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An Aquarius and Scorpio Relationship
Even if you're a rookie in astrology, you've probably heard some of the rumors about the Aquarius and Scorpio pairing. A lot of astrologers will go on autopilot and tell you that the best partner shares your element. (They'll also tell you to check your charts.) This is too simplistic.
Every pairing in astrology has unique rewards and challenges. For example, when a water sign and an air sign connect, the results can be magnificent. Today we're going to explore why Scorpio and Aquarius are such a powerful match.
Do Scorpio and Aquarius Make a Good Match?
Yes, they certainly do. In this article, you'll find a full analysis of the love compatibility between these two signs via answers to the following questions:
- Why do Scorpio and Aquarius make such a powerful match?
- What is a square relationship?
- What is Scorpio's phoenix stage?
- Why do Scorpio and Aquarius have an ESP connection?
- What's the benefit of dating someone with a different element?
On some alchemical level, all relationship combinations are like a spell. Combining Scorpio and Aquarius forms a healing configuration. The paragraphs below will explain the benefits and challenges of this type of relationship.
Why Are Scorpio and Aquarius Such a Powerful Match?
Aquarius is exactly what Scorpio wants and has always wanted. The Aquarius is a compelling mystery. The water sign will never be able to fully peg the air sign.
Scorpio is ruled by the warring planet Mars. Scorpio comes off intense, aggressive, and loyal. They don't give up easily. They love to go after something they don't fully understand. Unfortunately, the water sign gets bored easily. Sometimes a pleasant match is too surface level for Scorpio. This sign desires a great deal of complexity and affection.
This is good news for Aquarius whose complex nature will draw in Scorpio. The Scorpio will be caught staring at the Aquarius as they try to study them.
Here is something important to keep in mind: Scorpios are extremely powerful signs but often misunderstood. They like to observe others, they tend to trail to the side, and they often do things by themselves.
People don't always vibe with Scorpio, so the water sign often fades from view without being fully understood. Fortunately, Aquarius is capable of understanding Scorpio and can do a better job of this than any other sign. A mature Aquarius will know a Scorpio immediately just by the way the Scorpio looks at them. A Scorpio's stare is enough to cut through titanium.
What Happens When Water Signs Combine With Air Signs?
Water signs have creative and healing potential; Scorpio gets a double dosage of this as a fixed sign. Air signs love to conceptualize and solve problems; Aquarius is a neverending fountain of thoughts, intuition, and creativity.
When Scorpio and Aquarius fall in love and things go well, their energy is radiant, like a rainbow. If they've fallen for each other but they're both immature. . . you can expect explosive energy, like a tempest. All zodiac combinations have the potential to turn constructive or destructive. Either way, this combination is strong.
Monogynous relationships between these two signs tend to be stronger. Polygamous combinations tend to be weaker because the power is often not balanced between them. Monogyny works for them because a Scorpio can fixate on an Aquarius and help them to be more powerful. The two need to spend a lot of time getting to know each other. (Scorpio loves to take someone to a private place where they can study them.)
Scorpio is on a quest to find magic. To a Scorpio, most things are dull; that's why the highly creative and weird Aquarius is such a catch. Aquarius will never bore Scorpio. The water sign is deeply intrigued by the air sign; they want to make their wildest dreams come true.
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Meanwhile, the Aquarius is on a quest to take things to the next level. They're the visionary of the zodiac. Aquarius sees a dormant volcano (the Scorpio) and wants to see an explosion. They've heard the rumors about Scorpio's passion. They find Scorpio very curious and alluring. These two can bring out the potential within each other.
They need to understand that they don't communicate like normal couples, nor should they. They're not like normal individuals either. Scorpio needs an Aquarius to accept their raw emotions, fierce dedication, and overall weirdness. Aquarius needs a Scorpio to chase it (Aquarius isn't a huge fan of chasing). If done well, it's an incredible and beautiful journey and an amazing pairing. Unfortunately, many Scorpio-Aquarius couples move too quickly, leading to self-destruction.
Important note: both signs dislike too much simplicity and/or a controlling partner. Both Scorpio and Aquarius have to line up with someone naturally. A Scorpio-Aquarius pairing needs an equal amount of intelligence and desire to work for the long haul. If you have to control the relationship, it will fall apart.
What They Bring To the Relationship
Aquarius is loving and intelligent. These are gifts the Aquarius employs with a fair amount of introversion or introspection (perhaps both). Scorpio can't unravel an Aquarius like they can most signs. They see that Aquarius is sweet, thoughtful, and has a massive capacity for love.
Scorpio enjoys Aquarius' company, but the air sign brings up insecurities for the water sign. Can the Scorpio win the heart of someone who wants to take care of everybody's heart? How can the Scorpio, which can be the lowest of creatures, win such a big heart?
Why You Should Consider This Combination
Embrace the calm of an Aquarius. The ease they have with life will match well with a Scorpio and their ever-changing ways. Like ice, the Scorpio is the most solid of the water signs. Still, being the master of water, it can seamlessly drift into its liquid and gaseous states. (Pisces dreams about the light, shallow waters and Cancer gets moody with the tides.)
Scorpio can go anywhere there is emotion, and Aquarius can go anywhere there is thought. When they are together, they feel complete. They're not exact mirrors of each other, but they see and recognize each other's needs. They may not be pieces from the same puzzle, but they get what's it like to search for the bigger picture.
Don't force this kind of relationship. If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be. But when intellect and emotion try to replicate each other and understand each other, beautiful and crazy things can happen.
Mars (Traditionally) Pluto (Contemporary)
Saturn (Traditionally) Uranus (Contemporary)
Middle of Fall
Middle of Winter
Yin or Yang
October 23 - November 21
January 20 - February 18
Aquarius Is Frequently Misunderstood
Aquarius can't be pegged. They can be celibate or in a thousand different relationships. They can be asexual, bisexual, pansexual, and unheard-of sexual orientations.
No one really knows how to label an Aquarius; they're considered the most misunderstood sign. They can be adventurous and take on many partners, or they are on a pursuit to find a soul mate and only settle down once in their whole lifetime. There is the Aquarius who is on the dance floor flirting it up with everybody, and the Aquarius who stays home to watch Korean dramas and daydreams about getting whisked off by a handsome prince.
Aquarians can be sweet, charming, and calm. They can also be hyperactive, inappropriate, and aloof. They're trying to figure out what vibes they like and where to find them. Unfortunately, their invasive thoughts can distract them from the amazing things in front of them.
Scorpio Is Fiercely Complex
Scorpio has the biggest range of any sign when it comes to emotions. Most signs only have one symbol that represents them. Scorpio has three.
In Scorpio's lifetime, they'll evolve several times. This evolution is represented by the snake, the scorpion, and the phoenix. Each stage represents a different level of maturity.
- The Snake: when Scorpio is in this stage, they're at their worst. The snake is selfish, unloving, and territorial. They will bite at the heels of anyone. The snake slithers around on its belly. It's cunning, deceitful, and ready to lash out at anyone who annoys it. This is the most primal emotional stage Scorpio enters. They're restless and deeply hungry for something.
- The Scorpion: the scorpion is more advanced than the snake, but only marginally so. The scorpion can walk speedily on its legs. It's ready to sting its foes. The scorpion is a passionate lover, but it can be demanding. They get jealous very easily. They're incredibly loyal, but they can also be mean. They can love more than the snake, but they can also give their partner the cold shoulder. The scorpion is self-absorbed and driven by success and social status. They may scare the crap out of you.
- The Phoneix: this is the most mature stage for Scorpio. The phoenix is sometimes called the eagle. It's not easy to stay in this form, as the sacrificial nature of it is exhausting. Scorpios often fluctuate when it comes to maturity. Sometimes they're a snake, sometimes a scorpion, and sometimes a phoenix. Their goal is to figure out how to languish in the phoenix stage, which is loving, kind, understanding, protective, and immensely creative.
The major key to Scorpio's evolution is to learn how to be sacrificial. It's really scary to be a sacrificial person, and on some level, Scorpio knows this is their destiny. Many Scorpios avoid evolving because they don't want to have to deal with their highest calling. The most important kind of love is sacrificial. A Scorpio is truly in love when they're willing to die for their partner.
For partners: it's important to know whether or not a Scorpio is mature before getting into a relationship with them. You can't expect that they'll grow or eventually become the phoenix. Some Scorpios will stay in the snake phase their whole life.
If your Scorpio isn't coming off loving, kind, understanding, passionate, and loyal then don't stick around to see what will happen. Cut your losses quickly with a Scorpio.
Food for thought: isn't it strange that Scorpio's highest form of evolution is a burning, flame-covered bird? Scorpio is a paradox. They're the fixed water sign, but when they actualize to their highest power they're the manifestation of fire and air.
Scorpio is one of the few signs that can get inside Aquarius' head. They feel a certain chemistry with them. Scorpio also finds something in Aquarius that others don't have.
These two signs are like magnets. They immediately connect. They want each other. They're like this because they're square signs. What are square signs?
Square signs are couples that have the same modality and neighboring seasons. In this case, Scorpio and Aquarius are both fixed signs. As for their seasons, Scorpio rules fall, and Aquarius rules winter. Because of their coordinates in the astrological cycle, they have a strong ESP connection. The challenge with square relationships is that they both attract and repel each other. (Remember in science class how magnets can suddenly change and repel each other?)
The positive of a square relationship is that the couple can understand each other on an intuitive level. The biggest problems occur when these two meet too soon. They won't have enough social knowledge to understand each other. There is a certain amount of life experience they need to bridge the gaps they'll inevitably have.
Square relationships do have to work harder to navigate blindspots. They often work off intuition and forget that they still need to communicate with words. Speak up and don't assume things.
What Scorpio and Aquarius Want in Bed
Scorpios have an endless sex drive.
Aquarius wants to get to know the partner through making love.
Expect a Scorpio to take any and all sexual encounters very, very seriously.
Fascinated by the choreography of making love.
You can't shock a Scorpio.
Wants to be taken on a journey.
Wants to have a deep, and almost telepathic mental connection with you.
Aquarius is primarily curious.
Your trust in him will turn him on because it means he has managed to connect with you on a mental level (which is essentially what he desires).
Aquarius wants to communicate and make things clear.
Inside the Minds of Scorpio and Aquarius
Scorpios have busy minds; they're easily distracted by the noise of life. However, once they've found their match, they love deeply and fully. They are searching for the right person, and they don't settle for less. They believe deeply in a soul mate, they refuse to stay with someone who doesn't fully stimulate them. Although they can seem grounded when compared to Aquarius, Scorpios (regardless of whether they flat out say it or not) are looking for a supernatural connection.
Aquarius can come off aloof to them, but Aquarius is like Jean Gray from the X-Men. They are intuitive, quiet, and amazingly charming. Nevertheless, they too can unleash the Phoenix within them. They have powerful emotions locked up inside them. Because their emotional capacity is like dynamite, they don't let those emotions out unless they're triggered by intuition.
Aquarius is the water-bearer because of its powerful emotions. Yes, they can skate above the water all day long with beautiful thoughts, but they are also the water itself. They are spring wells of emotion, with astute emotional control. If there were an Olympics for emotional control, Aquarians would receive every gold medal.
They have a relationship with emotion and thought that is difficult for many to read; therefore, Aquarians are sometimes seen as misfits, odd, and/or different. However, they're usually so sweet that people accept them.
This runs contrary to Scorpio, who has a tendency to be brooding, grumpy, and dark. If you're a Harry Potter fan, think of the Slytherins. They get a bad reputation in the books, but in actuality, they are great and must take responsibility for that greatness.
Scorpio and Aquarius get along because they are both odd, highly creative, and secretly emotional. They need to take things slow. Taking things slow is the key to making this pair work. It's like a red velvet cake. Make sure to preheat the oven, follow all the steps, and make sure you have all the ingredients before you pop the pan into the oven. Otherwise, you'll end up with a gooey, inedible mess.
They can rush things by going to the bedroom first. Instead, they need to work on trust and communication—and this will take a while. They're different, so they'll have to learn from each other. It's like a newborn learning how to talk, it'll take a while, but it will be very rewarding.
An Aquarius needs to reveal itself slowly to Scorpio. The Scorpio must be patient. Aquarius needs to go on private dates, away from the hustle and bustle—all the stimulus can distract it from its date.
Scorpio needs to go on private dates as well. They need to have their date's full attention. Intimacy is what the water sign truly desires. They want to know your personal secrets, your life story, and your ambitions.
You can't force the conversation with these two. Having a truly revealing conversation may take two months of seeing each other (or even two years). It can take a while before these two decide that they are, in fact, in a relationship.
Date Ideas for Scorpios and Aquarius
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Aquarius and Scorpio need to go on private dates, away from the hustle and bustle. The two must be able to have good conversation and unravel each other slowly.
A smaller, less crowded pub
Remember, these two are attracted to each other because of the great conversation they can share in. Make sure that if you're going to a pub, you choose one that isn't too noisy or busy.
Stargazing or a planetarium
These two signs love intelligence and beauty. They want to share in each other's intellect.
Taking an Aquarius on a date to a botanical garden will make him feel calm. Seeing the scientific names of the plants will allow him to gain knowledge on what you both love.
How Can Scorpio and Aquarius Couples Get Along?
Focusing on strong communication should be what guides a relationship between a Scorpio and an Aquarius. Trust me when I say this, Scorpio and Aquarius don't need to worry about their physical connection. Scorpio, by their very nature, is sexual. It's a sensual sign, with a vivid imagination. The water sign prioritizes its physical bond with its partner.
Aquarius' great imagination makes sex easy and enjoyable. They are aware of their great imagination and that is why they don't share it with just anyone. However, they're not afraid to go without sex for a while, and this can drive a Scorpio mad.
Don't fret too much about Scorpio going mad. They'll do something about it. Scorpios are the initiators of relationships. Aquarius builds its social structure like a never-ending ocean with friends across all genders, cultures, and species. While Aquarius is a humanitarian and a social network goddess, Scorpio is instinctually interpersonal. Scorpio is a sign that is built for making a family. It's one of the few signs that really charms and awakens Aquarius.
Scorpio has strong staying power—it is loyal to the core (unless you show infidelity). An Aquarius needs someone who wants to stay but struggles to find someone who is loyal. More often than not, Aquarius draws in fickle people. Ultimately, Aquarius needs someone who is reliable and will stay no matter what.
An immature Scorpio will be in an exploratory phase. This will be before they settle down. Scorpio is somewhat of an ass before they give of their loyalty. The more a Scorpio shows how loyal they are, the more the Aquarius will open up their amazing emotional current.
An Aquarius is powerfully objective and mysterious. For example, think of Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter series. She may be a little "out there," but she's infinitely intriguing while also calm. This is something a Scorpio will respect. A Scorpio likes both the calm Luna Lovegood side and the X-Men Phoenix side of an Aquarius. Meanwhile, the Aquarius loves the emotional-romantic side and the dutiful side of the Scorpio.
The catch-22 of an ESP connection? It's great if you're good for each other, and it's terrible if you need to separate. No one likes to give up a connection like that. But just because you have ESP doesn't mean you'll treat each other right.
Scorpio and Aquarius instantly recognize their psychic connection when they come across each other. This feeling is so strong that they will latch onto each other with great intensity. Separating, especially for the Aquarius, means they'll have to go in completely different directions in order to get over the other person. The Aquarius will desire enough space to prevent them from getting back with the Scorpio. Deep down they know that they still love them.
My Aquarius readers I hate to tell you this, but you'll always remember the Scorpios who made an impression on you. You can move on from them and have successful relationships, but a strong Scorpio-Aquarius connection will live on in your memories.
Notes for Scorpios
Aquarius doesn't always talk. This can be baffling since they're an air sign. Sometimes the Aquarius just wants things to be quiet and will leave a lot of space open for interpretation. Aquarius will need their privacy. If an Aquarius spends consistent time with you, this is a major plus. You may find that when you date an Aquarius you are the only one making all the moves. Just remember how magical it is when an Aquarius accepts your moves. This is no easy task.
They'll slowly turn from gently holding your hand and letting you touch their hair to kissing you as they please, and for long bouts of time. This is a creature that sees far ahead into the future and loves to gather information before making a decision. Don't let your insecurities drive them away, but do make your insecurities clear. They'll do what they can to comfort you (that's their instinct).
They want things to work. They want things to be smooth. They don't want to hurt your feelings. Keep in mind that you are a Scorpio: you have the power to hurt them, so be careful. Scorpios know how to sting.
Scorpio, your power to dissect and ridicule can hurt an Aquarius extensively. They really want to trust you. If you sting an Aquarius, they'll block you out of their life, which is exactly what you don't want. So long as you don't sting them, they will accept you with open arms.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2016 Andrea Lawrence