Embarrassed Yourself After a Break-Up?
Need Some Damage Control?
So you were doing fine, handling the recent break-up with your ex. with maturity, dignity, and poise... then BAM!... a 37 minute drunk voice message left at 4 in the morning.
Breaking one of the rules for a self-respecting, clean break-up is not the best thing you could have done – but it's not the end of the world.
Time to regain your dignity with a little damage control:
- If, like the scenario above, you have called and left messages in a state of drunkenness or desperation, well that is embarrassing. But embarrassment doesn’t kill you and we’ve all done stupid things when we feel hurt. Depending on your situation, you can send a brief text message (keep it short) the next day apologizing for the message and that it won’t happen again. Make sure it doesn’t! Then no more communication. Don’t expect a reply. Don’t communicate again. You’ve apologized. Move on.
- If you have responded to communication and now find yourself in an argument and feel emotional and frustrated; you now know why the rule of no communication applies - It prolongs the break-up and achieves nothing but more upset. Stop. Ignore ALL future attempts of communication. You don’t need to have the last word. Words are just words. Your silence will be read loud and clear: It's over and you are moving on.
- If you have initiated contact and you now regret it or feel embarrassed… simply stop. You don’t need to justify yourself. Just don’t do it again. If you are now in a heated discussion, say you made a mistake by communicating and you don’t want to do this anymore. Then stop.
These may not be the answers you were looking for, but stopping communication is the fastest and probably only way to regain any dignity. Trying to talk your way out of it will only make it worse. You are not trying to get back together, you are trying to move on. (Even if you are trying to get back together with him, the same applies! Let him see that your moment of madness was just that; a moment. Don't drag it on.)
Nothing you have done can be as bad as the woman in the video below! (We hope!) Have a listen, it's hilarious.