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ISTP Problems and Struggles
ISTP stands for introverted, sensing, thinking, and perceiving. This personality's dominant function is introverted thinking, followed by extroverted sensing, introverted intuition, and then (dead last) extroverted feeling. ISTP types make for excellent mechanics and tinkerers.
The ISTP can be a lifesaver in emergency situations, a force of attraction, and a problem-solving guru. They are great workers and engineers, but they often struggle with relationships and empathy. It's probably best for an ISTP to be alone or have a small family. The ISTP is very similar to one of the personalities most likely to commit affairs and have divorces — the ESTP. Be careful, ISTP! You have to think about others and the consequences of your actions.
It would behoove the ISTP to find people who have a better-developed sense of extroverted feeling, like the INFJ, ENFJ, and the ESFJ, but these types may confuse the ISTP. Or the ISTP will confuse them with their ambiguity.
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The 35 Biggest Struggles for the ISTP
- You don't have time for emotions or empathy, and you're not sure how they're applicable in many situations. Patience for emotions? Why?
- You suck at long-term commitments. You're present-minded people, so naturally, you're terrible at planning things with other people.
- You have difficulty figuring out how to emotionally develop a relationship and end up going physical too quickly.
- You like to stir up things to help create action — which may end up just causing drama and friction.
- You tend to be an extreme loner. You don't open up easily.
- You get bored easily. In class, your attention span may wander horrifically as you don't care for long-winded lectures and explanations. If you can't see how it immediately works, you're not sure how to carry it in your brain.
- You're great in emergencies but terrible at managing ongoing crises.
- You have a tendency to be overly private and protective of your private world. It can be like trying to pull teeth to get information out of you.
- You are way too good at faking things and sometimes struggle with authenticity.
- You have bizarre mood swings.
- You do not function well in regimented, structured environments; you will either feel stifled or become very bored. And once you're bored, you check out—big time.
- You can be a bad roommate. Your living partners may come across dirty dishes, cockroaches, and camping equipment left everywhere, trash piling up, strange mechanical objects brought into the house, dirty clothes, a bad stench, and no cleaning supplies.
- You forget to bathe if you are under a lot of stress. You look and act like a slug with salt poured on its back.
- You seem laid back, but you're judging other people hardcore.
- You're not a fan of having too many decisions on the table.
- You’re picky about a lot of things and have a lot of peculiar off-the-wall rules that can be difficult for outsiders to follow. It’s hard to figure out what upsets you and what will trigger you into a loner state. Who knows?
- You can kind of be an asshole. You don't mean any harm, but tend to cancel on your friends . . . a lot.
- You do what you can to avoid conflicts rather than deal with them.
- You tend to surround yourself with people who support your way of life and reject people who think or live differently.
- You don’t care too much about others’ feelings, and as a result, you may unknowingly hurt someone’s feelings. But sometimes, you really just don’t care. Because . . . why? Your emotions are not as developed since it’s an inferior function. You’d rather use your thinking to get through things, which doesn’t always work, and then you get emotionally backed up and feel the need to go on an angry walk around the planet.
- Under stress, you have intense emotions that seem disproportionate to the situation.
- If something is too abstract or fantastical for you, you'll probably ignore it.
- You have a deep love of facts and how things are processed. You have a mechanical mind, but there are a lot of things where this approach is not applicable.
- You have more of an eye for details than for big-picture thinking. You get confused when people jump around between topics in conversations.
- You tend to isolate yourself into a narrow and lonely experience. (Try to be more open-minded. You may have to face your fears in order to grow. Don’t hide by focusing on a single mechanical project.)
- If you haven’t shown your significant other your multiple dark moody sides — don’t marry them just yet. They need to know more about your personality before they commit. Also, don’t slack heavily in the relationship just because it’s the easy thing to do.
- You're likely to have a hard time figuring out exactly how you feel about someone. It's important that you do figure this out. Don't lead someone on romantically with your ambivalence. If you determine that you value the person, tell them so every time you think of it. This is the best way to make them feel secure in your affections and to promote a long-lasting relationship. Otherwise, if you lead them on, they're going to end up hating you and cutting all ties with you. Other people are not just toys or your projects.
- You need to respect external principles even if they don't fit in with your way of life. Just because you don't see the point in stopping at a red light doesn't mean you should eschew the rule.
- You may forget to do certain practical or mundane things, such as making annual doctor appointments, filling out forms, or remembering your partner's birthday.
- Sensuality is your kryptonite.
- Don't forget about your close relationships in favor of other pursuits. Relationships need constant maintenance.
- You can be way too vulnerable to rejection. You hesitate to tell others how you feel, which sometimes makes for ambiguous situations.
- You often resist and rebel in situations that are entirely new or that require a great deal of structured planning and thinking.
- The NF temperament won't make sense to you. You'll fake it and try to be polite, but at the end of the day, the best you can do is admire it. You probably find a lot of them to be dysfunctional or irrational.
- You are most comfortable using your known skills rather than being thrown into situations with which you have no personal experience.
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© 2015 Andrea Lawrence