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How to Win the Heart of an Aquarius Woman


Aquarius Specs

  • Aquarius, the eleventh sign of the zodiac
  • January 20-February 18
  • Symbol: The Water Bearer

I have always been interested in astrology. The idea that every sign holds some deep insight about a person that is seldom seen on the surface has always intrigued me. As an Aquarius woman myself, I feel I have some input to offer on this topic, so here it goes. Aquarius women are an enigma in every sense of the word. Just when you think you have them figured out, they go and completely surprise you with the unexpected and you're left wondering what the heck just happened. Aquarius women are unpredictable and really like no other sign out there. If you find yourself with one long term, you might just be in for the ride of your life because they are anything but boring.

Life with an Aquarius woman would be anything but ordinary. If you want the white picket fence and 2.5 kids in a quiet suburb, you might want to look elsewhere for that American dream. That's not to say that you can't have a family with an Aquarius woman, because you definitely can, but it's going to be done in a way that is anything but normal. Just getting an Aquarius woman to settle down can be quite a challenge. This is partly because Aquarius women are fiercely independent. They value their freedom above all else. They don't like to feel like they are being confined or limited in any way, or they will flee in the opposite direction at full speed. Aquarius women like to date, but it has to be on their terms. They are the type of people who value their alone time greatly, and if they feel like you are being clingy they will leave you.

You really have to be careful with Aquarius women when you first start dating them because this is the time when you are most likely to scare them off if you don't play your cards right. Like most women, Aquarius women love to get attention, but it's in the way you give it to them that either wins them over or scares them off. Aquarius women are not needy in any way, so they don't need that constant attention that some women crave. Instead, Aquarius women want men to prove their devotion to them, but not smoother them in the process. What does this mean? Basically, call them, text them, but don't do it in a way that is annoying. Annoying is multiple times a day for no apparent reason. You'll know you're starting to bother them when their replies become one answer or cease to exist at all. At this point, you may be losing them, but don't worry, there are a few tricks you can use to get them back.

If you really like an Aquarius woman, but you feel like you're losing her because you've texted or called her too much and now she's starting to feel distant, don't give up just yet if she's important to you. Before you completely write her off, there's one simple thing you can do that's going to drive her completely crazy if she's interested in you at least a little. Nothing at all. Back off. Don't call, don't text and see what happens next. If she has any feelings for you at all, she's going to contact you. That's right! If you give her enough space and she has any interest in you at all, she'll come back around and give your relationship another chance.

The one thing you need to know about Aquarius women is that they need to feel in control, in every aspect of their lives. If they ever feel like that control is being taken away from them, whether in relationships or friendships, they are going to slowly start to disappear. Don't worry, Aquarius women aren't total control freaks, they just value their independence so much that if anything or anyone makes them lose it, they can get scared away and lose interest. If you're doing everything right, an Aquarius woman will come to you. If she's the one initiating contact and trying to schedule dates with you, congrats, you are on the way to winning her heart. Now there's only the matter of keeping it..

Aquarius women are not casual daters. They don't waste their time with people they know are not going to be around long term. That is why they don't commit easily. They're not going to waste their time and energy on someone when they know in their hearts it's just not going to last. The motto of Aquarius women is "all or nothing." They're either going to have it all with someone they genuinely love, or they're going to be alone, there's no in between for them. Friends with benefits don't generally exist in their world because what's the point? If there's no point, Aquarius women are not going to waste their time. That is one of the reasons why an Aquarius woman can come off as aloof, but for them it's better than giving it all to the wrong person. For them it's: "I'd rather be alone than with someone I know I don't love." Life way's too short for that.


How do you know if an Aquarius woman is into you? Trust me you'll know. She's going to very carefully give you just a little more attention than she used to. No, she's not going to like everything you post on Facebook or text you incessantly or anything. She's way more discrete about her displays of affection. Aquarius women like to test the waters a little and see how you respond. She's going to throw some bait and see if you get hooked. For example, she might start liking photos you post, more often then before. It's not going to be every photo, but you'll notice it becomes more than occasional. Maybe she'll even like your status updates as well, but not every single one because she's got her own opinions and she's not going to agree with all of yours. She might even send you a "friendly" message to see how you've been (if you're already friends) and what you've been up to. She doesn't do this with just anyone so if she's talking to you, you're doing something right. If an Aquarius woman is taking the time to talk to you, you know she's at least a little bit interested otherwise she simply wouldn't waste her time. If she's going on a date with you, she's definitely interested. Aquarius women are curious creatures, so if she's asking you a lot of questions it's because she likes what she sees and wants to know more. You now have a way in, but whether you take that opportunity is completely up to you.


When Aquarius women commit, they commit totally and completely. They're all in. They give their heart and soul to the one they choose to commit to, with no head games involved. If you've made it to the point where a serious commitment has been made with an Aquarius women, whether that's an engagement or just moving in together, you can be pretty sure that she's yours. She doesn't take such serious steps without committing to you and only you. That is one of the reasons why you don't usually have to worry about an Aquarius woman cheating on you. She takes commitment and relationships so seriously that she simply doesn't waste time with such nonsense as cheating because she ain't got time for that. She's too busy giving her all to her current partner.

Once you're seriously dating or married to an Aquarius woman you might think that since she's yours, you've got her all figured out. Wrong! I don't think anyone truly figures out an Aquarius woman completely because we're such a paradox. For example, we're social creatures who love to go out and spend time with friends...sometimes. But at other times we're complete loners and prefer the company of our pets to anyone human. We also love attention, but not too much of it because then you'll smoother us and scare us away. We're spontaneous and love adventure, but at the same time we're also set in our routines and are creatures of habit. See what I mean? We can never be completely figured because we contradict ourselves on a daily basis. We really like humor though, so if you can make us laugh, we might just keep you around. One thing is for sure though, you will never be bored with us because you never know just what surprises we have up our sleeves.


Aquarius women have very unique tastes when it comes to dating. Since they are anything but ordinary, they expect the same out of you. They absolutely hate the classic dinner and a movie date. Nothing could sound more boring to them. If you really want to get their attention, plan a date that is just as one of a kind as them. As an Aquarius woman, the dates that stand out in my head are the ones that were exciting and adventurous. For example, one of my favorites dates ever was going to a haunted house. There was the element of the unexpected, but there was also a variety of other emotions like fear and excitement that really makes the date stand out in my mind. Other fun dates that I've been on that were interesting to me were mini golf, carnival, tennis, hiking, and anything outdoors. Basically, any date that was even the least bit original and could provide us with a chance to get to know one another and talk while still doing something other than watching a movie and eating dinner gets an "A" in my book.


Because Aquarius women are usually intelligent people, they are realists when it comes to life, but that doesn't stop them from occasionally being idealists as well. They have a certain picture in their minds about how they want their life to be, and they're going to work as hard as it takes to turn that picture into reality. Maybe it's not the conventional norm that everyone else is after, but that's okay because to them that would be completely boring. And boring is just unacceptable to them. In matters of the heart, the same applies. Aquarius women can usually tell pretty quickly whether a man is right for them or not. They trust their intuition and it usually leads them in the right direction. You might be the most handsome or smartest guy around, but if you just don't fit into that picture in their mind about how their life is supposed to be, or they just don't get that "this is it" feeling about you, they're going to walk away. There's no room for almost or good enough when it comes to Aquarius women. It's either everything or nothing.


Aquarius women are very opinionated and are the type to hold their own in a conversation. They're not going to agree with you just to make you happy. No way. They're going to be put their two cents in even if they know you're going to disagree because if they didn't they aren't being true to themselves and there's no greater sin to them then being fake. Aquarius women absolutely hate insincerity. It's such a turn off because they can see right through that. For them it's either be true to yourself or just keep your mouth shut. There's no room in their world for frauds. They are usually well rounded people that can have a conversation about almost any topic. Politics and religion are not off limits by the way. Aquarius women are more lovers than they are fighters, so don't expect to have lengthy arguments with them just for the sake of arguing. They're just not going to have it. If you hurt their feelings, they're not going to reciprocate, they'll just give you the silent treatment. In these situations, just give them some space, they'll come around..usually.

Intrigued yet? You should be. Dating an Aquarius woman is a very unique experience that every man should try at least once in his life. If you're looking for spontaneity and excitement, we've got plenty of that. Commitment and loyalty? We wouldn't have it any other way. So what are you waiting for? You might not figure us out right away, or at all, but you'll have the time of your life trying.

Aquarius by Aqua

Questions & Answers

Question: How long should I wait to contact an Aquarius woman?

Answer: Try not contacting her for a few weeks or even longer. It'll drive her crazy if she's into you, especially if she thinks you're moving on with someone else!

Question: How can I make an Aquarius woman go crazy for or want me?

Answer: Make her believe you've moved on without her. If she's into you, it'll definitely motivate her to make a move or give you some form of contact.

Question: Is it possible to gain an Aquarius' interest again after I've scared her off by being clingy?

Answer: Yes show her you're interested, but take things slow.

Question: How do I win over an Aquarius woman after a serious fight?

Answer: First, give her some space to come to her senses, and then tell her how you feel.

Question: I cheated on my Aquarius and she won’t forgive me, what should I do?

Answer: Apologize and then probably just move on. Aquarius aren't very forgiving when they've been hurt.

Question: I’m a Scorpio man and I feel distant crazy emotions when I’m not in contact with my Aquarius and she doesn't talk to me like she used to. She’s my gf, by the way, what should I do?

Answer: Tell her how you feel. Make her understand that communication is important to you.

Question: Im an aquarius woman dating aquarius man. Why is he so cold and distant ? Does it mean he's not interested ?

Answer: Check out my article titled: The Real Reason Why Aquarius Can Be Cold and Unemotional" for answers

Question: I have an Aquarius girlfriend. Being gemini I love and respect her vice versa. But sometimes I think that she will fall in love with another guy. Will she do so?

Answer: Aquarius women need a lot of space and freedom. Make sure you give her that if you want the relationship to grow.

Question: Can a Libra man and Aquarius woman be successful in dating?

Answer: Yes, they can get along great since they are both air signs.

Question: What about Cancer men, do they have a chance together in the long term with Aquarius women?

Answer: Cancer men are a little too emotional and needy for the Aquarius woman. Cancer men might also try to restrict and control the Aquarius woman, which she definitely won't stand for. It might be worth a try if both people really love each other but it'll take a lot of work.

Question: Can an Aquarius and Virgo make a successful husband and wife?

Answer: Maybe, but Virgo is very critical and Aquarius is a carefree dreamer. Virgo is grounded and Aquarius is a free spirit. It could be a struggle.

Question: She is divorced because her husband cheated. How do I prove to her that I will always love her?

Answer: Just give her some time and space to heal and move on. Be there for her, but don't force commitment too soon, it'll scare her off.

Question: My crush is an Aquarius and I am a Gemini man. I just need a tip on how to ask her out. I've been her friend for a while and there is enough trust, but I lack confidence. What should I do to ask out my Gemini friend?

Answer: Ask her out but take things slow.

Question: I've dated an Aquarius woman for almost four months and then she broke up with because I was too clingy :( but I'm not giving up yet and still trying to win her heart again. One day she's sweet and I thought things were starting to go well and then she's cold the next day. What should I do?

Answer: Give her some space and see if she comes back to you. If not move on to someone better.

Question: Can a Pisces man and Aquarius woman be successful in dating?

Answer: They can be, but a Pisces man might be too needy and emotional for an Aquarius woman. She needs her freedom and he just likes to spend all of his free time with her. As long as he understands this, it could certainly work.

Question: Do Aquarius ever get married with their type of personality?

Answer: Of course they do. They just have to find the right person to trust and they will definitely commit, on their own terms though.

Question: Will I ever get married being an Aquarius?

Answer: Yes, if you know that's what you really want you will achieve it.

Question: Are Aquarius women normally jealous?

Answer: They can be if they're really into someone. In my experience, they only get jealous if they are really interested.

Question: I am an Aquarius woman who is in love with an Aquarius man. Will it work?

Answer: Yes, it can definitely work. You two are very similar, and know how the other thinks.

Question: I texted this one Aquarius girl, I'm a Virgo man, and she started to ignore me and she also said: “can u stop texting me.” How can I win this Aquarius girl back?

Answer: Give her some space and time and then try contacting her again. If she's still not having it, then it might be time for you to move on and find someone who appreciates your attention.

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