Andrea loves to write about the zodiac and research astrological compatibility. She's been an online writer for over five years.
Even if you're a rookie in astrology, you've probably heard some of the rumors about the compatibility between water signs and wind signs. A lot of astrologers will go on autopilot and tell you that the best partner for you will be someone with whom you share an elemental sign. (They'll also tell you to check your charts.) This is too simplistic.
Every combination of signs offer unique rewards and challenges to a relationship. For example, when a water sign and a wind sign connect, the results can be magnificent. This article will explore why Scorpios and Aquarius are such a powerful match.
Do Scorpio and Aquarius Make a Good Match?
Yes, they certainly do. In this article, you'll find a full analysis of the love compatibility between these two signs via answers to the following questions:
- Why do Scorpios and Aquarius make such a powerful match?
- What does it mean to be a water-bearer and a phoenix?
- What should guide a relationship between these signs?
- What's the benefit of dating someone with a different sign?
On some alchemical level, all relationship combinations are like a spell. Combining Scorpio and Aquarius forms a healing configuration. The paragraphs below will explain the benefits and challenges of this type of relationship.
Why Are Scorpios and Aquarius Such a Powerful Match?
Aquarius is exactly what Scorpio wants, and has always wanted. The Aquarius will always be mysterious to the Scorpio. The Scorpio will be perpetually on the hunt, always learning something new about the Aquarius. Scorpio is a strongly masculine sign, and loves to go after something it doesn't fully understand. Unfortunately, the water sign gets bored easily. Sometimes a pleasant match is too surface level for Scorpio. This sign desires a great deal of complexity, paradoxes, and affection. Aquarius's complex nature is enough to lure Scorpio. Scorpio is like the pipe organ of emotions and thought. They have a strong voice and are capable of arranging complex thoughts.
Scorpios are extremely powerful signs, but often misunderstood. They'll trail to the side and go on their own independent journeys. People don't always know what exactly a Scorpio is, so it'll fade from view without ever being fully realized. Fortunately, an Aquarius is capable of understanding the Scorpio better than any other zodiac sign. A mature Aquarius will know a Scorpio immediately just by their intense stare. A Scorpio's stare is enough to cut through titanium. No other sign has this.
What Happens When Water Signs Combine With Air Signs?
All water signs are representative of a certain amount of healing and creative power. Aquarius is a brilliant thinker with excessive creativity and intuition. When Scorpio and Aquarius meet, they make for a cleansing, healing panacea (or, if they are not mature enough, a tempest). All combinations have their healing and destructive powers. Either way, this combination is strong.
Monogynous relationships between these two signs tend to be stronger. Polygamous combinations tend to be weaker because the power is often not balanced between them. Monogyny works for them because a Scorpio can fixate on an Aquarius and help it to be more powerful. The two need to spend a lot of time getting to know each other. They also need to focus their attention on each other. There is a lot of unraveling they'll need to do as neither sign tends to be as open as a Cancer or a Sagittarius.
Scorpio is a magician, and often feels that the challenges around him or her are too dry. That many of the things around them are dull to a great extent until an Aquarius steps into their world. Aquarius is a visionary and will never bore the Scorpio. In fact, the water sign helps the wind sign's vision a reality. Meanwhile, the Aquarius takes a dormant volcano (the Scorpio) and makes it explosive, exciting their inner passion. These two can bring out the potential within each other.
They need to understand that they don't communicate like normal couples, nor should they. They're not like normal individuals either. Scorpio needs an Aquarius to gladly accept its affections. Aquarius needs a Scorpio to chase it (Aquarius isn't a huge fan of chasing). If done well, it's an incredible and beautiful journey and an amazing pairing. Unfortunately, many couples with this combination will move too quickly, leading to self-destruction.
Neither of these signs do well with zodiacs that are too simple or too controlling. They have to line up with each other naturally, sharing equal intelligence and desire or else the whole structure will fall apart before it really has the chance to grow.
What Are Scorpio and Aquarius Drawn To?
A banging body
A charming personality
Good communication skills
Aquarius is loving and intelligent. These are gifts the Aquarius employs with a fair amount of introversion or introspection (perhaps both). Scorpio can't unravel an Aquarius like it can most other signs. It sees that the Aquarius has more pure motives, a different range for ethics, and a massive capacity for love. Scorpio enjoys Aquarius, but it brings up a lot of insecurities from deep within Scorpio. Can the Scorpio possibly win the heart of the person who wants to take care of everybody's hearts? How can the Scorpio, which can be the lowest of creatures, win such a big heart?
Why You Should Consider This Combination
Embrace the calm of an Aquarius. The ease it has with life will match well with a Scorpio and its ever changing ways. Like ice, the Scorpio is the most solid of the water signs. Still, being the master of water, it can seamlessly drift into its liquid and gaseous states. (Pisces will always be the light waters and Cancer will always be the deep, troubled waters.)
Scorpio can go anywhere there is emotion, and Aquarius can go anywhere where there is thought. When they are together the two feel more complete, more like they can share their personal stories. They're not exact mirrors, or even in the same states, but they can explore each other and come to understand each other quite well. Don't force this kind of relationship. If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be. But when intellect and emotion try to replicate each other and understand each other, beautiful and crazy things can happen. Albeit, if the two are not mature enough in who they are, it won't work so beautifully. Just remember to know and understand yourself before you expect anyone else to do the same.
Personality Traits of Scorpio and Aquarius
What Does It Mean to Be a Water-Bearer and a Phoenix?
Scorpio feels awkward having to face its insecurities in the light of someone who is so lovely. Aquarius often shirks relationships, sometimes delving into very independent phases and being void of sex. Aquarius can confuse people. They can be virginal, bisexual, pansexual, and sexually straightedge. No one really knows how to label an Aquarius, especially when they are so private. They have a sexuality that is massively deep and insightful, and there are Aquarian types who really are protective and intuitive about their sexual life. However, some Aquarians are extraordinarily exploitative. Aquarius doesn't feel a lot of chemistry with many signs on a sexual level. It may feel like having true chemistry with a partner is difficult to achieve. Their invasive thoughts can distract them from the amazing things in front of them.
The Scorpio is one of the few signs that can get inside an Aquarius's mind. They feel a certain chemistry with this sign that is absent in the other 11. Scorpio also finds something in Aquarius that others do not have. These two signs are like magnets and immediately connect well with each other. They want each other. This connection most-likely has something to do with how they mix as fixed signs. Their emotional palettes work well together, creating extraordinary exuberant colors. If these two meet too soon, it is a major hurdle to overcome. They won't have enough knowledge to understand each other. There is a certain amount of life fluency they need in order to bridge the gaps they'll have.
Scorpio is known for having a crazy amount of range to their emotions. They have three different morphological cycles: the snake, the scorpion, and the phoenix. The other signs will usually have only one totem. This sign is naturally complicated. Other signs just don't have enough power to study the world with the same intensity. If you're not paying enough attention, it's easy to lose sight of a Scorpio. They can change their mask so easily. They are malleable, quick-learners, and, most importantly, they can easily dissect someone else's personality.
What Scorpio and Aquarius Want in Bed
Scorpios have an endless sex drive.
Aquarius wants to get to know the partner through making love.
Expect a Scorpio to take any and all sexual encounters very, very seriously.
Fascinated by the choreography of making love.
You can't shock a Scorpio. Try many ideas out.
Wants to be taken on a journey.
Wants to have a deep, and almost telepathic mental connection with you.
Aquarius is primarily curious.
Your trust in him will turn him on because it means he has managed to connect with you on a mental level (which is essentially what he desires).
Aquarius is also interested in experimenting with new positions.
Inside the Minds of Scorpios and Aquarius
Scorpios have busy minds, easily distracted by the noise of life. However, once they've found their match, they love deeply and loyally. They are searching for the right person, and they do not settle. They believe deeply in a soulmate, they refuse to stay with someone who doesn't fully stimulate them. Although they can seem grounded when compared to Aquarius, Scorpios (regardless of whether they flat out say it or not) are looking for a supernatural connection as well.
Aquarius can come off aloof to them, but Aquarius is like Jean Gray from the X-Men. They are intuitive, quiet, and amazingly charming. Nevertheless, they can unleash the Phoenix within them. They have powerful emotions locked up inside them. Because their emotional capacity is like dynamite, they don't let those emotions out unless they find it completely necessary.
These powerful emotions are what tie them to the image of being water-bearers. Yes, they can skate above the water all day long with beautiful thoughts, but they are also the water itself. They are spring wells of emotion, with astute emotional control. If there were an Olympics for emotional control, Aquarians would receive every gold medal. They have a relationship with emotion and thought that is difficult for many to read, therefore, Aquarians are sometimes seen as misfits, odd, and different. Their high capacity for thought and emotion make them odd ducks, difficult to understand. However, they're usually so sweet that people accept them. This runs contrary to Scorpio, who has a tendency to be brooding, grumpy, and dark. If you're a Harry Potter fan, think of the Slytherins. They get a bad reputation in the books, but in actuality they are great and must take responsibility for that greatness.
Scorpio and Aquarius get along because they are both odd, highly creative, and secretly emotional. They need to take things slow. Taking things slow is the key to making this pair work. It's like a red velvet cake. Make sure to preheat the oven, follow all the steps, and make sure you have all the ingredients before you pop the pan into the oven. Otherwise, you'll end up with a gooey, inedible mess.
They can rush things by taking it physical. They need to create a great deal of space to build trust and communication. This will take awhile. Because this relationship takes patience, many will give up. First, this pair needs to understand how to talk to each other. This is going to take some time because they are so different and have to learn from each other. It's like a newborn learning how to talk, it'll take awhile, but will be very rewarding.
An Aquarius needs to revel itself slowly to Scorpio. The Scorpio must be patient. Aquarius needs to go on private dates, away from the hustle and bustle—all the stimulus can distract it from its date. Scorpio needs to go on private dates as well. It needs to have its date's full attention. Intimacy is what it truly desires. They want to know your personal secrets, you life story, and your ambitions. You can't force the conversation with these two. Having a truly revealing conversation may take two months of seeing each other (or even two years). It can take awhile before these two decided that they are, in fact, in a relationship.
Date Ideas for Scorpios and Aquarius
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Aquarius and Scorpio need to go on private dates, away from the hustle and bustle. The two must be able to have good conversation and unravel each other slowly.
A smaller, less crowded pub
Remember, these two are attracted to each other because of the great conversation they can share in. Make sure that if you're going to a pub, you choose one that isn't too noisy or busy.
Stargazing or a planetarium
These two signs love intelligence and beauty. They want to share in each other's intellect.
Taking an Aquarius on a date to a botanical garden will make him feel calm and serene. Seeing the scientific names of the plants will allow him to gain knowledge on what you both love.
How Can Scorpio and Aquarius Couples Get Along?
Focusing on strong communication should be what guides a relationship between a Scorpio and an Aquarius. Trust me when I say this, Scorpio and Aquarius don't need to worry about who they are physically. Scorpio by its very nature is sexual. It's a sensual sign, with a vivid imagination. This sign likes moving to this direction because sex is a strong glue for discovering another person. Aquarius's great imagination makes sex easy and enjoyable. They are aware of their great sexual imagination and that is why they don't share it with just anyone. They are not afraid to go without sex for awhile. Since they already understand their sexuality, it makes more sense for them to study other things.
On the other hand, Scorpio is the initiator of relationships. Aquarius builds its social structure like a never ending ocean with friends across all genders, cultures, and species. While Aquarius is a humanitarian and a social network goddess, Scorpio is instinctually interpersonal. Scorpio is a sign that is built for making a family. It's one of the few signs that really charms and awakens an Aquarius. Scorpio has strong staying power—it is loyal to the core (unless you show infidelity). An Aquarius needs someone who wants to stay, but struggles to find someone who is loyal. More often than not, they find more people who just want to date around. An Aquarius needs to feel special, it needs to feel wanted. Ultimately, it needs to feel like someone is consistent and will stay.
An immature Scorpio, will still have an exploratory phase before settling down. Scorpio is somewhat of an ass before it feels comfortable enough to give its loyalty. The more a Scorpio shows how loyal it is, the more the Aquarius will open its amazing emotional current. An Aquarius is powerfully objective, mysterious. For example, think of Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter series. She may be a little "out there," but she's infinitely intriguing while also being calm. This is something a Scorpio will respect. A Scorpio likes both the calm Luna Lovegood side and the X-Men Phoenix side of an Aquarius. Meanwhile, the Aquarius loves the emotional-romantic side and the dutiful side of the Scorpio.
These two seem to have ESP for each other. This makes it hard for them to separate. They instantly recognize their psychic connection when they come across each other. This feeling is so desirable that they will latch onto each other with great intensity. Separating, especially for the Aquarius, means they'll have to go in completely different directions in order to get over the other person. The Aquarius will desire enough space to prevent them form getting back with the Scorpio. Deep down they know that they still love them.
Notes for Scorpios
Aquarius doesn't always talk. This can be baffling since it is a wind sign. Sometimes the Aquarius just wants things to be quiet and will leave a lot of space for you to decipher. Aquarius will need their privacy. If an Aquarius spends consistent time with you, this is a major plus. You may find that when you date an Aquarius you are the one making all the moves. Just remember how magical it is when an Aquarius accepts your moves. This is no easy task.
They'll slowly turn from gently holding your hand and letting you touch their hair to kissing you as they please, and for long bouts of time. This is a creature that sees far ahead into the future and loves to gather information effectively before making a decision. Don't let your insecurities drive them away, and make your insecurities clear and they'll do what they can to comfort you (that's their instinct). They want things to work and they want things to be smooth, and they don't want to hurt you. Still, you are a Scorpio, which means that you have the power to hurt them, so be careful. Scorpios know how to sting. Your power to dissect and ridicule can hurt an Aquarius extensively. They really want to trust you. If you sting an Aquarius, they'll block you out of their life, which is exactly what you don't want. So long as you don't sting them, they will accept you with open arms.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
Someone on August 31, 2020:
This is sort of true
Lara on August 25, 2020:
We lost each other
ScoGem on August 06, 2020:
LOL Geminis are just as bad as Scorpios!
But an Aquarius can't be stolen from a Scorpio. "Casual" it may be, but the connection is real. I've gone out of my way to meet a handful of Aquarians and it's all the same. I'm reminded of a quote from The Matrix Reloaded where the Oracle tells Neo that, "You didn't come here to make the choice...you've already made it. You're here to understand why you made it."
That's when time starts to slow down.
This pairing is definitely a cheat code, but I don't think it's possible until after middle age.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 23, 2020:
I believe a Gemini would do that. Probably to steal the Aquarius!
ScoGem on July 14, 2020:
I always like to revisit this pairing every now and again because of the potential it represents, but ultimately the lack of compromise between signs is possibly at its greatest here. Both signs draw nearer to each other and then stop at an inexplicable line drawn in the sand and won’t budge.
Note: The line was probably drawn by a Gemini lol
Aquaman on July 10, 2020:
@idk relatable. Broken family, Amazing, amazing friends, and lost my dear Scorpio. I have had my insecurities that i kept from her because i feared those qualities of me would ward her away.
I think our relationship ended because we were growing at different paces. In the beginning our relationship was amazing and she felt like she fit me. Like a good shoe. Like matching puzzle piece. After two-and-a-half years we decided to break up because ultimately I felt like i needed time and space to grow. She did show tendencies of being possessive that made me pull away emotionally, but that wasn't what she needed. For both our happiness, we just let go.
Maria on June 29, 2020:
I am a Scorpio and my husband is Aquarius. We just celebrated our 40th Anniversary
Idk on May 26, 2020:
An aquarius girl, having a life of broken family, over-giving friend and now losing over my scorpio bf. I might not have guts to handle a bf. But y not any guy have a gut to handle me? I dun think that he is ready to give the love and attention i want. I dun think im ready to get my worth established for him. I think he has given up on me. His family is not willing for me too. Ultimately declining everything. So am i... im done with losing despite trying
Scorpio Guy on May 26, 2020:
Now this sign I like this sign because it's an Aquarius.
Diann Smith on May 26, 2020:
I'm Aquarius woman and I have a Scorpio man and we've been seeing each other for 5 years I love him and we spend time together we don't spend a lot of time together because I was in a relationship with someone else and was sneaking off seeing him for 5 years to Scorpio man and now that man out with squid creeping with the man I was with has passed and now I'm in the Scorpio man we have time for each other now cuz I really love him and I want to spend a lot of time with y'all and I want us to get married because I really care for him a lot and I want him to trust me does he thinks that I'm sneaky but I'm not and sometimes he say is that all he think I like women cuz I've have experienced women and he tried to throw it up in my face sometimes but I don't want to hear that still love him but he know I will rock his world thank you for sharing
Scoob XD on May 14, 2020:
I have been crushing on this aquarius for like 4 year now and i don't got plan on asking him out or tell him the truth but my other friend gotta ruin it.. But im not mad at them at all, and ik their just tryna help so im thankful.
scorpii on May 14, 2020:
ive been crushing this guy who's aquarius for 6 years now S2
name on May 12, 2020:
I am a scorpio and I have been in love with an aquarius for 2 years. It is mentally "frustrating" with many ups and downs. However, I don't know what to do at this point. Being the dumb aquarius she is, she is very closed off and has commitment issues. We are both young, but it is very emotionally draining and I'm torn on what to do. My insecurities get the best of me at times. How can I work on this? Plz HELP! IMMEDIATELY! SOS
Marc and Pris on April 26, 2020:
All of this is so true. Even what char said about aquarius and their space. Aquarius needs space at times, but they are very emotional and some of us really do want the monogamous relationship thing. And those of us that do, we dont want so much space that it distroys the relationship. But sometimes its hard for us to openly say we want that. Bec we are the odd ducks. And well; we go through life being told by everyone we try with that no we cant have that. And sometimes we feel so alone emotionally that instead of being true to our own nature, we start acting like everyone else. Bec we are told its what everyone else wants. And that can really mess a more mature emotional aquarius up. I loved a scorpio too, and im still in love with him. He was not forth coming with me about things, and lets face it. I didnt have enough info on sorpios to know what he really wanted. But when we talk we always find we want the same things. I dont know if theres still a chance for us. Bec i didnt think he was really wanting to get serious with me, and i made a mistake. I started seeing someone else bec the way things were going it seem like he was only into the sex part bec i asked him to take me on a date, and he kept putting me off. It was very hurtful, especially since I didn't want to have to start seeing someone else. But part of it too was i opened up to him so much and i couldnt breath right; bec i feared hed leave since i opened up so much so quickly about how much i loved him. I also got cold feet. I was nervous and anxious and even breathing into a paper bag didnt work. I popped the paper bag with only my breath. Thats how anxious I was. I really loved him and still do. Im not sure theres a chance, but on a hopefully goid note. I saw him last night at chevron. And he seemed nervous in a shy or bashful way once he walked in and saw me. It reminded me of why we are so good togethers. Sometimes we as ppl worry too much about the outcome of something so dear to the heart and soul. But the thing about aquarius and sorpio is. When we get together without the worry we are so amazing together, and we both do very much help each other natually without trying bec we are enough alike in certain ways or on the more logical and magical notes that we can figure each outher out in the right ways that brings out the best in both of us. Its the worries about the outcome for love that mess aquarius and scorpio up as an amazing and unbeatable team/couple. But when we arent trying so hard and we are being ourselves and just going with the flow we are so good together and so right for each other in every walk of life. Together the way we are naturally we cover everyday tasks with such ease we are far too compatible, we both like learning and like i said logic between us ask and tell face to face, it works naturally. Like quiz day. Bec aquarius is detached enough to answer sorpio on a logical note without fear of anything. Bec we arent thinking of q's and a's like something that can hurt us. We think of the q's and a's the same way scorpio does. As a logical design to learn things. Thats how an intelligent person knows when their talking with another intelligent person. Their attention to logic, but logically and other ways to scorpio and aquarius are some much alike that we do get along the best. As long as we are being what me and marc call the best versions of ourselves. I want that with him. Theres noone in this world that could ever be a better match with me. I love marc on everything. Theres nothing quite like the time ive had with him, it is very magical and mustique. Very much almost like we know what each others thinking without knowing until we talk. But we have this psychic emotional connection with each other. The connetion isnt just metally psychic, but its more emotionally psychic than anything. Its the worrying that gets in the way; that is the problem. I know this from my own experience. And im tired of hiding my emotions and worrying enough that i can be open about it to everyone here. So when you get the chance at that aquarius and scorpio relationship. Whatever you do; just never doubt it and believe in it like the laws of attraction; without a doubt. And see what happens then. And never revisit the doubtful place. And if it doesnt workout then; then yall can tell me i was wrong.
LunarEagle83 on April 24, 2020:
Okay, I've had a crush on a Scorpio boy for around 7 years (I'm a female) cool! we're compatible. :P To bad I can't tell him that because of the darn virus...
Miss Tommy boy on April 17, 2020:
I always been around scorpions I first I didn’t like them but now I’m about to be engaged to one of my Aquarius and our relationship is actually what you described.We have ups and downs and it’s hard for her to understand sometimes I do like my privacy but when I get a chance to be alone I take the opportunity but I want to change it .Oh by the way we’re lesbians
Leon Engelbrecht on April 02, 2020:
Exellent reading - so informative and mind boggling similarities.
Dean on March 06, 2020:
Where's the rest of my post? Wow!
Dean on March 06, 2020:
Where's the rest of my post? Wow!
Dean on March 05, 2020:
Evening all; this truly have been an interesting read. I am a Scorpio male and MyFiancé
Jess on March 04, 2020:
Ok I've been with a Scorpio for over 10 yrs. Obvi I'm an Aquarius. I feel like this article is from a Scorpios POV. However, this is the only thing I can relate our relationship to. I find it funny that only 8% think it is over creativity. We are eboth VERY creative, yet it does not define our relationship. It is definitely the mystique. We are constantly learning from each other and growing. If you're not ready to grasp a Scorpio by the poison that drives it, then don't even try.
unknown scorpio on February 20, 2020:
i liked an aquarius for 7 seven years,im thinking that there is a 30% that he might like me too.
At the end of the day,im still thinking how did i liked a guy for SEVEN YEARS!and when im writing this,my Mother,aquarius and my younger brother,sagittarius,are fighting cuz my younger bro is not smart and my father,libra,is trying to see what im wrting just cuz he does not like me at all and biased my younger dumb brother.
HERE IS WHAT I HAVE LEARNED(today)
1.Scorpios are really loyal(i found out that after 7 years)
2.Sagittarius and Libras are quite not smart(my opinion)
sorry i dont know why i wrote this but i just wanted to write this down.and u lucky i did not write the whole thing:)
S. on January 30, 2020:
So, I've been in love with an Aquarius for 3 years now, unfortunately, I know I'll never have him. I've never felt so strongly for somebody before, and I don't think I ever will again. Even though we'd never end up together, I'm willing to love him like this forever.
Astrologers can tell whatever they want about Scorpio/Aquarius, but these 2 signs make an amazing pair. Both can feel comfortable talking about "taboo" topics, both make a powerful couple, and both value their independance. They have so much more in common, than what they say.
Aquariusss on January 28, 2020:
what confirmation you expected?
if aquarius does not feel safe with you,she can't assure you.
Luc on January 28, 2020:
@aquariuss @Bryanna bird...To bryanna i relate so much to you as a scorpio male, my anger was exploding because of suppressing my passion for her. Aquariuss why would you have the definition of true love? TO me your love sounds like a joke. Aquarius are really loving. I gave everything i can to my girl, she gaves me jokes, fun thats is true, some support but no validation of my love and feelings.
Aquariusss on January 21, 2020:
Bryanna Byrd... and why scorpio can't change for Aquarius ?
If a scorpion shows real feelings and communicates, relationships would be much easier.
Scorpion control behavior kills everything.
True love is to be fun and not exhausting.
Bryanna Byrd on January 20, 2020:
I am a Scorpio woman who has had a few connections with Aquarius men. I’ve noticed that Aquarius men are always drawn to men. The love my charming eyes, intellect and that I am a inner mystery. I am infatuated with them due to their charisma and intelligence. It is definitely an interesting pair because we both can’t figure each other out at first. When I first met my ex boyfriend, I actually was not attracted to him. I thought he was egocentric. However, he loved everything about me. He loved that I was real, honest, mysterious, sexy etc. Due to that, he asked me out this first week and I wanted to try it out. (We should have followed the article and took things slow). But then as I got to understand him, I started to care sooo much about him. We spent so much time together and our sex and romance was just magical. As soon as I start caring for him, he flips and becomes extremely distant (reasons I am to myself). It started problems in our relationship because I’d act jealous, possessive and controlling (traits they don’t like). I feel like he would run away from me more because of me exposing my emotions to me. I felt exhausted at times because I knew to make things better I couldn’t show him that side. I felt like he was so unemotional because he would never share his emotions with me, but now I know it is because he just wanted the best for the relationship. I wish I would’ve known that at the time. He broke up with me because he said he couldn’t pursue our relationship the way I needed him to but he still wanted me because he loved the romance and sexual connection we had. I was willing to do this for awhile but it was hard for me because I felt it wasn’t the same and I couldn’t trust him anymore. So I’d end it and then want him back because I missed the sex. Every time we would have sex it would be even more magical again, which couldn’t get us to stop coming back to eachother lol. I read other people’s responses and they don’t think Scorpios can love. As a Scorpio, I know we can love (very hard actually) but it’s rare to get us to love. You have to be the right person and I don’t know if a Scorpio will ever love an Aquarius because they won’t change for the Scorpio. They won’t be compassionate, close and open for the Scorpio. Those are traits Scorpios need so they can deal with their insecurities. I appreciate this article because I tried to convince myself that I hate Aquarius for the longest but I am drawn to them. This article will help me understand their perspective better.
Luc on January 17, 2020:
@ Aquariuss thanks. Well i have thought about this relationship so madly (hundreds of mails written only 2% sent). 2 months and it is here each seconds. I have had like 50 women in my life but never a woman like this. The only one i have been friend with before, so it leads to a very different and more profound bound to me.
At first, she was loving me, i was at distance and being busy with other girls. She was a good friend. And became my very good friend and then my best. We scorpios are focusing so badly. She hated it, she liked when we were going out and speaking to everyone else. Her main word( aquarius main word) is coolness. Everything has to be chilled and detached.
It is too late now, she doesn't communicate and i don't want her as one more ex with a good guy (i mean emotionally stable).
I know she will come back from time to time with an 'hey how are you going?' but i don't want that. I want us to transform our relationship.
I have been jealous once and she did not forgive me. Or she forgave me but the desire was gone at that point.
alexa on January 08, 2020:
everything is spot on. As an Aquarius myself, we can be extremely aloof and detach but inside of our heart we welcome you with open arms all the time as long as you show who you truly are and how humble you can constantly remain .
Luc- I know what you mean cause Im dealing with a Scorpio man and he tells me the same about me. But we are very easy to understand. All you have to do is think about something that is unsual, something u had never seem something you appreciate because is different. That's how aquarius like to be treat it and is not hard work its all about patience and consistency and of course good communication.
Aquarius Loveeee challenges because we live in our mind not in our hearts because it takes huge deal to access the heart. So be a challenge to her and trust me she will try to conquer you if she still loves you.
Aquariusss on January 07, 2020:
Luc, I can maybe help you. I am aquarius girl. If you want write your email ;)
luc on January 05, 2020:
well i am a scorpio man and my aquarius woman jsut broke up with me.... we have been the best friends for 4 years and in relationship for almost a year. But she would write "relatonship" because for her it is a nightmare.love and friendship arz the same.she was in love with me when i wasnt sort of...it is the most difficult part as communication. I wrote hundreds of text, and the more i asked for emotions the more she was running away.maybe she cheated on me.
for scorpios that make us passionate because they are smart and always runing away...
i have the hardest break up of my life though i had several...
dont know how to love them...and its freakin hard not getting jealous around them.
it can be magical but quite exhausting...be brave
Constanza on December 31, 2019:
totally true...11 years married to one (he is the Aquarius) and never understand how being not compatible we could make it...we worked hard but definitively if we embraced it is a very different union where every body is more free and independent giving place to the personal growth...I can not complain.
Tim Truzy from U.S.A. on December 25, 2019:
Interesting and insightful. I liked it immensely. Gratitude.
Just somebody :/ on December 15, 2019:
I'm an aquarius woman and I met that scorpio guy, I never thought about him much until lately , I kinda have a crush on him now but I sort of lost hope when I searched about aquarius and scorpio compatability until I read this article and this made me so happy even though I still feel like I have like 10% chance with him :)
Christjne on December 13, 2019:
Aquarius isn’t a water sign tho..
Scorpio boy on December 03, 2019:
great text! it's disheartening that most compatibility reports on this pairing mainly focus on the bad aspects and forget that relationships take more than astrology to work, they depend on people's choice and effort, so I found it very refreshing. I've been falling for an Aquarius boy and he's managed to charm the sh*t out of me while staying conveniently detached but I guess we'll see. the hardest part is not knowing whether he'll ever truly become tangible to me, but I find the friendship approach tends to work well. also, it's made me revaluate many of my values and ideals regarding relationships and put in an effort to learn how to be a better version of me. he's very mentally stimulating and super smart, one of those artistic, affable weirdo types. the scientific term form my condition is "royally effed", I think. I can't stop daydreaming about him and I don't think I want to, this is sinking and I have a drowning wish, so... *shrugs*
Kristina Leigh on November 24, 2019:
I am Aquarius and my husband is Scorpio. We have been married 8 years but we have been together 25 years. Andrea Lawrence, you were spot-on 100% accurate. It started out with this magnificent attraction between the two of us and I love the fact that he has brown eyes like I do and we are both are left-handed. I love the fact that he's so tall he 6"4 he's very masculine and strong and has a very deep voice and broad shoulders. Our first date was he took me to a carnival and won me a stuffed giraffe and after 25 years I still have it. You were right about the dating part, when you said small quaint places. Because we get along really good in smaller settings. It was Rocky in the beginning, sex was great still is I love trying new things so does he. We are finally now comfortable with one another and it took a long time. And the conversation part you were right about so you were right about all of it. I have read a lot of astrologers but you were the most accurate. Thank you. :-)
KL on November 24, 2019:
He stung me and i BLOCKED him for my life
Hopelessly in love... on November 18, 2019:
Wow... I have never really been into the signs much and the reasons behind them, but someone I have become very close to is. She... Is the scorpio and I... the Aquarius. And wow... It sure feels intense to me.
To begin, there was this cosmic connection and attraction that I had for her. Like, unexplainable really. Reading some of this actually makes me feel less crazy because there are just moments where I feel so connected to her even when we are not together.
I have always considered myself an open person but she disagrees and wants to pick my brain to better understand our friendship while I would rather go off of feelings and just grow with time together like normal people. The more she wants to pick it apart, the more I feel nervous and "go into my shell," she says. But... To even think about her not being around makes me so sad lol... Ugh... I think she is the intense one and wish I understood more of her need to pick everything apart.
To be honest, sometimes it feels like she is looking for an excuse or reason to keep me around?? Does that make sense? It hurts my feelings at times and makes me feel like I must be doing something wrong... Yet she thinks I am the complicated one.
Its insane that two people would be so so so connected and not be able to make it work so I am going to keep trying because I love her. Sometimes the best things in life do not make perfect sense and I think that is okay.
Aqua Aqua on November 15, 2019:
Aquarius women are cold ? No, I don't think . We just don't accept the scorpion behavior (anyone dominant behavior). Their uncertainty kills the entire potential relationship. It is not healthy to have the need to control another. It is a very bad human trait. It is not love. ..it is necessary to recognize passion and true love.
BSArticleScropsaredisgusting on November 14, 2019:
This is BS. The only reason an aqua would date them is EXTREME desperation or them having an immediate tangible need. If you look at their dark side you will see they are easily some of the most digusting humans around. They are often on the verge of tears, or a murderou psychotic breakdown for something that happened to them decades ago. And their secrets aren't usually anything that bizzare other than some closeted sexual deviant tendancies or them being involved in illegal activies, YAWN! The author should have written why Aqua and Taurus like eachother because scrops are sick freaks who we would never be naturally attracted to. They go so low when you call out their BS as an Aqua and it drives them insane! They are pure emotion and we are like WTF talking to them is insanity. I would never recommend this connection.
TVee on November 07, 2019:
I was so happy to read this article maybe because it’s self serving and I’ve only ever read that the Scorpio/ Aquarius mix is a disaster.
Years ago, when I met Ms Scorpio, I felt this crazy attraction to her but I was never really able to get close enough because she was seeing an acquaintance and I respected that. Besides, I thought, it was all one sided. As the years passed we saw each other Infrequently; maybe a couple of times a year and I was always her biggest fan but again with respect. I never said anything or made innuendos other than I always made sure she knew I really admired the person she was. At this point she was now married with twin babies.
We had some crazy tequila nights, the three of us: her wife and me and after one big party as I was leaving we all shared a kiss. Well I thought I was going to die because I never thought I’d ever kiss her and even though it wasn’t long it was potent. Not so much for the wife and me though. Skip ahead another 8 months and she calls me tells me she’s got a “pass” for the evening and did I want to meet up with her soccer team,blah blah so I do, we have drinks and then just she and I head to a big rocking dance for Pride. Because i had lots of liquid courage. I told her that if she was single etc, I’d be all over her and out of the blue she starts telling me how she has always felt this pull, this undeniable attraction towards me ( my mouth hit the floor because what???) and that I’ve always made her feel so hot. Then she kissed me. I can’t even tell you my thoughts then because of the fireworks exploding. She had never let on these feelings NEVER. . We made out til it was time to go and I figured that I was just a blip on her radar. There was some communication after but she had a nice life even though it was pretty much a friendship now with her wife. She said she didn’t trust herself alone with me and didn’t want to screw things up with her kids. I understood completely. There was so much invested in that and really, if she wanted out, it couldn’t be because of me. But that was years ago now and I saw her a few months ago and it was so powerful. I’ve never stopped thinking about her, about our connection because there is one and it’s not like any other. I’ve tried dating others but I always think about her and when we saw each other I told her my heart was exploding in my chest and she said same here. Her wife has given her her freedom but I could never be just a sexual liaison. It’s way too intense for that. So, I write her love poems she doesn’t see and dream about her over there, close but far from me and I’m in awe of the range of emotions she has brought to my life. I don’t know what I’m doing: waiting for her or just not settling for anything other than the same connection if not better. The esp thing : yes. The intense emotional connection: yes she’s got it all but she’s not mine. It breaks my heart because connections like this do not happen often.
Whitelilly on November 03, 2019:
It’s the most beautiful experience I ever had in my life I will never forget him I still love him today . Aquarius female thirteen wonderful years thank you scorpions for understanding us the most .
Not saying on November 01, 2019:
I am an Aquarius and I like a Scorpio what do I do
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 30, 2019:
I wish you well on this venture.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 30, 2019:
Aquarius and Scorpio are pulled toward each other because of where they fall in the zodiac and the timing of the year. Scorpio is the first sign of the entire year that is considered magical, Aquarius and Pisces later follow suit. Based on where Scorpio and Aquarius fall in the zodiac as fixed signs, they both are immensely attracted to each other, and mysteriously pulled away. It's a bizarre connection that keeps them coming back to each other and understanding each other in ways that they don't with other signs. Sometimes this connection is too much and they give up. Others are bold enough to look into it more.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 28, 2019:
Glad to help! Aquarius and Scorpio is one of my favorite combinations.
Dave the Aqua on October 26, 2019:
100% accurate. I'm Aquarius and my suitor is Scorpio. He is doing all in his power to catch me (I'm loving that) and i am continually confirming and acknowledging his gallant efforts.
I'm truly Aquarius (warts and all) and he is very much a Scorpio (but unafraid to show his sensitive side).
Thank you Andrea for such an enlightening article.
Hapshetsut on October 25, 2019:
This is an interesting article ~ the ex is the Scorpio ~ never understood him ~ drove me crazy ~ seemed to have had a brick wall around him ~ he appeared cool, calm, and collected ~ I lived on the war path ~ I thought that we were mis-matched ~ after reading this article, I will have to go back and look at him.
ScoGem on October 24, 2019:
I’m a Scorpio with a few experiences with Aquarians. I’m not sure what exactly you want to know, but the only thing that you even need to know about this pairing is that their philosophies on achieving love differ, which is probably the only obstacle that these two are likely to face (aside from any pre-existing vices). These two are instant friends, but Scorpio doesn’t believe that friendship is the path to love. In fact, a Scorpio thinks quite the opposite in that love is the path to friendship. And the reason why that is is because friendship is too nebulous a notion to engage an interested Scorpio. Additionally, a Scorpio needs love. A Scorpio without love is basically a sociopath.
Aquarius Gal on October 17, 2019:
I became interested in this topic many months back and stumbled upon this article. I still look at it occasionally because I felt such a strong energy wrap around me from the comment left by Mr. Chicken.
Andrea, I agree with Scorpio Guy, great article with great insights!
@ Scorpio Guy, I find your take on this duo quite fascinating, I especially like how you state “Both” so frequently. It amazes me how you know an Aquarius just wants a mutual love, where love, care, respect, intimacy and friendship are prioritized and reciprocated.
I agree on what you’ve stated and also find it VERY interesting watching these two try - and yes - hopefully succeed at connecting! Your right, it may be subliminally, instantaneously or possibly even telepathy, this is very confusing for both. The rational mind of the Aquarius can get very confused trying to figure out how such a deep caring love formed out of no where, without spoken words and from a distance. The rational mind tries to shut down the energy felt, dreams and intuition of the Aquarius by telling them this is some type of sport played by Scorpio because he has the resources to play it, but could Scorpio possibly be that powerful to get into someone’s mind? Or is it the Universe pulling them towards each other? I guess only time will tell
Aquariuss on October 15, 2019:
Please, could write me some Scorpio man who has experience with Aquarius woman ? I need some advice. if it is possible write a contact on yourself. Thanks.
Scorpio Guy on September 24, 2019:
Great article with great insights, Andrea. I'm a Scorpio with Aquarius rising. This pairing absolutely fascinating as described in your article. I think the motto for success of this duo is, "Look for the Invisible Mirror," which I'll describe later.
More than any other fixed sign combo, the Scorpio/Aquarius dynamic is the least likely to have power struggles, provided both parties haven't gone off the deep end. Scorpio's mission is to create deep, intimate, interpersonal relationships where love, care, and respect are prioritized and reciprocated while trust is maintained. Aquarius has this built right in: its mission is to cast this out in a broader, interactive circle, and there's a reason for this which I'll get into in a bit.
What's interesting is watching these two try - and hopefully succeed - at connecting with each other, which might happen subliminally and instantaneously, though neither party can put their finger on why.
Scorpio, being the Fixed Water sign of the zodiac, is like a mirror when it interacts with other signs - it's the surface of a still lake (or puddle if the Scorpio is shallow) which others can see themselves in. (This accounts for Scorpio's penetrating gaze: it gives the impression that Scorpio can read other people's minds or see into their souls, which is probably true.)
It's this reflective quality which not only gives Scorpio a bad reputation, but oftentimes difficulties in life because, if others see their flaws in the mirror, many will get angry, upset, and lash out at the mirror for being ugly or flawed when it's actually them and don't want to admit it. Their flaws are not nearly as readily apparent with other signs as they are with Scorpio, which can result in a litany of life experiences for Scorpio where they are scapegoated, abused, projected on, blame-shifted upon, etc. It's not uncommon for a Scorpio child to be born to a sociopathic parent for this reason (see the movie "Precious.")
(Advice to Scorpios: if the above resonates with you, REFINE THE RESOLUTION of your mirror; that is, try to perceive the flaws in others as pain and fear the inherited against their will. You can't change the mirror, but you can change it's depth of perception. Your subject will almost always open up to you about their fears or issues.)
Being blamed for having a characteristic of another BY that very other is what causes Scorpio to become more secretive, withdrawn, selective, suspicious, and esoteric - even traumatized. People keep throwing their garbage into its lake, and it needs to single out those (and this is where Scorpio's quest for deep, interpersonal relationships come in) who are not only afraid of their of reflection, but who are willing to dive underneath the still waters, see the pollution, care about Scorpio, and assist with either removing the trash or adding fresh water.
And this is where Aquarius - the Water Bearer - comes in. That pitcher of water that Aquarius is holding, Scorpio? That's either filled with fresh water Aquarius is willing to replenish you or it's empty and Aquarius is looking to take some of you away because their own well runs dry. It's up to you to decide who you're dealing with here. If it's the former? This is the best friend you could ask for right now and no one is going to be able to heal you like this person. If it's the latter, they're going to try to manipulate you to become vulnerable and emotionally labile so that they feel better about themselves; that is, they fill up that pitcher with your tears like a vampire.
With that aside, more on Aquarius...
Whereas Scorpio is Fixed Water, still and reflecting, Aquarius is Fixed Air: still and invisible. While Scorpio is akin to being mirror, Aquarius is the "Invisible Man." In this regard, Aquarius and Scorpio both have the innate ability to glean information about others effortlessly. But because of this invisible quality, other signs will NEVER notice their flaws during their interactions with Aquarius (even though Aquarius ALWAYS will) unless Aquarius tells them - which gives some Aquarians the reputation of being tactless, which is more out of exasperation of others' lack of self-awareness. (In some cases, the tactlessness might stem from insecurities.) Otherwise, the Aquarius can come across as easy-going and affable, which enables Aquarius to build the social network previously mentioned. Aquarius needs this like Scorpio needs deep, interpersonal relationships - it's cleansing for them.
Whereas Scorpio can have a hypnotic, penetrating gaze, the eyes of Aquarius can portray something that's distant and hand-off. Scorpios see into; Aquarians see through.
But what happens when the Invisible Man stands in front of a mirror? Aquarius can see just fine that Scorpio reflects and - more importantly to the Aquarius - how or what it's reflecting, but it can't see Scorpio's image behind or within the mirror's reflection. Nor can Aquarius see anything about itself; Scorpio can't reflect anything invisible. Which might be good for the Scorpio, because Aquarius is unlikely to blame-shift because they can't see Scorpio reflecting their flaws back to them since they're not visible.
Scorpio, on the other hand, can reflect "nothingness" back. In other words, Scorpio can sense this invisible quality of Aquarius but that's as far as it goes as far as being able to glean information about the person in front of them.
Both parties can see what the other is about, but neither can really see the other for who they really are unless they communicate and become more apparent to each other. The more one asks the other, "How are you?" and genuinely wants to know and the other responds honestly - and the more this is reciprocated, the following becomes apparent:
- Both have secrets and are secretive.
- Both have insecurities unseen by (most) others.
- Both have very keen insight.
- Both of them are closet weirdos (as they should and would be when both have operated invisibly and in solitude for so long.)
- Both see others crystal clearly (and now, the fact that both are weird then takes a backseat to the fact they oftentimes understand members of other signs more than they understand themselves, making others more weird to them...which is weird to both of them, which makes them feel less weird, which is weirdly refreshing.)
- Both, in their respective lives of invisibility, have put extensive effort into being self-aware because they've had next to no choice.
- Both are longing to be seen, understood, and accepted by someone who truly cares about them, who makes them a priority after many periods of feeling isolated.
- Both wish not to be judged by their weirdness and secrets, but to be able to reveal the causality behind both and to feel safe doing so.
- Both are deep.
- Neither trust easily.
- Both are intellectual.
- Both want to be complete open books with their partner at some point, but both are scared to do so.
When both parties have to courage to commit to intimacy and become vulnerable, the "mirror, mirror on the wall" will produce a face and /or/while The Invisible Man starts to appear and show a reflection. But, now, there's no need for a mirror - because both Scorpio and Aquarius can now see each other and see they are the same: they found the invisible mirror.
Jewelzz on September 21, 2019:
I’m an Aquarius woman and I’m currently seeing this Scorpio man. (Idk what it is I kid you not) the second we met there was this magnetic spark. The past couple dates we had I felt like time is irrelevant. We have intellectual conversations. There’s definitely sexual innuendos but we’ve only kissed. Never a dull moment with him.
It’s still too early to tell what’s in store for us but this article is very helpful for me to understand the Scorpio and Aqua combo.
Lions4Eva on September 10, 2019:
Actually, it's the other way around. Scorpio and all water signs (and earth signs) are traditionally feminine signs while all air signs (and fire signs) are masculine signs. I don't understand why modern astrologers exaggerate or hype up Scorpio like this. Along with Capricorn, it has one of the weakest moon placements so it's hardly as stable or powerful as many modern astrologers claim.
Scorpio Male on September 01, 2019:
This was so very helpful. I was in a horrible relationship with a Cancer for about 6 years and I believe it coaxed me into becoming a Phoenix. I have a lot of issues, but facing my insecure feelings head on help me leaps and bounds. I'm not a Scorpio who likes many sexual partners. I crave one person to share life with, and I had my walls completely up. That's tell I met a Aquarius. He broke my walls down in one day, and I feel my obsession kicking in but doing my all to fight it. I'm in love with the idea of a worth opponent to help me chance my ways. Things were going crazy fast, and I feel once I stated my emotions things might've hit a dead end. But I'm going to ride the waves with this one. If it's meant to be it'll be. I can't control what happens, and I'm fine with that.
R on August 22, 2019:
Many Scorpio man suffers from narcissistic disorder. Ladies, please read expert articles. Their behavior is a diagnosis. RUN, RUN, RUN.
Woman on August 21, 2019:
Can scorpio man really love ?
Aquarius woman on August 21, 2019:
I think that Scorpio man can´t really love or I´am wrong? . Everything is all about power and their ego. Manipulation, jealousy, mind games, tests, selfishness, arrogance, mood changes .. it´s very, very bad ! This is my experience. At first it was a great attraction but now he killed all the emotions in me. Sorry for my english.
ScoGem on August 17, 2019:
The problem is that these two don’t meet and line up naturally with each other. Usually they meet through business or some form of intrigue. And THEN you get to their respective differences.
random aquarius man on August 15, 2019:
It's been a year and she is still in my mind. Still, if I see her again, I will run away to the end of the world so she can't hurt me again. Sexual chemistry was intense but there was something in her eyes, pure evil. I wish I never met her, I knew it but I didn't trust my intuition.
ms.feb on August 13, 2019:
all i can say s I chose the right man! this is very true to me.
Me on August 12, 2019:
That was truly amazing read! The research on the two signs was submountable accurate with the compatiablity traits. Hence, is why i felt to comment and thank you for your research of TRUTH! At work, it may my morning. Thank you for sharing, I pray that the universal propals you where you destiny to be and become....just amazing you are...A True Water bearer
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on August 04, 2019:
I didn't know this about the lighting. That is interesting.
Astrology pro on July 29, 2019:
I love this article!
This works better with a Scorpio man and Aquarius woman. They are far more compatible than most astrologers think. But full birth charts should also be considered.
Scorpio and Aquarius have an aspect between them known as a square. This is a ninety-degree angle in the circle of the zodiac. A square is a tense aspect which often results in friction between signs. While this friction could play out as conflict, which is usually the case when these signs are immature, it can also play out as a source of sexual chemistry.
Yet, a square is not the only connection between these signs. They are also mirror-images to each other along the Solstice lines. Because of this, the length of daylight is the same when the Sun is in each of these signs. This connection is known as antiscia, and it is a very positive thing.
In practical terms, while a Scorpio man and an Aquarius woman have their differences, they also understand one another and find each other extremely attractive.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2019:
I try hard because I care!
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2019:
Scorpio and Aquarius is a complicated dance number, but well worth the battles. Like learning the tango over the waltz.
Maddie on July 24, 2019:
Hey, this was really well made and thought out! As an Aquarius myself you really got all about me right haha so thank you, you really did your research!
Cha46 on July 22, 2019:
The only way for a relationship with a Scorpio and Aquarius to work is if they are mature and have already experienced life and lived life’s lessons. A young Scorpio and Aquarius pairing is catastrophic. Young scorpios are not loyal and usually manipulative and can easily hurt an Aquarius if the aquarius is in love with them, because an Aquarius in love gives full love, a young Scorpio is still in the Scorpion phase when young, a mature Scorpio is usually in the eagle phase and only in the eagle phase can a scorpio give full love back, An Aquarius can unleash the Phoenix in a scorpio and a Scorpio can bring an Aquarius to its highest level. This pair works when they’re both matured and lived their experiences because it’s more of a soul joining or twin flame relationship. When matured they meet in every level, communication, sexually, loyalty and trust, etc. birth charts should also be considered, sun is only the dominant personality the moon is the emotional and intuitive personality, Mars is the sexual nature. Also very important, maturity may be reached at age 30 for some and age 40 or 50 for others, so maturity does not have as much to do with age as it does the actual person
M on July 09, 2019:
As a aquarius i like to look into things ive been just reading articals on my relationship this is like really accurate me and my scorpio saw eachother from across the room (i wish i was making this up) and we both pretended like we wern't looking at eachother (even though it was painfully obvious we where) and we just kept staring oddly for like no joke 30 minutes until my other friends came back over after getting their food later i got up and she said that she really liked my yellow docs and i said i liked her hair and we've honestly been inseperable since she was the one who asked me out and she chased me (this report was right i didnt realize how much i love being chased) and its weird we go on so many dates like whenever i have been in past relationships i valued my space but she makes me feel like i dont really need that we spend every saturday together now and do crafts during movies because we're dorks together but its nice and i love being around her and its more than just i like her personality or shes nice or looks pretty its just shes my soul mate and its wonderful that i found someone who can make me actually want to keep them close thank you for writing this
hermes on July 02, 2019:
wow look at that self indulgent aquarius who thinks he's above. Andrea, is this a girl's name? You stink and you think it's good because you're less like others?
Phoenixscorpio on June 27, 2019:
This article is SO true! I have been involved with an Aquarius over 4 yrs. I feel when he's happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. We talk for HOURS about the most random topics. This is mind blowing.
SieSie357 on June 24, 2019:
I'm a scorpio woman and from my experience I honestly can't stand Aquarius so this seems highly unlikely for me. Granted I think I've only interacted with other women who are Aquarius and i don't want them as friends let alone partners but maybe there's a difference.
Robin on June 14, 2019:
Not sure why this Scorpio seems to ALWAYS attract Capricorns.
Keeper of Secrets on June 13, 2019:
This combination works better with Scorpio Man, Aquarius Woman, than the reverse. I believe its because Aqua men and women are actually quite different in emotional processing. In the interest of nature vs nurture, women are often nurtured into being more emotionally available than their sign typically allows, this is not a trait nurtured in men typically.
Aquarians typically have many acquaintances, but few close friends. If you're a Scorpio on the hunt your mission is to get into that inner circle. You wont get anywhere with that Aqua unless you do no matter how many times you end up sleeping together. Loyalty and Trust is the most successful way to access this circle. Unconditional is the trait an Aqua is looking for. And with a little finesse you can showcase this trait without letting an Aqua walk all over you.
It's important to understand that Aquas are going to make Scorpios soooo uncomfortable. You guys are so used to reading other people and then an Aqua walks by like a black hole of WTF, leaves you scrambling. It's uncomfortable. Boundaries will be stepped on. Be firm in establishing and enforcing them, but refrain from over-emoting, stinging, or holding on to them like a grudge. Unless the Aqua has actually wronged you instead of just mildly bruising a feeling, there is no reason to go full soap opera. They will just look you and think, right now about 5 dogs are going to be euthanized not because they are bad dogs, but because there is no more space and no one wanted the poor pups, and you want to go all out about how I didn't text you for two days? Too much I'm out!
And then to add in a cherry, Scorpios, you have to be able to turn around and still be supportive when your Aqua needs you. That is how you showcase loyalty and trust. To be able to argue and disagree and be able to put it aside and not weaponize it or manipulate the Aqua, we can see gas-lighting from miles away.
My Scorpio husband was able get me to commit by showing me how deep his loyalty went. Young Aquas are usually disillusioned at how fickle and self serving people can be, it makes it difficult to believe in relationships. But my husband has been rock solid, and our marriage isn't a trap that most Aquas fear, but an affirmation of the security we need.
Just Me on June 12, 2019:
I'm a Scorpio man and have been with an Aqua woman for 37 years married for 29 of those. Everyday is amazing and we are inseparable. So what is amazing? It's the inability to precisely understand her. Give me 30 minutes with most people and I have a good feel for them but with her.... still working on that.
On the night we met she told her best friend "I'm going to marry him" and I told my best friend "We'll be together forever, somehow." So, unlike our signs, right?. I mean an Aqua in a committed relationship after 60 minutes? A scorpio in something more than another persons bed in an hour?
Our relationship had 3 phases the infatuation, the tempest and the calm seas. In the present calm seas it's like the wind can create waves but never a storm. Make sense? But yeah, getting through the tempest of emotions and control struggles took work. The infatuation phase never ended. It simply lives on top of the others.
How she can have so many superficial friends and only me and 1 other as true friends amazes me. A Scorpio has her. And that's all it takes. Sex can be breathtaking and then boring depending on her place. She can either be adventurous or in a routine. She has her sex mood swings while the Scorpio has all the other mood swings.
One thing I think people misunderstand about Scorpio is that we are jealous: which means we desire what others have. Completely untrue. We are protective: meaning we protect what is ours. I always see that being said and never get it. I'm rarely jealous of anyone but don't screw with what I love. Really, don't harm it. The one thing we have evolved is how we fight. I know how to sting but wouldn't. I'll even protect her from me. And while her inquisitive mind demands she asks 900 times "Why" or "what's wrong" until I explode, she's toned it down. Sometime letting a Scorpio calm himself is more productive than delving into their mind. Scary stuff in there sometimes.
It was nice to find a site that admits there's much more to a Aqua/Scorp relationship than two fixed signs in constant battle. We've be side-by-side since ages 17&20 and now I'm 57 and we'll be side-by-side when I'm 87. Most beautiful, fabulous, mysterious person I've ever met.
K on June 11, 2019:
I'm a scorpio woman dating a Aquarius male. We've been dating for 2 years our relationship has been full of happy memories, adventures, deep intellectual conversations. I'd consider myself a evolved Scorpio because we do get those feelings of jealousy. I choose not to make a big deal and trust him completely. People say Scorpios are possessive but as an evolved Scorpio you enjoy your independence and alone time as much as the Aquarius. His mom is a Scorpio as well and a intense one too. So he's used to our Scorpio energy. Before this relationship I dated around a lot and I haven't felt as secure and evolutionary as I do with him. We really do help each other grow. Our sexual connect is so profound and mental connection we honestly feel and think like the same person. Everyone is different no one is fixed. I've always wanted a relationship that didn't block me from my passions. I'm blessed to have found it. The Phoenix raising from the ashes is the perfect represent of this relationship. You'll just keep evolving together in a positive way. If you date someone expect deep Intellectual conversations, spontaneous dates, travel, deep bonding sex, deep understanding, space for growth, lots of intimacy.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 23, 2019:
Good luck! I am a fan of the Scorpio and Aquarius combo.
Lyndsy Ostberg on May 19, 2019:
Im Aquarius female . My husband is Scorpio male.
So very true i found this out to be. Thank you for this article. I now have a better understanding of my husband. Im able to use this to help the both of us maintain and keep our marriage successful.
MzScorpio on May 17, 2019:
Im very Impressed with the accuracy of this Information given By The Author. Well done and Fantastically Put!
I am A scorpio 32 yr old woman loving a 49 Year old Aquarius Man who use to be my neighbour before My Partner.
And yes in all respects he was very selfish at the starting of our relationship, reserved closed off from affection and communication and especially thoughts. Before we hooked up and became boyfriend and girlfriend he would visit my house often to the point where i would either pretend that i werent home, or pretend i was going out and i would literally go away for the day from my home with my kids only to avoid him. I avoided him because I was thinking that this man ( Aquarius man) was either hitting on me or just lonely and wanted a friend. But as i was pregnant and suffering from a crap and short previous relationship ( virgo baby daddy) at the time being a solo mother I didnt want this Aquarius guy to get involved with me because to me he just wasnt my type. And now hes perfect for me. But i found that out after learning about him, it wasnt easy and it still isnt easy for us. As i can be quite direct, and over powering towards him when all im asking for his communication sometimes. My darling can close off sometimes but its there that I pick at him to open him up again and he does. He calms me some days and he destructs me the other days Hahahaha!
We live together in my home. My kids and his kids Next to his rental house that he still has in his name, We use to live in between each others homes. But being a scorpio I Expect my own Security. Although my personality has kicked him out almost on a fortnightly basis in the past he always comes back, He tells me he cant live without me. He says if I never want him again then he'll completely disappear and never be seen again. I love him and his ways and sometimes i hate his ways. I will still dissect and investigate every word, action, motives, intentions and his mind to the day we die together. I need and want him and he needs and want me.
He makes me feel powerful and calm.
He tells me hes in love with me and that hes fully addicted to who and what i am.
The other neighbours think my Aquarius man is crazy and that hes playing with Fire.
But i believe that hes strong and loving enough to calm and put out this fire because He loves Me and I love him.
This article was very spot on Author.
mr chicken on May 12, 2019:
i am a scorpio. in love with an aquarius.
this article is so true. been an ass most of my life, but this insight ripped such a truth that i can only feel humbled.
i never thought i would say this, but this aquarius is one i want for life.
taking it slow at this point.
thank you again for this page.
The venomous angel on April 18, 2019:
I’m an Aquarius born under the Virgo moon, and my Scorpio is pulled by the moon itself... more into Pluto. So he’s dark, mysterious and troubled at times.. so am I.
I’ve been so used to other Aquarius, capricorns, and Leo’s that I was so ill prepared for the communication of the Scorpio...
An Aquarius and Scorpio speak the same language... non-verbal! It’s all about touch, chemistry and energy! Let it be! Let the energy flow! Your Scorpio male will tell you more about himself when he’s holding u, then he ever will verbally!
If you are an empathic Aquarius... use your abilities! You will climb mountains with this! Defeat nations with this ability with him! Bc he’s empathic too! The hand squeezes, the all of a sudden make out sessions.. he’s trying to tell u who he is telepathically.. mainly Bc he may be a bit insecure about his darkness that he holds.. its only Bc he underestimated your ability to understand. He doesn’t want to be coddled, nor held... he just wants to be understood and seen as an equal. Stop over thinking things!
If he’s cold toward u for a couple days it may not even be you at all! He’s got so much on his mind, from family, to anything else... he may just not want to involve u in the shit storm, and that is his way of protecting you and respecting you as an individual! Know this, and go live your life. If he sees he’s able to be himself without u waiting around, he will come back sooner!! Be strong and confident in who u are as an Aquarius female! We are the strongest out there!
Know your worth, he will see it and start opening up! Promise u!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Anonymous on April 06, 2019:
I should appreciate the writer..you are too good..Each and every word is like very very exact..I I'm really surprised how can someone be so accurate
MyDuty on April 06, 2019:
To everyone who thinks to deal with unstable Aquarius people, then it's my duty to remember you the only possible outcome of being close to an Aquarius: "Arrests don’t need to be walks in the park, but it doesn’t do anyone any good if the process completely devastates people’s lives socially, emotionally and financially". Scorpio, protect yourself from Aquarius, because they are the people who during an identity crisis will send you in jail.. Scorpio must search people with a stable and balanced mind (zodiac sign from May to September) because Scorpio has so much important goals in life that he must pursue those goals..
Asiaa on April 05, 2019:
Our love is beautiful I'm a Scorpio and he's an aquarius it's like he's my soulmate when I met him it was kinda like I knew him
Asma on April 03, 2019:
Iam aqua girl and he is scorpio. He is one of the best things in my life so far happened to me.With him i felt wanted and needed.I love him a lot. A lot. I value honesty and he was honest. I wanted to be cared of and he cared for me. He has pampered me, spoilt me and settled down for me. I am bad at expressing my emotions but with him i learnt to unfold it too.
He used to like me too but then our ways apparently parted because of our families issues. I even love him today. We occasionally talk, but why; i don't know. I remember each and every moment we spent together. He respected me a lot, loved me like i didn't know about love and its feelings before i met him.
I feel like now he has turn cold towards me. I don't know if he still likes me or not. Its gonna b 2 years almost and I'm still waiting for our destiny to send him back in my life. I wish if I could ever hear that he loves me and he is mine and he owns me. I wish...May all odds be in favor of us.
Asma on April 03, 2019:
I love him a lot. A lot. I like honesty and he was honest. I wanted to be cared of and he cared for me. He has pampered me, spoilt me and settled down for me. I am bad at expressing but with him i learnt it.
He used to like me too but then our ways parted because of our families issues. I even love him today. I remember each and every moment we spent together. He respected me a lot, loved me like i didn't know about love and its feelings before i met him. He used to express and make me feel like i never felt that way before and most of all he respected our relation. I don't know if he still likes me or not. Its gonna b 2 years almost and I'm still waiting for our destiny to send him back in my life. I wish if I could ever hear that he loves me and he is mine and he owns me. I wish...May all odds be in favor of us.
DT on March 28, 2019:
I feel like I’ve loved him from the first time I saw him. I have loved him so much, for so long, so completely, that I wish I could be whoever it is that the Aquarius needs.
I guess it’s not meant to be.
Susan on March 20, 2019:
Scorpio...people just tell the truth
If you miss him tell him
Also....just tell him the sting hurt you
They will stop.
I am a scorpio so i can say this...if you ask him to curb his sting he will.
Scorpios are smart so let them feel this way.
AMINACHERIE on March 19, 2019:
I'm an Aquarius woman that loves a Scorpio man. This article was so us, but he stung me too many times..I ended up changing my number to keep myself away from him and vice versa. I hope I come across an evolved Scorpio one day bc we truly are the best for each other, in my opinion. The laughs, random moments and faith I had in us were almost worth all the tears. The shit sucks bc I feel like I will be going through the motions forever. I had so many more moments and words I wanted to share with him.
Susan on March 18, 2019:
Aquarius men are extremely mean...selfish.....
cityofangels on March 14, 2019:
So in your opinion what would be the best compatible sign in terms of sun, moon, and rising for a scorpio sun, leo rising, aquarius moon? after reading this I don't know if an air sign would be the way to go with so much air... or the perfect pairing.
MiamiCityBoy on March 11, 2019:
I'm an Aquarius and had relations with a Scorpio and we just got back in each other's grace's. I miss her, love her the list can go on. But she's in a relationship yet our history kept us in thought of each other through the years we lost I haven't found no woman in my past relationships worth my heart, time and love more than she do and I want her back and want to rekindled the romance we once encountered. But how can I make that possible. I love her.
♒️ on March 09, 2019:
Scorpio and Aquarius is not an easy dance, it would be a lie if I would not admit that, but is worth it for those who try and don’t give up. Blues is when a woman leaves you, but also when she comes back. That’s it. You don’t know what is worse. I mean, better.
Melissa Carmela on March 05, 2019:
WoW this is Creepy Accurate, Im an Aquarius & My Boyfriend of 5 yrs is a Scorpio, while in the beggining & sometimes now our communication can be difficult, I have never cared for anyone as deeply as I do him, its almost like their is a magnetic pull between us, although at times challenging this article really holds true to our relationship & appears like so many others. God Bless You the writer you are extremely talented.
Leslie on March 03, 2019:
I’m an Aquarius female and my boyfriend is a Scorpio. This is extremely accurate. We are going on 5 years now and extremely connected mentally and now more attached emotionally.
Erin on March 02, 2019:
My daughter is a Scorpio and I’m an Aquarius.. so there’s obviously a different dynamic. But agreed there’s a deep/almost psychic connection with Aquarius Scorpio-
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 27, 2019:
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 27, 2019:
Some crazy amount of observation?
m on February 25, 2019:
oh. my. gods.