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Dating an Aries: What to Expect

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.

Those with an Aries sun sign like to take the lead. They're not afraid to say what they want and to approach what they want.

Those with an Aries sun sign like to take the lead. They're not afraid to say what they want and to approach what they want.


So you want to date a fire sign? Well, just know that they are going to be extremely ambitious, passionate, hard-headed, and bombastic. Aries isn’t for the faint of heart. Aries seems like a fixed sign, but fortunately for us all… it isn’t (it’s cardinal). An Aries knows what it wants, goes after it to no avail, and leads others to do the same. Aries isn’t the most emotional sign, so if you want to be with someone more emotionally giving, don’t stray too close to them.

The Fire in the Fights

An Aries loves to argue, fight for what they want, and sometimes will corner you with their intense will. An Aries will devote a great deal of time pursuing their interests. Aries is an intelligent sign and is great at accomplishing their goals. Aries is not always lovey-dovey, even with their partners. A fire sign can be more down-to-earth, but they’re also chaotic. They like to take charge, be brave, and get things rolling. This sign will like you if you have your crap together. They’re not interested in people who try to rock the boat too much. They want lively conversation, a good time, and to be passionate.

Aries is a supportive sign. They can’t stand to see people they love getting hurt. They will stand by their tribe. Aries will call you out on your crap. They are willing to go into battle, and they are willing to support their troops.

Aries makes for a great leader, and they love to pursue. So if you are used to doing the pursuing in the relationship, you may want to talk with Aries about how you would like to see that. Aries is not the type to wait for you to make a move. Aries will lose their patience if you take too long. They’re not as into formalities as other signs. They do like efficiency, they don’t tend to care too much about looks, they care about social justice, and they enjoy numerous hobbies.

Aries has no problem speaking their mind. They're headstrong and don't like waiting.

Aries has no problem speaking their mind. They're headstrong and don't like waiting.

Headstrong, but Loving

Do not walk all over an Aries. They do have feelings. They might not express them all the time, as some personalities do, or they may rely on anger more so, but they can hurt. And when they do, they’ll probably just push you to the side. Aries feels things deeply. It cares about and understands things at a great level, so when you cross them, you are most likely inviting them to have a grudge against you.

It takes all the patience of the world to calm Aries down. They want things now, not later, but now. They’ll try to be as direct as possible — to them, this is good communication. They don’t hide and censor information like signs do at the end of the zodiac like Capricorn, Aquarius, and Pisces. Instead, Aries will lay it all out.

Some say the Aries is more toddler-like, whereas Pisces is more old soul-like. Aries takes charge like someone young and unafraid. They don’t care about feelings the way later signs do, so you need to have thick skin. They can be pretty blunt.

It is unlikely to see an Aries cry, even when they have come across something that has seriously hurt and offended their feelings. Don’t be surprised if your Aries bottles up their emotions and then one day, in one big splurge, they let it all out in a big dramatic fest. This is something that Aries needs to work on, and practicing creative forms of expression can help Aries to better convey their feelings.

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People can’t read your mind Aries, so speak your emotions just as directly as you do your thoughts.

Needs Time for Self

Aries make for a committed, lifelong partner. This sign craves getting to know someone on a deep level. They truly want to share their life with someone. Sometimes their relationships can get kinda fuzzy because they are intensely ambitious and their partners are ambitious. Ambitious people tend to be attracted to… ambitious people.

The problem with that is our careers and hobbies often take us out of the home, on long business trips, and with lots of people from different social networks. Aries might get pulled away from their favorite person because other things get in the way. Aries should pursue their dreams, otherwise, they will get depressed.

This is a tough balancing act for Aries who needs to see their potential actually projected out into the world but also to have a deep, meaningful, and secure relationship. Aries’ ego is big. So for them to calm down for their relationship is not always the easiest. Aries should plan for time with their mate; don’t just go with the flow and see what happens.

Ultimately, your relationship will be more important than your career. Aries needs a partner because they’re a sign that is prone to getting sick because they have a hard time calming down. Aries doesn’t rest enough. This is great for others because Aries will step up to the plate and help us solve our problems. But Aries sacrifices sleeping, eating, and taking care of themselves mentally. It would behoove Aries to spend recreational time in introspection. Practicing daily self-reflection will help Aries to spot their problems and learn to better approach them.

This isn’t Aries favorite thing to do because they want to go, they want to feel, they want to do everything — and introspection stops all that. But on the contrary, introspection is key to achieving your goals. So don’t be afraid to pull yourself aside to pray, meditate, think, or do something creative that isn’t meant for an award or profit. Aries needs to do things just for fun.

Aries' color is red.

Aries' color is red.

Finding Zen

Aries is a passionate person; they could mentor others on confidence. They’re an amazing sign to date if you can take the heat. If you are too sensitive, you might get confused when Aries is trying to unravel their brain, which can come out in a shocking and sometimes spaded kind of way.

Aries means well, they just have a difficult time unraveling their more personal thoughts in public. Aries needs someone who can listen to their deeper, more compelling thoughts without running away. Aries does well when they have people around them that can give them feedback. The worst thing you can do to an Aries is put them in isolation. They are charismatic, whether they admit it or not — they are experts at getting people out of their shells.

Someone who doesn’t have as much fire as Aries can be helpful to them. You have the power to calm them. Don’t be afraid to call an Aries out for being too boisterous. They need to know when they are acting out. They need to know when they are out of synch. They need to know that you love them to the moon and back—give them gifts, give them your time, and do acts of service for them. They will appreciate your gestures, and it will keep the fire burning for them.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2016 Andrea Lawrence

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