Christofer has been a Counselor, Contract Administrator and studied astrology. with his Mother since the 70's. He has 8 grandchildren.
The Archer and The Ram
This series on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential matchups in the Zodiac. We will continue this series thinking about and commenting on Aries and Sagittarius.
Aries - Sagittarius
Sagittarius is a Fire Sign. Aries is a Fire Sign. Aries is Cardinal. Sagittarius is Mutable. This makes these signs similar, and the differences tend to be complementary. Sagittarius, being mutable, adds creative flair and adaptability to the Arian fiery cardinality. This means that the "horse" "archer" can make Aries fire even more workable. Sagittarius can "fix" on the run, the motivating energy of Aries. This is definitely a fascinating profile. As with the Aries - Leo combination, it is difficult envisioning who is going to sit in the "Shotgun" side, next to the driver of the car.
The Idea of an Aries and a Sagitarius makes one envision a very fun couple with energy sparking all over the place. While it makes a marvelous picture, seriously, it does make one ask - "When they are tired or at rest, what will they be like?" Focusing on Sagittarian mutability, you see a highly adaptable high energy person. It's not that Aries couldn't keep up, but you have to ask whether the Aries by its very nature would want a more settling sign, like Taurus or Cancer. Sagittarius too might benefit from more stolid solidarity, but if love is exploding and taking flight, who is anyone to say it could be better? If they fell head over heels, one must humbly sit back and see what develops!
Since Aries and Sagittarius share "fireyness", it is not difficult to imagine a positive vision for this couple. I mean, they would both like the same things in the same way, but the question does remain who would be the quiet thoughtful one? Positively speaking, one would tend to see extroversion, sociability, affableness and gregarious handshaking and backslapping. Regardless of how the genders work, it looks like a dramatic match up. Sun shine combined with the last bursting energy of Fall, before Winter sets in. Without hesitation, its dramatic.
Aries and Sagittarius would be romantic in the truest sense of that word. Sagittarius could adjust for Aries, and Aries could supply enough crackling flame to blend with the Archer's arrows flying skyward. Tempers could flair just because both are not afraid to speak up. Sagittarius could cause offense, because that's what they kind of do, as a way of expressing themselves. If Aries took offense too often, there could be ramifications in the bedroom. There is no one here to tend to hurt feelings. But then there is little here to evidence that anyone would be overly sensitive either. But if feelings became an issue, it would be hard to imagine a cute or fanciful ending, to what could be a noisy affair.
If Aries presents a grievance, the Archer could leap the fense, fire off the arrows, deflect blame, distract by diffusing and confusing issues. This is just the way they function. They could fail to see the importance of the fight. They might be the last to see that a certain issue could be the end of the relationship. These two are going to compete over increasing the volume, but not run to quick and easy reconcilation. Neither is a "kiss and makeup" kind, unless they really loved the kissing part. It's not that they can not apologize, its just that they will not run to a pacifying position, just to end the conflict. The Archer's sense of Justice could work in both directions. If they think the side of Justice is with them, they could be stubborn. If they see that Justice is on the other side, they could move toward reconciliation. However, both will want to have the conflict ended, because its counter productive to daily fun and activity, to be grinding away at negative emotions.
Life in the end is repetitive and mundane, and so is Romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Leo and Sagittarius will fundamentally be opposed to being bored. If they do get bored, it will probably need a super makeover of the relationship, or their life style. An older Sagittarius can stay youthful and have an upward and onward look, even when they are melancholy. Since Sagittarius is concerned with Justice and Fairness, that could mean continuing happiness for the Aries. However, if Aries is too selfish and headstrong, the horse, rising up on its hind legs, could demand a fairer peace and a plan for lessening boredom.
Keep Up The Interest Graph:
Sagittarius has a lifelong mission of keeping the horizon new and the terrain beneath their feet green and fresh and untrod upon. The archer will make a new path and leave the travelled road for any good reason, and without a reason. Sagittarius would show the Ram a different cliff to jump from. Aries might be even more bold and more daring, so they could constantly challenge one another in terms of "keeping up the interest". Trips, new plans, charity projects or trips to Cancun, could all be a part of the agenda. The danger is that in all the interest stimulation, they might lose track of each other, as time goes on.
Seven Year Itchiness:
There are some signs that by their nature are more stable in their love interests and family concerns as time goes on. Others are not. The "7 year itch" could look like a bridge to cross with flags waving at the crossing guard. A definite warning for both signs here. Just pure energy and a sense of adventure could lead them into territory that they were not aware they were even walking into. The 7 year itch happens, not from deliberation, but because of distracting inadvertence powered by a vague longing for new satisfaction. Based on that description, both signs should put themselves on notice.
ASTROCOMPATIBILITY POSSIBILITY RATING: 75% Positive Long Term - 90% Short Term. It is difficult imagining how, after initial interest and personality matching, that this would not get a rocket start. This would be all fireworks and romance in the beginning. If as time passes, the relationship gets stabilized and confirmed, it could be very hopeful for the super long term. However, always there would be the "flashing red" that infidelity could cause a break. Hearts and minds could groove into old age. But there must always be this warning: The Archer shoots and the Ram can leap.
annomis on March 01, 2020:
I am a Aires man and I like this Sagittarius female but she hates me iv seen her go threw break up after break up and I try and make her happy but she just doesn't like me like she dated my best friend and asked him right away if he was a trump supporter wile looking at me I don't know what I di but no mater how hard I try she doesn't like me what do I do
Sagie on April 19, 2019:
I am a Sagitarius female who is so inlove with her Aries boyfriend. I first met him in high school, we knew each other and would hang out with a group of friends. I always secretly liked him and thought he was the hottest guy EVER!! We reconnected 3 years ago on Facebook. When we first hung out , we talked about old times in high school and how we are now. There was a strong connection. And that’s what drew me in. We talked constantly since that day and would always find time to hang out. We are currently dating still going on 3 years. He IS the LOVE of my life. My better half. My person! They say you find your true love once before in your earlier life and that’s what happened here. I knew him and always liked him and now years later we’re together, so inlove. We talk about marriage for our near future and I can not wait! I love my Aries so much, he is my true love and BEST friend! Aries and Sagitarius is the best match out there! If your a Aries or Sagitarius go find each other , you won’t regret it!
Christofer French (author) from Denver on October 25, 2016:
Max ---- Appreciate your comment. Both of my parents and an in law were and are SAG. There is a dark "under belly" that ALL signs have. I should write an article about that. In the case of SAG, (I WILL BE BOTH KIND AND SARCASTIC). Since they are the zodiacs arbiters of "JUSTICE AND FAIRNESS", they think they can be "JUDGE"mental -- ANY TIME.
"YOU DONT SWEAT MUCH FOR A FAT GIRL" is my snapshot way of explaining this as a conundrum. The SAG thinks of that as a helpful and complimentary way of dealing. This abusive comment is intended as ironic praise.
They have many virtues, but this stands out as a big negative because they feel "always certain" -- thus they don't see the hurt and NEVER apologize. Their smiles, glad handing and socializing make this aspect hard to see. They also don't drink well, the horse can get horsey. If you are going to love them you have to make allowances. The grace in it all is they don't mean to be mean. They think they are bringing justice.
Max on October 24, 2016:
Im an aries female and my boss is a saggatarius male, he is nice to me but really horrible to my co-workers. Saggatarius men can be cruel, manipulative and Fake. Oppinion has changed about the males of this sign
AGA on May 27, 2015:
Aires "me first" is the accurate characteristic of this sign and I have noticed that with other Aires. But I think works well with my sign because I am not selfish and more carefree. I am a little confused on what you meant by social based??
The lashing out to me I feel its because he is angry at me for no longer speaking to him. Only happens when I decide to create distance between us. Idk but he left me no choice at this point.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 27, 2015:
AGA: First of all DISTANCE is not astrological, but it seems to be significant here. It also seems to be party based and phone based and social media based. Again. This is not astrology, but it is this "relationship". An Aries male is the wildest dude in the zodiac! They leap from cliff to cliff and are there for any woman. "All the rams that chase the ewe sheep are determined there'll be new sheep."
If he is calling you names and lashes out, what about him is endearing?
If you want to test his commitment, then leave him alone. Sorry dear Sag. Horses are always up for the next ride and opportunity. Hold yourself back a bit. That should tell you about him and YOURSELF. And by the way, horses are ruled by a sense of fairness and justice. That makes you a kind but weak player. Aries is the ultimate "me first". Especially the male. If there is essential value in this relationship it will show itself to you. If not. Then I would say "begin again". If its with him, then "begin again" with him.
AGA on May 26, 2015:
Ok so I am sag female and he is an aries.
Here we go..where do I start with my relationship with this man. We have had a friendship of almost 5 years now and have been through a lot. When we first met, we dated but since I was starting a new business. I was honest and said I wasn't looking for anything. However, he still insisted and I gave in and as soon as that happened. He changed and we argued and finally decided to end it and didn't speak to him for months he called every weekend. He even hunted me down on Facebook. Now fast forwarding to now. A lot things have happened in between we have broken up with people and stayed friends. However, we always gravitate to each other. The situation is that I have feelings for him now. We are best friends and for a year straight have been "hanging out" with each other and basically all his friends title me his gf, but I am not. I have found out he talks very 'friendly' with other girls and it hurts me and once I confront him he always says they are friends and they mean nothing. At this point, I am hurt. Well as right now we arent speaking because I want commitment out of him and that is something he doesn't want to give me. I am sick of hearing him say to me that "I am apart of him" and "I am all he has". Because I don't seem to get that from him. He is so consumed in other bs And doesn't give me the attention I have always given him. I have been there for him inconditionally and I feel he hasn't for me. I know he has feelings for me but I don't know how strong they are. I haven't spoken to him in a few weeks but on the weekends he calls me drunk and lashes out at me saying I am selfish and prideful. I don't what to do anymore. I want him in my life because I truly care for him but at the same time I am not getting anywhere with him. please help!
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 20, 2015:
DunJ: You blew it. She's an Aries and you are trying to "control" her reaction to the around? Oh vey. Be cool. Of course, Sag is not cool. They smile, they grin, they try to trot around the corral holding their head up for justice and fairness and all of that. But. Talking a little long to someone because you are offended is not justice or fairness, it's "I'm not getting enough attention!" There are wonderful human beings out there of all 11 other types. Women are wonderful. But don't get face to face with an Aries woman on how much she talks to whoever!!!! Blessings. Keep cool and pray.
DonJ on February 18, 2015:
So im a Sagittarian man and i've been hanging out with this Arian lady, she's funny, cute, and she lives adventurous dates just like me. One day we went out and we met some cool people who we've become good friends with. But she seems to have a lot more interest in this other friend than she has in me from my point of view. So i confronted her about it and it started a huge argument, she says she only acts like that because she's used to being single but she's willing to change so we're not holding eachother At a higher standard. The problem is i have trust issues and that only led the argument on further, any insight on my situation?? Its 0230 am and im up thinking about her. Im really sorry and i feel like i over reacted but i don't want to text/call her if she's over me....
Christofer French (author) from Denver on April 23, 2013:
I will let your fellow readers comment. Thanks for pouring out your heart.
Jojo on April 23, 2013:
I almost tripped by a Sag. Almost.
I know him from my best-friend. Now he dated her.
First time I met him, well..I feel like a badass Aries girl. Running away after got what I need from him, shut my door then enjoy the thing. No love at the first sight, well...for me.
At that moment, three of us are single and I'm not attracted to him as much as my friend. I'm busy on work, I just broke up with my-5yrs-ex Pisces, the world spinning round or upside down, I don't know.
But then, his action wake me up. One day, he beat me down on chess! For the last 10 years, this is the first time of me being defeated by someone I never even expected. And the next week, he show me his strength, without any purpose. From now on, I guess a Cupid must be visit me.
Then, I know what people said when Aries & Sag go together. It is heaven. Though there is no sex involved, purely flirt here and there, telepathy on each others mind, I started he finished, argue for minutes always okay in the end, laugh 24/7, talking about everything, i'm blunt to the T, he has no filter to the R. And strangely, we are fine!
Oh, God. I always thought, if there is a guy who can stand talking to me for 15mnts while I'm being me, sharp tongue and bluntness never absent, that guy must be endangered species! We talked for hours, days, never bored.
After few months, he start saying he love me. Many times. I guess it's my scar from earlier relationship that bring my fiery rejection towards him. I was simply refuse to put a trust on him.
To be honest, may be I still aware of the fact that he is seeing my friend too. Stupid guy.
Now he dated her.
But the Cupid whom I talk earlier, didn't take his arrows back. I'm still in love.
Now, when three of us met, I notice that he starring at me more than twice, touch me whenever he could, and it feel suck. I stop visiting my friend because of him. I guess I need to step back, find balance on my mind and make the Eros guy take back his arrows off my heart.
But, the things is...We keep bumping to each other right when the light between us almost out. I can't aside of the fact that I had a dream of him before I met him and I can't stop thinking about us which be the cause why am I write this. My mind is clear, hey that guy is dating another girl, leap from him. But my heart speak differently, I need to know him more, but the more I know the more I fall. What should I do?????? I can't find another guy near me who can match his charm. I'm stuck.
And I'm on my way to find my soulmate, I told him about this. God, why was I doing that...I just want to find my soulmate and be with him for life. I know what I want in this world, I am on my way to reach my life target, but I need my other half of heart. I need someone to share and I like to share everything. It is a private torture when I realize nobody around can walk by my side and I can't walk by anybody side.
Please, if any of you been in this state, please let me know what to do. I'm burning inside.
TorryJ on February 22, 2013:
Thank you for the kind word!
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 22, 2013:
Torry J: You are a conscious Aries. This is a very good thing, since they have hair trigger impulses. A highly aware Aries stands to profit and bless during their lifetimes.
TorryJ on February 21, 2013:
Thank you. I never left my Scorpio btw and I considered this sag to be a mere playmate. The betrayal came when he talked a bit too much about the relationship which is a BIG no-no for this Aries, and this had even been told to the sag before we'd gotten together. The Scorpio I'm with understands not to speak about what goes on between us, which is a PLUS for me. There is also a bit more understanding between the Scorpio and I, as well which is a surprise since I've come to the understanding that Aries and Sag are supposed to get along moreso than Aries and Scorp. We both understand what the relationship is about and we seem to get along a little better. I had a feeling I would encounter the same situation if I tried to see if this sag was ok or not, so I wasn't too sure about whether I should feel bad or not about my departure. Thanks again for the advice. Blessings to you, as well.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 21, 2013:
Sagittarians can be "playful" and "unpredictable". Think of a horse stomping around in a corral. He comes to your part of the fence looks over and wants some fun. This is just how they move around the planet. To a Sagittarius almost everything they do is "innocent" or "for fun". At their worst they can justify themselves and condemn others easily. The answer to your question is evident in your question. You are too earnest to mess with the horse, go back to your serious Scorpio. Guess what happens if you go back to this guy? A repeat of the first time. Blessings. And take great care of yourself. You are all you have.
TorryJ on February 20, 2013:
Ok. So I'm not used to exactly being with a guy and the first time I've ever... "made love" was with a bold and seemingly confident sagittarius. He was sweet, assertive, and very sensual the first time we'd gone out. He didn't seem too interested the second time we'd gotten together, but we still made love. Three weeks went by and we didn't communicate with one another for a while, so I figured it was over and moved on to a sweet Scorpio *with a sidereal zodiac of Libra*. This sagittarius contacted me a week after I'd met my scorpio sweetheart, but the flame just wasn't there like it had been the first time around. What's worse is that he'd not only betrayed my trust, but also hadn't spoken to, called, or texted me in a while. He tried talking to me on Valentine's Day, but I figured he'd just wanted sex and I'd heard that he was with someone else, so I walked away from him and listened as he bad-mouthed me to his friends. In a way, I knew he was like this but chose to give him the benefit of the doubt assuming he would be a little different from what I'd perceived. I regretted EVERYTHING that had taken place between us because, although I didn't want a long-term commitment, a short-term playmate from this Sag would have been an interesting thing. What I don't understand is, why does he seem to act interested in me after I'd stopped speaking to him? As stated before, he didn't seem interested when we were with one another, but I noticed he seems sad and attentive to my presence whenever I'm near him. With the lack of interest shown, I wouldn't dare go talk to him and ask him how things are, but it's sad seeing someone that was so energetic, confident, and assertive appear so sad. Could there be other factors in his life causing his sadness that I shouldn't worry about? Or could it be our broken friendship? I was the one that got betrayed, but he acts as if he doesn't know what he's done wrong... What should I do? Or should I do anything at all?
Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 22, 2013:
Lady Ram: I don't cast horoscopes on this site. Please see my article on TRIADS, and I will give you a free reading. But you have to come to me with your Moon and Rising sign. Go to a site that can do one for you, probably for free and get yours done. You will need you TIME OF BIRTH and PLACE OF BIRTH. Your Place of Birth is needed so you can get your Moon sign (internal nature/soul, psyche) Your Hour of birth is needed for your Rising Sign - (public personality). Come back to me with; for instance - Aries Sun, Gemini Rising, Scorpio Moon. Then I will give you a free reading of your basic self.
Lady Ram on January 21, 2013:
What can you say about my personality as an aries born April 18 1989
Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 21, 2013:
Well, Aries strength is getting their head in their and mixing things up. Here you are, the RAM holding back and not staying in play. That means your Moon is suspicious or your experience has taught you to be like this. Aries does put itself through lots of drama and sometimes real pain. Being a Sag, he is just going to keep on having fun, having new experiences and creating new relationships where ever he goes. He just loves the phone. He just loves LOVE on the run. Sag keeps moving physically and emotionally. They are always being true to themselves and nothing holds them back. I would trust myself if I were you. Something is keeping you back. Stay there until something new happens. Sag can be gone or Sag can show up the next morning. If you are daring, defy yourself. However, if something tells the Ram to hold back, I would. Blessings!
Lady Ram on January 20, 2013:
I'm an aries he is a sag
How we met to him was like love at first site I got out of a car and he instantly spoke. We chatted that night exchange numbers hugged goodbye. For a couple of days we spoke hi and what you doin stuff like that and of course he stayed 3 hours away. The moment I fell for him we were on the phone having a back and forth flirtatious conversation. What grab my attention to liking him even more was how understanding he was of me. Spending time with him was the most exciting relationships I hav ever had. Basically the downside to this ending is I haven't spoken to him for almost 3 months now I acted terribly when it was time for him to leave me. Also very impatient to wanting to see him being that he works on the road. He called me from another phone but I did not answer because I have a fear that he may be seeing other women. Being that he is so friendly with everyone it's hard for me to believe that I may be the one he wants. He asks me why do I act this way towards him but I can't help but doubt him as a person but still have faith for this relationship. I blame myself for not communicating and avoiding him even when though I love him so still to this day. Help me
Danabear90 on January 09, 2013:
I agree. We both (as a whole) turn things bigger than what they need to be, and we both know that and have been working to find a middle ground to prevent things from constantly blowing up. We have come a long way so far, and have only grown closer.
I have high hopes for the future.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 09, 2013:
Well Danabear90: This reads like a torrid novel. Aries and Sag kind of turn almost everything into high drama, sudden changes, fractious relationships and statements of will power. Since you both are "OK" with that, it looks like you are only in the middle of the novel.
Not being one to get in the way of people with a sense of destiny, I can only wish you the best. It is in the arms of union and romance that the deepest lessons of spirit and love and character are learned.
If you want any advice or predictions at all, I would say that the more "broken" you two animals are, the better off you will be. Try to listen more, shut up more, decide slowly, forget about the very idea of being "horny" and seek the humility that is not natural to either of you. Blessings to you, and Happy New Year.
Danabear90 on January 09, 2013:
I'm a 22 year old Aries female engaged to a 22 year old Sagittarius female. We've been on and off for over a year now. We went to the same high school but never talked until she was in the army a couple of years ago. She was stationed in Germany, I found her on Facebook, and we started talking through messages or on Skype. She came home a few months later, I saw her for the first time since high school, and it was an instant connection. A week after she got home rumor had it that she was hanging all over her ex one night so I ended things. She moved away and got engaged to the girl who the rumor involved, and I was broken. I know I ended thing to begin with but I was so hurt. Well her and her fiancé didn't last long - she moved back to start over again with me. She stayed with me for a while, and ended up ruining my New Year's back in 2011 because she felt the need to make out with someone right in front of me while intoxicated. Regardless, that is no excuse. I stayed with her, anyways. Not too long after that she spent about two weeks constantly texting a girl who was just a "friend" to her. I was at work one night, and she ended up leaving with that girl so I completely pushed her away. She cheated on that girl with me. But then I started dating someone while she was dating that girl and I cut her off completely. Months later she found a way to get back in touch with me, and I'm thankful for that because not too long after she did my best friend passed away and she was there for me when the person I was with was not AT ALL. Well the person I was with, I broke up with. And not too long later, my fiancé and I got back together. She proposed to me. And not too long after we got our very first place together. It has been a journey.. Full of good times, bad, etc. We used to argue so much, because I could never be wrong and neither could she. But as time has passed by, we have learned how to deal and handle one another more. We've talked about having a child (artificial insemenation) in a few years and are going to move out of state and have a union. She is the first person I have ever truly loved with everything I have, and vice versa. Not matter how hard it gets for us, we never let go. She is my Rollie Pollie, and I am her Butterfly~
Christofer French (author) from Denver on August 28, 2012:
AriesNation: Well, I can tell you an Aries does not like this. It doesn't sit well. When you are dealing with a Sag, you must realize that they themselves do not necessarily know how they feel for sure, inside. A ram is darned serious. A Sag is not darned serious. Everyone in the world would like to have their cake and eat it too. It's just that Sag actually thinks it can pull it off. It is their nature to be like they are. A "mutual understanding" sounds like a good situation for him. I can't tell you whether to let him go, or keep holding on. That is an answer that lies in your heart. Too far from me. If you let him go, you will be more at peace, but always wonder. If you keep on hanging on, you will find out more about the Sag - good or bad. Which of those sounds the most appealing?
AriesNations on August 28, 2012:
So do you think that he's seriously interested in me or do you think he's just trying to have his cake and eat it to. I don't really know how to feel or think but I do know that I love him and I'm sure he loves me, even though he won't say it. The emotional communication on both ends aren't the best but we do have a mutual understanding. I just wanna know whether I should let him go or keep holding on.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on August 27, 2012:
Sagittarius does look over the fence, on the hill on the horizon. They see themselves as "eternally young", so the wanderlust can last longer than one might think.
AriesNation on August 26, 2012:
I have this Sagittarius friend with whom I am very in love with. We started out talking on facebook for a few weeks, Our first time talking on the phone we were talking for 7 hours!! We meet in person about 2 months after speaking to each other via Facebook, Had intercourse ( I was very inexperienced so that didn't last long lol) it wasn't the best but He was my 2nd time. After that I stopped talking to him due to the fact that he, in a way, dismissed me. A month later he got a hold of me and confronted me on why I haven't spoken to him in a whole month, His feelings were hurt but I didn't know that.
We went back to talking almost everyday until a month or two later he got back with his ex girlfriend. Once they gotten back together our communication with each other grew scarce and I grew impatient with waiting for him to come around, although he was frequently on my mind. Soon we went back to talking again when him and his girlfriend was going through a rough patch, she found out about me and demanded that he cut all ties. At first he refused but after a while he obliged. I was soooo hurt and confused but went with it because I thought that was what he wanted. I use to call him every night just to say good night and once I felt unappreciated I stopped. Two days later he called me (Which he never does) just to see what I was doing. I was really confused then since I thought he didn't want me. For some strange reason whenever I would try to cut him off he would always call me or make sure I don't forget about him as if he wanted to keep me around. I could never understand that since I'm not too fond of mind games. He told me once If I listened more and Talked less I could be his girl, whatever that means.
It's been over a year Now since we've first started seeing each other and he is no longer with the girl. They've been broken up for about 3 months. I always tell him I care for him and that I'll always be here but for he always replies with " I'm not ready for a relationship, just go with the flow " He won't tell me he loves me and I can tell that he doesn't think I truly love or care for him which is SOOOO far from the truth! We have a mutual friend, who is a Leo, that he's got his eye on right now. They've barely started hanging out and he's already telling me how he thinks he met her in heaven and how she may be the one... OMG it hurts me so bad to hear those words from him, but whatever brings him happiness is what I'm about I guess. I just wish I knew if he loved me or not? Does he care? Why is it when a Sagittarius has a good thing they take it for granted and go look for someone else? HELP! I NEED ADVICE ):
Christofer French (author) from Denver on August 06, 2012:
I don't caste spells, but I wish you the best. Blessings.
Clark Tamara on August 02, 2012:
I have been with my boyfriend for 1/2 yrs now. But he never said he loves me. One day I can't stand this anymore, then I asked him why he doesn't say "I love you" to me ever? His answer is he doesn't feel he loves me. He tried and thought he can develop love for me, but it doesn't seem working. Later, he even told me he doesn't know what he wants from me and from our relationship. Although I am a greatest person, he can't love me, and I can't force him to love me. But the more I am with him, the more I fall in love with him. Just he doesn't feel the same way-still stays in the same stage as the beginning-likes me. How can I make him love me? I need "love" from my boyfriend. If there's no "love" in a relationship, it's a dead relationship. I went online for online spell casters and i saw this temple email@example.com who helped me to make him love me and come back to me if not for the help of Dr Ijebu i would have single till to day all thanks to firstname.lastname@example.org I am Clark Tamara
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 04, 2012:
Aries wants fun and adventure. But fun and adventure tends to wear you out. When you wake up in the morning you are ready to mount the world. When you go to bed at night, you think: "If I was more at peace in the morning, maybe I would learn more." Then you say: "Who needs to learn, I want excitement. I require excitement. An old Aries is a much smarter Aries. Sag is much the same, but with other big differences.
manjit on February 04, 2012:
heelooooooooooooooooo am manjit an arian.. uhh ,
actually i experienced love @ first sight for the first time with a sagitarian ...wow.. it was a bomb blast.. it was really superb, mostly like a dream lol. so she was already in relation with a capricorn..
first time i saw them together, i thought they were brothers and sisters hihi... .then afterwards i came to know they were in love 5 to 6 years before..
we started by sending sms to each other.. then finally to love ... then made her speak to me about her love story.. then a fire lights inside me leading to destruction and then finally i break with her.. whenever i imagine her past love life.. it becomes hard to digest and i break with her... if she wasn't in love , i could do something ... lol
we broke up several times and met again ..cannot count how many time we broke ... still she's happy with her capricorn...
now am in quest of a sagitarian ... personally as an arian, was really in heaven to be with a sag....
yes its true about the article ...like it ....
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Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 14, 2012:
From the sound of things this combo might not work for you two. Who listens? I mean who shuts up. With all that ego splashing around, who stops and says "honey, I love you, let's both shut up and hug." Hugging might not matter for an Aries and Sag. If you let go, what would happen? Some relationships are made so you can talk about them when you are old. If there is nothing compelling you to be with each other, then there is nothing compelling you to be with each other.
kay on January 13, 2012:
Hi, I'm an Aries and my boyfriend is a Sag. He broke up with me on new years day! I feel so devasted as he is my first love and I never thought I'd care for someone as much as I do him. He use to say to me that he'd be scared that I would cheat on him (which I never did), even though he has in the beginning of the realtionship. I forgave him and decided to move forward with each other. But lately we have been having a lot of arguments, which I think can be resolved but he insist he needs to be on his own and that he doesn't love me anymore, which is hurtful to hear as I still very much love him. He moved out and got himself a room not to far away from me. I keep asking him to come back and give us a chance and to improve on those mistakes we both have done. He claims that I'm not the one for him and he doesn't see a future together, for some reason I don't belive him. He is being very cold towards me and very straight forward. Last night I went to see him and we got to talking, I asked if this is really what he wants and then he went on to tell me that he does love me and misses me but he is surpressing his feelings cause he is not sure that he wants us together!! I don't know what to do anymore to show him that we are good togther and we can work things out and it'll only make us stronger as a couple. I don't know if anyone can advice me what to do as I feel a bit lost and hurt. we were together for 16 months, started of long distance and then he ended up leaving Portugal to live with me in London. We had the best of times, so much laughter. And its all gone. Is it time for me let go?
Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 05, 2012:
Intuition and experience. My wife was hospitalized 30 years ago just before she met me because of abuse. Please check out my article on abuse and resurrection in my Hubpages account. If he has been diagnosed as you say, then you must consider that reality.
ma_375 on January 04, 2012:
This is being handled in a very mature manner. Sure there's still some pain and suffering but he's not physically abusive to me. Ironic that you should mention this though bc he does have a diagnosis of anger psychosis and if provoked, he can become easily outraged. May I ask what made you comment on that?
Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 04, 2012:
If there is any possibility of physical abuse, seek professional help immediately, and get in touch with the "safe house system" in your town. When something has been destructive, and you are on notice that it is damaging, I would advise against going back to an unhealthy life.
ma_375 on January 03, 2012:
Thank you. It is indeed very complicated and why I'm so confused as to what to do. I guess at this point I should just live for the moment, let him feel free putting no pressure on him. I told him that since he came back to ME (as he always has, I never ran back to him) that I have no expectations from him. My heart feels differently but my mind is taking control of things this time. Being mindful, forgiving, and understanding, I think is the best way to handle this now. So much damage, the only way we can figure out how to start to even repair is to simply learn how to be great friends again. Thank you for your time...
Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 03, 2012:
This is VERY complicated. I feel for your suffering. Recent divorce is a heavy complicating factor. You are both firey and probably highly temperamental. Sure there is love, but the damage. OY.
MA_375 on January 03, 2012:
I'm a 36 yr old Aries female, recently broken up with a 43 yr old Sag male. We dated long distance for about 8 months on and off. The first few months getting to know each other online, we became great friends and I helped him through a lot as he was my brothers best friend, I found out, and going through an emotional divorce of 10 year marriage. Our relationship has been more off and confused on his end. I heard him last year tell his ex that he loved her as he was in tears right before he hung up the phone with her. This was my second visit with him. I flew in from Ohio to Vegas to spend a month together and start something I thought was so heavenly! Since then, we have been on and off and I've tried so hard to be his friend and understanding more than anything. We were eventually engaged, then after I moved out here I thought things would get better. They actually got worse. Our tempers flare from insecurities and jealousies from baggage that we've both brought into the relationship. To make a long story short, we've been broken up AGAIN, but this time a month and a half solid rather than just a day or 2 or a couple weeks. I blocked all ways of him being able to communicate with me so I can heal but on NYE he finally used his friends phone to reach out to me. Said "I don't care who you're with, he ain't me, and I miss you... Plz call me. I LOVE YOU" I caved, picked him up and brought him home as he asked me to. He had obviously been drinking and increased emotions, tears on both ends but him first. he told me how perfect I was for him and wanted to know why "I" brought so much baggage into our relationship and treated him like my exes had. Cheated, lied, etc. But he brought his baggage too and was always questioning me and checking my phone and stuff. Led me to start doing the same thing and we eventually got so stuck on our insecurities and jealousies our relationship became extremely toxic! We couldn't stand to be around each other and our tempers just flared! He did show interest in wanting to have sex that night but I held on to self control and he was ok with it. The next day, he tells me that he doesn't wanna be the bad guy in another womans life and he wants to try to be friends so he kinda contradicted telling me how much he loved me and missed me the night before. We agreed to try and rebuild our friendship bc that's when we brought out the best in each other and go from there. I know he's scared and I am too but I think the most challenging thing for me is to remain his friend and keeping my feelings and emotions in check at the same time. Very difficult considering I still love him very much and want nothing more than to be the man I spend the rest of my life with. I think he does still love me and would like to rekindle flames, though he hasn't said "I love you" again since that night. My fear is that I may struggle with my own emotions bc being just friends with him is going to be a challenge for me. He told me he's already been with THREE women but none compare to me. I've been with nobody bc this break up has been so damn hard on my heart. I'm being mindful, mature and forgiving and he's so honest yet I never trusted him bc of that time that i heard him say "I love you" to his now almost ex wife. It just hurts to no end knowing this. What can I do to help ease his fear, rekindle our fiery flames that we once had and prove to him that I AM in fact, perfect for him? If he didn't love me or have thoughts of getting back together in the future, I honestly don't think he would have texted then called me. Idk what to do. We had been together a year in November, right before we broke up. He calls and talks to my mother about me he just told me, and has also talked about me to my brother. My family NEVER told me. Please tell me how to get my Sag to once again fall head over heals for me and wanna be more than just friends again. He went through some serious emotional stuff w/ his divorce, then almost immediately we entered a relationship from 2200 miles away. But I was under the impression that all the "baggage" from his divorce was close to end. I was way off! Now, a year later, it's finally almost over. I went through hell with him, then him with me. No doubt there's love here but also a lot of damage. Please help... Aries loves her Sag!!!!
Christofer French (author) from Denver on December 14, 2011:
You seem young. Youth dabbles. I think you should try out your air signs that have more fire or water in their chart. What you have described is an excellent analysis of someone who understands the other, but it a tad impatient. If you are not impatient, then go a little longer with those who only confuse you. You might be just too hasty. That would be typical of Sag.
Sagittarius on December 13, 2011:
Im a Sagittarius with a lot of Scorpio in my chart. So, before doing research, you can believe why I rarely got along with fire signs -especially Aries. It's sweet that they are so quick to love and want to TALK about giving you (whatever it is) the world because they believe they see you in their lives forever. However, I have learned that they can be very impulsive in the love department, pushy in getting what they want from you, while telling the world how great of a match we are when we just met 2 weeks ago and I see you as just a distant friend! Their tempers are legendary as they seem to push everything to the brink. So, I avoid Aries pushiness and Leo's sense of entitlement. Me and air signs have great mental rapport because they let things go with the flow and super great conversationalists. I'm obsessed with scorpios in the love department and can live without the cancer and Pisces since they are too emotionally manipulative. So, there you go...
Christofer French (author) from Denver on December 01, 2011:
See me through astrologygetalong.com and then we can communicate.
De best on December 01, 2011:
I am an Aries. I met dis saggitarius guy about 3months ago and I'm so much in love with him. We chat, called and texted everyday. But what i don't know is, if he truly loves me? Though, he is so caring and understanding and also scared of telling me he loves me. But he said, he's afraid of the word "I Love U" and yet saying am too good to be hurt by someone. I really wanted this relationship to work. What do i do for him to profess Love to me?
destiny on October 27, 2011:
pls make it easier for people to follow you.....its actually difficult going through protocols.barely time....
destiny on October 27, 2011:
am Sagittarius.right now am dating an Aries guy. i care for him a lot but we seem to always be fighting.am primarily melancholy and i really wanna make dis work but am afraid am scaring him away...what do i do?
aries on October 09, 2011:
Hi, I'm an aries girl who was seeing a sagitarious guy, I'm 6 yrs older than him he is 22 yrs old. We were just friends but than started to fool around, nothing serious. He found out that I spent one night with my ex and I asked for forgiveness, he said it was fine but now he won't answer my calls or text. I made a huge error but...his indifference is hurting me. I wouldn't forgive myself if I was in the other side but will he ever forgive me and continue what we had??
Sagitarius18 with aries12 on October 05, 2011:
I'm a sagitarius man and i met my aries girl friend online. We've been together for a long distance relationship for morethan two years with meeting each other in personal. We just chating, txting and calling.but even though, i felt inlove and i can't live with out her.
Lately, i found out that my dream place to live with is the exact place of her. I let my sister to met her and see if she is ok in personal... Then my sister told me that she is completely perfect for me... I made a promise to marry her next year.12-12-12.Do you think, we can make it?
She is so demanding in terms of love and care. I should always say labio, mis u. Call her always or chat with her. But, i'm always busy with my work. Then she is always thinking that i don't care with her, i'm just playing with her. What i can do?
kela on September 07, 2011:
iwouder if a sagittariouse could make it.
Sag#1 on August 25, 2011:
I get where u r coming from I've got the exact same issue although the guy is the Aries :( two ppl with that much positive energy and connection when one part breaks off like it has with me I feel lost!!!
custard26 on August 12, 2011:
How do i stay calm when im restless...ive fallen in love with this Sagg, the best person i've known and now i have to pick up the pieces just cos he wants to be on his own now. 7 weeks ago it didn't bother him and didn't he realised that he has led me on ... meeting his friends and brother, mentioning me to his mum and anyone who called when i was at his for the weekend. i have expressed honestly from the start and told him not to say that he has fallen in love with me too soon, way before our 1st date was due.
now he got me hooked, line and sinker and spits on my face. @ months ago i was minding my own solitude being single n not a care in the world for relationships. been alone for 4 years and now i don't want to go there...damnit.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on August 11, 2011:
The Sag often does not know where it is going. But it can always feel pressured. It loves freedom so much, it perceives "prison" in so many moves. So much explosive fire with Aries, it's hard to see a calm picnic at a heavenly lake, but maybe that's what you need to work for.
custard26 on August 10, 2011:
I've been with my first Sagg and it felt so good and relaxed, right from the start when all we did was exchanged emails ... i followed his gallop and he frolicked with me ..it all moved so fast but something went wrong on the way. i may have pushed too hard and we have taken few steps back and he just now wants to stay friends. We dated for 7 weeks but i feel more like ive lost my best friend.
We only just started to txt again but the frequency isn't the same ... blame it on the retrograde. sighhh... is there anything i can do to get my buddy back?
boogy on January 01, 2011:
i don't think so,libras are way to boring and depressing! Libra is derived from the word,library.! Soo,life with a libra,would be like,raising chickens on a farm all alone..
vg on November 14, 2010:
Can an Aries ever leave a sag for a libran?
AL on November 10, 2010:
I am a 34 year old man and in a matter of a no time I have fallin for a 28 year old man. At first the age scared me but I figure give it a shot. He is very energetic as am I. This article was RIGHT on point until it sunked my heart with the conclusion. Overall - you only live once, I just hope this young heart warming soul doesn't think I'm a dud!
constantia11 from haelen on September 30, 2010:
beautifull article. I love people who love astrology. Yet we do not know the truth of who we are. If you think you are a taurus you are in fact based on the real astronomical facts an aries. Astrology should work together with astronomical facts. Right now astrologers do not do that , what makes them unfortunetely corrupt under the law. Use wrong astrology causes damage to society. Much more then people are aware of. It is not something we do for fun. We must stay serieusly also when it comes to astrology. If you think you are a capricornus, in reality you are a sagittarius. If you want to know more about astronomical astrology you can look it up on google.
Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 18, 2010:
What you should avoid is listening too hard to a person who is always spouting off. Aries is so earnest. Sagittarius mocks earnestness. You have to drill down with Sag and see if they really care. They can look like they don't care, when actually they do. In the next month, go to my website: astrologygetalong.com and use the live chat, and we can talk.
Rebekah on January 14, 2010:
How does an Aries woman develop a relationship with a Sagittarius man? Is there anything we should avoid?
Amber on December 16, 2009:
I find all that is written here completely true. I am an Aries. My first love was a Sagittarius. He and I have been on and VERY off again for the past decade. I have always loved him. I married a Cancer and that ended very quickly because it was too emotional, and I always thought about my lovely Sag. He hadn't told me he loved me until about six months ago when he told me how sure he was that I was THE One. We are 2,000 miles away from each other and so we know it won't work out right now. I met another Sagittarius a few years ago, and we have recently begun spending a lot of time together. I know how drawn I am to them (more so than any other sign) I am just afraid now that I cannot make it work with any of them. They take ages to return phone calls, they are always busy, they are so hard to pin down. I want a commitment, I have tried to make it work with other signs, but none have felt right for me. I feel safer with a Sag, I feel at home. I want to try things out with this new Sag, I just have no idea how to grab hold and get him to see that I am right for him. I don't want this one to be something that goes on for ten years with no true commitment, I don't want him to become another man I pine for all my life.