How to Respond Maturely When Someone Breaks Up With You

You should cease any communication with your ex if you're trying to make any contact with him. By not communicating with your ex, you'll allow the healing process to begin. As you continue to exercise No Contact Rule the images of your ex and the relationship will no longer bother you - they will fade away. You should engage in activities that will distract you from thinking about your ex but don't become too busy. I have written several articles on what a partner should do after a breakup so as to be able to move on. A breakup can incapacitate somebody making it hard for that person to move on or confused on what to do.

Time to pack and go i.e leave the relationship. It shows he doesn't respect you as his girlfriend. The fact he says he wants freedom indicates you are obstructing him from talking to other girls. He wants to flirt with girls however he wants while still in a relationship with you.

Once a person commits in a relationship, there are some things he needs to stop doing. He is no longer single with no strings attached. But, the fact is that he considers you as a jail whereby he can't breathe or move.

If your boyfriend lacks respect for who you are in his life, then why bother to continue in the relationship with him? Let him know you no longer want anything to do with him - the relationship is over. You should settle with a man who respects you and understands that some things or behaviors need to be done away once committed in a relationship.

He might have been a nice guy and you've been in the relationship for long; but remember people change and they develop a different perspective pertaining to relationship.

I hope you will find your feet and move on. Don't cling to the fact he is still the nice guy you knew.

It is well-known that women feel hurt when their significant ones or husbands don't wish them a happy birthday. Were you wrong in letting him know how you felt when he didn't wish you a happy birthday? You weren't wrong. He should have apologized and wished you a happy birthday. However, out of anger after letting him know how you felt, he dumped you through a text. That is not a mature manner of solving such an issue in a relationship.

In relationships, a partner may hurt his/her partner directly or indirectly. Thus, it is proper to let your partner know he hurt you by not doing something which means a lot to you.

From your description, it appears your boyfriend has ended the relationship because you have prioritized your family above him. However, he has gone to such an extreme in insulting you in such a manner considering you've been in the relationship for 20 years.

Don't respond in anger nor use abusive words as a retaliation or to give him a piece of your mind. Let him know you've pondered on his text the reason you've taken time in responding. Let him know even though you're in a relationship, you can't ignore your family as they are part of your life as he is.

I know you're hurting considering how long you've been together. However, for him to throw such insulting words at you shows he lacks respect for you. If you would like to get back with him or not, let him know you'll accept his proposal that you won't call or text him. It will be hard to restrain yourself from contacting him but in time you'll get used to it.

Don't write a long text. Be brief. Tell him even though he has insulted you, you won't retaliate in anger or insult him. If he doesn't want to be with you it's alright. In time you'll find your foot though your enjoyed your time together. Wish him all the best and thank him for the things you shared together.

You have realized that if you allow yourselves to be platonic friends you'll end up in the same game, an on and off relationship game. Let her know it won't be a good idea to be platonic friends. If it happens so you'll be wasting each other time as the two of you would end up together then break up. Thus, you should stop communicating with each other. You should cease communication because it's evident you were never meant to be together. While friendship is a good thing - returning to the state of friendship before you began dating - it is different now. It will bring back the memories and it will be hard to move on. In the months to come, the feelings for each other will have died thus you'll become casual friends since that is what you are meant to be. But, if you become platonic friends you'll be hurting each other and wasting each other's time.

You should give him the time he needs to rethink about the relationship. Forcing or begging him not to leave won't help in making the matter become better. This is because even if he agrees to stay, it might create problems in the relationship. You should accept his decision because you might also need the time to reflect on the relationship.

Remember to tell him that you hope he will make wise decision after rethinking about the relationship. Let him know that you do love him and hope you will spend your lives together because that's what you've always wanted.

Not really. That is a kind of behavior that's common in many dumpers who ended the relationship because they reunited with their ex or had found another partner. He wants to know how you're fairing, whether you've moved on. By asking whether you're dating someone, he wants to find out if you've moved on. Or, to find out which man 'stole' your heart. Again, to see whether he could take advantage of you.

I wouldn't advise you to reunite if he asks. First, he didn't tell you he had gone back to his ex. Second, it will repeat itself. It's evident he's feelings for his ex.

You should not contact her for a minimum of two weeks. After that, contact her by calling or sending a text. As for now, you have to let her calm because how you reacted when she broke up with you might be affecting her negatively. Let her cool and recollect herself then you can try your luck by contacting her.

I find it hard to believe he will date you again once he gets a proper job. When will he get the proper job? Will you wait for three years so that he begins dating you again? That's being undervalued and degraded.

I believe the constant argument was about his being busy at work leaving little room for love to blossom.

I can't tell you, "When I get a good job, I will date you again." It's an insult. Move on. Forget about him. Don't contact him.

You may send him a final text. Let him know you appreciate the time you spent together, and if it's true what he said, time will tell.

If he ever contacts you in the future, examine him carefully so that you don't end in the same pit again.

No. That was just fine and enough. He thinks you might be depressed and suicidal because it is a characteristic experienced by a minority of people who are depressed or thinking about suicide. You just carry the same attitude that it does not matter, you will still find your feet to move on. Your ex never expected your reaction which is the reason for his comment. Don't show more emotion. It might be good to tell him that it hurts but you will move on, and don't forget to thank him for everything.

You should try to be the best you can be while still together. Behave as if there will be no splitting. Do not try to force to be the best. Just be you. Do the little things that matter. Respect him. Respect yourself. I believe the therapy has helped you in several ways. Do not try to argue if an issue is raised up. Find a good way of discussing the issue. Try to show you care for him through the actions. Try to be the best mother for your daughter. Show her you love her. I believe there is something that is affecting you the reason you sought therapy.

You have to begin loving and respecting yourself. Consider yourself a good wife and mother. Wherein you have made a mistake ask for forgiveness. If you want to raise an issue, ensure it doesn't turn to a fight. Back away from it or don't act negatively. Maybe if your boyfriend also tried to see from your viewpoint it would have helped, why not tell him when he hurts you? Why not tell him how it is like in your side of life? But, please love and respect yourself. If you do so, you will extend the same to your boyfriend and daughter. It is the first step in getting over what is ailing you. Let him know you through your actions you are trying to be the best you can be. Above all, do not neglect or ignore yourself. It will matter a lot how you will treat your loved ones and friends.

In the situation you're in you need to remind him he has to own up in taking care of the pregnancy, that is, provide for you and the unborn child. It is evident he no longer has any feelings for you despite having done everything for him. He has used you all this time, and now since you're pregnant he has run away from the relationship.

If you're trying to get him back, it isn't wise. Even if he returns his heart won't be in the relationship.

I suggest you let him know he has to provide for your needs in the stage you're in and throughout the child's life. If you feel right with this idea, you can take the case to court if he refuses to own up to it. It is your right and that of the child.

First thing, you did what was right. If you hadn't raised the issue would you have wanted to stay with a man who is continuously cheating on you but you're afraid to tell him so because you don't want the relationship to break up? Don't you see it would affect you negatively?

For him to dump you because you asked in a kind manner shows the level of respect he has for you and how much he loves you. Who knows, don't you think maybe he would have dumped you later?

Yes, you love him but think how the relationship would be staying in it with someone who is unfaithful.

You should stop any communication with him for one to two weeks. If he doesn't respond within that period, then you'll know he wasn't really in love with you. During this period work on yourself and reflect on the relationship. If he doesn't contact you make up your mind to either contact him or not. I would advise you not to and to move on with your life.

That's not an unacceptable behavior. I don't accept his reason that the relationship is interfering with his studies. The best he could to ask to go slow in the relationship. Lack of receiving your calls or replying to your texts, then saying you shouldn't leave him when you meet doesn't make sense.

What he might not realize is that he is hurting and confusing you. He sees no problem with his action but it isn't acceptable.

You have to make your stand. You have to make it clear to him that you are a human being with feelings, a life to live, goals and dreams to fulfill and things to do. He can't say you shouldn't love him when there isn't any communication. You can't sit down through the whole semester waiting for somebody who is blaming the relationship for interfering with his studies.

It is true a relationship can interfere with studies or jobs. However, cutting communication isn't a viable solution. It is outright rude.

Send him a text since he doesn't want to receive your call. State the facts. Tell him you have to meet to discuss the fate of the relationship. If he doesn't respond, better forget him.

Since you had terminated the relationship, you can accept his proposal to break up if you're comfortable with it.

I tend to figure termination of a relationship is the same as a break up unless you had agreed to discontinue the relationship for a particular period.

In your situation, it might be difficult for your boyfriend to come back. Your reaction or attitude put him off.

You can try this technique. It's not evil but a healthy attempt to restore the relationship. Since he has closed all forms of communication, you should not contact him in other ways like using your friend's phone. This is known as no contact rule. During this time work on your attitude. At the end of two weeks, you can write a letter or use a friend's phone. Let him know you're sorry, ask for forgiveness for the kind of reaction you'd display, you've analyzed yourself and have corrected or changed your attitude and still are, and you pray for another chance because you love him and so on. He needs to know you've changed. Don't send another text or letter. Wait. If he doesn't respond wait for two or three days then send him another text. If he hasn't responded call him. If he doesn't answer, it's time to move on. Maybe he will contact you in the future. Even if he doesn't, the most important thing is to work on your attitude because you wouldn't want another relationship to end like this because of how you respond or react.

In relationships, we need to accommodate each others' mistakes because we are not perfect. Thus, we should forgive each other and give each other another chance. However, when a partner isn't willing or doesn't bother to correct his/her mistakes, it is usually wise to bring the relationship to an end because it will no longer be a thriving and healthy relationship.

The fact you found out he was chatting with someone in a manner that wasn't normal, then he was being unfaithful to you. In such a situation, when a partner realizes her boyfriend is cheating on her, she might not react positively. Thus, the reason you were harsh on him.

What you need to do now is to give him space. Not only him but also yourself. Why not send him a message that you are terribly sorry for how you reacted and you want this to come to an end. Let him know you love him and you will be waiting for him. Then, exercise no contact rule - do not communicate with him for a minimum of two weeks as it will give him the space he needs. After more than 2 weeks you can decide what next move to take as you will have reflected on the relationship. For instance, if he does not respond during the silent period you may call him. When you do so he may have cooled down which is a good indicator the relationship will be renewed.

If he responds during the silent period it is a good indicator he wants to continue with the relationship.

I apologize for taking long in responding. It is evident he no longer has any feelings for you. I am not sure what contributed to this but it is difficult to get him to love you in the same manner he used to love you before the feelings for you began fading away. The best you can do is to exercise No Contact Rule. You should cease no contact with him for a certain period. I have written a topic on that subject. The benefits of exercising no contact are to enable you to heal from the pain you're experiencing, to enable you to reflect on the relationship and to assist you in staying strong. At the end of the no-contact period, you'll have a clear picture whether it's worth trying to get him back or you should move on with your life without him. Although it's evident there is no use in trying to make the relationship work or to make you love the same way he used to, it is important to exercise no contact for your own well-being.

If you haven't responded, take your time before responding. Ask her why she has ended the relationship. From there you can deduce whether to try to get her back or not.

She might reply or not. If she doesn't reply, don't bother. If you had responded, don't continue conversing with her if her response isn't positive. You need to employ no contact rule.

Exercise no contact rule, not communicating with her in whatsoever way, for four weeks. During this time you'll have let the healing process begin its course, had enough time to reflect on the relationship and know whether you would want her back in your life.

After the no-contact period if she doesn't respond then contact her. Start with a 'hello' text and build on it. Don't jump into the relationship issues right away. If she responds talk in general terms and not frequently. From her responses, you'll know whether there's a chance of getting together.

Or, after a month you can send her a text wishing her all the best and that she'll find a man after her heart. This is after you'd reflected on the relationship and arrived at the decision to move on with your life or her responses are not inviting.

He wants you to feel better. He doesn't want to hurt you. Like I stated before don't count on the future because you don't know how the future will be like. He might like you but does he love you?

First, you have to know the reason why she doesn't want to get back with you. If the reason is justified, it will be hard to get her back. Sometimes, when people decide on something they never look back.

Stop any communication with her for a minimum period of two weeks., and then contact her afterward. If she responds during the no contact period or responds positively after ending the no contact, then you'll have her back in your arms.

You should take your time to reflect on the broken relationship, and change what might have led her run away from you. You shouldn't force her to come back with frequent calls and texts. You'll only aggravate the matter as you'll turn out as bothersome or irritating. Give her some space then contact her after a period of time.

I don't know if both of you are financially stable or in your case because it seems from the relationship, you're the one who has to go to Italy to stay with him permanently. If both of you are not financially stable, it might be hard for him to be patient enough to wait till the time you'll be together.

The best you can do is to tell him that both of you need to work out on how you can be together e.g find out how much it costs to travel to his country, the cost of gaining a visa and so on.

However, if it appears it will be difficult to be together very soon then you'll have to accept the relationship is over. This is because he has already given up the patience to wait for how long it takes for the two of you to be together. If it's the case, you'll have to let him know that you truly loved him but because the distance has made him break up with you there's nothing you can do but accept the fact though it hurts a lot.

First thing, he was rude to you by dumping you when you found out he was unfaithful in the relationship. Now that the relationship with his new love did not go well, he has come back and visits you to show you are still the one he loves.

Yes, you love him, but you need to take it slow. You need time to heal and to ponder or think things through. Would you want to continue in the relationship with a man who dumped you for another woman? Are you strong enough to continue in the relationship?

You need to stop seeing each other. You should stop communicating with him unless it's an emergency. You need to stop him from visiting you at your home or tell him to cease visiting you. This means you need to exercise no contact rule. When there is no communication between the two of you, it will allow the healing process to begin. You cannot get back in the previous relationship while still in pain. It will lead to more heartbreaks. You need time to heal and to be strong to stand on your two feet. Also, you need to know whether it is sensible to get back with him or forget about him and move on with your life.

Thus let him know you do not want to communicate with him for some time and the two of you should stop seeing each other for some time. If he asks why, tell him to think things through, to ponder and to heal from the wound he inflicted in your heart and to find the strength to move on. At the end of the no-contact period, a month is preferable, you would know which direction to head to, and the pain will have lessened.

Yes, it is wise. This is for your own benefit as it will aid you in moving on. It is a positive mentality, it shows you have accepted his ending the relationship and that you will not get stuck; you will move on with your life. Lastly, you want to thank him for the 5 months you have been together.

It is good you have decided not to chase after her. It would be futile for you would be hurting yourself in the long run. Her breaking up with you is for your own good even though it hurts.

Erasing her memory from your mind in an instant is not possible. However, if you want to heal and recover from the relationship you have to be determined and disciplined.

First, delete her numbers from your phone and block her on your social media accounts. This will prevent you from giving in to the urge to want to send her text or look at her posts or photos.

Secondly, tear apart and burn her photos. They are no longer of any use to you. They will always remind you of her. This includes any possession of hers that you have. You can decide to return them to her, store away or get rid of them.

Engage in activities that will keep you from thinking about her. You shouldn't be busy, but activities such as hobbies do help a lot.

Don't listen to sad songs and when you begin thinking about her, snap out of it. Always tell yourself she is no longer yours. Stop as soon as possible replaying the good times you shared or thinking about the relationship.

Don't hate or hold a grudge against her anymore. Don't hate her and forgive her.

I have written articles on how to heal and recover from a relationship and things you should never do after a breakup.

You did the right thing. You weren't weak in calling him since you didn't call to plead or beg him to come back but to thank him for everything. I understand for him to leave you is what you don't agree with. However, responding positively is for your benefit as shown in the article. It will aid you in getting focused on what to do or not.

Don't talk to him anymore. Don't contact him in whatsoever manner. For now, you'll have to stop loving him.

He told you were not suitable for each other. He has not only wasted your time but has hurt you in the process. He should have known you're not suitable for each other before not during the relationship.

You need to accept even though you love him, you've to move on with your life. Maybe he will contact you or not. If he doesn't don't beat yourself. Don't plead. Just move on with your life.

It is a lost battle. Consider the fact that he is expecting a new-born baby. He will be a father. It means a lot to him if he loves you more than the other woman he would have supported them financially while staying in the relationship with you. Again, he is already a family man.

If you want to support him in supporting his expectant girlfriend is to tell him that you love him and it hurts that he has left you for another woman. Let him know you will assist him in supporting the woman and the child. Do not plead.

But as I said before, it will be difficult to get him back. There is nothing you can do to convince him apart from showing him how much you love him, how you had envisioned the two of you together till death, and you enjoy your relationship with him.

I would advise to stop any contact and take care of yourself first. Your boyfriend was doing all he can to find a common ground which he can base his decision to get rid of you. Accusing you of things you don't do, despising you by comparing you to others is an indication he is tired being in a relationship with you. I can't say that man truly loved you. He doesn't deserve you because he doesn't appreciate and respect you. Please, stop any contact with him, try to never mind him and move on your with life. You deserve it because you deserve a man who cherishes you. He is not of any worth to you.

You can heal and recover from the breakup. You can get through the breakup.

The first step is to admit your ex isn't everything. You can live your life without your ex. In time, the feelings you have for your ex will start dwindling. In less than three months, you will have moved on with your life.

The situation you're living now isn't conducive to ensure you heal and recover from the breakup. You can't be living together when you're no longer in the relationship. This is because the more you see him the more you're hurt when you realize you're no longer together. In such a situation, you'll become depressed.

You have to talk to him about what to do about the situation of the two of you still staying together. You have to let him know that the two of you staying together is affecting you negatively. He can stay with a friend until he gets a place of his own.

I have written an article which guides a person how to heal and recover from a breakup. It's called 'Steps to Heal and Recover from a Breakup.'

After he moves out, don't contact him nor receive his call/reply to his texts. Don't accept to become close friends. You should act as casual friends. You should not keep some of his things in your room. Unfriend him from social media accounts and delete/tear or store his pictures far away. This is to enable you to heal and recover from the breakup.

Every time you think about him, snap out of the thought. Tell yourself that you're no longer in the relationship with him whenever you think of him.

Search for this article 'Steps to Heal and Recover from a Breakup.' It will instruct you how to get through the breakup.

I pray you will get through the breakup. Remember, your ex has to find a place very soon or stay with a friend of his. His continuing staying in your room will only aggravate the situation.

You should let him have his way. If he can't sit down with you to solve the little problems, what about when large problems manifest? Again, it's evident your boyfriend wants a perfect relationship which as we know doesn't exist. Every relationship has a problem. Lastly, you should find out why he wants to breakup over a little problem. It might be he wants to find a reason to breakup with you for a number of reasons. Maybe he no longer has strong feelings for you or is tired of the relationship.

I have come to learn in life, you can't force someone to stay in a relationship when he doesn't. If he does, he'll complicate the relationship because his heart is no longer in the relationship.

You should take some time to reflect on various things pertaining to the relationship. Take one or two weeks and reflect on the relationship. When you are married, would you be comfortable with your husband going to nightclubs on some days especially on weekends? If you will not feel comfortable then you need to let him know you love him but you don't feel okay with him going to nightclubs. Right now, do you feel comfortable with him going to nightclubs even if you love him so much?

Stop thinking of whether you love him. You should think about whether you will be comfortable and whether you will tolerate it. In this instance, you aren't too young for a serious relationship but sensible enough to notice whether you are up to it - will tolerate the act.

If you are comfortable with the act, you should contact him a week or two and let him know you had been thinking about what he said, you acted irrationally and apologize; the reason you took some time before contacting him.

Don't contact him for a week or two and think whether you will be comfortable with it or not.

It is just playing the right card at the right time. It fails on the other side expect to be approached. It doesn't make sense he has gone back to his ex and still want open communication with you. The social media act as evidence he's still with you.

I wouldn't think it's wise to accept him back to your life when he comes. Why does he want to communicate with you when he is another relationship? Again, why say you asked for a breakup when you didn't.

He will come when it doesn't go well on the other side. Social media acts as a channel to convince his friends he's still with you because of liking and commenting to each other's status and so on.

Please think whether it'll be alright to have h back when he comes back. You need to reflect and arrive at a desirable situation whether to go move on with your life or not.

Not necessarily. She wants to have space to think a lot of things pertaining to the relationship and you. She wants to analyze the relationship and find out if it's alright to continue with the relationship or not. The decision she comes up after reflecting on the connection will determine the direction of the relationship. She might call you and discuss various things about the relationship, or, she might tell you, either through call or SMS, that she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore.

Sometimes people ask for space so that they can regain the peace of mind and heart resulting from the relationship, and regain energy they lost in the relationship. In rare cases, she might not text or call you to tell you she no longer wants to continue in the relationship with you. This is after reflecting on the relationship and finding no need to let you where she stands.

Thus, you should give her ample time before contacting her.

He applied what I call 'silent treatment.' He didn't tell you why he no longer wants to be in the relationship. He just disappears without letting you know where he stands in the relationship - in or out of it.

Four weeks is less time to build emotional bonding. In your case, you had started becoming emotionally bonded to him. But, it seemed there was more than what he said about his job worrying him.

You are hurt, you still long for him but the guy doesn't seem to respond to you. Instead, he ceases any communication with you.

I suggest you exercise no contact rule. Don't try to contact him in whatever way. Trying to get someone who just left the relationship without telling you is difficult.

You should go on with your life. Move on. It's hard but it's the only thing left. He wasn't considerate of letting you know he doesn't want to be in the relationship and providing the reason why.

It might be he was no longer interested in the relationship or maybe he found another significant one. It might be hard to know what went wrong if you didn't do anything to make him to behave in such a manner.

Just move on and you will find another man.

You can't be instant friends after breaking up. In fact you need to be casual friends but not now; several months or years after you've moved on. For now, cease any communication with your ex. Work on yourself, focus on yourself. You shouldn't look behind. Read an article I wrote, steps to heal and recover from a breakup.

Send him a text. Tell him how much you love him and you can work out what led to the breakup. If he doesn't respond, text him by telling him that you're patiently waiting for his response. Don't contact him for more than two weeks. If he doesn't respond in that period, contact him. If he doesn't pick up your phone or reply to your text, don't bother him. Continue with your life. You will find someone else who loves and understands you.

You just leave him alone. You stop any communication with him. That is not a guy to be in relationship with if he can't act maturely considering he ended the relationship. His lack of controlling his tongue clearly paints a picture of how the relationship was like. Move on.

It's sad your girlfriend broke up with you without any reason. I know you want a long-term partner. You want to have your own family. But, you can't dream of a future family when you're afraid to test the depth of a stream once again.

Hurt is inevitable. You can't run from it, but you can minimize it. I have undergone more than four relationships. In all of them, I was dumped in ridiculous ways. I felt like you did. I don't want to be in another relationship because I don't want to get hurt again. But, I learned not to allow hurt to continue its course in my life.

The most important thing is not of you'll be hurt again but how to deal with the hurt. In today's world, it takes more than two to three breakups to settle with a life partner. Even in relationships and marriages, hurt will always exist. Your partner will hurt you consciously or deliberately even in marriages and vice versa.

Don't be afraid to engage in another relationship. I have written an article on how to heal and recover from a breakup. It has take you a very long time to heal. You should have healed a few months after the breakup. Let not what happened last year affect or impede you from doing what you desire because you're afraid of how the past treated you.

Stop thinking about your ex. Unfriend or block her from your social media accounts. Store away her photos or tear them or delete them if they're on your phone or computer. Let not the memory of your ex take control of you. Learn to let go so you can enjoy your life.

Your boyfriend might have felt repulsed by sending a half-naked picture of you to him. He should have told you about it instead of breaking up with you.

Send him a text or call him (if he'll pick up the call) and tell him you didn't know he was repelled to such kind of a photo. Apologize. If he doesn't respond or responds negatively, cease any contact with him for two weeks.

If he doesn't respond during no contact or you contact him after two weeks but doesn't respond or responds negatively; you'll have to give up the relationship. It will be time to move on because it might be there's a deeper reason he broke up with you and not necessarily because you sent him such a photo.

I'm sorry to hear you failed your exams as a result of the breakup and how depressing it was celebrating your birthday. Your boyfriend has texted you to know if you've moved on. Have you moved on are you still longing for him? Again he wants to find out if from your response there is a chance of getting back. His motive might be genuine by finding out if the breakup affected you negatively (though it's hardly the case), or it might be mockery when he finds out from your response it has been hard for you to move on or wants to know if there's a chance to get back together.

So, what should you do? Though it's hard to move on after a breakup, it's possible. I would advise you reply to him that you're not fine because his dumping you hurt you to the point you were depressed, which you are, and as a result of depression, you failed your exams. But, let him know you'll be fine because you're moving on with your life. Even though it's hard to move on you'll make it.

After you've replied don't reply to another text he sends. If you do so, you'll long for him which will increase the hurt and depression. You'll find it hard to move on. Maybe he was sorry for dumping you. It doesn't matter. You have to move on with your life. I have written an article on how to heal and recover from a breakup. Read it on how you can move on after a breakup. Don't forget to thank him for everything and wish him all the best. Don't work on reviving the relationship because it will revive the the pain which will affect you negatively as you might develop acute depression. Maybe several months or years after you've healed completely you'll know if it's okay to reunite but not now when you're hurting.

Exercising the no contact rule is the best option in aiding you to move on. Some people exercise silence; not sending/calling or responding to the texts or calls, otherwise known as "the cold shoulder" as a means of ending a relationship. That is what your boyfriend is trying to accomplish by being 'distant.'

You can hold on the hope he will be mature to break up with you but for how long?

The following is a tactic I used in two different situations when my girlfriends exercised cold shoulder. I stopped communicating with them for a month. In any case, it was a waste of time as they did not bother or find the need to reply to my texts. After a month, I texted them with the question of whether the relationship was over or not. They replied on the same day I sent the text that the relationship said was over, and they were seeing another man.

After a month of not communicating with your ex, ask him if he wants to break up with you then he should say so because that is what you feel and you will accept that decision. Another thing, if during the no-contact period he does not converse with you then he does not want to break up with you in a mature manner. He wants you to know what his silence implies.

While you might ask him now whether he is thinking of breaking up with you, the probability of getting a Yes answer is difficult. Wait after a month of not communicating with him because he does not want to talk to you why bother to talk back to him. The no-contact period will assist you in gaining the strength which will enable you to move on.

For your boyfriend to have broken up with you for a very short time shows how he's inconsiderate of you. That is a man you wouldn't want to get back to. As much as you love him, you will have to forget him and move on with your life. No need for pleading or begging for him to come back. Don't try to get him back because he doesn't treasure you. You deserve better.

You should not wait hoping when he will come back because he might never come back. When a person says he needs time and space, the results of that decision, in more cases than not, is that he has already decided to move on. You should go on with your life. Don't contact him in any way. Focus on your life. It is time to move on. It is hard, but it is the last resort.

You have to arrange with him when to meet to explain why you made that decision. It will be difficult for your boyfriend to accept your invitation because of the pain he is feeling as a result of your decision.

Call him. If he doesn't answer send him a text. Tell him it hurts you that you hurt him by making a rash decision. Let him know why you made the decision. Let him know what you were going through and how it affected the decision which you regret.

Let him know you love him. Ask for forgiveness and another chance. Let him know you are waiting for his response.

If he doesn't respond, wait a few days before you call or send him a final text asking for another chance. Again, let him know that you love him and you're patiently waiting for him. Don't beg again because you will only infuriate, annoy and hurt him the more.

If he doesn't want to get back with you, wait for more than a week before you try for the last time.

If things don't go well, it's time to accept the relationship is over. It's time to move on.

You have been in the relationship for 10 years. That is a lengthy period of time you've had the relationship with your ex. You were happily looking forward to when you would get married to your ex. But, out of the blue, he ends the relationship. He says that you're better off married to another man.

This doesn't make you bad. You're not bad. It might be there were some things in the relationship that might have led your ex to break up with you. However, no one is perfect. Even your ex is to be blamed for the demise of the relationship.

In fact, your ex is the one accountable for the breakup and hurting you. Why did he wait all those years to end the relationship when you strongly emotionally bonded to him?

Don't blame yourself. Don't blame your ex. Admit the relationship is over. If there are things in your life that need to be changed, it's better you do so.

Remember, a person isn't bad because of their weaknesses. A person is bad if they don't change their negative behaviours/attitudes. A person is bad if they are unfaithful, lack respect and doesn't care. The person doesn't want to change or admit they are wrong.

You have stayed in the relationship for long and were looking forward to getting married. This doesn't make you bad. It has made you a victim.

What to do? Don't contact your ex. It's time to allow the healing process to begin. It's time to move on. You have to move on.

I'm sure you want to know why he ended the relationship, and you did everything to ensure the relationship is active. But, think about this: He 'dumped' you for another girl. I wouldn't suggest you meet up with him to find out why he ended the relationship. He might even not tell you the truth so as not to hurt you.

I know you'll be psychologically tortured to know why he broke up with you. You would want to know why and what you could do to get back your ex.

It is obvious before he ended the relationship, he was seeing the other girl (maybe for a few months or weeks).

It's better you don't know because your ex used an inappropriate method to inform you of his wanting to end the relationship.

About the child, let him know through text or call him. It's sad he wasn't there for you and the child (and he is right he has put you through a lot. You had to take care of the child on your own).

Find the appropriate means to let him know he has to forget about his son (until an appropriate time if you wish so).

Don't contact him for a few days. A week is appropriate. After one week of not contacting him, contact him through text or call him and let him know of your decision (you won't allow him to see his son. He needs to forget about him until when the child would be ready to know his father).

This is quite sad. You love him and you were excited when your relationship with him kicked off yesterday. But, today he broke up with you. There might be a reason why he has dumped you, but I consider it barbaric or harsh to dump you at a very short period. He has wasted your time and love you had for him. You would have better directed it somewhere.

You do still love him. You would want to continue in the relationship, but, he no longer deserves your love. Forget him because he has treated you like trash. You have your dignity, maintain it. Do not plead with him nor have any hope of getting together. It is clear he considers you of no value to him. Move on, and you will find a man who loves you not one who after a day he considers you of no value to him.

You will get along well.

No, you shouldn't keep that hope he'll come back. Many things might have contributed to this such as: maybe his kids didn't like you and told him so, he no longer feels attracted to you or was simply experimenting and so on.

It's better you cease any communication with him. If he has not contacted you during the silent or no contact period, it's evident he'll never come back. Stop any communication with him for two weeks and see whether he'll respond but don't keep your hopes high.

If he doesn't respond send him a short text thanking him for the time you spent together and wish him all the best. But don't forget to tell him he hurt you but you'll heal and find the strength to move on. He needs to know his action has hurt you.

You should move on with your life. It does hurt and his view you should live in the present not the future. While a relationship is built in the present, it is destined for the future. If there is no future in the relationship then the relationship is useless.

Don't tell him how much you love and miss him. Let him not know how you feel because he is no longer in your life.

You will get over the breakup. You will be back on your foot. Forget about him. Don't be angry at him. Don't hate him. Forgive him. Don't entertain thoughts about him.

After a month has passed, send him a short text thanking him for everything and wishing him all the best. Whether he responds or not shouldn't be your concern. Even if he replies don't respond.

I advise that you shouldn't get back together in whatever circumstance.

Tell him you don't understand why he broke up with you.

Let him know he has hurt you, but you can't force him to love you when he no longer has any feelings for you. Let him know you wonder whether he really loves you or has feelings for you or he was playing with you.

Let him know though it will take some time to heal and recover from the breakup; you will take the necessary steps to ensure you have found your feet to move on. Maybe you were never intended to be together but for now, what matters is to work out on moving on and concentrating on your life.

Thank him for everything, the good and the bad, and wish him all the best and his future love.

One thing that he said that is the truth is that even if the two of you get together, you won't be happy like before. His feelings for you won't be strong as before meaning his love for you will have lessened. This signifies the relationship won't survive. Another break up will occur. This, it's better to stop begging him and move on with your life.

Another thing to consider is the fact he always doubts you. This isn't a good indication in a relationship. If your partner can't trust you then the relationship is useless.

The fact he hasn't responded means he doesn't want to be with you.

I suggest you should not contact him for a month. After the duration you can contact him if you still want him back. If he doesn't respond or doesn't respond positively wait a few days then contact him. If he still doesn't respond positively then move on.

Remember if he still doubts you when you reunite the relationship won't be stable.

Start the call casually. Ask her how she's doing. There is the possibility she won't be interested in letting you know how she's doing or what's going on in her life.

However she responds, let her know you called to greet her and to know how she's fairing on. Then end the call.

The purpose of the call is not to let her know why you called. You don't want to appear needy or desperate. Thus, you should wait for a few days before you call her again. If she responds before the second call the better.

If not, call her. Start with greetings as usual then ask her when she'll be free so that you can meet. If she responds positively, the better. If not, you'll have to wait for another few days before you send her a text, no longer a call.

What lead to the breakup with your former girlfriend that now you're getting back to her after breaking up with the current girlfriend? You can't get back to your former girlfriend unless you've good reasons, not because you haven't found another girlfriend.

You must have a valid reason why you got back to your former girlfriend. If not, the getting back won't survive. Another breakup is bound to happen. I would have advised you to take your time before getting back to her.

It was graceful, polite, clear and understandable considering he broke up with you for no reason, came back, ended the relationship and as it will be obvious, he will come back again to you. You need time and space to be on your own to reflect, heal and know the way forward. You did react positively which will ensure you will heal and recover quickly from the breakup.

Your ex exhibits a personality that you will find in many men. They don't want to be told they erred, they did a mistake, they hurt their significant other.

Your ex doesn't want to accept the truth he hurt you. He believes he has never hurt you. He is good. You are bad. He has never changed. You have changed.

You shouldn't apologize because you'll be strengthening his ego. There was a lady who asked for my advice pertaining to a problem that is similar to yours. She sent her boyfriend a text. She told him that he had hurt her because he didn't wish her a happy birthday. The next day, her boyfriend sent her a breakup text. That's a male ego which you shouldn't tolerate.

I suggest you don't contact your ex for a few days. This is to reduce the tension you feel and to enable you to reflect on your ex and the failed relationship.

After the few days of not contacting him, send him a text. Don't call him. Let him know how much you love him. Tell him that the mere mention of letting him know he hurt you, he dumps you instead of accepting it shows the kind of man he is. He doesn't want to accept the truth. Wish him well. Let him know you feel very hurt the fact he hurt you but doesn't want to admit it. Instead of accepting it, he dumps you which has increased the pain you're feeling. Thank him for everything. Let him know in time, you will heal from the hurt. You will recover and you'll have gained the strength to move on.

Think about it: can you live in a relationship whereby your man hurts you but doesn't want to accept that he hurts you? Will you be bottling up the continuous hurt in silence? That's not healthy. It shows a lack of respect.

If he calls you during the no contact, well and good. If he doesn't, don't beg. He has to accept the fact.

Forgive him. Let him know you've forgiven him. But you won't accept to apologize for something that you didn't do wrong.

What your girlfriend is exhibiting is withdrawal symptoms. This is commonly displayed by dumpers.

She dumped. You acted cool. You were calm. You told as she wishes you'll respect her decision. You moved on with your life. She expected you would beg. You would plead. You would ask her for reconciliation, that she would come back to your life.

Your lack of response and that you seemed to deal with the breakup in a positive way got into her. While you moved on, she didn't. While you healed and recovered, she hasn't yet healed. Thus, the emotions she's displaying is, as a result, you're well off while she's struggling with her emotions. The 'I miss you,' the insulting and the blaming are a result of the fact she hasn't gotten over the breakup despite the fact she's the one who ended the relationship. As of her telling you she has a date the next day might be true or not. In most cases it's not. She wants you to know she's doing fine, she's over the relationship and you, she has a man in her life thus everything is going well in her life which isn't true.

I call it withdrawal effect because she's begun exhibiting signs related to a breakup or end of a relationship or the fact she's no longer in relationship with you.

I hope this lengthy answer provides you with an idea what goes on on a dumper's mind though it's not exhibited by all dumpers.

He doesn't reply to your texts nor answers your calls yet he doesn't want you to leave him. You will have to let him know the facts. He has cut communication. Without communication, a relay can't survive or be strong. It isn't healthy. While you understand the relationship might have some effect on the relationship, cutting the communication isn't the solution. He has to know he is hurting you. His action is rude and it displays an attitude of 'I'm-not-into-this-relationship-anymore.'

You have to arrange when to meet to discuss. If he doesn't reply or answers your call, send him a text. Explain to him how you feel and why you his attitude is indicating he's no longer interested in the relationship. He has to make a stand whether he is in it or not. You are a human with feelings, dreams and goals to fulfill and things to do. If there is no constant commy however infrequent it is, you won't continue in the relationship.

You have to find a way to solve this issue. If he doesn't want to communicate through these channels, you will have to end the relationship.

There might be various factors that have led to what your relationship is currently going through. It might just be one or several of them. It might be that you grew out of love.

In the current situation you're in I would advise you to stop any communication with your partner. Let your partner know you need time to be alone with your thoughts thus you shouldn't communicate with each other until you feel there is a reason to do so. When you don't communicate with your partner, it will afford you time to reflect on the relationship without letting emotions assist you in analyzing the relationship.

It is difficult to think clearly if you're still in contact with your partner. You need ample time, not one or two weeks but preferably a month. You will have cooled down, in control of your emotions and able to analyze the relationship soberly.

At the end of no contact rule or when you feel you should cease remaining silent, you will have known whether there is a chance of reviving the relationship or move on.

But from the way I see it, there is no point of reviving the relationship as it will not be in its former glory. In any case, it is better to exercise no contact rule for a minimum of one month.

You shouldn't mind your boyfriend anymore. There is no need of doing No Contact Rule to get your ex back. After breaking up with you, he starts dating a girl at work. Worse still, it happens two days after the breakup. What does this signify?

He hasn't any feelings for you. He doesn't want to be with you. You have to forget him and move on with your life. It is all a wasted effort doing the no contact for the sole purpose of getting him back. He looks satisfied where he is.

Maintain the two qualities of being strong and confident. Realize he is no longer yours. You'll get another one who treasures you. Not like your ex who dumps you and straight away gets into another relationship.

I know you love him so much but You've to stop thinking about him. You've to concentrate on your life. It will hurt seeing the two but you can get over the pain.

Employ the No Contact Rule to enable to heal and recover from the breakup.

I have written an article on how to heal and recover from a breakup: Steps to Heal and Recover from a Breakup. That's what you should be aiming for.

Let us emphasize his words: "He likes you." Like doesn't translate to love. He just likes you because of a quality you possess which attracts you to him not that he loves you because he loves you.

Another thing, for someone to end a relationship through text shows how he despises or treats you with contempt. He should have approached you and told you so unless he lives hundreds of miles from where you stay or reside. If it is not the case, you cannot count on his love for you existing in his heart.

Lastly, don't wait patiently for a year or so for him to come back from when he 'paused' the relationship, though it's not the case since he 'stopped' it, and continue from where you left. During that period he will have changed his mind not to continue in the relationship or the relationship might end up in another breakup. Is the reason he gave for the breakup really the true reason why he ended the relationship? A year or so is a long time to wait for someone who you don't know the real reason why ended the relationship. You don't even know if the relationship will survive or he will not change his mind to engage in a relationship with another lady. Move on from the breakup. Stop thinking about him.

That's a good idea. In order not to have false expectations or deceive yourself by hoping for what is not expectable, you have to stop contacting him. You have to avoid any form of friendship - casual and platonic. When you have healed and recovered from the breakup, you can be casual friends but never platonic friends.

My suggestion: You need to sit down with your ex and explain to him. You can head to a coffee shop or someplace (a quiet place). You should let him know that you're trying to heal and recover from the breakup. As of now, you find it hard digesting the fact you're friends while a few days ago you were lovers. Thus, he needs to give you some space so that you can deal with the breakup.

It's better to be open.

You should apologize for what you're going to say before you tell him. This is to avoid causing drama or making things worse.

As far as the two of you are concerned, you are now total strangers. You barely know each other. Therefore, you should only greet each other. Nothing more. You have to let him know about this. Also, no discussing the project or any subject/topic the two of you. The discussion should involve more than the two of you.

You can study in the same class but no more chatting or discussing together. The discussions should involve others.

Be friendly. Let not your face betray your heart. Forgive him and yourself. Don't hold any bitterness or hatred. Only greet each other. Unless you're in the same group, don't talk more than basic greetings.

Since you don't want to get back with her, you'll have to let her know that the communication between the two of you has to come to an end.

When you reply to her texts, she gains the courage to send more. You'll have to stop replying to her texts.

Let her know (politely) that you don't intend to get back with her. It's evident she hasn't recovered from the breakup. Thus, you have to talk to her politely but firmly.

Let her know you won't reply to any of her texts. You won't communicate to her anymore and that she needs to forget about the relationship - it won't work out.

While I may not know the reason why he broke up with you, you have to stop stalking him. You are only hurting yourself the more and don't want to acknowledge the relationship no longer exists. You will have to stop contacting his parents for the time being until you have recovered from the breakup and moved on.

Unfriend him from your Facebook account, if it is the case, and store away his number if you have been chatting on Whatsapp. You should employ no contact rule for a month so you can think clearly and reflect on the relationship. Again, it will aid you in the healing process, recovering and moving on. At the end of one month, you will know what to do, but it is better you do not get back at him. You have to move on with your life. The most important thing is to stop any contact and stalking so you can find your feet to move on.

However, if the breakup was a result of a minor issue, you can contact him and mend things after ending no contact after a month. But be prepared if the response will be negative. You will have to accept and move on.

That's a very short time for a partner to end a relationship. It just shows even if the two of you reunited, the reunion would be pointless. It would end in another breakup.

Stop following him on Instagram, and block him from you social media accounts. Cease any communication with him and have nothing to do with him anymore.

Your ex is manifesting lack of maturity in a relationship. The extent of his asking his friends to gang up on you and your friend clearly indicates his personality. Also, it shows how he can't contain his jealousy and his controlling or domineering personality. You're better off without him.

You have to let go. You have to move. It's the only way of initiating the healing process and ensuring recovery so you can move on. When you keep on clinging to him, you're self-destructing yourself. You'll become depressed and develop low self-esteem. You'll not live your life, and you'll arrive at a point you'll decide to end your life.

Leave him at that place. Go and stay with your friend or family member for some time. It will assist you a lot in finding the strength to move on.

Listen to your tears. They're tears of pain, of wanting to move on but not heading their plea. It's a hard decision, but it's for your own best. Tell him you're moving out. Don't carry all the things. Carry the most important ones. Thank him for everything and wish him the best.

A few weeks before the lease ends, go with your friend or family member and take your things. By the time you return to take your things, you'll have already healed and moved on with your life.

When you move out, don't call or text him in any way. You should cease any form of contact. Only greetings and talk if necessity requires it, e.g., you work in the same place.

Your boyfriend might be in a confusion state, not knowing which side to lean or he might have decided to side with the ex who is pregnant with his child.

If you pester him with calls and messages it will only infuriate him increasing his dislike of you. Even visiting him might just make him loathe you. You might not know what he is thinking. The best you can do is to send him a text letting him know you love him and want to spend your life and his together. Let him know even in the situation he is in, you still love him. End the text with that you will give him the space he needs because he has decided to remain silent towards you.

Also, you need time to think things through. You should not contact him for some days to give both of you time to reflect on your relationship. If he decides to side with his pregnant ex, there is nothing you can do because he has made up his mind to raise the child together with his mother.

After some time of not contacting him, you will know what next to do - call or text him or continue with no contact or move on with your life.

Firstly, you have noticed he has changed. Secondly, there must be something that has led to the sudden change. Thirdly, you don't know whether what he is saying is true. However, the change you've noticed is enough to sound the warning bells.

He wants peace the reason he broke up with you. You should give him what he wants. Don't contact him. You'll only be hurting yourself if you intend to try to get him back. It's time to move on. It's the best remedy.

You've been in a relationship for a lengthy period. It might be hard to want to move on. But you've to. You can't trust him with your heart anymore.

Individuals who profess a certain religious belief always put religion ahead of everything as voiced in the holy books. Thus, it is difficult for a relationship to continue existing when both partners hold different beliefs. The relationship or marriage will be faced with religious issues to the extent of affecting the children. Thus, it is proper for one partner to convert his/her religious beliefs to the beliefs of his/her significant other.

In your case, it is difficult for your relationship to survive as he has made it clear he doesn't like the religion you profess. The step you can undertake now is to exercise No Contact Rule. I have written an article on that topic. This is where you cease any contact with your boyfriend unless you cannot avoid it. This is to aid you in lessening the pain you feel in your heart, to enable you to reflect in your already failed relationship and to get hold of yourself. You decide how long you should not contact him but a month is good. At the end of the no-contact period, you have to let him know, as he has already told you, that the relationship between the two of you can't continue because he does not want to convert to yours and you don't want to convert to his. It's hard a decision or step to undertake but it's the only plausible one.

Since her parents influenced her that led to the end of the relationship, it's difficult to get her back. My advice is that you should move on. However, if you want to try your lack you shouldn't contact her for two weeks. At the end of two weeks call her and try to convince her why her parents shouldn't influence her who she should get married to. If she doesn't accept you have to move on with your life. You will find another one.

Don't contact your boyfriend for a week or so to give him time to cool down. During this period also consider whether you will continue in the relationship with him. Since he feels jealous when you talk to other boys, would you want to continue in the relationship with him and stop talking to other boys? Of course it cannot work that way.

After a period of no contact, when you have reflected on the above, you will have come to an answer on what to do next. It might be you want to continue in the relationship, contact him and tell him to stop being jealous, or move on. If you decide to continue in the relationship, you need to sit down with him and talk about the jealousy issue. Remember it will affect you negatively and the relationship if it exists negatively in the relationship.

There are people who end their relationships in a cold turkey manner. They don't tell their significant other they don't want to continue in the relationship. There might be other reasons that might lead her to break up with you without providing the reason why she arrived at that decision. Did you do something that might have lead her to react in that manner? Maybe she found another person.

Why not send her a text expressing your feelings - how you feel about the situation. Let her know since she has blocked you and doesn't reply to your texts, you won't bother her. She has made a decision, you're will respect it. You wish her all the best and thank her for the time you spent together. You're hurt by her decision whereby she hasn't even given you a reason for ending the relationship. You won't bother her anymore. Though you're hurt, you will try your level best to move on. It will be difficult but there is nothing more you can do.

It's best you move on. Don't try to get her back until she feels the need to do.

I have written an article on how to heal and recover from a breakup. You can search it on any search engine e.g. Google or on this site. It's called 'Steps to Healing and Recovery after a Breakup.'

Please, don't kill yourself. Your life is precious, you deserve to live it. Don't let the breakup blind (deceive) you there is no future because you have lost the person you loved.

Consider that even before you met your partner, you were still living and enjoying/appreciating your life. You went through hardships/difficulties until you reached where you are. Life is not always pleasant. There are so many challenges and hurt along the way.

I know the pain is unbearable. You cry you wish, you feel your world has come to an end. The person you loved most is no longer with you. But, don't end your life. Believe me, you can get out of the hurt and enjoy your life. You can get back on your feet and move on.

It will take some time to heal but purpose (be determined) to get over the breakup.

When you have healed and moved on, you will no longer feel the pain and you will have forgotten your ex.

Tell yourself you deserve to live. You have to fulfill your destiny - accomplish your dream and goals. It's hard but try to forgive your ex. Delete your ex's numbers from your phone book and block your ex from your social media accounts. Tear apart your ex's photos and delete them from your phone.

Don't take sleeping pills and don't drink wine or beer. Don't think your life is miserable because it isn't. You can make it. You can overcome the pain.

Talk to your best friend or a closer friend. Let your friend know how you feel and ask your friend to be by your side.

You have come this far, you have lived this far, you have gone through a lot of challenges. Don't let the breakup negate/discourage you not to continue on.

I have been dumped more than three times but I purposed I won't be affected to the point I give up along the way. I felt the pain, the hurt but I worked on ensuring I don't feel the pain anymore. And you can make it like countless of others.

Read this article I wrote how to heal and recover from a breakup. I used these genuine techniques to heal and recover from my previous breakups, and I was able to move on. It is called 'Steps to Healing and Recovery After a Breakup.' Search for it online and I hope it will give you hope that one can get over a breakup and move on.

I hope you stay with us and that you live to fulfill your dreams and goals. You will get a better partner than your ex. When you deal with hurt, you will find there is meaning in your existence.

It's sad how your boyfriend has used you. You should distance yourself from him by cutting any form of communication with him. Don't call, text or communicate with him online. You should go cold-turkey away. He doesn't deserve you for the way he has treated you. If he tries to communicate with you ignore him. If he persists tell him you want time alone to settle your mind. After not contacting him, in your case, for two weeks send him a text you're moving on with your life. Let him know you loved him but he used you and took your love for granted. He should have told you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Thank him for everything including using you.

Don't get back at him. Move on with your life. It is hurting but by not communicating with him for 2 weeks you will allow the healing process to begin which will enable you to gain the strength to move on. During this period don't engage in thinking about him and the good things you shared. Act as if you have never known that person.

It will be quite hard to come up with an explanation (in your case, an excuse) why you want to reunite with her when a month is barely over from when you dumped your ex.

You can tell her the path between you and your ex wasn't heading in the same direction and you weren't quite compatible with each other. You found out that her aspirations concerning the marriage were different from yours.

You did the right thing because you loved him and you believed you could solve whatever was ailing the relationship. You knew the root cause of the breakup thus you had knowledge of what could be done to save the relationship.

Begging is a normal reaction but if someone begs continually or for a long time it becomes unhealthy.

Weeping is healthy because it's the body's reaction to an emotional situation. It is a normal thing because it displays physically the pain you feel in your heart.

You should not contact him any more. I suggest you move on though I know you love him. But, if he can insult you and call you desperate then it won't be a good thing to reunite with him. This is in addition to him getting mad for small things. If he can't deal maturely with the small things that crop in the relationship, then the relationship will always be faced with unending fights and unresolved issues.

It hurts since it's your first relationship but you can make it. It will take time to heal and recover bit purpose to move on. Forgive him. Don't entertain negative emotions such as anger and hatred.

You should approach the subject in a polite manner. Let him know you don't like the fact he is smoking or let him know how you feel about it. If he begins objecting, don't engage in a fight or in arguing about it. Just let him know as a matter of fact. If he continues smoking, let him know if he continues to smoke you'll get out of the relationship. If he doesn't call the shots - get out of the relationship.

You can get through the pain. It will take time, but you will get over it if you focus on yourself. You will have to stop any communication with him and unfriend or block him from your social accounts. Forgive him and remind yourself always that you deserve better. You need to move on. Accept the relationship is over, don't hold any grudge against him and when you feel like wanting to get back to him or you think about him; snap out of it and emphasize to yourself the relationship is over you need to move on. It might be good to send him a text thanking him for everything and wishing him all the best. This will greatly aid in the healing process. You will feel the pain but remember it will not last long. I have written an article on how to heal and recover from a breakup. You might want to check on them.

I'm sorry to hear this. When you are alone or in your room, cry as much as possible. Don't restrain from crying. It's nature's way of accepting something hurtful has happened. It's also nature's way of allowing the healing process to begin.

Being always in the presence of your ex will prolong your healing and recovering from the breakup. However, there are things you can do to ensure you've healed and recovered from the relationship.

The first thing is to send your ex a test. Let him know you've accepted his decision. You won't force him to reconsider his decision. Thank him for the time you had in the relationship and wish him all the best. Through this method, you'll program your mind and heart to accept the situation and find ways of recovering from the breakup.

Spend time with your friends during lunch. You'll see him. But, tell your heart he is no longer your partner. He is just a friend like your other friends.

Only greet each other when possible. Nothing more. During discussions or group assignments, only talk about what you've been assigned. Don't throw occasional glances at him. Concentrate on the work you've been given.

It will be difficult to do these things because it's easier said than done. However, it is possible.

The most important thing is to reassure yourself that you will come out of the breakup in one piece. You won't accept to be affected by the relationship in negative ways. You'll do all you can to ensure you've healed and recovered from the breakup.

Don't be angry at him or hate him. You've been angry at him and hated him. Now, it's time to get rid of the negative emotions. Tell yourself entertaining the negative emotions won't help you in any way.

Ask your classmates to watch over you. To remind you that you have a beautiful future in front of you. That you need to concentrate on your studies and forget about your ex. Friends can help you to heal and recover from the breakup.

If you believe in God, pray to Him to help you to heal and recover from the breakup.

Stop listening to any love songs. Throw or tear away his photos or delete them. They are no longer beneficial to you. Unfriend or block your ex from your social media sites.

Don't pretend you're okay. There are times you will break down. Nonetheless, be determined you will get over the breakup.

Your boyfriend is insecure. This is when a person assumes their other significant ones are having an external relationship when it isn't the case.

Since he broke up with you, the best option is to contact him. I would prefer text over the call. Let him know how you were faithful to the relationship. Let him know how much you love him and how much he has hurt you for something you didn't do.

Ask him to reconsider his decision/the relationship once again. To give the relationship another chance because what he had said about isn't true.

If he doesn't respond for a few days or responds negatively, exercise no contact rule.

Don't contact him because it won't be worthy to do so. Even if you reunite but still he distrusts you, the relationship will break up again. He had to gain your respect. You can't force it to him but you can show him through your words that you were never unfaithful. It's up to him to believe you or not. You can't insist too much.

After a month of silence, contact him if you still want to try. If he is still adamant not to get back with you, it's time to move on.

During the no contact, reflect whether you would like to get back with your ex. When you determine that you want to get back with him, don't be depressed when he refuses. It's an indication you need to move on.

It might be a number of things related to the relationship. You should be open and brave yourself if the news is not good to you.

I don't think he wants to end the relationship but it is obvious the bad news will affect your relationship e.g. if he has gotten a job in another country or state.

One of the leading causes of breakups is a lack of understanding of someone else's likes and dislikes.

Your ex doesn't like sex. She told you but you insisted you want the two of you to have sex since you like it. You were forcing her to do something she wasn't ready for or doesn't like it.

You should have sat down with her and talk about sex. How will it be during marriage? The fact is that she won't engage in sex frequently (daily). This is something you should have understood.

For instance, I don't like sex but my other significant loves it. I told her I don't like it though she insisted she likes it. It causes conflict because it is forcing someone else to engage in something she doesn't want although to you it will translate as being denied your rights.

This is the reason why it is important to talk things through before getting married.

If you want her back and are satisfied with doing sex with her occasionally; you should apologize to her. You can contact her through call or text and explain how selfish you were and have repented of your lack of judgment and understanding. You should let her know you're comfortable with having sex occasionally.

If you're not comfortable with the idea of having sex occasionally, you shouldn't bother her. You should respect her decision. You should look for a future wife who you can engage with through sex on a daily basis.

People should remember not all of us love the act. Some love it to a minimum level while others hate it.

Lack of satisfaction in bed or not engaging in sex is another cause of divorces. It's up to partners to discuss sex before getting married.

You have to stop talking to him. You love him very much. Your feelings for him are intact. However, his feelings for you are not intact. It doesn't matter if he loves you. What matters is how he feels about you. His feelings for you are no longer the same.

You should allow the breakup to take its course. You are hurting yourself by remaining in the relationship.

You should stop talking to him. It is difficult but you will have to discipline yourself not to talk to him. The more you talk to him the more you are hurt. He made his decision, you have to make your decision. He has a decision to make: remain in your camp or leave for good.

Even if he remains in the relationship, it will serve the relationship no good. This is because of the feelings he has for the girl.

You have been in the relationship for a lengthy time. You can't afford to waste more time waiting for him or trying to get him back. You should move on with your life.

Remember, you have a life to live. It will be difficult to move on and your studies will be affected by the breakup. However in time, you will have receovered from the breakup.

Don't be in a relationship with a man whose feelings aren't intact or whose feelings are wavering. Why? This is because in the end, the man will dump you and join the other camp.

Exercise no contact rule. Don't contact him for a period of time. It will aid in reducing the tension, help in settling the mind and reflecting on the relationship. By the end of no contact, you should have known whether you want to continue with him or move on.

But to reach a point where he verbally abuses him, I wouldn't recommend you continue in the relationship with him. This is a case of a man soothing his ego. It is evident if you reunite another breakup is bound to happen if he doesn't correct his attitude.

During the no-contact period reflect on the relationship. After ending the NC rule you should have known which road to head to - go back or move on. Think carefully.

Despite the description you've provided, you should stop contacting her. It is unfair that she has to keep on lying to you because of that. It is unhealthy and you will always get hurt because of her unfaithfulness.

She has to make up her mind who she loves or wants to stick with; not standing with her one feet stepping on you and the other feet on her ex.

Initiate no contact and make the decision to move on with your life. You can decide to stop contacting her or end the relationship. The lies have become too much to tolerate and I don't think your relationship will survive to the end. Better move on with your life.

You can't delay the inevitable any further. It's time to accept it is about to happen. From your description, you have admitted the relationship is about to end. This is the first step in acting positively during the breakup.

Breathe in and out several times as a way of calming yourself. Tell yourself and believe so that you won't act negatively. You will cry but you won't raise your voice.

When you see him, reinforce the thought "You have to stand strong. You have to accept it. You have to respond positively. It's for your own good."

It's better you cry letting tears have their way. This will lessen the negative emotions that might explode.

You might want to look down. When you look at his face, you will let down your guard to exercise self-control. You can look down nodding your head in agreement. You can say, "Yes, I understand." And, don't talk about anything else. A day after he leaves you can text him. You can let him know you didn't talk much because you didn't want to act negatively. You will let him know you have accepted it. Thank him for everything.

What most people don't realize is that best friends cannot get along well in a relationship. Best friends never equal to best partners/couple. Best friends know each other very well. It's difficult to lie to a best friend because he knows you more than any other person.

This is the reason you don't feel any hurt, depression, at loss and you don't even miss him. In the relationship you treated him more as a friend (sibling) than a partner (lover). While it might be he loves you, it depends with how you view him. You view him differently - as a friend than a lover.

There is the possibility he might throw you out if you're not working and due to medical issues.

You should try to find a solution to avoid the situation from occurring. If he is adamant that he will throw you out, don't stick there. Things might get worse. It's better to contact your closest friend(s) or family members who will give you shelter and help you in healing and recovering from what you're ailing at.

If the man loves you, and understands the reason you're not working and because of your medical issues; there is no need in staying in the relationship unless you're married.

If you're married, you should seek legal counsel. If you aren't and have stayed for long in the relationship, you're entitled to share in the family's belongings.

Before you arrive at this critical decision, try talking with him about the issue. Involve others if he doesn't want to hear anything from you or to arrive at a desirable decision.

You should neither talk to him nor wait for him to come back. You have been in the relationship for a lengthy period of time.

One thing that is evident is that for the past 3 years, he has been thinking a lot of the girl. This means his feelings for you were not the same before he met the girl. It simply means the feelings he has for the other girl has overshadowed the feelings he has for you.

You should accept the two of you to break up. You will feel hurt but it's the right decision to undertake. You should move on with your life.

You will get a man who loves you to the core. A man who has feelings for you only. That is what relationship is all about.

He has to 'fight' the feelings he has for the girl. When I love you, I have to ensure any feelings I have for another girl doesn't come close to the feelings he has for you.

Since he wants to clear his head by dating the girl, you should your head by moving on with your life. Never look back, never wait for him and don't accept to reunite.

If you wait for him, you will be hurting yourself. You have a life before you. Life is short, don't let it pass you by.

It depends on your lady, though it is not advisable. It might get complicated, or she might see you are needy or desperate. Even though there is no harm, if you ask her it is better you do so through text. However, do not show you are desperate or needy. Let it show through your text if she does not accept your request you will accept her response. If you decide to ask her, don't respond negatively if she doesn't accept your proposal. Just accept it.

I don't think there is any hope of reuniting again. The reason mostly lies on your ex. He claimed that he shouldn't have rushed back into the relationship. Maybe the flame he felt for you was quickly diminished. He wished to go back to his former ex.

You did handle the breakup maturely. Now, you will have to move on with your life.

Even if you get together, the relationship might lead to another breakup. This is because your ex had regretted rushing back to the relationship.

It will also be difficult to get back with your ex before you broke up to be with your childhood sweetheart.

Give her the space she needs. It looks you are the cause of her responding that way.

Since she's not seeing someone, she needs time to calm her mind and reflect on the relationship. You tried to settle things by sending her message but she never responded. It implies she's angry with you. She might be unsure of which decision to take. She might be confused and hurt.

You want to know whether she's thinking of breaking up with you or not.

Give her the space she needs by not communicating with her in any form for a week or 2 weeks.

After the duration you've decided not to contact her, ask her what she's thinking about the relationship. Let her know she shouldn't make you wait in the dark because whenever you contacted her she remained silent. Let her know you love her but you want to know where she's standing in the relationship but you hope you'll continue together because you love her. Tell her it will be good if you meet someone to discuss things and iron them out because you don't want to lose her.

Hopefully, she will respond.

It's difficult to revive the relationship because you've never met, the length of the relationship was short and you're still far away from each other. The person wouldn't bother to reunite with you because you have never met. He wouldn't see the need to reconcile or work out on solving what you were always fighting about.

You can wait for a few days (3-5) before contacting him. I suggest you send him an online text e.g. through email or text on his WhatsApp number.

Don't be needy or desperate when you contact him. Ask him to give the relationship another chance. You can work out on solving the issues that led to the 'death' of the relationship.

If he doesn't respond or doesn't want to reconcile, it's time to move on. Thank him for the short time you've known each other and move on.

The demerit of a long-distance relationship is that it's very difficult for the failed relationship to reunite after the breakup. This is especially the case when you've been in the relationship for a shorter period of time.

I love texts but the downside of it is that one can ignore and possibly delete. However, there is the advantage of the curiosity or the desire to find out what is contained therein in the text.

If you call, she might hang up. But sending a text can send the intended message. However, don't appear desperate or needy.

Let her know how much you love her and how much she means to you. Let her know you're waiting for her. After you send the text, don't bother her with another one. Continue on with your life. If she responds positively you're lucky. If not, you'll have to move on with your life. The reason is simple: you can't force someone to love you if she doesn't.

Well, you can call her. If she picks up start with greetings then ask her if you can meet to talk when she's free. If she accepts, good. If not, send her a text message.

You have to stop missing him and to do that you have to accept you're no longer in relationship with him. Until you accept the relationship doesn't exist, you won't overcome the feelings of longing for your ex.

Delete his numbers from phone contact list, block/unfriend him from you social media accounts and store away/tear his pictures.

Whenever you think about him, snap out of the feelings. Tell yourself you have to stop thinking about him because he is no longer in your life.

Determine to move on. Tell yourself you have to move on.

Enjoy the things you like and during the times you're alone in your room or on the bed, chat with your friends or watch videos. Don't listen to love songs and don't watch romantic movies nor read romantic novels.

Your boyfriend is confused. He's confused about the relationship. Again your relationship, as he sees it, is affecting his studies. Thus, he feels he'll fail in his exams if he continues it for the time being. After he completes the exam, he will come back.

You don't have to end a relationship because of an upcoming exam. He should have asked in a kind way if you shouldn't chat frequently for some time or take the relationship slowly so that he can study for his exams. Or, you might have worked out on what to do so that the relationship doesn't affect his sitting for the exams.

He was confused. If someone is confused about a relationship, it's better not to continue in the relationship. It simply means he doesn't know whether he should be in it or out. Who knows? After the exam, you might not hear from you.

Since you are partners, he should have asked for your advice. Then, the two of you would have come up with how to go about the exams and his confusion about the relationship.

You should accept his decision. You should move on with your life. Let him know you won't object to it because that's what he wants and you can't force him. But, it hurts that he can end the relationship because of exams and that he's confused about the relationship. You will move on and if you were meant to be together, it will be known by then. Wish him all the best in his exams.

It's time you move on.

I'm sure you love her but you don't trust her as you used to when the two of you fell in love. If that trust doesn't exist, there is no need to try to revive the relationship. A lack of trust indicates your love for her isn't the same. It has diminished. You no longer love her the way you used to. Additionally, this means your feelings for her have diminished.

In such a scenario, it's best to move on.

It's difficult to gain back someone's trust. It's difficult to trust a person in the manner you used to before the person became unfaithful in the relationship.

You should take your time and evaluate how you feel for her and the relationship. Would you want to continue with her? If you want, what about your trust for her? Will you ever trust her the way you used to? Will you ever love her the way you used? Will you enjoy living with her by forgetting what she did?

You should think of these things for the period which you'll not contact her - no contact rule. This should take a minimum of one month. After a month of analyzing and evaluating everything related to the relationship and her, make your decision. If you feel you don't want to revive the relationship, send her a final text thanking her for the time you spent together. Ask her to forgive you if you hurt her one way or another. Also, let her know you've forgiven her and want the two of you to part ways in a peaceful manner. This act will enable you to recover from the breakup and move on.

Forget him and move on with your life. Don't bother with him. Don't communicate with him. The fact he has never called you clearly shows he has never loved you. Maybe he was using you if you've been sleeping together. You have to end the relationship.

I know you're hurt because of his inconsideration and the fact he isn't remorseful in telling you that you're only friends.

Stop communicating with him for a few days. Two weeks is better. Take time to calm your thoughts. Find in your heart the need to forgive him. Then after two weeks, send him a text and tell him thank you for everything and you wish him the best.

Never go back to the relationship even if he insists when he realizes he has lost you. You deserve a man who loves and treasures you.

You should ask her to give you some time to respond to her request. It might include not contacting her for several days to give you time to decide on which answer to give her. I do not know why she asked you this but you should not respond too quickly.