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Affirmations are short, powerful statements that you can use to direct your thoughts to a positive place. People often start their day out with affirmations to set their intentions for their day. They are also used to combat negative, unhealthy, or unproductive thoughts and feelings.
Using Affirmations for Healing After a Breakup
We've all heard about the power of positive thinking. With the same basis, you can use the power of positive affirmations to recover from the emotional pain you may feel following the end of a relationship. A breakup can result in a lot of negative thoughts about yourself. Especially if you were the one who was dumped.
In order to avoid becoming depressed after the end of a relationship, it’s really important to stay positive. Relationships can take a toll on your self-esteem, self-worth, and your mental health. So, finding a method of positivity is huge in healing.
Affirmations Help You Be More Positive Post-Breakup
Using affirmations can help you turn those negative thoughts into positive ones. Although there is no single, best way to heal a broken heart, we think that using powerful affirmations is a great way to heal yourself from your last relationship.
The Mayo Clinic suggests that negative self-talk can give you a pessimistic view of life itself. They also say that positive thinking can improve many aspects of your health from lowering the rate of depression to lowering the risks of death. Therefore, we can conclude that negativity can do the opposite.
Now that we know how important it is to stay positive, even after a breakup, we can see what a useful tool affirmations can be. Don’t let a bad breakup take a toll on your health and mental state. Breaking up is really hard but we encourage you to use tools to help yourself recover.
How to Use Breakup Affirmations
There are various ways to use affirmations in your day-to-day life. We'll focus on two ways, but you can tailor these methods to whatever suits you best. Over time, you'll start to notice that the negative things you think of yourself and your relationships will be replaced with good things. Although it may seem strange at first, we know you'll be happy you practiced affirmations in the long run.
Using Affirmations in the Morning
We love using affirmations first thing in the morning. It helps set our daily intentions in the right direction. When you start out on a positive note, it's easier to keep that momentum throughout the day. Just like how it's easier to be mindful of your health if you've just worked out that morning. You've already put in the work to be positive and you'll be less likely to diverge into negativity.
To use affirmations in the morning, pick one or two that you'd like to focus on. If you're just beginning, we recommend just picking one that is important to you. You can either say the affirmation in your head or aloud. It's best to look at yourself in the mirror and say the affirmation. For this example, we'll use the statement "I am worthy of love".
Stand in front of the mirror and repeat "I am worthy of love" at least three times. It's important that you try to believe in the statement as much as possible when you say it. Try this with a few of your own affirmations and you'll soon see yourself at the beginning of a positive new direction.
Use Affirmations to Combat Negative Thoughts Following a Breakup
Whether you were cheated on, wronged, or just plain dumped, you might have a lot of negative self thoughts coming up throughout the day. One we've seen a lot is thinking "I'm just not good enough."
In order to combat these negative thoughts, you need to think of positive thoughts that stomp out the bad ones. Whenever you start to think "I'm just not good enough", say either aloud or to yourself "I AM good enough." We like to keep a list of affirmations for the negative thoughts that we are having after a relationship has ended. Keep using these affirmations every single time you think of the negative. Before long, your negative thoughts should disappear.
Use the table below for more examples of turning negative thoughts into positive affirmations.
Turning Negative Breakup Thoughts Into Positive Affirmations
|Negative Thought||Positive Affirmation|
They cheated because I’m not good enough for them.
I am good enough. I am worthy of faithful love.
I suck at dating. It’s so stressful.
I look forward to the opportunity of dating new people.
I am beautiful inside and out.
All of my relationships have failed.
The right relationship will come along.
I will never get over them.
I am strong and able to get through tough situations.
I’m afraid of what my life will look like without them.
My life will be full of exciting new adventures and people.
Positive Breakup Affirmation Examples
If you're just beginning to use affirmations, you might need to start with some examples before you successfully come up with your own. Look through the list and see which ones would be helpful to start incorporating into your new life of positivity. Make sure to pick statements that combat any negative feelings you have about yourself or your future relationships. When choosing the ones you'll use, focus on how you want your love life to look and how you'd like to feel about yourself.
- I will find a better person to date.
- I am forming functional relationships.
- I am building a perfect life.
- A new magical relationship is waiting for me.
- There is a good reason behind this relationship lesson.
- I am a joyful person.
- I am a wonderful person.
- I am forming a fresh start.
- I am in a better, safer place.
- I deserve better than the treatment I have received.
- I am capable of having healthy relationships.
- My future is full of great things.
- I will find an amazing human being to love.
- I am getting to a better place in life.
- I will find the right person.
- My past relationship does not define me.
- The world is full of so much love.
- I am building an exquisite version of myself.
- I look forward to new relationships.
- I am beautiful.
- I am worthy.
- I love meeting new people and forming new relationships.
- My break up is an opportunity for me to find something that is a better fit.
- I will start a new romantic relationship.
- People like spending time with me.
- A new person is waiting for me.
- I have gotten through the hardest times of my life.
- I will not give up in difficult times.
- I am a fun person.
- Everything will fall in place in perfect time.
- I will be the best version of myself.
- There is a plan for me even in the present moment.
- Loving myself is the only way to love someone else completely.
- My old partner was not right for me.
- I am ready for this season of life.
- God is doing healing work on my heart.
- I am conquering the healing process.
- I will have a successful, intimate relationship.
- I am an amazing person.
- Even in the darkest times, I am positive.
- I am committed to myself.
- I am not responsible for someone else's actions or thoughts.
- I am not in competition with others.
- I will break my old limitations in love.
- The end of my last relationship has given me the gift of freedom.
- My next relationship will be meaningful.
- My romantic relationships don’t determine my self-worth.
- I am a strong person.
- I will get through this.
- I am embracing life one day at a time.
Use Positive Affirmations to Heal Your Heartbreak
The next step you need to take is implementing positive affirmations in your life. You can’t spend forever dwelling on what could have been and what went wrong in your relationship. We know how bad heartbreak hurts, but you can’t stay there forever. Give yourself time to grieve your relationship, but don’t live there.
Take the negative thoughts that you have following the end of your relationship and turn them into positive affirmations. Not only will you heal, but you will be able to be a more positive person overall.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.