference 15 years ago. We are the ultimate partners, that is correct. He does not require a lot of attention, but gives it without expectation. He loves seeing me as the social butterfly while he hangs back and observes. He is a low maintenance, but deeply intimate partner. He has solid walls and doesn't bring them down unless you prove that he's safe with you. He is a beautiful creature who gives you space to be you - and not just me as his wife- but each of our friends as well.

For our relationship, I'd say this article/review/reading is mostly incorrect.

Raven on June 23, 2018:

Well Kim you are right about us libras we can be so still and silent with our master manipulative plans, but we can also be the most sweetest, caring person ever. I am so sorry for your bittersweet experience with one of my fellow libra's. I pray to god he heals your heart and replenishes your soul....

Kim on August 13, 2017:

Ok. It's been three years since my comment below. And I roncakes I wonder how you are? In just three years I've gotten a ten year education on personality disorders. While on here commenting I notice there's women who relate to my comments about my husband and his jerkiness. While other on here post comments that they get along great with their libra mate. I am very happy for those who do have a beautiful balance with their mate because a balance with another libra is truly a beautiful thing. It's true too that much care needs to be taken to protect it from outside influences because two libras happy is hard to miss. We draw people to us like magnets do metal. Sadly it pisses a lot of envious unhappy people off watching two people flow together not apart through life. You'll be attacked almost always needing to be on guard. Evil people are quite clever at their approach and libras tend to be very kind hearted. What you think is nothing is some getting set to step in and make havoc of your life. Two libra off balance at the same time as you might expect is so chaotic it takes a long time to regain balance. In mean time a lot of damage can be done. Friendships with other people when you are happy might surprise you as you won't even know who is secretly hating on you. Bottom line is set clear boundaries and stick to them. Both of you be aware of what you have together and never keep secrets from the other. Libras work best as a team.

Just know that in long term relationships with libra, word finally gets out you two are indeed a bonded couple, and people stop trying to get between you though it is still something you have to be watchful for.

Now about the rest of us libras with our knock our socks off prince charmings that create confusion and hurt and unhappiness for us? Yes it is abuse when they call us name, ignore us, gaslight us ( doing something like moving a chair to the corner of the room then saying they didn't do it or saying they didn't call you a bitch when they always call you a bitch. Always are moody and hurtful and we are left so confused even doubting our own sanity ( that's what they are aiming for) waking up looking at them and realizing that we don't know them anymore. If this is your life we'll, it's a huge red flag we really MUST PAY ATTENTION TO. Narcissist come packaged as libras, cancers, pieces, and so on. No zodiac sign is missed with this personality defect. It's not my web site but one that woke me up to what I was dealing with in my relationship three years ago. Please put your "likes" in for this article because it was good and our comments from it have open your eyes some. But go visit "ladywithatruck" and read what she talks about and come back here and tell us what you think. Tell me if I'm not right about narcissist and abuse. If you are with a libra partner and they hurt your feelings and the relationship has gone from love romance and you up in a pedestal to confusion, pain, you feeling like you must have done something wrong to make your mate suddenly feel this way about you there's a 99.9% chance you have a narcissist for a partner. You need to know now before you go any further what's up so you can understand it's not you it's them. Go read the blog I recommended. This type of relationship is happening more and more. Emotional abuse and gaslighting, crazy making,isolation. These are wolves in sheeps clothing. They are charming. Everyone loves them. That's because everyone doesn't live with them. They are 100% fake. They are master manipulators without conscience. There for they can be dangerous. The reason we get stuck in it so long is we just don't want to believe it. We can't get the picture of them they painted when we were being swept off our feet out of our heads. No one wants to think they were fooled by someone. But we were. By the best actors in the world too. One thing though I want to warn you about is they fear exposure. When you learn they are a narcissist DONT TELL THEM YOURE ON TO THEM. This is where it get dangerous. Just figure out a way to get money saved so you can make a clean break and you must go no contact. The abuse gets worse as time goes on. I hope this helped anyone here being victimized by their libra partner.... Even just one person would make me happy.

We need to help each other. I have been with my libra narcissist 25 years this December. I have a plan and I'm getting out. There's way more to all this but you need to read up on it. Peace!

nah holt on April 13, 2017:

its crazy because kim described my situation to a tea, its the beginning stages of our marriage but what she described is what i have gone through and can see it being an issue. im not that tough of a cookie though lol

libraness on June 08, 2014:

I find a libra +libra relationship rewarding.I think it is just like any other zodiac sign.It is about knowing your mate and how you handle compromising with your significant other. I find that when people are in a relationship they act as if they are in a relationship with themselves you cant expect your partner to know what you want you have to be able to communicate effectively male or female and sometimes that may require you changing your approach from the way you normally are use to doing things.My libra male requires attention but so do I.He likes to feel like a king and I like to feel like a queen. It doesn't mean that I am a submissive women to everything he do but I definitely can relate most women like to be pamper for their work they put in

Libracute on March 10, 2014:

Yes! It can be an amazing experience. I am a late libra almost scorpio cusp, (but not as verified by an astrologer/leap year). My libra man is my dream. I find we are perfect together. We have had just a few fights, but always resolved them peacefully and learned from the experience. We have friendly debates. libra males are very animated at times, i love his sense of humor. I am always laughing... it is a beautiful thing! go for it :) (we also have compatible aspects in our chart which i believe helps this mix) My sister and her husband are both libras too, and are married happily with a child.

Lindsay on January 17, 2014:

My bf is an Italian Libra male, I'm a Libra female. I'm not sure what number. But I agree 100% you have to be tuff when it's good its great when it's bad it's bad. He says very hurtful things and calls me names He said in Italy the woman is submissive to the man. I'm from Georgia and am a very strong Southern woman so submissive is not in my Vocabulary. I'm constantly nursing his ego so that he feels like "The Man". I would not recommend two Libras getting together. There other signs your more compatible with because you will find yourself working really hard and sooner or later you will ask your self "if something is this hard to do is it going to work" I'm emotional exhausted and have answered my own question's.

ironcakes on December 12, 2013:

@Sure2purr , My boyfriend and I are both Libras as well and when you said your husband handles battles like a total jerk and he says hurtful things....that's EXACTLY like my boyfriend...yes its emotionally abusive..i hate it..so i;ve learned to just keep quiet and not argue back because at that point he wants to feel like the ALPHA. lol sooo i let him. I am sooo glad I came to this site and im glad that I am not the only one whos partner is the same way. Its hard to be in a Libra and Libra relationship but its one of the top compatiblities.

kim masterson from southern CA on August 21, 2013:

my husband is a Libra born in late September. I'm born first part of Oct. A really great book to read that breaks down the signs even further is the Zodiac big book for Birthdays. There it tells you whether you're for example a Libra 1, Libra 2, or Libra 3. My husbands a 1 and I'm a 2. Ive been with my husband 20 yrs. I play the male role a lot while he is the emotional female . It's weird I know but it is what it is. We have strong bonds together but our battles he handles sometimes like a total jerk when not getting his way and he will say hurtful things that aren't nice, fair, true, or promote balance at all. Any constructive criticism he takes as an attack. He needs more attention that most other people. He has a lot of emotional affair type friendships and he is an ego stroker (car salesmen for 40 yrs) with lots of ego stroking friendships he tried to keep under wraps. On the same token if reversed he would have a fit but after 10 yrs I learned to just be myself first and foremost ignore it. Surround myself with what my ego needs were, and he had to get over it. So today we both seem happy with our personal lives. For Libra women I don't recommend this match up unless you are one tough cookie!!!

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