Aries woman and Virgo man aren't necessarily the most obvious love pairing one could think of. As an Aries myself I have to say I've barely noticed and almost never paid much attention to the Virgo men I've met. It's not that they turn me off, it's more that they simply don't spark anything inside me.
Ok, one did. Once. But it was such a short-lived experience, and one that leaves no trace of emotion when I think of it all these years later. I'd have to say it was an altogether benign experience and one that I wouldn't have missed if it'd never taken place. And that pretty much sums up what most Aries women and Virgo men can expect if they have a fling -- unless, of course, they've got loads of other aspects in their natal charts that make it a more logical pairing.
The Aries woman will initially be happy with Virgo man's ability to stand back and let her have control of her own life without trying to make her do what he wants her to do. She'll also appreciate the inner confidence he possesses which makes him unlikely to feel as though he needs to compete with her -- which is something many men instinctively try to do with the Aries woman in order to keep her in line. However, he may stand back too much and make her feel like he's not as interested in her as she is in him. Taking a step back is fine -- standing in the hall all night is another story altogether. Aries woman needs a demonstrative man at her side and Virgo man often feels as though this is something he shouldn't have to do. And he may be right, but that won't fix the situation.
Virgo man can totally ruin a woman's self-confidence with what she interprets as lack of interest. On the other hand, his is a very genuine and selfless love and if a woman can see that for what it is, and accept it, then they can have a good relationship. If she's even a bit insecure, as so many Aries woman are (deep down), this could ruin it all before it begins. They are polar opposites in other respects as well; she's spur of the moment, he's let's wait and see; she's energetic, he's calm; she's uber passionate, he's more contained; she's messy, he's a neat-freak. It can work, but that's precisely what it will be -- work.