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How to Win the Heart of an Aquarius Woman

Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in-between in a candid yet humorous approach.

Aquarius, eleventh sign of the zodiac

January 20-February 18

Symbol: The Water Bearer


I have always been interested in astrology. The idea that every sign holds some deep insight about a person that is seldom seen on the surface has always intrigued me. As an Aquarius woman myself, I feel I have some input to offer on this topic, so here it goes. Aquarius women are an enigma in every sense of the word. Just when you think you have them figured out, they go and completely surprise you with the unexpected and you're left wondering what the heck just happened. Aquarius women are unpredictable and really like no other sign out there. If you find yourself with one long term, you might just be in for the ride of your life because they are anything but boring.

Life with an Aquarius woman would be anything but ordinary. If you want the white picket fence and 2.5 kids in a quiet suburb, you might want to look elsewhere for that American dream. That's not to say that you can't have a family with an Aquarius woman, because you definitely can, but it's going to be done in a way that is anything but normal. Just getting an Aquarius woman to settle down can be quite a challenge. This is partly because Aquarius women are fiercely independent. They value their freedom above all else. They don't like to feel like they are being confined or limited in any way, or they will flee in the opposite direction at full speed. Aquarius women like to date, but it has to be on their terms. They are the type of people who value their alone time greatly, and if they feel like you are being clingy they will leave you.

You really have to be careful with Aquarius women when you first start dating them because this is the time when you are most likely to scare them off if you don't play your cards right. Like most women, Aquarius women love to get attention, but it's in the way you give it to them that either wins them over or scares them off. Aquarius women are not needy in any way, so they don't need that constant attention that some women crave. Instead, Aquarius women want men to prove their devotion to them, but not smoother them in the process. What does this mean? Basically, call them, text them, but don't do in a way that is annoying. Annoying is multiple times a day for no apparent reason. You'll know you're starting to bother them when their replies become one answer or cease to exist at all. At this point, you may be losing them, but don't worry, there's a few tricks you can use to get them back.

If you really like an Aquarius woman, but you feel like you're losing her because you've texted or called her too much and now she's starting to feel distant, don't give up just yet if she's important to you. Before you completely write her off, there's one simple thing you can do that's going to drive her completely crazy if she's interested in you at least a little. Nothing at all. Back off. Don't call, don't text and see what happens next. If she has any feelings for you at all, she's going to contact you. That's right! If you give her enough space and she has any interest in you at all, she'll come back around and give your relationship another chance.

The one thing you need to know about Aquarius women is that they need to feel in control, in every aspect of their lives. If they ever feel like that control is being taken away from them, whether in relationships or friendships, they are going to slowly start to disappear. Don't worry, Aquarius women aren't total control freaks, they just value their independence so much that if anything or anyone makes them lose it, they can get scared away and lose interest. If you're doing everything right, an Aquarius woman will come to you. If she's the one initiating contact and trying to schedule dates with you, congrats, you are on the way to winning her heart. Now there's only the matter of keeping it..

Aquarius women are not casual daters. They don't waste their time with people they know are not going to be around long term. That is why they don't commit easily. They're not going to waste their time and energy on someone when they know in their hearts it's just not going to last. The motto of Aquarius women is "all or nothing." They're either going to have it all with someone they genuinely love, or they're going to be alone, there's no in between for them. Friends with benefits don't generally exist in their world because what's the point? If there's no point, Aquarius women are not going to waste their time. That is one of the reasons why an Aquarius woman can come off as aloof, but for them it's better than giving it all to the wrong person. For them it's: "I'd rather be alone than with someone I know I don't love." Life way's too short for that.


How do you know if an Aquarius woman is into you? Trust me you'll know. She's going to very carefully give you just a little more attention than she used to. No, she's not going to like everything you post on Facebook or text you incessantly or anything. She's way more discrete about her displays of affection. Aquarius women like to test the waters a little and see how you respond. She's going to throw some bait and see if you get hooked. For example, she might start liking photos you post, more often then before. It's not going to be every photo, but you'll notice it becomes more than occasional. Maybe she'll even like your status updates as well, but not every single one because she's got her own opinions and she's not going to agree with all of yours. She might even send you a "friendly" message to see how you've been (if you're already friends) and what you've been up to. She doesn't do this with just anyone so if she's talking to you, you're doing something right. If an Aquarius woman is taking the time to talk to you, you know she's at least a little bit interested otherwise she simply wouldn't waste her time. If she's going on a date with you, she's definitely interested. Aquarius women are curious creatures, so if she's asking you a lot of questions it's because she likes what she sees and wants to know more. You now have a way in, but whether you take that opportunity is completely up to you.


When Aquarius women commit, they commit totally and completely. They're all in. They give their heart and soul to the one they choose to commit to, with no head games involved. If you've made it to the point where a serious commitment has been made with an Aquarius women, whether that's an engagement or just moving in together, you can be pretty sure that she's yours. She doesn't take such serious steps without committing to you and only you. That is one of the reasons why you don't usually have to worry about an Aquarius woman cheating on you. She takes commitment and relationships so seriously that she simply doesn't waste time with such nonsense as cheating because she ain't got time for that. She's too busy giving her all to her current partner.

Once you're seriously dating or married to an Aquarius woman you might think that since she's yours, you've got her all figured out. Wrong! I don't think anyone truly figures out an Aquarius woman completely because we're such a paradox. For example, we're social creatures who love to go out and spend time with friends...sometimes. But at other times we're complete loners and prefer the company of our pets to anyone human. We also love attention, but not too much of it because then you'll smoother us and scare us away. We're spontaneous and love adventure, but at the same time we're also set in our routines and are creatures of habit. See what I mean? We can never be completely figured because we contradict ourselves on a daily basis. We really like humor though, so if you can make us laugh, we might just keep you around. One thing is for sure though, you will never be bored with us because you never know just what surprises we have up our sleeves.


Aquarius women have very unique tastes when it comes to dating. Since they are anything but ordinary, they expect the same out of you. They absolutely hate the classic dinner and a movie date. Nothing could sound more boring to them. If you really want to get their attention, plan a date that is just as one of a kind as them. As an Aquarius woman, the dates that stand out in my head are the ones that were exciting and adventurous. For example, one of my favorites dates ever was going to a haunted house. There was the element of the unexpected, but there was also a variety of other emotions like fear and excitement that really makes the date stand out in my mind. Other fun dates that I've been on that were interesting to me were mini golf, carnival, tennis, hiking, and anything outdoors. Basically, any date that was even the least bit original and could provide us with a chance to get to know one another and talk while still doing something other than watching a movie and eating dinner gets an "A" in my book.


Because Aquarius women are usually intelligent people, they are realists when it comes to life, but that doesn't stop them from occasionally being idealists as well. They have a certain picture in their minds about how they want their life to be, and they're going to work as hard as it takes to turn that picture into reality. Maybe it's not the conventional norm that everyone else is after, but that's okay because to them that would be completely boring. And boring is just unacceptable to them. In matters of the heart, the same applies. Aquarius women can usually tell pretty quickly whether a man is right for them or not. They trust their intuition and it usually leads them in the right direction. You might be the most handsome or smartest guy around, but if you just don't fit into that picture in their mind about how their life is supposed to be, or they just don't get that "this is it" feeling about you, they're going to walk away. There's no room for almost or good enough when it comes to Aquarius women. It's either everything or nothing.


Aquarius women are very opinionated and are the type to hold their own in a conversation. They're not going to agree with you just to make you happy. No way. They're going to be put their two cents in even if they know you're going to disagree because if they didn't they aren't being true to themselves and there's no greater sin to them then being fake. Aquarius women absolutely hate insincerity. It's such a turn off because they can see right through that. For them it's either be true to yourself or just keep your mouth shut. There's no room in their world for frauds. They are usually well rounded people that can have a conversation about almost any topic. Politics and religion are not off limits by the way. Aquarius women are more lovers than they are fighters, so don't expect to have lengthy arguments with them just for the sake of arguing. They're just not going to have it. If you hurt their feelings, they're not going to reciprocate, they'll just give you the silent treatment. In these situations, just give them some space, they'll come around..usually.

Intrigued yet? You should be. Dating an Aquarius woman is a very unique experience that every man should try at least once in his life. If you're looking for spontaneity and excitement, we've got plenty of that. Commitment and loyalty? We wouldn't have it any other way. So what are you waiting for? You might not figure us out right away, or at all, but you'll have the time of your life trying.

Aquarius by Aqua

Questions & Answers

Question: How can I make an Aquarius woman go crazy for or want me?

Answer: Make her believe you've moved on without her. If she's into you, it'll definitely motivate her to make a move or give you some form of contact.

Question: Is it possible to gain an Aquarius' interest again after I've scared her off by being clingy?

Answer: Yes show her you're interested, but take things slow.

Question: How do I win over an Aquarius woman after a serious fight?

Answer: First, give her some space to come to her senses, and then tell her how you feel.

Question: I cheated on my Aquarius and she won’t forgive me, what should I do?

Answer: Apologize and then probably just move on. Aquarius aren't very forgiving when they've been hurt.

Question: I’m a Scorpio man and I feel distant crazy emotions when I’m not in contact with my Aquarius and she doesn't talk to me like she used to. She’s my gf, by the way, what should I do?

Answer: Tell her how you feel. Make her understand that communication is important to you.

Question: How long should I wait to contact an Aquarius woman?

Answer: Try not contacting her for a few weeks or even longer. It'll drive her crazy if she's into you, especially if she thinks you're moving on with someone else!

Question: Can a Libra man and Aquarius woman be successful in dating?

Answer: Yes, they can get along great since they are both air signs.

Question: What about Cancer men, do they have a chance together in the long term with Aquarius women?

Answer: Cancer men are a little too emotional and needy for the Aquarius woman. Cancer men might also try to restrict and control the Aquarius woman, which she definitely won't stand for. It might be worth a try if both people really love each other but it'll take a lot of work.

Question: Can an Aquarius and Virgo make a successful husband and wife?

Answer: Maybe, but Virgo is very critical and Aquarius is a carefree dreamer. Virgo is grounded and Aquarius is a free spirit. It could be a struggle.

Question: She is divorced because her husband cheated. How do I prove to her that I will always love her?

Answer: Just give her some time and space to heal and move on. Be there for her, but don't force commitment too soon, it'll scare her off.

Question: I've dated an Aquarius woman for almost four months and then she broke up with because I was too clingy :( but I'm not giving up yet and still trying to win her heart again. One day she's sweet and I thought things were starting to go well and then she's cold the next day. What should I do?

Answer: Give her some space and see if she comes back to you. If not move on to someone better.

Question: My crush is an Aquarius and I am a Gemini man. I just need a tip on how to ask her out. I've been her friend for a while and there is enough trust, but I lack confidence. What should I do to ask out my Gemini friend?

Answer: Ask her out but take things slow.

Question: Can a Pisces man and Aquarius woman be successful in dating?

Answer: They can be, but a Pisces man might be too needy and emotional for an Aquarius woman. She needs her freedom and he just likes to spend all of his free time with her. As long as he understands this, it could certainly work.

Question: Do Aquarius ever get married with their type of personality?

Answer: Of course they do. They just have to find the right person to trust and they will definitely commit, on their own terms though.

Question: Will I ever get married being an Aquarius?

Answer: Yes, if you know that's what you really want you will achieve it.

Question: Are Aquarius women normally jealous?

Answer: They can be if they're really into someone. In my experience, they only get jealous if they are really interested.

Question: I have an Aquarius girlfriend. Being gemini I love and respect her vice versa. But sometimes I think that she will fall in love with another guy. Will she do so?

Answer: Aquarius women need a lot of space and freedom. Make sure you give her that if you want the relationship to grow.

Question: Im an aquarius woman dating aquarius man. Why is he so cold and distant ? Does it mean he's not interested ?

Answer: Check out my article titled: The Real Reason Why Aquarius Can Be Cold and Unemotional" for answers

Question: I am an Aquarius woman who is in love with an Aquarius man. Will it work?

Answer: Yes, it can definitely work. You two are very similar, and know how the other thinks.

Question: I texted this one Aquarius girl, I'm a Virgo man, and she started to ignore me and she also said: “can u stop texting me.” How can I win this Aquarius girl back?

Answer: Give her some space and time and then try contacting her again. If she's still not having it, then it might be time for you to move on and find someone who appreciates your attention.

© 2016 GreenEyes1607


Kareena on July 26, 2020:

it all depends on if the man is able to give continued mental stimulation and if he can and is well read and articulate...we aquarians can be very faithful..

murli on October 30, 2019:

how to approach for a date to aqurius gir ?

Gavin ray clarke on October 15, 2019:

I have hurt my aquarius gf.. and she is playing hard.. and she keeps on saying i should move on because she is not goin down that road again.. but reguardless she still calls me and we spend some lengthy time on the phones.. i really lover her and am not givin up... whats your views on this?

Yan on September 13, 2019:

I was dating an aquarius girl but she seem to lose interest in me so i leave her

But i want to be with her again what can i do?

Joe Pool from LONGVIEW on June 18, 2019:

@kavish, I've told myself that if i find someone more interesting, ill I'll move on. I haven't though.

kavish jadwani on June 17, 2019:

@bewitched @joepool you can see my post from 7 months ago when I was dating an Aqarius girl. I was on an emotional roller coaster and she was never attached with me. I broke up and I'm a very happy person now. I'm not suggesting that you break up but you know, it's easier to be single than dating someone who's not attached to you.

Aquarius don't have a heart .

Joe Pool from LONGVIEW on June 17, 2019:

@Bewitched: Exactly! Now you're stuck like me. You should have gotten out long ago.

Bewitched on June 16, 2019:

@Sceptic. You sir have described these women perfectly. The one I am dealing with when I first me her said she hadn't had sex in two years... And when we finally had sex it did feel like that... But just by watching her and talking to her the past 5 months, it's rather hard to believe that now...She gawks at guys, dates several different men and will not commit to any of them including me. She is very up and down it's extremely frustrating. But she is also extremely intoxicating, I can't seem to let her go. I do know that when I finally do I will never date another one of these demon women to though. They are just waay to much stress on the soul imo. Bottom line fellas, if you are in the early stages of a relationship with one of them GET OUT NOW!

Y on May 27, 2019:

I am a Cancer female with my moon in Aquarius. I have often felt like the description for Cancerian women does not fit me. Especially, the older I get. I am so not into being a domesticated woman. I rather be out partying. After reading this description of an Aquarius woman I feel like it resonates more with who I am on the inside. Especially, with the part about there being no greater sin to an Aquarian woman than being fake. As well as not spending too much time with anybody who isn't worth our time. I feel like I have the best of both worlds because I am able to be warm hearted and cold at the same time. It helps me be a better judge of character and ensures that I won't be stuck in a relationship for far longer than what I have to be.

Joe on May 23, 2019:

For the Aquarius women that feel their spouse doesn't know them....that's because you didn't let him get to know the true you and it may be too late.

Joe Pool from LONGVIEW on April 23, 2019:

Aquarius doesn't have a heart. Watch out with them.

Rt on April 22, 2019:


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Richard Stwart on January 24, 2019:

Im an Aries man and have an Aquarian girlfriend, we seem to get along great, almost too good. At times i find myself being annoyed by her behavior, im not sure how to approach it.

Venice on January 20, 2019:

Im an aquarius women who wanted to give a little laughter @the cheater above and the advice given to probably move on after that..

Janell on December 30, 2018:

I'm an Aquarius women I do like my space at times and don't like to be growded, but not to go look else where but to recharge as I am very loyal and faithful to my partner. I also like doing things and think about things that's not the norm I guess it keeps the interest alive if men stick around long to see as I find I can and want to be romanced but that's when the right man comes along I guess that's why I am dating an Aquarius man

kavish jadwani on November 08, 2018:

I am Aries man and I like an Aquarius girl whom I met 3 months. I told her about my feelings and she told me that for her I am just like a close friend. But we are more like a couple and we also get physical sometimes. But then, I think she is ignores me sometimes and doesn't reply me for several hours after she has seen my message and sometimes she even declines to meet me. On the other hand, sometimes she is very romantic and wants keeps texting me or wants to see me and come to my place for dinner. I am confused by her erratic behavior. Am I just a friend for her ? Will I just be a friend to her ( I mean is it worth sticking with her , is this going to work out ?) How do I take it from here ? Is this normal thing about dating Aquarius girl?

Aquarius woman on September 04, 2018:

I’m an Aquarius woman and I am so not like how we are usually described. I’m insecure, jealous, I expect to receive texts as I text the guy I’m interested in a lot. I love feeling safe and stable. I’m loyal to a fault, I have too much emotion in me and I love too much. I’m very low maintenance. And I’m shy which may make me appear aloof. Don’t get me wrong, if I don’t like you or know you I am aloof, but if I like you.... I’m an open book. And if I’m interested in you, I wear my heart on my sleeve. I’m also on the cusp too, so maybe I have some Capricorn traits.

dk on August 21, 2018:

And I am typical Aquarius woman tamed by typical Aquarius man...

Fed up Aquarius on May 13, 2018:

This is so much me but my husband doesn't understand he is really pushing me away. I wish he would read this, because I feel after 8 years he really doesn't know me at all.

Dumb Taurus on April 11, 2018:

I need so much help right now. Ive been with my aquarius woman for a little over 5 years, we have 2 beautiful little boys and she says that she wants to go try to do her own thing. I was a piece of sh#t to her and she stayed with me the whole time, we both admitted to falling out of love but this was all my fault. I was an a hole and i did everything wrong. Ive since then reflected on my self and know that it was me. I told her that. I apologized a million times and have changed myself to who i really shouldve been from the start but it she still wants to leave. I love her and my sons with all my heart and i dont want to lose them. I told her i respect that she wants to go but i dont want to lose her. Someone please help guide me. I just want her and only her.

Skeptic on January 25, 2018:

Read the whole thing a few times. So I’ll start with this... enigmatic, sparkle in the eyes, incessant communication all happened. Her multiple love interests... her cheating on her boyfriend of 2 years with me and someone before me also all true. We even went so far as discussing living together. Couldn’t trust her. Couldn’t trust her words and what she “felt”. And with that her “distant nature” didn’t help with the distrust either. She may have given y’all a bad wrap but I’ve recently been running into more Aquarians women recently and have been seeing a similar trend. I dig the whole hip to be square attitude and so loyal and real that you just can’t hang idea but I’m thinking you all definitely have trouble accepting certain aspects of yourselves. Seemingly, Aquarian women are loyal to an extent. You love the freedom and initial spark of a love interest but find it very difficult to see it through. It just requires a bit too much commitment and not enough excitement. Variety is the spice and y’all definitely need spice. God forbid a relationship gets boring. More accurately I’d say y’all have the capacity to stay loyal and care about a single person very deeply but that doesn’t single person you care deeply for will have to make room for the occasional new physical and mental interest from time to time. Folks, if you’re ok with allowing so much freedom to let your Aquarian women roam free from time to time then you’re in good hands. They feel most comfortable being with someone who will let them play the field here and there at varying capacities to keep interesting. They are ruled by Uranus and believe in free and radical love. Not one that is tied down by commitment in the traditional sense.

Sorry but I gotta keep it real.

Joe Pool from LONGVIEW on January 06, 2018:

I don't know, Francis. I think I'm finally giving up on her.

Her heart just isn't into it, and she seems to have no interest in turning her life around.

Her actions lately remind me of Maleficent, and she seems to enjoy it.

Sad to me.

Joe Pool from LONGVIEW on October 18, 2017:

I'm still messaging her. I should read this article more often, though. After reading it again, I noticed that I am obviously sending her too many messages. Yikes!

Mr.R on October 17, 2017:

Wow. Never believed in zodiac signs until now.

I can't believe I got an aquarius female in a shaky relationship to love me for 6 months, only to see her leave me...just because she has already committed to her last relationship and can't let herself down. Its true that they are either all in or all out!

Everything seems true from what I've been reading about Aqua females and unfortunately I have came across 5 in my life already. What a roller coaster ride. God bless me and the aquas.

P.S. I'm a Taurus.

Mr on October 17, 2017:

Wow. I can't believe I just got an aquarius female to love me for like six months only to see her not commit to me

Joe Pool from LONGVIEW on April 17, 2017:

I've got an Aquarius I am strongly interested in.

I've been messaging her a LOT on Facebook, though I typically wait until after FB shows me that she has seen it before messaging more.

The 1 word replies I get every other day are typical. If I get more, I certainly feel special.

After reading this, it looks like I have certainly overdone it. So, what should I do now? Stop?

I am a typical Virgo. Playing "hard to get" is neither how I am nor sincere. I would hope my Aquarius would pick up on that, and not want to play that game either.

So, now what?

GreenEyes1607 on October 04, 2016:

Sounds like you're in for the time of your life. Enjoy every minute!

Dave on October 02, 2016:

All sounds true. The Aquarian woman i know is the most intriguing amazing woman i have ever known. Looks like i have my work cut out for me but if i succeed in winning her heart it will all be worth it in the end.

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