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5 Ways to Tell If Your Ex Is Stalking You

Relationships can be fun. Once they end, however, they can go one of three ways. Either the two of you become friends, or you refuse to see each other, or your ex will go crazy without you and try to win you back.

While that last one can be mildly entertaining, it can also be a very scary experience, especially when you want nothing to do with him. This goes for guys, too. There are some pretty insane chicks out there.

Here is a list of ways to tell if your ex is on the crazy stalker side of things.

My Experience With a Stalker Ex-Boyfriend

Justin and I had a blast at the beginning of our relationship. Toward the end, however, he went a little crazy. He decided to buy me a ring for the Sadie Hawkins dance our freshman year. That should've been a huuuuuuge sign, but I thought it was cute. Of course I did. I was a freshman in high school.

Then he started getting overprotective, telling me to stay away from my guy friends, that he was the only boy I should be talking to, and that I should always be at his beck and call. I was there to make him happy, after all.

Excuse me? What am I, your slave girl? Eff that.

We broke up and we moved on. At least, I did.

Two summers later, he started calling my house continuously. Every day, sometimes up to five times a day. I didn't tell my parents, and my younger brother thought it was hilarious. Finally I blocked his number. And this is when the trouble began...

I'm not going to bother you with all the details. I'm only telling you that I know where you are. I've been there. I am there. I am not enjoying it. And I don't want to see anyone else get hurt by this situation.

Signs Your Ex Is Stalking You

1. He "magically" acquires your cellphone number.

I'm still not sure how Justin got my cell number. But if you never gave your cellphone number to your ex, or if you got a cellphone after you two broke up, and now he's calling you on it, be wary. Find out how he got the number. Did he ask your friends? Coworkers? Family? Did he use some phony line to get it, or did he ask outright?

If he went for the phony line, it's a huge red flag. Block the number. Sure, now that he's got your digits, he'll try calling from other lines to confuse you. This is why you should never answer phone calls from numbers you don't know. That should be a huge duh, but some girls don't get that.

If he asked outright, it may not be a red flag. He's being honest, which is a good sign. Maybe he just wants to be friends? But if that's not on your life's agenda, tell him so; he might actually listen, provided he's still living in Sanity Land.

2. You run into him almost everywhere you go.

How does he know where I am all the time?

More than likely, he's got his friends watching you. He'll give them some bogus tale to trick them into doing this, then, when they see you, they'll inform him and TADA! He's right there.

Huge red flag.

That type of behavior is not normal. Then again, don't go freaking out because you saw him at Wal-Mart grocery shopping. He could just be grocery shopping, given he's not aproaching you every chance he gets. Even so, if you're catching him hiding behind corners, stealing glances at you, I would advise you remove yourself from the area quickly. That is an obvious stalker tactic.

If he's doing that, he's probably not too bright, either.

Jeeze, what did we ever see in these guys, anyway?

3. He gets a job at a place you visit regularly.

Now, this could just mean he needs a job, and this place was the only place hiring. Nonetheless, it's scary to see him at your favorite restaurant or gas station almost every day, especially if he's been exhibiting stalker-like behaviors.

For Justin, I think he got the job at the Mobile station because it was a few blocks from his house. This isn't the case anymore, but he's still working there. And it creeps me out every time I see him.

Does he insist on ringing you up or being your server? Does he ask you personal questions every chance he gets? Has he memorized your usual order? This last one might just be a sign of observance, but it's still spine-tingling (and not in a good way).

Consider going to a different gas station or restaurant. If you only went there because of convenience, it's not a big deal. If you went there because it's the cheapest station or food joint in town, it's gonna suck a little. But there are other stations and other delectable diners.

4. He asks your friends, coworkers, or family weird questions.

"What's she doing today?" "Does she have a boyfriend?" "Do you know where she is right now?" "Could you talk to her about me?"

There are a ton of other creepy curious questions he might ask. Every guy's different. Be sure to talk to your friends about the situation. Let them in on the skinny: you're not interested in him and he's creeping you out. Tell them, "Please, don't talk to him, ok?" Your friends will get the hint quickly.

Oh, and don't take up those offers from your guy pals to let them beat him up. It gets you nowhere. If anything, it makes it worse.

5. He tries to make a pass at you.

This can only happen if you allowed him to hang out with you. He'll try to flirt a little, get the charm flowing, then he'll swing in for the kiss.

They don't always try this maneuver. It depends on his integrity (and whether or not he has any).

Also, this almost goes without saying but: DO NOT let him be near you while you are intoxicated or otherwise incapacitated. He will try to do something. You will not like it.

And you'll feel like you need to shower for days afterwards.

Oh, and if he moves in with a mutual friend of yours, avoid the friend's place until your ex is gone. It won't be pretty otherwise. Trust me on that.

I could honestly go on and on and on about tell-tale signs of stalker exes, but I believe those covered the basics. I don't want to overwhelm you with a bunch of red flags. If your ex is showing two or more of these signs, be careful! And if you're worried about your safety, you can always file a restraining order against him.

Be safe, be cautious, and be smart! Stalkers are scary!

Comments 40 comments

theres/a/creepy/guy/staring/at/me! 7 years ago

mine's not stalking..but i did tell him off pretty good when he tried to get back w/ me!!


RachelM 6 years ago

Okay. So I need some help with a stalking issue I am having. I am only 15 but this guy just won't leave me alone. We had met at a social week long camp and we became good friends. He had flirted his way and I ended up liking him. Biggest mistake of my life. He ended up being a sex addict and wanted me to do thing with him. (he was 15 but is now 16) he wanted me to do things with him but I had refused and broke off all communications with him. Up until 2 months ago he is constantly writing me emails and I ignore him. He is calling my home number atleast 5 times a day, even blocking his number. But even though he lives about a half and hour away from me I know he watches me. The other night, which was new years eve I had gone to a dance and I had gotten home around 12:30 and the minute I walked inside my house he had sent me a message saying, it's official, happy new years! But if he didn't know when I had gotten home he would of sent that to me at 12. Somehow he knew I was still up that night cause he kept texting me even though I haven't responded to a word he has said to me for the past 2 months. Coincidence? No. Cause a few days after christmas he told me was going to call my house phone, but he never called when I was out of the house. He would call the second I walked into the house and never stopped until I have to disconnect it. I have told him to leave me alone but he won't. I know he is following me but there is nothing I can do about it because I don't have proof. What should I do? I am scared he is going to make me do things with him and he has shown sides of abuse..


Kiki 6 years ago

I've never heard stories like these so I can't give any tipps or something like that. I would just be cautious and never leave the home alone. Talking with your parents must be also a helpful thing. I'm sure its better to tell them what's going on. And if everything gets worse I would go to the police. I mean, here in Germany you can go in prison for many years, if you, the stalking person, don't stop.


maria 6 years ago

me and my ex split up just before christmas, we remained friends so i thought, then he just started getting nasty to me, saying he is happier now ive gone, ringing my house texting my mobile phone and even waiting in and outside work to talk to me, ive ignored all this, then he appologises well tries, i have none of it and he gets nasty again!! he is jealous always has been of my friends just wants me to himself, i neva went out alone with my friends, i lived with him in my house, if he was at work he would ring me all the time to see wot i was doing etc, i am getting scared now.


Jazz 6 years ago

This is so stupid. "Stalker" is a label slapped on people like Walmart stickers to kids. What are you people afraid of? Just ignore or talk to the person about normal stuff. Be happy to see them. They would appreciate it and not freak out when you're around, cause they're scared too.


Lulu 6 years ago

Jazz,

you seem to have no empathy with any of these stories. It may be because you can't comprehend the fear someone may go through because of unwanted attention. I have been through it twice now, I would call one of them a stalker and the other one someone who read the signals wrong. The first came to my place of work every time I had a shift, not suspect to begin with but then as he made me feel more and more uncomfortable with things he said or tried to do with me I started to change my shift patterns. It got so bad that he came in everyday just so he could figure out my new shifts. This was not the worst thing. I lived in house at my place of work and he began to come round when he knew we weren't open just to bump into me. I'm 5'3" and slender with very little muscle power. He was 6'4" and went to the gym daily. He was also 20 years my senior, physically there was no way I would be able to stop him from doing anything to me if he wanted to and it was living with that knowledge I was helpless if he wanted to overpower me, and that is why all these women are suffering. They do not know what the other person is capable of or prone to do after being rejected. Fear of not being able to get away, of not leading a normal life. It is not a sticker slapped on willy nilly, it is real and it should be considered with deep understanding of what the person is feeling who is being 'stalked'.


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Derrik 6 years ago from Maple Grove, MN

Excuse me? What am I, your slave girl? Eff that.

That was just fabulistic. Effing fabulistic. And yeah- sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Plenty of gals (and guys) get into similar freakish episodes. Imagine a gal with a bf who has ANOTHER gf ALSO, and then there's the stalker ex! Yikes! That's what I call a web of sexual insanity! Monster males flingin their baby-makers all over the place- makes for a freaky "ex" rated horror flick! Fortunately some monster males (like myself) just want to fill up our 4 gig flash drives with all the images our baby-makers can handle. Thank Gates. (The closest thing to a lovin God I can think of- he gave us the glory of Xbox after all.)


omar 6 years ago

thanks for this information yoy given us really me i cant talk what stalking because my love left me

okay me i was going to say that i am not ready for making love

so what would you will advis4e me


Mrs. Lezzbo 6 years ago

Men are hunters. To them "talking" to or "stalking" a woman is normal. When the problem becomes Violent that is when you have a "stalker". And its funny to think how to solve the problem is by getting another man, or go Lezzbo. This is a tuff world sometimes, so you have to learn how to addapt.


Adam 6 years ago

If women just gave it up like they should, there would be no stalking problems.


froggy10 6 years ago

My ex husband in the last 6 years he has bugged my house taped our daughters conversation when she is in her room, breaks into the house and moves things around just enough to let me know he has been there but I have no proof I put up camera's only to have the DVD removed when I get home, he shows up at my work to see if he can scare me. It is all a deadly game I have decided to arm myself I am getting a 357 or a 9 mm baby eagle. I know one day he will kill me that is evident and walk away free. The police can not and will not do anything until it is to late we need to help ourselves and stop relying on any one else. How many woman have to be killed because their ex is sick? I say arm yourself take shooting lessons go to the gun range and practice and when they come at you in a manner that scares you shoot them aim to kill.


rain 6 years ago

Damn!!!

i must come with new ideas now!!!

KKK Rose


Old and Tired 6 years ago

People should take stalking seriously. I am nearly 52 years old and EVERY relationship that I have had since the age 25 has ended with the man stalking me. I have had strangers stalk me and even sociopath preachers who resemble Colonel Sanders and other assorted characters. And women should stop blaming themselves or listening to others who blame them for what has happened to them. I am from the "old school" and when people broke up back in the 60s and the 70s, they moved on! Why can't people do this now? I was in a relationship with a psychopath who did not want me, and when I terminated the relationship, he stalked and threatened me for four confounded years! I waited to become involved again, and here I am again, running like a scared rabbit because I'm being stalked. I thought when folks became my age they would be LESS desirable, but the older I get, the worse it gets. And I am SICK of it. Its enough to make me want to have become a freaking nun. Leave me the hell alone.


valerie g 6 years ago

gosh im only 14 and my ex boyfriend is like mega in love with me.....hes always wandering where im at...and what im doing and who im with...ugh and he randomly showed up at my school like all last week and im afraid hes gunna do it again this week...can you say SYCHO! i dntt know how to get him away from me...HELPPP!!! please


Dede 5 years ago

I am 28 and just recently casually started dating a guy who is 24. From

Day 1 he's been a problem. He smokes weed like it's his last breath 24-7 I told him I hated it

And I don't dte potheads well he said wouldn't, but he lied never

Kept his promise. He doesn't want to work and I refused to move in with him till he got

A job. Well long story short 2 months now I had to give him the boot. He won't let me go and

Refused to let me leave his motel. He choked me and through me on the bed till I pleaded i felt sick I want to go home. He let me go and I have ignored his calls. He stalks my twitter and now is moving next door to me ugh. I am going to get a restraining order on him. He doesn't understand when I told him NO we are not dating anything but he keeps saying in a month I will change c'mon you love me we are together!!! I yelled no we are not leave me alone...yess trust me staplers are bad I want mine gone.. And yes I am a 28 year old male. Yes even us gays have stalker he's tall clans bigger than me

Ugh!!!!!! Please go away stalker


Cor 5 years ago

Thanks for the info... My ex hacked all my stuff and hit me and spit on me.. And left over 29 missed calls..


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AngelaKaelin 5 years ago from New York

Great job! This is such a common problem! Usually it is happening for a while before you realize its happening!


RatedPG 5 years ago

SOoo, NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE IN ONE OF THESE SITUATIONS. SHOULD HAVE SEEN IT FROM THE BEGINNING! I JUST RECENTLY BROKE UP WITH MY FIANCÉ OF TWO YEARS. HERE'S MY STORY AND WHAT I AM DEALING WITH NOW: I BROKE UP WITH A PREVIOUS BOYFRIEND AND WANTED TO GO OUT AND HAVE A GRLS NITE OUT (WAS NOT PLANNING ON MEETING NO ONE,IN WHICH CASE DOESN'T HELP IF U GO OUT TO THE CLUB),I ALWAYS NEVER TOOK GUYS AT THE BARS SERIOUSLY B/C MOST OF THEM ARE YOU KNOW, NOT REALLY LOOKING FOR LOVE, OR IN MY CASE WAS (NOTE: DO NOT PLAN TO MEET YOUR 'TRUE LOVE' AT A BAR POINT BLANK!), WELL IT WAS LIKE LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT (BUT IN HONESTY YOU SHOULD ALSO JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVERS!) AND WE INSTINTLY FELL CRAZY FOR EACHOTHER.....WELL I KNEW I WAS PHYSICALLY CRAZY FOR HIM BUT NOT AS MENTALLY AS HE WAS TOWARDS ME...AFTER A FEW MONTHS HE ASKED ME TO MARRY HIM (SO I THOUGHT TO MYSELF 'WHY NOT, LIFE IS ABOUT TAKING RISKS AND CHANCES AFTER ALL THE OTHER LOSERS IVE BEEN WITH) SO OF COURSE I SAID YES. AS MONTHS PASSED I REALIZED HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO HAVE A 'GIRLS NIGHT OUT' UNLESS HE WAS WITH ME (RED FLAG) AND WOULD MAKE ME FEEL GUILTY (BECAUSE US GIRLS TRY TO SEE THE BETTER SIDE OF THESE GUYS AND 'FEEL' WHERE THEY ARE COMING FROM BECUZ THEY PULL THE 'WHAT IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY AROUND') SO I DIDN'T THINK NOTHING ABOUT IT, CUZ AFTERALL IM GETTIN OLDER (27) AND MY 'PARTYING' DAYS WEREN'T IMPORTANT TO ME, THEN HE ALWAYS CALLED ME X AMOUNT OF TIMES TO SEE WHAT IM DOING AND IF I DIDN'T PICK UP WHY IT TOOK SO LONG TO CALL HIM BACK (I MEAN SERIOUSLY, I THOUGHT ONLY GIRLS DID THIS, BUT GUYS DO IT TOO!)...HE BOUGHT ME ALOT OF MATERIAL THINGS (JEWERLRY,CLOTHES) I WAS GETTING SPOILED WHICH I WAS NEVER USE TO...AND EVEN BROUGHT FLOWERS TO MY JOB (ALL THE GIRLS SAYING 'WISH MY MAN DID THAT') YEAH WELL, IT GETS REALLY OLD! HE HAS "ACCIDENTLY" HIT ME IN THE RIBS BECAUSE 'I CAN BE SUCH A B*TCH' SO OF COURSE BECAUSE I 'LOVED' HIM I FORGAVE HIM (RED FLAG!!) WELL THERES TOO MUCH TO GET INTO DETAILS SO THOSE WERE THE BASICS SO TO CUT THE STORY SHORT, ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO I WAS GETTING READY TO TAKE MY NURSING BOARDS AND WE WERE WATCHIN A MOVIE. HE OBVIOUSLY WAS JEALOUS OF MY FRIENDS AND WHEN ONE OF MY GIRLFRIENDS (THAT HE DIDN'T LIKE FOR NO REASON) TEXTED ME I COULD TELL HE WAS BOTHERED BY IT SO I 'TRIED' TO 'TALK' BUT HE REFUSED SO THEN I DECIDED TO GO HOME BECAUSE HE WAS BEING SO IMMATURE, HE TELLS ME IF I LEAVE THAT HE WOULDN'T MOVE IN WITH ME (YEAH LIKE I BELIEVE THAT) SO I STILL GO TO MY CAR, HE FOLLOWS ME, PUNCHES MY WINDOW SO I CRACK IT AND TELL HIM NOT TO EVER TOUCH MY CAR, HE THEN SPITS ON MY FACE (WHICH IS THE MOST DEGRADING THING U COULD EVER DO TO SOMEONE IN MY OPINION) CALLS ME A F*N C*NT! SoOOoO IM THE TYPE OF GIRL THAT USUALLY ISN'T AFRAID OF ANYONE SO I GET OUT THE CAR TO TELL HIM OFF AND HE PUSHES ME (RED FLAG AGAIN DUMMY) SO I TOLD HIM THAT I COULDN'T AND WOULDN'T TAKE THIS CRAP ANYMORE AND BROKE IF OFF WITH HIM (SoO I THOUGHT, MAYBE HE DIDN'T MEAN THAT BUT IT WAS STILL MESSED UP AND A TEAR AND SORRY IS NOT GOING TO CUT IT THIS TIME) SOOO I WAS DEPRESSED THE FIRST WEEK OF THE BREAK UP BECAUSE INSTEAD OF LEAVING ME ALONE TO SHOW HOW SORRY HE WAS, OH HE SURE SHOWED ME. HE STARTED BLOWING UP MY PHONE NUMEROUS TIMES WITH TEXTS AND STARTED TO BECOME THIS ANGRY STRANGER I DID NOT EXPECT (OR MAYBE I DID) THREATENING ME, TRYING TO CALL ME OUT ON FAKE RUMORS AND TRIED TO GET BACK AT ME WITH MY COWORKERS AND TOLD ME HE WOULD COME INTO MY JOB WITH OTHER GIRLS(OH MY GOD I COULD SERIOUSLY WRITE A BOOK ON 1000 WAYS TO PISS YOUR GIRL OFF) AND OF COURSE THERE I AM CRYING BECAUSE I 'LOVED HIM' AND DIDN'T KNOW WHY HE HAD TO GO TO THE EXTREME? WELL HE GOT THE BEST OF ME. HOW? HE WOULDN'T STOP CALLING ME, TALKING TRASH (EX; LIKE HOPE I KILLED MYSELF AND HAVE CHILDREN LIKE MY MENTALLY CHALLANGED UNCLE-OH WAIT U WANT TO BRING MY FAMILY INTO THIS?) SOOOO I ENDED UP PULLING A CARRIE UNDERWOOD ON HIM AND SLASHED HIS TIRE AND WROTE LIAR ON THE SIDE OF HIS CAR (NOTE: NEVER DONE IT BEFORE BUT IT DID FEEL AWESOME! OK, YEAH THAT WAS THE ONLY CRAZY PART OF ME, I SNAPPED, REGRET IT? NO.) THEN HE CALLS THE COPS ON ME AND I TELL THEM I DID IT BUT HE "DIDN'T PRESS CHARGES BECAUSE HE CARED' BULLCRAP SO AFTER MY DAD PAID FOR THE DAMAGES THOUGHT HE WOULD LEAVE ME ALONE. NOPE! HE STARTED WATCHING ME AT WORK (WAITING IN THE PARKING LOT TIL I GOT OFF) FOLLOWED ME TO THE BANK AND TRIED TO BEG FOR HIS FORGIVENESS ON HIS KNEES AND CRIES....NOW OF COURSE LADIES, WE KNOW HOW THIS GOES, I START TO CRY AND TELL HIM HOW MUCH I HATE HIM FOR ALL THE DRAMA HE WAS PUT ME THRU AND AT THE SAME TIME IM SERIOUSLY DEPRESSED BECAUSE I THOUGHT HE REALLY WAS THE ONE AND NEVER KNEW HE COULD BE SO DIRTY. THE STORY DOESN'T END, MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY KEPT TELLING ME THAT I DESERVED BETTER AND BLAH BLAH BLAH, WELL U DON'T REALLY WANT TO HEAR THE TRUTH FROM PPLE THAT ACTUALLY CARE SO HE STILL CONTINUED TO CALL AND TEXT UNTIL I GOT SO ANNOYED AND PICKED UP HIS PHONE CALL (THE WHOLE 'BLOCK' THE NUMBER CRAP DOESN'T WORK BECAUSE HE WILL STILL CALL U FROM A RESTRICTED NUMBER OR OTHER PHONE LINES) AND I "HAD TO LISTEN" TO HIM BECAUSE HE WAS JUST ANGRY AND WAS HURT (YOU KNOW, MAYBE HE IS, NO....HE IS HURT BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE HIM THE RIGHT TO TREAT YOU LIKE HE'S BETTER THAN YOU AND TALK DOWN TO YOU LIKE U NEVER MEANT NOTHING OR THREATEN YOU OR EVEN STALK TO! **NO EXCUSE!!** MY TEARS WEREN'T ENOUGH, EVEN THO I BEGGED HIM TO STOP!.....SO AT THIS POINT I ALREADY KNEW THAT I COULD NEVER BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT EVEN THOUGH IT HURTS BECAUSE IF YOU REALLY LOVE SOMEONE, YOU DO THE RIGHT THINGS AND ALL OF THOSE ARE NOT!..SO LAST WEEK COMES AROUND AND STARTED STALKIN ME THROUGH FACEBOOK AND TOLD ME LIES ABOUT 'SOMETHING IS ABOUT TO GO DOWN' AND EVEN STARTS CALLING MY GUY FRIENDS OFF MY FB LIST THAT DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON! I AM A PRIVATE PERSON BUT HE MADE IT EVERYONES BUSINESS TO TRY TO MAKE ME LOOK LIKE I WAS THIS MEAN MESSED UP PERSON. HOW OLD IS THIS GUY? 32! YEAH U THINK SOMEONE AT THIS AGE WOULD ME MUCH MORE MATURE BECAUSE THAT'S THE REASON THAT I THOUGHT GUYS AT THIS AGE WERE LIKE BUT NO IT CAN BE AT ANY AGE! HE EVEN TRIED TO IMPERSONATE A POLICE OFFICER TO GET ME FIRED! HOW LOW CAN YOU GO?!? THEN AFTER I CHANGE MY NUMBER THREE TIMES! I FINALLY TELL HIM THAT THIS HAS ALL GOT TO STOP AND I HAVE ALL THE EMAILS, TEXTS, AND VOICEMAILS ALL SAVED (I STILL DO) AND HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO GO TO THE POLICE STATION TO FILE A REPORT! SO HE TOOK ME SERIOUSLY AND LEFT ME ALONE FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS. OK, NOW HERE WHERE I MAKE THE STUPID MISTAKE AGAIN. I THINK THAT IM FEELING OKAY AND WANT TO CELEBRATE NOW THAT I HAVE PASSED MY BOARDS AND THAT'S ALL I WANTED FOR MONTHS! SO I DESERVE IT, RIGHT? SO I END UP GOING OUT AND GET PRETTY DRUNK AND MAKE THE SMART DECISION TO GO STRAIGHT HOME INSTEAD OF HANGING OUT WITH PEOPLE AFTER HOURS(YEAH I KNOW, PLEASE DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE!)...SO AS IM DRIVING...ALONE....AND ITS QUIET, I TURN THE RADIO ON AND OF COURSE I WANTED TO HEAR LOVE SONGS THAT WOULD ONLY REMIND ME OF OUR MEMORIES TOGETHER AND I START CRYING...BOO-HOO..SO THEN I THOUGHT THAT I WOULD MAKE THIS GENIOUS IDEA THAT WOULD LET ME KNOW IF HE REALLY CARED (IT'S CALLED 'DENIAL'), I HAD MY GIRLFRIEND CALL HIM AND PRETEND SHE MET HIM AT THE CLUB LAST WEEK AND HE GAVE HER HIS NUMBER, SO YES HE RESPONDS AND EVEN TELLS HER 'SEND ME A PICTURE OF YOU CUZ I DON'T REMEMBER', I GET PISSED...I JUST 'HAD' TO CALL HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW I FELT! (NOTE: DO NOT TRY TO GET BACK AT SOMEONE WHO IS ALREADY SHOWING ALL SIGNS OF 'CRAZY') TELLING HIM I KNEW HE WAS MESSED UP FOR BLAH BLAH BLAH, IM GOING OUT IN MY NEW SEXY DRESS THIS WEEKEND BLAH BLAH BLAH AND HANG UP. YEAH I KNOW. STUPID. BROUGHT WORLD WAR 2 BACK! NOW HE'S SUPER PISSED AND SAYING THAT HE WILL BEAT ANY GUY WHO TRIES TO TALK TO ME BLAH BLAH BLAH.....IM THINKING 'WOOOOW, WHY DID I DRINK SO MUCH AGAIN??' (NOTE: DO NOT GET WASTED BECAUSE YOU THINK IT WILL MAKE U FEEL BETTER BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY/NIGHT WHATEVER, DEPRESSION AND ANGER KICKS IN) SO I KNEW I HAD TO MAKE PEACE WITH HIM BY TELLING HIM HE'S RIGHT, IM WRONG BLAH BLAH BLAH AND LETS JUST MAKE PEACE AND IT WAS 'MY FAULT'. NOW SERIOUSLY, I KNOW THAT WAS RETARDED


A guy that's at his drawing point 5 years ago

My fiancé has an ex that wont stop. Only a short two month relationship with this guy he has money he has nice car. But for some reason see him self as better than me. Doesn't understand its him his controlling and antics that make him undesireable. He calls then stops calls then stops. I know its not her. We made a pack about him. I even tried to talk to him to mellow his flow. No go. He called recently its her b day I hate iPHONES I will just say that. He not stable and says one day he respects me even then next no I don't. Its been 2 years since they broke up. What the hell. This guy is not stable. She has been avoiding him but that contact of calling that thing just is out of hand. I feel I need to arm my self to stop this sort of thing. Just to for piece of mind in are home. We want marriage carreers and kids this guy scares me. I always had a drop them adittude with ex women she doesn't now she see why. Only e x that I ever lost it was my 5 year she didn't help. Contacting me and saying this are you ok this that asking advise. Other men and even my friend she went after. So She was wolf in sheeps clotheing She almost got the best of me but I worked on me and my issues. And she continued to flounder. I so I sit hear and know what its like to be the stalker but Some men got that heart that they can stop and realize what is up and change but guys don't force your new found realization on women they don't like it and it drives them farther away. I learned the hard way with bull from my ex and run around. She found it pleasurable. So my instance was different than most she just milked it then got up set when it went a little weird. End relationships clean folks. No games or head trips. Me and my fiancé are driven for future marriage family happiness money travel. But its sad to say that some men can go over board more than you could ever dream. Even kill. Let it go its hard time out for your self is better then chasing.


mandi 4 years ago

Ok, so I was married we split up I began dating a friend of mine tht lives far away. It was more a weekend hang out drink have fun etc. Well we got into a fight one day n he said I hope u don't think im onli friggin u. I got mad and went off so then he says he only said tht to piss me off. Why would anyone do tht? Im not stupid so I played along with his game. He kept getting weirder and weirder til I told him we should jus be friends. The very next day he had a new gf, but spread lies about me, had lights and water cut off at mi house, spread lies n rumors, called dcs and told I i abuse mi kids, hacked into mi Facebook and then lied to att and got a SIM card to mi phone number and made up a horrible extended absence greeting on mi phone. Finally things calmed down I thought, 2 days later he got online and told everyone mi address, phone number, kids names, car I drive, etc all mi info. He claims he dumped me and never loved me, so if he's so happi w this new girl, why won't he leave me alone?? C'mon I need opinions, im at mi wits end


pixie 4 years ago

If you are having difficulty coping with your partner's past relationships try reading I HATE HIS EX by Alex Cooper. I had loads of issues with my fiancé’s ex and I have now resolved them thanks to the advice in this book! You can get it on Amazon! Definitely worth a read! :)


Nikki 4 years ago

Okay this is my story. I'm not sure if either one of them is concerted stalking or not but I know one thing I do feel super uncomfortable.

Firs off my problem revolves around two guys. One of them I don't think I have to worry about anymore. Thank god.

The one that disappeared out of my life, which I'm grateful for. I had been in a relationship with him for 5 months. Within this relationship I was pressured to have sex (I was a virgin). After he got my virginity ; He lost interest in sex for about a month or so and then he started pounded me about it. He got super mad and told me I didn't love him. So the next mourning I gave in && it became a routine. He had bought me a phone as soon as we got together he use to take the phone away from me and read my messages. As if I had something to hide.

He had been cheating on me but that is besides the point. Now on the sex part I never told my family because he told me they would be disappointed in me & never let me see him again. This relationship was the worse one of my life. I'm 17 now. I just had turned 16. When we broke up I thought that was the end of him. He stayed a friend on facebook but me and him didn't talk. Till one day I got a message in my inbox supposedly from his parents saying that I needed to call them right away. Giving me a number. I got worried because I guess even after all the bullshit I still kinda cared so I called the number to find out it was nothing.

He began to beg me back ;; telling me how he loved me and blah blah blah. He begged me to let him come pick me up and me and him hang out. But I didn't go which pissed him off. I ended up blocking him on facebook. So that's the end of him right? Wrong. I have a small family based store below my house ; Like literally below. The owner informed me that the same time my lil sibling was to get off from school (Which I normally went and waited for) He had came to the store to walk around like he was waiting then he left.

A little close to home? Yes! Then I found out a few months later that he had been asking my teachers at my school How I was doing in school and other stuff. Now as far as If he's still keeping tabs on me I actually don't know !

Secondly. I have a current ex. Who I broke up with in November. After finding out about him cheating with his ex girlfriend (who would do anything for him and thinks everything he says is the freaking gospel ) This girl is just like me ! Same hair color, eye color & almost same body type. She's just taller and way younger. We have similar likes ;; And possible career paths. Weird Huh?

I blocked him on facebook because he had got where he was constantly on my facebook. But it didn't stop there... He had my number so he'd text me. && Make me feel like shit for not being with him.

But let me back up. The first time I felt uncomfortable is when I went to walmart with his ex ; who became my friend.... weird story ! He had two different people follow us around the store wanting to know what we were doing...

Then he started using a common friend's facebook to stalk my facebook...

This guy i can't shake him... He makes me feel like shit ;; He's keeping tabs on me and I honest to god don't know what to do. Hes too scared to come close to my house because he knows my brother would beat the shit out of him. But he has recently became friends with some of my friends. And hangs out with my best friend a lot.... So if I got to her house I risk seeing her. That works for two of my friends. Maybe it's me be obsessing but I do feel uncomfortable about this boy.. Could he become a stalker? Or has he already became one...


YUPnPn 4 years ago

He's so gone, click click disabled like a virtual device stalker IT they think udon't know they stalk thru ports and ghost tunnels. BYEBYE


mack 4 years ago

Dear friends, i had a problem with my girl friend 2year ago, which lead to our broke up. when she broke up with me, i was not my self again, i fill so empty inside me. until a friend of my Walt pen told me about a spell caster who helped him in the same problem too. i email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. before i knew what was happening my girl friend gave me a call and told me that she was coming back to me and was so joyous to have her back to me. we have two kids together and we are happy with our selves. thanks to oracletemplesolution@live.com for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work the great spell caster.


kathychristy 4 years ago

I HAVE BEEN STALKED FOR OVER TEN YEARS.I WAS IN LOVE WITH A GUY WHO DID NOT LOVE ME SO I TRIED TO END IT NICELY.NEVER DID THAT HAPPEN HE FOLLOWS ME EVERYWHERE AND LIVES NEAR ME SOMEWHERE CLOSE AND WATCHES ME ALL THE TIME .HE THINKS I DON'T KNOW BUT I KNOW HE IS ALWAYS WHEREI AM.I NEVER REALLY SEE HIM BUT I KNOW HE IS THER TRUST ME I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP.I KNOW IT ISN'T LOVE BECAUSE HE COULD BE HE WITH ME BUT HE ALWAYS KEEPS HIS DISTANCE.NOYHING I CAN DO THIS SUCKS AND SO DOES HE .I WANT TO GET A BOYFRIEND THAT LOVES ME BUT MENTALLY I CANT.BELIEVE ME HE FOLLOWS ME TO WORK,VACATION,PARTIES.FRIENDS HOUSES AND IS ALWAYS LURKING /WHY I MAY NEVER KNOW


Mich 4 years ago

I've been going thru the samething the only thing is my ex stalks me with his new girls and the new girls stalk me on top and tell stories, they take my mail etc.


Americanhoney 4 years ago

My x has secretively bugged our home...set up voice activated recorders...watched our son have sex through a whole in the drywall...damaged our sense of security! My kids no lo.ger feel safe and neither do I!!

I have been separated for 6u yrs off and on and he thinks he owns me!! So tired in V.A!!!


mell 4 years ago

hello


eli 4 years ago

it is my first time experiencing stalking from a guy. it is scary ,i don't know what to do. the fear is not a good feeling


juliet 4 years ago

I WANT YOU ALL TO HELP ME THANK drsabon,i am FROM canada.THE SPELL CASTER WHO MADE ME WHOM I AM AGAIN TODAY FOR BRINGING MY EX HUSBAND BACK,WHO HAS LEFT ME FOR PASS 5 YEARS AFTER TEN YEARS IN MARRIAGE WITH NO CHILD BUT TODAY AFTER I HAVE MEET WITH THIS WONDERFUL SPELL CASTER drsabon MY LIFE CHANGE FROM BAD TO GOOD MY EX HUSBAND START SEARCHING FOR ME AGAIN,I WANT TO THANK GOD TODAY I AM PREGNANT FOR MY EX HUSBAND 3 MONTH SO I MUST THANK drsabon FOR BRINGING HAPPINESS TO MY LIFE IF YOU WANT TO CONFIRM IT OR YOU HAVE SUCH PROBLEM DO CONTACT HIM VIA: drsabonspelltemple@gmail.com, THE drsabon FOR YOUR SOLUTION.


gojofan 4 years ago

To kathychristy, I believe you. I also have someone who has been following me for 15 years. He is my ex-husband and we have been divorced for 15 years. At first he was very threatening and I had to get a restraining order. Things never got out of control and he never got violent, but ever since he has been following me. I have moved twice since then, the last time half way across the country and each time he follows me. I am just waiting for him to do something, and sometimes I get pissed off that he hasn't. I have become a hermit because of this fear. But after all this time my fear is starting to turn into anger. I just want my security back and not have to always look over my shoulder. It is nice to know that other people know how I feel. I do find it odd that people will stalk other people for such long periods of time, and I don't understand why they do that.


sophia 4 years ago

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Lee 3 years ago

In this type of scenario I can be viewed as the stalker but its all really insane the chain of events leading to everything. I dated my ex fiancé Virginia for five years. She then began with lies about going out and on some nights wouldn't come home at all due to her heavy drinking all the sudden. Finally this last November first I had had enough and it was time for the ultimatum, partying or me. She choose partying. As I was she'll shocked I had plans of us getting married in February, and to my surprise she was ending things with me and basically she took off for a few days. Saying she was at her sisters when really she was off in Vegas with her best friend, I knew when she had come back she had lied. She came back on my birthday and lied to me about where she was. Anyways to make a long story short yes I did yell at her, I was hurt. However I let her stay and we were intimate until the middle of this January. When she came the first time to get her things she physically hit me in the jaw, and kicked me in the groin at free will which put me on the ground. At that point I was glad she was leaving. The next time she came to get her things she called the cops because I had changed the locks since she wasn't living there anymore. There was no clue as to what she was up to besides drinking heavily which I could tell due to Facebook. So she gets her things, leaves me with the gas and electric bill three months behind and then one day my old best friend calls and says dude ur ex wanted me to serve u with papers. Now keep


Lee 3 years ago

In this type of scenario I can be viewed as the stalker but its all really insane the chain of events leading to everything. I dated my ex fiancé Virginia for five years. She then began with lies about going out and on some nights wouldn't come home at all due to her heavy drinking all the sudden. Finally this last November first I had had enough and it was time for the ultimatum, partying or me. She choose partying. As I was she'll shocked I had plans of us getting married in February, and to my surprise she was ending things with me and basically she took off for a few days. Saying she was at her sisters when really she was off in Vegas with her best friend, I knew when she had come back she had lied. She came back on my birthday and lied to me about where she was. Anyways to make a long story short yes I did yell at her, I was hurt. However I let her stay and we were intimate until the middle of this January. When she came the first time to get her things she physically hit me in the jaw, and kicked me in the groin at free will which put me on the ground. At that point I was glad she was leaving. The next time she came to get her things she called the cops because I had changed the locks since she wasn't living there anymore. There was no clue as to what she was up to besides drinking heavily which I could tell due to Facebook. So she gets her things, leaves me with the gas and electric bill three months behind and then one day my old best friend calls and says dude ur ex wanted me to serve u with papers. Now keep


larasmith 3 years ago

After being in relationship with my boyfriend for six years,he broke up with me,I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem. Contact him now for your relationship or marriage problems via this email ofuaspiritualtemple@gmail.com


mpumei 3 years ago

I love my ex boyfriend more than my boy friend


chloe 24 months ago

Hello friends i want to share my testimony and how grateful i'm since my lover came back to me because of the grate help Lord Masuka whose email address is lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com.com render to me. my boyfriend broke up with me first week of july this year because he thought i was cheating on him, he told me that his friends has been telling him that i have been seeing someone else when he is not around i tried to make him understand that his friends are lieing to him but he did not give me the chance to explain to him this was how he left me. after a month of our breakup i tried to live a normal life without him but it was very hard for me to cope then i decided to contact Lord masuka via his email address lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com which i came across this months September 12th during my search looking for help how to get my lover back he cast a love spell for me and make my lover to come back to me within the period of 48hours. with this grate joy in my heart i want to say a big thanks to lord masuka he is the best spell caster and he is the best solution.Here is his website http://lordmasukalovespelltemple.webs.com you will be happy thereafter.


chloe 24 months ago

Hello friends i want to share my testimony and how grateful i'm since my lover came back to me because of the grate help Lord Masuka whose email address is lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com.com render to me. my boyfriend broke up with me first week of july this year because he thought i was cheating on him, he told me that his friends has been telling him that i have been seeing someone else when he is not around i tried to make him understand that his friends are lieing to him but he did not give me the chance to explain to him this was how he left me. after a month of our breakup i tried to live a normal life without him but it was very hard for me to cope then i decided to contact Lord masuka via his email address lordmasukaspelltemple@hotmail.com which i came across this months September 12th during my search looking for help how to get my lover back he cast a love spell for me and make my lover to come back to me within the period of 48hours. with this grate joy in my heart i want to say a big thanks to lord masuka he is the best spell caster and he is the best solution.Here is his website http://lordmasukalovespelltemple.webs.com you will be happy thereafter. You can add him up on Skype lord.Masuka


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misswhrrrled 2 weeks ago

"...what you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul."

^me, after reading these comments.

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