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Dating a Gemini: What Are They Like in Relationships?

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.

Is your partner or crush a Gemini? Find out what this sign is like in a relationship!

Is your partner or crush a Gemini? Find out what this sign is like in a relationship!

What Is It Like to Date a Gemini?

Gemini is a powerfully intelligent sign. The Geminis I know are ambitious money-seekers. They desire a mate who can understand them and allow them to flit about their many interests, which can range from rock climbing to designing video games to ruling the world.

Gemini likes someone who can spark their brain matter. Gemini is seduced by cerebral date ideas, like going to a science museum or a Shakespeare play. This sign needs to constantly explore the deeper parts of life.

They care much more about practicality than the other air signs do. Aquarius can literally live in a cave, and Libra is a complete mess who sometimes lacks direction. The Geminis I know don't necessarily need a lot of material things, but they do want a home, a retirement plan, and health benefits. They can ditch aesthetics if style stands in the way of their true goals.

Gemini is symbolized by the twins.

Gemini is symbolized by the twins.

How to Attract a Gemini: What Signs Are Compatible?

Gemini gets attracted to all kinds of signs. They don't need someone on the exact same wavelength, but they do need someone who can spark their interest and understand them. This makes them open to a number of signs, and they would like someone more grounded and practical than them.

I honestly think Gemini is one of the more malleable signs, and they can be attracted to just about any sign. They'll want to comfort the water signs, spar intellectually with the air signs, argue with the fire signs, and appreciate the practicality of the earth signs.

What Gemini Needs From a Partner

Gemini will need you to put effort into the relationship, be open and willing to express yourself, and create a certain kind of routine. Geminis are a diverse bunch. Their main feature is that they are divergent, creative thinking machines... which is why Geminis can be so radically different from each other.

What Geminis Do and Do Not Like

  • Fashion (No): Gemini isn't going to put much effort into the way they look. Men may have about three shirts, two pairs of shoes, and a couple of pairs of pants. They'll stick with their normal, everyday aesthetics and not sink time or money into their appearance. They would rather spend time on their interests, and they want to increase their bank account, so they can buy more interesting things and travel.
  • Travel (Yes): Gemini loves to travel and roam the world. They love to explore uncharted areas.
  • Romance (Yes): Gemini loves getting intensely involved in their romantic relationships. If given the chance, Gemini will be a highly romantic partner. They may not have as compelling a vibe as an Aquarius, Scorpio, or Leo, but they really like to plan out their romances and give them due respect.
  • Arguing (Yes): Gemini can be argumentative—they have so many thoughts bottled up that their ideas sometimes spew out uncontrollably. This is different than Aquarius and Libra; Aquarius likes to keep things calm, and Libra hates conflict. Gemini doesn't mind a little bit of fire. In fact, Gemini can be easily attracted to the fire signs.
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Talk, Talk, and More Talk

Gemini loves to either talk about every last minute detail for hours on end or they are thinking about every last minute detail for hours on end. Air signs are known for having the gift of the gab, but yes this sign (as the others) can be quite quiet and to themselves. There's just so much shuffling around in their brains that it has to let loose one way or another. A lot of times it comes out in heaps of conversation.

Gemini likes a little bit of energy going on in their surroundings. If they are not a talkative person, they will probably be attracted to a talkative person. They might feel like they're going nowhere or the relationship has run dry if there is no dominant talker at all. Gemini likes a little bit of electric flare, but it doesn't need to overwhelm a situation. They might get bored if there isn't too much happening and then they may withdraw deeply into their thoughts. They may talk continuously on Facebook.

If they are going through a deep problem, they are likely to open up to you about it whether it is depression or the death of a family member. They don't bottle these thoughts up like say... Aquarius. Again, Aquarius likes to keep it calm and cool; Gemini is smart and doesn't care as much about the deep, calm waters of life. Gemini is the first wind air in the zodiac and earlier zodiacs tend to have more fire in their belly. The later zodiac signs tend to be more chill with life.

Dual Personalities

Part of why Gemini is so malleable with signs is because they have more sides to them than one. They tend to at least have two dominant sides, often more. You may see them one day in a very certain way, and then the next they seem like a totally different person. Gemini is malleable so that it can get things done according to the season, day, etc. This can be alarming for some zodiacs who are not used to dating someone with such a diverse amount of characteristics in their back pocket.

Your Gemini may be capable of being an amazingly kind-hearted father, then a crazy yelling beast at the DMV, a relentless, aggressive captain at work, and then a cooing, sweet lover at night. Then this can all get shuffled around. The fun of a Gemini is they'll keep you on their toes. They have consistency, but sometimes they can shake up the scene. You may find that if you listen to different interpretations by your friends of the Gemini that you get categorically different feedback. Some people might find the Gemini too serious; while others wonder if they ever stop having fun.

Gemini isn’t worried that they’ll lose themselves to so many different currents. They identify with their goals more than their actual everyday performances (they’re future-oriented, not present-oriented). If they are not doing well with their goals or the people around them are falling apart, they are likely to have an existential crisis.

A Gemini may be surprised at how flexible they are with life. They may have grown up in a small town in Texas and that’s all they know, so they see themselves that way… then they move overseas to Japan and turn into a completely different person. Later they go to Harvard and get a fancy law degree. Don’t freak out if your Gemini seems like a shifting pony — just make sure the love and practical things of life are consistent, this will keep the Gemini happy.

Gemini and Humiliation

Gemini hates being wrong. They suffer with humiliation more than the other air signs. A Gemini will get angry when they do something wrong, whether small or big. They don’t roll with the punches like the other air signs. Geminis could learn how to be chill from Aquarius and Libra while also teaching them how to have more fire in their belly.

When a Gemini is upset, give them space, but don’t go too far away. Don’t try to tell them what they did wrong or what they could have done better. They are trying to figure that out right now and are too stubborn to listen. Let them know you are there for them and maybe offer them some chocolate or food. They’ll come right back — they’re just really upset right now. They hate disappointing themselves more than anybody else on the entire planet.

© 2016 Andrea Lawrence

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