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How to Get Along: Cancer and Scorpio

Christofer has been a Counselor, Contract Administrator and studied astrology. with his Mother since the 70's. He has 8 grandchildren.

AstroCompatibility Is the Goal

This series of articles on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential match-ups in the zodiac. We will continue this series today by thinking about and commenting on the compatibility between Scorpio and Cancer.

Cancer and Scorpio Overview

Scorpio is Water and Fixed. Cancer is Water and Cardinal. The water involved with these two could be a dampener, literally and metaphorically, or it could happen to cause both signs to be awash in positive and life-changing growth. With these two caring about so many of the same values and being willing to invest their considerable personal power and intensity to anything they try, this connection could be something to behold.

A Committment to Protection

One of the compelling parts of their match is that the Scorpion (Lizard, Eagle, Dove) has an almost impossibly strong commitment to protect the things it cares about and to win in a conflict. The Crab, with their homes in and around the ocean, tends to skitter back into their protective place if they are hurt. Scorpio promises to guard safely the hurt heart of the Cancer. Is the Cancer weak? Heavens no. They just tend to move for safety if they've taken a negative blow or if danger rears its head. They feel they have too much to lose. They would plan on returning to the battle after they have assembled their forces. The Scorpio does not think of what it can lose; it immediately and intensely sharpens its stinger and goes for the win.

Harmonizing Differences & Passionate Intensity

Often, we spend a vast amount of time talking about what signs do not understand about each other. With these two, it is fascinating to see how they harmonize their differences. First of all, most signs are either intimidated, puzzled, or confounded by a Scorpio's intensity. It hums away. One can almost hear the turbines turning over and over, as the child of the Phoenix and Resurrective Power stands there and exudes vivacity. The Crab appreciates that. Cancer feels inner intensity. Scorpio feels the same. The Crab sees the Scorpion as an ally. They both greet the world with their defensive and offensive prowess presented to the world. Scorpio is more outward. Cancer is more inward. Scorpio values the warmth and kind mothering of Cancer. Scorpios are likely to warm up to Cancer's brand of intensity.

Compatibility Areas of Interest

  • Positive Postulate: One of the few times that Cancer can really rest, on the inside, is probably with their Scorpion partner, mate, buddy, or associate. Scorpio, hardly ever really at ease, could achieve a sense of calm with the watery, loving enchantment of the Moonchild. And how do they look to others? A picture of secure, powerful, kindly, and inwardly secure poised people.
  • Romance Recommendation: A deeply satisfying romantic world could be created by these two. If it were not so, it could be made so by the creative energies of two committed individuals. Cancer could draw on the hot and bubbling energy of Scorpio’s Fixed well. Cancer’s moving, watery energy could enliven both of them in the dynamic flow of the spiritual quest for unity and transformation.
  • Conflict Quotient: Conflict for these two intense people would be a battle in which brevity and short duration would be prescribed. They would want to move straight to resolution, quickly past recrimination, and straight away from invective or bitterness. Deep hurt should be avoided at all costs. The fact that these two could easily do all of these things is the very reason that this could be the most crucially important part of their relationship.
  • Peace Parlay: Life is repetitive and mundane in the end and so is romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Keep in your mind’s eye the picture of a hot tub when just the smallest of bubbles were making their way to the top. Picture two happy people with refreshing drinks in their hands, their eyes closed, and their bodies completely relaxed from the burden of being the intense people they are. They should seek peaceful boredom until they can’t stand it anymore.
  • Keep Up the Interest Graph: Scorpio and Cancer could develop all kinds of underworld, watery, oceanic, and subterranean interest in their multifaceted lives. Any party who was contributing to a lack of interest would have to be guilty of severe neglect.
  • Seven Year Itchiness: There are some signs that, by their nature, are more stable in their love interests and family concerns as time goes on. Others are not. Real compatibility difficulties would volcanically erupt earlier than the dreaded 7 years. If they did make it to the 7th year, they would probably have many issues resolved by then, and thus would be under the category of real happiness. Infidelity would probably only be an outer sign of an inner lack of real connections, or better said, a presence of broken, unhealed, failed connections that were harmed in the toil of attempting to come together.

Astrocompatibility Possible Rating:

  • 80% Positive Long-term
  • 70% Short-term

The Crab and the Scorpion would definitely enjoy meeting and getting to know each other initially. Once time passed, the gradual recognition that they had something really special would begin to grow and grow. Because these are intense players, the danger of problems could always be there. But this is a real positive.

Getting Along With Sun Signs


Mike on August 17, 2018:

This Cancer women I'm seeing broke up with me, a Scorpio. From what I have read, the Cancer woman will brood for days before opening up to talk again. I really want her back again. Should I not message her and leave to brood while waiting for her to talk to me again? Or message her saying things like I miss her n stuff which I really do from time to time. Please help!! Thanks.

puentesamarillos on January 11, 2018:

I'm 23 November 18th 1994 born at 11:50PM by this means (as i get to understand so far) a leo ascendant, female. He is a Cancerian born on before de 21st. Our thing was like just things i- before that- could have only seen in dreams... well- i have never felt really attached to a specific male but, he of course was, i mean- is or has this characteristics of being a manly man (i learned this concept along the way) we are from the capital of the Ecuador, which was colonized as a patriarchy by Spanish ppl. I could say we are a pretty weird mix for two apparently simple beings. Which we are more likely the less part of our whole lifes possibly, because there is always something happening with us. What can i say, he kept me pretty fine entertained. Partly, because we really did shared this passion about being passionate. I know, it gets ridiculous. He being a very good stallion, giving me infinite pleasure without being that like too much cuz it was very cute to watch how from his tough being would be the first that hugs me with an silly force towards him. What i actually really liked about 'us', that cute idea holding it for a second is how he pushed my bottons in a very motivating- powerful force. We actually didn't ever was good with words. im more into the doing and i feel he learned fast i almost didnt see it. And, well as we just actually used to get each other really good, i have never experienced this kind of unique conection with nobody else before, just met you but i understand you already unless he talk to me about some other guys- he would highlight the fact that maybe i could just do whatever i want. Some cheap reverse physicology that made me cry or just feel really sad because of this manipulation. He kissed a girl once- well she did, as he told me so... after that (we were at a house in the country side in an afterparty with friends and it was night already, again) we pretty much fucked our brains out. But something happened inside of me. I was really getting to experience all this open minded love ive been so interested as well sometime. It wasnt easy. In no time, it was almost summer and we used to say how nice itd be to visit the beach toguether and shit, when he actually surprised me saying he was leaving for the summer to NYC and getting his internship hours done. He is an architect, officially. When i just met him he told me about this dream he had and it was me studying same as he but that i was way better at it. This made no sense cuz at the time i practiced theater and languages and had no fuckin idea from where to start that path. I made some trips outta here and so it came, i needed to start there with architecture- an interior designer! some time pass, we saw each other at this friend in common party and we said hi, well i huged him cuz so i felt to, he was lost and started making up dum questions of the place and he pretty much, walked away. Avoiding me? as he is mad at me? is that implied? i cant seem to fuckin get it and ive moved on and surely is he. But even letting everything, all go there is something there. is that stupid? Since then on we havent ever talked about us again but i see him and he sees me and we change and everything changes. I like some stupid games we have as like we had and still apparently have some telephatic communication or like, he totally reads me correctly to my 80% body language and so do i. It makes me make my head go blank and feel to much. I need to get rid of this somehow.

Nilu on November 04, 2017:

I am scorpio female 15/11/1991.. My love is Cancer 23/6/1990

Are we good match for each other.. N when will we get married??

Nora on October 25, 2017:

I’m a cancer female in a bad marriage with a mentally damaged Taurus, hoping to be divorced eventually. I met a Scorpio Man and for the last 5 years he has absolutely captivated me. We’ve had our share of arguments, usually over jealousy because I get so obsessed with him. Our fights end in hot sex, that’s all I can tell you.I love him to death. Hottest guy I’ve ever been with. Love his personality as well. I’m afraid his temper will get us killed one day but other than that he’s awesome. Scorpios can be hot heads but there smart which makes them even scarier lol.BEST SEX EVER!!!!

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Cancerian Female on July 29, 2017:

It's funny, because I can spot a Scorpio male a mile off. I'm a Cancerian female, and for some reason have always taken an instant dislike to Scorpio men, so as far as compatibility goes, I couldn't vouch for it. I know I should't judge so quickly, (Hopefully no offence to Scorpios out there) but to be honest it's more a feeling I get about them. I had a tutor at uni who I disliked intensely - he always seemed to be poking fun at other students, and a terrible flirt with them - this guys married by the way. I remember watching him, and thinking I'll bet money he's a Scorpio. Low and behold he is. Same has happened all through my life. Not met many of them. But when I do, it's the same inexplicable reaction, without even really knowing them. Unfair I know. I must have a hard wired Scorpio detector in my mind, because it's been right every time. Don't know if I will ever be around any other Scorpios, I like my seclusion too much, and as far as dating one goes, well, I'd have to get over my instinct to want to run a mile. I've been surrounded mostly by Virgo and Pisces :-)

brandibanks on October 08, 2016:

I am a Scorpio born in the year of Dragon 11/10/88

My love is a Cancer born In the year of Horse 07.21.1990 plus he's a cusp is sign

Can some read our chart because this relationship is breathtakingly Magical like we been together before, I love him so much and he shows me the same love.

Tell me something I don't know please.

brandy on September 17, 2015:

Actually I am a Scorpio and he is a cancer and let me tell you something. We have been together for one full year and it's been difficult. He used to run when we got into fights and I would feel heart broken because I didn't want to be away from him even though we argued. That was strange because I usually hate being in the same room with a guy because of an argument, but him, no matter how much we fight, how much we disagree, we still don't want to be away from each other. Here is my take on things. I have always, always loved and admired cancers. You guys really are the bomb, but here's the breakdown about us scorps. 1. We don't like being told our flaws because we know they are there. You guys have a tendency to pick at them like their scabs in a wound. It's probably just your nature to want to make them go away. You want things to be smooth and better while the Scorp says hey, leave me alone. You are not perfect so don't try to make me perfect because I'm not, nor will I ever be. The truth is, change hurts. That's why Cancer and Scorpio's have difficulty. The strengths they have usually cancel each other out so their ultimate goal is to push each other for better like for instance. My guy is a cancer but his ascendant is a Scorpio. Me I'm a Scorpio ascendant Virgo. I'm extremely nice and he isn't. Most people think he is an Asshole but I love that about him. Everything that irritates me about him I love because well, he is just strong. I notice that Cancer with scorpio ascendants are tough as nails, except when in love. They are ultra picky, loyal and emotional to the core, but they are the bomb. However, so is the Scorpio. The way you know a Scorpio is in love is when the tantrums start, the irrefute to change and the emotional wreckage began. We pride ourselves on being able to control our emotions but we become horrid when vulnerable because we don't like it. I also find out that Scorpios vary depending on the birthdate. I notice the ones born around my birthdate November babies are more emotional and sensitive to critique than most. We want to be loved for us and when you point out our flaws it's telling us you don't. Nobody is perfect, but nobody seems to get that accept us. We are the ones that will love despite any flaw and we expect the same in return and to brush off our sensitivity and conversation is a way to get us to a point where we become a whiny nightmare. I know that a lot of stars that were born perticularly close to my birthday had a hard time dealing with criticism from others. We are so sensitive it's heart breaking. They usually kill themselves accidentally. Usually stress or meds from sicknesses which is usually do to stress. We need to learn how not to care so much about what others think. As for Scorpios closing off, we only do that when we feel that we can't reveal our true nature. That's usually a sign of hurt or fear, depending on what stage we are in during life.

Christofer French (author) from Denver on September 17, 2015:

Al: Cancer male with Virgo Rising - High emotional quotient with a kind of critical and naive social personality. Scorpio female - Aries/Taurus Rising Sign. Female forceful and full of suspicions, might be downright aggressive. Male might be easily hurt and "touchy". Cancers are always in a "mood" of one sort or another. Scorpios are in a permanent Mood of intense inner feelings without any real apparent external cause. This in general means you are both going to be relating at "emotional" "psychic" "subconscious" levels. The question about being a "good match" start with "Do you like each other?" "Do you fight alot?" "Do you make up easily?" Those are common questions for any couple, but key, I think to this relationship. Answers to the above questions will give you a hint as to your potential.

Al on September 16, 2015:

Cancer male born July 8th 1976 at 9:00 am and Scorpio female born October 24th 1987 at 7 pm ........are we a good match or ????

Christofers Flow on June 19, 2015:

Scorpio likes keeping their cards close to their vest. He will always be that way even if you get married. It seems though that you are at a point where you want some kind of clue and even reassurance of his commitment and intent. With Scorpio you are just going to have to come right out and ask. How they respond will tell you much. But just come right out and be the honest emotional Cancer that you are.

gretz23 on June 18, 2015:

I need an advice. Hi! I am a cancer woman attracted to a scorpio man but I don't know if he likes me back. He says things that he won't leave me and stay beside me but we don't even have a relationshihp to begin with. We have that closeness to each other but he is too mysterious for me. I think he likes other girls other than me. I think he does not like me back but I don't know he may be sweet to me at times and very protective. We have some things in common. He likes things that I like we laugh with each others joke. But I don't know if he likes me back what should I do?

Christofers Flow on April 02, 2015:

Yes and Amen to all of the above. I have a close relative who is a cancer and you just don't want them to FEEL HURT. Yet, it seems that's what emerges from normal conversation. If Scorp has to learn something about this kind of issue, they will certainly get exposed to it.

Tony on April 01, 2015:

Just ended a seven year relationship with a cancer women, as I am Sorpio male! Some of these things are so true about both signs. You have to be real with yourself. My cancer ex as some have stated refused to admitt to her mistakes, also they have a difficult time expressing outwardly what they are thinking inwardly. It's very trying. If it's something that's making you unhappy, just say it! I also noticed that if you had a different point of view about a situation that was different from hers, then she would get upset and go into her shell. Could have been age issues as I am an older scorp (38) and she is a younger Cancer (27). Scorps can be hot tempered, but not being able to voice your opinions, and respecting others opinions (even if you don't agree), not communicating when your upset can make the most evolved scorp sting!!!

Christofer French (author) from Denver on December 30, 2014:

Two Scorp Sons, now that's single minded follow through. You have summed up what is true of all DIFFICULT PAIRINGS. If you have the resolve and the commitment and you are trying to preserve something valuable, you will find a way. And besides, we are down here to learn, not simply be happy! The happy is in transcendence! Blessings to you and yours. Remember Scorp is never insincere. That's a blessing for a Cancer. They hate duplicity.

icerayven on December 29, 2014:

Scorp female35/Cancer man37

We are celebrating our 19th anniversary in January 2015. It's been a looooong hard journey. If you can manage it, totally worth it. People who are dating Scorps should probably do a little research to see where that Scorpio is in evolution... a lot of the problems I see between the Scorp/Cancer pair look like the lower evolved forms, which are extremely volatile in nature and very self destructive. I was there once and I have a Cancer who rode it out with me so we evolved together... To reward him I gave him two Scorpion sons!

Christofer French (author) from Denver on July 28, 2014:

As you have laid out your story, you are in a spot that leads to "expectations" and "what's next". That is natural. HOWEVER. You're a veteran of life and love and marriage and so is he. He is always going to be that Scorpio and you that clingy Cancer. That's not going to change. And the magical sexual connection is also predictable...two intense passionate water signs. He will be mean just waking up in the morning, and you will always be presenting your Cancerian issues.

What I say from afar is don't try to "bring it to the next level". See if it can last just like it is. Can you do what you are doing for another 6 months, or a year. My thought is that the Cancer in you wants to rush it to its "natural conclusion". Don't tell both your families. Keep it mysterious. The hurt you suffered is going to make you want to fly a new flag and make up for your pain and embarrassment by declaring "I aint down yet", but why don't you let that go for awhile.

Let the relationship really prove itself. So far you have said what is all natural. She Cancer, He Scorp. Love sex, intense feelings, dramatic histories. See how long you can take his Scorp meanness. See how long he can stand your Cancerian claws. See if it can fail. If after a long time, it is still going strong, maybe that will tell you something. When you both have "TRUST" issues, don't make trust that key thing by talking about long term commitment. Blessings.

Watery Cancer Girl on July 25, 2014:

OK - so I am a 47 year old cancer woman, recently divorced, dating a 53 year old scorpio man who has had two marriages and who has spent the last few years learning about himself (says he wants to make himself a better partner). Our connection to each other was almost immediate (not to mention magical), and within 3 days we couldn't bear to be apart. We've been dating for about four months now and are trying to decide if we should take this whole thing to the next level. (a more committed relationship where we let our friends and family know what is up).

The problem is, we both have deep trust issues - I am just out of a very long marriage that ended in my husband leaving me for another woman (hit me out of left field) and he has a hard time trusting me with some of the more difficult things that are happening in his life. It's getting better and he is opening up and I am learning how to trust, but it takes work. We talk about this stuff all the time, but I tend to be more needy and clingy than I should be, and he is your typical aloof and distant scorpio who likes his private time, and who doesn't like to share everything with me. These two things seem to play off of each other - when he is attentive and loving, I am no longer needy and clingy... but when he retreats in to scorpio alone time, I get anxious clingy and I'm almost unbearable. I know this about myself so I am working *very* hard on trusting him that what he tells me is true. He is simply having quiet time alone for himself and it's OK if I back off and go do things by myself and with my friends. His alone time is not about me. (I'm learning this... but when you've been cheated on by someone who had your heart and soul, it's difficult).

Neither one of us is ready for a lifetime commitment, but there is something about our connection to each other that seems to be worth it to "work this through." He has told me on multiple occasions that if he didn't feel I was "worth it" he would have left a long time ago, because he says I'm a pain in the butt (which I'm sure refers to my tendency to be clingy and needy.). And he can be so damn mean sometimes... the scorpio stinger is strong with him.. but I am starting to see that he does that when my crabby nature comes out... so, for me (and for him) being self aware is extremely helpful. I am also realizing that even though we're both extremely strong-willed, I am very willing to let him be in charge of things and how they progress because I could crawl into his arms and let him protect me forever. I love the way that feels. I love how I feel when I type that very sentence.

Of course the sex is out of this world and we both can't get enough of that, and it's almost like when we are making love we are communicating on a different, deeper level. It feels like I can see right into his soul. I have never experienced anything quite as intense and I have never been so drawn to a person as I am to my scorpio guy.

I'm willing to keep going with this very deep and complex man because the possibility of a deep and emotional and intense relationship with him seems very real to me. Again, I'm not rushing into anything but I sure am not rushing out, either. I'm really falling for him and he is also falling for me. We are going to work together to see where this goes.

Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 21, 2014:

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Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 21, 2013:

blackblondie2001. When you are who you are, and he is who he is, it is the apprehension of a magnificent positivism that is all important. You are about something special and it warrants your spiritual uplift. All the Best!

blackblondie2001 on May 21, 2013:

I love my cancer man I'm a Scorpio we've been dating almost a year now long distance most things that they are saying is true but the good outweighs the bad July 29th will be a year and we will reevaluate things wish me luck

Christofer French (author) from Denver on April 18, 2013:

Being a Scorpio and a Female, you are kind of in charge anyway. Deep inside. Let Cancer do their affection. It is fundamental to them.

Dezi on April 17, 2013:

My boyfriend iz a Cancer nd I'm a Scorpio...we started dating last Monday (April 8th) but hez kind of flirty which make me jealous...I really want thz 2 work but it seems lyke I'm tha only one outing n tha effort...second hez very touchy feely nd sexual but thn he duznt wanna hold hands we kiss n public...sumxz he will nd sumxz he wnt...I'm tha same minus the touchy feely part but I do know tht I lyke him nd I want us 2 b friends keep tellin me 2 lay down the law nd take charge of our relationship but itz easier said than dun I feel especially since I'm more of a quiet nd reserved person

Christofer French (author) from Denver on December 28, 2012:

RAD: All you "Can't help yourself" passionate/emotional people! Oh Vey! I am not being disrespectful, I am just observing that you both make your own soup thicker and bubblier. You would be good for him if he could stop being SO Scorpio, but who cares if he can't see your worth? Plenty of Cancers are full of love, but it comes with its own personal intensity. It's wonderful BUT. There you go! He tells you he is seeing someone else, you try to keep your Cancerian emotions in check while you forget that he is going to wake up every morning being the Superior Scorpio (his opinion of himself) and be proud of his honesty in declaring that you are "mentally distressing" and aren't number one on his dance card. Your "fierce loyalty" I don't think he appreciates. Skitter back to your home and get your pride back. Let him call you when he misses you and then don't call him back for a week. As a Scorpio he will either say "good riddance" or pursue you. As you can see, I am in your corner. A Cancer has to keep her pride. If she loses that, she has "already gone" and doesn't know it.

Be bold, love yourself. Smile at people who give you honest love back, and don't write him off completely, just disappear for awhile. Tell yourself this: "I am a wonder to be had. But I am not cheaply obtained." Blessings. Take care of yourself. Happy New Years.

Rad on December 26, 2012:

I've been seeing a Scorpio and I'm a Cancer.

Hot and cold, indeed. Push and pull factor - he wants me, yet he doesn't. Unfortunately I am fiercely loyal to him. He can be pretty damn selfish when he's depressed, but I will try to bear with it since I can't really... hurt him. The thought of him being hurt, hurts me more, and I will feel guilty right after. I am trying to understand him, but he can't keep pushing me forever... Plus the fact that he finds it mentally distressing to talk to me.

Until, of course, he told me he's seeing someone else. I told him that I would back off, but... He told me to stay. I don't know what to do, really.

Christofer French (author) from Denver on August 28, 2012:

You seem to have a Capricorn Rising as a Cancer. I think he is Scorpio with a Cap Rising. Cancer woman and Scorpio Man I would prefer, if I were choosing. You can mother him, he can be distant and fascinating. He can dig in as you try to control. As a couple you can both be serious about business goals, what the couple is doing, where we are going next. This would seem to be harmonious. If Cancer can search for a way to pretend to care less, you will bother him less. If he can take you orders, suggestions and directions, and pretend to listen to everything you say, then he and you can be happier.

When you do actually have a really serious confrontation, you should both practice humility with all of your hearts. Blessings.

HawynKween on August 27, 2012:

Aloha Christofers Flow... I tried but i don't understand the whole chart thing. My mother says i was born between 8-830pm. July 4th 1974, in hawaii. My scorpio was born at 11:38am on november 20, 1973 in puerto rico. What can you tell me?

Aloha & thank you(:

Christofer French (author) from Denver on August 23, 2012:

You're not wrong or heartless. If you want to write to him, tell him what your heart tells you to say. You are just going to have to wait for this situation to meet its natural end, and then discover where he is.

Lady c on August 23, 2012:

I'm a Scorpio woman. I met a Cancer man a few months ago, and wasn't attracted to him physically at all, and wasn't looking for a relationship. He was very persistent and patient and I was persuaded that we could give a relationship a try. I very quickly developed very strong feelings for him, and felt that we developed a strong emotional bond. I loved being with him, and loved looking forward to seeing him. Unfortunately, his mother became seriously ill, and he has ended our relationship so that he can spend more time with her, and focus on her. He made this decision very quickly, no discussion. In the following weeks, I wrote to him, and told him I understood, but that I still have feelings for him and miss him terribly. He has been in touch, and sounds like he may have changed his mind. Am I wrong to let him know I'm here for him? His mother is terminally ill. Might he come back to me when the inevitable has happened? Am I heartless to be concerned for my own heartbreak when he is going through so much?

Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 09, 2012:

HawyenKween: Aloha and Shalom. If you get within two hours we have the rising. If the mother says: Before Noon but after sunrise, that will help too.

HawynKween on May 08, 2012:

My Scorpio went home to visit his mother and it feels like i lost a part of myself..... Its strange how he drives me insane when he's here with his jealousy and sneakiness, but when he's gone... there's no words. He feels the same. We are both going to try and find out the times of our births so that we can get a better reading... hope all goes well with this! Love & aloha to all(:

Christofer French (author) from Denver on April 29, 2012:

1942, I feel your emotions. If you have a Scorpio with no negatives, you do have a wonderful resource and love. Yours, CUF

HawynKween on April 26, 2012:


1942 on April 24, 2012:

I am a cancer female and just just got out of a relationship with a scorpio man. I must say i never felt more passion in my life.. We got along perfectly. It was like a magetic forse that pulled us together every time.. The sex was amazing he was so passionate and loving took care of my every need.. He gave me the attention i craved... But ofcourse my crab like ways and his need for space pushed us away from eachother... I had dated a taurus for 11 years never felt so safe and comforted as my scorpio made me feel in 3 months... I will never forget our passion if he comes back i would take him back in a heart beat :) miss my scorpio

Christofer French (author) from Denver on April 24, 2012:

HawynKween: Read my TRIAD article. Go and get a computerized listing of your triads for both of you, or just yourself. Go to my TRIAD article, read there, and I will do a "reading" for you through the comment.

HawynKween on April 23, 2012:

My scorpio is extremely jealous and possessive. Moody at times too. I have been dealing with it as he has been dealing with my moodiness.Its not all what i expected this relationship to be....

Christofer French (author) from Denver on April 23, 2012:

Myah: Scorp makes people get in touch with their own feelings. They are very good for that. If you love the stuff people complain about, then you have been "prepared". Go for it. Cancer is soft inside remember. Oh, yeah, your tough and hard, but don't forget the Moon and the soft tidal flows around your heart. Scorp won't waste your emotions. All the best.

Myah on April 21, 2012:

I'm a cancer woman who came across a scorp male for the first time in my life and I can tell you that I am breathing hard just writing this about him :)

I love all his traits, including the ones people complain about. His jealousy makes me feel secure and no one has ever shown me this intense interest and attention. It's like we are on something when we are together, the energy is amazing! I have heard that compatibility is higher when a scorp is more 'evolved'.

bleh on April 18, 2012:

Im sure there are many wonderful cancer men out there, but i swear the one i dated on and off for 10 years, wanna talk about hell wow. Dumped quite frequently for others. It must be something with the whole moon and sun things when we are born bec i swear we could never make us work out.

Debbierl on April 12, 2012:

You need a full chart reading, sun signs alone are just a starting point. I am a cancer woman with Scorpio man and it is wonderful and very intense, we have many other chart compatibilities. We are also older and have learned from the destructiveness from past. Oddles of good stuff here if both are willing to forgive and talk it out. Two evolved of any of 5/9 pattern vibration is a gift, don't squander it on pettiness, jealousy, and selfishness

HawynKween on March 14, 2012:

Mahalo! Thank you!

Christofer French (author) from Denver on March 14, 2012:

HawynKween: All the best to both of you.

HawynKween on March 13, 2012:

Yes. He is moving here. Spent 3 weeks here with me and my family and we fell even more in love. No pressure what-so-ever. Marriage has already been dicussed before (he wants children right away, should i be worried about that?). His worry is that i may have other men who i may be or have been seeing on the side popping up, typical scorpio suspicions, always testing. Me being a single mom with no time for that kind of relationships, he has no need to worry about that at all. He has his house still back on the mainland and he's keeping it after we both discussed it, just in case things don't go as we hope them to or if we feel the need to travel get away and go to his home. I enjoy his knowledge and the way his mind works. I'm positive that we are both very aware of the others needs as well as our own and mature enough to handle whatever may come our way. (:

Christofer French (author) from Denver on March 13, 2012:

HawynQueen - I am very positive about people who are positive about new relationships. HOWEVER. A Scorpio is moving all the way to Hawaii to you? Tell me that doesn't put pressure on you. Make him declare that he will not hold this against you. This is almost like a marriage! Be sure that he won't hold this over you if it does not work out. A Scorpion is on your beach. How do you tell him to get off your beach if you want to? Just a warning.

HawynKween on March 12, 2012:

@ ThatDude- Im a cancer woman and i have to say that she probably does notice you. I met my scorpio man on-line and from the moment he asked to be my friend and i accepted (MyYearbook) he pursued me, messaging me and eventually getting me interested enough to give him my phone number. I am a very cautious woman and i don't like men who play games, the attraction i felt to this man almost scared me. He lives in the mainland and i live in Hawaii. Im so glad he pursued me and i gave him the chance to show me what knid of men he is. He's moody and mysterious, and sometimes manipulative but i understand that most of it comes from feelings being hurt, as scorpios are really sensitive people. Just like most of us cancerians. He came to visit me here for a few weeks, and now he's moving here. To the people who are negative about Scorpio/Cancer matches, have you ever given any thought to the fact that every person is different? Maturity level and expectations as well as patience and communication play a big role in any relationship no matter what sign you may be. We have been together fo 8 months and every time we have even a little bitty argument we step back and bite our tongues until we are calmed down enough to discuss things like 2 adults. I think my scorpio man is the only man who has ever understood me or even tried to. Aloha.

Christofer French (author) from Denver on March 08, 2012:

KN: A Scorp female and Cancer Male is good. With the genders switched, it might not be as stable. Both of you should learn to determine the essence of the other's drives. When you do, you will have much understanding.

KN on March 07, 2012:

I am a scorpio female and I have been with a cancer male now for 4 years. Everything in this article is spot on, it basically has outlined our relationship and our attitudes to one another; he is my soulmate. In the beginning of our relationship, I didn't understand a lot of his ways, cause I was with a Capricorn prior for 7 years. We would argue and I would sting and he would retreat. It took a life event happening for both of us to get on the same 'waterlength' aka wavelength. All relationships take work, but I will tell you since that moment things between us have been absolute bliss and they just keep getting better.

Christofer French (author) from Denver on March 05, 2012:

That Dude: Cancer women are pretty hard to impress. They are caught up in their moods and personal issues. They are business oriented and think much about their family. All women want to see that a guy has "potential". Cancers are very much that way. She may have prejudged you, but it is very hard to get inside a Cancer's head whichever gender. There's no magic in the attraction arena. I help people after they have a relationship going. All the best.

ThatDude on March 03, 2012:

ummm soo i like this cancer girl but i dunno if she notices it or not like she will talk to me and completely blow me off then maybe tlk to me later i want to date her but i cant seem to get a good conversation going or get her attention i think with my observancy i have noticed she may want me but i don't kno she is confusing how can i get with her? i really have strangely wanted her from the moment i met her lol. please help lol umm im a scorpio

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 29, 2012:

There's a natural harmony there in the Water. Your cardinality takes a rest in his arms. His fixed nature gives you a little peace, but his loud humming of competence and care gives you solace. Sounds like it is working. Don't do anything unpredictable Cancer. Stay calm and don't give Scorp material to be suspicious about --- anything.

amandalewis on January 27, 2012:

I'm a female cancer and have dated just about everyone under all signs except for a Scorpio until recently..almost a year ago and this has been the most comfortable, fulfilling , fun, happy, and passionate relationships I have ever been in. Hoping it will stay like this forever but I know well have to work at it....wouldn't trade my Scorpio for anything

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 25, 2012:

Both of these comments center on the importance of individuality. This is the emphasis of my writings and commentary. We have tendencies, but the importance of individual consciousness is the key. I have said it many times. However, if you ignore tendencies and demand that people do what they are not inclined to, then we can fail, or make comfort harder.

drew on January 25, 2012:

cancer scorpio is the perfect match but needs work just like any relationship. although star signs have an affect it doesn't rule your life. you have free will use it wisely.

jen on January 24, 2012:

in a relationship its not about the sign its about how you deal with your a scorpio woman married to a cancer guy for ten years and i do read all your post looks like some of you here dating a teenager guy...yes scorpio are intense and cancer are moody and everytime my husband is moody i always give him a hug then move away like do grocery shopping when i came back hes okey and back to normal... looks like most of your comments wer having a problem on pride... when dealing on cancer guy pride is a big issue lower it give them a hug and kiss if their moody, then cook a nice meal for him then everything will be okey and by the way never ever interrupt a cancer guy if their working on their favorite cars or playing their video games or watching their favorite soccer game it pissed them off..coz after that their going to give you all the attention you want...leave them alone if their angry they will calm down don't bugg them or ask things too much while their moody.. most of all always makes them laugh they love it ina silly but sweet way...and in every relationship thers always ups and downs theres no such thing like a perfect relationship...if it doesn't meant for you then don't generalize opinions bout a certain sign coz the problem lies on every individual not just on signs...but what it says here on this article wer really match on my personality and on my hubby..

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 03, 2012:

Love is the transcendent power. If you have it, grow it, nurture it and revere both yourself and your partner's divine origin. Astrology helped you find each other, now its up to you.

scorpio on January 03, 2012:

i belive horoscope but not xtreme... love s in our hand not in horoscope.. if v love truly we will b with them forever and nothing can change them.. i love my guy truly even he s.. so we decided to marry each other...:) pls guys wish us with good heart :)

Heather on December 15, 2011:

people who are doubting this also, you're only relying on the signs to tell you if a relationship will work out, sure i'm looking at this, but thats because i'm a scorpio dating a cancer, i really want it to work out, we've been really close friends for a long time and recently started dating, i wanted kind of a rough insight into what the relationship will be like, and so far based on our personalities it should work out. (:

Christofer French (author) from Denver on December 14, 2011:

Of course a Cancer is going to feel like that about Scorpio. Just stay away, and go for a high energy Pisces, or a mellow, if that's possible, Sag or Aries.

snakebite on December 13, 2011:

It is the scorpio who's wrong here.I aint a cancer or a scorp but i'll tell you something, they are on a power trip.Just treat them like they try to treat you when you're done with their bull...

Seraphina on December 12, 2011:

im a scorpio and my boyfriend is a cancer. we've been together now for 16 months and yes we have our ups and downs and believe me we have many differences. for example im very sociable and i enjoy going out exploring the worl and doing things whereas he would rather stay home and is very anti social...he like having all my time and doesn't like to give me space to breath..this is the heart of all our problems because this makes me push him away and that makes him feel like im rejecting him....but despite all of that i love him dearly

Kay on December 06, 2011:

I'm a cancer who dated nothing but scorpios from the time I started hanging out with guys (around 15) until this past year, and I am 22 now. There were a few other signs scattered about, but none who lasted long enough or had enough impact to be counted.

I was always so powerfully drawn to scorpio men at first encounter. They have this intensity flowing from their eyes, they exude an intense passion over everything they talk about, and they talk to you like your the only person who exists in the world. I would never be surprise when someone told me when they were born, it was so obvious, and by the time I was dating my tenth or so scorpio I knew there was a problem because although I had been in love, I had never had a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

It depends so strongly on the other placements in their charts, but one trait a ccorpio can never seem to be without is intense and irrational jealousy. Being a sag moon I require a lot of freedom and love to gain new life experiences, and having venus (as well as mars and SN) in leo, I love attention but am fiercely loyal and would never dream of cheating. All of my scorpio boyfriends would try to keep me locked up in their apartments, and would become overly jealous of my friends (even the female ones) and even my jobs.

Right now I am in the most loving relationship I have ever experienced. The man I am with is a gemini, which is extremely incompatible with cancers, but he happens to be a cancer moon. Because my sag moon is highly compatible with his gemini sun, and his cancer moon and my cancer sun are cunjunct, there is a harmony like I've never experienced before. I am almost positive that it was love at first sight on my end (although I feel kind of funny admitting it) which could be because my mars is sextile his venus. We never fight, and each of us always knows how to cheer the other one up instinctively. Because of the cancer placements we both love to nurture and be nurtured and we haven't managed to smother eachother yet, and because of the sag/gemini placements we both love to learn and appreciate the intelligent conversations we can have with one another.

To all of those cancers who are stuck on scorpios, try something new and you might surpise yourselves. Even look up your full natal chart. You don't have to understand everything, but if you just learn enough to understand your ascendant and moon signs then it will open up huge new clues to compatibility.

Ryan again on December 06, 2011:

Scorpio female Cancer male 14 months ago

Let me just start by saying I love my cancer man with all heart and soul. I'd be lost without him. We met in January he proposed in July and we married in September all in 2010. But we took the time to get to know each other before starting our relationship. I do believe to an extent signs play a part in love but it's not always a perfect match for everyone. You have to feel it in your heart to know if the person you are with is the right one for you not just rely on the signs. A lot of what is said about signs is true at least for us it is, but we didn't get together just because of our signs. I'm calm water he is moving water and sometimes one of us wants to drown the other in water but it works for us. We feed off each other and learn from each other. Fights suck and everyone does fight at one point or another but it's what you learn from the fight that really matters. When you fight you must listen to the other fight back and in a way it's a form of communication. A relationship will NEVER work if you don't communicate. Don't just hear what your partner is saying but listen to what they are saying, odds are it is something that is important to them so it should be important to you too. Reguardless of if your signs are a match or not it's what you feel in your heart that really matters.

Truer words have never been spoken.

Ryan on December 06, 2011:


It's true, Cancers do have a remarkable ability to manipulate. I'd say it's because of our strong emotional connections to others we can sense just what needs to be said to manipulate. As far as the narcissist part, I can only guess that she had a troubled life. I haven't known too many Cancerians myself, but I have a very manipulative and narcissistic Taurean father and I became a lot like him. I have been getting a lot of help for my issues and I am returning to my Cancerian path, but we hurt very easily when vulnerable. And with family we are always vulnerable because we're always outside of your shell around loved ones. Cancerians should really deal with the shit in their life. My father was verbally and physically abusive and I became depressed, but I am a happy person by nature and depression made me angry. I used to rage when playing games and got more pissed when people made fun of me. I stayed mad at them or deleted them forever. Now my anger vents in just minutes. My recommendation is if you know a Cancer like that, try to encourage them to seek help. Be gentle as it is a sore subject, but firm.

But what I got from the first 10 comments was that Scorpio MEN and Cancer WOMEN don't get along. I have been seeing this A LOT. The stronger Cancer decans and more evolved Cancer men tend to do just fine with Scorpio women.

Robin on October 13, 2011:

ALL I COULD SAY THAT THIS IS ALL SOOO TRUE! Probably it depends on how you handle your relationship and how you two connect with each other; also it's about who you are when you are together. I am a Cancer and my boyfriend is a Scorpio an we both agree in this research. We're laughing when we're reading it because it's so us!

Scorpioman on October 09, 2011:

I am a scorpio man and in my experience I have found most cancerian women to be narcissists and very maniplative. They think they are the only ones with feelings and if you act up the way they do they feel very offended.

Cancerian women feel they have the right to do anything they want and it is justifiable to them. Read the comments by cancerian women it is “me” or “I” and the constant blaming of other people. What they must realise it that they can never get any help from anybody to understand their faults since they avoid saying "I acted like a fool or I was in a bad moody and this made my boyfriend upset" or something like that. You will never come across a cancerian acknowledging their mistakes.

I have never come across a happy cancerian woman before and I feel sorry for a guy who is dating a cancerian woman. However, if a guy does not mind living with the hell and heaven at the same time then he can go for a cancer woman. But for a stable relationship then I would advise anyone not to go for a cancer woman.

On the other hand, they are beautiful but it contrast with their personality and this makes it worse.

Vanessa on September 26, 2011:

I am a Scorpio woman, and my ex was a Cancer Man, and even though I am intense, strong willed, bossy, opinionated, and dominating in the relationship. I did everything I could to be considerate and show love to my insecure Cancer Man.

I could drive my cancer man crazy with my opinionated manner, but he also couldn't resist me emotionally & sexually. And I could be very soft & kind & considerate with him.

Some Cancers are shy, funny, accepting, kind, all over the place, contradict themselves, worry, insecure .. and these are what I have seen in my Ex. I ended up devoting a massive effort to make him feel sexy, secure & loved. In the end his paranoia & commitment issues got the best of our relationship. He never thought he was attractive enough for me & always changing his mind. He doesn't know what he wants. He let me go ..

Now six months later. I am managing to get on with my life. It was hard but I focused on moving forward.

Only to find out, that he can't move on. He is still in love with me. The emotional & sexual connection is something that we both feel we will never find again.

However, no relationship with him will work, unless he finds a way of overcoming his trust & self worth issues.

I have now found another cancer man that is older than me (rather than younger like the previous). Of course I see so many similar traits. So far he reminds me of my ex. Am I trying to replace my ex ?? Prob. Its still early days. Remain to see if it will work out.

UNKNOWN on September 24, 2011:


Tege0137 on September 17, 2011:

I'd like to apologize first off if this comes off offensive to anyone but, prior to any relationships one must be first and foremost being secure with self and loving self before one could truly share and give that intense love to whomever you're destine for!!! Zodiac signs are attributes not justification to think and act certain ways as we always have choice first and foremost... Also, if one isn't true to self then, it will be difficult to be true to others no matter the deep love you give! As you project outwardly so do you attract, it isn't a fair assessment to say that all Scorpio's or Cancer's are either this way or that! I'm a Scorpio man and though my presence may seem like a particular way, the respect I have for anyone even strangers are with respect,kindness qualities I've within me, I'm freely able to share those qualities with others! True that I think and speak on immense subject matters I don't always share those things with others for the calmness I'm surrounded by, helps me to extend kindness and respect to others! I don't think I'm more superior than others yet I've a superior presence about me I always not know of myself as well as all preconceived notions fly out the window as I show respect in always. Many don't realize I'm a Scorpio because of my demeanor as I'm quick to forgive all for I forgive myself though I don't ever forget the actions committed against me or the actions I've committed against others! Rather than get into relationships which I've been in two, both failed relationships, I've chosen to work on me so as to not attract drama into my next relationship! Strive to work on self as then you could be true to others... I've a Cancer friend from Ukraine as the emotions we have for one another are already intense as we've not experience the physical portion yet! We talk about open communication right from the beginning for I'm content with a lasting relationship as we'er learning about one another's tendency's! Open communication from the beginning and being secure within self is so important before embarking on any relationships as well as willing to meet in the middle without compromise is important!my birthday is October 29th.Thank for allowing me to voice my opinions and again my sincerest apologies if I've offend anyone!


Scorpio dating cancer man on September 13, 2011:

I'm a scorpio women and have been dating a cancer man for 2 years now.

I know I can be difficult but cancers are too.. They act how they feel all the time. If he feels sad or mad I already know he isn't doing things today.. And trying to talk to him is like pulling teeth, all i want to do is become closer to him and when doing so he makes me feel like I'm some crazy girl who needs all this attention, but when i just back off because I'm not even like that, he starts telling me oh stay or don't go, like what the heck? Ugh then when we argue I do have a problem with leaving but its only because he's so disrespectful and me I am always careful as to what I say because I hate having to apologize for something stupid that I said. (feels like a waste of time) and honestly im so tired of being the giver in this relationship, cancers are takers all I do is give give give, my time money,love, mind, body, n soul. And in return I get a cancer who always thinks I'm out to hurt him in some way. It like geez love with ur heart on ur sleeve like me. He says I'm so annoying with asking questions but geez i just wanted to have a conversion with you, um because couples do that!!!! Duh ugh. Will he ever just grow up and get a job and truly love me and at least act like we are a couple and not just be selfish and pissed when up don't get something you want.. And they are huge liers, lying when they don't even need to, and always making me believe that up are actually "trying" but i never see it. Don't get me wrong they can be goods to them to but very few. Like I love how he loves, when he actually act like it, when he "feels" like it.. And how he defends me idk we use to talk a lot but who knows what happen, idk this isn't an easy relationship when both arent all in, they both deff need th be trusting and respectful to one another. Try at all cost to avoid really hurting one another because both of up will always pay for them.

Odessa Grant-Esco on August 08, 2011:

i have a cancer boyfriend and we love each other so much i have never felt this way about anyone ever...i don't think i can have a deeper relationship physically or emotively....i have never even thought of dating till i met him and know i know i will never have to date i've found my soul mate. he is cool on the outside but super sensitive while im crazy on the out side and sensitive and deep on the inside. we both are secretive but always want to know everything about each other, he makes me feel safe and i push him to do crazy thing that he ends up loving i love how sweet and deep he is he keeps me interested because i never know what he thinking but always know that he. i like that he doesn't play my games at the right times and how he makes me feel warm. sure hes moody but i love drama and with him i can choose to have it but never do because he is more important than the excitement of a fight. i love you Daniel Cassar

cancerman on August 06, 2011:

i'm a cancer and i've dated a few scorpios. the first one i met it felt like an alignment of stars. it was not the easiest of relationships but yet i just remember the good thigns about it. and the sme for the other scorpios I have been with. the intensity is mind blowing and there's always a deep attraction that goes beyond the physical that i am love- actually kind of hooked on. I have not found this type of attraction with other signs.

i am single at the moment and want tknow too well a scorpio will be my partner. true they are difficult and secretive but relationships are WORK regardless of the sign. so for those who think they will enter a union and not do anything well wake up! that said it's the sign for me. i don't regret anything with the other ones and while none of these relationships or date have materialized in something long term i am convinced and hopeful that a scorp will turn out.

Scorpio- Sweety on May 22, 2011:

Hi all, I am a scorpio and trust me I had have some pretty challenging encounters/ romances. But a cancerian totally blew my mind!!!!. I really want to hate him and at the same time I can't help but to wanna love him even more..??!!. Now this is insane..because he is a bitch, prick and ffing moody, he lies play mind games and is a ffing playboy which he is so proud of...Now how sad is that. Bloody waiste my time effort in trying to understand him..!!!. First of all e snobs me because of jealosy and his own insecurities.Ask him tons of times to communicate and then he runs off..without a notice..I mean like how childish is this..Told him that I feel more for him and wanted to share some more fun time with him only for him to brand me as clingy..when I mentioned I was moving and perhaps find a place which was going to be a bit closer to were he lives. Only to get a very violant a text..I was like are you for real...??.. I always treated him with kindness, attentive ways and support not mention my love for him..and now all he did is leave ...NOW SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME the defenition of loyalty, faithfullness when this cancerian guy sleep with any girl that wiggles her tail to him..and him wanting pervy..stuff of them...and apperantly he is in love with another..?????????????.CONFUSION OVERALL.. no more Cancerian men..they are useless and selfish pigs...!!!..

marquita on April 20, 2011:

I'm a. gemini/ cancer women with a scorpio man and we get alone great he understands my in and out he is a wonderful father to my children who are not he's he holds me when I cry I'm so emotional just writing this thinking of him bring tears to my eyes we have been together 4 years and I'm loving me some him and FYI he's the best sex I ever had

sad on April 03, 2011:

I'm Cancer and my scorpio has hurt me so cruelly. We were on and off and then we had a fight because I said he drank too much. We reconciled and I thought we could work things out, but then he froze me out completely and three weeks later he is proclaiming his love on FB for a new woman (a Taurus woman. Yuk). I'm shattered. I can't believe how cruel he is.

a. dias on February 16, 2011:

i think its a bunch of crap i am a scorpio and dated a cancer girl i love her a whole lot ant still love her but she dosnt feel the same about me

Krissti on February 07, 2011:

I'm a cancer and this guy I like is a Scorpio,I really like him and I don't know

if he likes me back.He's really secretive though.And all I

know is that Scorpios have a jealous heart and if you try to

tease them with another man/woman they can erupt like a volcano.

payton Delreal on December 28, 2010:

hello,Im a scorpio and my hubby to be is a cancer, weve been together for ten years and to this date i feel like the bad guy and he the good guy me he is so simple minded,he is always collecting stuff that i know he doesn't need. however he is the nicest man i ever met, and he is so considerit of me always. im lucky to have a a person whom can deal with the scorpio i am.these two have their problems who doesn't.

mooncs on December 19, 2010:

I'm a cancer girl dating a scorpio man for 4 years and each day i love him more and more. and yes, our relationship is hot and cold but i have never, never felt in love to a man this way before. i have dated an aries guy (very emotional, intense / get jealous easily bt he himself is a distrustful person), gemini (surprisingly i find myself attracted to his mind, but that was all it seems, we just talk and talk and then suddenly he was pushing me to marry him), then the sagittarius guy , who is kinda sadistic, very emotional in a wrong way, possessive, caring but a sucker in the romantic department, then the Capricorn whom i have adored for quite a long time because he is very caring and quite loving.. but he was also too busy with his work, his circles of friends and loveeess to party.

my scorpio man is a strong, cool, sexy guy who is also very, very loving. the kind of guy who i love to spent the whole day cuddle up with - even when we have not much to talk about and just giggle and look at each other eyes. he's just the perfect match for me!!!and i guess i am the jealousy type and i can get insecure when other girls tried to make a move on him. i could swear i would crush those girls! LOl. But sometimes im also wondering why he rarely gets jealous (or he is, but never shows) but maybe he feels very secure around me.

but yes its true, no one says any relationship should be smooth. we have our ups and downs as well. there were a few times when we fight because i accused him of flirting around wt some girl - and we almost broke up because of the missunderstanding. even the thought of infidelity can be very dangerous in our relationship.and there were also times when he gets pissed off when i seemingly arrogant - all because i was hurt and acted cold. these are some of the problems that i noticed which needed to be improve. communication is important in the scorpio and cancer relationship. scorpio should also make the move to approach the cancer whenever shes in her shell, because eventho shes hiding, all she wanted is to be comforted by her man. don't give up. if theres tears while making up be sure to hit the bed. LoL!

tmp on December 17, 2010:

I LOVE reading all of the comments above. I am a SCORPIO woman who has been dating a CANCER man and my relationship has been the most intense and passionate relationship I have ever been in. From the moment I saw him, I knew I wanted him. In fact, our relationship was long distance for the first year because I met him while on vacation. Its been three years now and although we have our battles, when we are good, we are GREAT! He is the ONLY man who has EVER been able to put me in check

mika on December 12, 2010:

I'm a cancer N" I don't get along with any scorpios ther 2 bossy N"moody there not understanding N"cancers are not always N"a shell I get out N"have fun I hav no problem communicating LLS.cancers N"scorpios arnt th best match sagiterious is belive me any cancer who dates a sagiterious thy wud B"together for along time U can put money on it

mika on December 12, 2010:

I'm a cancer N" I don't get along with any scorpios ther 2 bossy N"moody there not understanding N"cancers are not always N"a shell I get out N"have fun I hav no problem communicating LLS.cancers N"scorpios arnt th best match sagiterious is belive me any cancer who dates a sagiterious thy wud B"together for along time U can put money on it

scorpionN on December 11, 2010:

i really like this girl she is cancer and i am a scorpio, ive never met anyone like her, shes lovely on every level, i really want to be with her, i cant stop thinking about her, do i leave it as it is and not say anything, i will be moving away shortly and probley will never see her again and i know im going to miss her like crazy

babaaurhum on November 25, 2010:

Hi think this description is pretty accurate, although general.. We are talking billions of humans that we grossly divide into 12 categories! So I think it is to be taken with a grain of salt. I happen to be in the "cancer" category and my love is a male in the "scorpio" category. Our relationship is thriving on every front. The key to our success I think is a very strong mutual respect of individuality, thought, and freedom. There is no cheating and lying. When I brouse through these comments I see much immaturity as the basis for lack of success in a relationship. Being two "compatible signs" is not sufficient to live a happy peaceful relationship. In our case I think it may help - we are also older and know what we want in life. I feel we both have these very deep and intense feelings that are described above. However, I don't count on this alone to carry the relationship forward.

Nolapete from New Orleans, LA on November 24, 2010:

There's a huge difference between Scorpio Man/Cancer Woman relationships versus Scorpio Woman/Cancer Man relationships. I'm a a Scorpio man and I love my Cancer Woman. We connect on so many levels and it makes life great. The part that is the most difficult is when we fight. I want resolution and she wants to crawl into her shell after she pinches me with those claws. It's like she wants to provoke me to sting her. The problems that just about everyone who posted comments here are facing are related to individual personalities and not the norm for the signs. Astrology can only be a guide not a hard and fast rule. @Cancer woman - If you think aloof and elusive Aquarius will give you any warmth, you're sadly mistaken and will be met with severe disappointment. Aquarians are shiny toys.

Cancer woman on November 20, 2010:

I am fed up! My Scorpio husband doesn't like to talk at all, says he feels fine being silent. I hate small talk but love to discuss any social issues, cultural differences political solutions etc. He says I am too opinionated and shuts me down constantly. At the same time he feels free to say anything I don't care about, but of course I listen. Why won't a Scorpio man make a small step to keep their marriage? How hard is it to open up? We are still married but now decided to separate . Those moments of sharing are so scarce, I am forced to look elsewhere for warmth and understanding. Scorpio cruelty is boundless, I am convinced now I should have married someone else, maybe a Taurus or Pisces. Even Aquarius sounds better: the occasional absence is 10000000 times better than the grime of constant silence and boredom...

Scorpio female Cancer male on October 11, 2010:

Let me just start by saying I love my cancer man with all heart and soul. I'd be lost without him. We met in January he proposed in July and we married in September all in 2010. But we took the time to get to know each other before starting our relationship. I do believe to an extent signs play a part in love but it's not always a perfect match for everyone. You have to feel it in your heart to know if the person you are with is the right one for you not just rely on the signs. A lot of what is said about signs is true at least for us it is, but we didn't get together just because of our signs. I'm calm water he is moving water and sometimes one of us wants to drown the other in water but it works for us. We feed off each other and learn from each other. Fights suck and everyone does fight at one point or another but it's what you learn from the fight that really matters. When you fight you must listen to the other fight back and in a way it's a form of communication. A relationship will NEVER work if you don't communicate. Don't just hear what your partner is saying but listen to what they are saying, odds are it is something that is important to them so it should be important to you too. Reguardless of if your signs are a match or not it's what you feel in your heart that really matters.

Sophaloaf on October 03, 2010:

I'm a Cancer female in the year of the sheep and my boyfriend is a Scorpio in the year of the dragon.

Its only been a month of dating and I feel like I've been with him for three years. We connect so well and if one has a complaint, the other will listen closely. We are both very playful, passionate, and caring for each other.

He is VERY protective of me, and I LOVE it. I'm a jealous bitch and hate seeing girls look at him, while he hates it when guys try to talk to me. We've both told each other that we are jealous and protective and neither of us mind.

My friends say they are envious of our relationship. He and I go with the flow and never get tired of each other.

We love playing video games together and watching cartoons. I'm more of the cartoons fan but heputs up withit for me.

Our sex can be wild or passionate, but it always ends with cuddles and tickles.

This crab has never been happier! I dated a guy for over a year and it was NEVER anything like this! I still can't believe that only getting to know each other for about two days we clicked so well. I thought this would be bad, jumping into a relationship, but it's wonderful! We learn things about each other all the time and we enjoy it! He listens to me, brings me food from his work, and loves to spoil me, while I adore and spoil him as well. We are filled with jokes and find each other hilarious.

cancer female/scorpio male on September 29, 2010:

Im adding to my statement from above (jessica). Some say that scorpios don't commit but mine asked me to marry him a month after we started dating and got married 9 months later both at 19(28 now). Come to find out we both had a unacknowleged crush on the other for a good three years during high school but had been with other people at the time. We got married 9 months later. He was my prom date and here we are 9 years later.

We are also known for some insane fights that usually end with talking it out while both of us are crying. He is secretive to a degree but he will answer pretty much anything I ask him honestly (he cant lie well with a straight face). He's logical and I live in a dream world of possibilities. He's kind and caring,and I am a mothering type. He is an extreme believer in justice. Do not watch Cops with him, you can not tune him out, I've tried. Then he gets furious and claims all kind of crazy things, like he knows everything in my head all of sudden. We are both naturally defensive and get hurt easily. Its not a combination to be taken lightly. It can be an all or nothing relationship. In all my fussing though, he is a decent, hard working man with big dreams and a heart of gold. He never over looks a good deed and he is fiercely loyal and protective.

jessica on September 29, 2010:

I am a cancer and have been married to a scorpio for 8 years, right out of highschool. We have three beautiful children together. But...I have to say that our union was a worldwind romance. Married and pregnant after our first year together:) I am extremely emotional and he is very sensitive. He has STRONG political views and voices them LOUDLY. Im just trying to get though today. I tend to absorb all the pessamistic energy he tends to put out when he gets in a rant. I am opinionated and so is he even though he lets me run the show most days as long as its nothing he feels too strongly about. He is huge on comlimenting things I do, which sometimes feels like overkill. It sometimes feels like he is still trying to prove something. He hates crowds, where don't mind them. Its a relationship that keeps me on my toes but we love to sit at home at night and watch movies and talk incessintly. We are wonderful, complicated, passionate, and we both try to be the best we can be for eachother. Everyday is still trying to figure the other out. But he has to be one of the most sensitive and intense men I have ever been with. I love him more then my own life and couldn't see my love going to a better man...

mo on September 15, 2010:

maybe all the problems could have been avoided if you took the time to get to know your partner before getting together, i know both scorpios and cancers have a tendency to rush into things. im a scorpio woman, and i'm in love with a cancer man, but before i even came close to this conclusion, we were just friends, actually best friends, for three years. we learned how to express ourselves verbally first, instead of just relying on our "intuitions." both of us have said hurtful things to eachother, and we learned that's not the approach we should be taking. i can't say why so many of you are in this union, when you say it's hell. i think many of you are probably hurt by your partner right now, and once again just saying things you don't mean because you don't know how to express the way you really feel. our relationship is absolutely perfect, even the fights are perfect, because when they're resolved we've both gained something beautiful from the experience. my best advice is to get it out and let it go. your love can overcome any obstacle thrown in the path.

Lucinda on August 24, 2010:

I am dating my first scorpio ever. I don't know, if it makes a difference that I am on the cusp of gemini/cancer. The magic cusp they call it. My Scorpio who has an aries moon and venus in Libra backs off when we disagree. There have been a few times his stinger has come out like when he doesn't get what he wants he can be really mean and aggressive and i just tell him "hey you are being really mean and aggressive and i don't appreciate it. I do it in a really cool and detached way. he always ends up apologizing. He has said he doesn't want to lose me so that might be it. he is extremly romantic and passionate. has a tendency in over indulging in sex and food. I cook for him all the time. i am also older than he so he really values my insight on a lot of things. he definitely has a lot of respect for me. We've been dating for 8 months now. It'll be interesting to see how this pans out.

nefraatishia on August 20, 2010:

Well am a cancer and i have been dating this scorpio for 2 years now, well dnt get me wrong we are to didn't people and we both worked on the realationship together, but it is two different sides to a scorpio and a cancer and he is different hes not like all the scorpios i know to tell you the truth he way different he's loving,caring, loves me, and we both got alot in commen so there is different things they say about scorpio and i dnt think half of them are truth tell you find out your self

scorplc on August 10, 2010:

Cancerian men are real pains in the ass!!They go through a different menstrual cycle 3 times a day. When you try getting close they runaway. Then when you're finally over them they crab their way back to you with broken claws as if nothing happened. Are they for real? There is only so much a woman can take!! Even if you were to try to be patient with them due to their lack of confidence in themselves and fear of rejection, at what age are they going to grow up? They are totally taxing my nerves and give me gray hairs.

If they did not have their stupid moods and insecurities they can make a great partner for scorpio females.

grandelatte on August 03, 2010:

I dated a scorpio and would love to date another. We connected on many levels which made communication very easy. Like other scorps, he got scared off and left. I tried to warn him that I'm the type of crab that doesn't wait around to be rejection twice but he thought my softness was weakness. When he returned and returned and returned and still returns, he just gets shot down. He can just look in my eyes and know that he can't get back in again. I feel bad but I want a man who will choose me when push comes to shove. He just wasn't the right scorp for me because if he was he would have done everything to keep me because that's what scorps do when they want something...they don't give up that easily.

Kia on July 26, 2010:

I am a Cancer and have been dating a Scorpio for almost a year now. It's friggin amazing. There is so much intensity and understanding that it feels like we are under the influence of something. Not only is the sex passionate and fun, but so is the relationship in itself. It just feels right with us. I have had no trust issues with my Scorpio man. Sure, I do cower into my "shell" when bitter words are exchanged, and he can be cynical. But being together is like...Wow. Amazing!

chula on July 17, 2010:

man this is so true ive been with my babyfather for 12 years and its been hell the last two ive stop completely sleeping with hin im a scorpio and hes a cancer man hes lazy don't want to work for 12 years and im so demanding i expect more and man his moods change so much in a day that i don't even pay it any attention so i don't know how they say cancer and scorpio are a match in heaven

cancer who was with a scorpio on July 03, 2010:

As a cancer female whos been with a scorp male I have to say all these women are right. I can't say we're the best match.. Idk who is for them though but I don't want to repeat everything said. It will be a lot of ups and downs the cancer fighting to save the relationship and gain loyalty and trust only for him to continue to the cycle of breaking up and disappearing to be back to try again and missing her over and over until the cancer doesn't care or ends it.

Real Scorpio woman on May 01, 2010:

I'm sorry to say but I'm a scorpio n everything you guys are saying about a Scorpio is false! I've been with a cancer for about 3 years now he is everything you guys say a scorpion is! He don't know how to communicate n money is eveything to him! I give him the world all he does is look down down on me! He acts like he is bi-plolar...his mood changes like 3-4 times aday everyday. When we argue he wants me to leave but always end up wanting me back! Like really??? Make up your mind fool! Anyways I just wanted to correct you guys on that



Cherry on April 27, 2010:

I agree with Peach's post. I am a Cancer and I was in the relationship with a Scorpio man for about 4.5 years. It was great right in the beggining and it became terrible at the end. Scorpio men are insecure,secretive, they can't make their mind, they afraid of any commitment and responsibilities. They remind me sort of "players". They don't want to marry a girl (because it benefits them financially) and at the same time they don't want to let the girl go. As a result even they like you they play head games with you and watch how you react. Money means a world for them!!! Cancer women - they are very intuitive and can very easy "see through" Scorpio men. Scorpio man doesn't like when you tell him unpleasent truth straight forward, they respond you with the lie that sometimes has no borders. The end result - most of Scorpios are lonely loosers, who skip from one relationship to another always finding an excuse for brakeup and trying justify their bad attitude. They are terrible communicators and don't know how to compromise. They NEVER KEEP THEIR WORD and are mentaly unstable. They leave a person and then come back and repeat this circle again and again making a Cancer woman to become indifferent to a Scorpio man one day. It's not worth for Cancerian women to spend their energy on fighting with a Scorpio men. Life is too short.

The outcome - scorpio and cancer match is not a good match. Taurus, Pieces, even Libra are mutch better match for a Cancer woman.

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