I have been attracted to Cancer men throughout my life, and I'm happy to share my personal experiences with the Cancer man's psyche.
Your Cancerian Guy
A man born under the sun sign of Cancer (born June 21–July 22) is a very complex machine indeed. He has an intense love for the fine culinary arts, a hatred of instability, and the complete inability to be decisive. This makes him a wonder to behold for any partner lucky enough to be allowed into his inner world.
The Personality Traits of a Cancer Man
Here are some of the more common traits seen in men with a Cancer sun sign:
Nurturing: Cancer men are the "mothers" of the zodiac. They need both to be nurtured and to nurture others, which often causes a strong bond with their mothers, making them appear as stereotypical "mama's boys." This trait is also the reason most cancer men make great family men.
Insecure: It is in the crab's nature to distrust just about anything and anyone. That is what helps him survive in life. The real question is not whether or not your man is insecure; it's how thick his shell is.
Artistic: Oh boy! There are very few signs that are as artistically gifted as Cancer. He could be the greatest guitar guru, creative on canvas, or skilled with the skill saw. No matter what area he feels drawn to master, there will be no avoiding his artistic side. Not that it'll be a problem, as it just makes him sexier.
Charming: From his dashing smile to his gorgeous eyes, you won't be able to pull yourself away from his charm. What's more, is that he knows just how captivating he can be and will often use that to his advantage when he lures you in.
Passionate: Cancer men are notorious for their passion, though it does vary depending on their mood and current obsession. He's got lots of energy to pursue whatever is currently on the to-do list, and If you're lucky, you might just be on that list.
Indecisive: He wants strawberry. No, wait! Make that chocolate... or does he really want vanilla? Second thoughts will plague his decision-making, and if you can't stand a man who takes forever to make up his mind or who would rather leave most decisions to you, then this guy is probably not for you.
Sensual: He has no problem being the ultimate seducer and the most physical sensualist you've ever experienced when he wants to be...
Moody: If you couldn't tell already, your Cancer man is a very moody being. His emotions can change quicker than a flash of lightning and back again before the thunderclaps. One minute he's hiding in his shell, the next he's holding you close, and before you know it, he's got that pincer hooked into your soft spot, then he's back to crying in his shell again.
Secretive: Cancer men have a hard time just spitting it out and telling you what's wrong because they never want to be the bad guy they've made themselves out to be in their own heads. Because of this, they also have a hard time admitting when they're done with the relationship, and they are often caught cheating because they didn't have the heart say it was over and they found someone else. Though on a good note, being so secretive is part of what keeps the mystery alive for most women involved with Cancer men. She can never be sure what he'll be up to next. He might just be hunting down the ultimate Valentine's day gift for her.
Home and Family-Oriented: The way to his heart is through his stomach...or his family. He is a bit of a home-body and invests a lot of thought and energy on (and time in) his home environment. His relatives are very important to him, so make sure you don't ignore or insult them. Getting to know his family and friends is a great way to enter into the heart of his world.
Cancerian Man in Love and Relationships
This guy is all heart. He's like a big, sloppy, pulsing heart encased in a hard, protective shell. Although you might not be able to tell just by looking at him (he has an excellent poker face), he needs that tough exterior for protection. He leads with his heart, not his mind, and is therefore extremely affectionate, sensitive, thoughtful, intuitive, caring, and easily hurt. He is an expert in emotions—both his and yours— and makes an excellent life partner.
His sign is ruled by the Moon, and like the Moon, his emotions shift, change, ebb, and flow in cycles. One thing that doesn't change is his vulnerability: He wants your unwavering love and affection and doesn't like to share. If in doubt, he can be jealous and controlling. Some might even call him clingy, insecure, needy, moody, or boring. He's also a bit reclusive, so if you prefer going out and socializing with a crowd, you should probably leave him at home.
Signs That Are Most Compatible With the Cancer Man
Cancer is a water sign and ruled over by the Moon. Your Cancer man is going to be most compatible with earth signs or other water signs, though it's not unheard of for there to be epic romances between a Cancer man and a woman of air or fire nature.
Instead of listing every sign's compatibility with a Cancer man, I'm going to list the most compatible sun signs. If your sun sign isn't on this list, don't fret— it doesn't necessarily mean you aren't compatible, it simply means it's time to compare your and your beloved's Moon signs and see what's going on there.
Cancer Man and Taurus Woman
When Venus and the Moon coincide, the sparks will fly, and it is obviously so between the Cancer man and Taurus woman. These are two passionate creatures who love the luxuries life has to offer, which gives them much in common (though the male crab must be mindful that even in play, the female bull can be brutal, and he shouldn't take things too personally). Miss Bighorn must remember not to crush that crab shell when he goes into hiding, as it is the only thing that makes him feel safe, and taking it away will only send him in search of safer waters and another shell.
Cancer Man and Scorpio Woman
Cancer men and Scorpio women just seem to 'click'. Their watery ways twist and bubble like the intricate swirls in a babbling brook. He is interested in her spontaneous ways, while she is enticed by his sensual charm. These two are highly likely to have a very passionate physical relationship, though it will take a lot of work for their physical togetherness to become more.
Cancer Man and Pisces Woman
This is a delicate relationship, but that's part of what makes it so wonderful. These two water signs come together emotionally, like crashing waves, for a deep, churning, tumbling kind of union. They also come together creatively and have compatible imaginations. He will be slightly more practical than she is, and she will be his rock in stormy weather.
Cancer Man and Virgo Woman
These two are mellow when they aren't wallowing in their woes together (although even doing that can be rather enchanting). These two are comfortable just snuggling on the couch for eternity.
Cancer Man and Capricorn Woman
Cancer and Capricorn are polar opposites, and because of this, the synergy between them is captivating. He'll be enchanted by the Capricorn woman and all her might, and she'll feel like the only time she can relax is in his presence. He needs LOTS of reassurance to feed his insecurity, and the Capricorn woman is just the one to provide that to him. She needs a man who will love her for who she is and keep up with her everlasting energy, and he is just the guy to fan the flames.
How Do You Know a Cancer Man Likes You?
- If he wines and dines you, then he's probably smitten. Cancer signs are notoriously the foodies of the zodiac, so if he's in love, he'll want to share his love of food with you.
- If he invites you over to his place and cooks for you, then he's definitely interested. His home is his castle. Add that to his love of food, and you know he's sharing his most intimate self with you.
- If he wants to be intimate with you. For him, a relationship is rarely just physical. He isn't interested in a one night stand. So if he's pursuing you sexually, that's a sign he's truly into you.
- If he brings you home to meet the family. If you get to meet his mom, then you know he's serious.
- If he tells you about his feelings. In my experience, Cancer men are able to keep their deepest sides to themselves. They keep a tight rein on those deeper emotions, but if he doesn't clam up, if he lets you see inside his shell, even just a peek, he's definitely interested.
- If he's demonstrative. These guys are notoriously private. If he doesn't tell you how he feels, them watch what he's saying with his actions. When he's in love, he will do little things like fixing little things for you or buying you little gifts here and there.
Turn-Ons: What Does a Cancer Man Want?
- To be listened to.
- A safe, clean, comfortable, and uncluttered home.
- To be wanted, needed, and appreciated.
- A woman who can take the reins.
- Harmony, unity, friendship, and trust.
- Moonlit walks followed by sex on the beach.
- A hot meal— just about any kind will do, and the meal will be especially pleasing for him if you prepared it yourself.
- Tenderness and reassurance.
Turn-Offs: What Sends Him Away?
- Being in crowds.
- Feeling smothered.
- Inhospitality, disorganization, and lousy food.
- Not being appreciated; criticism.
- Being bossed around.
- Seeing you flirt with others.
- Hearing about your past relationships.
- Being ridiculed, lied to, toyed with, or teased.
- Infidelity (this is nobody's turn-on, but it's especially repellant to him).
Famous Cancer Men
What Do You Think?
Questions & Answers
Question: I'm in love with a Cancer man who is already in a relationship with someone else; what should or can I do?
Answer: I would recommend doing 4 things:
1. Take some serious time to work on self-care, self-worth challenges, etc...especially if you're observing yourself feeling like "this guy" is the "only" guy for you, or like you'll never feel the way you feel about him for anyone else. I would say it's also important to be introspective about your attraction to men who are already involved with others, as that can often be an indication of unhealthy core beliefs that were built up from childhood.
2. Find a calm moment to tell him that you have some romantic feelings for him, and that you just wanted him to know that you're available to chat about them if he's ever single again, or if he's potentially in a polyamorous or open relationship.
3. Remember that sometimes the universe introduces us to people with a few traits that we find very attraction and appealing, so that we can include those traits/qualities in our thoughts about compatible partners who have yet to manifest in our reality yet. I would suggest that if you are finding lots of "taken" men with traits you find attractive, that the universe is saying "these guys have some traits you'd like, but many that you wouldn't like. So enjoy the confirmation of things you like while we manifest you someone with more compatible traits that incompatible ones.
4. Put yourself out into the world more; do things you love doing and are passionate about, where you can run into more men that you are more wholly compatible.
Question: I'm positive that my Sun sign is Cancer, but my personality doesn't match most descriptions. I'm not clingy, nor a "home-body" type, and other differences. Am I just weird for a Cancer, or does personality of zodiac signs change over time?
Answer: Here are your answers:
*You're not alone in noticing that most sun sign descriptions don't match your personality. This is very common, as most horoscopes & sign descriptions only describe your Sun Sign, and they often are only parroting stereotypes they read from a spun article. To get even a 'basic' picture of your personality, you want to pull up a natal/birth chart & find out what your Moon Sign & Rising Sign are, and what House your sun sign is in. Your Sun Sign mostly only describes your Life Path in this lifetime. It often doesn't even show up in our personalities until we go through our first Saturn's Return (between 28-31), and then again a few Saturn Returns later.
*So, Yes; in a way, our personalities do change over time because of our sun sign. Though not in the way you're reaching for. It's stretched out over your life. So, by the time you're nearing 70, you will likely be a homebody. Clingy could go either way. It depends on whether you get there your karma and become an "evolved" crustacean, or unevolved
PermissionGiver (author) from Lake Stevens on July 05, 2019:
Yes; if your rising (personality/ego) and mars (drive/sexuality) signs are in Sag, I could very much see most folks not pegging you as a Cancer sun.
If you look at your chart and find that you don't have very many planets in Cancer, or in the 4th house, you actually might only be a Cancer in terms of your life path in this lifetime, and not actually a Cancer in your personality hardly all. If you find most of your placements are in Sag, or in fire signs in general (or any other sign/element), then that sign andor element is what will usually dominate your inner and outer personality.
Aaron181 on June 17, 2019:
I'm a cancer but most of the descriptions about Cancer don't fit me. I think this is because both my rising sign and Mars sign are in Sagittarius. Also my Venus sign is Gemini. I think this is the reason I'm not clingy at all, actually the exact opposite. Most of the women I've dated wished I was a little more clingy actually. My freedom is really important to me though. If a relationship isn't working I'll just get out of it. I usually try to get her to break up with me though to avoid all the phone calls. Lol. I am a musician so that fits but the rest mostly doesn't.
Nina27 on March 10, 2019:
This is spot on! I’m a Capricorn woman. My father is a Cancer, my ex-fiancé & ex-husband. The problem that we have, is that we are too much ALIKE to the point it’s scary. I’m nurturing, passionate, moody, do not want to be bothered for days. My relationships with Cancers have been toxic, the most painful but also the deepest I have ever experienced on all levels.
They are cheaters but then make you feel on top of the world like your the only thing that matters.
Prepare to be on a roller coaster ride of mixed confusing emotions when dealing with a Cancer. Lots of highs but many more lows.
Leoru on January 24, 2019:
I'm a Leo girl who has a crush on a Cancer guy. We are fwb and in the beginning I wasn't that into him but he seemed like he really wanted me and liked me a lot and that grew on me, but recently it feels like things have died down and he still keeps me at a distance. He knows how I feel about him and knows that I want to get closer to him and hang out and etc. but he's always busy so we don't meet up that much anymore. When we do it's amazing and he's very kind, caring and attentive and we have the most amazing talks. I always give him gifts but he has never given me anything to date (except once when we were first seeing each other where I pushed him away because I have my own issues with trust) and he also forgot my birthday which really hurt my feelings a lot. Deep down I always have this nagging feeling that he doesn't really like me and likes someone else and he always reassures me that, that's not the case and that he's genuinely busy but then I worry that maybe he's trying to be nice because Cancers don't like hurting others. Am I just being insecure and this Cancer likes me, or is he just being extra nice as most Cancers tend to be?
Austine Isaiah on October 31, 2018:
I am a cancerian guy (July 1 to be precise), but not really found any girl to love me for who I am...
mujtaba soomro on September 03, 2018:
Jeanette on August 13, 2018:
Im Virgo, A cancer man found me two years ago. At first i was not interested in him at all. Just resentley him and i found each other again. Im happy that i give him my time. He is all of what i have read. He like me and i like him. He even told me im the one. No man ever told me that. And to say to me he love me. WOW. He is a keeper. Thank you God for sending him to me. My Cancer Man.
@MissTaurus on July 30, 2018:
Replying to MissTaurus's issue,
It doesn't sound like anything's out of the ordinary.
This is a Cancer you're talking about. Sometimes they withdraw into themselves for a few days. It's normal, it's healthy for them, but it can leave people bewildered when they were talking daily beforehand.
Don't stress about it until you have proof there's something wrong. If they're not communicating, your best bet is leaving them messages like "I hope you're alright", "I'd love to hear from you" or "I'm worried about you". Your worst bet is casting suspicion on them or becoming angry.
It's once that 4 days becomes something much longer, like weeks, that you should worry and demand answers. They might need a reminder that leaving you out of the loop hurts you, but it's a lesson they can learn.
All this is assuming there isn't something else wrong, of course, but in general this is standard Cancerian. Your man isn't likely to have skeletons in his closet. Just moods he can't always help.
MissTaurus on July 17, 2018:
So Ive never done this forum thing before but I am just so clueless at this point. I am a Taurus female I have been dating a cancer man for about 2 months now. We have clicked perfectly from our goofiness together, to our same understanding on how we raise our kids (we don't have kids together- previous relationships) , to how perfect our intimacy is with one another all the way down to the way that we both understand each other. I am a very affectionate person and everytime I do something he has never experienced he gets so excited and states how he has never experienced this with someone before or how he loves specific things about me. Since the day we have met we have talked or texted each other pretty much everyday. We have had no issues or confrontation just one day it seems like he just pulled back and stopped communicating as much and hasn't answered my phone calls or anything. That has only been happening for about 4 days but I am concerned as to what is happening here. He will look at a text and leave it on read with no response. Can someone please help!
Bustapa1 on May 10, 2018:
Hi, Virgo girl here, and I really like everything it says about Cancer, and I even had a Cancer boyfriend when I was a young teen (15) and I ended things with him because I was young still and unable to stay in a long-term relationship (I'm 47 now) but the qualities are pretty on point about what they are like in a relationship as long as they remain interested. I've seen some Cancer men and women in relationships and if someone else piques their interest, nothing holds them back, and the fact that they are involved with someone else doesn't seem to matter much. They get lifted off the ground very easily like a "follow your nose" kind of thing. Its a scary thought that they could be here today and gone tomorrow and you are left with your heart in your hand as nothing is worse than healing a broken heart. And yes, its a part of life, but one I feel they seem to accept quite easily. It seems a bit cold to me. None of them ever did it to me but I've seen their tendency with this.
Charlie on March 12, 2018:
Im a cancer man& almost EVERYTHING i just read is dead on the$$$$... I dont like sum of the things it says,but soooo damnit True!!!
samson on March 03, 2018:
to bella: cancer can't end relationships, so will prepare the nest one before leaving. on the other hand, hes gonna be shocked if you thought it was more than friendship - so shock him!
Bella on February 08, 2018:
I am a sag girl (35yo) my man is the cancer(49yo). We been living together a yr now. I alrrasy met his children n family. But lately I have been doubting his love for me since i recently found out he been texting an old female friend of his who i believe he has feelings for. But when i ask him he lies bout still having contact wit her. I always felt that he wanted to be wit her but chose me cus shes married. I dont know what to do. Should i leave him so he can try to be with her ? I have a strong feeling that he has feelings for her. And our relationship has ups n downs. He knows i didnt want him talking to her anymore but he does it behind my back. Any advise
mujtaba soomro on January 10, 2018:
Ss on January 07, 2018:
I'm a Libra and I think I just lost my cancer man due to being so insecure and stupid I really love him and I didn't believe you was in love with me but he is and I'm going crazy cuz he won't talk to me
ScorpioCancer on November 02, 2017:
The same also for Cancer women but at least, Cancer women are incredible sexy.. They look at you like a catwoman and you keep falling, falling and falling in love with her.. They are so much indecisive so they need a man who can be decisive, but they have those eyes.. So dreamy and magical!! As a Scorpio man, we need a dream because we make it reality..
Neka on October 13, 2017:
When he smiles, it melts my heart. When I hear his laughter I am happy. I love our friendship and the time we spend together. I am falling for him and yes I am a Leo woman. He is considerate and thoughtful, funny, and charming. He is a home body but we have this bubble that is impenetrable. The simplest things are what he enjoys. He has a passion inside him that takes over me when we are intimate so I hope it's true when they say love and sex are one in the same for these men because I love him. Are there any Cancer men out there that can give me insight on this: a friend of his told me, without prompting from me, that he said he loves me but he hasn't told me how he feels at all. Do I just wait for him to tell me or should I open up about my feelings to him?
Beverly on September 14, 2017:
@Alexis the Leo woman
You are a very lucky girl if you get yourself a cancer man.Cancer and Leo are the highest in compatibility stakes but astrologer don't want to get that cat outer the bag because they are water and fire therefore might confuse their followers.I vote a Leo woman to be more compatible with Cancer man than Taurus woman.
sasha on September 09, 2017:
Do Cancer men really hate to be teased, even insulted even if only playfully? I'm a Scorpio female who always comes across as a nice girl and oh so predictable, so I tried to opt for the playful insult to shift that perception a bit and build attraction, but something tells me it was more like a turn off for him. How then do I build attraction with him ?
Alexis on September 07, 2017:
I totally enjoyed reading your message about Cancer men. The cancer man I'm dating seems 'fits that exact mould.' As a Leo woman I found myself wanting more and more of him, that is his friendship, his warmth. I don't know where this is going to end up but I'm all in. Thanks for sharing all about Cancer men.
Mjellin on August 26, 2017:
Great read. I'm a cancer man and I do agree with the article. although as I begin to age, I believe that I have either learned to control my mood swings or they have weakened. But I have had some relationships which left me no choice but to grow. I'm also very aware of my connection to the moon. When I feel the 'low tide' I know it's only temporary and keep myself busy with tasks until it passes. Out of the suggested matches I've been with a Pisces, was deep spiritual connection but too irrational. A Scorpio, deep sexual connection but lacking in friendship. A Taurus, good friendship but not mature enough. And a Capricorn, probably the best match. Very complimentary in yin yang sense. If woman are trying to impress a cancer man. Be direct! We love being the object of a woman's desire and want to know it. But be classy about it. If you are trying to keep a cancer man NEVER lie. Don't flirt in front of us and don't keep secrets. We notice everything
Curious Cat on August 06, 2017:
I'm an Aquarius and he's a cancer. Just curious about the compatibility.
Rising sign: Scorpio
Sun sign: Aquarius
Moon sign: Taurus
Mercury sign: Capricorn
Rising sign: Virgo
Sun sign: Cancer
Moon sign: Aquarius
Mercury sign: Cancer
Aries on June 02, 2017:
i am aries woman and my cancer man and I have the most epic romance going that I have ever experienced......sex ids off the charts! So in love
In love with Cancer on June 01, 2017:
I am a Scorpio Women and I am madly, deeply, irrefutably and sadly in love with Cancer men. EVERY WORD, I repeat every single word written in this article is true. Even he can't refuse this .... If tell you cancer men that you know them and even if you really do, they won't accept it because of their ego. They don't like to be known...they like to be understood. This morning I had fight my cancer men and oh my god... they are so difficult.. believe me.. One second he is sad and the other second so angry as if I have betrayed him, which I didn't. Their mood swings are more than the women in period.. Cancer men are the most moody personalities you will ever find. They will love you and drive you crazy. Don't dare say a word or argue with them when they are angry or else they will simply go back to their "Shell". This goes true for cancer men, "You can love ne, you can hate me but you can't ignore me". I love my Cancer men so much.. The moment you hate, is the moment they will do something really sweet and you will find your guilty for hating them.. They don't open up at all.. They want a clean, organized environment. I am Scorpio women and really untidy and so we fight often because of that. They love their MOTHERS like anything... Sometimes its frustrating.. If I say something, my BF doesn't believe but when the same thing goes through his mother, that things become golden words.. it is annoying but I can't help it.. I love him and I can't live without him..
Ena on May 21, 2017:
Well my Cancer man was pushed away from me ...now he is just looking at me always when I pass by ... I dont know if he will ever talk to me ... :( Im a Taurus ... does that mean that he is still interested even though we dont talk by just looking at me? pls help ...
Jupiter Rising on May 06, 2017:
I think I am falling for a cancer man and nothing intimate happen yet. My birthday is 11/22/68 and his 7/1/73. My sun in Sag, ascendant, moon is Cap and Venus is Scorpio. His sun and moon Cancer and mercury and venus are Leo, not sure ascendant which I think Pisces. One minute I think he's playing me and not really into me, then he will text me I miss you with hearts on it. The attraction is mutual, we just talking phone and text. Cancer man confuses me with his intentions and I definitely gives him a lot of space. What's deal with that? Your blog made me join your club.
Shakita on March 22, 2017:
This is so true my cancer husband has been acting very weird lately like he scared to tell me it's someone else
Brandy on January 31, 2017:
I'm a Scorpio woman and it is so true about Scorpio and cancer bedroom sparks. That's very passionate and a deep connection there. Cancer does erode at Scorpios wall but only for their own benefit. It will seem like they are genuinely nice but they only give to receive which Scorpio is not like that. They give without expecting anything. Cancer will manipulate and pull Scorpio in because there ultimate goal is to be liked. The thing is Scorpio is too genuine for Cancer they require a lot of care and Scorpio is not one to coddle them. Scorpio can bring strength to them and teach them how to forgive and love beneath the surface if they allow them to but chances are cancer will take Scorpio for granted and Scorpio will walk away when they are tired. My guy is a cancer and we've been through hell and back and honestly I'm tired. Just tired. I will never ever date another cancer !!!
Rita on January 31, 2017:
I'm a gemini /cancer I call my self a hybrid is their a chance for me to end up with a cancer man?
denzil on January 13, 2017:
fair enough i do enjoy these saying an most of it is true base on my an other experiences
Confused on January 03, 2017:
Hi, I've started a new job and have met this cancer man who is happened to be my manager. I am also a cancer woman. From the day first we had a connection and I think I am in love with him. I know he is also loving me. I see him everywhere I go in the office. He flirts, smiles and make opportunities to talk to me but not telling those three words. I got tierd waiting and stressed emotionally so have decided to stop smiling at him and avoid talking to him but he is not letting me go off but at the same time not telling me his love. What do I do? Any advise pls?
Pisces on December 24, 2016:
Hello, I am a Pisces and I am in love with a cancer man that 10-month-old baby by a Leo women. He seems to not be able to let me go I don't know if it's love or not but he tells me I will always be his. I am looking for a true relationship with no strings attached. I hear or heard that Pisces and cancers suppose to be compatible but we never connected on that level just physical. Well I ever get him out of my system or well he ever let me go, by the way, I keep pushing him away I'm not good at sharing. He also speaks everytime he see's me even when he is with her.
PermissionGiver (author) from Lake Stevens on December 20, 2016:
Hello Hopelessly Confused! Thank you for your comment, and I'm sorry it's taken so long for me to get a reply to ya. Finally got a newerish computer. So, now that I'm back, just in case you're still hoping for some of my thoughts, or if someone else comes a long in search of the same info, here's what I have for you, from both my experience and my cancer man's thoughts.
1. Because you didn't happen to share just how old he actually is, we can only guess from what you've said, which leaves me thinking he's probably somewhere in his mid 20's. If this is the case, he's likely still got a 'soft shell' so to speak. If he's already had a few relationships under his belt that didn't lead to his happily ever after too early in life, then he's likely had some heart breaks and hasn't yet taken the time to develop the courage to trust new commitments, that often comes for cancer men, after decades of introspection and cautious coupling.
2. Is it possible that you're being very clingy or needy? Some signs will find this ultra attractive and endearing, sometimes even a cancer man with the right moon. Though if your cancer man is really fiery or earthy, he's likely to scuttle away the minute you show any potential for becoming a permanent invader taking over his limited shell space, even if he seriously likes you. Hell, even if you've been perfectly sensible in your communications, needs, or pda with him, he could still do that. It just depends on what level of commitment and expectations he's grown to prefer or at least put up with.
3. Scorpio women and Cancer men are considered a pretty good match up by most astrologers, though that doesn't mean it'll be an easy journey. You're both driven primarily by the element of water, and are ruled by planets with a habit for being very changeable. Depending on your triads, you two could find yourself clashing and fighting around one corner, and then having hot n steamy sex on the next one. Or you could find each other refreshing, peaceful, and enchanting for the most part. There are many scenarios, though I'm sure you get the idea. The main point I'm trying to make, is that it could be that you two might have stars, wants, needs, desires, issues, circumstances, and personalities that are as far a part as your ages. Age isn't always a barrier, but it can turn a mountain into a mole hill when you aren't compatible in several other ways.
I'm definitely thinking about writing another hub just for your question about "is it worth it". After having been with a cancer man for over 15 years, I'd like to say "YES! Totally worth it!", just like a fictional romantic lover would say, but it's just not as simple as that. There are definitely things that I'd wish I had known before we committed, but at the same time, I wouldn't change a thing that's happened. So until I get that hub written, all I can suggest to you, is that to be with a cancer man for life, is to have one of the deepest and most connected relationships you've ever had, for better and for worse.
So unless you want to message me with more details about your astrological profiles, I'd suggest following your instincts. You're a Scorpio, which means whether you know it or not, you're quite psychic and intuitive. You likely already know whether or not he's serious enough to meet your needs. If you sense that he is, then hang on for the ride. If you sense that he isn't, or that he'd be too high maintenance for you, then drive off into the sunset and don't look back.
Virgo Goddess on November 10, 2016:
Hello. Normally I don't comment on these, but I am a Virgo Asc, Virgo Sun, Pisces Moon, Venus Leo. My man is a Taurus Asc, Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon, Venus Leo. My Chinese sign is Horse, his is Tiger. I just wanted to note that his love is the sweetest, most tender love that I've ever known in a lover. At first I was kind of turned off by how much he declared to love me, he said I love you after only one month. But now? Our bond has gotten so strong that sometime I tell him "I love you" twice in a row only because there aren't words beautiful enough to say to someone so wonderful. Earlier today I had a panic attack at work (my Pisces moon makes me feel vulnerable to hectic crowds of adults sometimes) and can you believe my Cancer had me laughing after I came crying to him? I laughed so hard at his jokes. Ah... I love him so much. We make love beautifully, we laugh together about the silliest stuff, we pray together, we love texting all day, we protect each other... He calls me Mrs. --- tho we haven't even made our relationship official. I am waiting until we are both 100% sure that this will be a lifetime commitment. Can you believe he says he's ready to commit?! I believe him, I'm just waiting to order him a nice chain necklace to wear when we make it official so he'll always have a token of my love. I adore him. He'll do anything to see me happy. Cheers to all Cancers, including my beautiful Mama who's also an adorable shy crab. Lol. Xoxoxoxo
Priya chhabra on November 06, 2016:
I have been with a cancer man for two yrs.. before that we wer best frnds.. he was sure of us.. but he couldn't give much time to me.. but he was very very sure of our future.. and then in aggression one day I said many wrong things to him then apologised many times but he says that he is not sure and for now he doesn't think of our future.. and I hav told him that I really love him.. and sometimes the way he responds I feel that he still loves me.. but giving me a silent treatment... not confessing directly just saying that he isn't sure.. and he doesn't know whether does he feel for me or not... However, sometimes he calls by himself and comes near to my place and ask me to meet him.. I m not able to understand that what exactly does he want?
andre on September 04, 2016:
I like what I'm reading about this cancer topics I'm one my self I been to hell an back with this relationship I been in for 20 years and I don't trust her at all she's a libra we have kids together but she cross me to many times I'm just waiting for the right time to move on an it want be a libra that's for sure.
James on August 31, 2016:
Mawi on July 19, 2016:
Hi i am with a cancer man (ascendant leo and moon scorpio) i am virgo (ascendant capricorn and moon aries) its a love hate relationship i feel you have mentioned oreviosly that aries is it good for cancer is that true? Even having virgo and capricorn?
Hopelessly confused... on July 17, 2016:
I am a scorpion female madly in love with a cancer male who is 14 years younger than I am. In the beginning he acted like he was really feeling me but once we had sex he started distancing himself. Taking long to text/call back, waiting 3weeks to see/have sex again. He says he is focused on making money so he can be set in the next 5 years but he always makes time with his friends. Everytime I try and break it off thinking he's just not that into me he reels me back in! Ugh I'm so frustrated because I really love him but am I wasting my time!?
XO on May 13, 2016:
Cancer men are too complicated. They make every thing difficult and sometimes impossible for someone to reach out to them and when they actually decide to come out of their shell its to late. The mystery is all nice and stuff but people have to be careful with these types of people because they can really play with your head and heart.
fiona on April 18, 2016:
Iam friends with a cancer man and just wondering why he won't invite me to his home we have beenwork mates for the last 2years and friends out side work for the last 8 months.Ihave not had sex with him he has kissed me three times and I kisses him ie peck on the lips twice Ihave spoiled him with buying meals and just loving him Iam I the door mat?
Dipesh on September 07, 2015:
The turn on's and off's are 100% true except i like seafood....and sex on the beach...!!!!✌️
beauty on June 05, 2015:
I am and a relationship with a cancer male and I am a cancer female our birthdays are three days apart I just don't understand him at all he does not have a tight bond with his mother who has always been in his life he lies a lot cheats misleds me I mean this relationship has had me on the point of a nervous breakdown cause I just don't get it one min he loves me then he turns his back its like out of sight out of mind he cheats flirts with other women still tries to have sex with all of his ex girlfriends in lies about it in these are the same women who cheated on him and dogged him as he say but if he doing this to me it has to be the other way around its weird because I am the complete opposite that he is someone please help my heart is breaking I am lost
King Bry on April 05, 2015:
I am a Cancer man and everything on here is pretty much accurate to me 100%. I feel everything right down to the point about seafood is all very truthful. im in a relationship with a capricorn female and we tend to have difficulties due to here insensitivity. She always flirts with other guys and I keep trying to be nice and trust her over and over sadly...its just a fucking waste of my time apparently cause now matter what I do its like I am always at falt. On other topics though so i dont get feuled into my relationship. This article is very true and I believe who ever wrote it knew exactly what they were talking about and the note about Pieces being the best beet fora cancer its actually Scorpio. :D Thanks for reading :P
PermissionGiver (author) from Lake Stevens on August 21, 2014:
Good afternoon! Thank you for the confirmation Fandango, readers always appreciate hearing straight from the crabs mouth
Darren, you bring up an interesting point. Let me give you two things to wrap your claws around.
1st: Know that your Sun Sign is not the "whole" you, it's just a larger part of you. So in order to truly understand the dynamics between you and your Aries lady, it would be helpful to know your Rising and Moon signs as well, and your Mars and Venus signs, to start.
2nd: Cancer's are very well known amongst astrologers for being one of the most romantic and most 'clingy' signs out there in stars. It's because you care, you're loyal and you totally believe in love at first sight. Even if you find a partner who is a down right horrible match for you, as a Cancer, you can find a million and one reasons to love her anyways and that will drive you to keep her close to you in any way you can. Just be careful, as Aries and Cancer's tend to make better business partners than love partners for several very good reasons. One of the most important being that while she will love that you faun over her (anything to boost the ego), she will also demand a high amount of freedom at the same time. Aries want to have their cake and eat it to, by themselves. You might be lucky to get a nibble. If you beg. lol
As a word from a concerned friend, make sure you look into the rest of your and her natal charts. Take special care to pay attention to what your Mars and Venus signs are, as they will give you greater insight into your compatibility as lovers. I'm the first to admit that there is no "set in stone" rules to astrology, and you two could be the couple made by the stars. Just be careful, as if she isn't the right partner for you, you're going to find yourself going through years and years of struggle trying to let her go if you're not a bit cautious now. You don't have to immediately throw your heart at the first person who seems nice.
darren on July 28, 2014:
HI how is it possible my being a cancer july 3 to be in love and get on like a house onfire a with some one born april 11th aries . I have read that we not ment to be compatable together and yet i cant bare being apart from her .
Fandango on April 23, 2013:
The last two turnoffs are absolutely true. I hate listening to my crush's past relationship and seeing her flirt with guys. Really makes me made.
PermissionGiver (author) from Lake Stevens on April 06, 2013:
Astrology makes an interesting study Red. It really cannot be used alone, and we all have several dozen signs in different areas that make up our "personalities" and predict how we might act or behave naturally, which is why I wrote about that in the beginning.
You're right on target though, about Cancer men in the 3rd quarter of the sun sign, tend to be "more" Cancer-like than those in the 1st and 2nd part of the sign. You might be interested in looking up "Personalogy", which studies the different sections of our sun signs in more detail. =)
Red on April 02, 2013:
If i had known that cancer men were a special breed, it might have saved me and others a lot of heart aches and pain. 27 years later, im finding out that being born between July 2 and July 12 means i will exhibit stronger cancer traits than others. I assumed every other intelligent men exhibited the same tendencies
Haiki on November 28, 2011:
uhm you forgot Pisces on the compatibility ans its being most compatable to other earth and WATER not air signs