Christofer has been a paralegal for 25 years. He has 4 children and 8 grandchildren. He and his mother studied astrology for over 40 years.
Virginal and Varied
The Virgin and the Twin
This series on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential matchups in the Zodiac. We will continue this series thinking about and commenting on Gemini and Virgo.
Virgo is an Earth Sign. Gemini is an Air Sign. Virgo is Mutable. Gemini is Mutable. This makes the Virgo stable but understanding and flexible in the qualities that they bring to relationships. The mutability of Gemini air seems to make more physical sense with air molecules blowing up into the atmosphere. Virgo’s mutability is most interesting because they have tolerance and patience; their groundedness makes them almost hypercritical but also naïve.
Gemini could amaze the Virgo and keep it off balance. If the Virgo were attracted to the Gemini, it would have to admire the Twin. Sometimes Gemini can come off as shallow, but many times they can be downright brilliant and impressive. Virgo might be taken with a soul that seemed not to be burdened with the sensitive and turbulent inner life of the Virgin. Gemini can be quite philosophical, and Virgo, though most preoccupied with the world as they see it, might be convinced of the seriousness of Gemini. Gemini could see the earth sign’s practicality and love it for its fresh innocence, while still being able to dodge the Virgin’s critical tongue with its own cleverness.
Virgo’s secret nagging worries are always plaguing them. Their heads are always otherwise preoccupied as they tend to theirs and others’ lives. Gemini can bring a real freshness and breezy lightheartedness to the Virgo’s life. The cures that Virgo’s practical lifestyle could bring to the Gemini could be very salubrious. However, Gemini does not feel tons of guilt and resists the very concept of perfection. This difference of opinion about life is a stark one, but it could have a positive effect on both of them.
Gemini and Virgo would probably not be explosive romancers. Gemini’s malleability and quicksilver quality would allow Virgo to be a little more imaginative than they would probably let themselves be. Romance for the Virgo might need more sincerity, but a loving Gemini could certainly work on that.
Virgo and Gemini could really need to focus on getting conflicts actually resolved. While Virgo can be quite critical on a continuing basis, Gemini can retort with machine-gun speed. If Gemini were inspired to be critical, they could do it quite masterfully with their ultra-sharp mind and tongue. This is not a scenario that would encourage relationship growth. In fact, it could be destructive.
Life in the end is repetitive and mundane, and so is romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Gemini and Virgo, if they became a real partnership or couple, could live the peaceful quietude that Virgo might have been planning for, as they improve their gardens and add a beautiful den. Gemini, needing variety, would tend to keep things more than just mundane. From a long-term standpoint, this envisions an attractive horizon.
Keep Up the Interest Graph
Virgo does not mind an “interesting life” as long as the basics were covered. Nothing is more interesting to Virgo than keeping the elements of life in control. Once that was addressed, vitality, fun and variety can be as appealing to Virgo as Gemini. Gemini might tire of Virgo’s almost painful insistence on their main concerns, but barring the Twins’ exasperation, they could remain interested in each other’s deeply felt love.
There are some signs that, by their nature, are more stable in their love interests and family concerns as time goes on. Others are not. The 7-year itch can trip up any union. Virgo hates falling prey to human things like this. Gemini by nature might be more susceptible. Virgo could be chronically worried about where Gemini’s attention was being aimed, and the 7th year might worry them more.
AstroCompatibility Positivity Rating
60% Positive Long-Term; 70% Short-Term. If Virgo’s innocence and Gemini’s outer lack of innocence worked, there could be attachment. If Virgo honestly was captured by Gemini’s mercurial ways, Gemini could appreciate Virgo’s gifts, and something long-term might happen. There is much here to be learned from each other.
Questions & Answers
Question: I am a Gemini guy and I love a Virgo girl, can we become life partners?
Answer: Glad you included the issue about "life partner" because gemini and virgo tend to differ on the topic of commitment. Virgo is thought to be the more serious and conservative and "by the book". People characterize Gemini as being unpredictable and fun and changeable---and thus, to be questioned as to that big Word "commitment". The answer is YES, sure. If BOTH want!
Question: I have a Virgo boyfriend and him and I have been togetherness for 7 months now, do you think we are going to be together even longer?
Answer: VIRG and GEM can be together a good long time. The GEM must be TRUE. The VIRG should not be too critical. The GEM should listen more. The VIRG is not as righteous as they think. The GEM is not as bad as they think. VIRG can not hide their naivete. Gem can't act naive, because they are not. It's easy to think you all are very much alike. Don't make that mistake. Respect how you are different. Love each other.
Question: I'm a Virgo girl and my partner is a Gemini. We have been together for 3 years. Should my partner and I marry?
Answer: The question of "should we marry" is very complex and goes way beyond simply knowing sun signs. However, I can make some Astro observations. Virgo tendency is to approach issues with innocence and naivete which gives them a sense of clarity. A female Virgo can see the Gemini charm, especially with affection and warmth, in a very accepting and open way.
After 3 years, I would guess that there is a depth of knowledge that you both have about one another that is strong. Ask yourselves these questions: How do we deal with criticism in each other. Has temper come up in conversation. Geminis can be too clever at times. Does he listen well? I have been married for 40 years. If marriage is an issue now, talk about it in terms of goals, plans, and finance. And a big question is about love. Short term is probably not an issue. You both should talk about "long term concerns"
Question: I am a Gemini and I have a Virgo BFF. We are starting to drift apart slowly, I feel it. She is insensitive towards my feelings and can't understand how I actually feel. We are starting to ignore each other or get mad at each other almost every day. At the same time, I put a lot of my trust in her and do not want to lose her. What should I do?
Answer: Cheerful, cheery Gemini often gets judged on the anvil of perfect Virgo. Virgo is just correct, as far as they are concerned and if you are hurt or tearful, then that just proves they are right. Virgo is naive and virginal. Its not that they are mean or vicious. It's just that they are right, in their eyes. If you are up to it, ask for a "sit down". Show your feelings, ask for theirs. Don't be surprised if they fail to understand. If they admit that you both need to work on the relationship, then you can go from there.
Question: I am Virgo and my moon sign is Leo. He is a Gemini with Moon sign Aquarius. I want to know whether we are compatible or not?
Answer: Virgo/Moon Leo makes you perfectionistic, naive and innocent, but your moon gets you--proud on the inside and sure you aren't wrong. If you had a little emotional doubt, it would help, but you don't----- not much anyway.
Gemini with Moon in Aqua is a great talker. Sure of his wild ideas, especially if "off base". A Gem can piss off a Virgo just by talking.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on September 01, 2020:
Poor Virgo. You love your Crazy Gemini Sis, and somehow you are able to put up with her endless act. This is easy! Gem is supposed to be who she is, and you Virgo wake up each morn, hearing that chirping bird and frowning first thing. And guess what else? Virgo is superior and oft irritated as the lesser of us fall under your disapproving but nice gaze. That's who you are! WHAT? Virgo is supposed to innocently and naively Love and Tolerate? Yup.
virgo gurl on August 23, 2020:
hi, i am a virgo and my sister is a gemini idk why bit she gets on my nerves just doing nothing we are good friends tbh and we help each other but idk she is so careless and what annoys me is that she always copies other people, for example if I listen to some kind of music she also starts listening. We borrow our clothes and if I decide to wear a black T-shirt and take it from her she quickly wants to wear that T-shirt but she had no plans to wear it i wanna be differentttt .... If she likes a character from a movie she imitates the same expressions as that character which is annoying. I want it to be herself and stop copying. and what annoys me is that she always wants attention and wanna be fun around and i wanna chill watch youtube or playing and she comes and fuck my fengshui lolxd idk again she shows up to everyone like if she s sad every ppl from planet knows that like idk is cringe for me . idk maybe we don t get along because of our signs because we don t hate each other we also help each other but there are some factors that are getting on my nerves
gemini ♊ on June 07, 2020:
i been liking this guy for long but i dont want him to know because he is a virgo what do you think about it
Gemini female here on January 04, 2020:
I'm a gemini female and recently I've been really falling for this virgo guy. But the problem is he's a friend of my friend and is a bit older, he treats my friends like his sister and weirdly enough he doesn't exactly treat me the same way..(or Maybe I'm just delusional) he is really caring and really takes care of all of us the same way yet I see him sometimes ignoring me ...now usually we go for " they probably don't really like us" at this point but he doesn't hate me I know that infact he tells me he likes my smile or my acts of kindness yet sometimes when I'm actually in front of him he doesn't look directly at me or doesn't directly talk to later texts me that he felt happy that we met. Before we met first time he used to always talk on social media comment everywhere but now I can see he is same towards my other friends but he keeps his distance from me..now I'm confused heavily whether this is his sisterly love because (he is very open and caring to my friends as well) or does he have something else in mind and sometimes he keeps talking restlessly other times his busy and doesn't reply for straight two days..then again apologizes arrgh I don't understand what to think am I only dreaming ?
TIM on January 02, 2020:
I'm a Virgo and I'm not demanding. But drama drives me crazy....if a situation arises just love will make it all good... I hate to have drama in my life
Christofers Flow on December 09, 2019:
CHARMANE--Virgos do tend, not to the feminine, but to the naive and touchy, or sentimental. They are not sexual fireballs. Dear Gemini, Virgos are sure of themselves. But they ARE VIRGINAL. Guys, when they hear that word, multiple adjectives do not spring to mind, and so, Virgo guys can get their feelings hurt. Geminis can be both sexes at times. A mercurial fast thinking/talking bouncy direct female ----- you gotta love em. And since I am pondering over my old man's life (I am a Gemini also) You have to have em or can't keep em. I would rate this challenging to difficult. Both must be bitten with love!
charmane on November 04, 2019:
What can i do if my virgo man was very sweet at first when still trying to get my attention and now still expresses his love but not too often and not too touchy anymore. He gets easily emotional when i get emotional. im a gemini girl and it seems like im the man in the relationship
Virgo dating gemini (13 months now) on September 08, 2019:
Hey unknown here again virgo.
I'm a virgo F 23 and I've been with my gemini partner 28 M for 13 months.
I wanted to post here as I've read your stuff and before I started dating the twin I knew nothing about astrology and I had no idea about people generally considering the virgin + the twin being a bad combo.
I was initially attracted to him because of his huge intellect, bravery and kindness and it's gone far. He's extremely loving but doesn't wear his heart on his sleeve (definitely the strong sensitive type) and I feel like I still find new things about him every day.
My only problems in the relationship have been his messiness and pride. We problem solve very effectively and he's proven himself to be less messy over time, he's a great listener, very philosophical and empathic to me.
He can be very shallow with others but there's a serious bond he exhibits to me and others he loves.
My number one tip is lay down boundaries surrounding messinessand tell the gemini when they are bothering you and fully converse until its ironed out.
Don't be afraid to bring things up again if you don't see change.
Try to be less of a perfectionist.
The deep mercurial side of the gemini will reel you in and if you're a lover of peace, sanctitude and intellectual discussion youll love the gemini.
Don't be afraid of wasting your time, give them a chance.
Oh and patience as they can be a bit annoying sometimes haha
Unknown here again...(Virgo) on July 22, 2019:
I’m obviously here because I’m interested in a Gemini and he is very impressive, but that’s not even what attracts me to him really. All I did was hit him up saying crazy stuff and we just because instant friends. I’d text him and he’d text me first it is a balance. But I know I don’t even get along with Gemini’s knowing the knowledge I had experienced... and just reading about them makes it a bit worse because I don’t want to ever set myself up to fail. But he is always...using my smart remarks back at me when I know half of what I say is a bit dramatic at times “ok whatever.” Which isn’t dramatic to me but if I think about why I’m actually mad at him for it then you’ll see. But there is a kind heart that I see in him and I like that. For me, i don’t know if I speak for other virgos but one bad thing can ruin something good for me and it shouldn’t be that way. Sometimes I deal with it until I get tired of it.
Unknown on July 21, 2019:
Hi, I’m a Virgo Female and I have the most hardest times trusting people. If I do trust you I give you all of me and there’s no taking it back because I rarely make the mistake of choosing the wrong person to trust. Gemini’s...we’ll definitely the biggest thing any Virgo will run into is communication issues and it’s not because Gemini’s. it’s us Virgos we close up quick and we also critize so much that it literally isn’t s joke. In a group chat they were saying we’d have to joke with a guy and we did but afterwards... I was like me just typing that! I felt fake because I know me, I wouldn’t say that. so yes that led to me criticizing even more. Just small things like me not having my way when you don’t have a reason for me to do this with you...be straight forward.
patrick evans on March 30, 2012:
hey i appreciate the advice and comment. This sign stuff is all new to me but freaks me out as to how accurate the personality descriptions are, just unbelievable!!!!!. Thanks again. After studying her sign and seeing how she defines it i am definitly waiting for her and going to set myself aside,shes worth the wait from what i know of her so far.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on March 27, 2012:
Patrick evans: You are sounding just like a Gemini, so that should make you feel comfortable. Gemini is famous for creating electricity and makes its senses soar. So, a lot of this could be just you. You are right about her unemployment. Virgo can be very difficult later on in a relationship as they start telling you about all your flaws. A Virgo single for 10 years. You are talking yourself into a deep love. Get to know her. Let her see your real side(s).
Patrick evans on March 27, 2012:
Ima gemini and just started dating a virgo lady. we hit it of great she started texting how awsome i was and how wonderful i was by respecting her and just caring for her, so i fall hook line and sinker for her. Those texts were extremely sensitive so that's why i fell for her. came close to having sex the second date but she stopped it,then it almost happened again th 3rd date but i stopped it this time just to prove shes mor than aone night stand. Now for the curveball!!!!!!!!! Since that night she has went in reverse at light speed. Blowing my mind and totally freaking me out. The texting came to almost nothing . So i ask her and she sas shes scared of getting hurt and getting to close. True her past Xs walked all over her and treated her like crap. Now to make it worse her job is getting cut turning her world upside down. I am now preparing to be completely shut out understanding she doesn't have tym to work on a relationship. just started studying her sign and holy holy shit she defines the description. VIRGO ladies HELP. I am willing to wait ,wait ,wait for this lady. SHE is truly mesmorising in beauty to look at. Eyes that almost hypnotize you. Any advice here would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!! Its only been a month and a half of dating and i would marry this girl without any hesitation after a litle more dating. She said its nothing iv done and admitted after being single for 10 yrs she struggles leting me in and having someone in her schedule. look forward to all comments thanks. also the love that virgos offer is exactly the kind im looking for that's why im willing to wait . How long does a loving gemini wait for a virgo before calling it quits???
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 27, 2012:
?: If he is doing all he can do, then it's little naïve Virgo trying to make up her Virginal mind. Either, you should listen to what your mind is telling you and go out and find your "right one". or explore the possibility that you are a tad spoiled, young and inexperienced and should give him more of a shot. Gemini is a pretty nonboring sign. Go out with a couple boring earth signs and see what that does for your "interest".
? on February 25, 2012:
I've been knowing my Gemini 4years going on 5. He is hella romantic and love spending time with me! The only problem is... I don't if he's the right one for me? I never gave him a shot! what should I do(I am a VIRGO)? Do Virgo's really mix well with Gemini?
Brown Kimberlybee from Navarre, Florida on February 09, 2012:
Yes his a is my A , It causes problems because thiers a communication gap.Second im pychic @ have been for a long time, (IM 31 started seeing things around 6 or 7) and very interested with the spirtual world because that's all i know. He's Penecoastal. But i know he loves me, Its just hard because he's very one track minded while i'll told a conversation with a satantist, not saying that i agree with them im open minded @ allways looking for a knowldge.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 09, 2012:
This is a strong declaration from a Virgo. The Gemini can certainly be benefitted by strong Virgo character. The Gemini is fun and alive and worth the time. Good fortune.
Brown Kimberlybee from Navarre, Florida on February 08, 2012:
im with a gemini we don't see eye too eye, but i got a feeling he's not going anywhere anytime soon. i sense that im probly gona end up marrying him. sense!!!
Mara on January 17, 2010:
Oh what an amazing article! I am a Virgo and have been with my Gemini man for 2 yr and...oh snap today is our 2 yr 1 mnth anniversary ( goes to call bf)....but neways yea we've been together for a while now and we definitely have communication problems at times but we are working on our own little techniques and keywords because we love eachother so much we'd hate to end anything! This is a very insightful article tho...thanx!