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How to Make Your Ex Regret Leaving You
Can I make my ex-girlfriend jealous of my new lifestyle? How do I prove to my ex-boyfriend that my life is better off without him? Is there a way to make my ex miss me?
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The answers lie in controlling your behavior, from your activity on social media to your interactions with common friends. Forget the manipulative gossip and rebound relationships and learn how you can make your ex regret leaving you by just being yourself.
12 Ways to Make Your Ex Regret Dumping You
1. Don't stop meeting new friends.
Relationships with friends play a big role in post-breakup scenarios. To portray a positive image (and better yet, truly thrive), continue meeting your friends as if it is life as usual.
Your ex will find it hard to accept your proactive approach to your social life because it will make them feel like you have moved on. Mutual friends might tell your ex about hanging out with you and make your ex miss you.
2. Post pictures of parties you attend on social media.
Jealousy can passively drive regret, and you can easily make your ex jealous by posting pictures of yourself partying on Facebook, Insta, and the like. Go out on weekends with friends and take group selfies at nightclubs, cafes, and other events.
Add an exciting caption to let everyone know that you are having the best time of your life. Your ex will look at the pictures and wish that he or she was there with you at that very moment.
3. Get back in shape—lose weight or bulk up.
The easiest way to make your ex regret breaking up with you is to get your body back in shape. As an added bonus, working out is a healthy distraction for many people, allowing them to think about something other than their recent break-up.
It should take no less than a couple of months for the first signs of your workouts to become apparent. Be patient, and when you can finally squeeze into those curvy jeans or show off your broad shoulders, show it off. Looking at your sexy new body image, your ex will definitely regret dumping you.
4. Don't be desperate—avoid trying to contact your ex.
If you give in to the temptation of being in touch with your ex even after your breakup, it will clearly send a signal that you still miss them. Do whatever it takes to stop yourself from calling, messaging, or getting in touch with your ex.
If your ex is having any second thoughts about your breakup, avoiding contact may provoke further bouts of regrets over dumping you.
5. Don't interact with your ex online.
Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Tumblr, and blogs will play a big role in defining how your behavior affects your ex's mindset. Stop interacting with your ex in any way on social networks.
- Don't like any of your ex's posts on Facebook.
- Stop yourself from using instant messaging apps on your smartphones.
- Don't retweet or reply to your ex's tweets.
- Avoid reading your ex's blog.
- Don't repin any of your ex's pins on Pinterest.
- Stop sharing pictures from your ex's Instagram.
6. Post positive updates on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and other social networks.
Apart from stopping interaction with your ex on social media, make sure that your own updates are full of positivity. The type of updates you post will have a significant impact on how your ex reacts during post-breakup scenarios.
Watching you post positive status updates on Facebook, inspirational tweets on Twitter and other uplifting stuff all over your online presence, your ex will start doubting if they made a mistake in dumping a person like you.
7. Nurture your talents—become an expert and show off!!
Everyone has talents, interests, and hobbies which can be used to incite self-confidence and higher levels of self-respect. You can take this route to build a better post-breakup image by nurturing these talents.
Whether you like to play guitar or are interested in learning how to paint, nurture your interests and take them up seriously. Keep practicing until you can show off your skills to your friends. Watching you strum away in front of a mesmerized group of friends or seeing your beautiful paintings in an art gallery will instantly make your ex regret dumping you.
8. Date new people gradually—wait until you regain your confidence
It is normal to feel sad, depressed, and heartbroken after a breakup. Give yourself a couple of months to stand up on your own two feet and regain your confidence.
Don't be desperate to date new people, but if someone asks you out for a coffee, don't be bent upon saying no. Let your dates know upfront that you have just come out of a breakup. Draw the lines before they start creating expectations so that there are no misunderstandings.
9. Avoid getting into a rebound relationship instantly after getting dumped.
Avoid getting into a rebound relationship immediately after your breakup. There are many reasons why rebound relationships happen, here are some of the common ones.
- To make an ex jealous
- To make a desperate attempt to move on
- To find emotional support
- To put up a fake facade and hide a broken heart
None of these are good enough reasons to get into a rebound relationship. As mentioned, wait at least a couple of months before you start meeting new people. A frantic rebound relationship may lead to immature decisions. For example, a confused phase of life can lead to hasty decisions like moving in with your new partner too soon, leading to more chaos.
From your ex's perspective, watching you get into a rebound relationship will actually make him, or her feel that dumping you was the right choice. Because no matter how hard you try to make your ex regret dumping you by taking this route, at the end of the day they will probably only end up thinking less of you for it.
10. Achieve your personal, academic, and professional goals—make your ex regret dumping an achiever.
A very effective way of making your ex regret breaking up with you is to become an achiever. Focus on whatever goals you have at hand, such as getting a promotion or passing a crucial exam.
One day when you become a successful business executive, artist, or self-employed professional, your ex will regret breaking up with a person who is surging ahead in life.
11. Don't gossip about your ex—be mature and dignified.
Saying bad things about an ex or making fun of their habits are some of the things that people often do after a bitter breakup. You can indulge in this mindless behavior, or you can be dignified about your breakup and move on.
If you don't gossip, it may come as a surprise to your ex who will be left wondering why you aren't talking behind their back despite the fact that you got dumped. If your ex is not a heartless person, your calm maturity and humble reaction to the breakup will be a thought-provoking situation. They will think again and may even regret dumping a genuine person like you.
12. Be the person your relationship did not allow you to be.
We often change our behavior when we're in a relationship, even if we don't realize it. Take your breakup as a blessing in disguise—an opportunity to truly start being yourself again. Do all the things that drive intrinsic pleasure and be the person you most want to be.
The ironic thing about this is that your ex originally fell in love with you for the person you were when you met. Watching you become the same bubbly girl or fun-loving guy you were then (or a brand new you—you decide!) will make your ex regret dumping you from the bottom of their heart.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2013 princesswithapen