13 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
Whether it was you or your ex who ended things, you may be looking for signs that your ex wants to get back together. As you already know, communication is key to a good relationship, but sometimes it is hard to just come out and say how you feel. We often communicate more through behavior, especially when we are feeling hurt, angry, or vulnerable.
This article isn’t a guide to having a successful relationship, nor about how to get an ex back. But if you want to get back together, and want to know whether he or she feels the same way, these are the signs to look for.
These signs are in the form of questions. Read them and ask yourself, is there potential that your ex wants to be with you again?
Ask yourself: Does your ex miss you?
How long did the relationship last?
The longer you were together, the deeper the more your lives are entwined.
What kind of contact do you maintain?
The more direct and passionate, the greater the chances of reuniting.
How often do you have contact?
An ex who wants to get back together will be in touch.
How soon after the split did they contact you?
The sooner they called, the more they miss you.
Did it take them long to collect their belongings?
Did they leave anything important behind, on purpose perhaps?
Does your ex reach out more than you do?
If that's the case, it's a good sign.
Do they show up unannounced?
They might not be able to get you off their mind.
What do you talk about?
If they want to get back with you, they won't be able to hide it.
How do they act?
An action is worth a thousand words.
Has their behavior changed?
This is the best clue as to what they want.
What questions to they ask you?
They might be fishing to find out if you're still single.
Have you jumped into bed with them?
How Long Did the Relationship Last?
The longer your relationship, the deeper your emotional connection.
Right after a split, it's only natural to feel hurt and focus on the fights. But it's important to realize that the ties and feelings you and your ex shared will not suddenly disappear. You are still emotionally bonded and your lives are still entwined.
Even relationships that haven't lasted for years can leave a big mark. Don't fall into the trap of believing that just because your relationship didn't go on for years, your ex will easily forget about you.
What Kind of Contact Do You Maintain With Your Ex?
The more direct and passionate they are, the greater the chances they want to be with you.
If your ex uses email or text to remain in contact with you, you may view this as just being friendly. It could also be their way of keeping an eye on you, to see if you are seeing someone else.
If they contact you by phone, however, chances are they want you back in their life. Phoning is a very up-front way to communicate. Surely a guy or girl who wants to start over in a relationship wouldn't phone if they just want to be friends.
Last but not least, if they want to see you in person, it could mean that they aren’t ready to let you go.
How Often Do You Have Contact With Each Other?
Someone who still wants you in their life will certainly pave a path of communication with you.
If they keep trying to have contact with you after the break-up, it shows they aren’t exactly delighted with their decision, right? They could be weighing their options on one hand and their doubts on the other.
Even if your ex hasn’t contacted you, the outlook isn’t bleak. Immediately after splitting up, a period of time apart can be helpful. Let yourself spend time away. It will allow you to focus on the best ways to reconnect with your ex and be a part of his or her life once more.
How Soon After the Split Did Your Ex Contact You?
The sooner they contact you, the more likely it is that they still want you to be a part of their life.
It's a very good sign if your ex is the one making first contact. Perhaps they are doubting their choice to break up. If this is true, they may call or contact you some other way just to say hi or check how you're doing. Don't be fooled by how ordinary the conversation may be; it's highly probable that it’s just an excuse to reconnect with you.
Mind you, being the first to initiate contact might land you in a position of weakness. Rushing into contact with your ex—if they’re the one who initiated the split—may make you seem needy and desperate.
If, however, you get a call from your ex after a few weeks, see it as a good sign. It's quite fair to assume that they have had time to consider their feelings enough to have a change of heart.
Did it Take Long for Them to Collect Their Belongings?
Did they leave something important behind just so they would have to come pick it up and see you?
A face-to-face meeting is hard to avoid if your ex comes around to get their things. See it as a positive sign. He or she may see it as a rather innocent excuse to come in contact with you. If they still carry a flame for you, they won't be in a hurry to have their things back and may even leave something important behind so they have to come and retrieve it.
If you want your ex back, never offer to return their belongings. Once that offer is made, you have cut any tie with your ex.
Does Your Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend Make the Most Contact?
It's always best if it's your ex contacting you, instead of the other way around.
Take it as a very strong sign of interest every time your ex initiates communication. It can indicate that they miss you.
Don’t contact your ex yourself without a specific reason. As hard as it may be, you must work on making them miss you. If you initiate contact, it may appear that you are chasing them and they may only reply to your messages to be nice.
If this happens, take a step back and stop all communication immediately. See how things go from there.
Do They Show Up in Places Where You Go?
It's likely that they can’t let go of you if they suddenly drop by your school or job.
Do you have “chance” encounters with your ex? It could be that they want to make sure they’re still on your mind. You may have contact through mutual friends, such as at a party. This doesn't necessarily mean your ex is checking up on you, but their body language will tell what you want to know. Do they keep glancing at you, and does their body tend to angle toward you? Do they mirror your movements, laugh when you laugh?
Your ex may not be certain about how to act around you anymore. They may keep their distance after the break-up. Don't assume that this means they aren’t interested anymore because it's quite common.
What Do You Talk About?
If your ex wants to win you back, it will be impossible for them to hide their feelings.
If your ex boyfriend or girlfriend always talks about him or herself, you could see this as self-centered behavior. It is also possible that they are just comfortable around you, which is a good thing. Be careful though that your ex isn’t expecting a platonic relationship, because if that isn’t what you want, you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak.
If your ex makes sure you get the message that they’re still single and then ask you about your dating life, they may want you back. Maybe not right away, but they certainly do not want to see you dating other people.
The best case scenario is if your ex is worried you are dating someone else. This opens up many opportunities to turn your relationship around.
When Your Ex Calls You, What Do They Talk About?
If they call out of the blue, with no special reason, they miss you.
If they only call you to get their things back, that is a bad sign. But if they call you one day with no straightforward reason, such as to ask about a family member or mutual friend, then they just wanted to get in touch with you. More than anything, this is a great sign that they want you back. Take it as a very good sign also if your ex calls you just to get your opinion about something. Nobody who didn't care at all would bother to call an ex about something trivial.
There are people who will call their ex just to let them know they’ve met someone else. If your ex calls you in order to convey this message, they want to get a reaction out of you. They want to know how jealous you are. They may be testing the waters, especially if they aren’t 100% sure about how good a decision it was to dump you.
How Does Your Ex Act When They're Around You?
You can learn a lot about the way your ex acts in your presence.
If your ex is friendly, then they’re trying to smooth things over. It doesn’t matter whether you parted ways calmly or with a big fight. If they are warm with you, they may be trying to mend things.
It’s also true that an ex who can hardly look you in the eye may still be really into you and is just uncomfortable and shy.
Look at it this way: Your ex would have absolutely no problem looking you in the eye if they simply didn't care. Avoiding eye contact could mean that they regret ending things but aren’t sure about the best way to initiate a conversation.
If you don’t see your ex much at all post-breakup, don’t worry. Many people avoid their exes when the relationship ends, but they can’t simply switch off their feelings. If you're ready to work for it, you may be able to turn the relationship around. The key is to look for the right moment to make things happen.
Has Their Behavior Changed?
Compare the way they act around you to how they used to behave for a clue to their mindset.
One of the signs your ex wants you back is a change in behavior. Some attitude changes may be immediate, while others take a bit longer to take place. Be on the lookout!
There's no reason you and your ex can't be friendly around each other. But look for a radical change in the way they treat you. When you meet, is your ex extremely happy or extremely moody? If they are happy, it could be that they miss being with you. If they are moody, it could be that they regret ending the relationship.
If your ex flirts with you, it’s likely that they still feel romantic about you. They may only be looking for sex, but it could mean something more. Show your interest by flirting back, but be careful that you both have the same intentions.
What Questions Does Your Ex Ask?
Listen for these questions.
How are you doing? They feel remorse over the breakup and are afraid that you are dating someone else. By asking how you're doing they are fishing to see whether you miss them.
Any future dating plans? They deeply fear the moment you'll say you're ready to see other people. At this point your ex is doubting their decision. You could easily sway them back into your life at this point. Don’t move too fast! Keep it to yourself. Your ex may want to have it all—they enjoy their new single status—but now you now that they are actually only an arm’s length away.
Have You Jumped Into Bed With Them?
Intimacy after a breakup is very tricky. It may seem like an innocent thing to do, but it can actually be a big mistake.
Look at it this way: You are in contact with your ex, you see each other every so often. Maybe you're even friends. And, cherry on the cake, you're sleeping together again. From your ex’s point of view, why be in a relationship again? They have what they want with none of the pressures of an actual committed relationship. Sleeping with your ex on a regular basis isn't the best idea.
However, it does let you know that your ex is still interested. Having sex once or twice in a moment of weakness and passion may be a positive thing. Flirting or even making out with your ex is a good sign, but only if your ex initiates. The more interest they show in you, the better the chances of getting back together. Be careful though that they aren’t just looking for a good time. Misinterpreting their intentions could get you hurt.
So... now what do I do with my Life after a Breakup?
What you Should do After any Breakup
After any breakup, be it your fault or not, it's always good reassess what a relationship really means to you, and to work on yourself so that you can improve yourself from the inside out.
It may be that you are left feeling completely broken inside and unwilling to ever search for new love, or maybe you are left unwilling to ever let new love into your life ever again. In any case, any of these situations have to be reassessed, because you may be living within a pattern that is set to repeat itself over and over again. It's quite frightening to see how these patterns subtly keep emerging into one's life due to one's beliefs, but it's been proven scientifically that everyone is running their own blueprint when it comes to any of the 12 major life categories, and which works as a set-point to which everyone tends to return to if they're unaware of it.
In relationships this happens in exactly the same manner. The nature of the situation keeps emerging over and over again in your life. You tend to attract to yourself the same type of person, and the same type of situation unconsciously, and maybe you keep wondering how this happens.
This always happens because of something called the implicit beliefs that currently run your reality. It's the basis of your essence which makes you YOU. But fortunately, there's some very good news (which doesn't require you having to visit a psychiatrist). You can get Holistic Coaching for Relationships, which will definitely change who you are on the inside, from defeated, lost and broken, to becoming someone 100% confident in yourself, with a beautiful character, a super amazing person to be with, with an amazing potential, whom everyone just wants to hang out with. Can you just imagine what this could do for relationships?
When you learn to unlock your full potential, you can attract into your life any type of person that is truly a match to you. You'll know exactly how to create a balanced harmonious relationship with your partner, and even better, you'll be able to create an amazing and balanced relationship with yourself, on every level.
You should work on yourself from the inside out, so that any sort of breakup becomes a thing from the past. And you should do that by first, recognising who you really are, and only then moving on to what you really want. Only after this will you be able to create the amazing relationship that you are entitled to with no inconvenient surprises in between. And this is the science of what's really happening behind the Law of Attraction.
Why does Reassessing your Life matter for a Relationship?
Whether you believe in it or not, you are creating everything that happens in a relationship, from it's happy moments to it's failures. So in order to obtain a different result, such as a stable and loving relationship, you will always need to do something different. And "doing something in a different manner" will require you take a completely different approach to resolving your life right now.
I highly recommend you start with The Quantum Combination, which is an online Holistic Coaching course, which will help orient you through the process of self recognition, clear out those old blocks and beliefs which will prevent the re-emergence of any negative patters, and will allow you to work on your goals, dreams and objectives. Not only in relationships, but also in any other area of your life. It'll help you solidify your base energy, so that anything you plan to do in the future becomes easy and infallible.
By doing the course, these and many more issues will definitely be resolved:
- Is he/she actually the right person for me?
- Is it worth trying to get back with my ex?
- How should I plan my life if I get back with my ex?
- How should I plan my life if I opt to not get back with my ex?
- Letting go of hatred, resentment, guilt or any negative emotion in regards to your ex or your partner
- Attracting a new ideal partner into your life
- Maintaining loving emotions high between you and your partner
- Knowing exactly what actions need to be taken in order to achieve anything, and which do not conflict in any way with your partner
- Using your intuition to make the right choices in life, that will enable you to live up to your fullest potential as a human
- And so much more!
There's only one way to resolve the conflict happening in your life right now, and that is to get immediate access to The Quantum Combination course, and to start working on yourself first, whether you opt to get back wth your ex, or not.