Signs That Your Ex Still Loves You and Wants You Back
Is it a sign that my ex still loves me if he keeps calling me? My ex-girlfriend sent me a cute text message; does that mean she still likes me and wants to get back with me? He lied to me about moving on and hooking up with a new girl; why would he do this? Find answers to all these questions and more. This post discusses some of the telltale signs that your ex is still not over you.
1) They like almost all of your Facebook posts, retweet you tweets, and share your blog posts.
Traditional advice columns would cite stalking as a sign of interest. But stalking on foot is no longer necessary because Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, and blogs are more than enough for your ex to keep up with your daily activities.
An instant sign that your ex is stalking you is when they like, retweet, and share almost all your online updates. This includes updates on your whereabouts, your latest photos, and even silly rants. This could be your their way of feeling that even though you have broken up, there is still a bridge that lets him or her peek into your life.
2) You get a lot of calls from an unknown number.
If your ex is still in love with you, there is no doubt that he or she wants to hear your voice. At the same time, they wouldn't want to risk calling you from a number that you are familiar with.
To avoid being identified, they may call you from an unknown number or may even hide the caller ID on their cell phone. If you are suddenly receiving many calls from withheld numbers just after your breakup, and your gut feeling tells you that it is your ex, then it probably is.
3) They say bad things about your current boyfriend or girlfriend.
Your ex has no business commenting about your personal life after your breakup. Bad-mouthing your current girlfriend or boyfriend clearly shows that they don't like seeing you with your new love.
This is one of those things that your ex won't tell you directly. But you will probably hear it as gossip from some of your common friends.
4) They send you hateful email and text messages.
Don't be under the impression that your ex is sending you hateful messages because he or she has moved on and is simply channeling general feelings of hate for you. The messages that are full of anger may, in fact, be a way for them to vent their frustration of the heartbreak.
Take it as a sign that your ex has not moved on from your breakup. The anger suggests that he or she blames you for whatever that has happened.
5) They call you without any particular reason.
Friends call each other without any reason, boyfriends and girlfriends call each other without any reason, husbands and wives can call each other without reason, but exes generally don't. Unless you are the best of friends with your ex, he or she shouldn't have any business calling you and saying:
- I just called because I was getting bored.
- Hey, what's up.
- I was thinking about you and just wanted to say hi. So, what are you up to?
6) You hear from your mutual friends that your ex keeps talking about you.
Mutual friends and common acquaintances play a major role in post-breakup fallouts because they are in touch with both sides. Moreover, they also play the role of the supportive friend who helps someone cheer up after heartbreak.
These common friends are the first people your ex will speak to if he or she wants to find out about what is going on in your life.
7) They suddenly take full responsibility for everything that went wrong in your relationship.
If your ex seems to be turning a new leaf and making unreal confessions about being solely responsible for everything that went wrong in your relationship, this flip-flop behavior may actually be as unreal as it sounds.
Don't be fooled by this sudden change of heart. This could very well be your ex's desperate attempt to somehow show you that he or she is a changed person. It is a sign that they still love you and hope to get back in a relationship with you.
8) You seem to bump into each other way too often.
Unless you two have the same set of friends, there are really no reasons why you should be bumping into each other all the time. Finding each other at the same cafe or bumping into each other on the bus a couple of times may be a coincidence, but any more than that is not normal.
Bumping into you deliberately may be your ex's way of meeting you after your breakup. This may be the case if he or she is beyond the point of simply missing you. In fact, this is probably when he or she is really desperate to get back in touch with you.
9) They send you old pictures captioned with, "Remember when we..."
Another dead giveaway that your ex still loves you is when you receive photographs of you two together, captioned with something like, "Remember when we..." Here's why this behavior is a sign that he or she is still stuck in the past:
- He or she still misses you and keeps flipping through pictures of the both of you
- Sending old photographs with mushy captions is your ex's attempt at tyring to make you have second thoughts about your breakup
10) They lie to you about having a new girlfriend or boyfriend.
When your ex's claims about having a new girlfriend or boyfriend are repudiated by common friends, you can be certain that he or she is still not over you. By lying to you, your ex wants to show how easy it was to move on from you when, in reality, he or she is still love with you.
An easy way to spot this lie is to ask your ex a few of these simple questions:
- When did you guys meet?
- Do you love him/her?
- Where did you go out on your first date?
- What do you like about him/her?
They will fumble while answering these questions if the story about having a new girlfriend or boyfriend is a complete lie.
11) They get touchy-feely when you hang out together.
If you are still friends with your ex, chances are that you may have mutual friends, and you hang out together. A situation like this can easily lead to animated conversations and friendly banter.
Friendly conversations are one thing, but if you notice that your ex gets touchy-feely with you, it is a clear sign that he or she is still attracted to you on a deeper level. Classic body language signs of such behavior are attempts to hold your hands, placing their hands on your shoulder, and leaning on you at the pretext of losing balance while laughing.
12) They seem way too eager to console you when you are sad.
Your ex's abnormally eager attempt to be the person who consoles you when you are feeling sad is a sign that he or she still wants to be your go-to person when you are down.
Don't encourage such behavior because your ex may misinterpret your friendliness as a mutual reciprocation of his or her attempts to get closer to you.
13) You receive at least one text message every few days.
One of the first things that everyone does when they miss someone is send texts. These text messages can be anything from a simple "hi' to a mushy "I miss you."
Missing you and thinking about you may be why your ex keeps texting you. Unless you two work together or are in the same study group, he or shee shouldn't really be texting you every now and then. Remember this and think before you reply to any of their frequent texts. By replying, you may be giving signals that you actually like being in touch. This will give your ex false hope that there is still a chance to get back with you.
14) They call you and start talking about sweet memories of your relationship.
Hang up the phone the very second your ex calls you and starts talking about the sweet memories of your relationship because this is when he or she is desperately trying to get you back. Either that, or your ex is lovesick and is still stuck in the bitter-sweet memories of your relationship.
Reminding you of the better times in your relationship is their attempt at showing you all the happy moments you shared. They may be hoping that talking about this will bring about a change in your heart and cause you to feel like rekindling your romance with them.
15) You notice that they constantly share love quotes on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest.
Is your ex on a rampage of sharing quotes about heartbreak and love all over his social media profiles? This could be because your ex wants to show you that he or she is suffering from a broken heart, hoping that you will decide to heal it by taking him or her back into your arms.
16) They call you when drunk.
It is safe to assume that your ex still has feelings for you if he or she calls you when drunk. It is a classic sign because drinking will take away all your ex's inhibitions and make him or her say the truth to you.
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