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Dating a Libra: What to Expect

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.


It's the windy, balance sign that desires romance high on their list of priorities. Dating a Libra is divine. This is a sign that desires balance in the cosmic universe, whether that's a bizarre thought or entirely sincere. A Libra will care about the state of the relationship quite dearly. The Libra is a social sign by nature, looking for how to find the greatest friends so on and so forth. This sign is incredibly romantic and also vulnerable.

If you do not take care of your relationship and give it your utmost respect, you could hurt the Libra's feelings. A Libra wants a relationship where people put in effort. The Libra sees itself with power and grace -- that is -- when it has someone who can accompany them. The inner balance of the Libra is calling for a mate to help it in the universe. You can expect a Libra to be flirtatious, intelligent, hilarious, creative, affectionate, and somewhat of a mushy romantic soul.

The Libra is not a dark soul, nor the most angelic. It doesn't understand such stubbornness, actually for the greater good or the greater evil. A Libra sees things in a lot of shades of gray. Libras don't always understand why people are zealous to be pious... or why their Scorpio counterpart seems down into the depths of the gutter, hell, or insanity.

Long Term Seekers

If you are dating a Libra, you will be dating them long term. This is someone who will date you for a series of months or years, not a handful of days.

Libras care deeply about their mates. They are in tune to the balance of their relations. Libras do not like to be ignored, they do not like waning romance, they do not like pointless jibber-jabber that means nothing to them. They like for things to count and to count deeply, if not deeper and deeper as time trickles down the hourglass. They like to go on romantic dates, they like to indulge, and they like to kiss your face off. The Libra can do well to be independent, but it is one of the sings that lean more toward having a need to be in a relationship. As a wind sign, it is intelligent. Your Libra may be off the wall -- they may do strange things out of nowhere for no real reason that you can easily understand. A Libra enjoys baffling people from time to time. A Libra may need help getting practical. They may forget to clean, do their taxes, or buy groceries. They can be caught up in their brains, in their dreams, and in their hopes. They may puke out emotion everywhere in sadness when they break up with you... but they will move on, they will move on hardcore.


I Want to Have Fun Right Now

A Libra can be indecisive. Do not push a Libra beyond its limits. The Libra likes to make decisions at the end of time; they are procrastinators. And if you disturb their sensitive ways, you are only pushing things backward. You must be careful and take caution with those who are naturally (and always) going to be a little bit indecisive. The Libra is naturally goofy. They like to go with the flow and current of things. This is why it can be difficult and tedious for them to make a final decision. It isn't so fun to them, and this is a fun natured sign. The Libra does well with the Aquarius who even though pontificates to the moon and back, is so ambitious that they can't help but get things done. A Libra is the laziest of the wind signs. It does not like to push things before things need a push. It prefers to be easy going, a social butterfly and maverick, and the Libra wants to please. Making a hard decision for a Libra is not an easy task. They may delay it to the point of emergency. A Libra is terrible at times with confrontation -- it goes against their deep love of balance, kindness, and being the lovable goof.

A Libra will lighten the mood, it will take care of you when sick, it will bring you chocolate on a rainy day. A Libra does not like seriousness that goes on forever -- a Cancer might burden a Libra with its constant state of deep waves, both in emotion and thought. A Libra needs people who are light hearted, like to go out for a drink, and when the time comes, rips out an emotional current that others didn't know existed inside them. They can bang it out with the best of the philosophers, but don't be bothered if they get bored with the conversation or try to completely derail the train of thought to something they like better. They can get really annoyed with a long winded thought that doesn't really have any substance to it -- and they really don't like it when a pesky conversation is happening to detract from the fun, fun, fun.

Breaking Up with a Libra

A Libra adores their partner. I mean, a Libra hurts hardcore when they have a break up. They will say everything that needs to be said. It's a nightmare and a half for them to recover from a break up. Partly because they love fun... but partly because they love... love itself.

A Libra wants to be deeply committed to their partner. They want to know your quirks, your family, your favorite drink, they want you to be openly weird, they want you to be affectionate, and they love the time they spend with you. A break up for a Libra will be difficult -- and it may pull you back to them. You may be softened by their real heart to heart conversations, you may find their tears attractive, you may find their need to still love you regardless compelling...if not intimidating and a reason to break up with them. You probably can't out love a Libra which may make you feel emasculated in a way. Their love really does come from a pure place; they're only hiding behind a veil of mischief. Because they love you so purely, they won't give up on you easily. They'll still treasure you in their heart, they'll savor you rather than fade out with you -- this is different from the other wind signs. Aquarius will hold a grudge to protect themselves; to remember they were stabbed in the heart and they don't want it again. They'll cut you out. Gemini is practical and prepared to waltz out the door and go after their ambitions. But Libra? Libra will melt into the floorboards like a puddle. The Libra will have difficulty getting back to their creative processes, their muses, their heartstrings. A Libra finds balance in a partner -- they truly understand the impact of love, that's why they seek it over a commitment to piety or a commitment to evil. The saddest cries you'll ever hear come from wind signs. They have a different emotional wind than others that is quite sad because they love to keep light hearted, they love being in their thoughts and creativity, and they love supporting those around them to success. It's not fun when someone that people adore is down. It feels like the world is screwed up beyond all recognition. When breaking up with a Libra, do it fast. Hold onto your guns -- know what you want, because they will inevitably persuade you otherwise.

And when they do finally move onto someone else, don't despise them for it. This means they have healed from their wounds.


Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 07, 2019:

This I unfortunately got to almost a year later. Would love an update on what happened. I apologize for the slow delay -- it's easy for me to get behind on comments, sometimes email is better.

Val on October 09, 2018:

The only relationship I regret having was with a Libra. He was manipulative, played horrible mind games, was a cheater, and it took me a long time to realize how sinister & abusive he was. I don't believe astrological signs dictate a person's personality, but that experience was bad enough that I now avoid Libra men.

The quote "The greatest trick the devil ever played was making people think he doesn't exist" was written for a Libra! Yes they are charming etc, but so.is the devil.

cammig on August 08, 2018:

sorry sorry I meant he is LIBRA SUN AND LEO MOON

cammig on August 08, 2018:

Hi Andrea,

I am stuck in limbo with my libra guy friend and his moon is aquarius but we have been talking since December 2017 and started being intimate around end of January-beginning of February. We talk everyday and act like close best friends and I am a scorpio sun and cancer moon... so double air and double water... wow right haha! But regardless.. the connection is amazing but I am not sure if he likes me... he is very indecisive and I know it goes hand in hand when someone sleeps with you, spends time with you, cares about your health a lot, and says he doesnt have connection like this with anyone... but doesn't see a long term thing.. i think thats bullsh** since he has only been with 3 girls and 2 were relationships.. his last gf was the same period we have been talking and that was 8 months. I think he is still scarred and worried since she was a pisces and very clingy and his words.. "psycho" would control him and want to see him all the time... he is a very quiet, introverted person and keeps to himself. I just want to know if there is hope in getting a libra man to fall for me despite our attraction and chemistry and friendship.....

i have given him space now and longest we haven't spoken is 2 days so i'll let him be.. i asked to see him but he is busy this whole week until Monday... so fair enough. I won't ask again... he saw me pull back and messaged me after the awkward tension about him being busy..

he is a typical - i need to plan, schedule, routine type guy but he isnt overly emotional if at all and finds it only appropriate when need be.. not random times... I know i am the only woman in his life.. we are both young. I am 23 he is 21 turning 22 in october.. any tips on how to go about blossoming our friendship.. maybe outside the bedroom? you said ignoring they don't like... wouldn't being busy help?

Karina velasquez on July 16, 2018:

Jesus.... Andrea... I am your new number one fan!

You just summed up my life in a couple of paragraphs.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 29, 2016:


I'm glad it rings true!

Cygnet Brown from Springfield, Missouri on January 28, 2016:

You pretty much described my libra husband.

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