John Hollywood writes about pop culture with a psychological twist; his articles are practical in nature with a "how-to" approach.
Scorpio Men Are Enigmatic
Dates: Oct 23–Nov 21
Are you attracted to a Scorpio man? Are you involved with a Scorpio male who sends mixed signals, like being super passionate one minute and seemingly disconnected the next? Do you gravitate towards this sign for inexplicable reasons?
If you have answered yes to these questions, you have come to the right place.
You see, I am a Scorpio man.
In the material that follows, I will share with you several well-kept secrets about Scorpios. Additionally, I will reveal this sign's positive and negative traits in an unfiltered way.
As you dive deeper into the male Scorpio mind, I'll provide key insights designed to help you better understand why your man acts the way he does—which is undoubtedly frustrating!
Finally, at the end of this article, I'll discuss the hard science behind the Scorpio personality, based on astrophysics and not Greek or Roman mythology.
Are you ready? Let's jump right in!
First, let's start with the basic positive and negative traits.
Scorpio Traits: The Good and Bad
|Positive Traits||Negative Traits|
High sexual energy
What's So Great About Scorpio Guys?
1. Passionate and Intense
Scorpio men are passionate and intense. As one myself, however, I can tell you that this is a sword that cuts both ways. Particularly at the beginning of a relationship, you will experience our singular, passionate, laser-like focus. When we become intimate, you will experience lovemaking like you never have before. Our sexual energy is palatable, magnetic, and at times overwhelming.
2. Loyal and Intuitive
Scorpios guys are a loyal bunch. When we are in a relationship with you, we are very intuitive and empathic. Other zodiac signs who are romantically involved with us, however, mistake our cool distance for ambivalence.
I can tell you this is simply not true. We will walk over hot coals for you when we are in love, but it is a struggle for us at times to show emotions because of other things going on inside—you'll learn more about this when you read about our negative traits.
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3. Curious, Logical, & Hyper-Focused
Scorpion men are curious and logical, which can be both a positive and negative thing. On the one hand, we have a unique ability to deconstruct a given issue or dilemma, similar to how Spock from Star Trek may approach a certain problem. Our logical nature is oftentimes sparked by the question, "What?" What is causing you to behave in the manner that you do?
This curiosity and logical nature, as mentioned earlier, can be a double-edged sword—when we are hyper-focused on a given problem, we become obsessed to the point that it becomes annoying. We will provoke arguments and fights in a relationship with you in order to find out what you are truly thinking, which is a primary function of our curious nature. Our only tool to move past a given obsession is to find a new one or engage in mindfulness.
Scorpio men are extremely empathic. Many Scorpio males are able to sense what is going on with you emotionally. In fact, we likely can sense what you are feeling even when we are not in your physical presence.
The reason for this is that once we are in love with you, we become hyper-focused on your total person. This ability to be empathic, however, is limited to those whom we are close to. With other people, our logical nature can at times interfere with this ability because we tend to over-rationalize and overthink.
Warning: It is important that you know that when we are in a calm place, we are able to read your emotions with freakish accuracy. It is not necessary that you speak in our presence for us to know what is going on inside. If you search your memories of your interactions with Scorpion men, you will know this to be true.
Scorpio men are competitive in anything they commit to. In other words, once we make the decision to partake in a given activity, we are "in it to win it." Like the other traits mentioned here, this can be both a blessing and curse.
Our competitive nature comes at the cost of our relationships. It is one of the reasons Scorpios are perceived to be so distant. It is hard for us to hold the emotions of deep passion and love for you while we try to balance these feelings with our strong desire to "win" at other aspects of life.
Scorpio Guys' Negative Traits
1. Secretive and Mysterious
Want to spot a Scorpio male? Look for a guy wearing sunglasses when it doesn't make sense to, like on cloudy days or even at night. You can tell you are in the presence of a Scorpion man because when you pass one by, you feel a strong pull that is difficult to describe. Many have characterized Scorpion men as "bad boys" because we give off that dangerous yet paradoxically attractive vibe.
2. Distant and Disconnected
Scorpion men are cursed with being obsessed with a given project or problem-solving activity. This can cause many of us to seem emotionally distant, cool, and disconnected. It is important that you know this when you first meet a Scorpio—the guy may seem a bit removed at first because he is trying to tune into your persona.
It takes us time to do this, but when we "dial-in" to your channel, we do so with pinpoint accuracy. Interference, however, often happens because of our obsessive nature, which might cause us to focus on other things.
3. Manipulative and Resentful
This is perhaps one of our greatest weaknesses. Scorpion men do in fact resort to manipulation, particularly when we become jealous or resentful. If we are dating you or romantically involved with you, we expect that you make it all about us. This is perhaps a very selfish thing to admit, but it's unfortunately true.
Warning: If we detect you are seeing other men, which we can sense with our empathic abilities, you need to be careful. I say this because we will absolutely sting you and sting you badly. We will make your life miserable. Think about your past experiences with Scorpion men—you know it's true.
4. Jealous and Overly Sensitive
These characteristics go hand-in-hand with the previously mentioned traits. When we are committed to you, we'll become protective of you. And, for all of our rational abilities, we have a glitch when it comes to jealousy. In other words, we often find it hard to use the rational side of our brain when we think someone else is interested in you or pursuing you. We are also highly sensitive to criticism, I'll admit.
Warning: If you criticize us too harshly, it activates a very ugly side of our personality—we'll want to seek vengeance. This happens through manipulation. We do not like this part of our personality and avoid using it whenever possible. It's best to avoid triggering that reaction.
5. Obsessive and Self-Important
Scorpio men are often accused of being obsessive and even narcissistic (self-important). On some level, this is true. We do become obsessed with a given problem, project, or puzzle and will not stop in our pursuit of the solution until it is achieved. This trait, however, is often confused with being narcissistic.
This is completely false. We have a lot of empathy and sympathy for others, and our compassion knows no bounds. It's just that we tend to obsess over things to the point of being ridiculous. And, while some of us may seek the spotlight, many more of us shy away from it because it illuminates parts of our personality that we wish to remain hidden.
Other Common Male Scorpio Characteristics
- We generally are good with money and are not the impulsive type when it comes to spending.
- We obsess over our appearance and have body image issues.
- We have memories like elephants and can recall the tiniest of details about events that happened long ago—right down to the inflection of your voice and the exact words you spoke.
- We struggle with trust issues, and it takes time for others to win our trust.
- We are prone to back problems because of our obsessions, which manifest in the form of stress in our lumbar region.
- We are caretakers, in part, because we are fiercely independent and loath the thought of someone taking care of us.
- Many of us work in fields like psychology, journalism, healthcare, engineering, and finance. All of these fields involve the use of logic, which is a Scorpio strength.
Why Do Scorpios Have Odd Behaviors?
Scorpio men are perhaps the most misunderstood of the zodiac signs. One minute we can be intently focused on what is going on with you personally, and the next moment, we can seem distracted and even disconnected.
It All Has to Do With Astrophysics
Scorpios are influenced at birth by the planets Mars and Pluto. I could give you a bunch of hocus pocus about Greek Gods and “ruling planets,” but I’d rather give you the science.
When a person is born between October 23 and November 21, they are born under what is called a “Scorpion Sky.” This simply means that the planets Mars and Pluto are vertically opposite of one another, each having their own gravitation impact on the planet earth, which is primarily influenced by the Sun. Are you with me so far?
If you believe that tides rise and recede as a result of the gravitational pull of the sun, moon, and other planets in our solar system, then you need to understand that during Scorpion Sky, Mars and Pluto are positioned opposite one another. This opposite positioning has an influence on all liquids—not just in our oceans.
Here, I am talking about the amniotic fluid in the mother’s womb at the time of the male Scorpion’s birth. This astrological positioning can both negatively and positively charge the amniotic fluid in the mother’s placenta, thereby creating a unique Scorpio baby.
Scorpios are considered to have a negative polarity because of this positioning. This negative polarity gives Scorpions the passion of the hot planet, Mars, and the cool distance of the planetoid Pluto.
Instead of looking at mythology, which cannot be proven in science, let’s look at astrophysics, which can. Take note of the planetary characteristics in comparison to the Scorpion male characteristics. I’ve included a sky map as a visual.
Planetary Characteristics of Mars and Pluto
4th Planet from Sun
9th Planet(oid) from Sun
3rd Planet from Sun
Billions of years ago it once had water and other elements thought to form life. It is therefore considered a “hot” planet.
Cold, distant planet who orbit is influenced by the Sun. It has some gravitational influence on Earth when it is aligned with Mars.
Earth has a positively charged magnetic atmosphere.
Once had a positively charged atmosphere. Now has a tiny magnetic field
Negatively charged atmosphere.
Gravitationally influenced by all planets but during Oct 23 through November 21, hyper-influenced by Mars and Pluto.
Tidal pull with Sun that is most powerful Oct–Nov
Tidal pull with Sun on Earth that is most powerful Oct–Nov
Magnetic sphere that is highly charged during this period, influenced by Pluto’s negative polarity in position to Mars and our moon
Dating a Scorpio Man Is Like Riding a Rollercoaster
If you are interested in dating a Scorpio male, get ready for a super wild ride. We will make you feel as if you are the center of the universe while also exhibiting behaviors that may seem, frankly, crazy. What you need to know is that when we are in love with you, we are truly in love and will remain loyal. Gaining our trust and love, however, is not easy. Once you are in a relationship with us, we will likely want to take care of you.
The key to a Scorpios heart is patience and understanding. Because of our sensitive nature, we prefer that you phrase any criticism towards us carefully—opt for meaningful, constructive feedback. We respond to feedback in a logical way and will try to integrate your observations into actions. Once we're in love with you, our only desire is to please you. And while we may at times have a wandering eye, our heart is only connected to you.
If you found this helpful, please share with others—particularly other Scorpio men, who may need a primer on what is fueling some of their unexplained behavior.