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Cancer + Aries
A Cancer and Aries relationship will cover a lot of ground. Both signs are early in the zodiac, but Aries is fire and Cancer is water. Aries is the first house and Cancer is the fourth house, which makes both the first signs of their elements. This relationship is a square relationship, which can make for a lot of compatibility or tension.
I tend to think these relationships have the right amount of similarity and opposition—too much similarity will make a couple feel like they are friends, and too much opposition makes it difficult to find a loving, supportive connection. These two are going to come at the world with completely different perspectives, so it will take a lot of conversation and a built-in understanding of each individual to make this work.
Cancer + Aries Cheat Sheet
March 21 – April 19
June 21 – July 22
Beginning of spring
Beginning of summer
Aries is the firstborn child of the year. It comes after Pisces, the 12th house, and sacrifices itself in order to bring life into the world. Aries is marked by this independence from the womb. It wants to make a mark on the world, separate from its family, and get people around them to wake up and go. Aries does not want to revert back to its origins and be forced back into the womb. This sign loves adventure, ambition, and action.
Cancer comes from a completely different direction. Cancer changes the season to summer. It brings an intensity to the year, as if someone has gotten pregnant. And in a way, it has. Cancer and summer in general mark the conditions a woman goes through in her body from carrying a fetus and helping it to mature. Cancer is one of the most yin signs of the whole zodiac. It is a highly reflective sign—its moods change with the tides brought about by the moon, and it wears its heart and passions on its sleeve. Cancer's pregnancy is what is carried for nine months until the birth of Aries. This can cause Cancer to have extreme pride in being the catalyst. Aries is prideful for being the firstborn of the zodiac.
Aries and Cancer Together
Aries will have to humble itself to make this relationship work. Cancer is going to need an extra amount of attention and affection. I don't think there is a limit to Cancer and how much it can receive. In return, Cancer will shower you with their love. If you are not open to this, you should steer away from Cancer. Aries' independence could make this relationship unattractive to them. Cancer—and all water signs—want to merge with their partner strongly. Cancer is very direct about this, considering they are the first water sign, so they don't go as deep and brooding as Scorpio . . . and they aren't as soft, gentle, and mentor-like as Pisces. Cancer needs a high amount of romance, dedication, loyalty, and pride.
Aries and Cancer may connect well by arguing, which gets them heated and passionate. Aries needs to remember Cancer is sensitive—super sensitive and moody. Think of what pregnant women go through and that's a Cancer—the need for pampering, need for attention, excitement by bright colors and food, mood swings, feeling overheated, powerful dreams, powerful moments with the body, intuition increases, hormones increase. It is an intense state of being. Aries needs to respect this and also not fear it. Cancer needs to respect Aries for its need for space and independence. This relationship could help Aries to be more collaborative with others, and this could help Cancer become better at releasing people and loving them without being too clingy. Cancer has a hard time allowing others to have independence because they focus so much on the womb and connectivity, togetherness, and nurturing.
The First Child and the Mother
Aries will have to work hard to attend to Cancer's heart. Aries can be selfish when it comes to affection and really being tender. This can feel unnatural to Aries, who wants to focus more on drive, making things happen in the world, setting fires, and creating sparks. Cancer will naturally go with any partner. They want to take care of them—but they can also be selfish in how much it wants to give and how much it demands of others. Cancer needs to consider whether or not they are getting a fair trade-off in this partnership with Aries.
Remember, this is not a relationship where you look at the other person and see yourself. Your partner has different needs than you, so you have to communicate it in order to understand their perspective. You will have to both to compromise, collaborate, and be patient with one another. This is going to be hard because earlier signs in the zodiac don't have as much patience. They are very action-driven—and if you both have that mentality it could help, but you could also make each other mad for no reason at all.
This relationship could have some bigger battles based on gender. With an Aries female with a Cancer male, the male could feel like he is constantly being emasculated and is never given a chance. The Cancer could push him away or make him feel down in the dumps rather than uplifted. This could cause a lot of tension, so again, Aries needs to be humble if it is attracted to a Cancer. Don't push and pull the relationship in whatever direction that leads to your expectations. You need to listen to what your partner has to say as well. Cancer needs to contribute evenly with Aries.
Passion and Affection
Both of these signs really want passion, but it does come from different places. Aries wants deep, spontaneous, sparks flying passion—Cancer wants to go down into the depths of its emotions, with all the sadness and clinging possible.
Cancer will help Aries by taking care of their needs. They will be more of the manager of the household, cleaning the home, taking care of the things Aries brings up. Aries can summon up a number of new things into life because they have this gift of manifestation. Cancer, with a strong parental urgency, will be there to mature, nurture, and strengthen these manifestations.
Protection vs. Manifestation
Cancer wants to protect and preserve, and Aries wants to venture and manifest. This is a manager and leader relationship—you two are not covering the same ground. Both individuals need to operate to the best of their abilities. This relationship will struggle if the couple is composed of two young partners. Adults who have traveled the planet longer and have learned from their experiences are ready for this relationship. It can feel tumultuous at times, but it can feel fulfilling as well. Know that the two of you have different boundaries—when Cancer is feeling emotionally vulnerable, they need Aries' help to not to feel like it's doing something wrong or holding back. It'll take time to balance out your different strengths and weaknesses.
In regards to marriage compatibility, when the two have too many similarities, they may work better as friends. It takes a good balance of similarities and differences for a romantic couple to learn from one another and thrive.
- Water + Fire = steam. This relationship is passionate and sensual.
- Cancer can sense insecurity and give Aries emotional support.
- Neither sign gives up on a relationship easily.
- It is easy for each sign to forget to compromise.
- Cancer can be possessive and limit Aries from doing what they love.
- Aries can become temperamental and ranty.
What about friendship compatibility? Similar to a romantic pairing, there are both positives and negatives to this relationship. Once this pairing realizes how much they have in common and how to accept their differences, the friendship can only become stronger.
- Aries make the best personal cheerleaders.
- Cancers can teach Aries patience.
- Friendship is important to both signs—Aries especially look for friends for life.
- An Aries may be overwhelming or demanding.
- Cancers can be a little too emotional for an Aries.
- Aries needs to constantly reassure the Cancer that their friendship is strong.
- Take time to listen and not just respond to your partner. You might not instantly understand each other and the problems you are going through. Be patient.
- Be open to forgiveness.
- Pick your battles intelligently. You don't need to argue about anything and everything.
- It's important to spend time together enjoying more lighthearted things. This helps the relationship progress.
- Aries is constantly going to be mystified and fascinated by Cancer's emotions, which shift like the moon. The sooner Aries accepts this energy, the sooner it can enjoy it.
- Cardinals come to ignite new seasons, bringing forth exciting new energy. Don't get carried away with your energy and demand more out of your partner than what you are contributing yourself. Don't play a game by tallying "points."
- You feel rewarded in how different you are if you stick at it the bumps and tension will ebb and flow—and not always be sharp. You can unite.
- Don't worry too much about it, but work on trust. Practice meditation and yoga to help slow down mentally and slow down your fierce energies. You both have strong temperaments that you'll have to balance that out with your partner.
- Traveling together will help open both of your minds. I highly recommend traveling around the world and finding new perspectives.
- Don't shy away from passion, because you solve a lot of your problems with passion.
- Be aware of how others see you. If you are getting feisty, go somewhere private. Others might be uncomfortable with how upset you two are and how you are trying to resolve it.
- "Dating an Aries: What to Expect"
- "5 Reasons The Aries-Cancer Relationship Makes For The Best Friendship"
- "Cancer and Aries Compatibility: The Homemaker and the Hero"
Autumn on June 16, 2020:
I am a Cancer female with an Aries bf and everything is so spot on its' borderline scary. I've have worked hard with my inner demons to help with the mood swings and anxieties from my partner. He deals with it well on his end-or how he knows how to, which is basically be quiet until I am finished. But this is all interesting and can't wait to share some of this insight with him.
anonime on May 21, 2020:
Super interesting, just hung up after a 5 hour phone call with my Aries (I'm Cancer), fixing a situation we had, it feels exhausting but we agreed we both are going to keep trying because we both agree that we have such a connection I hadn't felt in a long time. We are more mature, and maybe that will help us to try to understand each other, communication is the key, feeling worthy and not only loved, but BELIEVING you are being loved in different way that you are used to or expecting, negotiating and lots talking has been helping us, and being truely completly honest to each other about the deeper reasons or roots of our fears, triggers and actions, we both are in a selfawareness process which has helped us, because we both are very patient with each other, but, the frictions, they are there, he even tells me "you seem like from another planet" hahaha now I know why ;) thank you for this guide.
dre on May 14, 2020:
I am an Aries woman with a Cancer bf. EVERYTHING has to be a conversation, about our feelings, how we respond to eachother, our communication and how to build into next steps.
Sitting down and sorting through his deep emotions is so exhausting for me but he appreciates the time I take. Then when I'm a roller coast of firey emotions (usually anger or frustration), impulses and/or I hurt myself through rushing through something-- he returns that patience to me and MAN does that nurturing feel good.
This relationship is lots of work, but so is every relationship. But damn is the pay off and sense of safety and home we've built together been worth all those long talks.
Anonymous on April 16, 2020:
Anonymous I’m a cancer and my boyfriend is an Aries I love him so much he’s everything I ever wanted but recently he told me that he didn’t want to be in a relationship with my because he can’t handle my mood swing , I know he love me but he said out of everybody in his life he argues with me the most and he can’t take it anymore, I don’t want to lose him I need to figure out a way to make it work
Bre on April 05, 2020:
I am in a relationship with a male cancer and we don’t talk about things that much we have short convocations and then we do have long conversations it amazing what should I do to talk more with him
I am aries n wife is cancerian sometimes I am wild sometimes she gets upset what the solution or remady suggest me kindly on March 16, 2020:
Manoj Kumar Das me an aries an wife is cancerian what to do for a stable life flowful n smooth way of living.
Faiza on February 25, 2020:
I am cancerion my to be husband is aries
Sometimes we have different opinions and argue
He is already concerned about my nature but i love him and dont want to loose him
Tell me what should i do to be strong in my relationship i can do everything for him
Rejeesh kumar on January 02, 2020:
My wife is fire and am a water.. Ours having a love mrg now she is go ing to separate me. Bt i need hr..i love. Hr stil am not respond hr words for two month.. We sleep in separate separate room. I dont interfere hr any duty.. Sme time she close to me. Some time. She is doing some deavis activty tht time just shutup my mouth.. I read ur all tips and tricks stil. I follow tht.. I need to back..my love.. And life.. I prayed lot.. Bt still she is in the same tree.. Can u able to tel.. What i do. For nxt
EYBS on December 27, 2019:
This really helps and makes me understand the relationship me and my girlfriend (who is the Aries) are gonna have and take up on. It so might be a challenge but it’s one I’m not gonna give up on or face alone, for nothing in the world I want to loose her The differences we have we’ll just learn and adapt to and make our relationship stronger and not make ourselves weaker Thanks again for the article ✌️
Some dude on November 08, 2019:
I'm so tired of my sign being described as "needy, sulking, brooding, stay-at-home, overly sensitive, have-to-be-taken care of, whiny" etc. Why do you guys always do this? It's like you have nothing positive to say about those born between June 21 and July 22. It seems to be the least favorable star sign of all.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 30, 2019:
I'm sorry, what is your concern?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 30, 2019:
The two of you have a possible future together, but you'll need to work on communication. He doesn't quite understand your perspective, and can be too aggressive with you. He doesn't know how to soften up or read you -- yet. He is crazy about you, but he also has an ego. Until these things are talked about and approached methodically, he's going to keep bothering you. Tell him you love him and believe there are some communication things to workout so that you ultimately understand each other better and respect each other better. Try learning more about relationship communication, read some books, watch some YouTube videos, also ask yourself how invested he is in for the relationship and for what reasons. Is he sticking around because of money or because he loves you? He wants to build a future with you and it sounds like he is faithful, so these are really big positives. With any partner you'll have to work on balancing perspectives and learning about the other person's perspective. He needs help understanding your watery more-sensitive ways, which he finds appealing, elusive, and sometimes frustrating. Men don't always want to learn about relationships. They like to just be in them. Help him keep his focus on the romantic. I hope some of this helps. If you get engaged, I would suggest pre-marital counseling as they can work with the both of you on this so you learn better communication strategies.
Not important person on October 30, 2019:
I'm an Aries male and currently talking to a cancer and yeah I'm here for that
Everlasting love on October 29, 2019:
I am a cancer and my love interest is an Aries. We have been dating for 5 months now. It’s been a lot of Highs and lows. I sometimes feel he’s selfish, too dominant and aggressive.he always wants to be right all the time and that bothers me. I am 4 years older than him and I sometimes feel like because of the age difference it will not work. I just don’t know but I really like him. He’s very charming, handsome,assertive,smart and masculine(Alpa). I think we both lack at communication...However I try to make sure we are on the same pages but he views it as me being too sensitive. I need to know what I could do to make it work.. I really want a serious relationship with him but I don’t want to settle. He talk about life together...raising a a family...all this good fairy tale stuff I dream of. I want to open my heart to love but I don’t what to get heart. So I need help or advice before I walk away
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 28, 2019:
Well, this at least sounds like it was interesting
Ramma on October 27, 2019:
Im an Aries my ex was a cancer and oh boy could we start a war. Lol! It dodnt take muchto get us going. We loved eachother deeply, but just couldnt find common grown. He wanted to control my fire and didnt understand that my fire could burn out of control on any given day.
Beauty on October 15, 2019:
I am cancer and hubby is aries. We have been married for 6 years, and it definitely feels like it's been years. I sometimes check if I had not grew some white/grey hair. Omg! It's exhausting, we like a volcano waiting to explored but somehow we ending making it to another year after year. Cancer+Aries= complications.
Ja Wa on October 13, 2019:
I'm Aries n my lover is cancer....mood swings so true....
Kk on September 03, 2019:
That explains it all LOL
Over 50 on August 25, 2019:
I am an Aries and my husband is a cancer. Everything here confirms our relationship, it’s all exactly like it’s written. We are on a ride, ups, downs, but loving everything we accomplish in the hearts. It is not easy but very possible. If you want it and love enough to learn the give and takes, the difference you present and that not all days will be easy, and that’s some may seem unbearable but at the end of the day you are still standing together. We just celebrated 10 years of marriage and looking forward to the next 40.
I love my boyfriend on August 12, 2019:
My boyfriend is a cancer and me is the aries so that's why i'm here hahahahaha lol.
Someone unimportant on August 01, 2019:
I’m a Cancer and my friend/crush is an Aries. So... yeah, now you know why I’m here XD.