4 Tips for Surviving the Holidays While Going Through a Divorce
Surviving Post Divorce Holidays
There’s no real simple way to say it. Even though holidays are supposed to be happy and full of joy they can often be difficult and hard to manage. Especially when you are going through a divorce. I mean how can you even think about singing joy to the world when your world is falling apart. We get it. But in times of distress, it can actually be beneficial to you to celebrate with your family even if you don’t really want to.
Holidays remind us that the more things change, the more they stay the same. They are about sharing peace, love, and gratitude with one another while being in each other’s presence. Divorce doesn’t mean that your life is over. It’s not the end of your life. It’s not the end of all your happiness. It’s not the end of family gatherings. And it’s not the end of your holidays.
What Should I Do?
Focus on Others
The holidays are really all about focusing on someone besides yourself for a brief period of time. Granted it can be difficult to try and think about someone else when all you can think about is your divorce. But if you actually take the time to invest in other’s around this time it will not only guide your mind toward better things it will bring you joy.
Allow Yourself To Be Present
A part of going through a divorce is learning to be in the present moment. Learning to accept the cards that have been dealt. You can apply the same principle to your while you’re battle divorce through the holidays. Take the time to simply be where you are. Appreciate the time you get to spend with all of the people you love. Always be in the present - leave the past in the past.
Experience New Things
Since this probably isn’t one of the happier times in your life, it is a good time to experience some possibly new traditions. Go away for the holidays this year and find a new way to celebrate. You never know you might have a new tradition on your hands!
Indulge In Comfort Food
The holidays are known for your favorite comfort foods. It may even be the only time you have certain foods all year. When indulging in your holiday favorite, try to make sure you're not overdoing it. As humans, it's in our nature to want to sort of eat our feelings away. So have as much as you want but know when to quit. Don't focus solely on the food aspect of this time, rather than spending quality time with your friends and family.
Maybe now you can be more open to the idea of celebrating with your friends and family this year knowing that you’ll be ok? I know that transitioning into the holidays after a divorce is not an easy thing to do. But you’ll never know how it’s going to go unless you get up off that couch and celebrate. Who knows you might even find real meaning, peace, and joy this holiday season!
Happy Holidays - Tis the season!
© 2017 Talulah Roe